Bisexual stories: I discovered my bisexuality while married to my high school sweetheart!
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- čas přidán 23. 07. 2024
- What happens when you discover your bisexuality when you're married? Lots of possibilities...but this is what happened to me!
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The fact that as an almost 27 y/o woman, in a relationship with a man for 6 years now, not even dated a single woman in my life, and growing up conservative, that I feel better knowing that even tho I didn't realize my bisexuality until now, I am still valid. My husband is a Saint, and my friends are my rock. I couldn't ask for a better support group than them.
Yes you are valid!!!! I’m so glad you have a solid support system too. 💖💜💙
I didn’t figure it out until I was in my 40’s
lucky you , im in a 18 year marriage 25 year realationship . yep my wife and i use that term loosley . when we were dating she didnt act like a girlfriend and after she married me did not and has not acted like a married woman it took me almost 5 years just to get her to where the damn ring. so 1 night we had a blow up. i was tired of no sex and asked her wtf was going on. once we talked out our anger (mostly me) she said she thinks she is bi. big shock to me (knew something was wrong) and i asked how did she know? her answer was , im attracted to women , my answer , have you ever confessed to or kissed another woman ? her answer no my next question have you ever had sex with another woman ? her answer no. july 2022 a few weeks ago , (my wife is the manager of a restaurant ) a new employee was on a rant about gay people , my wifes responce was , several fellow workers were gay the assistant manager is gay and the store manager is bi (which is ..... you guessed it my wife) and so we had almost the same conversation we had 10 years ago except some words had changed . can you guess which ones. the answer to have you ever kissed another woman changed from no to yes , and the answer to the question of had she had sex with a woman had changed to yes but with a very quickly added (before i met you). i believe she has cheated on me from day 1 , 2 of (our kids) dont take after me at all in any way . 1 looks like a (best friend) she had in highschool and the other looks like her last boyfriend she had before we started dating . the youngest and last 1 kid probably looks like her real father , i dont know what he look like but i do know she went on a (girls night out) 2 nights in a row . 9 months later (we dont really know since she didnt not even once go to a clinic or see a doctor the whole time she was prego . so yeah im pretty bitter and thinking divorce , im 54 (this year) and she is 11 years younger , and i still think she is screwing some bitch on the side and has for years . but i cant prove it just like i cant prove these kids aint mine (mostly because i cant afford a paternity test).
Shit lol we all dealing with it glad I found out I just hit 30 lol I’m out the door see my kids when I pick them up from school and on weekends fuck this shit lol I ain’t sign up for this 😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆all the ass I turned down for her shidd I can do bad by myself
@@briancathey498 she's doesn't deserve life .
Truly , you're a saint not to have ended that already.
Evil woman
I'm in my late 20s, and just started figuring out I'm bi about 4 months ago, so I felt this in my BONES......
🥰 welcome to the famileeeee
This video speaks so much to me. I am a 37 year old cis guy in a longterm straight presenting relationship. I realised less than 6 month ago that I am Bi and my wife has been super understanding and supportive. Nothing changed in our relationship or my day to day life, but I feel like I unlocked a part of me that jas been hidden for so long and I can be a more authentic version of myself.
Yes - I feel all of this! I'm so happy for you. That unlocking is so powerful. Thank you for sharing
Totally get this ❤😊
Gross so you like poop!
I’m 26 and also married my male straight cis high school sweetheart. When we met almost 11 years ago we had both been raised super religiously/were at a religious school, where there was no space for questioning or exploring sexuality. I have spent the last 5+ years feeling like my bisexuality isn’t valid as I’ve only ever been with a man monogamously. This video and all the comments make me feel seen… still figuring things out but thank you for sharing 💖💜💙
I'm glad you feel seen, and sending you love as you navigate!
This is actually very interesting because my religious upbringing made me realize I was bisexual in a way I was defending LGBT way too hard and I did some introspection I'm also very self aware 😅😅
Just turned 37 last week. And I’ve been very happy with my husband. We’ve been married for 13 years and together for 17. I came out to him last night and he’s been so supportive and caring. It’s nice to know We’re not alone 💖💜💙
That is such wonderful news!!! Thank you for sharing
I came out to my husband last night. I am 42. Now the journey begins. May i ask how it has went for you in the past 4 months since you posted?
@@guinea.hill.homestead holy crap so much! I started therapy and my husband and I have been able to really communicate for the first time. We still have normal life fights, but the volume of our voices gets lower with each thing we say to each other. It’s like we just got married again.
@@lindzamoe85 thank you so much for letting me know. I anticipate it will be this way with us as well.
Maybe hes thinking 3 ways i cant imagine a guy accepting this ,not likely
Thank you for this video! Perfect timing for me to find it. I recently accepted that I am bi (but have known it for years, honestly) and just came out to my husband this week. Convo went well! I’m now in the process of looking for more support and community. Thank you for helping me not feel so alone :)
Wow congratulations!!!! I’m so glad the convo with your husband went well!! Welcome to this little community - you make me feel less alone too so thank you for being here 💜💜💜
like captain holt said Every time someone steps up and says who they are, the world becomes a better, more interesting place.
💗💜💙 🙏🏼
@@jennicahill what does bisexual relationship look like?
@@MightyJuan154 I’m not sure how to answer that! A relationship is just a relationship and doesn’t need a label necessarily I’d say 💜
@@jennicahill I see. So congratulations on your marriage and coming out bisexual, Jennica Hill!
I came across this video at the perfect time. I’m married to the love of my life - AND - I am bi/pansexual. For me, embracing this part of myself now, at 30 years old, is more about allowing my soul to be fully free, because I suppressed my bisexuality for most of my life. I don’t have a desire to leave my marriage or to be with anyone else, but just knowing that this part of me exists and that I can embrace it in my own way feels really good. Like coming home to myself. Thank you for this video! ❤
Thank you for sharing! It’s always so helpful to find out that we are not alone in these experiences! I’m so glad you’ve been embracing who you are - it’s so freeing, right?!
