The Weakness of Strength
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- čas přidán 27. 03. 2016
- When people close to us annoy us, and we wonder why we allowed them into our lives, we should draw vital comfort from a theory known as The Weakness of Strength.
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If you only look for strength in people, then this is your weakness in your strength. Your strength being, that you're most likely an inspiring person to be around, because you live via positive inspiration. Your weakness, however, is that this makes it very difficult to get close with anyone, because we only truly get close to people, when we share in their difficulties.
Perfect
+ThisIsMyFullName I think the flawless individual has no aspirations yet he strives to do his best all the time. However. if a person has no aspirations , then he does not have any motivation, and thus he does not strive to do his best all the time. That is why there is no perfect individual. I've been trying to live my life this way ever since I read Shiddarta Gautama by Herman Hesse and I've failed miserably. A selfless individual who only cares about humanity as a whole should be the type of person that can save the world. Maybe Jesus was that person.
+cokeymoster I agree that he misplaced a few commas, but overall I understood his philosophical wisdoms of knowledge of truth.
that sounds so true
Travis Paul
My friend is so observant and sensitive that she can understand what's going on in many complicated interpersonal relationships. The downside is that sometimes she can come off as too picky and easily offended in her own relationships with other people.
Separately, I'm often praised for my open mindedness but am also seen as unsupportive as I like to play devil's advocate all the time.
are you a libra?
I want more life F**ker Okay, I have the exact opposite strength/weakness as you two. I have extreme morals by which I live my life, and from this the people I know have come to know me as dependable. However because of this I can be very slow to accept those who aren't as morally strict as I am, though I have been trying to work on it.
I'm like your friend...it's hell inside our heads.
(i respect u) i feel trapped by my moral indecisiveness. not necessarily having a hard time choosing between what is right and wrong, but what is right and righter. because of this, i tend to lose meaning of what i was trying to distinguish in the first place, and doubt my actions.
i think it should be a requirement of every person living in society to watch these videos
Tomorrow's video: the strength of weakness.
lol
+Jokers R Wild Studios Oh yeah,sure!
+Andrew Kong 2morrow never comes..
+Jokers R Wild Studios I came in to type this... You beat me to it : (
+Zhenan Zhou we hope you at least watched the video :) then you'll know that you still got the prize...
I would really like to believe this message but the truth is that some people are just shit. Their faults far outweigh any merits you may have experienced with them.
Agreed.
+Marc L. ISIS
+Marc L. Or perhaps you just do not see any merits in the strengths that the person does have. Please do not take offense to what I am about to say, I am just putting this in terms that you have used for the sake of argument, but I am sure some people have thought the same as you.
+Marc L. That doesn't detract from the video at all. The message is that everyone has bad traits, and these traits may well be the byproduct of having a good trait. People exist who are foul through-and-through, but there are virtuous ones as well.
+Steven Porter The thing is that this type of thinking is not shared at least publicly by people who benefit from the idea that they have built in merits. Point being that having someone think poorly of you is only an concern if you rely on the illusion of merit.
I was down in the dumps and this really helped. Thank you.
"Turn your enemies strength into weakness. Turn your weakness into strength."~ Sun Tzu
but how do we do that my friend?
"Know thyself and know thy enemy and in one thousand battles one will never be in danger."~SunTzu
+Zakaria Ali Translation: Know what you and/or the person lack and don't lack and use it to your advantage.
Get it? good!
"Know the Yang. Retain the Yin." ~ Lao Tzu
@@zakariaali5241 it’s all empty words, of course details will never be provided.
This video leaves out an essential distinction. Both strengths and weaknesses are Context dependent. Had Tourgeniev never started writing his personality traits would simply be "weaknesses". The other way around, given the right and accepting context a weakness might never be expressed. We won't ever find someone who is flawless, but working on increasing the number of contexts in which we express our strengths is certainly a worthwhile endeavor
Profound idea. Smart animation. I found no "weakness" in the "strength" of this video.
+ขุนเขามีคำตอบ haven't looked hard enough. It tells us that there is nothing perfect and "truly beautiful" and states that it can not be found or achieved. And we should accept thing as they are - faulty ugly and foul and never to hope for something majestic and happy but to force ourselfs to be happy of something that makes us unhappy. THE MOST DEPRESSING AND DEMOTIVATING VIDEO I EVER WATCHED.
+ขุนเขามีคำตอบ Dive in to the comment section. weakness is plentiful.
Thomas Headley About an year ago i watched that movie, "The Serbian Film". It makes you insensitive to a whole new genre of violence. Sad to know that you are recommending it to others after experiencing it yourself. It is scarring.
