I Can't Have A Baby

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  • čas přidán 1. 08. 2024
  • It's not been the journey I wanted, but I have to say it is the journey I am happy to see end. Here's the entire story behind why I will not be getting pregnant. If you have any questions about IVF, please let me know in the comments and I will try to answer them in a follow up video. Also, I just want to thank all of you so much for your continued support. I see every comment and read every message and I always feel SO loved by so many. If you are going through your own fertility journey right now, don't give up. Get yourself the best fertility doctors you can find and continue pressing on for your hopes and dreams. It doesn't always work out the way you might have planned it, but it does always end up working out somehow.
    More videos on my previous fertility journey are here:
    A 2 Minute Encouragement Boost: • I Don't Know What's Next
    My Ectopic Pregnancy Story: • this is extremely hard
    Fertility Q&A: • what's been going on -...
    Our Missed Miscarriage: • My Full Miscarriage St...
    Our First Miscarriage: • losing our baby
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  • @Thisisnotapipe_
    @Thisisnotapipe_ Před 2 lety +430

    " I know that's not a normal reaction " ITS COMPLETELY NORMAL ERIN. any reaction to pregnancy or lack thereof is NORMAL. Society needs to normalize women being ok or at peace with not wanting to be pregnant, whatever the reason is.

    • @AKbaby89
      @AKbaby89 Před 2 lety +4

      Yessss🙌🙌🙌🙌 I had to have a hysterectomy at 25 because of Endometriosis, and for a while I felt exactly how Erin did, I felt a huge weight lifted.
      Now that I've been in a healthy, loving relationship for 6 years, I'd love to have a baby with him so I've gone into a different phase. But for a while, I felt so relieved

    • @tiffanyrobinson4719
      @tiffanyrobinson4719 Před rokem +1

      ​@@AKbaby89How do you deal with knowing you can't have a baby, especially for your partner? Im currently facing a hysterectomy and it saddens me

    • @AKbaby89
      @AKbaby89 Před rokem +1

      @Tiffany Robinson to be totally honest, it's tough. I would love to be able to have a child with my partner, but the main thing I try to focus on is the fact that I wouldn't have been able to carry a pregnancy to term because of Endometriosis and the damage it caused all my reproductive organs. I was only ever able to get pregnant once, and I wasn't even aware I was pregnant when I miscarried and had to have a D&C because my fallopian tubes were blocked. So, I try to remind myself that even if I had the organs to have children, my body wouldn't have been able to do that anyway.
      My partner actually doesn't want to have kids with his genes anyway, so if we ever become able to adopt, we definitely would. I'm not sure we will ever be there because of all my medical problems, I'd never bring a child into a situation that isn't 100% healthy, supportive, and the best option for that child. I'd love to be able to adopt someday, there's so many kids in the system it breaks my heart.
      I wish I had some advice for you, it's a really hard thing to go through and live with, but id say to do whatever is best for you and your health. Sending you love❤️❤️

    • @tiffanyrobinson4719
      @tiffanyrobinson4719 Před rokem

      @@AKbaby89 Yes, I too have endometriosis and the symptoms are becoming unbearable so I know a hysterectomy is looking like the option for me. And a bunch insecurities and questions are running through my mind now. Like wil find someone that'll be ok with not having kids? I know these men exist but I just feel incomplete as a woman

    • @AKbaby89
      @AKbaby89 Před rokem

      @Tiffany Robinson well just so you're aware, a hysterectomy really doesn't impact Endometriosis much. I've had several surgeries since my hysterectomy, it really only stops me from bleeding, but my body still goes through the hormone cycle since I have one ovary left. I thought I'd be pain free after the hysterectomy, but that doesn't seem to be the case very often. ❤️❤️

  • @Veino342
    @Veino342 Před 2 lety +806

    I’m so glad you’re in a good place Erin. People place so much importance on pregnancy. It doesn’t matter how your child comes into this world, what matters is the work, time, and love that comes with being a parent. While pregnancy can be beautiful it pales in comparison to holding your baby and watching them grow. I wish you and your husband joy and happiness on your journey!

  • @kyleehobelman1488
    @kyleehobelman1488 Před 2 lety +238

    After a traumatic fertility journey, my husband and I weren’t able to have a biological child. It wasn’t until we adopted our son that we were able to look back and see the bigger plan. Life worked out just the way it was suppose to.