I am 46 years old and have just recently realized that I am bisexual over the last six months. I’ve been with my husband since high school and this is a brand new thing for me as well. I’m just a baby bi like you said.😂 thank you for this video.
thank you for sharing! so many of us out here 💜💜
Also married to my HS sweetheart. For 12 years next month. And the past few months have accepted that I am bi. I never gave myself permission to let that part of me out. And it feels bizarre and I’m terrified to tell anyone because I just know they’ll say “why does it even matter.” Plus - I have conservative Christians on both sides of my family
Hi Liz!!! I felt a huge pang in my heart reading this because I know how it feels. I’m so glad you’ve accepted this part of you!!! So much to celebrate even if you haven’t figured out how to let it out to other people. Those who say “why does it even matter” just don’t understand and are projecting their own fears. Sending you big love new friend! 💖💜💙🌟
As a bisexual trans woman, I love this video! ❤ thank you so much for raising awareness of bisexual people and sharing this video!
@@schylerspace thank you!!! 💗
I feel seen through your self discovery journey. I've just recently had this realisation that I am a bi woman but I am in a relationship with a cis guy for 6 years! Bi erasure is so deeply engraved in our society. Thank you so much for sharing❤️ :')
Thank you so much for watching and sharing your story too!!! It makes me so happy that you feel seen
So relatable! At 33 I've been going through this after, just getting married last year to a wonderful bi man. I think being with him was part of what made me feel safe to start honoring this part of myself. LOVE to see other bi women married to men being open and proud!
Yes!! Thank you
Super relatable, I was literally in the same situation where I didn’t come out until years into a committed relationship, it can be tough and you do think a lot about visibility. On one hand you don’t want people to think it invalidates your current relationship, but on the other you want to show people that it’s not invalidated and you can have a happy healthy relationship with one person of one gender while still liking more than one. Love that you took the time to speak on this! 💜
yes yes yes. thank you!
I'm so glad I found this video! In a very similar position: from a theater background, late 20's, happily married in a hetero relationship, and going to an inner journey of rediscovery.
Finding your video was a huge relief. Honestly I'm sick of hearing that I needed to cheat on my spouse in order to really "know for sure" if I'm bi. I also don't have memories of "always knowing" etc, probably because a) I legitimately have a terrible memory and b) intense social and internal pressure and confusion.
I'm just now starting to peel back the layers and feeling safe enough to see the true "me". Thank you for helping me feel seen and navigate this together!
I'm so greatful for your videos. I've started to fully embrace my sexuality and it feels so similar to what you describe. I've been hiding this part from everyone and myself for almost 30 years! I have had many years of pretty severe anxiety, panic attacks and meltdowns for years. I slowly started feeling better and then my sexuality kindof drops on me and taking a few months to reflect and coming into acceptence and love for this part of myself has made me feel GOOD. I want to wake up, I feel stronger and happier and it just makes me think, how many who suffer from mental illness who are repressing their sexuality too.
I’m so happy that things are feeling better for you now and that you’re embracing yourself 💜⭐️ I have wondered the same thing and just hope everyone can find ways back to themselves. Sending you lots of love!
I love this video so much!! Thank you for giving voice to your experience and for being you!!
HEART EXPLOSION!!! Thank you for being YOU. Love you Emily!
This is me except I've been married to my hubby for almost 28 yrs. A few months ago my amazing 16 yr.old pan child helped me realize (what I sort of, kind of already knew) who I really am!! Growing up in a southern baptist family can do a number on ya!!
I'm sure it can!!! What a great kid you have!!! Your 16-year-old's generation seems to have a better grasp on tolerance in this area of life especially. I'm so happy for you!
Coming from a Mormon upbringing I relate to the religious thing ,that itself can do a number on your mind . But I was honest w my kids and iam pretty sure they've always known .
I would love to hear from your husband, how he felt and coped. Could really help other husband in this position.
@@lhamlett5 unfortunitely I think he's still in denial.He says I've never been with a woman so I'm not really bi. I think he feels threatened or like he's not enough,but he has no reason to feel that way and deep down he knows that. I totally understand it's a little bit of a shock after 28 yrs.
@@terriepannell7043 he is probably thinking that the reason you confessed is because you are tired of your relationship and want to explore and obviously he doesn’t want that. So just reassure him that you would never do that
Thank you for sharing, Jennica - keep doing your magical thing!
Back at you Rodriguez!!! Love you immensely! 💜 thank you for watching
As someone who is 26 and just reconciled with the fact that they are bi a month before marrying the loml and the only person I’ve really been with (who is a cis gender straight male) this made me feel seen. I also have only come out to my fiancé, closest friends and future sis in law and am grateful for the support. No idea what happens next. But I’m okay with just figuring out where I am now. 🥺❤️
Congratulations on this huge step you've taken! I'm so glad you feel seen - that means the most to me. It'll be a process, and you'll keep growing in it and finding ways to embrace yourself. I'm so happy for you and am sending you love!
@@jennicahill Thank you so much!
Thank you for this, i am married to a woman and this resonates so much!! After the healing work i discovered and accepted myself 💫😻🥰😍🤗
💜🌟 thank you and I’m so happy for you!
Thank you so much for sharing Jennica! Truly inspiring
Oh Michelle thank you so much for watching!
I'm a hidden bi married man, I totally understand about the fears, I've told my counsellor but no one else
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Nothing to fear brother. When you're ready tell your wife. My gf was actually very into it, and has some bisexual feelings as well. You'll never know if you don't try.
