How To Change Beliefs

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  • čas přidán 17. 06. 2024
  • For an live example of guiding a client through changing a belief listen to this podcast episode pathwaytohappiness.com/blog/p...
    In it I walk a client through these same steps of identifying the belief that resides beneath a thought, changing perspective, shifting the emotions of fear, and the energy of faith in order to change his belief.
    A belief, particularly core beliefs operate in our unconscious. That means that we don't know they are there. It is as if we were hypnotized and behave in ways we don't want to. We wake up after our emotional reaction or unwanted behavior and wonder why we did what we did.
    We only see thoughts, emotions, and behaviors that unconscious beliefs produce. The exercises from my Self Mastery Course, and my book MindWorks allow you to become aware of these core beliefs and change the beliefs, emotions, and false sense of identity that form them. This is how you make changes at a core belief level.

Komentáře • 312

  • @garyvanwarmerdam1206
    @garyvanwarmerdam1206  Před 3 měsíci

    Get Free Practices To Change Your Negative Beliefs And Emotions In The Self Mastery Intro Course.
    Click The Link Below To Learn More:
    pathwaytohappiness.com/courses/self-mastery-course-free/

  • @rachelperese777
    @rachelperese777 Před 2 lety +50

    This should be learnt in all schools. Kids need to be more aware of this so they can be the best versions of them selves and for the next generations to come.

    • @ekkamailax
      @ekkamailax Před rokem +9

      Unfortunately school teachers and parents create a lot of these negative beleifs in kids 😂

    • @jasonbourne4784
      @jasonbourne4784 Před 4 měsíci

      Why would a school want to empower students? Then they won't obey authority, and therefore won't obey government. Students should be kept dumb and unaware of reality of course, then they can be easily controlled. How else will we have worker drones to serve the higher ups? Of course there should only be 1-3% of individuals in power, and the rest must be their servants! We can't be servants if we're empowered, duh!

    • @hellish_lasagna
      @hellish_lasagna Před 2 měsíci +1

      No no no we need to have outdated 200 year old educational model from the industrial revolution and at least 13+ years of subjects such as Geography, Maths or Chemistry :DD (saying this as frustrated 18 year old)

    • @fiachraoneill
      @fiachraoneill Před dnem

      Not in the systems best interest.

  • @dbsk06
    @dbsk06 Před 5 lety +264

    This Is a highly UNDERRATED video. Probably one of the few useful videos on CZcams about this topic. There’s way too many so called self help gurus these days

    • @dbsk06
      @dbsk06 Před 3 lety +6

      soul brain pretty much the majority of self-declared “self help gurus”. self help is a very American type of industry. Yes, an industry. It exploits people who are vulnerable and profits. If someone is very serious about changing himself/herself, he/she could easily read the classics such as tao te Ching, the stoics (Seneca, Aurelius, etc), nietzche but the language is dense and it takes a lot of patience. They’re classics for a reason and influenced movements and massive populations. Self help gurus just “translate” (not always correctly) and rehash these classics and they’re not even credible themselves. The people who created the secret profited off its production; they didn’t become wealthy as whatever the job they had prior yet that’s what they’re selling.

    • @gingerindian1141
      @gingerindian1141 Před 3 lety +1

      @@dbsk06 just because these take time to learn = doensnt meant the key and important ideas cannot be transmitted to a wider market. You dont need to be a book worm to enjoy the fruits of great minds. Solution is to watch Jordan Peterson videos and do some reading, put ideas into practice, and reflect. Its more useful to think of this kind of infomation as liberating and helpful opposed to only for elitists, while critical of the capitalist motivtions behind the source of the information on here.

    • @alihusham1560
      @alihusham1560 Před 3 lety +2

      you may like leo guraa

    • @hopeful8975
      @hopeful8975 Před 2 lety +1

      I think different people just are able to connect with different people and then are able to learn from them.
      What or who helps one might not be “the one” to all.

    • @unstoppablezone4980
      @unstoppablezone4980 Před 2 lety +3

      @@gingerindian1141 Jordan Peterson is not a well person.

  • @brianmcclean2481
    @brianmcclean2481 Před 4 lety +119

    This guy's work is one of the only that has changed my mindset, beliefs and life!