    • @foxymama2003
      @foxymama2003 Před 2 lety +5

      Kylee, same here! The day he was born and I held him for the first time, I knew exactly why all the other things we had tried hadn’t worked. We were meant to be his parents!

    • @ZizYoubizHERE
      @ZizYoubizHERE Před 2 lety +4

      thank you for giving that child a home & a family :)

    • @tiffanyrivera5533
      @tiffanyrivera5533 Před 2 lety +8

      I wish more couples would adopt! There are so many children out there without homes and we are so overpopulated as it is.

    • @tlsm8967
      @tlsm8967 Před rokem

      I can help you get pregnant. exact solution

    • @rcg224
      @rcg224 Před rokem

      wonderful parents im sure

  • @rachelfeldbloom3899
    @rachelfeldbloom3899 Před 2 lety +279

    You honestly left no stone unturned. This is a really solid decision and you should be so proud of how hard you worked to get here. Sending love.

    • @MyLittleGreenHairdedMermaid
      @MyLittleGreenHairdedMermaid Před 2 lety +5

      And know what... even if you deciced no without going through the options cause you didnt have money or didnt want to, then thats good too.

    • @rachelfeldbloom3899
      @rachelfeldbloom3899 Před 2 lety

      @@MyLittleGreenHairdedMermaid Absolutely!

  • @VivianFabiolaV
    @VivianFabiolaV Před 2 lety +317

    Thank you for sharing this Erin! I think you have a huge support system of followers and friends who have watched your entire journey, and it's a very mature decision to be able to accept this. We are here for you, and we love you !

  • @TMB62
    @TMB62 Před 2 lety +326

    I'm so frustrated that surrogacy isn't at least partially covered when it's proven it is unsafe for you to carry. I had a horrible post partum hemorrhage and nearly died. I wanted more children but I couldn't afford the surrogate. We are exploring adoption now.
    I wish you many blessings in this journey.

    • @beccathebeccanator1433
      @beccathebeccanator1433 Před 2 lety +4

      I think its not covered for obvious financial reasons

    • @TMB62
      @TMB62 Před 2 lety +21

      @@beccathebeccanator1433 yeah because the insurance companies are greedy. They have plenty of money to cover these expenses.

    • @SnazzyArcade
      @SnazzyArcade Před 2 lety +32

      There's very little consideration to the long-term health risks for surrogates, and gestating a human is not the same as say, giving up a kidney. Adding in insurance policies sounds like something right out of the Handmaid's Tale.

    • @MyLittleGreenHairdedMermaid
      @MyLittleGreenHairdedMermaid Před 2 lety +26

      And it shouldn't be covered... its a choice.

    • @TMB62
      @TMB62 Před 2 lety +7

      If you're a woman you are already paying more insurance costs because you have the possibility to get pregnant. There is absolutely zero reason that that cost can't cover surrogate pregnancies. It might be a chance and it's a choice a lot of women don't make but they sure as heck are being charged for it anyway. I guess non of you have heard of a pink tax. Also, handmaid's tale was a forced situation. There are plenty of women that volunteer to carry other women's babies all of the time. Live in reality people not the fictional dystopias you're watching on television. Consent is a real concept that absolutely applies in this scenario.

  • @caboluv342
    @caboluv342 Před 2 lety +23

    My mom was diagnosed with endometriosis right after she got married and lost the ability to have biological children. She was devastated at the time. Seven years later she adopted me and a few years later my brother. Looking back she feels it was the biggest blessing because she was meant to be our mom. Without having to go through that she would have never met us. I feel the same way...No one else was supposed to be my mom.❤ God has a plan and your hearts desire in mind. It will absolutely unfold.

  • @KassieFrass
    @KassieFrass Před 2 lety +27

    Erin you don’t have to justify to anyone this choice. Your health matters the most and that’s it. We often talk about the baby’s health but the moms health matters so much too!

  • @californiacurvy4486
    @californiacurvy4486 Před 2 lety +67

    I used to be a surrogacy case manager. It can be an amazingly beautiful process - we had one set of IP's who the mother had recovered from metatastic breast cancer and they had a baby through surrogacy. I don't think any of the IPs came to us because the mother didn't want to carry herself for cosemtic reasons. Most had been through agonizing fertility journeys and had come to us as their last resort for a biological baby. We also had a lot of same sex IP's who wanted biological children but couldn't become pregnant on their own. If you want to chat more, I'm happy to answer any questions you have!