THANK you for these videos, I feel like you are talking to my heart, you have no idea the impact that this has to me rn. instantly subscribed lol. you make it easier to talk to a stranger on the internet than my own kin.
🥰🥰 I so get that! I felt the same way when I was watching online videos. Thank you - this means so much to me.
@@jennicahill im binge-watching your videos so don't be surprised if you get comments from me for the next half hour or so xD I am currently in your newest video about success, and I was thinking about that exact topic for the past months, it's crazy !?! also, I like your humor, you are very entertaining
@@DanaePap_official synchronicity!! I appreciate you 🙏🏼🙏🏼
@@jennicahill
Thank you so much for sharing. I am in the same boat. Married to the man I started dating at 20. I'm still combating the constant self-doubt and imposter syndrome. I really glad I found your channel. 💜 (edit: typos)
Here with you and for you! Thank you for watching and sharing. I'm so glad we found each other too!
im about to binge watch all ur bisexual videos over the next few weeks! u definitely pass the vibe check lol and as a closeted bisexual myself (out online & I present gnc IRL but haven't told anyone yet) i look forward to getting to know u better :)
well hello! thank you for watching and lol i pass the vibe check?! flattered
Can I just say, same. I am an awkward teen again at 38. :-S
It’s pretty unnerving isn’t it?! 🥴 haha. Maybe it will make us more empathetic toward awkward teens!
Maybe if I didn't work with them on a daily basis! Lol! 😂
@@mummamortitia OH! Fair enough hahaha
I'm only joking, they're alright really. (Excuse my sarky sense of humour, I'm british. Lol!)
@@mummamortitia Love some snark - totally get it! I taught middle schoolers reading for a summer and honestly loved it. But I definitely felt like I was transported back to my own awkward self when I was around them LOL
Whew. 36-year-old baby bi married to a straight cis guy with a kid here. Going through the questioning and self-discovery right now, so seeing this really hit home! Thanks for putting yourself out there so more of us baby bis can feel less alone.
thank you 🧡🧡🧡
Yayayayay! So proud of you Jennica and your magical self
Love you Rebecca - thank you 💫
Jennica you are a true treasure! I love this video and thank you for being so amazing. I miss you!
Oh Julie 😭❤️ thank you! I miss you too and love you so much!
@@jennicahill 😊
Thank you, I found your videos and this has been helping so much. It's nice to know that others might realize changes in their sexuality in their mid/late 20s like myself.
Thank you for being here! It means so much to me to meet others going through it too. Sending you lots of love on your journey! 💗💗💗
Ahh thank you for sharing your story! This makes me feel so much better at realizing I was bi in my mid 20s! I do remember having those.. feelings for women on tv when I was in puberty but remember telling myself “no, you just want to look like them, not to be with them.” And had so much internalized biphobia even though I grew up so accepting of everyone else. I just remember being a scared kid and thinking someone will hurt me if I like girls. And since I also liked guys I just pushed it down and hid it and kept telling myself that I was just jealous of how they look. When I finally realized it big time at like 26, it’s now such a relief. Coming out to my family and them being so loving was amazing for me. It all clicked and that part of me that was hidden and missing just felt whole finally 🥰
I'm so happy for you that you have had support, not just from family but also yourself!
@@jennicahill I wish I could be this open about being a gay guy it's depressing and embarrassing
@@bubba283 I hate hearing that I'm so sorry. I hope you can be open about it at some point when it's right.
@@jennicahill I told a friend today
@@bubba283 I am so proud of you!! How did it feel?
Oh my god, Kate Winslet in Titanic, SAME!!! This was such a great video, thanks so much for sharing! 💚
thank you for watching!
Thank you so much for this video! 💖💜💙 I'm kind of at the beginning of this self-discovering journey and it's really terrifying and confusing at times - also in my late 20s and about to get married! :) So, hearing someone having similar and relatable experience feels really good.
Thank you for this feedback! That means a lot to me. I'm glad to be able to help others feel less alone. And I'm happy for you in your journey!!! Wishing you all the best
Hello Jennica. Hearing your story was very inspiring to my recent acceptance of my own bisexuality. I love your outlook & cute silly dances. You really do know how to keep things serious but also funny at the same time. I’d love to hear a video about accepting your bisexuality. I’ve been having a hard time. I am also in a relationship with a CIS straight male & figured out I was bisexual after five years. He accepts me & I don’t have to hide who I am around him. He encourages it if anything. I just don’t know how to accept myself. I’m 29 & just figured this out only a few months ago. I’d appreciate anything you have to say. Thanks Jennica 💗
thank you for sharing 🌈💜 since making this video my life has been through so many ups and downs. i have found that as i’ve gone through the hardest things i can imagine, accepting my bisexuality only got easier because it was no longer at the forefront of my mind. but i think accepting sexuality is much like accepting anything about ourselves and requires us to love ourselves as we would love someone else. all i can say is give yourself grace through the process. because for me it was and is a continuing process. extend yourself love and acceptance as you would to anyone else if you can and eventually i do hope that leads to you accepting yourself 💜 of course therapy and keeping supportive friends around you helps so much too!!
You read my mind about fifteen times this video. So wonderful to know my own experience is not unusual.
same here! you saying this is so affirming that it wasn’t crazy to make videos 💖💜💙 thank you
We are so similar in our journeys and am SO greatful I found ur channel. Iam learning late in life that I need to accept my beautiful self and not alone that I matter too . Thank you
Thank you for sharing
This Jennica Hill youtube feature of Bisexual Stories: I Discovered by bisexuality while married to my high school sweetheart! is a compelling watch. The fact that the youtube author shared that fortunately her husband and some of her close friends have been supportive in conjunction with her therapy is also helpful while she is also honest/blunt in how her background shapes her journey in who she is.
