Attempted Murder, Abuse & Manipulation: Denise's Story

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  • čas přidán 2. 07. 2024
  • Join us tonight for a deeply moving and empowering episode featuring the remarkable Denise Trolland. In this episode, Denise opens up about her extraordinary journey of survival, courageously breaking free from the shackles of violent domestic abuse.
    Tune in to hear how Denise not only found her own strength but also harnessed it to become a beacon of hope for others who have faced similar challenges. Her story is a powerful reminder that even in the darkest of times, there is a glimmer of light that can guide us toward healing and transformation.
    Please note: The content of this episode may be graphic and sensitive to some viewers.
    For more information and resources on supporting survivors of domestic abuse in the UK, please visit:
    Women's Aid: A leading organization working to end domestic abuse against women and children. Helpline: 0808 2000 247
    National Domestic Abuse Helpline: Helpline: 0808 2000 247
    Refuge: Providing support and information for women and children experiencing domestic violence. Helpline: 0808 2000 247
    Remember, you're not alone, and there are resources available to help you or someone you know navigate through difficult situations.
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Komentáře • 85

  • @fionacain8358
    @fionacain8358 Před 10 měsíci +97

    Thank you for giving her the space to speak without interrupting, so respectful🙏🏼 thank you for sharing your story Denise❤️

  • @hollyjmc
    @hollyjmc Před 10 měsíci +42

    To have gone through such trauma and still want to devote your life to helping others, you’re a walking angel and the world is lucky to have you Denise. I hope you find more healing and thank you for sharing something so personal and vulnerable.

  • @MrElmo641
    @MrElmo641 Před 10 měsíci +29

    First time listening to this podcast and blown away by how this strong this lady is!

  • @maddygreaux7501
    @maddygreaux7501 Před 5 dny +1

    She’s such a beautiful soul wish her all the best in her life and all the healing x

  • @carriewhylie9441
    @carriewhylie9441 Před 10 měsíci +37

    Denise you are one strong woman…. Praying for you that you get the justice that gives you some peace at trial 🙏❤️

  • @mookie1236
    @mookie1236 Před 10 měsíci +13

    Although our journey to our trauma may be different, a lot of this I resonate with. I felt so much anger when I heard prisoners can get pretty much instant access to a psychologist. I’m on an 18 month waiting list for my ptsd psych referral.
    What else resonated heavily is you’re left to pick up the pieces for what they’ve done. Despite all of the resources available, you’re left to pick things back up. Navigate relationships, jobs, day to day etc.
    It feels almost impossible to continue after traumatic situations. But we can show people that we’re here in spite of it. It doesn’t define us.
    Thank you so much for sharing your story. I still find it difficult to talk about my experiences, but I know that by sharing your story, you will help so many people feel like they’re not alone. Thank you Denise.

  • @gracethomson3193
    @gracethomson3193 Před 10 měsíci +12

    What a podcast 😢 what an inspiration. Thankyou for sharing your journey.
    As tough/triggering it can be it can also save another life. I wish you the very best future 😘

  • @amyballantyne9204
    @amyballantyne9204 Před 10 měsíci +8

    What an inspirational woman wow, cried the whole time.

  • @donnamakhsous1
    @donnamakhsous1 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Such an amazing woman who has taken her horrendous lived experience and grown from it. So intelligent and articulate and shows that this is NEVER the fault of the abused. I'm sure this podcast will give so many others the strength to change their situation.

  • @Viking_dame94
    @Viking_dame94 Před 10 měsíci +4

    Well done for speaking out about all this you went through! It's hard to speak up. I went through some serious sh!t and stayed with them because I knew I was stronger then others so stayed in the relationship to save someone else but I had to get out. And when I did I didn't tell a soul what happened and my family will never know because they don't need to. I have moved on and healed best I can. It takes bloody ages to get over it all. I still have ptsd from it all and flinch or say sorry for no reason etc my husband just holds me and says I'm safe over and over and I am thank fully xxxxx

  • @kirstywelsh6011
    @kirstywelsh6011 Před 10 měsíci +2

    I can resonate with every single thing that Denise has mentioned, what a wonderful and Inspirational woman ❤
    Keep glowing, keep growing 🌟

  • @christinamulligan1115
    @christinamulligan1115 Před 10 měsíci +2

    You are truly amazing and inspiring for sharing your story Denise. i really hope that you can heal from this. And get the justice you deserve 🥰
    I can relate to this because i went through similar myself.