    • @SnazzyArcade
      @SnazzyArcade Před 2 lety +4

      Do surrogacy agencies follow up the long-term health of the women acting as surrogates?

  • @megchris7685
    @megchris7685 Před 2 lety +115

    Prayers to you and your hubby hun! I found out a few years ago when I miscarried that I won’t be able to have a baby either! I love your positivity! God has a plan🙏💕 When you guys do get your baby, no matter how or when, they are going to be absolutely loved and all of this, hopefully will bring even more uplifting vibes on your entire journey!💕

    • @ChrisHillASMR
      @ChrisHillASMR Před rokem +2

      God's plan was for man to go forth and multiply. Do good works.

    • @megchris7685
      @megchris7685 Před rokem +1

      @@ChrisHillASMR I find your comment highly offensive and rude! Not sure if your heartless or didn’t understand something!

    • @megchris7685
      @megchris7685 Před rokem

      @@junebug2850 oh please find a friend!

    • @Kat-id7rz
      @Kat-id7rz Před 7 měsíci

      He's an a hole. He would create little a holes

  • @TessMac
    @TessMac Před 2 lety +30

    I truly appreciate your honesty on all areas of this exhausting journey you’ve been on the last year. I had a similar experience & had to make the decision to stop the fertility process & have a hysterectomy for MY future health. Now a decade later I can unequivocally say that it was the right thing. I fully understand the relief of not worrying anymore about getting pregnant & all things attached. It is physically & emotionally exhausting. Owning that so soon is HUGE! I still have no doubt you will be a mama & will be an EXCEPTIONAL MAMA at that! My sincere condolences to the losses you’ve endured & my prayers for a HEALTHY & JOYFUL future! 🤍🙏🏻😘

  • @Raegansouthworth
    @Raegansouthworth Před 2 lety +17

    The podcast Katie’s Crib has some episodes about surrogacy! Excited for your continued journey in parenthood 💕

  • @kmy1869
    @kmy1869 Před 2 lety +21

    Being pregnant is definitely a different experience for everybody but I totally agree with you, you don’t need it in order to feel attached to your baby, you don’t need it to breastfeed, you don’t need it to feel unconditional love for a new human being, you’ll be a wonderful mom no matter what way you decide to go, good luck 💕

    • @TheSightOfTheStars
      @TheSightOfTheStars Před 2 lety +1

      Just, leaving this cause I learned about it recently, and I thought it was really cool, adoptive parents can still breastfeed! Whether through induced lactation, or by using a supplemental feeding device, like a breastfeeding person whose baby needed more milk, or had an inadequate supply might use!

  • @emleigh3909
    @emleigh3909 Před 2 lety +41

    Erin, no matter how your child makes it’s way into your arms, they will be SO loved because of how hard you worked to meet them. You will be a great Mom, whether that is through surrogacy, adoption, anything.
    I recently had my first child and while he is my world and everything I went through was worth it for him, pregnancy and labor were horrible. I was sick all the time, in pain, had a high risk pregnancy, was a human pin cushion (about 30+ blood tests in a month and 2 collapsed veins), and had a preeclamptic attack post labor that was painful and terrifying. If I had the means to have a surrogate carry our 2nd future child, I would consider it. Surrogacy isnt a dirty word and should be talked about more. You have been through a LOT of trauma and if a surrogate will prevent you from experiencing more trauma, it is WORTH IT. Best of luck on your journey and thank you!

  • @lyssafaithp
    @lyssafaithp Před 2 lety +24

    I love you Erin! Sending you lots of love and prayers for peace and clarity on your future decisions! I can’t wait to continue to watch your journey

  • @Mariana_fm
    @Mariana_fm Před 2 lety +59

    Girl you have worked sooooo hard in the last 2 years are you serious??? Getting out of bed is work. And you have gone above and beyond that. You kick ass, don’t discredit it!!!

  • @cecynnettemartinez3670
    @cecynnettemartinez3670 Před 2 lety +37

    It’s wonderful to hear how well you’re doing with this. So many props for your strength girl!
    I actually know someone who used a surrogate. She tried IVF for quite some time as well and I believe she and her husband posted a video talking about it as well.
    Today she has a healthy baby boy - a truly awesome story.
    I pray whatever you guys want works out for y’all!

