Gen Z Is Entering Its 'Quarter-Life Crisis' and It's Getting Weird...
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 27. 05. 2024
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Hey Rummates, today we're here to talk about Gen Z entering it's quarter-life crisis. It's getting real spooky so let's talk about it!
Timestamps:
0:00 intro
1:58 what is the quarter-life crisis
5:05 why is genz having one
8:44 a note on comparison & jealousy
9:55 money & jobs
13:31 relationships
15:55 lifestyle
16:52 we are unreal
18:44 how to deal with the quarter-life crisis
#imurgency #commentary #genz #millennials
Bold of you to assume that I'll live the rest of the three-quarters.
As the classic meme says, âbecause there is no way to know what the mid-point of my life is, Iâve decided to have an ongoing crisisâ
@@uniraffesaur lol
@@uniraffesaurrealist thing I heard đâđż
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Older generations are very dismissive of us and take for granted the things they had. Economic stability (the biggest one being the ability to afford housing), marriage being universally valued, no social media, a degree holding weight.
Their responses are always like "youll find yourself soon âšđ" like our problems are just in our heads when there are tangible problems that are suppressing us and our growth.
the older generation still stuck in their head its like what it is back then and refuse to look deeper bc that means they would have to challenge their own thinking and they rather feel better about themselves by pointing out whats wrong with the youth just like their grandparents did
They simply just do not care. Why is it so hard for you softies to understand that in this era, the people you look up too, just donât gaf about you? Accept reality for what it is.
Not that the problems are âjust in your headâ but more of a, obviously you havenât figured it out yet. Youâre 23 years old. While youâre an adult, itâs hard to really conceptualize how YOUNG that is until youâre on the other side of it.
As a millennial I can't remember a time there was economic stability maybe before we got into the job market but everything has been going downhill since we became adults into the job market a pandemic plus economic downturn wars
@@Aeunax123 I cannot think of a more condescending response
Wages not keeping up with inflation and degree value deflating has nothing to do with "finding yourself âšđ€©"
You just proved my point
Iâm 24 and DEEP in the throughs of my quarter life crisis rn. I have a bachelorâs and Iâm still struggling to find a job, I canât pay for my own stuff cuz I have no money. Iâve held multiple jobs so I have a good resume. I did an internship last year and realized the company wasnât for me and canât find a job since I left. Itâs ROUGH. This video definitely found me at the right time.
It doesnât help that inflation is crazy, the job market is crazy, the cost of housing is nearly unattainable, the Earth is actively dying before our eyes, and Iâm terrified of a third world war. Couple that with social media and seeing people your age thrive feeling inadequate. I literally feel so lost and depressed right now.
I'll be 24 next month yet still working on my bachelors I started almost 6 years ago, simply because I took time off for my mental health. Been more than 2 years of fits of burnout and envying those born even ten years earlier who at least were ahead of us by far for job experiences even if they also now realize they hate it. I feel your struggles....I want to get started with work experience, internships, whatever I could possibly try. Even with the experience we have, it proves to not be enough....wages don't meet the standards of actually living in comfort. I don't know how long until I just give up and settle for the controlling environment that I want to leave.....it exists wherever I go, other than in my own space...all alone. But the only thing we can do is help each other out, at least know you are not alone in facing this monster we call the world.
I'm 25, Gen Z, same struggled a lot to get into a tech career at 22, at 23 I finally got into tech then did it for 6 months but got burnt out & begin questioning everything in life, endless people steering you or praising you about one thing in the world & you get your identity tied to it, so when you leave it all entirely for no good reason the hate & disdain, the inner critical voice attacking yourself & judging yourself even if no one else is saying anything can feel lethal. Had quarter life crisis 23 to 24, hit absolute rock bottle mentally & emotionally, lost the love of my life to another man, distanced myself from all my friends who seemed content & happy with their high paying tech jobs, went through some suicidal ideation & got stuck in ruts of escapism through endless unhealthy coping mechanisms, went through some spiritual awakenings, found my inner child & discovered all the deeper parts of myself that have been repressed or buried, discovered all my childhood trauma & inner parts of myself through deep introspection & journaling, deleted all social media & connected to nature instead, found God within my own soul & heart, suddenly everything that's happened in my past life made perfect sense, gained endless inner peace, bliss, fulfillment, started reading the Bible for the first time looking at it like it was something other worldly & visiting Churches.
Going to the darkest parts of your life, being alone or feeling lonely & isolated even if you're surrounded by friends, family, loved ones, coworkers... although it seems like everything is the end and bleak, it always gets darkest before the dawn, if you push through & allow the old you to die to recreate yourself into what you truly are, what you truly should be... in reality it truly is just the beginning, after no longer being a slave to doing what I thought or felt I had to do instead of what my heart felt drawn to I worked in different industries & travelled the real world more. The truth is eventually all of Gen Z should realize they should just work on whatever they're passionate about, as most entry level jobs pay really little & aren't really worth it anyway, there was a lot of parental pressure I had from my immigrant parents at 4 to 17 and at 18 - 22 when they were always praising me or telling all their friends about how their kid is doing all this stuff in computer science, endless toxic comparisons & other psychological abuse tactics for conditioning.
I didn't feel emotionally matured & fully comfortable in my own body until 24, I didn't begin to know or understand myself that deeply until spending a whole year going through the inner journey at 23, ignoring all the endless pressures from every source to do a certain thing in life or go a certain place, its like I took a gap year for myself, and when you truly know yourself it becomes infinitely easier to know & understand other human beings, to see & empathize with their struggles or journey in life, to see what level they're at spiritually & how you can contribute to their inner growth. When you know yourself, your deeper purpose becomes a lot more clear, that clarity in knowing your purpose & vision for life gives more freedom & cures that feeling of being discontent, like you're no longer a ship adrift in the ocean of this universe just going whatever direction the wind blows, you now have control & know where you want to take your ship yourself regardless of the endless forces of nature (external influencers) trying to dictate where you ship goes.
You don't have to do anything or be anywhere in life except where you are. When you gain genuine sincere true contentment through spirituality, that's when you gain the entire world yet you may not know it yet until the epiphany hits after experiencing it for a while. You do not need x or y or z, you don't need that girlfriend or boyfriend or husband or wife for the deeper bliss you're searching for, you already have yourself & God's agape love, that's more than enough, all the envy or lust or pride (ego self and being better/having more than other human beings) that social media, media, the society & our capitalistic clown world we live in reveal itself to be pointless/meaningless, empty & spiritually fruitless things... so you can toss aside all the envy whenever it occurs, not be ruled by the egoist self or pride.
Ignore social media, you don't need to have some luxury lifestyle or have some perfect marriage or wedding by 25, or have kids already, or have your first house etc, in reality without generational wealth or a lot of health from others literally less than 1% of people even got all of that in our generation already.
According to some statistics, Gen Z does side hustle more than any other generation in America ever.
And the kicker, even if people have all this material stuff that you think makes them happy... if you look beyond the surface level they may be struggling with endless inner demons you have no idea about, they may be very unhappy & unsatisfied/unfulfilled in reality.
The truth in this world, I won't talk about God or Christ or preach to people, all I'll say is the spiritual side of humanity is very important, its the most important aspect of humanity whether you believe in God or religions aside, without spiritual wealth, abundance, and freedom all the material stuff you get in this life can feel empty, fruitless, meaningless, pointless.
But if you connect deeply to the spiritual, you can have nothing and have infinite more internal treasures, wealth, happiness, joyfulness, inner peace, bliss, fulfillment than the wealthiest young people on this planet have.
When you combine this with living true to yourself & working on what you like, everything in life seems like a beautiful blessing instead of an awful curse, its all based on perspective & how your inner state of being is.
I think the lack of social connection & third spaces, places to just be without some expectation to buy something or do something in America contributes to this as well... I hope this can help some soul or make them feel less alone, I often just went inside bookstores to just chill & explore talk to strangers or read interesting books, just feeling like I could be there silently & quietly enjoying being out in public without some expectations from others was freeing.
Not being able to pay for yourself is the biggest thingâŠespecially when I think of how our parents generation already moved out and got married around our age. Inflation is crazy
24 here too , feel the same hold on buddy.
same, doing a 2nd bachelors degree while i try to find a job so i'm not "doing nothing" and improving my skillset, it's also frustrating when you see people outperform you because of personal connections who are less "talented"
quarter life crisis and loneliness epidemic combo hitting us hard
nope just weak minded kids
Yeah idk how much more I can take this shit no friends at all no good family stuck lost depressed itâs so BS
More the reason why people need to be willing to change things instead of making excuses and stay in bubbles but that won't happen because excuses override everything
Also the economic pressures where most of us cant afford basic bills and canât go to school due to time restrictions or not being able to pay for it in general
Cope
Iâm a 31 years old millennial. To any Gen-Z who feel stuck in life, everything is going to be okay. It might not feel like it, but it will. Trust me.
I spent my entire early to mid 20s chasing a career that I ended up quitting at age 28 because it was simply not working for me. I did not know this at the time, but it ended up being the best thing that has ever happened to me.
Itâs scary becoming an adult, especially when you see your peers or strangers on the internet who seem to have it all.
But everyone is on their own timeline and I had to be okay with that in order to move forward in my own journey. And even though I didnât know where life was going to take me, I allowed myself to just let go of the fear and embrace the changes that was happening in my life. Iâm still on that path, but it isnât as scary anymore. Yes I have some bad days, especially since Iâm an sensitive person. But thatâs life, you know?
