Why Women Pull Away | 6 Tips To STOP Her From Pulling Away!

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  • čas přidán 14. 07. 2019
  • Why women pull away! Joined by two experts, we talk about how to stop her from pulling away. As many of you know attraction is the #1 thing that can pull women away in the dating and relationship stage of relationships and love. We made this video for you to understand why women act distant when it comes to the dating stage and even if you find yourself in a relationship.
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  • @thomasjones9920
    @thomasjones9920 Před 5 lety +831

    Have a purpose in life that is much bigger than any woman. Relying on a woman to give you purpose, or saying "my purpose in life is to make this woman happy", is a recipe for sadness and frustration.

    • @mountainconstructions
      @mountainconstructions Před 4 lety +16

      100%... In fact, you can say that about more than just a women
      Work, Self, Sports, etc.... You still need a higher purpose than all these.

    • @Plainsimple67
      @Plainsimple67 Před 4 lety +20

      NAILED IT AND THE REALITY IS THAT NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO. IT'S NOT ENOUGH.😏😉

    • @johnsprince3924
      @johnsprince3924 Před 4 lety +6

      I agree, but most people say #1 purpose is your physical and mental health. #2 purpose with most guys is $$ or career. And #3 purpose is generally along the lines of procreation or relationships. Now one could perhaps say that your body is a temple unto a higher purpose I suppose?
      I personally like to think that serving truth or that which fosters life, and fighting deception or unsustainable progression should be everyones purpose. But its probably more of a personal choice or life goal, that is actually rather despised, as it is slightly contrary to the operating principles of the Luciferian construct, more commonly referred to as colonial, or western civilization. Where you can be whatever you want Theist, atheist, agnostic, or any combination of.
      So long as at the end of the day you actually accept the mark or permanent legal identity of a beast like authority and you willingly serve the Luciferianism system in principle and deed.
      Everyone gets the mark or else we kill them as a society or evil gang, until they are conquered. Even the native Americans that got put on reservations after their land was stolen where required to take the mark and except a legal fiction/Identity. Essentially a condition of servitude to something other than their creator. Its just mankind playing God, for apparent face value reasons. It never works out well. But they've all among civilization turned aside from the truth together to give it one Hell! of a try. So whats your purpose?

    • @gentnextdoor
      @gentnextdoor Před 4 lety +1

      Agreed

    • @hassanilyas8132
      @hassanilyas8132 Před 4 lety +3

      Man you are right on so many fucking levels

  • @tonybreeden863
    @tonybreeden863 Před 4 lety +528

    If you treat her like a celebrity she will treat you like a fan

    • @gnrkulim173
      @gnrkulim173 Před 4 lety +34

      And when you treat her coldly, you ain't a caring person. Everything is wrong

    • @dalegribble9486
      @dalegribble9486 Před 4 lety +7

      @zenigel If she sees other woman around you. Yes.

    • @acharich
      @acharich Před 4 lety +1

      @zenigel 💀💀💀💀💀

    • @mankydave67
      @mankydave67 Před 4 lety +2

      Love that quote. Permission to use it??!!

    • @willharper8346
      @willharper8346 Před 4 lety +2

      Trademark this

  • @KnockoutInvesting
    @KnockoutInvesting Před 4 lety +329

    This is why most people are single, divorced, lonely, anxious, and depressed. All the games we play. Lol

    • @kennyan8558
      @kennyan8558 Před 3 lety +23

      yep. no one likes to keep it simple.

    • @Innoz1337
      @Innoz1337 Před 3 lety +33

      Well it's just hypergamy...... in the modern world with instagram, dating apps...
      and marriage no longer means "for life" but... "half his shit when you get tired of him"...

    • @RetroCaptain
      @RetroCaptain Před 3 lety +9

      @@Innoz1337 I overheard Wedding Speech once, where the bride mistakenly said "This is my 1st marriage..".

    • @locket-7714
      @locket-7714 Před 3 lety +5

      It's fun tho at least for me currently because there is a girl that clearly likes me and it's like a game trying to see who will say something first lol

    • @danielventura2538
      @danielventura2538 Před 2 lety +5

      The dating game is a game of life

  • @morenokv
    @morenokv Před 5 lety +233

    So last week my fiance wanted a break. Watched all these videos and played it cool. Today was our 4 year anniversary and we had dinner. I played it sooo cool and she was holding my leg, giving me kisses and put her arm around. As the dinner was almost done, she said she wanted to break up. Wtf? I still played it cool and then it got crazy when we asked how we would divide our stuff. She got so upset and I knew what I was worth. Told her to calm down then 5 min later she did. The biggest thing I learned during the break was to make myself #1. My peace should come from myself and not another person. I want to say thank you because if I didn't take advice then I would have been a wreck. Now off with my friends and she just called me to apologise again. Fall in Love with yourself and you will never be heartbroken 💯

    • @morenokv
      @morenokv Před 5 lety +43

      I have been working out like crazy everyday and eating healthy. I already packed on alot of muscle and lost a good amount of fat. Last night went to the bar and had a great time. Wierd thing was I was always surrounded by women. I almost didn't go cuz I was so tired after work but glad I did! Accept every social event. Trust me, when I was getting rdy I was getting depressed but glad I went! Today working out I just realized she was a moody girlfriend all the time and never appreciated me! We are engaged and she never made an effort to see one of my best friends. (he still hasn't met her!) She also had social media accounts but she said she deleted it but then reactivated it. I didn't know for the longest but once I finally saw it, she had no pictures of us! Last thing, these last 3 months I was dealing with my brother in law almost dying and took care of my niece and nephew and she never wanted to help out or anything. Then my grandma passed away and she was cold and distant. Those last 3 months I am sure she already made her decision to leave me. Holy shit! I am leaving this here to make sure I revisit it if she tries to get back with me. Boys I dodged a fucking bullet!!!!

