Single Women Are Lonely: True or False
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- čas přidán 22. 08. 2024
- On this episode Toke is joined by the stunning Adedamee, they discuss the myths about single women.
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a lot of married women are more lonely than single women don't let anyone make you insecure over your status. Marriage is beautiful with the right partner but if you don't get the right person, you can fast-track to an early grave or wallow in depression
Gbam!
Absolutely true 500%
Exactly
So true.
Facts!
Everything about Dami just screams class and sophistication. She's the ultimate girl crush, I have loved her for a while now. I'd argue that she's one of the most beautiful actresses in Nigeria. 🥰
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Don't be moved by beauty and poise. She nor get behaviour. Ask those who know.
@@donjazzy5510 hmm really, wow!
@@donjazzy5510 Do you know her personally?
I was in the marriage for 19years and was very lonely and didn’t have the reason until I woke up from the dream of what will people think and I’m much happier ❤️❤️❤️
May God heal your heart and give you beauty for ashes.Amen
I felt that. Honestly ❤
I wish toke allowed Dami talk more honestly . I really wanted to hear more of her answers to questions and thoughts on stuff. Nice conversation overall
Its the way you both gas each other up for me. The kind of sisterhood we all need. This was a beautiful episode😊❤
You are doing too much.
Lovelyyyy
Agree ❤💯
I love what she said, it takes a rare kind of strength to leave a marriage
It's how toke spent 3 minutes straight hyping Adedamee, haha love eet. She's truly beautiful.
I relate completely with Toke. Zero expectations... After so many heartbreaks, you end up being so numb. It is well . ❤️
Is this d reason why I’m so numb?😢
This is my current state. I actually don’t care anymore and I am ok being by myself.
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Didn’t want this to end. I wanted it to be longer. You both have a natural rapport. Loved it
I was miserable while dating...one year later. I decided to let go off things that are not serving right because I know who am becoming and what I want...30 , Single and loving it.❤❤
Hmmm Toke that conversation about why you felt shame and Adedamee didn't, very interesting to see how two people can go through same thing and have two different experiences, if we did deeper you would find that people drummed it into Tokes ears growing up that divorce is bad, and leaving her marriage caused her SHAME, SHAME can cause us to see situations differently, SHAME is the reason self harm because they are super conscious of how they will be seen and perceived, my marriage failed is different from I failed at marriage. I hope we can broaden the conversations around SHAME in Nigeria, Mental health issues are real, TRAUMA gives birth to SHAME
hmmmm
Dammy is gorgeous and classic. Men are giving themselves so much credit to think single women are lonely. Really!! Common we dont need men to be whole, get out of your 1800 self.
Louder 💯👏🏽❤️
Beautiful episode… Do another 🥹🙈… but Toke try to let your guests speak more 🙈🙈 you always cut them short before they end their statement 🙈🥰 but this was an absolute delight
I have zero expectations of people for the sake of my mental health. Thanks Toke for this, its very enlightening👌
lovely interview. The friendship chemistry kept the conversation going .
Adedamie is so gracious. Her poise and persona. Wonderful woman
The chemistry between you guys 👌🏾
The conversation was just flowing. Loved it.
Dammy is very gorgeous and I like the chemistry between the two of you. You invited the right person for this interview. I pray you both found TRUE LOVE ❤️
True love sometimes can be understanding self love to fulfil your mission on earth instead of hiding the talents because one is not married. Marriage is not truly for everybody and that is why some widows choose not to remarry. Let us also not forget the GOD WORK upon the head of someone like Paul in Corinthians who helped with marital counselling but focused on Gospel teaching without being marrying himself. Not easy bring married while trying to preach the gospel as well.
I like the fact that you two were plain and honest.