  • @skyconan1
    @skyconan1 Před 10 měsíci +3

    So sorry you experienced such trauma! I will pray for peace over your life and family 🙏

  • @grainnereid3814
    @grainnereid3814 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Denise, you are an incredible lady .The world needs more people like you x

  • @kerridavidson2432
    @kerridavidson2432 Před 10 měsíci +5

    😭😭 just took me hours to watch this, very hard hitting especially when you have been there yourself 💜 one year out and only starting the healing process you are a inspiration this story will help others xx

    • @memorylane484
      @memorylane484 Před 10 měsíci

      Awh I'm so glad you got out, well done. Wishing you all the best for the future x

  • @shar2105
    @shar2105 Před 10 měsíci +1

    You're amazing, Denise. Thanks for sharing your story and for helping others ❤

  • @amandacrown7307
    @amandacrown7307 Před 10 měsíci +1

    that's a great statement Denise says when "she valued his safety more than your own".. speaks volumes .. delighted Denise is looking so well .. Way to girl !!🍒

  • @MsHelen22
    @MsHelen22 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Such wise words "givers need to set boundaries because takers never will" , you can tell she is such a loving caring person . Heartbreaking to listen to

  • @bigadamski66
    @bigadamski66 Před 10 měsíci

    I've known you a few years Denise, this has shocked me and i'm so glad you are through this, so so strong.

  • @lornalashes
    @lornalashes Před 10 měsíci +1

    Wow. Denise thank you for sharing your story. Your strength, light and resilience are your superpowers.
    I hope and pray with every ounce of my faith that the monster gets what he deserves. Your safety and your family's safety are more important than our flawed justice system feeling good about rehabilitating offenders. He deserves to rot.
    You are an inspiration and a positive light for so many.
    Wishing you all the happiness and healing you deserve.

  • @rebeccastone9746
    @rebeccastone9746 Před 10 měsíci +3

    This is such a good podcast. Denise tells her story so eloquently and the hosts are very compassionate and let her speak. Unfortunately I have heard many elements of this story before and this is harsh warning of how quickly things can escalate. Denise you are an amazingly strong women and I’m sure this will help other women.

  • @LaraJo8819EC
    @LaraJo8819EC Před 10 měsíci +3

    😢😢 she's amazing, what a horrific ordeal...she's so brave xxx

  • @user-eu3du5ue9b
    @user-eu3du5ue9b Před 10 měsíci +4

    Thank you for sharing Denise, you have been through hell and are an amazing woman. Hope you are doing ok and also your little doggy x

  • @jillianjades
    @jillianjades Před 10 měsíci

    Thank you for opening my eyes 🩷🫶🏼

  • @deborahknowles6541
    @deborahknowles6541 Před 10 měsíci +2

    Oh Denise you poor beautiful lady.. god I hope and pray you get over this. I was stabbed at work and I have terrible ptsd . Sending love to you you’re a very strong person ❤️❤️❤️

  • @abbiehewitt8261
    @abbiehewitt8261 Před 10 měsíci

    Beautiful strong woman. Truly a heart of kindness. The fact you were also worried about him says a lot about your character. But I resonate with the you’ve had a hard life it doesn’t make you cruel. But being kind doesn’t mean giving in, it means you own your life. You dictate who deserves your kindness

  • @cathleengreen2725
    @cathleengreen2725 Před 7 dny

    She is amazingly strong and brave. The way she speaks about people is beautiful. 💛

  • @annettemichaelamccafferyod1485
    @annettemichaelamccafferyod1485 Před 10 měsíci +10

    Can so relate to this, the live bombing, the boundaries and feeling embarrassed knowing youre being manipulated but feeling trapped to get out. Such a strong beautiful woman. So glad she got out. I was also in the caring profession and these guys definitely seek out caring people.

  • @eoneil1799
    @eoneil1799 Před 10 měsíci

    What a wonderful articulate strong woman ❤horrendous domestic abuse she was exposed to ,so glad she lived to share her story x best wishes to you Denise God bless

  • @aoifeodriscoll3072
    @aoifeodriscoll3072 Před 10 měsíci

    Wow what an inspiration this woman is so strong 💪🏻 can completely relate to this abuser receiving resources straight away from prison and then survivors (victims) left on waiting lists the system is so flawed!

  • @shannonadams3616
    @shannonadams3616 Před 10 měsíci +8

    This was such a shocking and traumatic story and it must've been so difficult to share. Denise is so inspiring, you can see her kind and beautiful soul radiating through her despite all she has been through. I have full faith Denise will have a lifetime of happiness and healing through her life

  • @Stetphanied17
    @Stetphanied17 Před 10 měsíci +3

    Denise is truly strong and inspiring. Her story made me so emotional and sick just at the thought of someone having to go through something so traumatic and life changing. I hope you live your life to the fullest and know you are amazing ❤

  • @eljay2224
    @eljay2224 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Wow what an amazing woman. Cruel world where people so amazing can have such awful things happen to them.
    Never let them get you down Denise😎 💪🏼