    • @prodigalson7
      @prodigalson7 Před 5 lety +10

      You damn right!!!
      Neglecting myself to make somebody else happy. Of course, I give it a balance, but cannot forget about myself. Once she knows it's about her.....her antennas will rise, catch on, and go for the kill and take advantage of the man. They're good!!

    • @bobbylopez3581
      @bobbylopez3581 Před 5 lety +9

      U handled it like a pro, did exactly the right thing, letting her go and staying calm, especially after she got upset. Hats off to u. There r plenty of fish out there time for a new model.

    • @patrickgallegos1435
      @patrickgallegos1435 Před 5 lety +18

      So your first mistake was thinking the affection was making everything OK. She was testing you. Dude woman are difficult. But don't jump all in. She said let's break up say OK end the subject. Don't fight it. Leave it alone show her you are strong and can handle it. Make it as she never said it pull away next day go no contact. Show her you can pass the test. Sounds stupid but it works

    • @reidpussman488
      @reidpussman488 Před 5 lety +2

      Congrats bro

  • @kevinwu8380
    @kevinwu8380 Před 5 lety +309

    idgaf if you pull away or not. If you pull away, ima pull my away too. Woman needs to be put in their own place sometimes. Us dudes we aint toys.

    • @StrikeforceJedi
      @StrikeforceJedi Před 4 lety +37

      Amen brother. I'm not some piece of trash to be discarded.

    • @ArcticSeraph
      @ArcticSeraph Před 4 lety +30

      We're not just meat bags or an extra pocket of money. Guys, you need to have more self respect and self love. If a woman or anyone does not value you as a person or respects you, it means they do not deserve you. Choose wisely who you want to share your life with. Your life is precious and you don't want to give it to someone who will just abuse you and make you feel worthless.

    • @poison_jaded4985
      @poison_jaded4985 Před 4 lety +3

      agreed

    • @roebloxy9986
      @roebloxy9986 Před 4 lety +4

      ur so right bro 😎 we are not toys !!!

    • @roebloxy9986
      @roebloxy9986 Před 4 lety +2

      @Kiss Myass yeaa

  • @uprite88
    @uprite88 Před 4 lety +94

    Truest words ever spoken:
    When you first meet a woman, you never want her to change,
    But, She'll always want to change you!

  • @lylesouthgate3756
    @lylesouthgate3756 Před 5 lety +195

    I won't stop her from pulling away.its her loss not mine.

    • @MrHonkler
      @MrHonkler Před 3 lety +12

      Only one in the comments with the right mentality. Keep kickin ass

    • @webbset
      @webbset Před 3 lety

      Underrated

  • @louisnoe1089
    @louisnoe1089 Před 5 lety +356

    Notice how women think they don't have to bring anything to the table, it's up to the man 100% of the time.
    If you have to put much effort into a woman, just let her go. Replace her with a better, more appreciative woman.
    What the hell are women's standards?

    • @ch1bob
      @ch1bob Před 5 lety +14

      Louis Noe they have a pussy

    • @downwardspiral3252
      @downwardspiral3252 Před 4 lety +32

      They think all they gotta do is show up. Ok...show up...then GTFO!

    • @acharich
      @acharich Před 4 lety

      Hmm..!

    • @KEICRUMBIE
      @KEICRUMBIE Před 4 lety +9

      BEST COMMENT ON THE PAGE

    • @KEICRUMBIE
      @KEICRUMBIE Před 4 lety +2

      @@downwardspiral3252 ☝

  • @9510dark
    @9510dark Před 5 lety +42

    Confidence comes from mastering what you do best and what feels most natural to you.

  • @4toppingpizzayacaant72
    @4toppingpizzayacaant72 Před 4 lety +31

    Sick of having to change up what I so to make them happy, its time for the women to prove themselves to us

  • @phillipgilbert3784
    @phillipgilbert3784 Před 5 lety +167

    Modern day women treat good loyal and honest men like the Avengers treated Thanos In Infinity Wars....they believed they were prepared for him they believed they could handle him...but when he finally showed up, when destiny arrived.....he was to much for them to handle and in the blink of an eye (snap***) gone...just like these women ghost a good genuine man #MicDrop

    • @66kaisersoza
      @66kaisersoza Před 5 lety +12

      Women need chaos buddy. You need a woman to seek you're validation and you're not going to give it to her. Women are emotional beings, they need to be attracted to you mentally to be engaged. You need to pull back on her first sometimes.
      Be Pro active not reactive

    • @PayHomageJC
      @PayHomageJC Před 5 lety +5

      Daaaammmmnnnn this shit the truth lmao

    • @lifesgood1936
      @lifesgood1936 Před 4 lety

      I have observed many black men who believe that most women prefer bad men over good men. Why is that?

    • @Fearless-ex4iv
      @Fearless-ex4iv Před 4 lety

      👏👏👏

    • @thebluejay3145
      @thebluejay3145 Před 4 lety

      Because other races chase our genitals when their men arent looking.

  • @darrickbrisco5016
    @darrickbrisco5016 Před 5 lety +193

    Men stay in your purpose get involved with things to occupy your time don’t let a woman occupy all your time join a gym is a very good way to self improve

    • @sjot2006
      @sjot2006 Před 4 lety +1

      Bs. If you only do that, you will get 0 results. You must be doing 100 approaches a week in order to be successful in getting girls

    • @josepalacios2819
      @josepalacios2819 Před 4 lety +1

      @@sjot2006 i agree - joining a gym ONLY will not get you women. You have to a lot of approaches to get one.

