Deconstructing Girl Defined: When Toxic Faith Destroys Lives | Downfall

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    Deconstructing the complicated downfall and rebrand of Girl Defined is more nuanced than perhaps once thought. From increasingly toxic purity culture to dark and disturbing allegations against their mother and a bizarre rebrand, the Girl Defined story is more than meets the eye. Were they indoctrinated into a world of twisted morals? Does that excuse their actions? Is anyone to blame? What is the final perspective?
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    00:00 The Beginning Defined
    09:09 Girl Defined, Defined
    18:06 Purity Culture Defined
    37:51 Damaged Goods
    47:38 Meme Status
    01:02:47 Extreme Pivot
    01:15:07 Anti Girlboss
    01:19:24 About Heidi Baird
    01:25:11 Deconstructing Dav
    01:35:37 Swoop’s Thoughts
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  • @PettyUniversity
    @PettyUniversity  Před 13 dny +2488

    Team Swoop here. If you didn’t hear, Swoop was recently physically assaulted in the midst of coping with medical trauma that she has kept private. (You can read her post here www.youtube.com/@PettyUniversity/community ) She has several docs that were already in production so we will be finishing them and putting them out while Swoop takes some time away for healing. As always, we deeply appreciate your support, and she loves this community with her whole heart.
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    • @danielsantiagourtado3430
      @danielsantiagourtado3430 Před 13 dny +49

      Thanks For this ! Your documentaries are MAGNIFICENT ❤❤❤❤

    • @jordanrakes9786
      @jordanrakes9786 Před 13 dny +110

      I sincerely hope you are able to heal. Sending positive thoughts 🩵🩵

    • @GetElevatedWithMe
      @GetElevatedWithMe Před 13 dny +57

      Sending lots of healing vibes and love to you Swoop. ❤❤❤❤

    • @Chlobeaarr
      @Chlobeaarr Před 13 dny +71

      You've validated so many of us and helped so many people heal so please take all the time to do what you need to do

    • @fuckgoogle3335
      @fuckgoogle3335 Před 13 dny +1

      Praying for healing ❤️‍🩹

  • @elleirenex3
    @elleirenex3 Před 12 dny +860

    As a gay, they're right, I do have a secret agenda: to live my most authentic life and influence others to live theirs too.

    • @kimberini6465
      @kimberini6465 Před 11 dny +28

      Shhh! The secret will get.out! Some ppl are not ready for the agenda 😂

    • @shadowpoet4398
      @shadowpoet4398 Před 11 dny +15

      Agreed. As a Pan in a straight marriage, All I want is for everyone to not let anybody tell them what's good for them. What's good for me is not good for you. Never let anyone take your soul away, just be yourself each and every day. Live and let live, and always remember to stay blazin'.
      My late father was in the USAAF/USAF for several decades. All he wanted after that was peace, harmony, and to live and let live.
      People have to see hell to truly appreciate heaven.

    • @sae200502167
      @sae200502167 Před 11 dny +12

      Damn that's some nefarious agenda right there, crime against humanity 😂
      Jokes aside, people gotta start minding their own business and leave people and their preferences alone as long as they aren't hurting anyone!

    • @stephaniejenkins7822
      @stephaniejenkins7822 Před 11 dny

      @@sae200502167 People wouldn't ever do that, or they'd have nothing to do with their boring lives. It's kinda sad, really, that people have so much free time that they can use it like this.

    • @lexxxaa
      @lexxxaa Před 11 dny +1

      And we love that ❤

  • @WeeLassReacts
    @WeeLassReacts Před 13 dny +2945

    Student of the Petty University here! I really hope that Swoop is doing okay, and thank you to her and the team for another documentary. But please don't push yourself! All our love to Swoop 💝

    • @SeinIshamiado
      @SeinIshamiado Před 13 dny +19

      Yes! Preach Moscoe! Swoop supremacy! Justice for swoop! 🩵🩵🩵🩵

    • @mimibelta259
      @mimibelta259 Před 13 dny +13

      Yes don’t push herself too much but if a CZcamsr doesn’t post for a few days they lose viewership and money so she she to think of herself as well as her employees so she kinda has to post

    • @meggy3635
      @meggy3635 Před 13 dny +46

      @@mimibelta259Her team is uploading some docs in her absence. Regardless, I think her mental health and safety are more important than views.

    • @joyallmon4979
      @joyallmon4979 Před 13 dny +12

      I actually watch you and your girlfriend, and it is no interesting that you watch swoop as well, the 3 of you have been incredibly helpful in my journey to accepting myself, nd I wanted to say thank you

    • @morbidbeauty_
      @morbidbeauty_ Před 13 dny +3

      Yes!! Swooooopppp!!

  • @Zahoreoz
    @Zahoreoz Před 12 dny +367

    I have a friend who was SA’d by her “Christian” stepfather. Her mom is still married to him. She apologizes for the situation yet she won’t leave him. The pastor of my old church was told this. He did not report it. Her parents are leaders in the church.
    This happens too often.

    • @mamajewels8481
      @mamajewels8481 Před 11 dny +1

      I'm so sorry that all happened to you. I hope that you have peace now in your life.

    • @emajohnes372
      @emajohnes372 Před 9 dny

      Omg I hope she is ok now I can't imagine the trauma I also almost got SAd by a stranger that one of my mom's maid she brings a stranger and then we got saved by my mom coming home early she didn't know what happened to me after 4 years later I was 12 I told my mom and she makes me tell it Infront of my Young siblings I am the oldest and laugh at me ahe made fun of me all of the laughed and th forced me to wash the dishes after

  • @taylord2645
    @taylord2645 Před 12 dny +223

    Sociology Professor here Dr. Swoop and I wanted to provide a bit of perspective from my experience teaching people like Girl Defined in my classrooms since you seem to be super interested in that this doc!
    I've seen people like this basically divided into two camps: those ready to learn and those that refuse to. Some people literally take my class just to tell me I'm wrong and "pushing the liberal agenda" and even though I extend grace, they usually just double down because they are either not ready or refuse to learn. The other group though, is actively ready to learn, even if they don't agree (and for your sanity, I assure you it is the MUCH larger group).
    The group that is ready to learn is interesting because more often then not, they DON'T end up changing their personal views, but they instead open themselves up to more of the gray area instead of talking in absolutes. Ex: If the person believes a woman's place is in the home, I provide stats on household incomes and how many women have to work, then they tend to adapt their thinking to "if you can" a woman's place should be in the home, but that's not always possible. This group mainly opens themselves up to give a little more grace to people in different situations, which I think is a great step forward!
    From what my students have told me, these original views 100% start at home and a lot of it is reinforced through religious private schools. They also try to cut off or demonize outside views so much, that many of my students didn't feel safe to question anything until they got to college, and when they go home they still pretend to be the way they were. I think the best way to provide space is to not demonize their religion/upbringing either because that's exactly what they've been told we'll do. I think you do an excellent job doing that for the general public on this channel (since classrooms can only reach so many) and it might help others who were dissuaded from a college education (like Bethany) to learn the same things that many professors like myself teach at the college level.
    Take care of yourself and keep up the good work! I love a good Petty University moment 💚

    • @TheAngryAutisticAsshole
      @TheAngryAutisticAsshole Před 11 dny +19

      Professor, thank you for the job you do.
      As an Autistic person, your field has been critical to my survival in our society. I mean this literally, not figuratively; I live because of what Sociology professors have taught me.
      Sociology helped me understand the individual through the eyes of the group. It allowed me to understand group dynamics and non verbal communication in a way that let me function without the ability to naturally use them.
      I don’t know if you’ve ever been told about that little side effect of your field and profession, but I think it is important for you to know how important the study of Sociology is to me and my people.
      No reply necessary, I just saw your post and realized I haven’t thanked a Sociologist lately for all they do.
      Be well,
      Kali

    • @jacksonmcnuggets7488
      @jacksonmcnuggets7488 Před 11 dny +2

      Thank you for this ❤

    • @miggs3374
      @miggs3374 Před 10 dny +2

      You're work is really important for people questioning and scared to reach out for how it might make them feel ostracized for being faithful from those outside their community or for not having enough faith by those in their community.
      Faith is so individual and really should encourage people to question things for their own mental health and well being. I wish people the best on that journey in finding what faith means to them, or if they realize faith isn't what they needed to fix or change, so much as the views that have more to do with the church or spiritual community's influence on them rather than their own true feelings.
      As a none faithful person surrounded by people with a faith of different origins and denominations I feel comfortable in having left religion behind, and respect the choice of others to stay and evolve with a healthy examination of their faith vs social issues we all face.

    • @Wired_User
      @Wired_User Před 10 dny +7

      That reminds me of something I heard about JW and their door-to-door missionary work: the church *knows* it’s unlikely to find more recruits that way, and that the missionaries will be persecuted, and that’s the *point*. These young missionaries will be further pushed into their religious extremist bubble and hopefully become a full JW zealot.

    • @ele1483
      @ele1483 Před 9 dny +1

      I’m doing work In my college with climate change and teaching it and I absolutely 100% see what you talked about. It’s tough especially with harder information to grasp but it’s all the same teaching-wise

  • @rebeccasteinke4357
    @rebeccasteinke4357 Před 13 dny +881

    Are they unaware that literally every theater performance until not even that long ago was a drag performance because women weren't allowed to act? That's so weird to me.