I'm in a similar situation, been dating my high school sweetheart for 12 years, getting married next year and love him with all my heart...BUT...I've just came to terms with the fact I am bisexual (known it was there since high school) and I'm finally embracing it and giving myself the love I deserve. Thank you for this video! It makes me so happy that there is people like me out there! 🥰 also, happy pride month! 💗💜💙
Happy Pride month and I'm so happy for you! Sending you lots of love, and you are definitely not alone. Also, congratulations on your upcoming wedding
This is me right now. So glad I stumbled upon this video! I only discovered this about myself last year. Currently married with kids... it's been a confusing road so far.
Confusing is right!!! Thank you for sharing. I’m glad you’re here! I’m about to have my first kid and wasn’t sure how to navigate all of it - still am not always sure!
@@jennicahill Omg -- congratulations!
This is super appreciated. I started accepting I was bisexual at around 25 and didn't really start coming out to people until last year (at 26). I've had these weird fears that I don't count because I've never been with a woman and have been with my male partner for 4 years. I really get the being assumed straight thing which is why I've started making a conscious effort to say partner instead of boyfriend. I had my first instance of someone referring to my partner as "they" instead of assuming to use "he" and that felt so strangely good.
I totally know what you mean! It feels so right when people don’t assume and you feel seen, at least I do. Thank you for sharing - it makes me feel less alone too! I wish you all the best with this journey 💜💜
You helped me discover my bisexuality and it feels so exciting and so scary but it feels so good and it feels so right thank you so much for all the informational videos I really just realized my full beautiful self thank you !
I'm so happy for you!! Thank you for sharing!
I'm 24, I told my mom I was Bi-sexual and she was trying to convince me that I wasn't. She said "You're dating a man, so what's the point? You are just doing this because it's a trend now." Was it a trend when I told you I was attracted to women in the 7th grade and you told me I was just curious and that you accept me but it would break your heart? At that time I wasn't into guys and I told you I was gay, She put me in therapy because of it. Little did she know that my therapist had no bias and this old sweet man told me to not label myself. He told me not to punish myself for having gay thoughts and just let all attraction flow, and think about what feels natural. However, when I started having feelings for men, I suppressed my gay thoughts because it made the people around me feel more comfortable. It wasn't until I was in a relationship with my boyfriend when I spoke about my sexuality. I also told my two friends when I was drunk one night and we haven't spoken about it since. It never seems like the right time. My boyfriend's parents are super conservative and I know they would not like it if I came out, they are "elders" in their church. Part of me is like "screw it, why hide a part of myself" and another part is like "my sexuality is none of your business and people shouldn't assume people are straight until told otherwise" Wow! This is the first time I have spoken my truth with this, thank you for allowing a space for me to share/vent. Thank you for your insight, it was wonderful.
So thankful that this is a place you can vent. Sending you strength and love. I know however you express your sexuality and however you share or don’t share it will be right for you 💜✨
Great video. Thanks for sharing, it is very helpful. My partner and I are dealing with this right now. It has mostly been fine but, there has been some drama. TLDR bisexual people catch some 💩 and people just need to stop throwing it at them.
I have been with a bisexual woman for 20 years married for most of those. I'm a cis straight(ish) man. She came to understand her bisexuality during the course of our relationship and marriage. It was obviously always there for her, but as she once said she "didn't know it was an option or have the language to describe it when she was younger." Anyway she started being out about it last year by posting a simple FB post of support for LGBTQ with a BTW I'm Bi message during Pride. A low-key coming out. Her immediate family already knew from it coming up in conversation and were fine with it. My mom didn't. That is where the drama started. Mother dearest who had known my partner for 19 years at that time "became worried" that my partner acknowledging her bisexuality somehow meant that she must have "cheated" in order to have found out. Because clearly my partner must have had to have had a sexual experience to know that she was attracted to people of other genders and that could only happen through infidelity (I mean polyamory just never happens right, it didn't but it is a possibility), jumping to the worst conclusion is one of my mom's super powers. Mummsy sat on that "concern" for over a year until she brought it up to me recently during a row we were having about a different issue. Asking pointed questions about when my partner "found out" she was bi, she then implied the infidelity trash and also went off because my partner didn't come out to my mom personally and mum only found out through FB (clearly my mom was the most important person in my partner's coming out and it should have been all about mom s/). It was so gross of a "conversation" (I mean I kinda went off on mummy dearest) to have. It was a tacit questioning of the legitimacy of my partner's sexuality wrapped in a besmirchment of her character. At the heart of it, the worst part is that my own mother let her ignorance and bigotry override 19 years of knowledge of my partner's character. My mother knew my partner for nearly 2 decades and still when she found out she was not straight assumed it must also mean she is morally bankrupt. And that is my most generous interpretation of the situation. Less generously mom was trying to weaponize my partner's sexuality in an attempt to slander her and drive a wedge into our marriage...Aaaaahhhhhhh!!!!
Sorry to go off. This is recent and needed a rant. This seemed like it might be a supportive place for it.
Perfect place for a rant. I mean - wow - your partner is so lucky to have you. That you understand the intricacies of your mom’s response is huge and such a support to your partner. I’m guessing your mom is coming from her own hurt and fears, but that doesn’t make it right. I hope you can both remember that what other people think is really about them, not you. Keep on keeping on. You are a compassionate warrior. Sending love.