PS: I know you are entitled to your opinion but do keep tabs on what you're recommending. Just a suggestion. Have a nice day.
Thomas Headley I agree with you when you say i need to get a grip of life. But just because they are movies or sitcoms doesn't mean that they cannot have an impact on your life. Not everybody is as mature as you. All i'm suggesting is be aware of the weak minded (like me) on this platform, because your opinion has the power to have an impact on the rest of their lives. Have a nice day.
Well I can think of at least 2. It handwaves the very real reality of both consequences, which are sometimes not things that you "accept", such as physical harm, theft, emotional abuse, betrayal, etc, AND, certain weaknesses combine just like elements in chemistry to create effects and symptoms that far outweigh any strengths. Some people are, unfortunately, just really messed up, no matter how you try to help, they seem hell-bent on self destruction.
Just like a U2 album, a subscription to The School of Life should be included when people make an account on CZcams
SkyreeXScalabar LOL
This is a perfectionist's nightmare. In fact, reality is a perfectionist's nightmare.
I'm sure I know all of these things deep down. But still really need them pointed out to me. For this I say thank-you.
In matters of strengths and weaknesses, this is when the concepts of "Opposites make good companions" comes... For, your weakness is covered by their strength, their weakness is covered by your strength, and suddenly, you have a simple yet profound reason to be together... For, each time you note her weakness, you also cover for it... And same goes in the opposite direction.
You suddenly become a functional team, and hold a reason to keep this relationship going, for... It's a rare find to locate someone with such good chemistry.
Still, this is very rare to locate... Because it's a form of a "perfect match".
When someone can weight the odds, and see that the weaknesses aren't really that bothersome while the strengths are solid, they can enter a relationship better.
Still, let's admit that everyone will constantly find flaws in each other, and begin to imagine that they'll somehow find that "Perfect one".
I do not seek perfection... For if something is perfect, it's probably a lie.
And that's the issue with humanity... Everyone keeps their eye on delusions rather than realities.
makes me feel much better about myself and my friends. thank you.
This channel's videos are pure gold. Everytime I watch one I feel wiser, thank you.
The idea that a weakness is part of a strength makes me feel a bit better about myself. As someone who can't see anything but weaknesses, it's a relief to think that maybe there's something more to it that I am just unable to see.
Yeah from my perspective seeing this comment I'd say that your pretty Reflective
Love how this is a further explanation of the forgiveness video
How insightful. Makes me feel a wee bit better about myself. I hope my wife and children understand this and come back into my life.
Thank you. I love School of Life generally speaking, but found this particular lesson provided well-needed perspective, right now.
And that was a good video from the school of life.
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That also explains why other of their videos are not as good...
Lol, rekt.
Can you guys do more psychology videos?
Yes, please
+Mehdz03 They are always all about philosophy in one form or another.
this is philosophy it's just not about a famous dead dude
Psychology and philosophy aren't the same thing
You might have misread :P
+mickiooo I thought it said philosophy my bad 😂😂😂
Actually I like this thought even more introspectively. Everytime you recognize a weakness of yourself, it means that you also have a strength, that you just need to tap into.
philosophical and psychological videos are up my alley.
sir you most certainly have a very soothing voice it really helps and plus the content concise addresses the core of everyday confusions which cause us needless stress and emotional turmoil... I appreciate what you do thanks a million
What if someone's weakness causes unbearable life consequences consistently? I'd say better to forget about whatever strength they had and get rid of their ass.
Absolutely! Some faults are not acceptable.
@Victorian Secret
What the video suggests is that most/all strengths come with an included weakness. The easiest examples I can think of are extroversion and introversion. An extroverted person may find it easy to be around other people but harder to spend a lot of time by themselves. An introverted person may find it easy to spend a lot of time by themselves but harder to be around other people. So something which can be beneficial can also be problematic depending on the circumstances, that's what the video is about. The video is also pointing out that if it's not possible to have all the strength without any weakness, then there's no such thing as a perfect person, so we should try to accept that all people will have weaknesses, including ourselves. Hope this helps, but if you didn't understand what I just said that's okay, I'm happy to try explaining it in a different way.
It's like when you encounter very passionate people. They might be quick to anger or swift to become far too emotionally involved in things but their passion can manifest as excitement and affection too.
This gives a lot of sense the principle of "nobody is perfect".
Its a bliss to find someone who sees the virtues behind your "defects" or flaws and comprehend that those things are what makes you who you are.
I really like this video! It may make the obvious plain to see, but that's what a lot of great videos do.
Pure gold, as always from The School of Life.