Treat yourself with love and kindness, as you were to view yourself as a child. Incorporate mindfulness practices, like breathing exercises, if you feel overwhelmed and need the extra support. Do what you can to regulate your nervous system to find clarity in what you want for your life. Stop comparing yourself to others and work on being the best damn adult you can be! take it one step at a time. Do you know how powerful yâall can be by age 30?!?? & 30 isnât even old, youâll understand what I mean when you get there. You guys are lucky to live in an age where we have so much FREE resources at your fingertips at your age. Take advantage of that. And most importantly, be kind to yourself during this period. Your world is changing from childhood to adulthood, this feeling wonât last forever. You are NOT behind, you are on track. You got this. â€ïžâ€ïžâ€ïžâ€ïž
Thnx! I really needed this message :)
this really helped me alot! thank you very much for commenting/sharing your views. i appreciate it more than you know! good luck with wherever your life takes you next!! đ©·đ«¶đ»
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Iâm also 31 and went through this⊠I worked 2 and a half years after law school as a staff attorney and then got laid off during the pandemic when I attended to a family emergency where my sister in law passed away at 38. THIRTY EIGHT. It really gets you thinking about how you want to live the rest of your life and how much time you have left.
I questioned - why give my soul to an entity which doesnât care about me or my family? Iâm recovering from EBV due to chronic stress (age 28-31!) which just SUCKS. I never figured I would be challenged with a health condition so young. I decided to self-publish novels which was my childhood dream (crescent crown saga) and I do some digital marketing consulting on the side and sell insurance on the weekend to pay the bills. Thankfully my husband works full time and can get overtime. I had to come to terms with âdisappointingâ my parents/family and societyâs expectations.
I thought I wanted a certain lifestyle, but we must face our current reality so we can work toward our own dreams. My husband and I moved out of the city to buy a small house in a small town - commute in to work. We actually prefer the peace of the countryside to the expense and bustling city. When I was younger I thought Iâd be somewhere different than I am and acceptance of who you are right now is an important step. I think Iâm happier choosing a slow lifestyle in a lower cost of living area and define THAT as successful instead of living in a luxury apartment in a big city with a stressful job. Unplugging from social media helps a lot!
Define your own success and love yourself well đ
Thank you â€â€â€
I was a "scholarship kid" from age 8, often the only poor kid at rich kid schools. Constant pressure to make my family/community proud. Always feel like a failure bc I'm not a doctor or a lawyer. Highly recommend Anthony Jack's "The Privileged Poor" on this exact phenomenon. Holy sht this video was validating.
â€â€â€â€amen
Kiss kiss fall in love
The most successful people in the world aren't usually Doctors or lawyers
Can totally relate, I didn't go to prestigious private schools, but went to higher quality highschools in my district and the pressure was on for me to succeed so I don't let my family down with the opportunity the US gives me vs our home country. It's hard to let go, but you gotta at least learn to not hurt yourself too much because it'll be harder to support those dreams being sick and stressed.
Same
I think thereâs something to say about the people (like me) who were 21 in the beginning of the pandemic and now in 2024 are 25. We missed out on all of the âlow stakesâ âfunâ early 20âs experience where itâs socially acceptable to still be goofy and hang with your friends. Now being 25, I feel like there are different societal expectations. âHalfway through your 20âsâ is a phrase that definitely triggers quarter life crisis thoughts. Though I feel like itâs made worse when you miss out on the earlier half. The âfunâ half.
Im 34 I can tell you with hindsight those 'fun' times were actually more like destructive times that I wasted time on that I can never get back.. Who cares about social expectations if you live your life worrying about what others expect of you your doing it wrong. Working on yourself to make it easier when your getting older is where it's at.. Because the real fun can start when your older not younger. Your youth is for you to have that energy to make your later life easier not partying or having fun
@@aaronrodgers9202 so true! Thank you for sharing
we were misguided since birth and these educational systems as well.. biologically we will never change, we just exist within a corrupt government who wants us to be workers and not thinkers. we were supposed to use our twenties to have it easy later. its like we were subconsciously taught that time will always be here. so now humans become jaded and the tenacity fades.
I feel like 3 years of my life just vanished
I 100% agree, you canât waste time in your early 20s, they are probably your most progressive years and if you waste them on âfunâ you end up paying for it for the rest of your life.
Hi Gen Z! I'm 32, and survived my quarter life crisis. Here's my advice.
1.) I wholeheartedly agree that it's SUPER important to discover and do things you enjoy. Develop hobbies, lean into your passions - but please, for the love of everything, please don't try to make money from it. Or at least, don't try to make it your entire living. I made the mistake of pursuing art as my full-time career in my 20s, and it ruined me. I think in our late capitalist hellscape, the best thing you can do for your self esteem is to hold your most favorite activities sacred by keeping them as far away from money as possible.
2.) Speaking of self-esteem: if you want it, you need to do esteemable things. This means putting in real work to get to know yourself and your values, and then figuring out ways to live out your values on a daily basis. For example, I value generosity... But I'm not rich. So I've figured out ways to practice generosity with what I have right now. Instead of donating to a charity, I might volunteer for them. Instead of giving money to a homeless person, I might help a friend move. The point is, you need to do a lot of introspection to figure out what are YOUR values vs. SOCIETY'S values... And then live accordingly.
3.) I think it's important that, with your career, you find the sweet spot between what you're naturally good at, what the world needs, what people are willing to pay for, and what is tolerable for you to do on a daily basis (both in terms of the work itself, as well as the work environment and work hours). Research "ikigai" to learn more about this. It will take a lot of trial and error for many of us - it certainly did for me. But now I'm looking at going to grad school in my mid-30s to make a big career pivot that I'm excited about. Am I "behind" according to society? Sure. But I don't give a shit, because I needed to take my very winding path to get to where I am now. Mid-30s is still young, it's still plenty of time to make a difference and reach my financial goals before I retire.
4.) You need to learn how to separate your self-worth from your achievements (or perhaps lack thereof). Think about a small child in your life, or your pet. Are they priceless to you? Do they bring a ton of value to your life by just being in it? Probably. They don't have to *do* anything to be worthy of love - and neither do you. Your inherent value is infinite; what you do or don't do has no relevance to whether or not you deserve to be here. A small change that's helped me a lot with this talking about what I do differently. I'm not a sales associate - I work in sales. I'm not a gamer - I play video games. I'm not an artist - I make art. Separating my ego from my activities like this helps my brain put less stock in my performance in these areas.
5.) That being said, this doesn't mean it's not worthwhile to pursue any achievements or goals. It means you need to change your mindset to them. Instead of approaching goals with the mindset of "I need to win, or else I'm worthless" or "once I reach this goal, then I'll finally be happy," I suggest thinking of goals like a game. Focus on the challenge and the fun of whatever you're pursuing. Having a goal to aim for gives you some structure, and helps you make decisions in your daily life on the way to that goal - but that's it. Whether or not you achieve it means absolutely nothing about you as a person. Try to have an experimental mindset about it. "My hypothesis is that if I do XYZ for 4 months, then I'll be able to reach my goal." If you do it, awesome! If you don't, also awesome! You have better data to help you set goals in the future.
6.) You are what you consume. And I don't just mean that about food - I mean the media you consume too. If you're feeling behind in life because you're following a bunch of influencers who are younger than you, with more money than you can even fathom? Fking UNFOLLOW THEM. Observe how your algorithm makes you feel, and then retrain it. Follow people who are older than you. Follow people who spread positivity and nuance rather than ragebait and luxury p*rn. We're all brainwashed by social media, so you might as well take some control over WHAT you're brainwashed with.
7.) Go to therapy. You need it. We all need it. No shame in it.
Thank you, i am 20 and I am currently going through my quarter life crisis and I feel extremely terrified, stuck and alone. I feel like I am failing in life. Your advice is good advice and made me feel better â€ïžâđ©č
I am pursuing art and regretting it, what pivot did you make?
I agree with everything except for number 7, that was uncessessary and certainly not helpful.
â@@yapiibeetake another career so first start with hobby related to your career that makes yoi work and start from there.
Well said đ€
as a 21 yr old who had to take a break from college as a junior in order to escape from my abusive parents, iâve been feeling really bad recently. seeing people in college and/or having successful careers makes me feel like such a loser. i left my home state as well and all of this is just making me feel so empty and worthless. this video made me feel a little better, im hoping i get out of this slump soon :/
I literally been going through the same thing. Nice to know theres solidarity in knowing someone else out there knows what youâre going through
Escaping from your abusive family situation is legitimately one of the most badass things you could do at 21. Youâre absolutely not a loser and youâre not behind. Hell Iâm a few years older than you and I only just finished school, and I donât even know when my careerâs going to take off since the job market is⊠what it is rn. I hope you feel better soon since even with what little youâve shared it sounds like you have a lot to be proud of
Hey babe- 27 year old here. Went thru the exact same thing when I was your age. All of my peers were living their college life while I was making a living for myself, on my own, with nobody to show me the ropes to adulting except the other adults in my life. It was hard, but so so necessary. My healing began when I made that decision. You might not see it now, but one day your older self will thank you for doing it. It DOES get better. You are stronger than you think. â€ïžâđ©č
@@e1221what field are you in
@@mackixuhow are you now
The WAY I WAS CALLED OUT đđ âengaged by 23 and married by 25 and living my best lifeâŠâ PLEASE đ
I know someone who was Married and a Doctor by 25
Wild
My parents met at 19 and got married at 22 đ
And now I'm 22, broke and single
â@@gianttigerfilms if I had to guess, I'd say this person's Wikipedia page has their parents name written blue
@@matheussanthiago9685 nah she's in a ton of Debt, he husband though. Financial planner, she's gonna be fine
@@ashleyjp0117donât worry. Iâm 27 and in the same boat. Not for lack of trying to do better of course. But donât be too hard on yourself.