Thank you this is very similar to my experience too. Thank you for making this video so I feel less alone in this struggle. Thank you. 🥺🙏💗💜💙
You got this! Thank you for watching and for saying this. I'm so happy you feel less alone
Oh gosh! Thank YOU Jennica for this warming video...🙃
It feels so related to me. I am on the way of "understanding" an "accepting" my bisexuality now. It is scare and confuse me a lot. But your video so relaxing and full of love.. This is inspiring! Thank you again 🥰🤗
I am going to wath all of your videos about bisexuality 😅
Oh, thank you for watching! I'm so glad to hear this
Hey thanks!! I am coming out as a 26 year old man and I constantly feel that no one would believe me because I am so old and I thought it was too late. I haven't told anyone but my therapist and my GF but hearing you haven't told your family too made me feel better. I guess now what I stuck thinking all the time is coming out to my friends. It just seems like it's going to be a tricky discussion saying I am attracted to men but none of you without calling all my friends ugly
Hey! I have since come out to almost everyone in my life. I definitely worried about that with friends, too, but with good friends, it really wasn't an issue. Hopefully, your friends realize that you can think someone is an attractive person without being attracted to them. But I do know that it can be different in male circles sometimes. I wish you well with your journey! Also... 26 is NOT OLD haha. ;)
I'm 28, married to a hetero male with, with three children. THANKYOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO
Hi!!!! Thank you for sharing! We are out here!
It wasn’t until this past year that I was able to really say it out loud in YEARS that I’m bi. I used to be openly bisexual in my high school years and religion scared me back into the closet. I thought I prayed the gay away and I lived with the internalized shame and fear for so long. I still haven’t (and probably won’t) told my family members who are religious. I legit have been bi ever since I could understand what it meant. It doesn’t mean I’m not a faithful wife or that I’m unhappy. I just genuinely admire males and females equally when it comes to my sexuality.
absolutely. wow - i am so glad that you are coming back to yourself now. i hope some of that shame has begun to dissipate and will continue to until it’s as gone as it can be!
I think deep down I've known for years, but since I grew up in a southern Christian conservative home...I never accepted it and shrugged it away. However still fantasized about it. I am now married to my wonderful husband and have a beautiful daughter, I'm slowly starting to be comfortable with my bisexuality
Congratulations on that process - I am so happy for you and so glad you’ve been getting more comfortable with it. It’s such a gift. Sending you love as you continue this journey. 💜
Thanks so much for sharing your story!! Your videos are so helpful and inspiring, and I love the way you provide such a safe space on your channel for everyone to discuss bisexuality!🥰
I personally found out I was bi pretty much as soon as I discovered the label (when I was about 15). Growing up, I was mainly into girls (I'm a girl), despite being surrounded by heterosexuality my whole life. I would get crushes on girls very frequently, like on celebrities, cartoon characters, and people I met in real life, occasionally.😅 And once I got a little older, I discovered my attraction to guys as well, then found out about the term "bisexual" a few years later, and immediately identified with it. I'm 18 now and have never dated anyone, but am still very much attracted to both men and women, as well as other genders.
I'm really scared to come out to my family, honestly.😔 I've been planning to for 6 months now, but I still haven't found the right time or worked up the courage to do it yet. My Dad and my brother are pretty chill when it comes to LGBTQ+ topics in general, but the rest of my family as far as I know, is...not really supportive or accepting of people who are anything other than straight.😢 I guess I'll just have to keep my fingers crossed and hope that when the time to come out arrives, things will go okay.💔
Anyways, thanks for reading all of this! I'm sorry; I just really needed to get this off my chest. I don't really have anyone to talk to about this sort of thing in real life. And thanks again for all of your wonderful videos and for everything you do! Also, hope you're doing alright!
Thank you so much for sharing a bit of your story with me. I hear you, and I really hope you can find someone in your close circle to talk to openly soon. If not, I definitely recommend books, therapy, or anything else that can help you find an outlet. (You can always talk to this channel, of course.) What I want you to know is that, no matter how other people react, you are valid, you are magical just the way you are, and you are loved.
@@jennicahill Aww thank you so much!!
Congrats, nice vlog and well said. Looking forward to more. 😊
Thank you Jennica for this video! It was lovely, simple, honest and relatable as fuck. Exactly what I needed. I'm 37, have been with my partner for 12 years and only a few months ago I properly acknowledged my bisexuality/pansexuality (still can't pick a label) AND realized I'm enby. It's fine. Normal. Carry on.
thank you for watching! i’m so glad it was helpful - and woohoo in so happy for you and your realizations 💗
My sister who's in her 40s actually just went through this, she fell in love with a woman she met at work
Thank you for this I'm still denying myself who I really am and this helps so much even tho I have to pretend of who I am
sending you love 💜
I knew I was bi for a long time. I always turned down invites bi other men but would fantasize about it and do what you do when you are in that state. I got married and ten years into the marriage I bought some bi videos and asked my wife if she was ok to watch them with me, she was. It was very exciting to come out to her and she was ok with it. I've since lived it out and the experiences were exciting. I don't make a practice or big deal of it, maybe I will again and maybe I won't. I'm infatuated with a pretty woman at the moment.
i’m so happy for you that you were able to come out in the open to the person you love! and that you feel good about how things are going. thank you for sharing 💜
I don't like when people assume I am straight either. It was actually one of the reasons I finally "discovered" I am bi. I realized it was painful for me to be seen as heterosexual because I am in a relationship with a man, all the expectations of people felt just not right for me 🤪 Love your video 💜🤗
Thank you so much for watching and sharing! It is really painful and just feels icky when you know that’s not who you are. 💜💜
@Doppelganger D we could try and stop assuming people's sexuality in general
I know your video is older now but this made me feel less alone because my situation is almost identical! It’s a weird mental journey especially when you found your person so young, you are and want to remain committed to your longterm partner so you can’t or won’t discover it further, but your discovery (or gradual realisation/acceptance) happened later and now you’re trying to be your most authentic self regardless, but you still can’t be open with everyone about it because judgement/questions/disbelief, AND you are straight passing but it feels frustrating being seen as simply hetero. Add in general biphobia and fears of not been bi/queer “enough”.. it’s a lot even if on the face of it nothing looks different and even though we haven’t had to suffer through what others in the LGBTQIA community have. It does help to know there’s others out there who have been on a similar path to growth and self discovery 😊
wow you put it so well!!