    • @moonwalkerangel7008
      @moonwalkerangel7008 Před 12 dny +38

      Yep you are right that Men played women’s roles from Greek performances to Tudor times in plays. Then acting was banned because theatre, sport and Christmas was “distracting the Christian/Puritan relationship with God” and was only bought back with the Monarchy restoration with King Charles II… I could be wrong with the history of drama.

    • @muepoweri2935
      @muepoweri2935 Před 12 dny +19

      Well they never went to college so /j

    • @elaexplorer
      @elaexplorer Před 12 dny +25

      No, I'm sure they don't have the intellectual curiosity to look into what they've been told. They take everything they've been told as cold hard facts and can't understand why anyone would disagree with them.

    • @emilyrhea
      @emilyrhea Před 12 dny

      And the earliest female preformers- ballerinas- were sex workers.

    • @alim.9801
      @alim.9801 Před 12 dny +17

      No they probably genuinely don't know that, unfortunately. Man, I'm so tired of the anti-drag discourse and ignorance of history and drag culture (and where it intersects with more mainstream culture), it's just tiring 😮‍💨

  • @MsSPrescott1
    @MsSPrescott1 Před 13 dny +1451

    That little blurb about Marilyn monroe they used made me physically ill. Like 1) read at least one book about her and 2) let the woman rest

    • @azure7304
      @azure7304 Před 13 dny +76

      And she was Jewish! (Converted when she married + remained Jewish I believe)

    • @mestillme3026
      @mestillme3026 Před 13 dny

      Marilyn Monroe is rolling over in her grave at their using her to push purity culture.

    • @victoriavilagines5596
      @victoriavilagines5596 Před 13 dny +141

      The fact they use Marilyn is hilarious, especially knowing their stance on the lgbtq+ community. It’s not a well known fact granted but she was bi, and very attracted to women. She also LITERALLY A SEX SYMBOL. The ignorance, I can’t 😂

    • @photofreak56
      @photofreak56 Před 13 dny

      I'm glad that I'm not the only one who got really pissed when they brought up Marilyn Monroe someone who was a victim of sexual abuse throughout her life and also a woman who converted to Judaism and was a deeply spiritual Jew and to have these little Evangelical granddaughters of Nazis use her in that way just disgusts me

    • @MsSPrescott1
      @MsSPrescott1 Před 13 dny +108

      @victoriavilagines5596 It’s especially nauseating because they’re using her as a cautionary tale when not only was she a very intelligent, compassionate, and talented woman, but to twist the reason that she’s no longer with us to “dissatisfaction with having it all” like GIRL the abuse???? The objectification????? 🤢🤢🤢

  • @achohelelwhy
    @achohelelwhy Před 13 dny +158

    I grew up mormon and we were DEFINITELY taught if we broke the law of chastity we were "chewed gum" or a "licked cupcake" (and no one is going to want you after you've been sampled). Internalized misogyny is a huge part of the culture. We're taught our bodies cause men to sin, but men aren't told to pluck out their eyes.

    • @MotherCryptid
      @MotherCryptid Před 11 dny +7

      Isn’t it wild how strong the bias is? I didn’t grow up Mormon, but with very strict Christian parents who treated it this way.

    • @hollyk7052
      @hollyk7052 Před 11 dny +6

      I got crumpled foil lmao

    • @achohelelwhy
      @achohelelwhy Před 11 dny +7

      @@hollyk7052 that is SO beyond effed up. I'm so sorry you were taught that.

    • @rinesserin
      @rinesserin Před 11 dny +6

      Oh my god, I read that as "we were told that if we chewed gum or licked a cupcake, we broke the law of chastity" and I was SO confused.
      I'm glad that you managed to escape that line of thinking and have hopefully built a much more fulfilling life outside of it!

    • @saucyblossom
      @saucyblossom Před 9 dny +7

      Yep! Growing up in the heart of Utah County was not easy with those strong mentalities everywhere. I later worked for an OBGYN and the amount of women that came in because they needed both physical and emotional help having sex for the first time while their husbands were heavily porn-influenced and expecting their new wives to just be ready to roll was SO common.

  • @hannahb1896
    @hannahb1896 Před 13 dny +117

    I was raised in an ultra conservative evangelical family. It's insane the amount of hate, misogyny, and absolute judgement a lot of them have. We were taught purity culture and it was traumatizing. I knew NOTHING and surprise surprise got pregnant at 16 because I didn't even understand what exactly I was doing (thanks to my abusive ex for taking advantage of that) and went to Liberty University's very own pregnancy home *cough prison. Where we were taught how EXTREMELY sinful we were and were paraded around for the college students to look at as a "lesson".
    Purity culture is dangerous for SO many reasons and grooming young women to listen and "obey" a man whilst being taken advantage of for lack of understanding and knowledge of sex Ed. Not knowing sex ed to the point of being embarrassed to not talk about sex leads to women being perfect prey for sexual abusers. Who are we going to tell? Our parents who said any kind of sex would take away from our "future husbands"? No one would "want" us anymore?
    Purity culture is built by men who just want to control women.

  • @magwrecker
    @magwrecker Před 13 dny +788

    The 50% failure rate for marriages is not true anymore. It's dropped drastically because people are not getting married when they're so young, which is a good thing!

    • @Ashbrash1998
      @Ashbrash1998 Před 13 dny +43

      Another part is that mist of the people in that study were older couples, not younger ones.

    • @justkiddin84
      @justkiddin84 Před 13 dny

      Divorce in the LDS is really high-purity culture-kids marrying people they barely know too young and then not liking them over time. Go figure.

    • @maddiemcnugget1076
      @maddiemcnugget1076 Před 13 dny +41

      @@Ashbrash1998 See this is what I was thinking. I feel like we need to look into the context of every study and fact that is flung around. Like Marie Antoinette was not recorded to say "let them eat cake", but that was an accepted fact for decades. I never even thought to look into the context of the 50% of marriages statistic even though I always doubted it. My brain is not as questioning and curious as I thought it was!

    • @ByeByeBelly
      @ByeByeBelly Před 13 dny +14

      50% of my marriages have failed.. heh

    • @AnnekeOosterink
      @AnnekeOosterink Před 13 dny +31

      Yeah, plus, it's people getting married because they had to, mostly women suffered a lot for not being married, ie, socially, unmarried and pregnant was (still is in many places) a social death. Up until pretty recently that would mean complete ostracisation. So people were forced to get married to people they weren't compatible with, or were forced to marry because that's just what you do if you want to survive. The kind of jobs you could get as an unmarried woman were pretty limited for a long time. So if you only have bad options you take the one that's the least horrible. It makes sense that once divorce is open to you, you take that out.

  • @LibMess99
    @LibMess99 Před 13 dny +688

    My Christian Parents: "Do not even hold a man's hand! That leads to Pregnancy!"
    Me an Asexual: "Okay???"
    My parents: "When are you going to give us grandbabies?"
    Me, still an Asexual: "no"

    • @PGOuma
      @PGOuma Před 13 dny +28

      Meeee

    • @sowe97
      @sowe97 Před 13 dny +97

      I always thought i was just really good at waiting for marriage lmao

    • @purple66666
      @purple66666 Před 13 dny +31

      Holy shit. Hello fellow garlic bread enjoyer! 👾🤍🎶

    • @zaramikazuki8374
      @zaramikazuki8374 Před 13 dny +50

      Ah yep, been there done that, though I'm non-Christian Indian-American. My parents were fine, but my friends' parents (of all races and religions) would use me as a point of comparison to shame their own daughters, like "why can't you be more like her? she only cares about school, doesn't go out with boys, doesn't drink/smoke, and definitely doesn't kiss let alone have sex". Jokes on them, since now, I'm a single, gay-oriented ace in my lower 30s and people look at me so weirdly for not being attracted to men, let alone married with kids. Thanks, I hate it all- especially the shaming and comparisons.

    • @LastCrystalTear12
      @LastCrystalTear12 Před 13 dny

      @@sowe97SAME!! Lol, sike, it’s the asexuality and general disdain for other people 🤣🤣

  • @requiredparticular6831
    @requiredparticular6831 Před 12 dny +156

    Referring to some as “damaged goods” means some are “goods,” and all are products to consume, or reject. People are not products.

  • @alepolait8951
    @alepolait8951 Před 13 dny +37

    Friendly reminder that Bethany actually "wasted her most fertile years", she got panic married at 30 years old to a guy 7 years younger than her (just worth mentioning, because she met him when he was 16/17). She didn't work, or went to college. She wasted her "most fertile years" spreading harmful purity culture on the internet while living with her wealthy parents. Just a treasure all around.

  • @jeannetterw
    @jeannetterw Před 13 dny +816

    My Mum keeps insisting I'm gay because I watch drag race despite being married for 25 years with a 20yo son.

    • @madih7270
      @madih7270 Před 13 dny +41

      LOLLL???

    • @SkyeSoleil
      @SkyeSoleil Před 13 dny +98

      I mean, it’s not uncommon for gay people to be married to the opposite gender and have children. My friend’s dad came out when my friend was in their early 20s and divorced their mom shortly after. Last I heard he’s in a long term committed relationship with a man
      That being said, watching Drag Race doesn’t make someone gay 😂

    • @jeannetterw
      @jeannetterw Před 13 dny +127

      @@madih7270 Yeah my Mum fully thinks if you see gay, you are gay. One of those.
      Sounds pretty gay to me and I'm convinced she's projecting.

    • @SoCalJellybean
      @SoCalJellybean Před 13 dny +33

      @@jeannetterwOh, she’s 100% projecting!