I'm 20, turning 21 in a month. Life gets so depressing and confusing. I look like a child and get treated as a child, yet I am expected to look and act differently because I am "aging", and suddenly gain all the knowledge I've never had. I had a different life and opportunities, yet I see all these successful young musicians, actors and models on TV who are my age or younger. I've never been in relationships and I can't trust people, yet I see strangers online shaming people right after school for not having romantic or sexual experiences and labelling 25 year old women "too old". I work, yet I feel like a loser. I live with my mother because I can't afford my own apartment. I don't have any career ideas. I don't want to draw and dream anymore. I've never had any parties and friend groups like in the movies. Everything that makes me a bit happier is seen as "childish". Every step I make feels like a mistake. I am tired.
Youâre right on time. Iâm a 31 year old woman and donât let anyone fearmonger you. Lemme give you some big sister advice.
Define your own successful life. And only compare yourself to past you, if you must compare at all. I even felt bad bc Iâm recovering from EBV due to chronic stress and wondering damn I was so sharp and the last few years have been so hard. But I know Iâm stronger now than I ever was before. More resilient. You get to decide your next move. Donât let anyway shame you for what you feel inside is the right path for you!
â€I couldn't relate more.. same, same. I feel like I missed out on so many things in my teens and childhood, and now missing out on adult stuff.
@@schuylergeery-zink1923 Thank you! I need more confidence.
give ur burdens to Jesus and he will give you rest
@@UTubeTrollPolice298pls stop
I'm 23 and have been crying all day because i dropped out in the last college year, im mentally ill, struggling to find a decent job, never been in an actual relationship, and the distance between my old friends and me keeps growing with every day (im so ashamed of myself i dont want to reach out anymore). I really want to experience just something in my life. Just anything. I miss 2018-2019, wasnt it the last hopeful times we knew? I dont know why it takes so much willpower not to kill myself. I dont like my city or my whole country, yet it's hard to leave. I just want to change it all, i can't take it anymore. Thanks for hearing me out, and take care of yourself. Isolation makes you feel sick, remember that. In a way, you're not that alone.
Just want to tell you that you're not alone with this feeling â„ I'm your age and I have similar emotions and issues. I wasn't even able to start a further education after dropping out of school with 17 because of my serious mental health (and physical) issues. It sucks when you look at your friends going to university in different countries, making new friends while you're still at the same place. It feels like your old life gets ripped away from you and it hurts. I'm also very frustrated, sad and anxious about the future and how I'm not one step further than a few years ago. Some day we'll also be okay - or even more than okay, happy hopefully. So hang on! :)
Youâre not alone and you got thisâ€
Youâre not alone and I feel tbh same way. I donât have any relationships or friends due to isolation and being sheltered. I feel the same way sometimes but we got this, youâre not alone †wish you the best fr
I hear you. I'm 24 and I've felt like my late teens were the better years of my life. My childhood friends are far away. I haven't been in a relationship since highschool and I'm still living with my parents while still working graveyard and overtime. However, I do hope our generation can do even better in years from now. And most importantly even if things seem bleak don't give up. I also wanted to give up but then realized that I'd be doing myself a disservice by not living to see what the best version of myself can be. I hope this helps
I lived with my parents until I was 29 because I studied. I then got my own apartment and has a full time job. I am 30 years old but 30 does not feel old at all. We all have our own timeline, u still got time. Donât you worry â€ïžâ€ïžâ€ïž
As a 29 yr old millenial Iâm still going through it. I do have some tips to share that have helped me ground myself:
1. Cut down on social media - I only use Instagram to follow my friends and CZcams for fun & educational content. I stay AWAY from TikTok because itâs a toxic pit.
2. I talk a lot to older people (and by older I mean 50+) because they have a much more realistic view on life and have already made and learned from the mistakes that Iâm yet to make.
3. I am very mindful about comparing myself to others. I still do it (as you said, itâs an instinct) but I try to focus on being happy for others and getting inspired by them instead of giving in to blind jealousy.
Hope these help you too. :)
Thatâs exactly what Iâve been doing too! The lack of social media helps ALLOT. I ditched instagram and Facebook in 2020 during the elections because I realized how stupid everyone behaved on the internet during that year. I would say cutting out social media is a PRO tipâŠespecially for THIS year. It made my life so much happier. I just focused on CZcams and learning how to make any apartment or house I moved into, into a home. CZcams helped allot with that.
60+ is even better...
They're some who are 90+ and still strong
100%
Thatâs what Iâve been doing as well during my mid to late 20s . Iâm felling more at peace with my life and feeling confident about myself again †we are not alone
Thank you for not dismissing my generation as out of touch "Boomers". Not all of us achieved the dreams we had about where we'd be by now when we were your age. You learn to accept the bumps, bruises and obstacles and adjust as you grow if you're smart. I'm not the lawyer, singer or writer that I dreamed I'd be at different stages of my life but you know what? O'm very happy with my life at 62.
My life goals were detoured not only by my disability but an unexpected pregnancy at 21. All of a sudden my dreams took a back seat to making sure my twins were provided for and ensuring that *they* were the best people they could be. I worked minimum wage jobs until I finally got my paralegal certification in my 30's. In my 40's my disability got worse and I had to stop working.
The only reason I own my own home is because my parents worked hard for it and left it to me. However you know what I do have? 2 wonderful children, 3 fantastic grandchildren and numerous younger relatives that I love more than life. Do I regret some of my choices in life in hindsight? Yes and no. Yes because I *could* have had the dreams of my youth. No because if I hadn't made those choices then might *not* have all of the happiness and joy in my life that I have now with my family.
I hope all of you find that same joy and happiness in whatever you do or wherever you end up in your life...even if it ends up not being what you want at this point in life.
As far as the job market goes too... I'm 33. Nowadays they want you to have a crazy insane amount of skills, many many years of experience for what used to be entry level positions. Even trying to find a basic receptionist job is impossible. Job posters are looking for slaves, not employees
Im 23, i have my mba and i have internship experience with inside sales. I did a five year mba program and I graduated in may. All ive been trying to do is find a job in my field which is marketing. It has been virtually impossible. Ive recently started applying for more receptionist and executive assistant roles. Although, people have been reaching out to me wanting to interview me for executive assistant roles I am not at all excited.
I am tired of recruiters. I am tired of bs interviews. I am tired of ghost jobs. I just want to start my life.
This exactly. I'm in my 30s too and I'll probably end up going back to school this or next year. The most challenging part of life so far has been just finding a rewarding job and having income that would allow me to buy a small apartment
@@savannahran555 You should have gone for a field that's desperate for workers. Healthcare, Blue collar and STEM fields (Mainly Healthcare) are the only thing worth going to school for. Marketing, Communications, business administration, arts etc... are all useless oversaturated fields that don't have $120k+ earning potential
@@Wholefoods6671 I agree. Ive always considered trade school for plumbing. Going to college and especially right after high school it is hard to know what major to pick. I am passionate about business, so that is what I went to school for. I guess you can say these fields are oversaturated, but not really. Your degree does not always dictate your career path. Every business needs marketing even healthcare. Yes, a business degree does have $120k+ earning potential.
Yeah, I noticed that too. Thats why I started my own businesses, plural. You should do the same!
i'm in my 30s and i still feel behind in a lot of ways. lost my late teens, early 20s to an abusive relationship. went back to college at 24 and graduated around 27. then lockdown happened. i lost a lot of family, and my mental health really took a hit. now i'm in my 30s and i work part time but...this isn't where i wanted to be at this stage. i thought i'd be married, have kids, a house, etc. and i'm not trying to complain because i really am so, so blessed and happy with my life, but it does effect you sometimes, seeing where others are especially on social media etc. and you just feel kind of out of place.
Guy above is tweaking. U go girlđ
I've been consoling my friends through similar hardships. Social media really is the worst, but it's just a vessel for the real awful stuff, social comparisons. As a society we want to only show off the best, but the reality is that even behind our success stories of 'how to be' there's always a nasty snarl of complications beneath the surface. The best thing you can do is find yourself. It genuinely doesn't matter where you're 'supposed' to be, there's no winning that fight. What you can win is being your best self.
@@Frosthowl93 thank you so, so much. i really needed to hear this tonight and i appreciate it more than i can say. thank you
I'm a Nigerian living in England and the quarter life crisis is CRISISING!!!
best to you!! x
Oh dear I am so sorry babe you are feeling this way. I hope you find some inner peace in your life or peace of mind.
But with the current state of the world, it will be too difficult.
Millennials and Gen Z got the short end of the stick with jobs. 2008 with the recession. Then 2020 with the pandemic. But gen z is worse off job wise than millennials tbh. At least when I graduated I cost of living wasnât insane. Iâm in my 30s making the most $$ of my life and with inflation and the current economy I feel like Iâm still drowning. So I donât understand how gen z is doing plus yâall are more aware not to be scammed by student loans and the American Dream. Millennials were the last generation to still buy into despite graduating high school or college during a recession. I think thatâs the only positive. Yâall move differently with college and what youâll put up with at work
Lets not forget 9/11 that happened either right before we were born or when we were very young
Gen Z is not worse off. In 2009 unemployment was over 3 times what it is now. You literally could not go to a fast food joint and get a job with a bachelors degree. We need to be able to talk about problems while being honest about them because otherwise, you're discouraging people from trying.