    • @barryseaworth
      @barryseaworth Před 4 lety

      I go to the gym all the time. Still can't fill the void

    • @rftree7737
      @rftree7737 Před 4 lety

      Yes good sence, kick her out the only thing keep strong because always she back just keep away

    • @davorebo5790
      @davorebo5790 Před 3 lety

      @@sjot2006 it's 2021 man.. plenty of fish online.. I've been getting plenty of women on there.. although you do have to be somewhat good looking and have your shiat together..for what I've been told

  • @michaelmilne3642
    @michaelmilne3642 Před 5 lety +119

    As a man, Make yourself a priority, your health happiness and wellbeing comes first at all times. Confidence and the ability to be happy without the need for a woman to validate or complete you.
    Doing this you will attract others towards you. Including females. Even if you do decide, that you've found a quality female. Don't change for her. Yes balance is involved as you have to consider her needs wants now, but never let her feel superior or put her on that pedestal.
    She needs to know that you have other priorities, and that you can be happy without her and that you know there are many other women out there who may be better suited for you.

  • @TheHounddog2343
    @TheHounddog2343 Před 5 lety +173

    Let her go. If she comes back it’s because no one else liked her. Let her go again.

    • @princeofjudaea
      @princeofjudaea Před 4 lety +20

      Faxxxx 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿😂😂😂😂😂 or the other guy wasn't as good of a lay and person as you. Treat her like a sex doll from henceforth. Never relationship status or marry this woman she is trash.

    • @shashanksharma9548
      @shashanksharma9548 Před 4 lety +3

      🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @philanthropy7910
      @philanthropy7910 Před 4 lety +1

      😀😀😀

    • @alonzojneloms8765
      @alonzojneloms8765 Před 3 lety +4

      What you say Hounddog! Put her back on the Merry go Round! Lol

    • @hardikvadgama929
      @hardikvadgama929 Před 3 lety +1

      😂😂

  • @koria492
    @koria492 Před 3 lety +42

    This is why I prefer to be single..a relationship shouldn’t be this complicated, it should be natural chemistry..this just goes to show that we aren’t made to be in long term relationships..we get tested in life and then come home to get tested..I’m good..shout out to fellas on their purpose and living the red pill life

    • @joelitos2000
      @joelitos2000 Před rokem

      Sex and courtship naked get people to this point

    • @kevinosborne4632
      @kevinosborne4632 Před rokem +1

      Amen brother No one's perfect on earth Women need to look in mirror!

    • @steveardianto5058
      @steveardianto5058 Před 9 měsíci

      too complicated, too much games

    • @troyehnisz9907
      @troyehnisz9907 Před 4 měsíci

      So much happier and wealthier now I invest my money in my living space and myself drama free

    • @JeffersonRah
      @JeffersonRah Před měsícem

      When it's "natural chemistry" and everything goes smoothly. she will pull away. No matter what you do, they are hypergampus. Period.

  • @Tank2000ish
    @Tank2000ish Před 5 lety +33

    Women pull away because someone they previously was in a relationship or someone they have interest in before you ever met her...is back on the scene then they ghost you....I'll give you ladies credit for basic good advice. Because if a woman is single and she's giving you some interest then ghost you not because you did something stupid. Come on ladies you know I'm telling the truth...

  • @rolfivarskar7096
    @rolfivarskar7096 Před 4 lety +15

    'Confidence is a muscle' - I love that! Well spoken Nathalie.

  • @epicbehavior
    @epicbehavior Před 5 lety +85

    If they pull away, move on to the next girl.

    • @lukedavis6711
      @lukedavis6711 Před 4 lety +6

      Exactly. You deserve burning unnegotiated desire; anything less isn't good enough.

    • @pabloreyes4374
      @pabloreyes4374 Před 3 lety

      Yes sir

    • @mmbower1
      @mmbower1 Před 3 lety

      @Butt Rigging so she’s a lesbian

  • @patrickgallegos1435
    @patrickgallegos1435 Před 5 lety +86

    It's hard when you have every good quality in life. Stable job, working on yourself, and all she does is test you over and over. This battle of regaining my confidence has been hard. Finally seeing results but changing your behavior as a man is not easy. Especially if you know your values. Women want someone stable but also a strong not caring attitude, when you are kind that's not easy to have.

    • @travisandrews3909
      @travisandrews3909 Před 2 lety

      You should work on yourself

    • @MisterMind12
      @MisterMind12 Před 2 lety

      Read David Goggin's 'Can't Hurt Me'.

    • @danieljvigil3039
      @danieljvigil3039 Před rokem +7

      Women will always test. Stop thinking they won’t. If you are on your purpose and keep up with you and are true to you . You, will see the “tests” lessen. Deal with it, live with it, do not run from it, recognize the value in it. It will help you become a better man and she will love you like you’ve never been loved before.

