Don't Marry Him If He Is One Of These | mildred kingsley-okonkwo
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Reading this as a man 😔😔I really have more. Work. To. Do. On myself.. I will be better I must... Also. Mrs Mildred maybe you could also. Run a series on women not to marry too.. Thanks.
Better work on it fast and not just a note,am just not happy with everything going on with guys thinking ladies are punching bag 😠
Am just imagining myself as a marriage counselor,I will first call OPC,to beat the guy flat first before I start my counselling,very irritating
😰True, sometimes we get to learn about our ill tendencies from hearing others speak about them and then introspecting our blind spots. The first step to getting better/ healing is acknowledging that there is a problem that requires working on…May the Lord grant you grace to win at improving yourself my brother…As always, very sound doctrine from Ps. M, thanks again Ma’am, you are God sent beyond words❤️🔥🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Sincerely. They need to .
@@taiwoolabisibalikis7924 no debating that! 😂❗
"If a man is hot tempered and hits the wall everytime, the day there's no wall, and Satan makes you look like a wall, he will hit you like a wall. Anger rests in the bosom of fools."
true
True
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Satan will make you look like a wall😂😂
@@midnightstar3340 not me!
As Dr Myles said," If he won't change to get you then he won't change to keep you"
Very true 💯💯
He can change to get you & when he does he'll go back to his original self..
Hmm
This is deep.
A man can go any extra miles to get a woman
So right
Amazing
1. Don't marry him if he is blind
2. Mommy's boy
3. Abusive dont beg for his attention
4. if he is hot tempered ( anger issues)
5.if he opinionated
6. Don't marry him if he is stingy
7. If he is unfaithful
8. If he is unruly he doesn't listen to anyone
9. If he spoils you
10. If he is unbeliever
Thankyou
Thank you
Great word here!!
People need to learn the art and science of #knowledge management. Acts 4: 12 will be called opinionated by some people, right? Knowledge management.
Missed one.dont marry an insecure or jealous man.one that is not okay with your success
Thank you
Don't marry him if...
1. He has no vision for his life and he can't see your potential. (min 1:07)
2. He is an insecure, jealous man. (min 3:07)
3. He is a momma's boy. (min 6:04)
4. He is abusive in any way. (min10:16)
5. He is hot-tempered, violent, or opinionated. (min 14:56)
6. He is stingy. (min 19:32)
7. He is unfaithful. (min 22:26)
8. He is unruly. (min 25:26)
9. He spoils you. (min 28:45)
10. He is an unbeliever. (min 32:04)
My boyfriend is all of the things mentioned. Hmm...this video has given me strength to walk away
@@benedictanyankom3819 more power to you!
That jealous and insecure, few days ago I was chatting with a group of ladies about men so one of us said she left a man because he is always checking on her like he is always wanting to know her whereabouts and who she is talking and two of the ladies among us said he is just jealous and protecting his property there’s nothing wrong with it. Guys, I went off🤮 I screamed and told one the ladies who is still single to run for her life if such a man come for her. Most men who ask their wives to quit their job and become housewives do that mostly out of jealousy and insecurity. Abeg nobody should proctect me in the name of protecting his property, my guardian angel will do that.🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
And if a man does not give a damn what you do with your life, people like you will claim he does not care.
@@solomonobihan9465 There’s a thin line between a man who cares and loves his wife dearly and a jealous man, know the difference brother Solomon. It’s a toxic trait and selfishness for a man to be overprotective and always wanting to know what gis woman is doing and who she is talking to. Is not healthy for a relationship.
I guess you are one of the men who do that, please is stop it, is not love🙄
My dear...
Man: Babe, I want you to quit your job...I can take care of all your needs
Me: Thanks Sir...but you cannot take care of me like my Lord Jesus would...
Man: If you love me,you would
Me: Bye boo
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@@iheukumerepearl515 you are funny😁😁😁
Dear @Solomon your comment is very toxic! Why should a man who says he loves his woman not give a damn about her? This type of mindset is the issue at hand! You sounds angry towards women… you need to check your heart bro!