Toke is a sister any day, any time🤣🤣. Speaking facts always 👍😍
One thing I’ve learned in my life is that if you’re a critic of other people’s lives and lifestyle choices, or you’re always judgemental, you’d be hard on yourself if you don’t conform to societal expectations. You’ll always believe people are judging you for ”going out of line”. Some times, people no even send you. Infact, they admire your strength and decisions. But you wouldn’t know because you’re seeing yourself through their eyes.
I’ve never been judgy or overly critical of people’s lifestyle choices because I believe there’s no smoke without a fire. Because of this, I don’t think of others when making personal major life decisions.
True definition of classy … the choice of words,body and facial expressions are splendid… you both nailed it …love u Toke
I enjoyed every bit of this conversation… I love how Toke expresses herself and dami’s class and composure is outta this world. More of this Toke! You are doing well.
Toke is so effortlessly funny 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I enjoyed every but of this. The transparency, the open joys and hurts. I pray God grant us our heart desires
Amen
I totally agree with Dami, we all need to have expectations, if we get led down is something else. Insightful conversation from two gorgeous ladies 😍
This is one of my best toke moment it's felt more like 2 true friends having a real conversation with no cameras I laughed, my 2 favs. Nice one toks
Your friendship is so beautiful to watch. i wish you guys everything beautiful ❤
Amennn 🙏
Big shout out to Toke for this beautiful interview. What most people don't realize is that the pains relating to failed relationships are not completely one sided. The issues, programming, and values that this present world has infused in this generation makes it really hard for relationships to last long term. Most of us want sincere companionship, sincere ride or die. However, what most people have is just availability based on what can be presently offered. Most men have women stay because of financial control, and these men know that's the only reason why the woman is there.
Sadly, women can't really use finance to control a man in that fashion. That's why it seems worse for women.
In summary, this present world seriously has its values misplaced. That's why from the surface (social media, etc) it looks like the happiest world that has ever been. But in reality it's probably one of the saddest.
So accurate!
Couldn't have said it any better hun 💯
@@paulinyes1999 thanks dear
@@misskim8427 thanks
Words on marble👌🏼
I love how Toke praises her girlfriends. I'm here for it❤️❤️❤️❤️
It’s how I stay put for these tokes 30minute videos , I’ve enjoyed every bit
A guy just told me the other day, he wonders how a beautiful woman like me chooses to be single, there must be something wrong with me... I lacked words
I think he should have been polite by asking you out on a date.
He needs a dirty slap to reset his brain
These days it's important for a person to analyze any situation they get themselves into especially if you have had a history of heartbreak, and peace is important these days.
@@tranquilmomentswithme7643 why? Not everyone wants to date. People should be left alone.
This happened to me too. The guy was making me look like I had a problem 🤦🏾♀️ whereas he’s in his 40’s and not married either 🙄
This conversation is deep and I enjoy every bit of it.
Toke is such a great friend🥰 Not everyone can sincerely wish for others what the person wish for themselves🥰
Dami is so beautiful❤. There was no way I wouldn’t have watched this. Was exciting to learn about her. On behalf of all our men, sorry for all the trauma ladies😐
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😂😂😂😂😂 this was fun to watch, I love to see women who love and support each other genuinely. #TMPOD
The dating pool is literally the ghetto, I'm this close to giving up.
I’m hopeful that this show will start giving success stories of great relationships, marriages and general successes starting with my all time favs Dami Tokstar😍
Toke is effortlessly funny
It’s actually not expectations, it’s a minimum requirement and it’s not too much to ask for. Like matching your effort, staying consistent and a lot more❤
I love the fairytale your parents had. ❤ ❤ ♥ It got me so emotional. 😭
I enjoyed this conversation a bit too much! There were so many truths and realities expressed that more women need to be sharing with each other.
And i loved hearing about Dami's life as i knew virtually nothing about her until now. Toke was even more real here than i've read or heard elsewhere.
Kudos!!! Thanks for sharing yourselves with us.