ââ@@1bwash "We need to be honest, because otherwise, you're discouraging people from trying." That is so true, and while the many arguments about the economy are valid, I think that another reason why gen z is struggling is because the media and older generations have made sure that we have absolutely zero hope for the future and ourselves. The "doomer" mindset is a very real problem with gen z, and if everyone around you, even the media, is telling you, "No matter how hard you try, you're never gonna make it." and you are bombarded with bad news and insults towards you or your peers at your fingertips, it can really take a toll on your mental health, hope for the future, and self-confidence. I mean, why would you want to try if you're constantly told that you're doomed to fail and things will always get worse, no matter what? We can point out the problems with our economy, which is part of the problem, but exaggerating just makes people want to give up. The media is really awful for trying to make younger generations feel zero hope for the future. When you have a whole generation of people with no hope for the world and zero confidence in themselves, you have less people trying to make change or try to make their lives better, and that's what the masses want. Giving people false hope is bad, but going to the other extreme is also bad.
â@1bwash "gen z is not worse off"
we cant even get by on 3 jobs
rent is at least 1900
our government is trying to make homelessness illegal and certain states are trying to make having roommates illegal.
most ppl cant even get a bachelors now due to money, and most jobs want you to have a MASTERS for a STARTING position
@@1bwash i disagree its worse
perfect timing. gen-z here at my corporate job wondering wtf am i doing!
Building experience
Don't fck it up!đ
It's hard out here man, it's ruff
@@Window4503But experiences for what?? Iâm 26 and going through my âquarter life crisisâ. My mindset has changed so much and I constantly ask myself, âhow long will I be able to keep up with making money, paying bills, burning out, getting up early to partake in the rate-race??ââŠ.. whereâs the finish line? Is it when we die? Lmfao. What are the point of making experiences? Do we truly work till we die??? Lmfao whatâs the true point?!? đ I donât think humans are meant to live like this or worry about all this man-made nonsenseâŠâŠ itâs like life is â playing pretendâ and humans created all the sh!t weâre âsupposedâ to stress about (money, bills, ect). Iâm overwhelmed.
I was just having this conversation with my friends last week. I'm 25 and going through the quarter life crisis hard rn. the pressures from family and everything not going as planned. I feel embarrassed, confused, and frustrated. but I'm glad my friends are feeling the same way and were helping each other get through it.
Don't be embarrassed as this is out of your control and you are definitely not alone . I'm 55 a gen x individual and I'm struggling to get by myself. I wish you the very best. Stick with those amazing friends of your's and keep supporting each other and being there for one another. Also assuming you all are in the same town rent a place together ,share on the living expenses and know you can have four people in a 2 bedroom. I assume now you can have two people in a studio apartment as I was informed at my last apartment which surprised me actually because back in 2000 when my son was born . I was told I could only have one adult and up to a toddler. 23 years later my apartment lets me know prior to inspection two adults are indeed allowed in a studio so check your local laws on apartment rentals .
I'm 23 and I'm also going through my quarter-life crisis right now. I also feel embarrassed and frustrated because I have not had success with the CPA Exam yet after 2 unsuccessful attempts. I should just be happy for improving my score from the 1st attempt but there are no moral victories with the CPA Exam. Every time I try to study I just have a mental breakdown.
This is so real because I genuinely did not realize how hard it was to get a job, let alone a decent one.
As someone who just turned 25 a week ago, this definitely hits different. Iâm a quarter century old and I feel like my youth is slowly fleeting. đ I live with my parents and 1/3 of the way done with grad school and after thatâs done, that means real world responsibilities like bills, rent, etc. and I am not sure I can handle that all on my own. đđ
oh come on man, enough with that "quarter of a century old" bs lmao that is nothing but a made up term to make people feel old, your only like 6 years away from your teenagers years, I don't see anyone calling 19 year olds "a quarter of a century old" even though 19 and 25 are only like 6 yeas apart
Just turned 25 in October and live with my parents too. I've tried moving out multiple times. I couldn't hack it. I'm taking my time and learning my lessons. I'm starting to do things my kid and teen self wanted to do but couldn't instead of pretending to enjoy "grown up" things. If you need more time after grad school take it. Too much change at once can be overwhelming.
@@lenan5913 OMG!!! Same! I've been getting in touch with my inner child as well by rediscovering the things I used to love or wasn't allowed to enjoy into as a kid as an adult and it is SO freeing and does bring me utter joy! My plan after I graduate is to get more hours at work, stack up, gain my professional license, and get me a good paying job so I can live on my own soon and I'll take it little by little.
This is harsh reality. Your youth will fleet and there's nothing you can do about it. The positive is that with or without youth you'll still have value. You'll still have enjoyment, adventure and time to reach your goals and through and these meaningful experiences you'll grow to be smarter and mentally stronger to handle the responsibilities of life. Age and value are not synonymous AT ALL despite what the lies of media and the outside world says and when you realize that the anxiety will subside.
@@iiCounted-op5jx. Iâm 19 and 6 years sounds long as fuckđ. But maybe thatâs because Iâm 19 lol.
Iâm 32 and never heard of a quarter life crisis! I didnât have one though cause my 20âs were already a disaster đ I was a homeless drug addict, mental health was down the drain, in a physically abusive relationship, jail, rehabs, etc so Iâm just glad I survived! đ„ł
Damn đ
Glad youre still here with us. â€
Most of gen z (Americans specifically) were neglected (some more than others). Our parents' generation complained about feeling "neglected" as kids but neglected us even more. Our parents didn't teach us anything, the education system was worse, and many gave us little guidance or supervision. I've always felt behind and had very low confidence, since I was a child. Unlike a lot of parents their age, my parents actually did try to look after me, and I'm grateful for that. They are caring a meant well, however, like many gen x parents, they didn't seem to feel obligated to teach me a lot of useful skills or information, the way parents from previous generations were expected to. I learned to speak late, because my parents didn't talk to me and always sat me in front of the TV (their words, not mine). I learned to ride a bike later than the normal age, ending up having to teach myself when I was much older, because my parents forgot to teach me until I was already too old to not know how, then I couldn't go, because I felt embarrassed. There were a lot of things that I learned when I was too old to not know, but I'm too embarrassed to tell them all here. I had to learn how to tie my shoes by myself, because no adult remembered to teach me. I learned to change diapers by myself as a kid, because my mom would leave me alone with my younger siblings, and she certainly didn't prepare me or anything. This isn't even close to being as bad as what many other people my age dealt with. I had some of the better parents of their generation, and even I was suffering, so I can't imagine what many people my age with truly neglectful parents are going through. I've heard stories from my classmates that made me very grateful.
Gen x HATES teaching their kids anything. That is the truth, and I know it's not just my parents, and most of them are worse than my parents. Hearing people my age say that their parents taught them how to switch a tire, cook, file taxes, etc. is a rarity. That's honestly really sad.
The good thing about gen x parents is that they tend to be all about "free range parenting" and trying to have their kids learn things by themselves and on their own time, which I think is great, because letting kids be kids and letting kids figure out SOME things on their own is a wonderful thing, but I think the majority of them went too far to the extreme. I think many parents just used it as an excuse to not teach their kids anything or not look after them, as it is easier to raise a unresilient child than do the bare minimum of actually parenting your kid. I also think that the majority of people in that generation lack the patience to explain or teach their children certain things, and when they are expected to help their children with something, they act like it's the greatest sacrifice in the world. I remember being a kid and seeing parents throw a fit because a teacher told me to help their kid with their homework, saying, "That's not my job!" Even my parents were fine with helping me with homework (even if they were impatient, they at least tried), and I knew that most of my peers' didn't have THAT privilege.
Unfortunately, millennial parents seem to be going on a similar path while raising gen alpha, which you can clearly see from how many teachers are complaining about how badly behaved many of their students are or how much they struggle with reading. People like to forget, but we had similar issues. Neglect, lazy parenting, and parents being coddled by the media with the whole "don't judge me as a parent or tell me what to do with my kids" culture are to blame for gen z feeling stuck or behind, and probably gen alpha in the future too. The whole point of parenting is to prepare children for adulthood, but I guess our parents forgot that we are our own people and that our entire identity isn't just being their children.
i know more kids from broken homes and neglectful parents and yet society somehow assumes them not being married with kids with career and homes are "lazy". The current generations are suffering what older generations failed to maintain and thats on them not the genz/gen alpha.
What area of the world do you live in? If itâs okay to ask. Iâm sorry to hear that your childhood was like that.
Your story is very typical to what I saw among gen Z children when I was a school teacher. Your generation was always in front of a TV or device. Parents could never remove these devices for punishment because they knew that the device was not a treat for the child; it was a treat for the parent. There were many other ways that parents managed to keep children entertained and interested previously without the mindlessness of devices. Crayons and colouring books were good. Even siblings arguing in the car had some social value. Today's children don't argue with siblings in the car. Everyone is silent and hypnotized.
you hit on the nose something i've been feeling for a while. I think everyone around me did their best with what they had and knew and im grateful but i feel like I was genuinely never taught anything (life skills wise) and now because of my age i'm supposed to magically be an adult when I was never taught how and its confusing and frustrating. The point of having parents and guardians is for them to share the knowledge they've learned with age, try to help you not make the same mistakes, and prepare you for adulthood but i feel like i've had to do life by myself and i can't do it all fast enough to catch up. It feels like i've been thrown into a shark pit and haven't been taught how to swim let alone fight sharks and somehow my arm is already bleeding so they're all heading towards me yet my family's on the side saying "its okay you can do it, just follow your heart" like guys i'm dying do you not see the sharks or are you ignoring them?? Can i get some actual help maybe?? the love was there but the guidance was pretty much non existent.
I'm a gen z and grew up with Gen X absentee parents. I basically went through the same thing you did. They stopped paying attention until my sister and I went to middle school. Now all I see them focus on is their work, work & church drama, and church activities. They didn't teach us how to drive or cook so we had to take initiative. When my sis and I asked for help, my dad would say that he didn't have help when he was younger. It's so frustrating. So, we rely on Google instead.
