Entitled Nice Guys: A Rant
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Everything said in this video is COMPLETELY True, i have had friends and MYSELF have these things happen to us! And i really want it to stop.
I'm glad you can relate lol
I am trying to get to the bottom of when this whole 'nice guys are entitled' idea came into existence. I first heard of it 10 years ago and was totally blown away. I have never met someone that would do half of these 'nice guy' behaviors after getting rejected. Is it a neurotypical thing? Honestly and genuinely curious, as none of my women friends had any insight on it.
Yeah, sometimes it's worth seeing how an interested party handles rejection as there is a chance their true personality will be immediately revealed.
damn... he got friend zoned for life
What I think leads to Nice Guy Entitlement is many men from the time they were boys were shamed and trained to be Nice Guys. When young men are told they have to have impeccable manners and be nice or they wouldn't get a second date can certainly have unintended consequences. That being entitlement. A Nice Guy could also even become hypervigilant by trying extra hard to be nice and trying to do it right all of the time and trying to be perfect.
tbh I just don't understand what scenario a person has to be raised in to have this massively toxic mindset.
this whole video goes both ways, just much less common within females, somehow, way more common than it should be within men though.
this rant was clearly a needed vent, and is completely true, keep on keeping on girl.
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AMEN!. These types of guys needs to watch this! srry i mean little boys
lol!
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Facts don't be nice just because you want something
I personally think it has something to do with how your brain reacts to being flooded with the chemical cocktail that is "falling" for someone *and how you learn to navigate these feelings*.
As a male you're often left alone to figure out this mess on your own, it's usually hard to find someone who has the emotional availability to guide you with this.
I've met many guys who only learned to navigate negative emotions and frustration through aggression and by repressing everything, in a "bro" mentality kind of way, that's not healthy.
Not knowing how to deal with your emotions, getting attached and not being able to work through rejection, at least that's what I think is partially going on here.
How many guys do this? I don't think I have ever met one. I've heard of men saying "it's her loss" to his buddies later, but I sincerely never heard of a guy losing his shit because someone he was crushing on turned him down. It is natural for him to be disappointed, and he is going to want to distance himself from her so that he can get over it and focus on something else. Guys aren't morons, we don't believe that being courteous to someone is going to guarantee anything, just the hope that we get the level of courtesy in return. I don't know at what point decent men just started getting demonized and labeled as entitled because they dared to be attracted to someone.
You sound like a decent guy then. The amount of guys who do exactly what I describe in this video is out of control. My boyfriend didn't used to think guys did this either (because he's awesome and not obnoxious) but when he saw it in action around a few girl friends of mine and also learned this is how I was consistently treated by many, many guys before we were together, he finally understood. If you aren't female it's hard to see, but ask your girl friends in VRC and you'll hear that this is actually way more common than it should be lol
You are sadly mistaken and maybe that's a good thing. This is actually very common. Decent men and "nice guys" aren't the same thing.
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I would never long-term a girl who had a bunch of Chad's hanging around all the time, and out of Respect, if in a Serious relationship, would lose all my spare Karens hanging around me, thats just the nature of things in order to have a Smooth flowing life. If you think otherwise, Time will prove you wrong.
This is 100% right. Human beings are territorial and jealous beasts. Every single one of them. So if you are dating an attractive female who has a bunch of guy 'friends' just hanging around all the time, it is going to be a problem at some point, if not from the beginning. This goes both ways too, so if your boyfriend has a bunch of girl 'friends', you either talk to them about it, or break up with them. That whole, "I've had friends of the opposite sex my whole life. I just get along with them better." is straight BS.
staright facts
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This makes no sense
I’m getting creep show art vibes. Yikes 😬
In today's terms, we would summarize this video by saying:
The Simps are down bad.
Then these guys get mad like wtf if a girl ain't interested in you move on simple
Great video! I totally see your point!
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most of this is true except for the fact that a girl and a guy can just be friends, especially on VRChat. If you are cuddling you're not JUST friends.
For example: If you wouldn't do it in front of your bf/gf irl, then its not okay in VRChat either.
I agree with the general message that you don't deserve anything for being nice. But Having expectations isn't the same as feeling entitled. From my experience, just like guys, Girls have expectations about how they want relationships to go which can be either romantic or friendly and it's only human to be disappointed when your expectations aren't met. For example if a male friend would want more than just be friends, both parties have different expectations from the current relationship and there's noone in the wrong, but both might feel bad about it. Also something that I'm not really sure about myself but is it really wrong to hang out with someone with ulterior motive to date eventually? It's not like you can ask someone out day 1, but after you somewhat established some relationship.
Still I think the msg in the video holds true, and being nice to net a reward is pretty sad.
I think there's a difference between setting an obvious intention to perhaps date while also just getting to know someone first, and presenting yourself as just a friend and then expecting more from it. That's the situation I'm talking about here. Your points are good ones :)
It's kinda cringe that you posted this on your youtube channel. This type of thing should remain between you and your therapist. 😂
Everything said in this video is COMPLETELY True, i have had friends and MYSELF have these things happen to us! And i really want it to stop.