    • @Jamalquentinjr
      @Jamalquentinjr Před rokem

      I remember I told this man who was telling me about his gf of 1 year acting funny ignoring his calls recently " the only time a woman cares about is right now. Nothing before or after matters to her so it shouldn't matter to you"

    • @arianamontenegro5528
      @arianamontenegro5528 Před rokem +1

      Just dont get emotionally attached and treat the girl you like just as someone else. The one who gets in love lose

  • @assainscreed1234
    @assainscreed1234 Před 5 lety +196

    Can’t stop a Woman from pulling away, if she wants to go she’s gone

    • @Nsands81
      @Nsands81 Před 4 lety +1

      Goes both ways. live your own lives gents

    • @johnsprince3924
      @johnsprince3924 Před 4 lety +15

      No you can stop almost any woman from pulling away. You just have to play all kinds of psychological games. You have to treat a woman like a loving well trained dog, or a mushroom. Basically you cannot actually value and respect them, or they won't value or respect you. Oh and the better you treat them, the worse they will generally treat you, and the more they pull away.
      Taking on a women is like adopting an emotional child, that demands respect or else, no kids for you, no sex for you, no emotional support for you. So let me reiterate. If you can't BS a bitch completely for years on end and manipulate her to her hearts contentment. Then she will not want you. You're a weak man.
      The kind of man who wants an open honest loving relationship with a female. A sucker or chump to most woman. Cause they don't instinctually want that from you. They want a man that puts them third at best, cause you will never be #1 to 99% of all women. Their loyalty to you is directly relational to how you currently are making them feel.
      They don't belong to you, its just your turn. So you best really want something from them, or why waste the time. But yeah you can definitely stop most girls from ever pulling away unless you sabotage yourself. Its pretty easy except for being disgusted with how pathetic they are to have to be dealt with like enemies, and never like friends or anyone you actually care about. Cause if you care, your ass is screwed and she'll know it. And its off to the congruency testing races for her stupid emotional brain.
      My point is that you can have an awesome relationship with a woman if you are a heartless jerk, they'll love you. Or at least relate to you and not pull away because they know in that type of situation it would be a futile tactic. Unlike with guys who demonstrate foolishly and in unwomanly weakness, that they actually care about anything besides themselves (have values, principles, that she doesn't feel safe and secure with). With this rant I offer a disclaimer, as I do apologize to the five or six unicorns on this planet. All the rest of you women are just pissed that your man isn't smart enough to effectively mushroom your stupid asses in a respectful fashion like you prefer.

    • @WoodomainJeremyBroun
      @WoodomainJeremyBroun Před 4 lety

      I like your reply. We can't control others. Be yourself and treat her as you would like to be treated but don't expect that will happen!

    • @WoodomainJeremyBroun
      @WoodomainJeremyBroun Před 4 lety +1

      What do you mean by an 'awesome' relationship. It sounds a very childish and American term as though its a commodity or consumer product! If you play games you play games. You sound as though you dislike and are angry with women. We all have letdowns. Know yourself first before you have expectations of others.

    • @jizzyb1572
      @jizzyb1572 Před 4 lety +4

      brave until she becomes a single mother and tries to come back

  • @84Terminator
    @84Terminator Před 5 lety +187

    If she pulls away, pull away too, it’s not rocket science

    • @raygarcia4468
      @raygarcia4468 Před 5 lety +2

      Correction : Pussy isn’t all blown out : Above

    • @jackbourne4169
      @jackbourne4169 Před 4 lety

      Natalie your nice

    • @jackbourne4169
      @jackbourne4169 Před 4 lety

      I would have a baby

    • @lukedavis6711
      @lukedavis6711 Před 4 lety +3

      @zenigel there isn't anything inherently wrong with manipulation. Is it wrong for an opinion piece to have a thesis? It seems healthy to pull away if a girl pulls away otherwise you risk chasing her harder than she chases you which makes you appear to have a lower value than her which either makes you look creepy or at risk of entering her frame.

    • @Wragwrecks
      @Wragwrecks Před 3 lety +1

      Ofn

  • @kicksalot9943
    @kicksalot9943 Před 5 lety +103

    Thats exactly why my wife of 16-years 3-kids asked for divorce. I gave her too much power and control in our relationship and she lost respect and wanted to move on.

    • @MrJoennachi
      @MrJoennachi Před 5 lety +8

      Wow bro lucky you. Take your chance and go explore the world come back and thank me

    • @bobbylopez3581
      @bobbylopez3581 Před 4 lety +5

      Kicks a lot.. that's gotta hurt! whenever there's kids involved it makes it that much harder! I think the reason for most break ups is we rush into relationships and don't take the time in finding whether we're with the right person. Life is difficult enough! It's hard to find that someone whom u can really trust.

    • @acharich
      @acharich Před 4 lety +1

      @@bobbylopez3581 it's the second most important decision we can make in our lives, so should be given time accordingly.. 🙏🏾

    • @Raymond7779
      @Raymond7779 Před 4 lety +13

      My wife of 9 years, 2 kids, gave me the boot 12 years ago. I gave her too much power and control, and I barely stood up for myself. 2 more years of child support left and I'll finally be free of her.

    • @danh4435
      @danh4435 Před 4 lety +3

      Feminists smh

  • @qmulus1
    @qmulus1 Před 5 lety +26

    So, act like I don't care as much as I do. Got it.

    • @ch1bob
      @ch1bob Před 5 lety +2

      qmulus1 fact

  • @keepevolving7968
    @keepevolving7968 Před 3 lety +7

    I found this discussion very helpful. I’ve been in many toxic relationships and have participated in the toxicity as well. No stones to throw! Thanks for the resource.

  • @d.s.v.6404
    @d.s.v.6404 Před 4 lety +123

    Too many rules ladies...get over yourselves.

    • @UnexpectedWonder
      @UnexpectedWonder Před 4 lety +8

      Truly!