    • @justkiddin84
      @justkiddin84 Před 13 dny +26

      @@jeannetterw maybe you should ask her! At the very least it might get her to stop telling you that silliness.😂

  • @CookNCream
    @CookNCream Před 13 dny +411

    Dear Swoop Team,
    Please tell Swoop that she is valid, loved, and finds the healing she needs to get through this hard time.
    Love
    The Alumni of Petty University

    • @Who_amI57
      @Who_amI57 Před 13 dny +10

      100% ❤❤❤

  • @Zaddy-Lu
    @Zaddy-Lu Před 13 dny +214

    I bet "women are encouraged to separate themselves from their children" is referring to daycare, preschool, and all elementary, middle, and high schools, because they believe all children should be homeschooled.

    • @Angelface11
      @Angelface11 Před 11 dny +6

      Many should. Sone need school to get away from abuse. But school isn't a good place

    • @ayelmqo
      @ayelmqo Před 11 dny +9

      Typically they think children are below them, it’d be god, husband, themselves then children. They usually see children as lesser than

    • @apathybronson
      @apathybronson Před 10 dny +9

      ​@@Angelface11yeah and that's why countries where people are easily able to homeschool are so peaceful and support everyone. Parents aren't teachers.

    • @m0L3ify
      @m0L3ify Před 10 dny +6

      My mom thought like this. Not only did she think preschools were awful because they took children out of the home and forced them to grow up too fast, but she was also so staunchly against busing for integration that she moved our family to a new town after the Diaz Rule was instituted in San Jose in the 80's because she didn't want her children taken from their home neighborhood just to mix with "the yellow ones and the black ones" even though the rule was about education disparity in the Mexican American population. My sister and I were only in elementary school (the rule only applied to High Schools) but she was like "nope, we're not sticking around for this to happen years from now. No one's taking my babies away from me!" At least she didn't home school us, although she was capable since she used to be a school teacher. It would have made life a lot harder for us, tho. Of course, she was only really against preschool until my little sister came along and was a major handful, and then my mom was like "yes! preschool! take her!! I need a break!" That definitely shattered part of her idyllic illusions about 'perfect parenting' lol

    • @kaitlynmorgan4613
      @kaitlynmorgan4613 Před 9 dny +1

      @@Angelface11 yeah but the commenter is just explaining what girl defined meant by that quote. the commenter isnt saying anything of "kids should/shouldnt be homeschooled"

  • @Pajali
    @Pajali Před 13 dny +74

    As somebody with a degree, let me tell you that I wasn’t ready to be pumping out kids in my early 20s. I used that time to learn more about the world and who I wanted to be within it, and I’m a better parent now because of it.

  • @KaelaBriana
    @KaelaBriana Před 13 dny +458

    "When two sheltered girls put themselves further into the shelter" girl 💀💀💀💀

    • @ArDeeMee
      @ArDeeMee Před 11 dny +2

      That’s so on point….

  • @adinosinetriphosphate
    @adinosinetriphosphate Před 13 dny +316

    "We don't want to spend our most fertile years chasing a career or a degree" I do actually, but thank you

    • @tinyvalkyrie1
      @tinyvalkyrie1 Před 13 dny +38

      I spent my most fertile years chasing a PhD and regret absolutely nothing. I'm a cool aunt, not a cool mom.

    • @TheoRae8289
      @TheoRae8289 Před 13 dny +25

      Funny she says that while quite literally having a career on youtube.

    • @virgofairy88
      @virgofairy88 Před 12 dny +6

      I chased a career in medical coding, now it’s auditing and I have no regrets. Worth it.

    • @donttalktomeyoureannoying8736
      @donttalktomeyoureannoying8736 Před 12 dny +1

      I chased a career and I could care less about it. I am more into my hobbies, my son, traveling, and fashion. So yes i only got a career to survive but i don’t believe in nobody’s rat race

    • @alim.9801
      @alim.9801 Před 12 dny +8

      I'm wasting my fertile years chasing a career right now, and honestly I'm happier than I've been for a few years!! I know they'll never even try to understand, but I WISH they'd understand not everyone is built to have kids, mentally or even physically!!

  • @RachelBenedetti
    @RachelBenedetti Před 13 dny +50

    It's not so much that Purity Culture teaches that to be fulfilled, women need to get married. It is that it teaches that the PURPOSE of a woman is to be the support for her husband, take care of the home, and - most importantly - HAVE BABIES! Girls are literally taught that the purpose of women is procreation. I have seen women become horribly depressed and feel completely worthless because they have fertility problems (even if the issue is with HIM and not HER). It is disgusting, and so horrifically harmful, I cannot even begin. I am still working through the religious trauma regarding this.

  • @Samantha-gu6by
    @Samantha-gu6by Před 12 dny +44

    My dog passed away last night right after I came home from college. I think she was waiting for the whole family to be together for when she goes. We're all missing her so much already, she was a gorgeous life long partner of 11 years, a beautiful german shepherd. Your video is somehow making me laugh, and feel somewhat normal. I've watched so many of your videos, and I'm so happy to be able to watch videos of my favourite creators even during such a hard time. Your documentaries are amazing, Swoop, and I hope you know how much you impact the people who watch them in such positive ways with your witty humour, your gentle take on sensitive topics, and your pure pettiness rage at injustices! I never comment on CZcams videos but I wanted to do so here today. I love you all, take care of yourselves everyone. Life can be so hard but we'll all get through it. It's the journey that counts. To Foxy, my beautiful German Shepherd. I love you so much and we're waiting for you to come back home to us. I hope you're resting peacefully, and I prey you loved your life long home with us and will do for the rest of all our lives.

    • @greentigress
      @greentigress Před 12 dny +2

      Aww baby Foxy ❤ hope she is at peace!

    • @AWake-px1hd
      @AWake-px1hd Před 12 dny +2

      I’m so very sorry. I know that feeling all too well. It rips out your heart and soul. RIP to your sweet friend. 💔

    • @lilys7431
      @lilys7431 Před 12 dny +1

      Oh my heart aches for you, animals hold a special place in our lives. Glad she got to wait for you. Wishing you comfort for your broken heart.

    • @niilsaa
      @niilsaa Před 2 dny +1

      I am so, so sorry for your loss. Zero words can describe that horrible, empty feeling once our babies leave us. :(
      Foxy sounds like a wonderful companion and beautiful pup, and I have no doubt that she has become your guardian angel. I’m glad you have swoop as a distraction, I lost my baby girl 7 months ago and I’m still ruined by it. I couldn’t even cry for the first 4 months - I was in emotional turmoil (still am) but having brilliant creators to watch like swoop makes it a little easier. I completely understand where you’re coming from, it’s so goddamn difficult. Rest in Peace to your precious Foxy, she sounds like such a gorgeous girl. Sending all my love to you ❤

  • @Politoed89
    @Politoed89 Před 13 dny +322

    i want girl defined to go on the fresh & fit podcast and give us the ultimate "misogyny vs internalized misogyny" showdown

    • @laurapardy8297
      @laurapardy8297 Před 13 dny +6

      💀

    • @lisadgingersnaps9843
      @lisadgingersnaps9843 Před 13 dny +12

      OMG, I would totally watch that. 😂

    • @krisl6537
      @krisl6537 Před 13 dny +16

      Fresh and fit are no longer a thing, maybe the whatever podcast, those dudes are tools that think they can hide ignorance with inspirational background music 😂

    • @donttalktomeyoureannoying8736
      @donttalktomeyoureannoying8736 Před 12 dny +4

      Fresh and fit are too busy blaming Cassie for getting beat up by P Diddy

    • @moustik31
      @moustik31 Před 11 dny

      Lol, they are too racist for that! Wasnt one of their ancestor a nazi? I think, I saw a Fundie Friday video about him.

  • @courtneythames5718
    @courtneythames5718 Před 13 dny +894

    The idea of using Virginity as a form of value on women is appalling. I grew up in an area where that was rampant, and as someone who forcibly lost their virginity i spent many years dealing with people who shamed me for something I had no control over. I can't handle these girls and their ideas. Its dangerous to young women.

    • @dnycebushton5008
      @dnycebushton5008 Před 13 dny +68

      ikr...it is genuinely stupid. I dont have sex, but its not because any of their goofy reasons.

    • @VibinJivin
      @VibinJivin Před 13 dny +54

      I'm so sorry you endured such pain because of ignorance. its so unacceptable the amount of suffering these so called godly people cause.

    • @courtneythames5718
      @courtneythames5718 Před 13 dny +11

      @@VibinJivin thank you 😊

    • @molleirose
      @molleirose Před 13 dny +57

      I was raised in religion. I remember going back to my usual Sunday church (went to different church for Wednesdays) after I was sa'd. Of course it was the youth leader going off about how ech time you have sex before marriage you're ruining yourself and you're gonna feel so guilty when you get married and can't "give that gift" to your spouse. I broke. I sobbed. I walked out. She followed, I screamed at her, and that was that. I never went back for a church service. Anywhere. Not to mention that I had been raped while at the church I went to on Wednesdays. Behind the church. No one noticed I went mia. I'll never respect any of the Christian religion again.