As a Western-European, I totally went through a quarter-life crisis at 25. I was still living at my parents', starting my master's degree after two years of not knowing what to do with my life, and with no boyfriend. I felt old and doomed. Now as I'm approaching 30, life is way better. I've been living with my boyfriend for 2 years, I have a decently-paid, secure job, and I feel good with my life most of the time. Of course, everything is not perfect. Our apartment is very small because the prices are outrageous, the cost of everything is rising, but we manage. We can even save some money to go on vacation, not too far, once a year. To be clear, if you're still not where you want to be at 25, don't worry, it's normal, life is soooo different now from what it was 30-50 years ago, and it's not too late at all.
seeing all these teenage actors doing all these things makes me happy for them but makes me whoâs an aspiring actor feel so behindddd and like iâm too old to start đ (I'm 16)
Trust me 16 is not too old to start anything ! I'm sure there are teen acting programs/courses for the summer you can take that are available. Something like that.
that's the crazy part, 16 year olds feel TOO OLD TO START. That's so depressing.
I don't think your too old, especially nowadays with social media, you can star your own career by getting a following
@@ricardograna4353 this is such shitty advice im sorry
Those guys are like the 1% of actors. Most actors are not known and take time to establish themselves. Normally people need to make a portfolio. Most of these child actors have a whole team, rich parents, and connections. Donât worry. Do what you can. Build your own luck.
Sis I just saw Gen Z is not okay I clicked
weâre not
Iâm Australian. Just turned 25. Born in â98. I am definitely feeling the pressure of being an adult and how to navigate the world as a whole. Iâm thinking about having kids one day but Iâm scared to bring children into an AI world. Iâm worried that Iâll never have enough money to have a home of my own. 25 is an interesting age, I feel more mature than I did at 20, however Iâm still feeling like I havenât gotten very far in my 20âs.
98 here and same with progress. Shit just stopped at 21 for me, feels like I've been standing still and the world moves around me. Also, been reading these comments while listening to Men At Work :)
Iâm 26. I think we are also mad because the baby boomers are the ones who influenced us to go to school and we still canât even survive with these degrees.
Ugh this explains how I've been feeling so unfulfilled lately. For me especially it's being jealous of seeing people my age find their soulmates and all pairing up while I'm left in the weeds. Any ghost of a "relationship" I've been in were all long distance and short-lived, all ending horribly. I'm done settling for toxic people.
Also whenever I try to vent to somebody about this they tell me, "Oh someone will come to you naturally, just give it time!" Yup. I'm 26 years old and I've never even experienced my first kiss. I'm sure as hell giving it time ._.
have you ever heard of the blackpill?
DEAR SAME. JUST THIS. wish I could give you a hug or something.
It'd be different if it was just on socia media, but its even my closest friends too. Traveling, being in relationships, etc. Like bro im so sick and tired. đ
Blackpill
â@@iiCounted-op5jxthat's like someone telling you that they are depressed and asking them if they ever heard of suicide
I feel like the younger generations now want to grow up so fast. It causes so much unnecessary stress. Im 30 and I've done alot I dont regret anything, I went with the flow mostly trying to figure out who I am. Now I can say im confident and know myself completely. But materialisticly I'm "poor" but life wise I'm happy, I know my role, I know my purpose and thats more important too me. I strived to save money, not buy expensive things and to not put so much importance on those things. I think that helped me not stress out too much, on top of that Im really into the environment and health so its a no brainer for me to live a less expensive sustainable life. But I agree with you things are soo much more expensive now its insane. And its so annoying to me how the American society has become so materialistic, selfish and greedy. I just want to shake everyone and make them snap out of it. The amount of money u have and fancy things are not going to make u truly happy at the end of the day. Even the most richest person in the world can be lonely and sad. My advice to the younger generation is try everything, find out whats important to you, dnt afraid of what people think of you, remember that you are not better than anyone else and vice versa, everyone is equally important and be patient.
I agree with you saying 100%, but I feel like time is not on our side. You can try many different things; if you can, then you look up, and in the blink of an eye, you are 30-35 and still trying to find it (p.s., at 35, you are 5 years away from half of your life being gone). The average life expectancy is 80 or something. Your family is getting older, retiring, and starting to live on a super-fixed income. Who wants to put your own shortcomings on them by staying with them? While you are still figuring it out.
Girl I used to be an architect (I guess I technically still am), went through my quarter life crisis and moved to a different continent to study masters and change my career completely but I feel like the crisis is still not over đđđ
Which continent
The quarter life crisis is totally a thing, I had it at 24. As an older gen z I had it earlier than most of my generation. I was still in college at 24 and questioning my major (teaching) and if I wanted to do it. I had a depressive episode that lasted 9 months. I am still not sure if I wanna do my major after graduated finally last week, but I made it through the quarter life crisis.
How old are you now? I feel like my story is similar
Iâm 22 and greatly needed this video because itâs definitely starting to feel like that. Iâm at the point where I just want to keep my bills paid and food on the table and home entertainment. Iâm tired of working under a company and want to be my own boss is the goal but chileeee why it seem like itâs getting more challenging đ
Its also giving I want to move to a different country but America is just not it babes
Come live in montrĂ©al itâs really nice
@@mtlfilmaker5944you got a job i can work đ?
Come to Germany, we have a huge demographic problem/ not enough young people to fill all the job openings đ
@@Karentullawow
@@mtlfilmaker5944what do you like
Once i turned 25-26 Im honestly so happy im getting older and got this far. I just want to be a grandma already.. being older is a beautiful thing because you made it this far through life! So many more opportunities open up as you get older and we shouldnât be obsessed what we need to accomplish but just what you love genuinely and do your best to do that every day. If youâre starting to get wrinkles or look older.. so what. It doesnât matter and focus on other things you love and cherish. You cant afford a house yet? Oh well just decorate your apartment or room the way you want cheaply while still saving up for that house goal. Focus on what you can do right now and âsuccessâ is relative. Success can mean literally anything who cares what other people think or do
Youâre nuts dude , I personally wanna die young , I donât see your body slowly fading as a reward
I think Iâm a Zillenial (born in â96) but definitely got hit by the quarter life crisis. I graduated college at the end of 2019 and moved to a new town, then I turned 24 in 2020. So i was ready for âreal adulthoodâ and then bam, pandemic. It was a lot to go through during a time period full of big life changes
honestly i feel like we should get rid of generation labels because i'm 27 and I relate with this video and im still in my 20s. we should get labeled via age groups, not group 2009 Borns and people 10 years older than them.
I did duel enrollment in hs and was basically a full time college student at 16. I literally hit my quarter life crisis at 19/20 yrs old. I'll say...life was a bit dangerous for me actually đ
Same boat here. Did all classes in college ever since in the beginning of high school and STILL donât know what I want to do career wise
@@chiefgg5954how are you doing
How are you doing
I kinda did the same. Registered for college classes during my high school senior year then worked through college my freshman and sophomore years. Transferred to a state university and now a senior in electrical engineering trying to get internships. It's tough out here...
I'm a Polish anthropologist and here it's the same. The expectations, the media, the fomo, the comparison to older generations... Plus its the age you finally move out and are able to work on yourself so it is an emotional crisis. Pandemic also hurt, both phisicly, socialy and economicly.
Just turned 26. Feeling: âšTERRIBLE !! đŸđ
Hereâs to my last year of my mid 20s :^)
I feel you
Your still gonna be in your mid twenties prob until 28
nah 27 is late 20s@@billyramirez9710
It gets worse when you hit 27 hahaha
@@celestinac1105 ive decided to stop keeping count after this lol
Iâve lived 23 years of my life and honestly , have only had control over 1 year in total , youâre born , and youâre being used left and right
friendships and having non digital non monetized hobbies is what's gonna get us through this. 3rd spaces aren't gonna come back I've night. We've gotta form relationships as best we can right now.
Zillenial here. Iâm 28 and when I turned 27 my grandma said to me âDamn your ass is getting old.â I laughed and said oh stop and my grandma with a straight tone said âNo, Iâm serious!â This literally was the beginning of my mental spiral & breakdown. I remember trying to talk with her about how it affected me and she totally brushed me off and was annoyed I was bothered. One of those tips said talk to your FAMILY or friends. Nah, sometimes family or friends can make it worse. Now Iâm in month 3 of therapy. No kids, long term relationship since I was 18 but no marriage. Not in the career I thought Iâd be in. Some days I contemplated ending it all. Wish me luck!
Is your grandma like much much older than you? May I ask if youâre a woman because I feel like the age woman a lot in our 20s because of fertility⊠weâre still young, but already feeling pressured to be more mature than our male counterparts and rush everything
@@cloudsurfer73 My grandma is 73 (boomer). Granted she had her first child at age 18 but that was in the late 60s. I am a woman and I totally agree that we are being rushed more than our male counterparts! My BF even thinks that men age slower and he is 34.
@@Jbelly275yo grandma should get put in a nursing home.
@@Jbelly275they mean how menâs value (money and what we can do) typically goes up in age while womenâs beauty/ fertility declines with age. I hope the best for you though! You still got time to be who you want to be! đ
@@thefirsttrillionaire2925 thank you for your kind words sir. Much appreciated â€ïž
Iâm definitely dealing with this now. Iâm turning 24 and that was the same age my mom was when she had me and I canât help but think of all the things she managed to accomplish by then and look at my life feeling like itâs not enough. Granted I wouldnât want to be in the exact same place that she was, but the sense of accomplishment is what bothers me most. The more I feel like I havenât done anything with my life, and how few prospects I seem to have, the worse of a headspace I get in.
