' I just discovered that my husband has been sleeping with our house-help. Should I leave him?'

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  • čas přidán 21. 08. 2024
  • Tonight on #TheMarriageCoach
    Viewer's dilemma:
    ' I just discovered that my husband has been sleeping with our house-help. Should I leave him?'
    What will our coach, Wanjiru Kiama advise her? And what would be your advise?

Komentáře • 56

  • @geospeenterprises8286
    @geospeenterprises8286 Před rokem +8

    Nowadays this issue of househelps has become unbearable. Many men are sleeping with the househelps. Such a shame

  • @judy4139
    @judy4139 Před 11 měsíci +1

    Women should be deprogrammed from taking such men back.Its literally an insult mtu kurudi after such betrayal.Wakienda waende kabisa.Women r not cushions for absorbing mistreatment

  • @anitathuku3723
    @anitathuku3723 Před rokem +5

    I grew up as a christian but am now an atheist. I remember the bible says that it's ONLY adultery that can separate 2 people who love each. Forgiving adultery is like encouraging promiscuity. Siwezi

    • @irynejames5161
      @irynejames5161 Před rokem

      And the God you knew when you were a Christian (as you claim) is the same God even when you claim to be an atheist. Its upto you.

    • @jom.8938
      @jom.8938 Před rokem

      @anitathuku3723- kudos! How is your relationship with an omuhusband interfering with your relationship with God? God is not a man so that he should lie- meaning men(your husband, yourself and I) are capable of listening to the father of lies and committing adultery and God has nothing to do with it. If a man decides that grass is greener over the fench- let him eat over there- a day is coming

    • @anitathuku3723
      @anitathuku3723 Před rokem

      @@jom.8938 I think your understanding of my comment is so shallow. Re read the comment because i will not explain to you like a 2 year old, or leave my comment and listen to the message said by the marriage counsellor.

    • @jom.8938
      @jom.8938 Před rokem

      @@anitathuku3723 - hmmm.
      Who hurt you? Shallow and speaking to adults as 2 year olds- tells that alot is going on. Insulting others will not heal your pain or issues. And from this 2 year old - forgiveness is not for the offender but for the offended. Peace

  • @judygicimu5633
    @judygicimu5633 Před rokem +6

    Monica i pray one day i will give life story in this metha ya kagoni😢😢😢

  • @florencewanjikuo5445
    @florencewanjikuo5445 Před rokem +14

    Today the discussion is 🔥 Thanks Kagoni for making this possible many people will take good advice....salimia our very able counsellor tunamupenda Sana... Pia wewe tunakulov🤗

  • @judygicimu5633
    @judygicimu5633 Před rokem +7

    My bitter life story. Kwanza wangu alinitukana mbele yake n told me am a very stupid woman who never knew what happens in my own house😣😣😣those words ring a fresh to my mind daily since 2016 n last yr 2022 i still discovered their still together

  • @millicentnjeri6985
    @millicentnjeri6985 Před rokem +3

    i think the pain that one partner(victim) choses to live with after such betrayal is on their own, cz God permits divorce on such account, adultery....so He knew it is painful and a human being might not bear

  • @jacklinewaweru5959
    @jacklinewaweru5959 Před 9 měsíci

    If the wife is the agressive of the breadwinner and the man is idle.....automatically the man unless he has character will get into mischief.....women should get older women,dayschoolers.....wakiama you are wise ....many old wise women tell men around their forties are dangerous and can v destructive.....discuss when men and women get mid life crisis and how they should handle it ....

  • @catherinemureithi9404
    @catherinemureithi9404 Před rokem +1

    Kudos was Kiama! You are such a truthful marriage counselor and I like the way you use the word of God

  • @wanjasarova8446
    @wanjasarova8446 Před rokem

    Great woman,our mum wa Kiama,,Really graced by God...wise counsel mom,God bless you

  • @joyjoy7660
    @joyjoy7660 Před rokem

    Thanks Monica n mum....ur topics are very educative n Godly,,mum wakiama augire arii gwataniro na bishop Jane kingori,✓ni ataranaga na ungai muingi muno,,,niii niliachwa na mimba ya 7mnth,,,akataftiwa bibi mwingine na mom in law,today it's 8yrs past,sijawahi olewa not dating am 34yrs,,,yeye alioa Ako na watoto....wakiama iguru riuii muthuri ucio wa uiritu wakwa niwe muthuri wakwa,,,we don't talk with him nor does he assist in any way,monicah na wakiama haha riu atia🤷

  • @wambuimuchai4230
    @wambuimuchai4230 Před rokem

    The truth is very hard to hear, and this wisdom is sometimes a bitter pill to swallow, but one thing I've learned is that a wife should keep herself fresh and value herself.
    Love Wakiama .