    • @angeldream1
      @angeldream1 Před 13 dny +18

      I’m so sorry that happened to you. That’s what happened to me also. And I felt so much shame. I hope you are able to completely heal. It’s horrible to have it be not your choice and also feel bad for something not in your control

  • @bamaQT99
    @bamaQT99 Před 13 dny +29

    Hell yeah! Proud to be from a very long line of “SHAMS!” The OG Great Granny was a pilot in the WAC in Ww1, Grand Memaw, an army Nurse in WW2 and Korea. Grand Nana raised her siblings in the depression, put herself through school raising her own 3 kids became a nurse. My Mom became a Fire fighter/paramedic and eventually became the first woman Captain in her department. All the while raising kids, being a military wife, coach, and active in the PTA. My sister is earning her doctorate in education and I am a flight nurse. If we are “Shams”, so be it, but I am so proud of the women in my family! And guess what we all had/have struggles, divorces, and failures. We also have great joy and success,, but I wouldn’t change a thing.

  • @TheEnbyDragon
    @TheEnbyDragon Před 10 dny +11

    Perspective on indoctrination:
    I grew up in an extreme conservative Christian fundamentalist home. Homeschooled, my only socialization until 13 was the church and church groups. And then it was a homeschool PE group full of kids from a similar background, and swim lessons where i didn't get to know any of the kids, only my instructors who would later become my coworkers.
    At 15 i started my first job as a lifeguard and swim instructor which was my first real exposure to non-Christians. For the first year, i didn't even know how to talk to anyone.
    At 16, the purity culture upgraded to the next level. I'd always been taught abstinence if my parents had to talk about sex, or that all men are sexual predators. I was given a purity ring, which was to be worn on my left ring finger like an "engagement to God". That summer, i had a 29 year old coworker inquire what the ring was, i explained, and the next three months he attempted to groom me. It made me a target. I didn't realize until a few years ago that that was what he was doing, because at that age, i thought that's how all men were. I'd already spent a year and a half being sexually harassed by men in their 70s and 80s, so it was a relief to me that someone only twice my age would take interest in me, even though what he was doing was so much more insidious than old men making gross comments about my body... i was just too naive at the time to understand just how insidious it was.
    Then at 18 my parents threatened to kick me out if i didn't go to an indoctrination school called Word of Life Bible Institute. Some "fun" information about this school: they are Title 9 exempt, meaning they are allowed to discriminate against LGBTQ+, they engage in conversion therapy, and if that isn't successful, they kick you out before the end of the school year, even two days before the end to make sure they don't have any gays graduating, they are notoriously racist, though i didn't witness this first hand because I'm too introverted to meet people, and the one black guy i did meet is white-passing, but being familiar with the culture I fully believe it to be true, and lastly they call themselves an accredited college, but they a, aren't, and b, couldn't be if they tried since they exclusively teach theology, biblical history, open air evangelism, missionary work, and ministry, and nothing else.
    So i go to this school because i can't afford to live on my own, meet this guy (the one i mentioned above), who has 13 girls all wrapped around his finger because he's incredibly charismatic, attractive, and convincingly pretends to care. He tried to convince all of them to date him. I was the one he ended up with, though he convinced me he "chose" me over all the rest, when in reality, i was the only one naive enough to not see through the facade. As soon as we started dating, he began pressuring me into engaging sexually which i had genuinely no interest in (i would figure out in about 10 years that I'm on the ace spectrum). We would eventually get caught, falsely imprisoned by the school for 3 days (phones and laptops taken away, despite we were adults, locked in our dorm rooms at night, locked in the dean's office during the day for interrogations about what we did, and HOW MANY TIMES???? Being forced to call our parents and tell them what we did, even though i told them my home life was emotionally abusive), and finally kicked out. It would be many years before i came to terms with the fact that he had just ignored my "no's" and that it hadn't been consensual or my fault.
    I went to live with my still fundamentalist aunt instead of my parents. The guy called and harassed me every day for two months until i finally caved in and agreed to date him again. I had grown up being told that if you have pre-marital sex, you're damaged goods, and no one would ever love you again. So i went back to the guy who had done the damage because trauma bonding. I moved 1600 miles to be with him, which meant i had no support system. I wanted to wait years before we got married, but he beat me over the head (figuratively and literally) until i gave in, and we got married just a few months after i moved. He would physically and sexually assault me multiple times before we got married, and he would blame it on me, and a lifetime of indoctrination made me believe it was my fault. We would get married, and it would continue to get worse. I got pregnant because he refused to let me get on birth control. He wouldn't let me get an abortion from a doctor and came up with his own bs home abortion, which i didn't want to do because i didn't trust it. He forced me to do it, and when i was still upset about it an hour later, he forced me to purge.
    When i told him I was bi, he thought that was the best thing because that meant he could have another girlfriend. I knew i didn't get on with the girl he picked, but i was conditioned to know that arguing resulted in abuse, so i just did the best i could. They both liked each other more than me, and when i pointed out the fact that they made very obvious, I was the problem and had to be "punished".
    He would eventually sexually assault me and my best friend, and force me to sexually assault her, just to turn around and tell our girlfriend that I had "cheated" on her, and for that i had to be "punished". I left them a few months later as the physical and sexual assaults became ever worse, and i started fearing for my life. He strategically saved the worst abuse for when our girlfriend was absent so she would continue to believe his lies that I was crazy, and what she saw was "punishment" for "acting out/crazy".
    But none of this would have happened if I'd had a comprehensive sex education that taught me about consent and what a healthy relationship should look like. I wouldn't have a child who's being indoctrinated into the same set of beliefs. I could have come out as bi, ace, and agender so much sooner and started living my life authentically as who I've always known myself to be even when i didnt have the language to describe it. Purity culture ruins lives

  • @isapheonix
    @isapheonix Před 13 dny +368

    Did anyone else get the I can't be racist because I have a black friend vibe from their "we have friends who have been assaulted so we can't be judgemental" response?

    • @Chelle8847
      @Chelle8847 Před 11 dny +2

      It's usually "I CAN be racist cos I have a black friend..." not "I *can't* be racist cos I have a black friend" lol, your comment confused me a bit lol, but then again it's not hard to confuse me haha! 😅

    • @isapheonix
      @isapheonix Před 11 dny +17

      @Chelle8847 no I mean they claim they aren't racist because they have a black friend despite saying horribly racist things and acting like a racist person. They hid behind the black friend they supposedly have who is probably more of an acquaintance who tolerates them lmao

    • @lilyivey5933
      @lilyivey5933 Před 11 dny +9

      @@Chelle8847 I will say I have literally never heard anyone say that they "can be racist" because of the race of the friends but only ever that they "cannot" be racist because they have friends of a specific demographic that would fit their argument. perhaps people say it more often where you live?

    • @DelaneyB.444.77
      @DelaneyB.444.77 Před 11 dny +3

      Yep. Really grossed me out as a survivor.

    • @annjepsen1621
      @annjepsen1621 Před 10 dny

      ​@@DelaneyB.444.77Same, it's like when you try to explain your trauma to someone who's never experienced it before and they say "Oh yeah, I was whistled at on the street so I *totally get it!"* 🙄

  • @nikicrowe2768
    @nikicrowe2768 Před 13 dny +1171

    I didn’t walk, I ran here!! “Don’t want to waste our most fertile years”. Ugh. I’m already triggered by these 2

    • @clandestine_cat
      @clandestine_cat Před 13 dny +7

      Yo same

    • @jessiek3500
      @jessiek3500 Před 13 dny +21

      Literally so disgusting

    • @jannettb7930
      @jannettb7930 Před 13 dny +22

      Omg that phrase brought me down here to rant. How does one 'waste' their fertile years by working? Are those hours ones you would otherwise be getting impregnated? Isn't your husband also working those hours? 🙄 I guess we can be thankful she didn't use the word Ripe

    • @LadyDelSangue87
      @LadyDelSangue87 Před 13 dny +21

      When I got pregnant with my daughter at the age of 37 and went to the OBGYN, they labeled the pregnancy a "geriatric" pregnancy and I honestly felt a bit shamed like I was "too old" to be having kids...I do realize that scientifically there are fertile years, but putting such an emphasis on it can be hurtful, implying that once you hit 35 you are basically old as dirt lol

    • @LadyDelSangue87
      @LadyDelSangue87 Před 13 dny +15

      On top of this, when my water broke a month early, it felt like the ER was judging me too like "this happened because you are too old to be having kids"

  • @toniprekker3656
    @toniprekker3656 Před 12 dny +16

    Thank you for the discussion on trauma bonding and "consent" not always being consent. I was in an awful relationship for close to three years. I always "consented" (or at least didn't object) to things, but always felt like something about it was very wrong. I've been single for 11 years now, and am only beginning to understand that part of the ab*se I suffered.

  • @katem5336
    @katem5336 Před 13 dny +15

    Chronic health conditions can really f up someone’s mental health, coming from one person with a chronic illness to another - so please don’t be ashamed of your struggle…the world is better because you’re in it! I hope you can make a full recovery mentally, physically, and emotionally - no matter how long it takes, I hope for the best for you, Swoop!

  • @chaoticoverdrive27
    @chaoticoverdrive27 Před 13 dny +278

    “We don’t want to ‘waste’ our most fertile years” … I don’t want kids. I want a job that fulfills my dream of helping the planet. Nothing wrong with having kids obviously but that’s not the path I want. 🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @slavbarbie
      @slavbarbie Před 13 dny

      They actually think that the only thing a woman has to contribute to this world is giving birth.