That's crazy because I'm 23 and did some math a couple months ago, that's how I realized my mom was my exact age when she'd got pregnant with me. she had already got married in 21 and worked as a nurse. Fast forward to myself not having had graduated university, staying single and still living with her... And it's okay. I just wouldn't tell all that to my teenage self, she would definitely step in front of the bus that one day (that's where I'm grateful time travel isn't real LMAO).
You are living in an entirely different world than your mom grew up in and it is going to take longer to accomplish things because of that, that doesn't mean all the progress you have made so far is not incredibly important to your future. You are learning and doing things today that will one day make you feel proud of yourself and will be important to your success. It is impossible to live up to the expectations of previous generations now so you gotta decide what you want to make your future look like and accept it and keep moving forward by finding what fulfills you and brings you joy and just dive in and have the grit and humility to do things you are not good at yet and not give up. You gotta be proud of yourself for incremental progress and be satisfied with making little 1% improvements consistently. Hang in there and it will all start making sense in a few years when the context settles in and you realize you have 3 quarters left to go and there is a lot you can do in that time.
Dude I havenât made any progress money wise , and I donât care for it , when you think about it , you know your mom , and still see her , therefore , she didnât really accomplish anything , sheâs still around , and so are you , thatâs all that matters brothie , forget the rest , itâs all artificial
Ngl graduating during the pandemic really stunned any progress or growth I was working on. I was doing online school for all my 4 years of high-school. After lockdown I just felt thrusted into this adult world that I know nothing about because I didn't have any guidance from my parents. Yall i'm 19 turning 20 soon, I have no idea what I wanna do anymore. đ”
Literally same Iâm 19 going on 20 in August and Iâve been having anxiety and depression about currently feeling stuck in life. But I believe that we all can get through this âșïž
Hey there I know exactly what youâre feeling and let me tell you itâs gonna work out.Start researching on things you enjoy and figure out how you can make it a career in longevity.Research about learning styles ,identify the best fitand look for a career under that.â€ïžIt will work out
â@@UTubeTrollPolice298 urm what the freak utubetrollpolice298
â@@nyanewell5947 Same i'm incredibly stuck rn since im almost completely dependent on my parent (and just in general). We're all hanging in there, and hopefully things will get better. đ
31 year old millennial, I remember this period of my life. 25/26 was mad crazy for me mentally. One thing that helped me at this time was deleting social media. It helped tremendously with life style comparison. Next just taking care of myself spiritually. For me this was religion and mental health especially during the pandemic. Next financially educating myself, i still struggle with this, but i am soooo much of a better position. Lastly, learning myself and knowing what I want for me and satisfying myself. I like food, travel, and spending time on my kid. I invest in these things instead of what lifestyle comparison pushes.
omg frrr I'm 17 and I feel like I have no clue what I'm doing like I'm supposed to go to college??? in this economy?? its rough out here
Please take advice from one of the elders of generations z. If you can avoid college please do. There are so many jobs rather in the city, plumbers, cable severices that only needs you to have a high school diploma. Heck, you can get a job faster just asking your family/friends to mention you at one of their jobs đ€Łđ. From what I learned in 25 years, it's truly who you know that matters. Don't go to college unless it's for a job that really need you know how to do it.
I'm talking lawyers, doctors and all of them. Please remember my advice, the debt ain't worth it.
Another elder Gen Z here to confirm what @jeremiahborders2959 said! Definitely only go if you're trying to get a job that requires a degree, and it needs to be one with good job prospects too!
Also, if you're American, you'll have much better luck finding a decent job in states that are not California and New York. I was born and raised in California and I can't even find a lowly entry level job in my field with my Bachelor's degree, but I've had so much more luck in other states. Not only have I found jobs that actually want me, but I can actually comfortably afford rent and I have spending money to go have fun on weekends and save up for a house! Don't let anyone tell you that CA and NY are the only states with stuff to do, it's a lie!
@@poogissploogisnah I live in California that ainât good for me đ€Ą
same
Go to college! School is the easiest thing to do in life.
I think the thing that helped me get through my quarter life crisis was finding work that I enjoyed and it helped me feel like I had more of a purpose and connected to a community. Also volunteering and exercise can help a lot to feel less lonely. If you arenât doing the job you want yet, then try to do things you enjoy or even what you want to eventually do as a career as a hobby. It will bring you joy and it can help you get the experience needed to change or advance your career path to where you want it to be. I finally was able to work in the career I wanted and full time as a creative. Try not to compare yourself to others, I never really go on social media anymore, only just to message friends and that helped a lot by being more present and grateful for what I do have in life and it be a lot less self critical to myself.
31 years old - my 20s were hell. When I was 21 I was walking 13 miles roundtrip to get to work and back because i couldn't afford the train in Chicago. My 25th birthday I woke up and immediately cried because I was miserable and wanted to unalive myself. I can't name a specific point that things started to shift in the years following, and it would take me too long to explain how I started to shift my mindset out of that space, but fast forward to now...I am so at peace with myself in every aspect, so happy, very successful (though certainly still working my way out of debt from my broke girl decade), and traveling the world living the life of my dreams. The quarter life crises is real AF but you gotta trust yourself and the universe. Things can change so quickly.
As a 35-year-old millennial, I've lowkey been in an emotional crisis after feeling stable for many years (which came after my quarter-life crisis). People tell me that I've accomplished a lot in life, and while I'm grateful for what I have, I still feel like it isn't enough. I'm navigating this new stage of life the best I can, and I've accepted this feeling comes and goes in waves in many different stages in life, not just twice. It's inevitable for many people, and no one is a failure because of it. It's tough, but don't let that feeling completely take over your life. It will pass :)
Fellow 35 here, needed to read this. Thank you
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As a 35 year old millennial. I had a quarter life crisis 10 years ago, and now Iâm having a mid-life crisis! The pain never stops! đ
were you a child left behind? thatâs not how math works. if you had a quarter life crisis at 25, mid life comes at 50. please go back to school
damn, you didnt have to roast them!@@talltreeyeti
Me too đ©đ«đâ€
@@talltreeyeti Maybe they just said "mid-life crisis" to exaggerate. It's not that serious....
@@talltreeyeti Wow you can do math! Way to go kid!
Life is just a crisis, every quarter of it
REAL
Every penny of it.
I had no clue who I was until i turned 30. I absolutely had a quarter life crisis. Now I'm 34 and feel so much better physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally. All of it. Life gets better. Keep at it, keep going. I wouldn't go back for anything. You're 20's are for discovering who you are, not being who you think you need to pretend to be.
iâve been going through a crisis since i was 15 iâm 19 and still spiraling over the same things đ
I've been going through one since 13 I'm now almost 17 and start college next fall đ„Č
Same here⊠pushing through⊠Iâm so scared for what comes next
Real
I am in my quarter life crisis. Graduated with a bachelors in IT 7 months ago with at least a year of internship/work experience and still cant find a job. I get panic attacks now whenever I have to submit job apps. Even TRADER JOES wont give me an interview. Makes me feel useless.
Friends moving away, finding work or getting into relationships. I'm just feeling
very lonely and stagnant. Thank you for uploading this video
I feel like as a kid in the school system youâre taught to meet grade level expectations, and then as an adult when those expectations donât exist anymore and everyone chooses different paths, we continue to compare ourselves to others and feel like we are behind for not meeting the milestones that others have met.
Disabled 24 year old from England here.
I never thought I would feel so left behind. Social media has saved me, allowing me to connect with the world but it has also destroyed my mental health from seeing just how small my life is compared to what it could be.
Quarter life crisis is ongoing.
disabled 21 y/o American, felt this.
I've been feeling my quarter-crisis since I was 20 I'm turning 25 tomorrow and it only feels like it's getting worse
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"Everything Will Be OK in the End. If Itâs Not OK Itâs Not the End"
- John Lennon
Turning 31 this year and I have to say as someone who went through a major quarter life crisis, yâall will be just fine - growing up is scary in general and honestly I found the most peace when I realized none of us really know what the fuck weâre doing lol. Donât let the complexities and nuances of life scare you from living.
Literally I relate so hard to this at 10:50 just graduated in December and I did not think it would be this hard to find a job bc of my niche major. However, why are âentry levelâ jobs wanting 3-5 years of experience??
Apply anyway! Companies suck. Worst that can happen is they say no. Quantify your school and part time job experience⊠or show the value you provide regardless of years in workforce. Iâm 31 and I tell you trust your gut.
You are very correct about the end of 2022-23 and the job market. I got my first big break in IT as a Network Engineer at the end of 2022. I struggled to get my career out on track for 2 years straight out of college. It was a huge relief to finally have a career job... BUT STILL, my pay was unlivable to start. It's much better now but it's still not what I should be paid. FUCK IT THO. I'm happy, not content. There's so much more room for growth and new experiences. It's a perpetual struggle but my future has never looked as bright as it does now. I'm 26, here's to living long and growing old!!
Same here, got a job in cybersecurity in early 2022. The pay was unlivable and still is unlivable. Started at $19/hr and after 1 year was bumped to $22/hr. Next year finished and no pay raise. Impossible to find a new job currently, only replies I get back want to pay ridiculously low wages as well.
I am 22 soon I am accepting that my expectations dreams and beliefs shouldn't limit the disappointments and blessings I will get if I let go of a hold of social pressures and expectations to be perfect
I turn 20 this year and I feel like I just got out of my "depression and anxiety su!C!dal crisis" and now I need to worry about the next one?
Someone please save me!
Oh, okay. I am European. Hopefully, there will be no quarter life crisis for me then!