  • @danielledobbin2400
    @danielledobbin2400 Před 10 měsíci +2

    Bless your heart Denise 😢. Your amazing

  • @CadenAviation
    @CadenAviation Před 8 měsíci

    What a brave brave lady, she spoke so well, and held it all together, i really hope and pray that monster is locked up for a very long time

  • @joannecrawford782
    @joannecrawford782 Před 9 měsíci

    Thank you Denise, I am so sorry for what you have been through, I have no words 😢 you are an inspiration & a very brave Lady, I wish you all the best for your future. I was in a controlling & abusive relationship & I haven't been with nobody in almost 14years, but from listening to you, I hope & pray that I can take alot from this & start living. God Bless you Denise ❤🙏

  • @garethharrison3843
    @garethharrison3843 Před 10 měsíci +2

    This one got me. What a woman 💙

  • @maureenheath5472
    @maureenheath5472 Před 10 měsíci

    Congrats. What an inspiration

  • @shannonanderson9174
    @shannonanderson9174 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Thank you for sharing this, I know it wouldn’t have been easy. The system is so wrong. My ex emotionally abused me the whole relationship and only ever put hands on me the night I tried to leave him. To this day, I can’t get a restraining order because in their eyes, he hasn’t done enough. Yet he has done everything this horrible person done to you running up to attacking you, to me. But it isn’t enough. I live in fear everyday in case I bump into him or he turns up to my work or house. I’ve tried to reach out for help and I haven’t gotten it after explaining everything, and it angers me so much that if he was to get locked up; he’d get it right away when he was never the victim. We wonder why people stay in relationships when we know we’re safer that way, no matter how much it wrecks us.

  • @paulinejeffers3
    @paulinejeffers3 Před 10 měsíci

    As hard as that was to listen too, this lady has helped so many people see how easily it is to be manipulated and not see it happen 😕 i wish u well ❤❤❤❤

  • @DaveMasters1121
    @DaveMasters1121 Před 10 měsíci +3

    These monsters always try and destroy kind, intelligent, beautiful and caring women.
    How could anyone hurt her like this. It's just so evil and so ridiculously pointless. What has he gained by doing this? It's absolutely disgraceful.

  • @annearmstrong6790
    @annearmstrong6790 Před měsícem

    God bless you Denise . You have such a strong beautiful soul . And a inspiration to others 🙏🏻💗

  • @jackiecarson7154
    @jackiecarson7154 Před 10 měsíci

    Very brave girl, I wish her peace & happiness in her life 💕🥰

  • @glarkin99
    @glarkin99 Před 7 měsíci

    Omg what a brave strong woman you are 😢❤ I hope you have an amazing life u deserve the world and nothing less ❤❤

  • @dannasandilands1348
    @dannasandilands1348 Před 10 měsíci +15

    This is fucking totally barbaric, im so sorry you endured this 😢 Im glad now youve found strength and have managed to get through this!! ❤

  • @keepupthegretwrkjohnston-um9yt
    @keepupthegretwrkjohnston-um9yt Před 10 měsíci +2

    Amazing woman ❤

  • @michelletowey1128
    @michelletowey1128 Před 10 měsíci +3

    Thanks for sharing Denise.. Had a similar story myself and everything you say resonated with me. There should be a register for these men like there is for sex offences

  • @Ciaraofthenorth
    @Ciaraofthenorth Před 10 měsíci +1

    God bless Denise. Great character strong woman.

  • @elliesimmonds2093
    @elliesimmonds2093 Před 10 měsíci

    What a brave women 👏🏻❤️

  • @sarahgillanders8578
    @sarahgillanders8578 Před 10 měsíci +7

    Come from tik tok video. She is one strong lady!

  • @owencampbell8799
    @owencampbell8799 Před 10 měsíci +1

    I hope a lot of women listen to this and if they’re being abused and stalked they reach out.

  • @user-bh8qm1wm4f
    @user-bh8qm1wm4f Před 10 měsíci

    Jesus Christ. I’m so sorry she went through this. This is horrific 😢

  • @stephaniedunlop538
    @stephaniedunlop538 Před 10 měsíci +2

    What an amazing women ❤

  • @patriciaf6266
    @patriciaf6266 Před 10 měsíci

    What a lady you are Denise. Your trauma has only made you stronger and a more beautiful person, if that was even possible ❤. I wish you nothing but peace and happiness in the months and years ahead. Go and be happy. You are an amazing human being. God bless you🤗😘🩷🩷

  • @orkidlol1967
    @orkidlol1967 Před 4 měsíci

    You’re an amazing woman. Praying he gets a long time in jail.

  • @Kira-yj5sc
    @Kira-yj5sc Před 10 měsíci +6

    I wish I'd known about love bombing before getting into my previous relationship. So scary how that works. I'm so glad she got away, such a strong lady!!