    • @britterthecritter4531
      @britterthecritter4531 Před 12 dny +27

      Same! Went to college, in my early 20’s working full time in a career I love, while also being religious. Funny because in the Bible, Paul made it clear that marriage and reproduction were no longer part of God’s purpose for us; but to follow in Jesus’ footsteps. Yes, family is a beautiful thing, but it is no longer our sole purpose on this Earth.
      Girl Defined doesn’t even follow their own religion properly… Jesus befriended and defended tax collectors and prostitutes. They just follow a misogynistic rhetoric and use the Bible to cover it up…

    • @alim.9801
      @alim.9801 Před 12 dny +6

      Yeah calling it a "waste" just...kinda sucks honestly. It's a sucky thing of them to say

    • @shadowpoet4398
      @shadowpoet4398 Před 11 dny +9

      Leave birthing to those who truly desire to make a family. Stressed out people who are simply stuck with it end up making horrible experiences those kids will take into adulthood and potentially pass it on to their kids.
      My wife can no longer have kids, physically. I'm not equipped to properly raise kids and neither is she. We're the aunt and uncle with 2 kitties and two jobs.
      No judgment here, by ANY means.
      Also, HOLY SHIT, THATS SWOOP'S REAL HAIR?! HOLY CRAP! 😱💓

    • @tretre3892
      @tretre3892 Před 11 dny +10

      Don't ever let anyone tell you that you have to procreate. I'm 46 married with no kids of my own, why? The negative reasons outweighed the positive in my life. Absolutely no regrets! Be proud of yourself for realizing you're not mom material now. Maybe you'll change your mind someday maybe you won't, but who cares it's your choice! ❤

  • @MagnoliaPantherWoman
    @MagnoliaPantherWoman Před 13 dny +192

    Trixie said it so well. She's spot on and very clear. I'll add that cosplay is also dress up. Acting is dress up. Drag is empowering, as are cosplay and acting. Watching or participating, they're fun.

    • @maddiemcnugget1076
      @maddiemcnugget1076 Před 13 dny +10

      As a Christian, I always got good vibes from her. And her take was really good and well worded even though she didn't expect "the Christians" to find her (though she is appealing to an American audience, you are bound to have a Christian in your midst)

    • @virgofairy88
      @virgofairy88 Před 12 dny +5

      I love Trixie-I’ve been a Drag Race fan for a long time. I also love dressing up as characters in shows-it’s acting and there’s nothing more empowering than dancing and singing while dressed up as Santa Claus in a musical.

  • @nope2075
    @nope2075 Před 12 dny +17

    Responding to the section at 41:50 in the video: My aunt was one person who comes to mind when you speak of this. She was in an abusive, mentally manipulative, sexually abusive marriage for 25 years. When she did ask for help, her sister (my mom) got her a lawyer and helped her get a divorce and restraining order. I remember my aunt kept changing her mind and saying “no, it’s okay. He apologized.” And this happened for 25 yrs. She couldn’t get herself out mentally or physically. When the divorce was final, she spent 10 yrs drinking herself to death bc she didn’t tell us he was still coming around and beating on her and stealing her money out of her account. We lived in different cities. I wish she told me. So, yes, you can r*pe your spouse. My uncle r*ped my aunt during their entire marriage. 😢😭

  • @americanmanhood
    @americanmanhood Před 12 dny +8

    When Swoop gets involved you know that crap is about to go down. We love you Swoop!

  • @eurydicefiori865
    @eurydicefiori865 Před 13 dny +673

    as someone who grew up in a very religious household before I made the decision to not be religious anymore... it really annoys me when people like Girl Defined continue to do the exact OPPOSITE of what the Bible tells them to do

    • @nor_skor
      @nor_skor Před 13 dny +43

      The religious trauma is so real

    • @VibinJivin
      @VibinJivin Před 13 dny +44

      so well said. they cause and spread incredible pain, misery, confusion. they are the opposite of God's love.

    • @Sassafrass95
      @Sassafrass95 Před 13 dny +41

      Don't forget treating the bible like god him/herself wrote the book when it was actually written by old men who used it to control woman and convert others to do horrible things under the name of religion

    • @maddiemcnugget1076
      @maddiemcnugget1076 Před 13 dny +2

      @@Sassafrass95that’s interesting. I’ll have to look into that more mainly because you’re a random person on the internet but I think asking questions like that are good for deconstruction of faith. So far I’ve deconstructed a fair amount but like sciences, deconstruction come with asking questions that are generally regarded as true.

    • @eurydicefiori865
      @eurydicefiori865 Před 13 dny +6

      @@VibinJivinthey're actually WORSE than the people that are supposed to be "in the world," as they put it 😭

  • @CallmeMelinanow
    @CallmeMelinanow Před 13 dny +288

    Hello, Swoop! My name is Jana, and I’m a 49 year old ex cult member, who loves your content. I think you are an amazing example of a confident, talented woman, with very informed, and unique viewpoints. Thank you for this. These girls may be victims, too, but they’re perpetuating the abuse by not addressing it, and keeping the videos up. Keep creating, and I’ll keep supporting you. ❤

  • @kiterafrey
    @kiterafrey Před 12 dny +6

    Victims don't want to be victims. And that shame and reaction is what continues the cycle. Example, I faced CSA and I reported that family member to protect my mother and brother from them. I had to, at 5, testify in open court in detail. It was so traumatizing it is the ONLY thing I actually remember from my younger childhood. That, and (as part of that trauma), that for years after, multiple people in our high demand religion shamed me for "seducing an adult," and that shame led to other members also committing CSA on me saying, "No one will ever believe you twice." And, sadly, they were right, no one will ever believe you twice. Bethy's mom is so toxic and she is creating a space that lets PDFiles (censoring best I can) thrive.

  • @hyldrklein451
    @hyldrklein451 Před 13 dny +3

    Thank you for the pep talk about women having the freedom to wear what they want to wear. I just turned 30 yesterday. I was born and raised in a very catholic household and since childhood, my mom actively berated me if I even showed a little bit of skin. It wasn't even until after I graduated high school that I was able to wear shorts that exposed my knees (It was shorts that reached about 2 inches above my knees) without my mom berating me. Yesterday I took the courage to wear a beautiful white halter neck crop top that I crocheted myself and f*ck it I don't care what she says anymore. I want to be comfortable in my own body.

  • @johnyoowrites
    @johnyoowrites Před 13 dny +357

    Religion shouldn’t be used as a tool to promote hate or control how others live. It also shouldn’t be forced on others, whether beliefs or principles. This is why people are leaving religion, specifically Christianity en masse.

    • @intermediateingrid5746
      @intermediateingrid5746 Před 13 dny +37

      Sadly it's the main reason I turned atheist.

    • @charissa6648
      @charissa6648 Před 13 dny +9

      That's kind of absurd. Whether athiest or Christian, you shouldn't allow the actions of others to dictate what you do or do not believe. You cannot blame people, as absurd and ridiculous as they may seem. Giving up on religion or taking up religion should be your responsibility. It's just illogical to say that people leave a religion not because of the teachings or God, but because of other people who claim to follow the same religion say things you dislike.
      I know ppl do affect us. Not saying that. But to believe or not to believe is your choice, making that choice based upon 3rd parties seems ridiculous.

    • @Sassafrass95
      @Sassafrass95 Před 13 dny

      @@charissa6648 Actually it's not absurd.... you clearly have not had to deal with deepcore Christians treating you like garbage if you so much as step one TOE out of line and make you feel like trash for wanting more for yourself other then to fit one solid role that their religion states you should have

    • @kina8575
      @kina8575 Před 13 dny

      Making decision of a third-party when so many call themselves Christians and then they bash so many people who are just gay or trans or maybe cross-dressing and then the racism I’ve seen and witnessed and the abuse I’ve seen a witness so you can say you want, but if I call myself Christian now I cringe because there’s too many Christians. I know we’re abusive horrible people, so yeah as a whole, I am not a Christian anymore

    • @kina8575
      @kina8575 Před 13 dny

      @@intermediateingrid5746me too ❤

  • @breakingtheicepogo
    @breakingtheicepogo Před 13 dny +130

    Kristen calling me a sham is the perfect validation I need to *know* that I’m on the right road

    • @ByeByeBelly
      @ByeByeBelly Před 13 dny +6

      I'm a married Christian mother SHAM.. I have my own money

    • @breakingtheicepogo
      @breakingtheicepogo Před 13 dny +4

      @@ByeByeBelly yessssss get that bag!!!!!

  • @cathythoman
    @cathythoman Před 10 dny +3

    For 25. years I was "trauma bonded" to my abuser. Only now I can see the red flags. this relationship started when I was 18. Now at 43 and after having a child with him, being a single mom, except when he had to show off my daughter (I say my daughter because unless forced or showing off that he is a "good father" he has had nothing to do with her.). March 24 I finally blocked him on everything and told him off. So for 2 months I have been free. Im still lost and don't know who I am. Because my who adult life my identity was with him. I can say im a survivor but that's it at this point.

  • @carlyholmes7993
    @carlyholmes7993 Před 11 dny +2

    I've been known to say that I had Catholicism shoved down my throat as a child. It has made me a person who holds a set of beliefs instead of a religion. What bothers me most with RELIGION is the intolerance for difference.
    In a petty way, I hope my old church members see me and gasp - I am who I am, who I want to be, and you didn't wear me down. I survived you.

  • @lorilane32
    @lorilane32 Před 13 dny +89

    Just thought I would point out that in order to be damaged goods, one would have to be considered ‘goods’, as in merchandise or possessions,to begin with. You aren’t merchandise.