    • @marcoi7455
      @marcoi7455 Před 3 lety +2

      Its all about power

    • @JeffersonRah
      @JeffersonRah Před měsícem

      ​@marcoi7455 my brothers ex wife said this. I will never forget it, "I just feel more powerful now is all"

  • @epicbehavior
    @epicbehavior Před 5 lety +65

    Tip: Let them.

  • @quantum_man
    @quantum_man Před 4 lety

    That first statement or observation made by you Apollonia is so true! In fact the whole interview was spot on. Thanks to both of you!

  • @kobraklutch7484
    @kobraklutch7484 Před 3 lety +1

    Been watching you for a week and I've already stepped my game up big time! Thanks Ponti!

  • @timecop73
    @timecop73 Před 5 lety +61

    These women talk like it’s only women who have standards and men are just losers whatever the situation may be. Most women keep looking for that Mr Perfect and finally end up with some jerk. That’s how this video is going to end up too.

    • @kennyan8558
      @kennyan8558 Před 3 lety +1

      yes and they are not totally wrong. Men do act like that. And no wonder women keep running over them.

  • @rlpalominos
    @rlpalominos Před 3 lety +5

    Thanks for affirming what was in the back of my mind but always thought it was the opposite. I had no standards and allowed the woman to be in control for the fear of not having a woman in my life. I'm more self confident and the current fact that I'm still single doesn't depress me anymore. Yay!

  • @wendellpiuswalters1984
    @wendellpiuswalters1984 Před 5 lety +1

    Well Done, Miss Ponti and Miss Nathalie.
    I became a subscriber with Apollonia Ponti about 5 days ago. This segment was great, honest, deep and uplifting.

  • @andrey.3562
    @andrey.3562 Před 4 lety +5

    This is a great talk. This is what married couples need to hear as well. Because people are emature in their relationships even when they're married for 30 years. It's sad to see how many people have less than desirable relationships and behaving like kids at times. Thank you ladies. It was lovely to hear two mature (in relationship) ladies having such a good conversation. Those were some valuable points that everyone needs to take in consideration. No matter how old you are and how long you've been in a relationship, never stop learning and improving!

  • @amancalledjim5382
    @amancalledjim5382 Před 4 lety +18

    I’ve had a women call me her soulmate. I’ve never changed being the man she was attracted to. Still pulled away...🤷‍♂️

    • @kennyan8558
      @kennyan8558 Před 3 lety +8

      I have had a woman call me her "brother" only to sleep with me 6 months later. Don't believe the things they tell you.

  • @xm377Moyocoyatzin
    @xm377Moyocoyatzin Před 4 lety +65

    As a guy remaining single sounds really good right about now. Women sound like a burden.

    • @larrywayne5885
      @larrywayne5885 Před 4 lety

      xm377Moyocoyatzin facts!

    • @chief5981
      @chief5981 Před 3 lety

      Just watch your male friends in relationships

    • @kennyan8558
      @kennyan8558 Před 3 lety

      i can testify to this. Been in several relationships and one bad marriage.

    • @jaybrown7434
      @jaybrown7434 Před 2 lety

      😆

  • @shadesatnight80
    @shadesatnight80 Před 3 lety

    Amazing video!!! I see so much clarity now!!! I love this! Ty so much for the information!

  • @mountaincenang6537
    @mountaincenang6537 Před 5 lety +2

    You ladys are lovely , thank you for putting sense into our head, great to hear!!!

  • @elmalanmalan2175
    @elmalanmalan2175 Před 5 lety +258

    YOU WOMEN DEMAND TOO MUCH FOR A MEN. BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY YOU ARE NEVER SATISFIED.

    • @remasculate3895
      @remasculate3895 Před 5 lety +17

      lol being bitter and jaded is not the answer brother. Understand woman more. Understand the feminine nature. Read the book The Way of The Superior Man By David Dieda.

    • @natalieharquail4845
      @natalieharquail4845 Před 5 lety

      Porque piensas eso

    • @michaelscherer6416
      @michaelscherer6416 Před 5 lety

      @@remasculate3895 Excellent book!!

    • @marcalampi5036
      @marcalampi5036 Před 5 lety

      @@remasculate3895 you are correct

    • @brillakhi2004
      @brillakhi2004 Před 4 lety

      el malan malan truth spoken 💯💯💯

  • @jjarnold220
    @jjarnold220 Před 5 lety +9

    This is why that book was written Women from Mars and Men from Venus. We speak two different languages lol. It is truly confusing for a man with women now. He doesn’t know if he’s coming or going and if he’s being to forward or not to forward...it’s crazy

  • @dligon01
    @dligon01 Před 3 lety

    I appreciate that you're speaking pure facts in this video ladies!

  • @shuajogrove7758
    @shuajogrove7758 Před 4 lety +1

    I always say don’t take advice from women but I’ve been watching your videos here and there for almost a year and you might be my favorite “coach” I’ve listened too.

  • @breakingnewsaroundtheworld680

    "Comparison is the root of all evil" Thanks for this.

  • @kevinkelley886
    @kevinkelley886 Před 4 lety +12

    Coach Natalie said it herself, "Whats in it for me?" Thats the key. THATS WHAT THEY CARE ABOUT. Whats in it for her. Exactly why I dont give a shit about women

    • @kennyan8558
      @kennyan8558 Před 3 lety

      Its funny how self centered and unaware these coaches themselves are. They are so OK with not briniging anything to the table because they know they dont have to.

  • @athleticandre26
    @athleticandre26 Před 4 lety

    This was very helpful ladies. Gonna start using what I've learned. Thank You!