  • @janekogi6442
    @janekogi6442 Před rokem +2

    Ndukiririe problem cia empty nest after retirement,Niki athuri matuage mutumia kairitu kanini ga kurorerwo thaa na arata ukerwo ndekwena,,nyumba ni thigithigi itathiraga,none based issues na many complain,if you don't adhere utaona chaputa makuuuni

  • @jushiyalemaiyan280
    @jushiyalemaiyan280 Před rokem +3

    They are not called med call them house help that is the good name please

  • @marysamweru
    @marysamweru Před rokem +7

    Hi Monica where do we send $ for lunch. Queen Esther really blesses me and she’s so genuine.

  • @josephwabita8662
    @josephwabita8662 Před 11 měsíci

    Wakagoni we very funny that's why I watch your show Kwanza ukijifanya ati uko shocked ❤😂😅

  • @jacqueypatrick4090
    @jacqueypatrick4090 Před rokem

    Such a wonderful program and it's true. Pay back time is always there. Ask my Dad after living us tukiwa watoi atì tha ici mutumia ùcio nìwe ethaga akìmùìtia ùteithio

  • @ceciliaogola5597
    @ceciliaogola5597 Před rokem +1

    Wakiama l love your teaching

  • @irenejoyce8456
    @irenejoyce8456 Před rokem +1

    Wakiama & Kagoni, my mum had a lady who once(by God’s grace) had a tongue slip and said while laughing “saa zingine hata utakasirika ukojole mboga hehehe”. By 6.29am the next morning I’d helped her pack her bags and given her tea and she was at the stage with all her money and in matatu back to their home. Dikweda goma 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽!!

    • @anitathuku3723
      @anitathuku3723 Před rokem +2

      What did she mean exactly by kukojolea mboga?

    • @irenejoyce8456
      @irenejoyce8456 Před rokem

      @@anitathuku3723 literally to pee on the kitchen garden when she gets annoyed with my mum. I saw her out asap 👏🏽

  • @MyJOSE2013
    @MyJOSE2013 Před rokem +3

    I strongly bilieve God punishes people with mipango ya kando since most people these days fornicate freely before marriage. How then can he allow you to enjoy marriage founded in sin 🤔

  • @marynyaga8522
    @marynyaga8522 Před rokem +5

    Ii ma tondu niu ndaikirio nja na joint account igicenjio, no ngai no akandihiria

  • @Sindi63084
    @Sindi63084 Před rokem +1

    I.left because he was planning to kill me...😢

  • @gracenjuguna6852
    @gracenjuguna6852 Před rokem

    You are doing a good job mum

  • @naominjeri5577
    @naominjeri5577 Před rokem

    True just serve him food..am the bread winner after he made funny decisions and was sacked from a very good job .. whenever he's around,he cooks food..but nampakulia .. it's just simple...vile hata wewe ukija nitakupakulia . Don't do shingo upande...guikira irio thani ti murigo..

  • @susannyokabi1785
    @susannyokabi1785 Před 11 měsíci

    Wonderful talk

  • @janekogi6442
    @janekogi6442 Před rokem

    Ata kiri muthinyiri Ngai,ndoi kuhoithia,ndathiaga kanitha,menyai kigitio giketwo kirimu no ta ngurwe ihetwo ruru

  • @Suzie-Yule-Diadem
    @Suzie-Yule-Diadem Před rokem

    It's such a hard topic, loaded with wisdom,

  • @joyjoy7660
    @joyjoy7660 Před rokem

    .....ata wenye napatana nawao ni wanaume wawenyewe so I don't give a chance tondu ndingienda ona thuu yakwa igerere ruo gutarii mundu ungihota kuelewa uritu waguo

  • @petersonkibara3149
    @petersonkibara3149 Před 11 měsíci

    Nĩma ti wega , Kau gatihota ũtungata wa mũtumia. No gĩthĩna

  • @charity4908
    @charity4908 Před rokem +1

    Psalm 53...those who say there is no God, they are fools...

  • @carolinewanjiku6610
    @carolinewanjiku6610 Před rokem +2

    A woman is the bread winner? How then does the man prove his manhood to others? He does the only thing that he can afford, move with cheap women to get.

  • @marymugwe7150
    @marymugwe7150 Před rokem

    I love this mama

  • @charity4908
    @charity4908 Před rokem

    😅😅😅 roho wa mwiri...mahoya...
    oh my goodness😅😅

  • @annewaithera2498
    @annewaithera2498 Před rokem +1

    Very nice topic

  • @ja9293
    @ja9293 Před rokem +1

    narcissistic men never learn ........just leave

  • @rosemarynyambura8227
    @rosemarynyambura8227 Před rokem +2

    For a house girl , it is very painful &so shameful , forgiveness is so impossible

  • @eunicembia2318
    @eunicembia2318 Před rokem +1

    Is it a must to have a house help my friend ?

  • @waridim9249
    @waridim9249 Před 10 měsíci

    Athuri a Jamhuri nî Ngai, mxtcheeew! Pathetic!

  • @marynyaga8522
    @marynyaga8522 Před rokem

    Amen