    • @maddiemcnugget1076
      @maddiemcnugget1076 Před 13 dny +8

      100%, we are not items, we are human beings, but as I continue to dive into feminism in all it's facets, I am starting to realize... did we ever know how to value people outside of being "beneficial to us"? Like we normalize transactional language when talking about people and believing in "tit for tat". I think as humans, human kindness should have elements of "tit for tat", but also elements of "pass it down" without the expectation of something nice back.
      Example: going out for food with a friend. You offer to pay this time with the understanding your friend will get you next time (tit for tat). While waiting in the drive through, the person in front of you pays for you and your friend's order, so you choose to "pass down the kindness" by paying for the next person's meal.

  • @Live4theblacknote
    @Live4theblacknote Před 13 dny +28

    I am a Christian, but don’t recognize Girl Defined in myself, my mom, my grandma, or especially my daughter. I got married in 1998 but had the “obey” section removed from my vows. As I told my fiancé at the time, I would never say that because I didn’t want to lie in church. Still happy 25 years later, and my hubby has shared my dreams and helped me persue my goals to the point where I earned 2 Masters degrees in my field. When we decided to have a child, due to my MS my hubby always took the night shift so I got plenty of rest. If you marry, marry your best friend and always support each other to live the life you both dreamed of!

  • @rachealjohnson9739
    @rachealjohnson9739 Před 12 dny +5

    Im so glad Dave is reconstructing!!!! It made my heart happy when he announced it ❤

  • @animefantastic9705
    @animefantastic9705 Před 13 dny +206

    You know. People would be a MILLION times happier if they stop focusing on and judging how other people choose to live.
    I'm a Christian and I was taught that it's not my job to judge people. If people aren't living the way you perceive God wants them to live then let God take care of it. He is the only one who can judge.
    I cannot stand people like this. They are giving Christians a bad name and making us all look insane and judgemental.

    • @Sassafrass95
      @Sassafrass95 Před 13 dny +11

      I'm curious on what your opinion for the Christians who legit think the bible was written by god? As in like the deity himself wrote the book and thus they have to follow every thing in that book to the T to avoid going to hell

    • @loveliftlemons
      @loveliftlemons Před 13 dny +13

      Totally came here to say this. People like this, are why people run from religion or any form of personal faith. People have to learn how to allow people to find their own beliefs, respect them and move forward.

    • @LizzardKing3636
      @LizzardKing3636 Před 13 dny +4

      @@Sassafrass95 I personally think that is crazy………

    • @maddiemcnugget1076
      @maddiemcnugget1076 Před 13 dny +15

      As a fellow Christian, I def agree with you and was raised the same way. The thing is, we have to look deeper. Because some denominations are focused on some things over others.
      Like some are focused on evangelizing which is amazing but is very overwhelming. My denomination is not focused on this. It’s primarily these more outspoken ones that differ from your mentality or my mentality of “not judging”. From what I was taught as a kid, we shouldn’t force religion on people. The Holy Spirit calls people to become more curious about faith and we are supposed to be there when someone asks us about it. Help guide them.
      Ofc this can be taken to extremes which I dislike like forced conversion. But yeah a lot of people misinterpret “not using God’s name in vain”. Misuse of the Bible is kinda included in that iirc.
      I think all we can really do is continue being good christian witnesses. Most people know “not all Christians are like this”, but it’s good for us to be representatives in conversations like this.

    • @toniwilliams3469
      @toniwilliams3469 Před 13 dny +5

      I concur✊🏾

  • @randocalrissian347
    @randocalrissian347 Před 13 dny +170

    It has taken all of my 50 years to break the religious oppression I grew up in/around. The shame and guilt we are taught to feel literally makes people sick. Having a daughter myself I can not imagine trying to tell her that her place in life is to submit to a man and that her body is not solely her own. Thank you for discussing this.

  • @eryaviel
    @eryaviel Před 12 dny +3

    The fact that Swoop is able to handle all of these topics with such grace and sensitivity is everything. Especially with everything she's personally experienced firsthand. I'm so impressed with this doc and so of your content. Much love to Swoop and the team who brings these docs to life!

  • @rachelhatchet
    @rachelhatchet Před 8 dny +2

    Not me thinking that swoops intro about abstinence was going to lead in to her saying "which is exactly what these women's parents should have done!".😂😂😂

  • @thetomlette7720
    @thetomlette7720 Před 13 dny +189

    Watching now. Please take care of yourself Swoop - remember that Valid ribcage applies to you too. You are so very loved. (Team, please relay this message to her on behalf of us. Thank you. ❤)

    • @Dirtyhwood
      @Dirtyhwood Před 13 dny +8

      💜

    • @sngray11
      @sngray11 Před 13 dny +2

      💯%! 🫶🏽

    • @VA_MamaBear
      @VA_MamaBear Před 13 dny +3

      Agreed 100%. Thank you for this. We love you, Swoop! Take care of our badass queen, please!

  • @quantumkitty128
    @quantumkitty128 Před 13 dny +264

    It's truly horrifying how shameful these faiths make girls feel 🤦🏻‍♀️ so much ick, it makes my stomach curdle.

    • @rosemarie-graceorr1825
      @rosemarie-graceorr1825 Před 13 dny

      It’s not the faith, it’s these dumb interpretations of it. Real Christian’s know Jesus hung with prostitutes and all the kind of people that people like this like to act like he hated. He may not have agreed with their lifestyle but he never shamed them for it. And for dumb bitches like this to lay so much importance on virginity like it gives women more value, or to shame women for not waiting, in the name of God frustrates the life out of me. Purity culture is a cancer to Christianity! I say this as a Christian, pastor’s daughter and former missionary.

    • @britterthecritter4531
      @britterthecritter4531 Před 12 dny

      How THEIR form of faith makes girls feel. Christianity is meant to UPLIFT women, it was revolutionary because women were no longer expected to marry and reproduce to “fulfill God’s purpose”, but to follow Jesus’ footsteps- married or not. When Jesus resurrected, the first people he saw and told to spread his word were women. And he told us to not judge, he befriended snd defended tax collectors and prostitutes.
      These fundies are the actual worst depictions of Christianity 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

  • @leahyvonne1572
    @leahyvonne1572 Před 11 dny +3

    People involved in purity culture r more obsessed with "the big s" than those not involved in it. They make it define them.

  • @teenafields7995
    @teenafields7995 Před 11 dny +1

    Who you love, how you dress, what you do in private is absolutely nobody's business. The measure of a person in their heart and soul, it's in the sweet and generous manner of how they treat others when no one is looking. New Swoop fan here . I'm blown away by Swoops grace and humor and she has become as necessary as my morning coffee. The best part of waking up os Swoops and coffee in my cup. Peace all!

  • @lifeofatruckerswife
    @lifeofatruckerswife Před 13 dny +104

    Its great seeing larger channels covering these two... I am a Christian who lives in Texas...
    .we aren't all like these two.. these two are dangerous to young girls, amd new christian women.
    Not all of us hold so much hate in our hearts for people.. not all of us victim blame s.a survivors....we aren't all trans/homophobic..
    (seems a lot of these so called christians have conveniently forgotten that Jesus said... love everyone....he didn't omit others...and he didn't stutter)
    A lot of us are just trying to do the best we can out here...
    As a texas Christian woman....WE DON'T CLAIM THESE TWO

  • @louloudaki_
    @louloudaki_ Před 12 dny +1

    much love to you and yours, swoop! take your time and best of luck on your diagnostic journey. thank you for everything you do! i hope you can find some peace and hope among the chaos and trauma. you deserve all the love from those close to you and especially from yourself. you are worthy of everything you tell us we are worthy of. you are a legend, swoop, just like you tell us we are. thank you for all the hope you give us- i hope you can find that hope for yourself too

  • @zeta802
    @zeta802 Před 12 dny +3

    So sorry to hear that about our precious Swoop. Glad she’s taking time off to heal. Sending love 💕 hugs and prayers.

  • @Kimmehface
    @Kimmehface Před 13 dny +146

    They are a perfect example of the blind leading the blind…

    • @celestialspartan1176
      @celestialspartan1176 Před 13 dny +12

      To me, they’re wolves in sheep’s clothing.

    • @AutoPilate
      @AutoPilate Před 13 dny +14

      They’re worse than that; they’re the blind blinding others.

    • @celestialspartan1176
      @celestialspartan1176 Před 13 dny

      @@AutoPilate who make all those red pill podcast bros smile with glee. Disgusting. 🤮🤮🤮

  • @dr.tanyajay4473
    @dr.tanyajay4473 Před 13 dny +80

    We take children to pantomimes every Christmas in England, where men perform in drag.
    Nobody finds it offensive.

    • @erinfindsen4953
      @erinfindsen4953 Před 11 dny +1

      Often, local celebrities, am I right?

    • @novalinnhe
      @novalinnhe Před 10 dny +8

      The weird thing is that there is actually quite a lot of anti-LGBT sentiment in the UK, but nobody seems to make the connection between all the fun of the Christmas panto and drag shows. I've said to myself for ages that drag is just panto for the other 364 days of the year! Haha :)

  • @valolafson6035
    @valolafson6035 Před 12 dny +2

    It makes me sad that women feel Bethany is their best choice for sex ed. She has absolutely no expertise, and no knowledge about evaluating the expertise of others. Women deserve better.