  • @nicsuares
    @nicsuares Před 4 lety +41

    I'm so glad I was led to this channel. This is perhaps the best video I've watched in a while. Please keep making more.

  • @DrSeethe
    @DrSeethe Před 4 lety +37

    I feel like I've hacked into my brain too much for too long. I went in again and realized I don't have nearly as much negative thoughts and beliefs anymore and there is no point to going into myself and rewiring the good I have built. This stuff works. With this exercise, I realized I now have positive beliefs and emotions that serve me well. So just know there are times when it is unnecessary to re-engineer yourself.

    • @yasmine2579
      @yasmine2579 Před 3 lety +6

      How did you do it ? Which exercizes ?

    • @daankegarcia2555
      @daankegarcia2555 Před 3 lety

      Very underrated comment yey very insightful Thank u

    • @jaeboot3049
      @jaeboot3049 Před 2 lety +5

      @@yasmine2579 watch videos on gratitude and acceptance of self to change the emotions you associate with yourself and those beliefs. And do as he said and refrain from believing those thoughts. You do that by asking questions. A lot of times those thoughts are extreme so when you find yourself thinking “ I am a loser” for example ,ask yourself: “does everyone see me as a loser?” And then remind yourself that someone at some point in time has liked you. This is how you become the skeptic of that belief like he said the more you practice the more you will realize that the belief is extreme and sometimes irrational and the more you realize that it is not a full representation of who you are. It is just a perspective. Then through gratitude you’ll change the emotion associated with that belief and with how you see yourself

  • @deepsupport11
    @deepsupport11 Před 6 lety +31

    Thanks for breaking it down into pieces. Love it

  • @alchahine7653
    @alchahine7653 Před 4 lety +6

    this is excellent, thank you for the simplified breakdown so we can all relate. Thank you for breaking down the layers! god bless

  • @guy3749
    @guy3749 Před 2 lety +1

    Wow thank you so much for this video, I know this must be done to change our core beliefs, working on it NOW!!!
    Your awesome!

  • @robertloughran6740
    @robertloughran6740 Před 4 lety +2

    Thanks Gary thats a much more detailed explanation and deeper understanding than we usually get from other sources.

  • @jimmybertilsson3277
    @jimmybertilsson3277 Před 6 lety +5

    Thank you for this great video! You explained everything very well and I learned a lot from it.

  • @nalcow
    @nalcow Před 5 lety +5

    I think this Is the best change beliefs blueprint I have seen.

  • @Anna-yj5jo
    @Anna-yj5jo Před 5 lety +2

    Wow, wow, wow. Thank you for helping me understand so many confusing parts of myself.

  • @johnwade892
    @johnwade892 Před 2 lety +2

    This advice sinks in and makes a useful connection to me right away. Very useful and clear.

  • @mireyadelvalleriveroruiz7496

    Took the introductory class, your Gratitude exercise is wonderful!

  • @simonbreidert5683
    @simonbreidert5683 Před 5 lety +17

    You just summarized very beautifully and clear what took me years to figure out myself - even more than that. I think that is the best video on the topic. More therapist should apply your principles. Together with working with first principles I believe that is the most powerful technique for lasting change and happiness. And it works sooo fast, once you look for evidence that doubts your believes. Hope to hear you spread this knowledge!

  • @mymzansi_rsa
    @mymzansi_rsa Před rokem +5

    This is the best video on youtube for improving mental health 🍃

  • @wildgust
    @wildgust Před 2 lety +20

    Brilliant, watched this several times now over the past few days and it’s really helping me understand myself better and target where I need to shift my mindset.

  • @thachchiek7555
    @thachchiek7555 Před 5 lety +5

    i love the wheel diagram! flows so well! good job

  • @rose-marlinesidney4896
    @rose-marlinesidney4896 Před 4 lety +2

    I am speechless 😶 wow. Thank you very very much! I have to watch it over and over again. Gratitude for u 🎉🌹💝

  • @suli5109
    @suli5109 Před 2 lety +8

    Beliefs are so powerful that discipline is secondary to it. You have to master your beliefs...