  • @Tochtlichicahuac
    @Tochtlichicahuac Před 5 lety +2

    You two are the very best, so it's a thrill to hear you discuss this!! Thank you

  • @Platform115
    @Platform115 Před 5 lety +70

    Never chase a woman
    If you do that you’ll lose her
    Second tips never try to make a woman happy if you do that you will lose her too

    • @hiredgun0551
      @hiredgun0551 Před 4 lety +3

      Agree with both points.
      1 - Never chase. If you want to be around each other, it will be a mutual courtship, and a learning of each other which is desired by both.
      2 - Be yourself at all times. Don't change what you are to try to make her happy. She will be happy when she is around you when you continue to be who and what you are.

    • @cosmopolitanbay9508
      @cosmopolitanbay9508 Před 4 lety +5

      Problem is ... what if keeping her unhappy does wonders? What does it tell you about her or women in general?

    • @marcos71580
      @marcos71580 Před 4 lety +1

      Facts.

    • @stevencorsoe9575
      @stevencorsoe9575 Před 3 lety

      Both statements very true.

  • @kevinmitchell8650
    @kevinmitchell8650 Před 4 lety +4

    Thanks...continue to be the best you...its in the knowing... Looks can be duplicated... Personalities cannot...know and walk in it...live it.

  • @NoBs48
    @NoBs48 Před 4 lety +1

    This is one of the most accurate videos I’ve ever seen talking about relationships

  • @davetrottier
    @davetrottier Před 5 lety +1

    Great to see you 2 together 🙌🏻

  • @KEICRUMBIE
    @KEICRUMBIE Před 4 lety +27

    How can women crave and want to be with men "who have standards" when they don't have standards themselves?

  • @J24777
    @J24777 Před 5 lety +57

    Have Money!! She will NEVER PULL AWAY! But, when the Money runs out.... She will Pull Away. True facts....

    • @riza4086
      @riza4086 Před 5 lety +6

      She won't pull away but she is def not your women. It takes more than money to keep a women.

    • @mattper3282
      @mattper3282 Před 5 lety +2

      Just to complicated so much talk . Be yourself act right and if it happens then you got lucky, it’s just impossible to really understand women. U can be a fine man and they dump your behind in minutes notice, if you really nice and try hard you in trouble, the secret is not to be too giving don’t be overly nice and they may treat you with respect ,

    • @iamangela171
      @iamangela171 Před 4 lety +1

      That's nit necessarily true it would be nice but unless you're a gold digger that's not going to make a relationship work. It's a wonderful asset but yiu need more!

  • @ruggles46
    @ruggles46 Před 2 lety

    Thank you! I gained a lot of reassurance for the value of taking it slow and being authentic

  • @augustusmaxwelljr1589
    @augustusmaxwelljr1589 Před 4 lety

    Apollonia you are giving away priceless tips. Thank you so much!!!!

  • @loisangeleyez8799
    @loisangeleyez8799 Před 4 lety +5

    I feel that, the feeling of not being heard is a big one for relationships not just for women but men as well. Both parties should be there for one another both should give 100 into a relationship it should be 100/100 it is a relationship between 2 people foundations are built together with trust, commitment, communication, honesty, respect, and Willingness and many more

  • @jamiehurricane
    @jamiehurricane Před 5 lety +16

    this finally convinced me women fundamentally fail a cost benefit analysis. This is an emotional nightmare to put up with for a little sex.

  • @samuelhara4874
    @samuelhara4874 Před 4 lety

    You 2 ladies talk so much sense! Striking at the heart of the issues👍👍

  • @johnfeminella9839
    @johnfeminella9839 Před rokem

    Thank you Apollonia I always value your advice on relationships I've learned a great deal from you having your standards and having your own life so true when it comes to a healthy relationship thank you for your advice

  • @openher148
    @openher148 Před 5 lety +55

    It's about balance in prioritizing both and not go to extreme one over the other. So basically women pull away when men lack emotional maturity such as clinginess, lack of empathy, lack of self confidence and etc

    • @am-oo5gj
      @am-oo5gj Před 5 lety +15

      Women need somebody unemployed to study all her psychological problems since her childhood. Oh my god. They are full time work

    • @am-oo5gj
      @am-oo5gj Před 5 lety +10

      The sad thing they give themselves the right to analyse the man from head to toe and we men cannot say a word about their insecurities and flawses

    • @am-oo5gj
      @am-oo5gj Před 5 lety +9

      Being single is less work. , women do not understand themselves

    • @am-oo5gj
      @am-oo5gj Před 5 lety +4

      Even the way she explains how women think it is always sounds like you need as a man to play a game to neglect her sometimes, to be less available, to say some words in twisted way. So simply you cannot be yourself, you cannot be honest nor direct. Am I dealing with a little kid or what? Life hs a lot of challenges. I rather just be myself and whoever likes me that us fine but no pretend nor to waste my energy in games to please any insecured or picky person. Sorry if I used strong words. It is just trying feels ng like touching feelings for a kid. I think women are able to be treated as adults more than that.

    • @am-oo5gj
      @am-oo5gj Před 5 lety +1

      Women also pull away when you do not make much money, when you do not take the trash out, when they compare you with other acquaintance with bigger wallets. Lol

  • @yzwoody
    @yzwoody Před 4 lety +22

    Why can’t it just be effortless. Choose each other every day. Choose to try. Games like this are exhausting

  • @Arivera41682
    @Arivera41682 Před 4 lety

    This is my favorite vid of all. You two are my favorite ladies of relationships.

  • @richardalexander5758
    @richardalexander5758 Před 4 lety

    Better explained here than other videos and books on the subject. Thanks.