  • @melissamcrae2569
    @melissamcrae2569 Před 2 lety +17

    I admire your transparency and honesty, Erin! Thank you so much for sharing your journey. 💜

  • @Unphilosophize
    @Unphilosophize Před 2 lety +8

    Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers! I’m so glad to hear that you’re in a good place. Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us. It really helps to break down the stigma

  • @hannahhargett447
    @hannahhargett447 Před 2 lety +8

    You’re a true inspiration, Erin. I have felt like such a disappointment and so alone in my journey of getting pregnant for so long, and that I was the only person going through this. Knowing that you and other women are going through the same thing makes me feel more at peace. You are so strong and beautiful for sharing your story and journey🤍✨ thank you for this- You have no idea how much I needed this.

  • @ambermothersell2947
    @ambermothersell2947 Před 2 lety +9

    Thank you for sharing your Journey Erin! Fertility issues suck but talking about them makes the topic a little less taboo.

  • @robingish2666
    @robingish2666 Před 2 lety +11

    I'm glad to hear you have some answers now. I know that sometimes it's harder not knowing medical issues than having answers and finding solutions to those medical issues. I hope you guys have fun with the new renovations and that time together❤

  • @devinjames5685
    @devinjames5685 Před 2 lety +2

    I hope I handle any struggle I go through in my life with Erin’s grace and strength, you’re inspiring!

  • @beth.whatcanido
    @beth.whatcanido Před 2 lety +58

    It makes my heart happy to see you at peace. Even if it isn't necessarily the end game you were expecting, I'm glad you have a solid answer and can get hopefully get some rest (physical AND mental!). Much love to you guys!

  • @RogueWanheda222
    @RogueWanheda222 Před 2 lety +2

    So much love for you Erin! Everything happens for a reason and it’s so great that you’ve found the bright side! ❤️

  • @heylovely14
    @heylovely14 Před 2 lety +3

    Hi Erin! I’ve been following you for many years and it’s so nice to hear you be in a positive place. I am just starting my journey with infertility and you have been such a role model. My cousin works with Carrying Hope Surrogacy asked in NC but they work with families literally world wide. Their website has a lot of helpful information and the ladies on their team are truly one of a kind. Praying that you receive a sign of what your families best choice will be and you continue to have many positive blessings!

  • @geraldschiera1883
    @geraldschiera1883 Před 2 lety +2

    Sending you all the love! My wife and I wanted to adopt and that route didn’t work out. Looking back now, it all brought us to where we are now with our amazing daughter.

  • @lilypowder1
    @lilypowder1 Před 2 lety +1

    You’re such a strong person! I’m glad that you’re able to enter this mindset! One of the best things you said in this video was “you don’t know what you don’t know” and you could absolutely be saving your life by making this choice. I appreciate you being so vulnerable because society is so weird because pregnancy is so glamorized but most people experience the not so glamorous aspects and don’t discuss them! I follow some creators that are very straightforward with how their pregnancy experiences have been & I hope more people are compelled to do the same! Thank you for sharing with us 🤍

  • @GoGoSachiko
    @GoGoSachiko Před 2 lety +3

    You’re at peace with the decision and I feel that coming through and that is really encouraging! ❤️❤️

  • @hka_c9240
    @hka_c9240 Před 2 lety +2

    I’m honestly so thankful you’re in a happy place!! You’re one of the people I think about regularly & seeing you in so much pain and heartache was so sad!! Thank you for sharing your story & I think surrogacy, if you feel happy & it feels right for you and Matt then why shouldn’t you! Adoption is a good option too!! You’re truly incredible & I know you’ve helped so many people going through trauma & fertility issues! So thank you x

  • @ladynessarosee
    @ladynessarosee Před 2 lety +1

    I’m happy you’re in a good place. Your story really opened up the gates to discuss this topic and the struggles women go through and I’m sending you, Matt, and Benji so much love and light.

  • @TheAgeofFabulous
    @TheAgeofFabulous Před 2 lety +3

    As someone else who went through something similar, I feel you on a very base level. I still have moments of “what if” but I remember that I could lose my life if I got pregnant. And I like my life. So much love to you Erin and your husband.

  • @knightaggie7897
    @knightaggie7897 Před 2 lety +3

    Glad to hear that you're doing well and still have a smile on your face after all the ups and downs. I can't imagine the journey you have gone through to this point and wish you well on your next steps, whatever they may be. Much love ❤

  • @jessicapesce9520
    @jessicapesce9520 Před 2 lety

    Sending all the love! Can't wait to follow along whatever journey you decide to take that's right for you ❤

  • @lauramoore8823
    @lauramoore8823 Před 2 lety +1

    So so glad to hear you're happy about this! I have grown a human and it was super hard, even though I didn't have that many complications. Y'all will have a beautiful family no matter what!

