7 Common Beliefs that are Keeping You Stuck in Life
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- čas přidán 29. 09. 2020
- We all have subconscious beliefs that are getting in our way, holding us back and keeping us stuck. These beliefs can often seem like they are true and can lead to self-sabotaging choices and behaviours that keep us stuck. Here I talk about 7 common ones, and how to overcome them so you can feel more calm, confident and more in charge of your mind, emotions and your life.
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Which one of these do you notice yourself getting stuck on?
Hey Julia nice to see your video again...
I started having anxiety 4 years back but I had overcome it, watching your videos and by self motivation.
I did great in toughest situations but now all of sudden those thoughts are coming.
Fighting again
Please help
for me that's easy, your past defines you. For the past 31 years one event has defined me, nine years old and watching my adopted mom die right in front of me and nothing i did saved her.
As a punishment for me failing to save her, i get to watch her die every night in my sleep. I've watched her die over 12,000 times.
That event got compounded up to the age of thirteen. I buried my adopted mom, dad, grandad, brother and uncle by thirteen years old. I was by myself before i started high school.
Found my bio mom and learned that if it wasn't for her mom and dad i would of been aborted, just to add to my already f'd up life.
@@Periscope99985 do same thing which u did 4 years back..... watching Julia's videos are really stress reliever.🏵️🌹🌸💐🌻🌺🥀🌼
@@SurajRaj-ji5ev thanks
Embacing all of our feelings
1. Keep yourself small to keep other people comfortable
2. Your happiness is dependent on others
3. Other people happiness is dependent on you
4. Your past defines you
5. You need to be happy and positive all the time
6. That being uncomfortable is bad
7. Is the idea that you have to have certainty in order to proceed
Awesome summary. Thank you.
Thanks
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When i dont wash the dishes an my wife is upset...how can i be happy when someone is upset with me ?
When my boss is not happy with the way i do my work....how can i be happy ?
Cant really relate to Point 2 & 3
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What a revelation!! That we're not responsible for other people's happiness!! And that my happiness comes from my thoughts.. And other people's happiness comes from their thoughts.. Wow! That is so very helpful to know 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Yes, a belief that keeps me stuck and scared is that i need a romantic partner in my life to be happy and fulfilled:(
I hear you - this can be a tough one because there is so much social messaging that pushes us to believe this.
One of the beliefs that keep me stuck is that every new decision that i have to take is going to be absolutely decisive and definitive of my life ahead and that if i do take the wrong decision i will never be able to repair the damages. Loved the video, really nice insight and very humane 🙏🏻
Being perfect is impossible. Nobody is perfect. Just be yourself.
Amen to this.
I have never felt especially safe being less than perfect, but then such is the legacy of abuse along with so much else!
Nothing sticks me to the ground anymore. I'm healed from the past and the abuse I got through. Since long I used to feel like a crap and drag a lot of bad thoughts, suicide ones. The world is a place where It's not easy to navigate in and if you are not strong enough to overcome all this violence, this sham, this swindle that the society is made of, It's the end for you. It's essential to be vigilant towards our thoughts and step back to observe them without necessarily lashing ourselves but rather trying to analyse them deeply and do the spiritual work. It is suffering, It takes time but It's worth.
I'm not sure that everybody can do what It wants tbh because there's a lot of people who fail and don't reach their goal but It's worth trying because our journey on earth is a test, a human experience that will end one day or another and there's no sense sometimes regarding the events, the situations that can be absurd, perhaps cruel. That's why to me , being detached of everything is the key to live more free. Nothing is at stake, time doesn't really exist , things happen like they do, we can't force anything nor rig anyone in our favor. That doesn't work like this. The more I get old the more I feel that we live our personal destiny in a way that is already created ipartly, meaning the main lines. We don't make a choice, It's the choice that choises us. Finally, that enables to calm down our frazzled minds.
Best regards from France
Looking forward to watching after class, your channel has genuinely changed my life!! I have so many limiting beliefs that are holding me back ❤️😅
Hi Julia, I'm 60yrs old, and really get alot out of your talks. They are very helpful in giving a different perspective on the topics that you cover. I relate very well to many of them, and they have definitely helped. Thank you.
I cried like 3 times already, because i am doing so much unwinding and self reflection as you speak
For me, this was by far the most powerful video on my journey through this human experience. Julia - your vulnerability is like a shining light leading us all to peaceful lives ❤️. Thanks!