I really love how you spotlighted the fact that we have so many more opportunities to compare ourselves that we can almost always see people who are doing âmore than usâ. I feel like when you enter your mid-twenties, things start to shift, majorly. Our brains are finally fully developed and a lot of us just start seeing the world is a much different way. We start questioning things we never questioned before and thatâs where all of the confusion starts to come from. You thought you were going to be so sure of yourself once you hit 25-30 but you end up feeling like you donât know anything at all. The biggest thing that has helped me through these feelings and thoughts is to really drill into myself that âthis is my life and Iâm not living it for anyone but myselfâ and also, we have more control than we think. Life isnât about having it all figured out, itâs about living, learning, and experiencing. Everyone has highs and everyone has lows and most of us feel inadequate most of the time. The quarter life crisis catapults you into your age of self discovery. Then, once you hit 35 ( as I currently am) you know yourself, you show yourself grace, you validate yourself, and you understand that you are constantly evolving and can love yourself through it all.
i was literally just crying last week about feeling so behind in life. iâm 21 and about to graduate from college and itâs definitely been hard but iâm excited to be done (literally didnât think iâd even make it this far). but at the same i feel so unprepared and nervous for post grad because of literally everything outside of my life. but iâll keep going ig
Just graduated highschool and entered community college and idk what to do with my life
Same tbh
Same, but I'm I'm high school rn
I'm 20 years old right now.. I've studied with people who have addictions and recovered and sober now and the one piece of advice they all told me was "Be kind to yourself" like I know it's cliche but it's actually insane how HARSH we are on ourselves when you realise "the pressure around living a comfortable life in this society" and constant and overwhelming comparisons from yourself and others. It's really difficult but I tried to treat myself as I would treat my best friend whom I love dearly like you wouldn't let your best friend say harmful things to themselves but why would you? I know it feels like it'd be something that sounds right but feels wrong. Be kind to yourself. Surround yourself with people and things that can make you help you stay sane in these circumstances.
I'm 25 yrs old rn, just broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years, and he just moved out so I am officially living on my own for the first time. This is so scary.
As a kid, I got straight Aâs and really prioritized school. Doing during my junior year of high school, Covid and school is shut down for like a year and a half. During that time I went from being a straight a student to completely dropping out of high school. For the next two years of my life until I turned 18 I did not go back to school. I had a boyfriend of 4 years, tons of friends and genuinely had the time of my life as a teenager. Iâm 20 years old now, just got my life drivers license, Got a job that pays a decent wage to live off of, and finally got my high school diploma. I still dont even know what I want to go to college for yet.. My ex cheated on me with my best friend, and a majority of my friends have moved away/left for college for their new lives. Within only like 3 or 4 years I LOST EVERYTHING! I still have no friends, and no relationship. The 2 close friends I do have our both in relationships so theyâre barely ever available to hang out. Honestly, i feel like a failure that I had a relationship last so long but, I have been so insanely single. I am alone majority of my time. Iâm starting to feel like Iâm a loser thatâs going to be a beggar on the street⊠or that my ex was my last chance at love, or that the friends I made in high school are going to be really my only chance to make friends. I feel like my personality has changed the law as well, and I went from being an extrovert to being alone by myself so now Iâm an introvert. I literally feel stuck.
I am sorry youâre going through unimaginable troubles but realize you are only 20. Youâre not suppose to have everything figured out and life doesnât abide by our own personal rule book. Trials and tribulations are bound to happen to make us grow as individuals. Also high school relationships (romantically and platonically) are not meant to last forever, people change and grow. Your brain isnât even fully developed until your 25 so give yourself room to grow. Sincerely be kinder to yourself, this is your first time living !
I became a young mom in my 20âs so I had no time for a quarter life crisis-It happened later at 30 feeling like I did everything backwards and that jealousy of peoples whoâs lives were on that perfect trajectory. But I knew, that Things would fall into place if I didnât give up. Went from being a statistic onto the 1st person in the family on their way to making 6 Figures. For some, that is not a flex but where I am from, it is uncommon.
Gen Z, use this time wisely to carve your path and build a career, not everyone can be an influencer and thatâs okay. Find your hobbies and build a community, you will be much happier than worrying if your life looks âaesthetic and Luxuriousâ. Most importantly, be mindful of the relationships you keep and marriage and kids is not all itâs cracked up to be for many. Live to the beat of your own drum and know that things will fall into place for you as long as you make wise choices.
girl your story is so inspiring im 25 with a 4 year old and your advice hits so close to home for me. it gives me hope that im on the right path because all the points you touched on i've been contemplating lately
I am definitely going through my quarter life crisis right now. I am 22 and graduated college a year early last spring with a bachelorâs degree and am still working a retail job unable to move out and find something better after around 300 job applications. I know itâs a numbers game and I should just keep applying and hoping for interviews but itâs hard to reconcile where I am at right now with where I thought I would be and where other people my age are at.
Iâve also stopped hanging out with my friends from college/high school just out of embarrassment for what my life looks like right now. Everyone always asks what I am doing with my life or what I aspire to be but at this point all I want is to find a job that pays enough to move out so I can have more independence and date while having my own place.
At the end of the day man, focus on yourself and bettering yourself with education, applying for jobs, and keeping your head up. Cut people out of your life that do not fit in with your goals. Keep grinding, build a portfolio with a skillset that you develop over time. The world is terrible right now and so is the job market but it will get better.
I definitely went through this. At the age of 24, 3 years out of college, I quit accounting and delivered pizza for a year.
i remember going through this. now iâm 37 and i went through a real mid-life crisis and like, that quarter-life crisis is ridiculous. yâall are SOOOOO young. enjoy your lack of wrinkles, cellulite. travel a lot and save a lot! listen to what your intuition wants you to do â€
I don't think it's really nice to invalidate what people in their 20s are going through. It goes beyond the fear of aging. A lot of us look at what our parents were able to accomplish back in the 90s and early 2000s at our age and we realize that it's so far out of reach. Unless of course you come from a well off family. The purchasing power our parents had was stronger than it is now.
Most of us are trying to get by, but with rent, food, and bills being so expensive while our wages are stagnant makes saving so much harder to do. Many of us work longer hours to survive which is causing burnout/exhaustion. Not to mention that many people in their 20s aren't able to secure jobs they studied and went in debt for.
At the end many of us feel defeated because we don't have the same security, opportunity, and safety net that was awarded to Boomer's and Gen X. Many of us will most likely work into our graves.
39 here and I experienced the same.
@@cryptesssItâs not invalidating your experience, itâs offering you some insight. You might not see it right now, but I promise, youâll be fine. The 20s is about finding yourself, so itâs normal to feel confused. Once you understand that life isnât that black and white, youâll learn to navigate it better. Send you virtual hugs
if 25 is a quarter life crisis, a mid life crisis isnt until 50
Wait. This is my problem with people 35 and UP. Yâall invalidate us âyoungâ folks and tell us to âsuck it upâ. This is the problem. I get what youâre trying to say but itâs still hurtful because at the end of the day, Iâm still a 20-something year old going through said experience youâre telling me to âbrush offâ, just because YOU made it âoverâ.
Yeah babes I'm 21 and it's hit me like a truck I feel so behind, I'm full time in college, full time working and I feel like a zombie, I'm trying so hard not to go out sad for real đđ
What you studying bruh?
Me all the wayyy right now and the same age too đ we got this I promise đŻ
Im 24, and i am in crisis. It feels like life goes by and all im doing is just working while ppl having fufiling life, doing stuff they like, meeting up with irl besties etc and im just sitting here in front of pc and doing things no one (even i really) cares about. This comfort zone is very hard to leave ...
And here I was thinking I'm alone in this feeling... High five. "Just working" is already a lot (YES, YES, IN THIS ECONOMY), and you should give yourself credit for everything you do on the daily!
My friends and I went separate ways, too. For me even making two new friends after 3 years of total isolation feels like such a big step forward. Anyways, no crisis has ever lasted forever, and we will eventually come out of it, you, I, and all of us.
One thing that can also help:
Instead of comparing yourself to other people, compare your current self to your past self.
Your past self can be any version of you, from a week to a few months or years ago. The main thing is to notice progress in yourself.
A year ago, I felt more confused about my career than I do today, meaning I've learned more about myself and what I want. Knowing I've grown/changed is reassuring and comforting. Compare yourself to yourself, not others :)
I have a quarter life crisis and I'm from Russia. And I feel like a lot of young adult Russian citizens have it, especially after the war started when everyone's mental health got increasingly worse. Not only do you live in an uncertain land with constant fear of war or your brothers and dads getting sent to war, sanctions started and our normal lives totally changed, we're pretty much blocked out from the rest of the world and feel like you have no where to go. I'm in university and we were used to be able to have internships in other countries, explore, figure out what we want, where we want to live. Now it has become a lot lot harder. Also you don't have the opportunity to work for a foreign company anymore, which usually has better benefits and gives you better work experience. We also always live with constant guilt for what our country has done and feel like every one hates us and then we start hating ourselves and it feels like trying to do anything in life is useless now. First Covid, then the war and you don't know what will happend in the future, it's really scary and unpredictable and makes it even harder for people to decide what they are going to do in life and how. Most of my friends want to go study or work abroad and get really depressed by the feeling that they have no control of what is happening. A lot of them even passed all the exams for foreign universities and started applying for visas and when they just thought their dream would come true they were blocked from moving. It also hits hard for a lot Russian influences who wanted to make a career in CZcams or tik tok, I'm studying for design and had an art tik tok and youtube channel about art and started to just get a following when monetization was banned and tik tik was blocked and it just felt like you had put in all that work for nothing.