  • @ruthletts9752
    @ruthletts9752 Před 10 měsíci

    So right. When I tried to leave an abusive relationship five years ago I was held captive at gun point. Three days without access to a bathroom. No food. Repeated sexual abuse. I used a cup for a toilet and disposed of contents through a small crack in a window when ever he went out to eat. I managed to escape when he was asleep. I’m still hyper vigilant. I had counselling for ptsd. Still get triggers of panic from certain words and I still get nightmares.
    But I’m a survivor not a victim now. CBT therapy helped me with irrational thoughts. I carry an alarm everywhere with me.

  • @willieglass14
    @willieglass14 Před 4 měsíci

    Jesus that was heart wrenching like scenes from a movie what she went through strong young women she is telling the story

  • @lindseylaing5354
    @lindseylaing5354 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Be good if a psychologist saw this and offered her free therapy. I couldn't imagine going through that. I pray you have an amazing life from now on ❤

  • @eimearmccloskey5651
    @eimearmccloskey5651 Před 10 měsíci

    No one deserves that. 💜

  • @RyB-ne7zh
    @RyB-ne7zh Před 10 měsíci +1

    Such a strong, beautiful lady you are Denise. The amount of ads in this is disrespectful imo!

  • @morgaanmckenzie
    @morgaanmckenzie Před 10 měsíci +1

    This women☹️🥺stay strong !!❤️❤️

  • @Paula-xe5jz
    @Paula-xe5jz Před 10 měsíci

    Strong girl what a horrible story ❤

  • @louisaweatherston402
    @louisaweatherston402 Před 10 měsíci

    Thank god she survived that animal red flags wanting to know where you are at all times having to have location is not caring first sign of control

  • @clairehug7583
    @clairehug7583 Před 10 měsíci +1

    What an amazing woman you are Denise ❤ I hope this vile creature rots in h€ll and I pray that Karma bites him very very badly!!!!

  • @Clairebui
    @Clairebui Před 4 měsíci

    His charges are NOT enough. Scary. I’m so sorry.

    • @brealowe5833
      @brealowe5833 Před měsícem

      I missed what he was charged with, what were the charges?

  • @dominylll
    @dominylll Před 10 měsíci +2

    Eugh they’re such calculated abusers it’s like they all follow the same narcissist text book

  • @11223344princess
    @11223344princess Před 10 měsíci +1

    Pure evil poor woman I hate this world

  • @hammer9547
    @hammer9547 Před 10 měsíci +4

    What’s his name? Absolute scumbag needs named and shamed. Brave woman!

  • @saka.goatftbl21
    @saka.goatftbl21 Před 10 měsíci +1

    ❤❤

  • @fayeand3
    @fayeand3 Před 10 měsíci +4

    What happened to the dog 😢x

  • @margarethoyle4887
    @margarethoyle4887 Před 9 měsíci

    The bastard needs putting down , you are a brave woman don’t ever let anyone eve4 tell you differently you did nothing wrong. I wish you all the best for your future xx

  • @thehiddenmukbangGirl
    @thehiddenmukbangGirl Před 10 měsíci +3

    She's wrong about the rehab centres. There s.r coselios in Newry. Asha house in omagh. Ward 15 in Downpatrick and northlands in derry. I've suffered addiction for years. I'm going back to asha for treatment next month. I get those injections gave to me to save me from overdosing. I'm sober at min tho 😊x

    • @Samualross
      @Samualross Před 10 měsíci +47

      Not to be rude or nothing but this isn’t about you she’s telling her trauma and all you can say is she’s wrong then continue talking about yourself and about how you’re sober yes it’s a good thing that you’re sober but you couldn’t have even said I’m so sorry or I’m glad your better now that is her point of view on rehab centres I’m sorry if that offendeds you but she clearly is traumatised and was struggling and it probably took a lot for her to do this and your too busy worrying that she didn’t think that there was rehab centres that help in Northern Ireland

    • @samkenna1390
      @samkenna1390 Před 10 měsíci +1

      Some of those are for alcohol only and won't accept deug addiction referrals

    • @thehiddenmukbangGirl
      @thehiddenmukbangGirl Před 10 měsíci +8

      To clarify I wrote this comment before I seen her full story and feel like a right dhead now!! This girl suffered the most traumatic time!! So glad she's doing better and got away from that monster. Big respect 🙏 👏 🤍🤍

    • @emmamcdonagh
      @emmamcdonagh Před 10 měsíci +2

      Out of all she has spoke about, that's what you took from this???

  • @beckibeckham423
    @beckibeckham423 Před 10 měsíci

    James English…. Wanna be then likes xx

  • @aidymurray4581
    @aidymurray4581 Před 10 měsíci

    ❤❤