Seems like you met my ex looool 💀🤣 I recently shared my testimony about how God delivered me from a long term abusive relationship with a highly narcissistic ex-boyfriend. I ignored so many red flags in the beginning and that relationship almost cost me my actual life. I’m one year out and so grateful to have made it out alive! Praise God ✝️🙏🏾
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Omo
I am happily married, I got married in July. I listened to Pst M drag our ears as single ladies about preventing a bad marriage starting from who we choose. God bless you Pst. M. I’m enjoying my marriage. More grace ma.
Love is patient
Love is kind
Love is on the wavering
Following u now helps me a lot & I’m still learning
God Bless you ma’am ❤❤❤❤
Don't marry him if he is lazy
Thank you ma for no 2, I need a car desperately but my mom said I shouldn't get a car because no man would want to marry me because I have too much money. But I'm getting it anyway
Get it !
Get it babe
The way we're conditioned to put men's needs on top of ours is really disgusting!
Love is just a fraction of our lives. You have a whole life to live for you. So get that car ma'am!!
Tell her you'll attract a man who has more and is secure on his woman having abundance.
God this society 🤦🏾♀️
That #9, I'm so proud of my man right now. He doesn't let me get away with bad behaviour. One night, I acted up in front of him and our pastor's wife who is like a mum to me. He made sure I apologized to her even though my attitude was directed at him. He talked to me and I started feeling foolish. That's just one scenario out of many. Thank God for him
We don’t cross breed in the Kingdom of God….don’t be unequally yoked📌📌
I had a man whom we break up few month ago.. I could see pain in his eyes when ever I do something great... He could not appreciate the little i did rather asking for my money in the name of borrow me money I will give u tomorrow till it turn into a habit... He could do this to bring me down.. Instead I drop him and keep myself get going.... 👍👍👍👍... In love with the teaching 💕❤️❤️💓💓♥️💖💖
Thank God you did ! My dad did the same to my mum and it ended up badly!!
Don't regret anything most women love us nowadays because of money make sure the next one has something to offer marry a capitalist not
@@realitycheck9463 The person in who was dropped is a man, not a woman. Read and understand.
@@jesusislord6507 thank you for the correction
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Been married for 18yrs and walking on egg shell. Thank goodness he is the one who applied for a divorce. I was suffering inside.
It is well ma
That’s God 🤞
Dear Lord! I am so sorry about what you had to go through. May the Lord keep you in perfect peace and help you to become what He has ordained you to be.
But God hates divorce
Bad 18 years walking on shells I could not have made it, I thrive on being myself
Last night I asked God for a confirmation on something that has been bothering me…
Today he brought me to this video. It’s my first time listening to you & this right here has all the confirmation I need.
Thanks for allowing God speak through you.
Thank you Holy Spirit for giving me light & direction 🙏
Can I be your friend Sharon
Same here
Same here 🙏🏽
I can do this mummy's boy lecture very well. I was dating someone that his mum practically controlled. When we were planning wedding, he was going to send money to his mum's account. Then he wanted me to be collecting any money I needed for the plans from her. The mum even wanted to get my wedding cloth. Plenty stories but God delivered me.
Hmmm.........my dear,I’m thankful to God on your behalf.
Wow... We thank God for the intervention
Did you finally married him or you left
Thank God
Chai! Really sounds like deliverance.
Oh myyyy I should be more grateful for my husband, check check check 💃🏾💃🏾. Thank you Jesus! Lord Help me to be a better wife always and forever in Jesus name 🙏🏾
Same, here. Hallelujah
AMEN 🙏
The part : Don’t marry him if he spoils you
That shocked me but I liked it
My boyfriend scoring 100% on this one. I'm so proud of him!
God when😅🤲🏿
Lord I'm not a plate 🥺🤲🏾
@@wendubeauty I tell you 😂😭
Mine too, so proud, thank God for him.. and yours too.
@@wendubeauty 😂😂
"At every point in a man's life, he needs someone that can speak over him". I deeply appreciate this ma. Thank you for ALWAYS
This woman is full of Holy Spirit humour 😂😂 pastor M is pure vibes mehnn love you ma’am ❤️
She is too much oo. Wisdom from above
What do you have that Jesus doesn't have 🤣🤣🤣Much love from Uganda 🇺🇬 Always blessed with ur teachings, mentoring sessions and pastoring
Has an ex husband who is abusive both emotional and verbally,I left when he said he wanted separation and promised myself never to go back. Thank God my life is getting better now
Can you make a video for " don't marry her if...."