  • @undertowsoul
    @undertowsoul Před 2 lety +3

    I'm so glad you're doing ok right now. It's hard. I was in a similar situation, though not in a relationship. In my case, they were considering hysterectomy. I told them I'd figure it out later and I did. My husband had a son from a previous marriage but I'm adopting him and love him like my own. Every journey to becoming a mom is valid and different. This is just part of yours. Good luck with surrogacy!

  • @stephwebber7003
    @stephwebber7003 Před 2 lety

    Been following your journey don’t worry everything works out the way it should sending you the best !

  • @Jenidala23
    @Jenidala23 Před 2 lety +3

    My heart goes out to you and I know you’ll make the best of whatever situation happens. Life looks different for everyone and even paths we didn’t intend to go down lead you somewhere beautiful.

  • @jillsarah7356
    @jillsarah7356 Před 2 lety +3

    It’s huge that you’re sharing this and the nuance of it too! Medical trauma is VERY real and VERY valid. And I really appreciated learning about how false the stigma around surrogacy is. I hope in the future that stigma gets reduced, bc it truly is a part of Ableism. Proud of you for taking care of yourself and your vulnerability!

  • @TheJemMarie
    @TheJemMarie Před 2 lety

    Being vulnerable is such a big thing to do and you have shared some incredibly raw and emotional times, thank you for being open and real. You have to do what feels right for you, and only you get to decide that. Surrogacy is a wonderful thing, it is not for everyone but there are many amazing people out there who are willing to help. I have found instagram to be useful for finding people who are sharing their surrogacy journeys, both as a surrogate and as the intended parents. Wishing you all the very best wishes and good vibes for your ongoing journey!

  • @TheLazzzyStudent
    @TheLazzzyStudent Před 2 lety +3

    As always Erin, sending hugs and love from across the pond 💕

  • @beaslewee
    @beaslewee Před 2 lety +2

    Erin, I’m so happy you’re in a good place! I’ve been following you on CZcams and Instagram after seeing you in Clever videos years ago. I’ve always loved your vulnerability in your content. Although I have yet to try to conceive a child or really even begin to have that conversation with my partner, I’ve appreciated your honestly and willingness to share throughout your journey. It’s made me so much more aware of what my friends who are having kids or trying to have kids are going through. And I know content like this is been so so helpful to those going through their own fertility journey. I hope wherever you go from here has a positive outcome 🧡

  • @beccasok6481
    @beccasok6481 Před 2 lety

    I would recommend the podcast Infertile AF they have a ton of stories of women walking through their fertility journies and there has been some that talk about their journey with surrogacy. So glad to see you happy and I can imagine how this can be hard but also a weight lifted off of you.

  • @ecueto395
    @ecueto395 Před 2 lety +2

    I am so sorry that you’ve gone through all of that pain and struggle. I am so glad that you seem to be in a good place about it right now. Sending you and Matt (and Benji) lots of love ❤️

  • @MissBrittneyAnn1218
    @MissBrittneyAnn1218 Před 2 lety

    I love your look on this outcome. Thinking positive thoughts for whatever comes next your way! You got this! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @nessie4026
    @nessie4026 Před 2 lety +5

    Erin, I have never seen someone as strong as you are. You have been through SO much during the past few years, I have followed all of your journey and I am SO proud of you, it is normal to feel sad because you had a specific picture in your head and hoped that it would come true, but to EVERY problem/issue, there is a solution and I am SO glad to see you come in terms with it and accept it how it is. I kept smiling and laughing at your little funny comments while watching the video! You do what is BEST for you, this is for sure a good thing, I don't personally see it as a sad or bad thing, you will eventually come up with another solution, take your time, you look STUNNING AND BEAUTIFUL as always and enjoy life as you are doing right now, I am sending tons of positive vibes and love to you and Matt and the cute doggie! Love you Erin! ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥

  • @elliebelliewatermellie155

    I’m so glad you’re sharing everything about your journey !
    And a safe pregnancy is always the better choice ! We wouldn’t want to put you and baby at risk 🥺
    And I’m so glad to hear that the baby journey isn’t over ! I do see a baby in your future even if you don’t carry the baby, it will still be yours 🥲❤️