I enjoyed this film. As a strong advocate for acknowledging and working on strengths, this provides me with a positive way of including weaknesses as a way of stengthening stengths. Happy days!
one of the most thought provoking videos to date in my opinion.
I'm very thankful for your videos The School of Life, they just make me to be more confident when I watch them :)
This concept absolutely rings true for me- I remember my ex was in the practice of venerating certain traits of mine that she saw as shining qualities- towards the end of the relationship these same traits were now viewed as glaring faults!!! This video goes a long way in explaining this interpersonal phenomenon.
great vid. our mind so focused on how good our partners strengths make us feel we blindly ignore that strengths is a pattern which can be trouble when we are not looking for it
One of the greatest achievements we have made in our time as humans on this earth, is the internet. That is because the internet allows us to share information and, more importantly, ideas to another person, regarless of distance, instantly. Your channel, my friend, is an example of that. How easily anyone can take inspiration from someone's, that lived several hundred years ago, ideas and opinions. And the way you explain their ideas make it so that you don't need to be a rocket scientist to understand and appreciate them. I have one thing to say to you, and that is a big fat THANK YOU
Whatever our judgement of others,we always wind up choosing our own advantage in regard to them...
This describes dyslexia perfectly!
I have dyslexia, which causes 2 things.
1) being very good at spacial thinking and broad thinking
2) being very bad at not thinking about things spatially or in broad terms
Bad at not thinking this way is problematic, because when I see letters on a page I think about them in terms of objects in space, not a linear series of symbols. I imagine their interactions not just as they are written, but in other broader ways, and I fail to notice the difference between "was" and "saw" or "bad" and "dad" and "dab". I forget details often if they don't seem relevant to the big picture. It is the weakness of my strength in spacial thinking.
Sidenote: I like to think of my brain as a bunch of different modules, each part has a task, and the more you use any particular module it gets stronger. As you strengthen one part of your brain, like spacial thinking, you may find you rely on it's strength too much.
The module that is strongest in your brain might become engaged when it is not really appropriate. Causing you to think or behave in a way you are good at, but not really called for by the situation.
welcome to the club pal
Fascinating! But wait, how did you type this post??
Rachel Teng carefully, and with spellcheck.
Thank you for carving out a string of thoughts that I am ultimately very busy with. Seriously, thank you so much! I love this channel. It is like a good conversation partner who helps you gain new perspectives on the objects of your current concern. :)
Love this video! Without darkness we can't shine.
Thank you school of life for this information.
I love this! (Especially because James is my favorite novelist. The Ambassadors and The Golden Bowl are my favorites.)
I have to say this channel is so good. There are so many ideas and attitudes that people really need to have in their mind but most of them don't. I really appreciate the effort you guys put! Thanks! :)
one of your best videos for myself cant tell you how many times since ive heard this that ive quoted this video
it made me think of my husband and how sometimes i get very annoyed when he doesnt want to talk about feelings or hard things. but i love how i can be next to him and not need to talk at all. when i think about it, his stoic and reserved nature is part of what allows my introverted self to be comfortable around him for extended periods.
it also makes me think of how i see the religious. some see them as stupid or misguided but i see it as the weakness of patternicity (as discussed in The Believing Brain by Michael Shermer). patternicity helps us to learn but sometimes what we learn are flase patterns.
good video
Good reference. During a job interview, in explaining my "strengths", I realized that an excess of a strength, turns into a weakness. Interviewers always want to know if you're aware of this and how you deal with it.
This is amazing. Thank you so much for taking the time to make these videos.
it gets better and better each day. Congratulations!
I just want to have a conversation with this man. It will be so invigorating and wise that I would learn more than my 12 years at school together.
This was great. I used to be quite critical of other people, even my close friends, and my perception on life grew to become very negative and self centred. It takes all types of people to make the world go round, though. Life has been much more pleasant after choosing to focus on people's strengths. Thanks for the knowledge sol, it's always cool to find out there's a name for these concepts
+Andrew Tran I feel you. I go on and off with being critical or cynical on things like popular media or family. When I am, I become the most negative snob I can possibly become, which I still think, is worse than humiliation. I've been trying to get away with it, and true, this video shows things in a new light
+Hemang Chauhan Well I don't show emotion very well and I suffer with a low empathy disorder my moods are refined and I don't care much for other people. It's just the way I am and I've never been able to keep a long lasting partner or group of friends because of the disorder and I can't count the amount of people that are critical of me before knowing me and It's quite frustrating tbh. So yh I would try being more understanding especially when you don't know a person.
Joe Griffiths What are the things you like, living or non-living? Anything?
i'm not following.
Joe Griffiths When you like something, you understand it, let it enter into yourself,, and relate to it.