Some of us really didn’t receive good/balanced counseling before we took that step.
Hopefully it's not too late. God bless you!
Yes unfortunately.
If you earned to get it have it
Pastor Mildred, please do a sequel video for Men. To help us as well in picking right. This was pretty insightful ❤️🤍✨
Pk did that already ♥️
Her husband does that already.
Pastor Mildred your teaching is profoundly superior to information given by online relationship counselors because 1) you are smart and I love it when you say "let me put things into context" and then you proceed to clarify even more. I appreciate that God has given intelligent people to the body of Christ.
2) you know and include
scriptures appropriately.
Thank God for you.
Good afternoon ma , i have been really bless by your teachings , i m really vex with what is going on in the body of Christ . I m single and i come to discover that we spend so much time tutoring the single ladies ( not that is bad ) than the single brothers . I see an imbalance in the system . So while emphasis is laid on the single ladies to be christian women , The brothers are busy being brothers ... So we have a lot of sisters spiritually prepared for mariage than brothers . We simply assume they are there . While they are not there . A wonderful sister leaves a rugged guy in the streets just to come inside the church or fellowship and meet a rugged acclaimed brother youth president of the fellowship..... I just feel this has to be addressed . Please there is an urgent need for our brothers to be properly groom spiritually . God is faithful. Let the brothers be addressed to avoid future pitfalls especially in the body of Christ. My opinion . Thanks
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There are so many teaching out there for men
So on point!Explains the imbalance.
Hi Vanessa! To be honest, this couple has been giving balanced teachings and it is not over still. It is not a match between men and women. I agree with your point about the roots of the problem which extend to inside the Church. Pastors of good intentions try their best but ultimately, we are a broken Church that has lost unity, axed sacraments, deleted authority so basically in rebellion. I am a practicing Catholic and find it hard to find someone with the same marriage intentions, even among Catholics. It is even harder in protestant circles, in my opinion. The Pastor once taught a fundamental truth that God does not strike alliances with individuals but with whole generations. But, unfortunately, Protestantism does not view things that way: no baptism for children because they are too small to decide for themselves for example. There is so much focus on individual merit and wish that it is hard for the body of Christ to shape up. That is why you see so much drama.
Many years ago, young and Naïve I got married to No. 2, a man so jealous and insecure [ a narcissist] and it was hell.....fast forward another woman come along and grabbed him from me..... Haaaa kikikikiki .......may she enjoy him..... thanks for the lessons woman of God.
This happening to me but he’s still stalking g me and it’s weird
Hot tempered , stingy, violence, abusive. No no.
When the person is unfaithful before marriage, he/she will be unfaithful in marriage. Real life.
I have just discovered your channel about 2 days ago and have watched a couple of your videos. I must say, you are the first Pastor I have heard who speaks sensible things. You don't degrade women by letting them submit to foolishness or succumb to abuse like I'm always hearing from other pastors. God bless you ma'am. You are full of wisdom.
My life has changed since I came across your channel, you and your husband have greatly enlightened me. I make better decisions now and I have declared God the beginning and the end of all my affairs.
God will help us to seek His face in choosing a life partner and be yielding when He speaks to us. Hearing messages is not enough until we can actually apply it practically to our lives
Do you need help? To fix your broken relationship?
He will definitely help you he have solutions to all problems
I need to watch this again. The dead and living analogy is powerful 💥
I think you should add, "Don't marry a broke man". Men tend to be strange when they are broke and then transform into strangers when their finances pick up.😅
Sigh..i've seen this happen so many times...
I agree
The reverse is the same…
I Amina have broken the relationship o! Thank you big ma for your messages!
This is great for men to watch, so that we can ask ourselves: How do I stack up?
Good question. Your woman will help you become a better man. So working on your communication will be the next step.
Yes sirrrr!!!