  • @BlackMagic1222
    @BlackMagic1222 Před 4 lety +2

    What a brilliant video!! Thank you. 🙏🏽

  • @joselynwoodson1323
    @joselynwoodson1323 Před 4 lety +1

    Great video! The best one I've found to share with my patients.

  • @parisaeshrati3320
    @parisaeshrati3320 Před 6 lety +2

    Thank you so much for this video!

  • @Get658
    @Get658 Před 2 měsíci +2

    Thank you CZcams for recommending me

  • @josec9066
    @josec9066 Před 5 lety +3

    SUPERB video, hits the nail on the head about this subject - way too much fluff and psychobabble on this subject on CZcams and online.

  • @illssolution5720
    @illssolution5720 Před 2 lety +1

    I just found your channel, Gary. SO well done! EXACTLY what I needed to reclaim MY LIFE! Thank YOU!

    • @garyvanwarmerdam1206
      @garyvanwarmerdam1206  Před 2 lety +1

      Wonderful! You might also like this one czcams.com/video/1U1zmGtYTxU/video.html

    • @sll110
      @sll110 Před 2 lety

      @@garyvanwarmerdam1206 @Gary van Warmerdam I tried very very hard to buy your book, do you have Chinese versions of your books? only in English?

  • @abdullaalteneiji6533
    @abdullaalteneiji6533 Před 9 měsíci

    One of the good explanations for core beliefs.

  • @soundseeker63
    @soundseeker63 Před 4 lety +15

    I feel like this video should have WAY more views! This is some of the most useful, in-depth material on belief systems that I've come across!
    So many self help/success/motivational speakers go on about how beliefs create reality but few give you the necessary details to actually change them! This is the missing piece in that puzzle.

  • @jaynemurphy6169
    @jaynemurphy6169 Před rokem +1

    Brilliant!!! Never heard this expressed with more clarity! 🍀💜 Thank You. 💗🙋

  • @EmilioYepez
    @EmilioYepez Před 5 lety

    Excellent excellent excellent .... please look at this info graphic and listen to it over and over

  • @karynd2368
    @karynd2368 Před 5 lety +6

    Excellent info! I so see my brother needs this, there's nothing more important to him than being right and it's affecting his heart.

    • @nocturno5373
      @nocturno5373 Před 4 lety +2

      I learned the hard way that I don't have to be right and it was super hard but now it's as if I don't even care it was the most irrelevant thing. I hope your brother heals from this

  • @barbarareichau1570
    @barbarareichau1570 Před 4 lety +6

    Great Video! Thank you Gary!! I work as a therapist with EMDR and EFT supporting people changing there beliefs. It is the most important work we need to do! Your Video is gem :-)

    • @pointofperception
      @pointofperception Před 4 lety

      Thank you Barbara. You might want to check out my book MindWorks. It's a step by step process with practical exercises.

  • @unstoppablezone4980
    @unstoppablezone4980 Před 2 lety +3

    Gary...thanks for this. It's the best breakdown of beliefs and belief change I've ever seen. Very powerful. KUDOS!

    • @garyvanwarmerdam1206
      @garyvanwarmerdam1206  Před 2 lety +1

      You're very welcome

    • @sll110
      @sll110 Před 2 lety

      @@garyvanwarmerdam1206 I dont know weather it works, if it works, I will appreciate you for whole life... 😃😃😃❤❤❤❤❤❤💕💕💕💕💕💕

  • @faree38green
    @faree38green Před 3 lety +2

    This is just amazing, really eye opening..

  • @ParamjeetKaur-xb5cj
    @ParamjeetKaur-xb5cj Před 2 lety +8

    This is amazing !! Thankyou for putting this together and helping society.

  • @thaoariana1725
    @thaoariana1725 Před 2 lety

    Thank you so much for your video Gary, so meaningful and helpful, please keep making more!

  • @lucaslaragao
    @lucaslaragao Před 3 lety +2

    Thank you! Amazing work!

  • @n.w.aicecube5713
    @n.w.aicecube5713 Před 4 lety +1

    those give me more insight than therapy session I've been. Thank you Gary

  • @Quantumanandha
    @Quantumanandha Před 5 lety +3

    Thank you collective universal concious 🙏

  • @mireyadelvalleriveroruiz7496

    Thank you so much for sharing this video!