  • @shawnandrews923
    @shawnandrews923 Před 4 lety +5

    So my biggest take aways from this are that I need to value myself a great deal more than I do. I (very eagerly) lose myself in a partner. This drives them insane either quickly or over time. To put myself first, to know who I am and follow those interests. I don't have ambitions goals or dreams that I'm aware of now.
    The second one, and this is hugely important. I need to learn to pace myself. To take the space for me and to drop the idea that I need to be there for them

  • @wayneburgundy5628
    @wayneburgundy5628 Před 5 lety +19

    Before I went to prison I thought I was confident enough but I found true confidence in me when I was in because I learned to survive although I don't recommend going to prison,I did found true confidence.

  • @kimohno4671
    @kimohno4671 Před 5 lety +2

    This is really good thanks apollonia 😊

  • @dedrickpatterson9
    @dedrickpatterson9 Před 4 lety

    I needed this video\advice.. 👍 Feels good to have women acknowledge the fact that they are attracted to guys that put themselves and goals first before them.. Which eliminates the neediness for her..

  • @joelp77440
    @joelp77440 Před 4 lety +7

    "Find women volunteering, church and other quality places" Great advice for under 30, for over 40, great women are at these places, with their wedding rings.

  • @theb166-er3
    @theb166-er3 Před 4 lety +15

    I'm married... Guys, it is easy... if you care too much about what they say, they either leave you or they abuse you! The sooner you see them pulling away, the better because you can start to give a shit! :D Good luck

  • @marcosalonzo370
    @marcosalonzo370 Před 4 lety +1

    Two of the best coaches! Many thanks!

  • @jamesprentice8978
    @jamesprentice8978 Před 3 lety

    Great video girls, thank you. First time I've seen your posts. Your insight and detail forced me to hit the like button (👍🏻) and subscribe to your channel...

  • @serpico7308
    @serpico7308 Před 5 lety +3

    Apollonia and Natalie: A GIANT THANK YOU!
    Wonderful video!

  • @KAYDENCODM
    @KAYDENCODM Před 5 lety +7

    Thank you Apollonia & Natalie😊

  • @lakshadweep-LiveBetweenDweeps

    Thank you so much for this creative video...😍
    Natalle...visiting you now see you out there 🤗

  • @arturoz9295
    @arturoz9295 Před 5 lety +1

    Loved this video very informative 👍

  • @ryanbarker3978
    @ryanbarker3978 Před 3 lety +16

    Interesting insight. I'd encourage both of you to look into attachment theory; specifically attachment styles. A lot of advice in this video feels like it is given through the lens of a relationship between an anxious male dating an avoidant female.
    This certainly makes sense because these two attachment styles naturally attract to each other, and this is one of the most discussed relationship dynamics on the Internet. This is also where you'll see the most games and push/pull happening. However, the unfortunate news is these relationships are flawed on a fundamental level and do not succeed without mutual effort from both partners to become more secure individuals.
    The advice surrounding boundaries in this video is good in the long term, but the expectation that you will discover all of someone's boundaries on the first few dates is unrealistic. It's incredibly insecure to interrogate someone for fit, and nothing kills attraction faster in a secure person than someone else displaying insecure tendencies. I do however 100% agree with the idea of not getting attached to titles and taking your time to get to know someone.
    In general, secure people will only attract and date secure people. Anxious and avoidant people may try to date secure people but they will repel them. Anxious people attract avoidant people and avoidant people attract anxious people. Fearful people (who are basically simultaneously anxious and avoidant) will either attract the opposite of their most common component or other fearful people.
    Anxious, Avoidant, and Fearful relationship dynamics are where nearly all of the Internet horror stories regarding relationships ending poorly come from. Relationships that end between two secure people tend to end in much quieter, healthier, and common ways with two parties agreeing they aren't compatible with each other whilst appreciating the time they spent with one another. People with this outlook tend to be happy, fulfilled with their lifestyles, and have a strong sense of identity, which is why they aren't as loud.
    It's very possible for someone to travel through multiple attachment styles at different points in their lives and for a person's attachment style to be influenced by their environment.

  • @bryantvazquez797
    @bryantvazquez797 Před 5 lety +3

    Thank you for sharing this video it gives me the confidence and understanding that I'm doing the right thing by pacing myself with this special girl that I meant

  • @djalfredstein1049
    @djalfredstein1049 Před 5 lety

    I’ve been dying to see you two do a video together.This is like Avengers when they all meet at once!! Keep it you both make differences in people lives.

  • @nuevopurpleplanttissuecult7128

    great video. Thank you for the insight!

  • @leolyons9121
    @leolyons9121 Před 4 lety +7

    everything was great and she told me she loves me in a very special way, but 1 week later she ended the relationship because she was scared and said she needed to work on herself. What kind of crap is that. Spun my head for sure. Leo

    • @taylorsampson5434
      @taylorsampson5434 Před 4 lety +1

      Leo Lyons self destructive and dumb. Just give her the “well, if you change your mind, just give me a call ;)” response, and date other women and wait for her to call lol

    • @JeffersonRah
      @JeffersonRah Před měsícem

      Felt that. I was in a somewhat similar situation. I know this comment was 4 years ago but I recently stopped taking to a woman that was pulling away. Everything was going smooth and great until she needed space. In the end, men truly need to prioritize themselves, and everything else before a woman.

  • @Owondr
    @Owondr Před 5 lety +19

    Narcissists are attracted to themselves, buyer beware

  • @Mercylargo-rk3jj
    @Mercylargo-rk3jj Před 2 lety

    This is one of the best life coaching podcast I ever seen on CZcams

  • @Justin-or5xe
    @Justin-or5xe Před 5 lety

    Wow you and Natalie are two high quality women are helping men and women have wonderful relationships.