  • @charlenehayashida5883
    @charlenehayashida5883 Před 2 lety +2

    Erin, you are so strong!! I'm so glad that you're in a great place with this journey. I did fertility treatments for 4 years with 1 ectopic pregnancy & surgery. No matter how your child gets here, it doesn't matter. I hope that you go the surrogate route. I'll be watching to see what happens. I wish you the best. 💕💕💕

  • @blackouten
    @blackouten Před 2 lety +1

    Erin! I just wanted to say that you have been in my thoughts! Thank you for sharing with us! ❣

  • @tiapolley4817
    @tiapolley4817 Před 2 lety

    I can tell you’ve been going to therapy and it’s so wonderful! Almost brings me to tears! I’m so happy for you. I’m happy for your new journey and your new found relief on the stress. I’m praying for you!

  • @ashleynorris1066
    @ashleynorris1066 Před 2 lety +3

    Whatever route you go is going to be great. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about your choices to be a parent or not or how you get there. You're so strong! Keep being your positive awesome self

  • @michellesallette435
    @michellesallette435 Před 2 lety +1

    Your journey is beautiful and absolutely YOUR'S! My most beautiful journey has been with my children, not with my pregnancies. Seeing your baby smile, your toddler learn how to count, your ten year old hit that ball across the field.... those are the things that make life amazing. You got this! Can't wait to hear about your journey.

  • @jessicamae7251
    @jessicamae7251 Před 2 lety

    Thank you for posting this - it was really nice to watch. My husband and I have been on the struggle bus with our fertility journey and it has been really weighing heavy on my heart these last couple days. I'm trying to stay positive and this video was a good reminder that everything happens for a reason. Everyone will end up where they are supposed to be in the end. Best of luck to you on this journey called life!

  • @1017cmc
    @1017cmc Před 2 lety

    I just love you! I've been following and praying for you as long as I can remember. I can't imagine this journey you've been on. You inspire me so, so much!

  • @bayleemancuso1636
    @bayleemancuso1636 Před 2 lety

    Thank you so much for sharing your journey! I also struggle with fertility and miscarriages and I am so glad to see other people being open about their journey. It helps with feeling less alone.

  • @rebeccaprelle3504
    @rebeccaprelle3504 Před 2 lety +1

    It’s so crazy to me that you have been through so much and yet still been putting out so much content. I really admire how open you have been through everything and intensely brave to show your pain throughout. ♥️♥️♥️

  • @beyondthestacks
    @beyondthestacks Před 2 lety

    Thank you for being open with all of us. I’m really grieving not being able to have children and your channel has been a true source of comfort. Sending you and everyone so much encouragement! 💜

  • @Oluwasemiloore
    @Oluwasemiloore Před 2 lety

    Love you from Nigeria🇳🇬 ! That’s how vast your influence is, you are perfect Erin❤️

  • @leilani461
    @leilani461 Před 2 lety

    Love you and support whatever you do !!! It takes a lot to even talk about your situation but, I’m glad you found a place where you can be happy with the processes you are going through!

  • @zay_rz
    @zay_rz Před 2 lety +2

    The way you’ve handled and your outlook on this is incredible and so inspiring! God is the best of planners and one way or another Erin, you WILL be a mama! And an amazing one you’ll be ❤️ praying for you and your husband

  • @clarissawillson1172
    @clarissawillson1172 Před 2 lety

    I really appreciate that you are sharing your fertility journey. As someone who is struggling with this, it is such a comfort to hear others' stories. Difficulties are not normalized even though they are so so so common. So thanks!!!! Love you. I'm glad that you are in a good place. I'm not, but I'm getting there.

  • @AlyssaGarcia-pm1nl
    @AlyssaGarcia-pm1nl Před 2 lety

    Erin, I am so encouraged by your outlook on this entire process. Thank you for your vulnerability and honesty. I am still praying for you, whatever decisions you make, may they be guided and blessed.

  • @melissacarteaux6411
    @melissacarteaux6411 Před 2 lety

    Prayers for your journey, and it is exactly that your journey. I am so glad that you have found peace with the situation and to be honest I could hear the relief in your voice that you have answers.

  • @shineesprincipessa5
    @shineesprincipessa5 Před 2 lety

    it's so good to see you be in a good place about this! It's truly inspiring to see you handle everything that was thrown at you with so much gratitude and strength! I wish you all the best on the next steps of your journey and can't wait for you to share it with us!