  • @webthom
    @webthom Před 8 měsíci

    Fantastic explanation. Specially including the emotions and trauma made me buy the book. Thanks

  • @Nicole-dx5ze
    @Nicole-dx5ze Před 5 lety +2

    Thank you Gary van Warmerdam for this information very helpful.

  • @chriscfedrizzi
    @chriscfedrizzi Před 2 lety +1

    Thanks man, awesome work here.

  • @kunalsharma8737
    @kunalsharma8737 Před 5 lety +1

    Thanks a lot ...great explaination

  • @GIGIFREELIFE
    @GIGIFREELIFE Před 7 měsíci

    Thank you so much for this information ❤️ really life changing

  • @djimiwreybigsby5263
    @djimiwreybigsby5263 Před rokem +3

    🤓Totally resonating with this.
    THANKS! With gratitude from a senior citizen without access to regular psyche help.

  • @erigozeletus9045
    @erigozeletus9045 Před 5 měsíci

    Really I was very grateful the way you teach us ❤❤❤.

  • @candiferris2876
    @candiferris2876 Před 3 lety

    You are amazing so happy I found this video

  • @NezamMousa
    @NezamMousa Před 4 lety

    this should be seen by millions wow man

  • @mamunurrashid5652
    @mamunurrashid5652 Před 5 lety +1

    Life saving video!!

  • @briansalzano9771
    @briansalzano9771 Před 2 lety +1

    This video was very well done, thanks Gary.

  • @kobusventer5353
    @kobusventer5353 Před 5 měsíci

    This is a great presentation on limiting beliefs. Thank you.

  • @SindanSeen
    @SindanSeen Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you very informative!

  • @davidt1168
    @davidt1168 Před 3 lety +2

    This is a wonderfull video. Clearly explained with helpfull illustrations. A hugely important and life changing understanding. Thanks Gary

    • @garyvanwarmerdam1206
      @garyvanwarmerdam1206  Před 2 lety

      Thank you.

    • @sll110
      @sll110 Před 2 lety

      @@garyvanwarmerdam1206 @Gary van Warmerdam I tried very very hard to buy your book, do you have Chinese versions of your books? only in English?

  • @chuck3999
    @chuck3999 Před rokem +1

    I enjoyed listening and learning what was expressed in this presentation. It was clearly and logically expressed. I agree with everything except the EMDR. I know it's application has been successful for some people. However, it did not work for me. I'm extremely intuitive and was not able to process my childhood neglect and abandonment issues. So, I will attempt to become skeptical and neutral. That part made more sense to me. Thank you for the great info. Chuck

    • @garyvanwarmerdam1206
      @garyvanwarmerdam1206  Před rokem

      EMDR does not work for developmental trauma, so it is unlikely to be of benefit in your situation where it was an environment of that for a long period of time. Since trauma and attac;hment level changes happen at the nervous system level you will need to explore approaches that change the regulation of the nervous system.

  • @NicolesReviews
    @NicolesReviews Před 3 lety +2

    I need this. 💯💙

  • @ashleywillett486
    @ashleywillett486 Před rokem +2

    Amazing vid! Thank you so much!

  • @snoo333
    @snoo333 Před 2 lety

    love this video. i wish you could a series like this video with other negative behaviors and reactions. taking offense, anger, fear of failure ect... i have to order the book. hope its also in audio format.

  • @matej9255
    @matej9255 Před 2 lety +2

    This is high quality video on mind topic! Very well said sir

  • @yazansy6641
    @yazansy6641 Před 2 lety

    This is a very good explanation
    Thanks

  • @giantessmaria
    @giantessmaria Před 4 lety +2

    Thanks, good info here! Personally I'd submit that folks who tend to have 'belief' issues are largely ones who lack a strong sense of awareness. Perhaps it is an inability to be able to hold an idea before the mind long enough to subject it to critical thinking. I find that a lot of the frustration I have experienced, trying to hold intelligent discussions on lets say politics or religion, come because folk cannot seem to access their skeptical brain, but remain largely entrenched in their conditioned, habitual state. Almost as if having a reflective thought has never occured to them.

  • @klimaxkingst4885
    @klimaxkingst4885 Před 5 lety +1

    Thank you so much

  • @helenaotto4239
    @helenaotto4239 Před rokem +2

    Excellent explanation thank you!