@@jennicahill ❤️❤️
I'm a 23 year old queer boy. My advice to you and everyone reading this is stay true, accept, and love who you are. You are born this way. 🏳️🌈❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Yes!!! Thank you!
That you in the pic? They know now! 😜
@@1twistedcpl6575 lol yep!
Thank you for sharing. Looking forward to more :)
Thank you, John!
Thanks for the video, I've been married in a monogamous relationship for over 39 years and have always been attracted to more than one gender, particularly ciswomen, trans women, and men as well, however I only realised or recognised I am bisexual 2 weeks ago. I have come out to a friend and my adult daughter, who is non-binary and pan-sexual. I am certain I am bi, although it is very confusing, while at the same time liberating. BTW, I am 64 yo.
so happy for you and so glad that you could confide in your daughter - how special. wishing you all the best on your journey!!!
Thanks for sharing your story!
thanks for listening 🧡
Thank u for sharing your perspective.
I watched some of your videos before coming out to my family. I've been dating my gf for a year and a half, so this video was very affirming as I'm worried about what kinds of assumptions people will make with that
I am so happy for you! I still worry about it sometimes, but all you can do is be you and hope the people who love you will support you. Mostly, just keep loving yourself. Thank you for sharing
@@jennicahill thank /you/ for sharing! Your videos have been really helpful for me!
@@heathdionne7717 that means so much to me!
@@jennicahill it's 100% true! Thank you again!
my boyfriend (he/him/they) helped me realize i’m pan, i know it’s not bi but i was bi before i met him and i feel weird cause i decided to come out as pan tonight and i don’t know how they’ll feel even though he is non binary so he isn’t cis obviously. but i need advice for comfort or clarification cause i’m still really scared to come out even tho i alr did and i don’t want to regret it
I hear you. I think it's important to remember that sexuality is fluid, and you are allowed to change your mind as many times as you need to based on the information you're learning about yourself. Labels are difficult, bc maybe they shouldn't even exist, but we live in this society where they do. It sounds like your boyfriend is a very accepting, loving person and loves you for who you are. Thank you for sharing, and know that we are all here for you.
I'm happy you shared your story Jennica. I too was straight but in my mid twenties I realized I was actually bi. In my early thirties I skipped past "bi" and became completely lesbian. Since then I've been insanely happy and I'm now in my late forties. There's no going back for me. I love women, period. Good luck on your journey! Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for sharing too!
Something I don't understand, Does this imply a lifestyle change and new rules on allowing sex outside of marraige. Or is it just like telling someone you sexually appreciate certain women and btw are now a member of a group.
I think if you watch more of my videos that becomes clearer. But it can mean different things for different people who come out and all are valid!
I came out as a gay man last year to my parents. This year I realized I'm bi. I've never had a relationship but I had dates with a few guys. And now I have a crush on a girl. I'm still a little insecure but not so much compared to last year.
i’m so happy for you and the progress you’re making! i hope you realize how valid and amazing you are, just as you are.
Just want to say thank you. I've felt horribly alone in this.
Well you are not. I know it can feel that way, though
My wife told me she is bi
I didn't see how it mattered in our marriage so I was like ok.. turns out she wants to be practicing/experience her sexuality . Now what am I supposed to do with that ? I feel mislead and cheated on.
Hi Luke! first, i’m sorry that this has been hard for you. that’s completely understandable of course. i don’t know you or your wife, and i’m not a professional, but i think communicating is the most important tactic to work through these feelings together. it’s possible that your wife is just exploring part of her identity that is new and scary for her, and she might just need to talk with you about it to be able to accept herself. she may not have even known this about herself for a long time, so she likely was not meaning to mislead you in any way. try having a conversation to hear each other out and leading with love. sending love and light to you both ✨
I'm still trying to figure out how to bring this topic up with my husband. We have been married for ten years and together for thirteen years. It's a difficult conversation to try to start. I've never told anyone and don't know what to do or what to think.
I hear you. I wish I had concrete advice to give you. All I can say is, if you both come to the conversation with open hearts, you will hopefully find your way through. It took me a long time to bring it up, and I had to bring it up in several different ways before I could really talk about it as seriously as I wanted to. Sending you love as you navigate this. You are worth it.
I'm glad I just found this.
I'm 41. Been with my husband since I was 17.
So together for 23 years and married for 18 years.
I've recently discovered I am bi.
I mean, I've obviously had thoughts for quite some time.
Something about hitting 40 for me...
My husband is straight.
I came to YT hoping to find some courage to come out to him in a way that he won't suddenly think I'm going to leave.
And hopefully, eventually, I'll at least get to explore some of this...He's my life person, but I'm afraid of not at least getting to experience/experiment....
I dunno......*le sigh*
I hear you. I hope you find some answers inspired by others' stories but mostly within yourself about how you want to proceed. Sending love.
I couldn't agree to the label thing more!
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This is almost exactly me also! 🥰
We're out here!!
saaaaame dude
I didn't realise until I was 25 lol
Had a crush on a girl at 6
Felt like I was attracted to girls in school.
Pushed it back because I felt weird.
Then I kept questioning myself.
Always loved bisexual people, (birds flock to a feather I guess)
Had a crush on a female celebrity.
Then had a crush on a girl I met.
Then I was like guess I'm bi then 😂
I love this journey so much lol! Happy for you 💖💜💙
@@jennicahill thank you! ❤️
I relate to this so hard omg.