I wish I listened to this message earlier. I was with a man that was unruly,stingy with compliments and hot tempered 😭 and I’m still recovering. Thank you 😊
I pray that God will help you heal very soon and give you peace! 🙏🏾
The way Pastor Mildred hits her point even while joking...its💥💥💥
How many unruly men have we met?
Hmm this was a blessing, when I think "Maybe I am too picky now" I then come across such mentoring sessions and realise God is protecting me and asking me to wait a lil longer. 🙏🏽
It's not a matter of being picky dear, you are the glory of the man not the other way around..
No you’re not picky. You’re saving and protecting yourself
Sometimes I feel am too picky especially when I get a feedback from people that my standards are too high but this counsel is right on time.
@@vurale.baraol7292 true oo.. sometimes I'm told I'm too picky. But then, times come when He makes you see that you just need to wait a little.
Exactly me too. It has its own reasons if haven't find the right person in a long time.
Some people stinginess pass Akagum , some people na chewing gum and super glue . Some people have more money but if you raise him up and shake him left , right and center , one cobo will not come out ...😂😂😂
You're so full of wisdom and make marriage look good. Which is rare especially on the Internet where people just complain about it.
and the divorce rates…chale. abusive relationship rates are even going up.
"Don't marry him if he spoils you"
Wow! Well explained 💖
God bless you ma
Blood of Jesus 😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣
@@sthandisiwejijingubo8244 🤣🤣🤣
Yup, just manipulation
❤️❤️❤️ Pastor M, you are the Big sister i never had. I appreciate your wisdom so much
There is something about Mildred thank you so much you always make me see life in a different direction infact l love you and the entire Nigerian
I've just been addicted to your message since I stumble upon your channel two weeks ago 💪🙏💕
Am blessed that I stumbled on this channel. Thank you all the way from 🇸🇸🇸🇸 South Sudan
I am just watching this now and have to thank you for this advice .It really is important to check these thing before marriage.People out here are suffering because they chose partners without considering these things.
My husband is unruly & is destroying his own life.. a fake life, portrays what is a lie to the outside world; but lives something else privately. 5 months in we're already divorcing. It's the worst feeling!!
Don't do it ladies.. a man needs a mentor!!
I'm in the stage of my life where I really need this advice. Thank you pastor Mildred for sharing
Your words pierces through me real deep ma'am 💯
Thank u ma 😘 💓
You and Pastor .K. are just a blessing to us. Remain blessed Ma.💗💓
This really blessed my life so much ma’am...Thanks for all you do for the kingdom
I love this woman ooo🤣🤣 it's the dance for me! I celebrate the greatness in you. God bless you ma.
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Very educative and insighting.
Thank you Ma'am. God continue to bless you and your ministry.
Pastor M it's a privilege to have you since l started hearing with your teachings my life has changed.
I LOVE THE TEACHINGS I HAVE HEARD FROM YOU!! YOU HAVE A SWEET HUMBLE SPIRIT.
Pastor M has out done herself in this series, you are such a blessing to us of this generation who really knows the truth and still choose the lie. God bless you ma for been that voice that wakes youngsters up from their slumbering .
Listening to this message today 17/04/2024 and it has blessed my soul. He is a wonderful God for speaking to me through this message.
This is actually a good teaching. Hopefully, we will actually have the courage to walk away from this toxic traits.
Some singles will see this and still go ahead to marry such men because eh I love him and you guys don’t want me to be married.. Take it from a woman in a verbally abusing and controlling marriage.RUN!
So loving the vibes that’s coming with this message 😍. God bless you ma’am for this🙏 Pray we marry right🙏
It's true ma,thank you for the powerful mentorship session I have benefited as a single lady I will watch out for those signs 🙏❤️❤️
I thank God my friend recommended your video to me. Now I have good relationship with God
I always learn a lot anytime I listen to you and Pst K...ever since I learnt that one of the Gospel singers we have in Nigeria died as a result of an abusive marriage, abusive in all sense of the word, I still can't believe that a beautiful light such as that can be quenched just by the wrong choice of husband.
Let those that have eyes hear what you and your husband preach. You are God sent to this our generation..more grace and I love you both.
that story was very sad and unfortunate. shes resting with Jesus now 🕊, i hope her husbands gets what he deserves and their children heal. i cant imagine what they’re going through.