  • @starswift8084
    @starswift8084 Před 2 lety

    Brilliant video. Calm and soothing voice too. I calmed down just listening to it. Thank you.

  • @stevec404
    @stevec404 Před 5 lety +33

    Five years of wasted time in psychotherapy; and I discovered these exact principles years later...by myself. I liken early adoption of (negative) core beliefs to imprinting...a very visceral and deeply held programming. I still need help to understand how to completely reprogram my remaining negative core beliefs. They are tenacious. I will buy your book this week.

    • @petzzz5900
      @petzzz5900 Před 5 lety

      @steve c does psychotherapy works or not?

    • @stevec404
      @stevec404 Před 5 lety +3

      @@petzzz5900 - It all depends on the quality of the communication bond between patient and therapist. A good therapist MUST be a good diagnostician... to help bring the patients issue(s) to resolution. I did not have that quality of therapist.

    • @sll110
      @sll110 Před 2 lety

      @@petzzz5900 No

    • @sll110
      @sll110 Před 2 lety +1

      @@stevec404 I met much more awful therapist

  • @JagirReehal
    @JagirReehal Před 3 lety

    Amazing video thanks!

  • @petzzz5900
    @petzzz5900 Před 5 lety +5

    Amazing presentation bro💗

  • @kristenrobins5260
    @kristenrobins5260 Před rokem +4

    I wish I would've watched this video sooner! I agree with several others here - this is the best video on this topic on YT. No one else has competently explained and addressed HOW to change limiting beliefs. It has been a source of frustration for me for quite some time. Thank you for this! I will be looking more into this work!

    • @garyvanwarmerdam1206
      @garyvanwarmerdam1206  Před 6 měsíci

      and check out how I apply this process in a session with a client
      pathwaytohappiness.com/blog/podcast/83-how-to-change-a-belief/

  • @Pinkey20
    @Pinkey20 Před rokem +1

    Thank you so much for this video

  • @ElAlemanK
    @ElAlemanK Před 3 lety +1

    THANK YOUUUUUU

  • @BMTroubleU
    @BMTroubleU Před 4 lety +2

    This hit too close to home with me.
    I'm always worried that other people think I'm stupid and I never want to be wrong.
    I try not to engage with people just in case I say something stupid, or get interrupted which makes me feel like I'm not important/being valued.
    I was also talking to my wife yesterday about how I would find it hard to change how I feel when the kids are crying. I was trying to explain that I have a physiological response when they're crying. I often get angry in these circumstances and I'm not sure why. But I know it's better for me to leave the room when it's happening because my response is very hard to control and it completely unhelpful.

  • @esraanadi9232
    @esraanadi9232 Před 10 měsíci

    Thank you for this video , its information is precious

  • @tradingascension
    @tradingascension Před 2 lety +2

    Great information Gary!

  • @pitchforkpeasant6219
    @pitchforkpeasant6219 Před 5 lety +1

    so many are more worried/concerned about being right than they are being happy. even if it causes division and hate, something this country (US) is in no shortage of. how fitting this topic is of current events. :)

    • @pitchforkpeasant6219
      @pitchforkpeasant6219 Před 5 lety

      edward bernays, "crystallizing public opinion",1923, seems to fit current events of late too. actually mentions the court of public opinion

  • @TheGirlahwlee
    @TheGirlahwlee Před 4 lety

    really really great work

  • @rowanelshny7083
    @rowanelshny7083 Před 8 měsíci

    Thank you that was so useful

  • @dutchesscarniegegordon56

    Thank you thank you thank you

  • @MarcPatlan
    @MarcPatlan Před 3 lety +1

    Wow! I love the illustrations along with the pace of your explanation. It really sunk in for me. Thank you!

  • @J101191514
    @J101191514 Před rokem

    Brilliant video, thanks.