  • @megcrane6156
    @megcrane6156 Před 2 lety

    Thank you for making this video! A lot of what you said really resonated with me and elements of my story. I will follow your journey from here, wishing you all the best!

  • @nicolehughes5373
    @nicolehughes5373 Před 2 lety

    It’s so nice to see your light again. You can tell that you’re feeling better and coming to terms with it all. 💕

  • @A_Vets_Life
    @A_Vets_Life Před 2 lety

    Thank you for sharing 🥰 i have been following your journey and I was sad with you, but am happy you are in a good space. 💛

  • @havefaith92
    @havefaith92 Před 2 lety

    Inspiring, thank you for sharing you’re journey…I’m so glad you’re happy…it gives me so much inspiration so thank you

  • @alexandrademartini7496
    @alexandrademartini7496 Před 2 lety +5

    When I found out I couldn’t have a baby, I felt super at peace. I’ve never heard anyone describe it this way, but I felt that as well. People didn’t understand so I didn’t talk about it. When I looked back on my life, I realized it may have been the plan all along. I feel like I can be a great teacher and I have resources to help family and friends due to not spending money on children. I considered a surrogate but it just didn’t feel right to us. May be right for you.

  • @pedanticm
    @pedanticm Před 2 lety +28

    I'm a little heartbroken for this obstacle, but super happy that you are making it work for you. You are loved and awesome and amazing. Never give up on your dreams, and thank you for being so honest and open and genuine with us here.

  • @clarapark3486
    @clarapark3486 Před 2 lety

    I went through my own surgery this year and it changes your perspectives in life.. good for you!! Hope for more positive videos!!!

  • @johanncai5184
    @johanncai5184 Před 2 lety

    I would love to watch your journey nomatter how it plays out! Thank you for sharing with us! You're so amazing!

  • @sarahsexton1480
    @sarahsexton1480 Před 2 lety

    Thank you for sharing all this. I have been trying to get pregnant for about 2 years and will start my fertility testing journey on my next cycle. I’m very nervous about what news these test will bring but watching your journey through it all has given me a lot of hope and peace that no matter what, there is still joy and happiness and family in the future no matter how that comes to be. I am truly grateful to you and can’t wait to follow the rest of your journey.

  • @dobetterwithchristian4472

    I'm so glad you have found peace. Having a child is such a unique experience, and everyone's journey is different. While I love my daughter with all my heart, being pregnant is not an experience I have any desire to repeat. You're so right that in the end, what you cherish is the time you spend with the people you love most. Looking forward to watching your story unfold❤

  • @thekiahjane
    @thekiahjane Před 2 lety

    Thank you Erin for always being real with us and sharing your story so in depth. The first fertility video I watched of yours, I only related to because I had also suffered a pregnancy loss. Now I’ve found out some stuff and im working with my dr on my own fertility, and watching you share your journey so openly and honestly makes me feel so much less alone, and makes me feel inspired to be a woman on this journey, instead of feeling like it’s the biggest burden ever. Thank you

  • @terismall5001
    @terismall5001 Před 2 lety

    sending so many hugs. infertility is not spoken about enough. so thank you for sharing❤❤❤❤

  • @chelseathomas797
    @chelseathomas797 Před 2 lety

    Hey Erin. I am so happy you are in a positive place. I appreciate you sharing your journey with us. Sending yall love and prayers

  • @valeriatorrejon8058
    @valeriatorrejon8058 Před 2 lety

    Erin, I’m so happy you found the calmness and conviction to get to this point. I really admire you and I hope the pending steps or things that are yet to come go more than well for you ♥️

  • @allisonkompare9102
    @allisonkompare9102 Před 2 lety

    So so happy that you finally have answers, you and Matt deserve the family of your dreams!

  • @WobblyPandas
    @WobblyPandas Před 2 lety

    A great program I'd like to reccommend is Courtney Cox "9 months" it focuses on different families journeys with pregnancy, and tackles a lot of different scenarios.

  • @jaimebh30
    @jaimebh30 Před 2 lety

    I am so glad you and your family have answers! I am so glad you are in a great place! Hugs to you and your family.