One of the reasons I love my job is because I can wake up feeling like crap, go to work, and fake a smile but it doesn't take long before I have like 20 coworkers coming up to me like, "What's up? Your not yourself today. What's going on?" And no matter how many times I say, "Nothing" or "Just an off day" they will insist on digging the truth out of me and then offer to help or listen or whatever I may need to get back to my usual energetic and talkative self they all know.
A pretty smart lady once said, "We are not our thoughts, We are the thinker of our thoughts!"
Brilliant work! Sending love to your channel ❤️
Thank u so much Julia!! I appreciate your effort so unbelievably much!!
Thanks Julia, that was very helpful - exactly what I needed to hear at this time!!
I loved this video! It went straight to what I’m dealing now. Thank you so much for that!
Keeping us so stuck!! We are constantly trying to digest and consume information! Great video
This is really helpful!
Such an amazing video, well done!! 👏
Great video as always.
So many nuggets of wisdom! 💙💙💙
Love your videos! They are so good. I needed to hear this video. Thank you.
Thanks Julia Was Absolutely great Maria
All a work in progress for me. Getting there slowly but surely. Thank you for this - very timely. Looking forward to your book!
Thank you. Great advice.
This was a super helpful talk for me. Just what I needed to be reminded about with stuff going on in my life at the moment. Thank you soooo much, Julia!
I love this message. Thank you for your help and support.
Whole video hit home for me...especially right now. This year has been unkind to many people and I’m glad your content is out there for people to access and help us through. ❤️
Inspirational Julia thanks 🙏🏻
Wow Julia, so happy that you're writing a book! ❤️ I will definitely get it once it publish. Congrats on taking the project and good luck! 🌸💞
All I wanna say is thank you!
U r a precious being, saying the words we long to say and making us conscious
Thank you Julia for your kind intentions.
I have been making some life transformations that I am please with, and I feel that you just told me, great work!
This was really helpful and also relevant for myself, I've now found the links to your other helpful stuff so ill look at that aswell . Thanks 😊
Thank you for being a bright light in the COVID appocolyse.
every single one of these hit home. thank you so much julia. one more i would add is that i don’t deserve help because my problems aren’t real/it’s all in my head. i just joined the shift society and am loving it so far!
Incrementalism. "Twenty lines a day, genius or not." -Stendahl. Twenty lines in Courier 12pt equals one page of typed print. One page per day, times 365 days equals 365 pages written. (1 page/day)x(365 day) = 365 pages. Tell your inner critic to buzz off!
Thank you so much for this!!! It's real and raw content that so many of us can relate to. Our conditioning has really screwed and messed is up ... so now later in life is like we're learning to live all over again but in our own authentic way and much more conscious. You're so awesome at conveying the truth ❤
Stuck, so stuck and sadly completely unaware of the beliefs that bind me. This is my greatest blind spot 😥
Thank you Julia fr this video. Just beginning to practise this thought that I am not responsible for another person's feelings. God bless you always. 🥰💞👏👏
I cant wait for your book
Can i ask Julia what are 3 things you can share to student counsellors that you wish you knew at the beginning of your career? I love you and your work thankyou beautiful
Love your videos, Julia!
FML THIS WAS POWERFUL
Your content is just amazing god bless you for helping so many with ur helpful advice
Thanks once again Julia! :)
Always Robert - thanks for being here.
You’re so cool thank you for all you do
As soon as u finish that book, drop the link, I'm ready to read it! 😁 (But take ur time, we can wait for perfection 😌)
Love this❤ The best part is sometimes you dont need to listen logical brain, if it feels right it will be right you know deep down. I also express this; woman intuition, proud of it😊😍
Thank you this was great! Ive been a subscriber for over a year, and i have noticed that you have gotten much better in your presentations.
Keep going and thx for your work!
Thanks for sticking around Nisha ❤️
Great lesson as always. I am so EXCITED to hear about the book! I am already looking forward to it! Thanks Julia. I am forever grateful 🧡
Thank you Angel ❤️. And GOOD for you for doing the work.
Hi,
My name is Hammad. I found your CZcams channel when it was quite new. I am so glad that I subscribed it and got a lot of help on different topics. Extremely grateful for what you are doing in your corner on the internet.