Thank you Ma for this educative and insightful message. God bless you ma.
This is power packed🔥🔥. Thank you Ma🙏
Beautiful. We need more of this
I’m married but these things are real and I talk to my girls about these. Thanks a lot. I’ve already shared this video with my daughters. Thanks again.
Pastor M I just love you so much. Thanks for being a blessing to this generation
Soooooooo good Pastor Mildred Okonkwo! Thank you so much!
Wow. Awesome teaching ma. Thank you ma. God bless you ma.
I was almost killed because the person got anger problems, thank God I ran and never looking back.... Thanx 4 this information dearest u are just a blessing to many woman out there...
Same. I recently shared my testimony about how God delivered me from a long term abusive relationship with a highly narcissistic ex-boyfriend. I’m one year out and so grateful I made it out!
@@LifeMadeByRadw where’s the link?
So instructive so deep, the generation that hear these things now ahead as so blessed they don't even know it!
I LIKE THE WAY YOU PUT ALL THINGS IN CONTEXT, AND IN RELATION TO THE WORD OF TRUTH.
The teaching were impactful. Thanks for sharing the word with us. I actually picked from the point; don't marry him if he's an unbeliever. I am lifted with the explanation and it was quite a great guide. Thanks
This is your first video I’m watching and I consider myself luck to get this before making the biggest mistake of my life..may God bless you ❤️🙏 for opening my eyes to see n know things I do not know before
May God bless you woman of God, you are such a blessing to me. Your teachings have taught me alot
thank you Mildred ...am so empowered by your teachings as a single mother...God bless you
Tfs. To everyone reading this, Jesus loves you!!
He loves you too!
Beautiful message and well said. Sometime men behavioral pattern can be random and sometime they don't know. I pray for God grace over my life. I am fully 100% inline with these Pastor.
Today is my last day of fasting for a confirmation I have been praying to God for and now here you popped up on my scrawlings oh my goodness I think God's answer come through this video
Thank you for throwing light on marrying believers only. That analogy was top-class.
Thank you!
Pastor Mildred, you really get better at doing and teaching with these videos each time..
Listening to you had been a huge blessing. Helped me in becoming a better lady and transformed my life. I love your audacity in preaching God's word without shame. I really believe I'd get to see you someday and steal few moments with you.
God bless you for all that you do. Keep shining ma!
What if the lady is a mummy's girl and listens to her mum over her man, is that also a red flag?
Beautiful!!! Thank you woman of God. I am super blessed.
I have enjoyed this and am grateful for people like you who put value in our lives. God bless you.
Welcome back Mama!!! We miss mentoring sessions
More Grace ma... I’ve learnt a lot.. God bless you mama. God please help me not just to be a hearer but a doer.. Amen 🙏
And we also fight nd quarrel too but we always find ourselves coming back to talking…..
Love this mama, thank you for sharing God's light...had to come watch this to be sure I'm on the right track in my relationship. And yes, I am
A word is enough for the wise! Single ladies wise up please. Thank you ma, I came to learn for my 3 girls. 😆
Thank you ma,for this beautiful advice 🥰🥰
I love your bluntness ma. I learnt, unlearnt and relearnt. GOD bless you ma.
This came at the right time as am about to get married. God works in mysterious ways can't wait to listen to all the other teachings on this channel.
Thank you so much ma ❤️ ❤️. This is so helpful and eye opening.😊🙏
Things Jotted. Thank you so much Ma❤❤❤
GREAT GREAT WORK ,MORE GRACE IN YOUR MINISTRY,WITH MORE ILLUMINATION!!! AMEN!!!
God bless you ma'am!
May God continue to strengthen and keep you❤
Such a serious topic explained with so much chill and youthful vibe. I love you so much Ma, for this. Thanks for opening my eyes, I never knew I fell under one of these categories; precisely the stingy guy category. He is thriving in his career but will never put in a word for me. I really don't depend on him financially because I am a very independent woman. He is also not generous with compliments and he is always quick to attribute this to his personality trait.
Oh Lord, I have just been saved from a life long mistake. Thanks alot, Ma.
Awesome 👏 insight Ma🙏