  • @littlegeo1
    @littlegeo1 Před 2 lety

    I'm so glad that you have such a peace about this Erin. I had back surgery last year and will likely need more in my future and I have had no desire to carry a child (even though I probably could) just due to the risks of increasing problems with my back. I'm 35 and also would like to do surrogacy, but you're right, it's so stigmatized and so foreign to most people, that it's a really hard discussion to have. Thank you for shedding light on this topic in such an easy and non-judgmental way

  • @lauraconover7338
    @lauraconover7338 Před 2 lety

    Hey Erin
    We are here for you and Matt what ever your life path. I follow you for good bad and sad and still want the best for you Girl your glory is o we the horizon so keep yo head up🥰🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @AmandaRichelleBrown
    @AmandaRichelleBrown Před 2 lety +1

    I am so happy for you! I am so glad you have found peace and are choosing to stay healthy :)

  • @andiis8
    @andiis8 Před 2 lety +3

    I am immensely proud of you! Sending you both lots of love

  • @amandaanundson7389
    @amandaanundson7389 Před 2 lety

    I am so glad you are in a good place with your journey! There should never be any shame over how you be come a parent. The journey is beautiful any way you choose or it gets chosen for you at times.

  • @carolynduncan3117
    @carolynduncan3117 Před 2 lety

    I love the positive message you have about hard times and being able to pivot and find the silver lining, I think that’s so important and often overlooked. You are amazing Erin and I wish you the best with whatever choice or decision you make, because it’s about what makes you feel happy, healthy, and safe.

  • @eli7672
    @eli7672 Před 2 lety

    It makes me so happy to see you at more of a point of peace after everything you've gone through. I love the way you're looking at it. You are so strong and an inspiration.

  • @angelabees1542
    @angelabees1542 Před 2 lety

    It's so brave and admirable of you to share your story. And what an example of walking through disappointment! I also appreciate the insight into surrogacy. I had my first baby 3 months ago, and very little of it went as I hoped, so your story is helping me reframe the experience.

  • @mirrormandi4466
    @mirrormandi4466 Před 2 lety

    Thank you for being so vulnerable with us. I know someone who went through deciding about adoption or surrogacy and wrote a wonderful book about her journey and the book also provides a workbook on how to navigate the journey. The book is on Amazon it’s called The Decision by Shan Bowers.

  • @femme434
    @femme434 Před 2 lety

    Much love, and support to you and Matt for the next chapter...💜

  • @kristywindle8235
    @kristywindle8235 Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you for sharing your story!

  • @CyrilJap
    @CyrilJap Před rokem

    Hearing you talk, you’re such an amazing person.

  • @MatchaChaCha86
    @MatchaChaCha86 Před 2 lety

    Ur so brave. Health is the perfect word as its one of the most important. Whatever comes next for u hopefully not only brings all the joy and happiness but also a bundle of love. No matter the avenue.

  • @abigailspringer117
    @abigailspringer117 Před 2 lety +2

    Came to this video expecting to cry, now I’m sitting here so proud of how positive you are about all of this! As someone who didn’t have the blissful pregnancy or birth I would for sure say it doesn’t matter how your little person gets to you, all that matters is how much that little person will be loved! 💕

  • @Mariana_fm
    @Mariana_fm Před 2 lety +36

    I think we all need to work on being less judgemental. Even if someone does have a surrogate because they are rich and don’t wanna mess up their body. Go them! As long as they are loving parents, we shouldn’t care. Adopted parents aren’t shamed for how they became parents. Judgement freeeee ❤️

    • @strawberryfox8819
      @strawberryfox8819 Před 2 lety +1

      Also as long as they are good to the surrogate. Cause a lot do abuse them.

    • @mandachris7146
      @mandachris7146 Před 2 lety

      It’s also important to not judge women who any to just adopt because they don’t want biological kids. And not judge women who don’t want kids at all.

  • @CarlitaViteri
    @CarlitaViteri Před 2 lety +2

    I love you so much Erin. Thanks for having the courage of talking about this. 💜

  • @sashazito1447
    @sashazito1447 Před 2 lety

    Thank you for sharing your journey, I have not the same issue, but a similar situation where it is not advised for me to get pregnant because of an enlarged aorta. sending you all the love and support in your journey going forward, know you are not alone.

  • @chelseyfaye8778
    @chelseyfaye8778 Před 2 lety +4

    I have PCOS and with an injury when my fiance was a child we weren't supposed to get pregnant. I checked my temp, did all the things for four years and when we finally gave up and made peace with it a few weeks later I found out I was 16 weeks pregnant. If you wish to be a momma however it happens you will be an amazing momma❤️

  • @TMSsquared
    @TMSsquared Před 2 lety

    So glad you're in a great mind set. I will say I'll pray for your journey no matter what it is. Love you hun.