Toke I absolutely loved this episode. I mean what’s living without expectations? But again these people prove your theory. Many times you go in with expectations and become a therapist and carry burdens out. It’s actually better to have none that way you can move past it easily
I did not expect to enjoy this talk this much because I've never really watched anything Toke has done before, but this was fun 😂 Toke ooo. I pray that God fulfills both their hearts desires, Amen.
I loved this! it was just like a girly chat, forget that there are cameras
Dami is the most beautiful woman in Nigeria 🇳🇬
No Cap 🧢
Toks, this is the realest I've watched of your Tokmoments and I applaud you for it.
I can totally relate and it feels good to finally hear someone properly articulate it uncensored.
This conversation is therapeutic for me.thanks Toke for this moment more grease to your elbow 🎉🎉❤
Now this is real life, love you both❤
oh yes! Dami's nickname in Uni was Damisexy! I used to literally look at her and marvel and I'm female o! She's so hot & she was much slimmer so you can imagine. Even now, she's still smoking 🔥
Great Bowenite
I so much love this talk. It’s real because Pple
Think they have a perfect life until you hear there story. We all need this
I had so much fun! watching this episode. In fact, l was part of the discussion as I've been single (widowed) for 19 years! & I'm tired of the dating 'thing'😂 too. I have dated up, dated down o but na lie, oloribu... ni gbogbo won!😂 I love me as I am & my adult girls. I pray we all find our love one day IJMN.
Love you so much, Toke. Good bitches for life! Cheers😅🎉❤
This is the happiest I’ve been❤️ single.
Me too😊
I just love Toke she’s so insightful and Sammie is really a great woman. I enjoy this conversation
Such honest conversation. Great one as usual, Toke. I wish I was in that room.
The exact conversation that I need 😩thank you aunty toke for this episode ❤️so thoughtful of you 😍
You're so amazing Toke God bless you with so much unending joy.
I love both of you so much and I enjoyed watching this. My advise is this, do good so that you may live this is because a lot have lost their humanity in wanting to be trending. God is a rewarder of them that diligently seek Him and God is not a liar.
Calm down Tokeee🙂🤣 it's obvious you would swallow dammy up!!This was beautiful to watch!! Well done💯💯
I love how Toke laughs😂😂😂😂
I would I could love this episode a million times. Thank you both 🥰 for your genuineness.
I say a believing amen to your prayers 🙏
*wish*
This is the first time I'm seeing Dami in this light. She's so fun! i absolutely loved this episode.
I love you Toke, your honesty and growth shows.
Thanks for this episode. It was therapeutic for me . ❤
I love how truthful they were❤… it’s truly a rare kinda strength to leave a marriage
Rest on Sir. Caleb
Your daughter is a good human❤️
OMG amazing show. LoL Dammy doesn't want to be a man in next life because she doesn't wants to be asked for money. ....... Marrying right is a blessing from GOD. What I experienced while growing in my house made me set standards. Today i still feel sorry for my mum because if you ever asked me i don't see her been married. I am glad and happy about what my children are experiencing in my home as they grow. It's not my doings i jst feel Allah compensated for my mums troubles.
I found dis very hilarious same time educative..same time I enjoyed d agbero response to some 😂😂😂weldone toke....d yet unborn is smiling ❤
Ur life is favoured forever ..sending ❤ and 💡
I didn’t want this to end. I love you both
You din't allow your guest much space for expression . I really wanted to hear her. I love her
I feel like you should add subtitles for the Yoruba part. We all ain’t Yoruba . This episode is giving tho❤ I love
Hands down my favourite toke moments episode 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Black comes with problem 😂😂 i felt that, I love the friendship and this particular episode is awesome
Toke I think you should write a book about your dating chronicles as a single 30+ black successful lady living in Nigeria.
I'll love to read it, cause I'm not sure if it's the same struggles as in London 🇬🇧
I would love to read too. 😊
I will buy it any day
Great Idea
I am a huge fan of Damilola ❤ I cant thank you enough .
Toke l have read your book. You have taken the right step to protect yourself. Well done. No one advocates for divorce.