This is kind of a personal experince. I love gaming. Gaming as a medium like movie or music. And I love talking/listening about it. So, when I'm down, very negative inside, or simply in a bad mood, I have a few friends how like gaming, and when I talk to them about it, I feel so much better. I listen to game music, and I feel like I've strength to battle my difficulties.
If you like something, and appreciate it and you share it with others, you can feel much more than you really are.
Great work, extremely interesting approach.
Learned a lot from this one. Thanks, School of Life.
Thank you for this video!
It's very helpful.
thank you so much for your videos. sometimes they save me from myself
I always used to think of people this way, but only now have i noticed that it actually is a very uncommon way of thinking. Knowing that not a lot of people (probably all of those close to me) know about this, makes it easier to understand them, thanks.
That was beautiful. Thank you.
Simply beautiful!
this is an excellent short film! I'm a perfectionist which makes it so hard to finish things! but when I do finish them I am so proud of my work!
That was a great video. This really puts things in a nice and calm perspective. I love the style in which you portray your message. Keep it up! :)
Thank you, I needed this.
Thanks that helped :)
It's actually something so obvious and I still forget about it so often
Thanks for this perspective!
I come to this channel to calm down. Thank you for your insights and that #soothing voice :D
Thank you for this video.
i love youre videos so much... i feel like im insecure and i dont know which way to go. your channel is so smart.. its like it guides me somehow. thank you keep up the great work. i love good education
Awesome message. Thank you ☺
Every year my daughter comes home with a get-to-know-you questionnaire for her teacher. It always asks what are her strengths and weaknesses. I list her personality traits and remark that strengths and weaknesses are just traits in situations better or worse for them. Implying it is the school's job to see her traits are put in favorable situations. Of course though in the extreme this is an unrealistic ideal. She may well have traits that are generally weaknesses. We must also learn to deal with the world as it is. However, they are only children and surely, barring extremes, we can find positive ways of accommodating their idiosyncrasies. As we ought for ourselves even as adults, where not utterly impractical.
How wonderful....
Really interesting video :) Always making me perceive the world from new perspectives, these videos are a joy!
LOVED IT !!!!!
Since the topic was new, the title sounded a bit strange.
But I am very glad that I did not skipped it.
this video is brilliant. it totally makes up for the emotional technology video I just watched on this channel.
This is exactly what I needed right now!
Once again, this channel is great.
I really needed this.
A weakness is a strength taken to the extreme, like laziness is the ability to relax taken to the extreme.
a wonderfully liberating and empowering vid!
I love the fact that the subtitles on every videos you uploaded are 99% correct even though it's auto generated by CZcams.
Great pronunciation. Great content. Great illustration.
This is really helpful, thank you!
This was amazing and truly inspiring.
This is a wonderfully practical illumination of the yin-yang idea.
I just watched "How to be less anxious" and it stressed me crazy. Then I watched this and I'm calm again. THIS should be the "How to be less anxious"-video.
One of my favourite videos from your channel :)
Never ocurred to me to see weaknesses this way!! That's probably why I am not a distinguished writer))) How clever and human! It fits so well the image of the people around me. And the reason why I cant get too angry with them and always forgive in the end. Loved to know a few facts about my fellow countryman Turgienev. He is a great writer indeed, liked him at school!
that is ... so sad... but also an opportunity... thanks !
Great video that helps me see the people i know in a new light. Nietzsche had a tangentially similar idea - we should accept others' faults because they also accept ours. The grass is always greener, isn't it? Appreciate the friends and partner you already have, instead of trying to replace them with someone apparently "better".
THANK YOU!
why is it that i learn from this channel a lot more better than learning from school???
One of my favorite films of yours so far :)
I wonder what my strenghts really are, and what the weaknesses of my strenghts are...
I really liked this video, keep the good work up!
It would me great if you could do a video about highly sensitive persons guys
amazing videos thank you
I feel like if everyone in this world would watch your videos, the place would be a "nicer" place.
I feel like a smart guy till I watch your videos. You got some good stuff bro.
This is very interesting, because it means that when we look at ourselves, and see only weakness, that the weakness is there because of a strength. That's a comforting thought.
Dear The school of Life, I suggest that whenever share ideas, please do mention the sources and all the people and institutions who have contributed to the concepts you share. Thank you, great work.
I enjoyed this presentation a lot!
love these videos!
This is a nice thought but very dangerous to be applied to real life. It's the same train of thought as abusers saying "I'm hitting/controlling/manipulating you but it's just because I care so much"
Personally I leave relationship not to find another "perfect one" bt to find a person whose weaknesses are similar to mine or at least tolerable to me.