I just turned 25 this month and something Iâve been reflecting on is how some of the life goals I thought I wanted to have accomplished by 20, 22, 25⊠I just actually wasnât ready for and probably wouldnât have been very happy with if they had happened on the timeline I imagined. Itâs weird but I think Iâm having almost the opposite of a quarter life crisis, where even if the exterior world is intimidating (career, housing, finances, etc.), I trust my current and future self to be able to handle those things waaayyy more than my younger self. Curious if anyone else has felt this way?
im a 22 y/o european from Spain and quarter-life crisis is definetely hitting here too. we have a very strict academic system and glorified labor culture, but precarious work and unemployement is at their all time high. and all that mixed with the alt right parties rising up, its a bad time to be alive.
we all tend to fantasize with going away to eurocentrical countries or even usa and australia. but the truth is, we dont really want to. we like it here most of the time, our friends and family are left behind. so its heartbreaking.
so true
Jump ship, earn some money then come back.
Iâm from Portugal so I know youâre struggle, if wasnât for our politicians we could be ones of the better countries in the world but it was easier to sell to the tourism sector also letâs not hurt old people feelings because they are the ones putting us in power đ
Some of us are still struggling with the effects of Covid too. Itâs been 4 years since this bs started to impact our lives, and for me, as the world started going âback to normalâ (itâs been fucked in many ways ever since) 2 years ago I fell chronically ill with long term health issues caused by Covid. To say I feel behind is an understatement, but on top of that, I am violently chronically ill in my early-mid 20s with no end in sight. This truly is the most cursed timeline
I think another problem of only seeing the best parts of someones job on social media is that it makes people think that they should quit their job bevause they had one bad week or one bad month.
Social media made people give up to quickly because they think that they always must be happy not considering that that one week is often times only a fraction of their job life.
What honestly upset me about the quarter life crisis is nobody is acknowledging the people like me who never plan to make it past 18 no I wasnât day dreaming about my 20 I was depressed thinking about how Iâm gonna my self off
But now Iâm in my early and I have no life skills I feel like I have to catch up on so much stuff itâs so overwhelming I never wanted to be an adult I never wanted this and now Iâm here and Iâm stuck and nobody is talking about it
Hey, I donât have much to say thatâll help but I really resonated with you on the idea that I never thought I would make it past 20 at all. When I was in my early teens life after 20 felt like a void. But now Iâm fine not knowing where Iâm going. IMO itâs all trial and error from now on ..
turn to Jesus and he will guide you
Itâs never too late
I feel like that too
Daaaaaammmnnnn this is trending now??!!!!! Oh f*** nO we are NOT okay!! Iâm 26, had mine at 24. Iâm still living with my parents, with only 7k in my savings account, but thank god I have them and thank god my dadâs helping me get through school. One day at a time đźâđšđ Stay strong guys please!! Hold on until the next chapter of your life!! If yâall donât stay strong, I donât know if I can either. Please. Let yourself feel uncomfortable as long as you need to, feel the emotions, cry if you have to, let it all out, find your center, and keep pushing guys. KEEP PUSHING TILL THE NEXT CHAPTER!!!
I'm 22 and I feel so lost about life and where I'm going. I'm about to graduate college and go to grad school, I still dont have a car or apartment, every time I go back to my parents house I get so depressed (literally immobilized and contained to my bedroom, not even getting up to eat so I could avoid my parents), and I've known since I was really young that this world will never be kind or make any sense in my lifetime. In theory im taking the "right" steps that we've been told would make for a good life, but I cannot see my life being good when all I know and see is struggle. I've never had a real life goal or future plans because I always assumed that I could just die if things go super wrong. im currently getting out of that mindset and learning how to actually be myself and not a mask thats just performing to get through the day. I want to be close in community with others and be able to help form peaceful lives for everyone around the world with said community, I want to feel the happiness of connection with myself and others, I want to make changes in the world, I want to just live and not survive especially since we are so abundant in information and capabilities.
As someone with an illness & horrible knee pain after graduating high school in 2018 then knee surgery in 2019 then straight into a pandemic in 2020.Trying to get my life together has been a struggle especially with my family comparing me to my cousins or how they were at my age when NONE of them have been through half of the things Iâve been through. I have felt behind since high school & have been playing catch up my whole life. Can anyone else relate???
Iâm 19 and I feel geriatric. Ik itâs young but it feels like every time Iâm online Iâm reminded ppl 14+ are more talented and accomplished than Iâll ever be. đźâđš plus I didnât go to school for a year and when I did it was community college. Which I know is valid but itâs still unconventional.
Me charlie Dâamelio and Millie Bobbie brown are all the same ageâŠIâm so sick đ·
brutal, getting mogged by younger people will always be so brutal
As a 24 year old zillennial I completely relate to everything you said. I believe the main reason for my quarter life crisis is the fact that everyone told us growing up âyouâll be fine, just go to college and get a degree and youâll be set for lifeâ and then I went and got a bachelorâs degree and now the job market only wants people with masters degrees or five years of experience for entry level jobs. Everyone lied to us and now we have to face the consequences of a world that we did not create. Also with COVID it changed the job market so much that even if we could get a degree and be okay, we probably wonât make much of enough to properly survive. đ
Job searching got me stressed out plus my car now gotta put in the shop , what a time to be alive đđ
9:00 can admit I struggle with comparison. It doesnât manifest into jealousy. It manifests as the desire to work harder and as a result I burn out and implode into depression.
so unrelated but as classist as hinduism is, it has, from my understanding, quartering of like into
0-25 education period
25-50 breeding period
50-75 exploring period
75-death settling period
but if im not wrong its only applicable to only men of a particular caste
That's super interesting, thank you for sharing!
thats if you even make it to 50
Thank you for adding your perspective!
@@cynical_chai8922 I mean apparently they used to live longer. If you made it to thirty I think it was easy to survive for a really long time. Now it's easy to survive childhood because of all the resources but difficult to pull through 60. I am speaking from my own observation. I don't know any of this for sure.
This makes me think about a J.Cole song: Love Yours.
Itâs very easy to fall into the trap of comparing yourself to others. However all that glitters isnât gold. At one point I fell into that trap as well and I caught myself constantly looking at others on IG and comparing myself. I ended up taking a 3 year break from IG and Iâm so glad I did. I get on every now and again but Iâve come to realize that I donât need to compare my life to anyone else. The choices I have made in life and the successes/ failures Iâve had are unique to me and have made me who I am. We just need to understand that we all have different starting points and obstacles to overcome that will affect our journey. And you donât know what the person you are comparing yourself to had to endure to get to where they are.
Today I am very happy and content with myself. At the end of the day if you are always looking forward and constantly progressing you will get to where you want to go. It may not happen in your 20âs, but maybe in your 30âs and thatâs okay!
I'm mid gen z, didn't go to college, been working since I was 15, and now that I'm looking for a different job I'm realizing how little is really out there. I make roughly over 40k a year and actually like my job to an extent. However the hours and management are so bad I decided after about six months of consideration it was time to leave. Now that I'm looking, there are jobs requiring a bachelor's that pay far less than I make, and I don't have anything past a highschool diploma. I have 5+ years of experience with many types of work, but it seems more and more that jobs don't value experience OR degrees much. Either connections are the main way to get a good job, or they practically don't exist anymore. I've never had a special interest or talent in any career, and with the hope of a future being so murky the quarter life crisis is eminent.
This is so me. Iâm 24, I dropped out college due to mental health crisis and have found it increasingly difficult to go back. I stress about how well I couldâve been had I just pushed through my mental health struggles and gotten my bachelors and stress about not being in school due to current struggles. I feel so behind and depressed and stressed out that I live life on auto pilot. Sleep wake up work repeat. I am also mentally trapped in 2020 I canât believe Iâm 24 years old now. The feeling of aging is so hard to explain. I was just so young what happened?
Older millenial here and had the quarter life crisis. Agree with that tiktok you mentioned about introspection and seeing what's important for you. For me, the pandemic forced me to go through that process. Before the pandemic, I was stressing about job growth and climbing the corporate ladder. The pandemic made me realize my life was pretty good as it was and I don't want/need the added stress of being a people leader, being a director etc and that work is a much lower priority than my partner and family. That said, comparison is very real in this age of social media.
Older Gen Z here from Aus, could say I've had these feelings of a 'Quarter-Life Crisis."
Screw quarter life crisis, I just give up on life.
When I realized that the average life expectancy is in the 70s, and mid life is in the 30s, it triggered a midlife crisis in me. And that vibes, bc i went through my quarter life crisis at 19 đ
Haven't experienced my quarter life crisis yet, but have been super anxious about it and its comforting to hear that others are experiencing these feeling and are just as confused
As a 34 yo millennial, the only thing that got me out of my quarter life is staying away from social media and taking back my time.
I was so into instagram before and I would often feel bad about my life when I compare how others are doing, traveling, dining at fancy restaurants, and posting photos of their apartment.
Then came a point that I just stopped opening any social media accounts and started reading and walking out at the park, and everything changed.
I realized that nobody has really figured it out, and whenever I see a photo or video of someone else doing something awesome⊠I would ask myself the struggle they or other people endured for them to have that kind of life⊠or how much they have to pay, or if they swiped it off from the credit cards, etc. And I realized I actually donât care and am happy for them.
Life is more fulfilling when you really experience where youâre actually walking instead of looking at your phone and watching people there âenjoyâ the other street.
Remi, your videos are just the best. The topics you pick have cultivated the most comforting community (bringing together multiple generations!). Thank you for thisđ„°
I just turned 23 and I am IN ITTTTT. Just gets worse the older I get, and I feel like it really started at 22. Hopefully it passes soon and doesnât last more years because I donât think I can take much more đ