  • @michelledenny4256
    @michelledenny4256 Před 12 dny +1

    My thoughts and prayers are with Swoop. Don't rush your recovery and take good care of yourself! Much luv to you and yours

  • @triloization
    @triloization Před 13 dny +71

    I hope Swoop is OK and she can heal. Idk what to say. She is such a strong person and hearing that she has to go through all of that breaks my heart. A digital hug with tons of love goes out.

  • @bleukettu4521
    @bleukettu4521 Před 13 dny +22

    When a friend was jumped and assaulted on her way home from work, she called me and I took her to the police department and a detective literally asked what she was wearing. I gave her clothes when I picked her up because that man (who was a coworker of ours) had ripped most of her clothes off her body. She was wearing scrubs when it happened.

    • @mipsan
      @mipsan Před 11 dny +4

      there was an exhibition of real outfits women were wearing when they were assaulted and most of them were big ugly hoodies and jogging pants. If someone is looking for a victim they 100% won't care what they are wearing.

  • @amberestelle-cg5pd
    @amberestelle-cg5pd Před 12 dny +2

    You make me feel so loved and accepted with every video. you've taught me things about my past abuse I've never been taught and consoled me more than I've ever had. You're a v needed person 🖤

  • @superstormday993
    @superstormday993 Před 13 dny

    Swoop... sending so much love and positive vibes your way. I'm so sad that you've had to endure so much. I pray that you will heal in every way, over time.

  • @Joann-72
    @Joann-72 Před 13 dny +162

    Hope you're doing OK. Watching this right away. Much love and well wishes

  • @TheRibottoStudios
    @TheRibottoStudios Před 13 dny +136

    Why can't more people irl be like Kurt Wagner when it comes to practicing faith? The man is respectful of others, he lets others be, he doesn't shove his faith in your face, and is incredibly open minded and kind and compassionate and forgiving. He helped other people vs ridicule them. He let others of various faith be. The people who write for Nightcrawler seem to understand the Bible better than most Bible thumpers.

    • @MsSPrescott1
      @MsSPrescott1 Před 13 dny +20

      Because unfortunately kindness and understanding doesn’t pay the bills for people like Girl Defined. Now I’m not saying they’re grifters because I think they truly believe what they preach. But let’s be for real they’d rather take money from hateful people and ideas

    • @sezzyridge
      @sezzyridge Před 13 dny +14

      It's about power. It's not even about the faith aspect. It's used as a weapon of power.

    • @dangerxbadger2300
      @dangerxbadger2300 Před 13 dny +23

      Or Mr Rogers! He was an incredibly devout Presbyterian Minister up to the day he died

    • @Cell287
      @Cell287 Před 13 dny +1

      I rather be Remy Lebeau. A lax dude.

    • @maddiemcnugget1076
      @maddiemcnugget1076 Před 13 dny +2

      I would argue that most people are like him, but we like to chit chat and call attention to the annoying ones that are in our face. Not that it's a bad thing, we should be calling out people who are annoying (unless you think a person just existing is annoying then that's an internal problem with you).

  • @kayceejay1488
    @kayceejay1488 Před 12 dny +3

    Literally triggered by all of this… being raised in a Pentecostal family I went from having religion shoved down my throat and being made to feel guilt for wanting to be like other girls my age to now having family that speak about how myself and my cousin are going to “hell” because of our life choices. And this is why my husband and I no longer attend a church. We have never been able to find one that loved us for who we are and not what we look like… I just can’t with this. Thank you for bringing light to this darkness that is clearly is not coming from a loving place as the very god they preach about teaches them.

  • @whobug2388
    @whobug2388 Před 12 dny +1

    I hope you are holding up ok, Swoop! Thank you for continuing to put out quality work and giving people the space and grace to learn and grow. I think anyone who shows potential for growth deserves the space to explore it without judgement.
    I hope every fundie gets to a place where they can admit that they've said or done hurtful things in the name of their faith and seek forgiveness for those actions in a non-perfect way- though I have more hope for some than others.
    Expecting complete awareness and perfect atonement from these people is too much, it discourages their growth. They don't deserve without the atonement, but we also have to accept that atonement may not always look exactly how we want it to or happen as fast as we want.
    You are so beautiful and kind, thank you for your videos.

  • @oliviar9808
    @oliviar9808 Před 13 dny +51

    Her dog acts like a 'girl' dog.. what does that mean?!? She does the dishes and mops the floors? 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️

    • @malanenix4033
      @malanenix4033 Před 13 dny +2

      🤣

    • @ByeByeBelly
      @ByeByeBelly Před 13 dny +14

      All my female dogs have humped stuff, and only the female ones 🤔

    • @Acinnn
      @Acinnn Před 12 dny +5

      ​@@ByeByeBelly our female dog, on a few occasions tried to hump our leg as well.

    • @minkg8178
      @minkg8178 Před 10 dny +5

      I have had a few dogs over the years, mostly rescues. Two males had very strong parental instincts and loved looking after puppies. One female that had a litter before she lived with me, loathed puppies. Tbf she loathed most dogs and preferred them at a distance apart from my elderly Jack Russell. I had another female dog that acted more typically male (as much as dogs do, which isn't much). Oh and if you go for a walk in the country it's not unusual to see cows getting romantic with each other. Yes I mean cows, not bulls and cows 😂.
      Oh and in my back yard I have a pair of male blackbirds that have set up home together. I've seen them chase away at least one female blackbird. Nature is pretty comfortable with being gay and gender fluid.

  • @sarahwatson3192
    @sarahwatson3192 Před 13 dny +56

    “We know and are close to people who were assaulted” gives off the same vibes as “I can’t be racist I have a ____ friend!”
    Im a survivor of SA and R… what I went through was horrible and I still suffer from PTSD from it. It doesn’t make me damaged goods. It makes me a complex human with complex emotions and a complex past.
    Also as a bisexual I can say the agenda is real.. it’s not sneaky… unless forgetting how to teach bisexuals how to recognize flirting is sneaky. But I can reveal the agenda does include taco Tuesday.

    • @scelesteregina
      @scelesteregina Před 12 dny +1

      Lmao recognising flirting is a superpower we were not blessed with 😂

  • @I_am_UpsideDown
    @I_am_UpsideDown Před 11 dny +1

    SWOOP... the side bars were unreal... your intellectual analysis is so spot on and so well thought out it astounds me. Thank you for not being a ''run of the mill'' creator. My mind is rejuvenated, breaking from mindless prattle and insignificant content we're subjected to, every time you deliver such well researched and presented works of art. Get Well, Stay Strong and Petty... Thank you. We Love You.

  • @Crystal_CNY
    @Crystal_CNY Před 12 dny

    Queen of Perspective and Nuance! You are Valid! Wishing you all the love, comfort and peace during your own journey. Took me a Long time to take my own cheerleading for others serious for myself..... it is a process. 40 years with type 1 diabetes. I am human. Good days and bad. We Each have a story. We Each have a perspective. Along that journey, realize everyone is going through something, don't judge or assume. Listen and learn. - Much love to you, Swoop!

  • @badgamer8030
    @badgamer8030 Před 13 dny +107

    As someone of a Christian faith, people like this really sadden me. Our religion is entirely built around being kind to others, no matter if our belief systems allign. Spreading hate and anger isn't going to help anyone, not you, not the person you are hating.

    • @kaysimatherly5715
      @kaysimatherly5715 Před 13 dny +10

      Seriously!! God is love. But they seem to forget that.

    • @angelagrant9163
      @angelagrant9163 Před 13 dny +6

      All of this is learned behavior. It's so very disturbing and disappointing that this behavior and beliefs still remain within the Christian society. There continues to be tons of Bible beaters and narrow minded thinking among people such as these. Swoop, my deepest thoughts for you and know that you are loved❤ Keep trying to move forward in your own way and power through with healing❤ Love you and your channel ❤ Thx for everything you do 😊😊

    • @brendanbeanparker5302
      @brendanbeanparker5302 Před 12 dny

      But abstaining from sex before marriage is something the Bible does instruct Christians to do. I don’t judge the world on my faith, but if someone calls themselves a Christian, they should try to obey those instructions. If they’re not a Christian, this does not apply to them. Although I believe, even secularly, monogamy is the best option. And you should commit to a lifelong partner.

    • @kaysimatherly5715
      @kaysimatherly5715 Před 12 dny +3

      @@brendanbeanparker5302 Butt that’s the thing about the Bible, not everything is to be taken so literal. And it was written during a time where they lived completely different. Abstaining from sex until marriage isn’t for you or anyone of us to judge on. That’s between them and God. No one else.

    • @brendanbeanparker5302
      @brendanbeanparker5302 Před 12 dny

      @@kaysimatherly5715, except the Bible has not changed for centuries. People now interpret it to coincide with what brings them pleasure. It’s a selfish interpretation, and far from the character of God.

  • @poppysensei3858
    @poppysensei3858 Před 13 dny +15

    Calling SA a difficult “season” to walk through is craaaaazy. As someone who has gone through it more than once, this is something you live with.

    • @donttalktomeyoureannoying8736
      @donttalktomeyoureannoying8736 Před 12 dny +1

      I think it’s different for everyone. I was raped but it hasn’t psychologically impacted me as much as losing my mother to cancer, now that made me want to die

  • @Irishredfae
    @Irishredfae Před 5 dny

    Thank you Swoop Team for posting her finished work ❤ Please let her know that we’re all hoping she’s healing and finding peace. Sending love and comfort!