That’s a relief for me! When I first made this I was like...woo okay putting this out into the void! Lol
@@jennicahill And im so glad you did! I have been with my S/O for 8 years and being high school "sweethearts" I never really had to question my sexuality. It wasn't until this year it just kinda hit me...like oh..haha women too huh? - Anyway, just cool to see the similarities! Thanks for being vulnerable :)
@@paytonsarno4979 wow so many similarities!!! That’s great. I’m so glad we both discovered the truth, even a little later 😊
Figured out I'm not just bisexual but sexually on the L side while married, after trying to solve the puzzle of having no libido for years. He said he had thought of this potentially being the case, and when I asked what he had intended to do in that case, he answered: "I would tell you to go find a nice girl". "And what about you?" "And I wouldn't go anywhere... Obviously:) "
Well here I am, married and also having a female lover :)
I used to judge such situations but you never know until you experience it personally. I feel like I am finally myself, and I still love him so much
He doesn't mind a situation in which we "extend our family" if I end up really deeply in love with a girl to the extent where we always want to be together.
I realise this is not for everyone, but for me when I accepted this possibility, it's like all the pieces finally clicked and there was this tremendous relief. It felt there was something missing and like I wasn't living my life fully before these realisations and conversations
oh, i’m so happy for you!
oh boy I have realized I am bisexual at 32. It took one gay girl to fall for to realize this. I have been married to a guy for almost 6 years, happy and wanting to be with him. And yes, how you describe going through puberty again.. this is terrifying so confusing. I have been attracted to women my whole life and found them hot but never thought that this is what it was. I keep looking at my past and realizing there were a lot of signs.
it’s quite the realization! here and sending you love as you navigate 💜
My wife just came out as well after 16 years ….. it’s much to do about nothing ….. I just want her to be happy
that's beautiful
Thank you for sharing.
You cannot help who you, or how, you love. God loves all of his creation.
So late to the conversation so I'm sure I won't get a response. These kinds of stories are fascinating to me as a straight man married for 17 years. My wife is definitely not bi, not even close, but these stories are still interesting. I'll ask the question that nobody seems to be asking. Are you satisfied now just accepting yourself and coming out, or do you need to have the experience of being with a woman? And if the answer to the 2nd question is yes, how does your husband feel about you being sexual with a person that isn't him? Because at that point you're no longer monogamous. Most marriages come with the expectation of monogamy and that's a hard thing to change for most people. And if you get to be with other people (or at least get to try), does he get a hall pass to be with someone else (not that he'd use it)? These are all genuine questions. Thanks for sharing.
The answer to the first question is yes (second question answer is no), so I can't speak to the rest! But thank you for asking and if anyone has a different experience, feel free to share your insights.
So my wife of 16 years has come out as bisexual, she has fallen for her best friend and wants to have a full relationship with her. I don't know how to think or feel about it. She wants to have both of us but I don't see it the same way she does. To me an emotional relationship is worse than just a physical one. Any advice for someone like me?
That’s definitely a tough situation. I’m not an expert on this Louis, but it will likely take lots of time, talking, and maybe counseling. I have a friend in an open relationship who was a guest on my channel, but I know it’s different for everyone. Whatever you and your wife decide, you’ll have to come to a decision that works for both of you and continue to communicate. I wish you all the best as you navigate this. I wish I could give you kore concrete advice 💜💜💜 lead with love and keep communication open
What of ur husband doesn't support you? What if he thinks you're a pervert and is disgusted by the fact that you think that way? It took me almost 13 years to bring it up and once I did, I wished I hadn't. It's so so beautiful when couples support eachother but I'd love to hear what happens to those of us who aren't in that situation? Have any of you talked about wanting to be with women with your husband's? Were they mad? I feel like I'm the only one
I'm so sorry this has been your experience. I think it can require an adjustment period for everyone, though I am not an expert and only have my own experience. I decided not to physically pursue attraction to anyone else because of how I want to show up in my own marriage, but that is not going to be true for everyone. I recommend seeing a therapist or counselor, maybe even for couples, if you can. And try to remind your partner that you are the same person, and you just want them to know the real you. No matter what, stay safe, and find professional support when needed!
I have been married to my high school sweetheart since I was 18 years old. I am now 55 years old and I just realized a few years ago that I am bisexual. What am I supposed to do???? I don't want to cheat on my husband BUT i really REALLY want to go out with or be with a female at least once before I die. HELP!?!?
oh wow I wish I could help you!!! Only you can decide what to do. I hope you have a therapist or counselor or someone to talk through this with, and I hope your husband and you can talk about how you’re feeling. Sending you love and luck as you navigate this. You matter and you are valid!
Is there a certain finger that women wear a ring on that represents being bi?
Your not alone I think I am bisexual too .
Thank you for this. You're not alone either! Happy for you
Awesome video!! 👏👏🌟💫😃
Thank you so much! And thank you for watching!!
How did you deal with your attraction to women while being married?
I journaled about it, went to therapy, tried to process it. and was honest with my husband about it all. not easy! but I feel less intense about it now.
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Thanks for watching!
Hi, I know I’m late but I hope to get a reply from you, since i’m kinda confused and overwhelmed. It’s been like 10 years since the last time I had a strong crush on a female (I’m a girl anw). I’m 16 now so that was pretty young. All these years around i don’t really got attracted to any girl, even though I’m usually kinda affectionate with them, and flirting with girls doesn’t feel cringe at all. I’m sure that i got attracted to boy tho. I feel like a part of me will always be able to love a girl, bcs when i think about kissing or being in a relationship with them, i don’t feel weird and cringe, and I do think about having a girlfriend (not because that i’m curious). Sometimes i point out a cute girl in public and look at her all the time, but i easily forget that feeling (same thing happens with guys bcs i’m kinda afraid of being in a relationship so i don’t mind much). I’m currently not into any specific person so it’s even more confusing. Is that enough for me to label myself as a bi?
hi! I think if you feel like you're bisexual, you are. It's your business how you identify, and there are so many varieties of ways to consider your sexual orientation. whatever feels right to you is perfectly fine. I'm definitely not an expert on the topic, but all I know is that it's your business, and if you think you are bi, then you are! and you are free to change your mind too. If it were up to me, we wouldn't have to choose a label at all and could just love who we love and be attracted to who we are attracted to! hope that helps. just know - you're not alone and you're completely normal and healthy for having these feelings.