I am suffering from anxiety from the past many years. But the main issue I have is sleeplessness (insomnia) which has been there for the past 13 years. The issue reached highest point when I was sixteen years old and more or less has been still that way at 29 years of age.
I have been following your channel for a quite a while but this the first time I am writing a comment.
I would love to write in detail to you so I can get more appropriate help. I am from third world country namely Pakistan. Cultural differences, brought up, religion & beliefs etc all that of the Eastern world. I hope I can get some help for what I am facing right now.
Thank you.
Hello
Your videos really helped me.
Love Your Work here ❤️❤️❤️
Julia! I have always thought you would be great at sharing your knowledge though a book! And to know you are taking on this difficult challenge for you - I am so. darn. proud. of you! Just think, if you can write out of those pdf lessons for the Shift Society, then you sure can write a book! You got this! Congrats for taking the first step! I can't wait to get an autographed book! 😉 👊💪❤🙏 (Then next will come book signings, Tedx Talks, TV talk show..etc...😉) #Shifter
So helpful! I love the quote of "how dare you to put off until tomorrow when you've been given the gift of today." 🤯
Absolutely brilliant. Congrats for taking that long-term project, Julia.
Thanks friend - I hope this is one of those hard things that you do and then feel all kinds of stronger after.
Julia Kristina Counselling I’m sure it will. Looking forward to reading it :)
Hey Julia Kristina, thank you for all of the videos you make.
They are an invaluable resource for me and many others because they help us cope and deal with the issues we face especially at this time in our history.
Thanks for being here - and I totally agree - we weren't meant to do this life thing alone.
Most of Julia's videos are super helpful.
I have by no means listened/watched my way through all of them. But all the ones I have listened to are very good
This is a really powerful video 😻
Fantastic 🙏
Julia, this is incredible content and thank you truly for sharing your talent, wisdom and energy with us!
I have one question. It makes sense that we define ourselves with our thoughts, since thoughts lead to action, and actions lead to our daily reality, but then how come there’s the school of thought that “you are not your thoughts”? Some people say our thoughts don’t define us, and I understand that in a sense, but at the same time our thoughts define how we experience reality. It’s a little confusing. Would be interested to hear your perspective on this.
Thank you
Thank you💕🌷😊🌸💜
Can't wait for your book!
Next spring!
Thanks.
Welcome Julia I love your smile
For me the biggest one was the uncertainty. Not knowing the outcome is one that I have the most focus on. And I think that all if the mental energy that is put into trying to be certain keeps things from just flowing as they are going to flow anyway. Most times we really aren't really realizing that things are going to happen as they are because they just have to everything has a purpose. And the lesson is that this is the purpose this is the reason this life we have been given today just that uncertainties of ever unfolding bliss. Because honestly in the end it's all working out. We have our ups and downs and moments were we really really want somethings and they work out and some dont yet everything that we really need is right infront of us in the first place anyway.
This is beautiful. Thanks for sharing it.
I love this! I did the same thing with seeing🤣🤣🤣. I could not deal.
The belief that “family is all you have”
Can you do any videos for single unemployed parents that are struggling with the virtual demands?
I only have my 2nd grader in virtual (due to co-parenting) but have 3 older ones homeschooled which is less stressful.
And I always enjoy your videos and words you've helped me so much since I've found you.
I'm going to the webinar now
Thank you for such a great message! I got a lot out of this! ❤️
I write books and I love doing it, but being in that world I’ve heard of authors who use programs that puts their speech into a document to write their books. And since you love to talk more than writing, this might be an easier way to get your first draft down. First drafts are nothing but brain dumps anyway, so you could talk it out. It popped into my head after I heard that part of the video and just thought I’d share. ❤️
Great post Julia and enlightening..!!!
Everything is inherently neutral look at reality as it is .
Take your power back!!
Freedom isn't FREE it requires authentic radical Transformation & responsibility.
Peace is a inner GAME
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Hello,
I am curious as to know "how to sit with your feelings and move through them?" Instead of sprialling 😞😞 I have a tendency to do that and shaming alottttttttt 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 The sentence it's self brings me awareness of how I talk about myself shamefully so. Hahaha
Good question Sara - this is a skill I teach in The Shift Society and then we spend a lot of time practicing it. Will you be joining us when we open tomorrow? I'd love to have you.
Trust your feeling.