  • @onaolapolawal4952
    @onaolapolawal4952 Před 3 lety +5

    I'm in a terrible emotional state right now, as I hate feeling like a weakling that people can bully, especially physically. I have people that can lay down their lives for me, and even be my body guard. But I really hate the thought of that deep down inside me. I relish the thought of being a hero that can fight to the death, but feel very bad when my fear of being hurt takes over. It makes me feel lesser and not good enough. I hate to fill like a coward that can't fight.
    This has made me feel emotionally overwhelmed for days now, as people can see through it that I'm a coward, and only mouth off about doing wicked things to them if they mess up. This has made them see me as a toothless bulldog, and make them misbehave to me in profound ways I can't imagine.
    What can I do about this Gary?

    • @pointofperception
      @pointofperception Před 3 lety

      do the practices in my Self Mastery Course, it will reveal them, and give you the skills to change them, pathwaytohappiness.com/courses/

  • @nathaliaaa6809
    @nathaliaaa6809 Před 2 lety

    love this

  • @aniruddhbadnikar6739
    @aniruddhbadnikar6739 Před rokem

    Thank you for details and support

  • @Acquisition1913
    @Acquisition1913 Před 6 lety +1

    universally useful barrier buster :-)

  • @RealTerrainHobbies
    @RealTerrainHobbies Před 2 lety +3

    I feel for my beliefs about myself to truly change, I need to do regular exercises routinely on a daily basis to train my brain into changing these beliefs. Just hearing this alone is not enough. I need to intentionally work on this daily for there to be real change. Do you have any recommendations say for a 15-30min excercise where I can intentionally work on changing these thought patterns? I know it’s been a while since you had posted this, but here’s hoping youre still around.🙏

  • @alanblazek1653
    @alanblazek1653 Před 4 lety

    Very very helpful

  • @drsandhyathumsikumar4479

    Very well explained 👏

  • @laradara7175
    @laradara7175 Před 2 lety +1

    Changed my core beliefs yesterday wowza

  • @garvitasingh29
    @garvitasingh29 Před 3 lety

    Excellent information 🤞👍🏼

  • @user-oc5ly9uy5w
    @user-oc5ly9uy5w Před 2 lety +1

    Great channel. May I ask what is the software you are using?

  • @user-yu5ge2ps5g
    @user-yu5ge2ps5g Před měsícem

    Crystal clear

  • @mg5431
    @mg5431 Před 5 lety

    Thank you for this video! Also which software are u using for the video? Thanks :)

  • @jailajulien3662
    @jailajulien3662 Před 5 dny

    this video is amazing

  • @eduardocontrerascristerna2396

    Gary, I just want to thank you because your book literally has changed my life!!
    Do you have any other works from your authorship?

    • @garyvanwarmerdam1206
      @garyvanwarmerdam1206  Před 2 lety +4

      I have put my energy into writing the articles for my website, and more recently for the Self Mastery Communtity which you can join for free selfmastery.mn.co/
      And more effort into my courses for those that really want to get the inner work done.
      I have an idea or two for other books, but they are time consuming and I haven't pulled the trigger on the commitment yet.

    • @sll110
      @sll110 Před 2 lety

      @@garyvanwarmerdam1206 I tried very very hard to buy your book, do you have Chinese versions of your books? only in English?

  • @user-zj8el7jz1j
    @user-zj8el7jz1j Před 6 měsíci

    Amazing ❤

  • @edwardkeeter762
    @edwardkeeter762 Před 7 měsíci +1

    For me the hard part is the skepticism and doubt. In my mind, all of my (self-defeating) beliefs are anchored in hard facts, and the counter evidence seems to me to be flimsy and uncompelling. Ask anyone else and they'll see it the exact opposite of how I do, but I haven't been able to budge in that respect even after decades of trying.

    • @garyvanwarmerdam1206
      @garyvanwarmerdam1206  Před 6 měsíci

      Hmm. I wonder what you mean by hard facts. Past events might have facts to them, but the beliefs created, points of view, and emotions attached to those events are all changeable. Have you combined the two?

  • @ernestoparisii
    @ernestoparisii Před 4 lety +1

    Hi Gary, very very great stuff! can you let me know which tool you use to create these animations?
    thank Ernesto. cheers from switzerland.

  • @lexia4016
    @lexia4016 Před 3 lety +2

    The chicken 🐔 example is great !

  • @LavonLovely
    @LavonLovely Před 2 lety

    Good stuff!

  • @minisight2000
    @minisight2000 Před 5 lety +2

    Great video!!!! Subbed!