  • @stevekimbrough6366
    @stevekimbrough6366 Před 4 lety +2

    If you treat a woman with respect and she still pulls away, you done your job . The best thing to do is move on therefore it wasn't meant to be. I would rather let go than to he hurt in the long run.

  • @davidev1395
    @davidev1395 Před 5 lety +5

    Thank you girls

  • @humblebeats3391
    @humblebeats3391 Před 2 lety

    Thank you ladies. This helped so much...

  • @willharper8346
    @willharper8346 Před 4 lety +1

    You two should do this more often! Thank you ladies!

  • @notasolution
    @notasolution Před 4 lety +9

    I was the most confident I’ve ever been going into my last relationship. Over the year and a half relationship with her, of her beating me down and calling me stupid, not mature, non understanding, fat, mentally ill, not good enough etc, she destroyed me and my confidence. I was confident, but she battered me on a daily basis and it broke me, and all I wanted to do was continue to try and be better and nothing was ever enough, and once I was destroyed and had 0 confidence, she dumped on the curb cold and dry, called the cops on me and told them I was mentally unstable and concerned for my health and tried to put me in a hospital. I was fine, ruled but the medical examiner, she just abused me to the point of severe depression. Working on rebuilding now. But I just don’t know what you’re supposed to do when you are confident, but no matter what you do, it’s never good enough and you’re always a problem. That kills it. Especially when you love her and try so hard to be everything she could want. A year and a half and she never told me she loved me once. But after about 6 months, I still loved her. Cold hearted woman hurt. Can bring a confident man into a ball of confusion just out of personal entertainment, and when they succeed, they just dump you like you were never even there

    • @YiishikiMore
      @YiishikiMore Před 3 lety +5

      Love you man

    • @starboy5888
      @starboy5888 Před 3 lety +2

      I feel your pain bro. I been through a very similar experience like you and it really does cause collateral damage to our self esteem/confidence. It took me over two years to rebuild my confidence from rock bottom but I’ve mentally checked out because it’s no longer worth the heartache. I’ve had to become stoic and learn to be happy as a single man. Deep down, I know my time to go from earth will be soon and I will be alone in my grave. So until that day comes, I want to value my peace of mind

    • @Strimlarn87
      @Strimlarn87 Před 3 lety

      That's called a narcissist..

    • @joncarbone
      @joncarbone Před 2 lety

      Stand up for yourself the very first time you are disrespected. Put a hard foot down. If not a women (or anybody for that matter) will respect you.

  • @Owondr
    @Owondr Před 5 lety +27

    Again, I must disagree with the naive notion that the answer to stop attracting toxic women is based on external factors. Toxic people are everywhere. To stop attracting them, you must work on whatever inside you is attracting them.

    • @thomasplacentia5201
      @thomasplacentia5201 Před 3 lety

      truth

    • @the20yearoldify
      @the20yearoldify Před 2 lety

      Facts 💯

    • @JT-gm4fk
      @JT-gm4fk Před 2 lety +2

      Thats not always true, toxic people are attracted to good, strong hearted and successful people . It brings them things they do not have...that doesn't mean you change that about yourself.

  • @jetBlues0000
    @jetBlues0000 Před 4 lety

    I really like this video both of you ladies are on point. And I think many men will benefit from this. Keep it up!

  • @brago1997
    @brago1997 Před 4 lety

    im taking these tips to better myself in general not just bettering myself for women. thanks so much!

  • @rays8277
    @rays8277 Před 3 lety +3

    I feel they were all over the place in this video. I’ve been marred and had a 3 year relationship afterwards, now I’m single. I’m actually happy being single. Women nowadays have this entitlement and feel they don’t have to do a damn thing in the relationship and they are the “prize”, it’s freakin exhausting. Can’t be an old fashioned gentleman anymore because woman don’t appreciate it or they take it for granted. I noticed once I was gone they won’t leave me alone.

  • @bnwo
    @bnwo Před 5 lety +3

    Great conversation.

  • @kyleburtka6163
    @kyleburtka6163 Před 5 lety

    🙌🙌🙌 standards are of most importance. Love your messages. Keep up the awesome work. 🙂

  • @jjlat2683
    @jjlat2683 Před 2 měsíci

    Thanks for coaching us

  • @NeoSoulCrew
    @NeoSoulCrew Před 4 lety +10

    Ignore the hormones guys and live for yourself. The women will come naturally.

  • @cosmopolitanbay9508
    @cosmopolitanbay9508 Před 4 lety +60

    Bottom line is, treat them always as a second or third option and the undeserving spoilt brats that they are.

  • @stephaniereggler9365
    @stephaniereggler9365 Před 3 lety +1

    great advice I watched to the end.

  • @damonjoseph1825
    @damonjoseph1825 Před 4 lety

    Great video alot of wisdom in this video.

  • @ZincMX
    @ZincMX Před 4 lety +7

    Thank you, Natalie and Apollonia, this is amazing content. This really gets into the roots of personal psychology and developement

  • @philadams9254
    @philadams9254 Před 5 lety +5

    14:57 - Just watch this bit! It's so mindblowing. I can't stop listening.

  • @fabiohani1
    @fabiohani1 Před 4 lety

    Great I really enjoyed the video... as knowing your values and taking it slowly to know what you really want... Thank you

  • @josephgarcia2089
    @josephgarcia2089 Před 3 lety

    Very good info and transparency. Thank you ladies