Hey 💕 you thank you
Hi Julia, last night I watched the Mindfulness Film you have created along with experts. You can make it available here for your audience. We are also posting the documentary on Mindfulness at selfhelpchampion this week. Thank you for this video🙏❤️selfhelpchampion
Do you have podcast? I'd like to listen to it without having my CZcams app opened.
hey there. Your work has been of great assistance to me, and I have been sharing it with a close friend as well. Would you be ok with me emailing you a situation I am in, that other will be able to relate to, and seeing if it would be something you'd like to make a video on? It has to do with relationships between two people who have recently left traumatic experiences.
God I appreciate this video especially the first point
I hear you. It can be tough to let ourselves show up fully and let others take care of their own thoughts about it.
We all struggle.
I know my happiness isn’t dependent on others.
We all have feelings good and bad.
Please do one on people who have Dyslexicer on finding your Talents
So my issue is I keep finding myself on repeat. I make the quick choices for what has been painted as a much better opportunity but I do this and end up in the exact same situation just now at a new job a new time in my life and then so how do I do both jump with faith and live in the uncomfortable and maybe make a choice based in a little more certainty cause now I’m stuck arguing myself with every time I’ve made a move it has never worked and I’ve started from the bottom to many times that my trap is now needing certainty and I’m scared to make any moves
Hi, Julia . how are you ? . Hope you’re doing great and I just want a bit of counseling or can say a help from you regarding an issue I’ve had developed probably a month ago and now the couple of weeks ago it’s like stuck in my mind and now I kinda feel it and having anxiety of being bullied in the past for like consistently of 3-4 years when I was a kid . Never had these flashbacks before but now I’m having anxiety and social anxiety because of it . Like I was picked up by a stranger who bullied me in the primary school, and few of the times some troubled minded boys bullied . And anything about it would really love to . If you give something about it would be really thankful and helpful .
Please have a look at this comment 👀 . Thanks ❤️❤️
Oh I’m so stuck. I used to paint and now I can’t even put brush to the canvas anymore. I get very anxious. Afraid of the uncertain outcome. 🤦🏻♀️
We all make mistakes it’s the only way we learn and grow.
Hi
I am stuck! Why do I feel as though I am not really wanted by anyone as a friend. Why does family reject me as a Mother after much nurturing etc during very difficult times. .Is it them that are not right and has problems or me. I do feel as thought I have failed in everyway, but then I know that I am enough I an human. One thing I cannot cope with is deceit and lies. This is all I get from family all the time. I am really trying to find a solution here.
I don’t even know where to start as far as liking myself . Sux
I have been working very hard for a while to convert my negative thoughts into neutral or positive ones and it works relatively well. Now what if a negative thought or situation is really negative and I have to take action to stand up for myself or anything like that and it would be normal to worry about it even without anxiety disorder. I'm afraid to be naive, to be someone who puts up with everything and all of my thoughts to relate to the anxiety disorder. I feel as if I am no longer able to objectively evaluate thoughts or situations without my anxiety disorder. Any Help ?
I let go of my Christian friend because she controls and she said to me she going to pray harder for me, because I left my narc husband of 33 years
Oh boy - I'm sorry to hear that happened.
triplekids3 - good on you for leaving him. That must have extremely difficult. Being free of the Narc must feel great.
I went with a woman a few years ago who looked to me to me to make her complete. I sensed this and encouraged her to work toward herself to make her own hapiyness. It was a terrible burden for me to carry. We ended badly coz I couldn't make her whole in that sense. I wonder if she made it, really hope she did.
"love being able to connect to you all down there" :D
Amen
I think so many of my limiting beliefs came from my dopey parents always telling me that I couldn't do anything right. Deep down, I know it's not true. (I was very good in school and probably should have been able to have done anything with my life (doctor, lawyer, etc.) But they so completely screwed me up in every possible way that I know they were flat-out wrong, but I still can't get unstuck. In fact, it brings me way out of my comfort zone to admit that they were wrong about a whole bunch of stuff. It would be far easier if they had been right about everything and I truly was just a screw-up. I guess ultimately it's easier to know they were wrong than to pick up the pieces and do something about it???
How can we recognize what beliefs are limiting?
Being uncomfortable isn’t bad many things are uncomfortable.
yeah but I'm going rapidly in opposite direction of keeping self small..what if I'm too big?
I tried to access your free mindfulness guidance. But the mail did not have any attachment regarding that
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