Toke please add subtitles when you speak your dialect 😂😂 I don’t want miss any words you say….
I didn’t want this conversation to end honestly and I didn’t know my fave at Aunty damee can talk and advice💯looks too quite to me and I support your marriage with her as long as it’s you both😂just kidding and I pray both of you find love again in your exception because the men out here are the jungle😂💔I can’t wait for you to us you’re in love again especially Tokstarr cos I wish that for you personally❤
Single women are not lonely and I don’t even see you as a lonely person and I think that ideal of what will they think is from your generation and older generation because truth be told I don’t think this generation getting married this days want their body to be scratched, (anyone is ready to leave) except the naive ones. The advice to everyone that’s not married yet from this podcast is Love is out there and real but please be financially ready also incase any Gbos gbas you can leave before any other thing. Thanks TM🥰🥵keep the podcast them coming with your sweet sweet guest, I’m always your number one podcast fan🥵🫶🏽
Love love this chat ! ❤️ T baby... God loves you and He is closer to you than you think. ❤️ ❤️
We don't look at the container anymore but the content.
Thoroughly enjoyed this episode. Love your chemistry!
Dammy is very gorgeous. I absolutely love her😍 Sending love from Zambia 🇿🇲
Amazing topic. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I was totally absorbed. I think, Ms Toke, the expectation topic was approached from two different angles.
Ms Dami was talking about everyone having expectations/standards. The truth is you actually have expectations too. It's why you're sceptical and guarding yourself against certain people that don't click. The reason you reject them ahead or refuse to get them to know you is that somewhere, they just don't fit or meet certain standards of yours.
What you say you feel on the other hand is that you don't want to get disappointed and because of that, you don't place people on high pedestals in your heart. So, whatever they do - goes and doesn't surprise you.
However, for anyone to gain entrance into your space, then they actually must meet your standards - which you spoke about at the end. Those standards aren't wrong. And our standard should be based on God's Word and HIS definition of love.
I admire your dad's love for your mum. It's a wonderful thing for anyone to look forward to.
Thank you for being so vulnerable in sharing this. Your show helps us see celebrities/people through a different lens other than that of judgement and criticism.
It is my hope and prayer that you both find men who replicate God's love and that you completely heal from dysfunctions planted consciously or subconsciously in Jesus' name.
Thank you again, ma'am.
This was great!!!! I could relate to both of you in all the levels. Remain blessed 🙏🏾💕
"What will actually shock me is when you behave yourself" 😃😃😃😃😃😃..that got me
I really enjoyed this episode..
Auntie Toke and Dammy made my day. I have zero expections from people seriously... This is a life for u, live for yourself. love yourself well enough that people will mimic u...
Nice talk, beautiful
This Episode is 🔥 🔥🔥🔥 I was just smiling through the whole conversation 💖
Toke is just a vibe😂😂😂😂❤
This was so beautiful to watch. Dami is so empathic, and I can tell she's a great listener. You two are just the perfect combination of hot and cold. It is just sublime!! ❤️❤️🥲
even the man that doesn’t speak fluently will break your heart…
Ha.. this one made me laugh so hard. My experience with this kind ehn, I de shame to even share.
@@bellaedwards8336 sis😂😂 can relate too😂
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Truly I have no idea these two are close. I’m so happy my favorite women are friends I love you too much!!! Muah! Muah!
Best episode. I love d way it felt like they ain't talking to us d subscribers but enjoying their friendship gist.
Oh God I need therapy but can't afford it thank you for this podcast love 💕 from Liberia
I have zero expectations, so the day you mess up I am out 😂
I swear this episode is so funny and educating 😂😂😂
The best one yet😂😂 This was scary!! God abeg 😂
The way I love Toke ❤😂😂😂😂😂. I just can’t 😂😂😂😂😂
I love your honesty and openness Toke. ❤💕💖
The friendship is so beautiful