@@jennicahill thank you for your reply. I know that i don’t really have to put a label on myself, but i just want to know since i was confused for a long time. Once again, tysm
@@cherrynguyen7218 i totally understand that. well, i hope you find an answer that feels good for you right now. and that whatever it is, you accept and love yourself in the process
Finding out you're bi when married does NOT mean the end. Talk to your spouse, involve them, share intimacy with them, embrace them. It's worth at least trying. Never give up on someone you love.
yes yes, you can also bully them into giving into all sorts of insane demands. Than you can have none of the responsibility while being financially supported. Than you can just leave them and pretend they're the bad one.
Dear vloger, how do you deal with sceptics?
Usually send them love and then remember I get to choose who I am!
Hiya i came out as femmine male but that changed to bisexual at 61 and iam married 34years and terrified and my wife doesn't accept my sexuality..
Hi Peter. Here for you from afar. It's so hard. I'm so glad you are on this journey of accepting yourself though, and I hope your wife comes around too. Sending you love
@@jennicahill cheers iam very much into ladies fashion , leggings, pant suits especially hairstyle 2 creative ones 💕, iam hoping next year to start designing motorcycle jacket vest's fashion i do ride a motorcycle 2 .hugs 💕💕..
@@jennicahill hiya sorry for late reply plus thanks for responding to my message much appreciated hope to hear more from you hugs 💜 Peter
You are so great!!!!
❤️❤️❤️💫 YOU are!
I'm not married heck I'm not even in a relationship. I stopped dating over three years ago and I'm still not in a place where I'm able to date yet. But I hope that one day once I have everything together I'll be able to date. I don't mind if it's with a man or a woman either
I hope that for you too
thank you for this video
thank you for watching 🧡
I just realized I'm bisexuality in my 30s and it's OK but I popped a bottle of wine to celebrate 🍾 by myself in my bedroom to process it. I might even get high and watch movies 🎬
heck yeah celebrate!!!! 🌈
I'm getting married in a few months and discovering I might be bi. I thought I was just a little voyeuristic because most of my experiences with females have been watching without participating. If I ever did participate I would get incredibly anxious, and that ruined the arousal I am guessing.
@@themelonsoup i hope you can be kind to yourself through this process 🩷💜💙
Hi there, thanks a lot for making the video. I am a straight man and my girlfriend recently came out as bisexual. I have told her I love her no matter her sexual orientation but still there are a lot of questions in my mind and I feel a bit insecure all of a sudden. I am planning to have an open discussion with her but before I do that I would be very grateful if you could answer some of my questions.
So firstly my girl has never been with a woman before. She is everything for me and satisfies all my desires but I am just worried that I won't be able to do the same and I may be a bit insecure here but I wouldn't be able to give her the other part that she seeks ever?
The second question, that is keeping me up at night, is a little longer. So as a straight guy myself, I have never been attracted to men. Therefore, I've always associated male friendships like bro-man ship ( sorry for the language, I am not very articulate in explaining this)
but as a bi, you might feel differently about same gender friendships like do you feel attracted to your girl-friends? What I mean by this is like as guys we won't be dressing up before night-outs together or hugging each other every now and then. So that makes me a bit insecure when she does these things with a gender that she's attracted to.. like if I were to do such things with women I would probably develop feelings towards them. Can you please help me out with these questions? I'll be very grateful for the help. And I just have to say I am very sorry if any of the questions came across as completely stupid, I am just very curious that's all.
These questions aren't stupid at all! Of course, my answers might be different from your partner's answers. I will say that, for me, my partner is the only person I want to be with, even though I am attracted to women as well. That might be different for your girlfriend - I just don't know. For me, it was more about recognizing this part of myself and allowing it to be seen and heard from having pushing it aside my entire life. It was more about identity and being free to be myself finally. As for your second question, just as you likely aren't attracted to all women you meet, your partner likely isn't either. I personally am not attracted to my friends who happen to be women any more than I am to my friends who happen to be men. I think that hypersexualized friendship has really been a "problem" between men and women because of a narrative society has put out there, but people of all genders can be friends without attraction. I hope this makes sense! Really, my best advice is, have a good long chat with your partner about how you feel, and try to listen openly with each other! Sending you both love and wish you well. It's great that you are accepting of her - how wonderful to be curious and open-minded!
Hi Jennica, thanks a lot for your answers. I really appreciate you taking time out and helping me with this. I just didn't understand how bisexuals especially pansexuals are able to shut down their attraction part of brain when hanging around with the same sex and maintain a platonic relationship with them. I was worried, because girls especially form such deep emotional bonds with each other and also express it much more physically than men (like with hugs and kisses). So I was curious as to how you are able to shut down any feelings of attraction towards your girl-friends?
P.S. By you I don't mean you per say but in general any bisexual of course.
@@nitigyahanda3516 I think it’s just that you’re not attracted to everyone! Just because it’s possible for someone to be attracted to all genders doesn’t mean they are attracted to all people. I hope that makes sense! And the same ideas apply as any monogamous relationship for a heterosexual couple. You choose to be with your partner. Just because the pool is bigger doesn’t mean you want to swim in it! Choosing a partnership is the same for someone who is bi/pansexual as someone who is heterosexual, as in, you make the agreements within the relationship to remain monogamous or not!
Thanks a lot Jennica! I really appreciate the depth in which you go to answer. All of this gives me confidence and helps decrease the doubts I was having initially.
@@nitigyahanda3516 💜