  • @eldrichnemo9312
    @eldrichnemo9312 Před 12 dny

    Much love and healing to you Swoop! I love your documentaries. Your oft-repeated "it's not drama, it's dangerous" made me change how I thought about public figure scandals and bring more nuance into examining how a situation can grow and fester into something awful and question how it can be avoided to begin with.

  • @airypersiflage
    @airypersiflage Před 13 dny +32

    Thank you to Swoop's team for producing / completing the projects that were underway.
    Swoop, hope you are receiving the care, help, love & healing you deserve. I'm so devastated that this year has been such hell. TAKE YOUR TIME, FRIEND.

  • @ChairmanChico
    @ChairmanChico Před 13 dny +63

    This is the first time I’ve heard the Girl Defined Girls described as lolcows….
    I’m here for this.
    I hope you’re taking some time for yourself to heal. ❤

  • @beatrizeugeniavethencourta707

    All the love, support, and blessings for Swoop and your team! You deserve it Honey

  • @phyllisswett3780
    @phyllisswett3780 Před 10 dny +1

    Love to Swoop and her team. So many people are in your corner. Take the time you need to recover. I am sure I am not alone in deciding to go on a Swoop watching binge of your previous content in your absence Stay strong. You did nothing wrong. We are here for you!

  • @olbugg
    @olbugg Před 13 dny +28

    My thoughts and love for Swoop as she recovers and heals.I hope the perpertrator of this assault is held accountable

  • @CyanidePusher
    @CyanidePusher Před 13 dny +24

    As a gay person who can run very fast, i have so many ideas for a gay race 🌈✨

  • @jaimiecarpediemer
    @jaimiecarpediemer Před 13 dny +1

    Hey Swoop, I really appreciate your perspective questioning here. Lately I’ve been grappling a lot with how much grace to give those who have problematic and sometimes hateful views. Part of me believes each person is responsible for educating themselves, but the other part of me has trouble blaming people who have only ever been taught and fed a certain way of thinking.

  • @stephaniejenkins7822
    @stephaniejenkins7822 Před 11 dny +1

    Thank you for the video to Swoop and her team! Hopefully everything is alright soon, but there's no need at all to rush back, I can wait 🙂
    Hoping you have a swift recovery!

  • @DelaneyB.444.77
    @DelaneyB.444.77 Před 13 dny +34

    As someone who’s survived religious abuse/ trauma; Thank you so much for covering this topic Swoop. I remember how their videos reminded me of my trauma and made me relive it. You covered it more thorough then any other creator I’ve seen and I really appreciate how you help so many affected by those who you cover with your platform. Sending so much love ❤️

  • @bingabangbong
    @bingabangbong Před 13 dny +41

    I'm crying over your high pitched FEEDELY DEE at the 13 min mark 😂 you know it's serious!

  • @theporterssystem
    @theporterssystem Před 11 dny

    Your sponsorship for the Raycon earbuds made me pull the trigger on getting them when I lost my other earbuds charging case and WOW! I *LOVE* them, your opinion was absolutely right thank you for sharing a quality product with us! Sending all the good vibes with everything you have going on, I hope things get better for you soon!

  • @jarethwoltman9284
    @jarethwoltman9284 Před 11 dny

    I get very concerned when you do these docs because of all you have fought your way through, I hope these never hurt you and you take time for you after these harder videos. The sadness in your voice numerous times is heart wrenching. Thank you for covering the hard things Swoop!

  • @Mushroomelixir
    @Mushroomelixir Před 13 dny +104

    Reminder that being Christan or religious isn't the problem, but that being hurtful and violent is :)

    • @Dirtyhwood
      @Dirtyhwood Před 13 dny +8

      💜

    • @DrinkYourNailPolish
      @DrinkYourNailPolish Před 13 dny +7

      Exactamundo!!

    • @purple66666
      @purple66666 Před 13 dny +13

      Debatable. As she said, religion is not a monolith. It's indisputable that religion has both good and bad parts. No religion was created with the intention to do bad but not admitting that there are problems with blind belief in teachings that are thousands of years old is idiotic and dangerous.
      In my opinion if you see religion as a source of growth through objective studying from a spiritual, political and historical point of view then you are good, but if you literally believe in imaginary beings and abandon logic and empathy in favour of blaming demons for illnesses and for avoiding taking responsibility for your own actions... Then you are clearly part of the problem.

    • @Mushroomelixir
      @Mushroomelixir Před 13 dny +2

      @@purple66666 totally get you and agree!! By the way to any future person replying to this person, pls watch what you say :3

  • @pearl_b
    @pearl_b Před 13 dny +79

    IVE NEVER CLICKED A VIDEO SO FAST!!! (Grew up in Christian fundamentalism)
    EDIT: ok after watching, thank you for your compassion and nuance approaching these topics 💕🫶🏻 loved this!

    • @CarolineIronwill
      @CarolineIronwill Před 13 dny +8

      Me too. So glad Swoop is exposing these two clowns.

    • @kina8575
      @kina8575 Před 13 dny +1

      Same collect so fast

    • @I_HaVe_QuEsTiOnS4u
      @I_HaVe_QuEsTiOnS4u Před 13 dny

      All fundamentalist religions are dangerous and cult-ish by definition. Fundamental beliefs all but garunetee abuse. How can anyone read what Jesus said and interpret any part as... well, hate people who think differently than you or that it's ok to judge others, is beyond comprehension

    • @angelagrant9163
      @angelagrant9163 Před 13 dny +2

      Same! It was awful and took me many decades to recover, still suffer with it at times. I finally had to let it go.

  • @KristenElizabeth4
    @KristenElizabeth4 Před 10 dny +1

    All our love to Swoop during this difficult time ❤ thank you team for continuing to help her create content for her community we appreciate all she does and all you all do

  • @allisonlilly01
    @allisonlilly01 Před 6 dny +1

    hi! Purity culture trauma survivor here! girl - phew...this documentary was needed! in a day and age where girls were compared to crushed rose petals, or chewing gum, or a dirty white glove that was stained that no one would ever want if we had sex or even so much as looked at a guy that we liked, i grew up in the days of "i kissed dating goodbye" by Joshua Harris, who has since apologized for writing that book because it has harmed more people than it helped. i saved sex for marriage, and my first husband - was a godly, looked up to, youth pastor...who abused behind closed doors, spiritual torment (the bible was soooo twisted against me, used as a weapon), verbal and emotional trauma. for 9 yrs, i was the doormat, the submissive godly wife who did everything i was told, and followed every rule i had ever been taught - and yet STILL was abused. i finally worked up enough courage to divorce and leave, despite being told "divorce was a sin" at that point i didnt care. I followed God, and look where it got me, who cared if i got divorced at that point?! i am now remarried to an amazing man, who treats me as his equal and is my absolute best friend. thank you for making this documentary - those of us who were harmed by purity culture, it was nice to know we werent crazy.

  • @kimberleighstark6960
    @kimberleighstark6960 Před 13 dny +28

    Your content is freakin awesome!!! As a woman who is turning (omg) 60 in September, you are helping me heal and understand things… if you’re doing that for me, I can only imagine how much you are helping the younger ones out there in this crazy world!!! Thank you and please keep doing you!!! You are inspiring and incredible!!!! 🙏🏽💜💋💋💋💋

  • @daresaryan8229
    @daresaryan8229 Před 13 dny +26

    Their head bobbing, tilting, and nodding with each other is hilarious to watch 🤣🤣🤣

  • @AnnSmajstrla
    @AnnSmajstrla Před 12 dny +1

    Girl Defined needs as much coverage like this as they can get. Thank you, Swoop!

  • @EdgyEspresso
    @EdgyEspresso Před 9 dny

    I know someone exactly like this. Something happens to them and suddenly they have all the compassion and understanding.

  • @mayawoods3314
    @mayawoods3314 Před 13 dny +94

    This is perfect timing considering the recent graduation speech given by the chiefs kicker

    • @JumpCutThis
      @JumpCutThis Před 13 dny

      Okay I want to have an *HONEST* conversation about this- so he was invited to a catholic university, by a Catholic administration, and his entire speech was espousing his Catholic faith. I am considered Catholic, but after the disgusting behavior exhibited by the entirety of Rome, my faith has all but vanished. However, he didn’t say anything I read or heard that was wild or heretical- at least not as compared to the outrage I’ve seen. He praised his wife and espoused his love and admiration for her, made a point of telling the attendees there’s nothing wrong with aspiring to be a SAHM, called out absentee fathers, and talked quite a bit about Catholic faith. I just don’t understand where this weird disconnect has come from what he said and what people believe he said.

    • @roselover411
      @roselover411 Před 13 dny +1

      Seriously, I just watched Rachel Oates go through that last night so I'm all primed for this too

    • @maddiemcnugget1076
      @maddiemcnugget1076 Před 13 dny +16

      As a Catholic, I love that other Catholics spoke out against him.
      I think you, me, and most people can agree he mostly used that time to rant on about social changes that he dislikes. Probably because nobody else wants to hear him ranting. Like women having careers *le gasp!* like sir you are paid millions to kick an oval. Calm down. None of these women are threatening your career 😂. Also accusing women of climbing the social ladder and promotions. I came from a secular school. Heck i came from the evil business school and nobody (men, women & other) was thinking that. We’re all just thinking “I wanna make money have a house and exist in this economy 😭”. Maybe 2% were evil greed chasers. So I highly doubt that the women in a Catholic school are thinking about climbing the ranks.
      I actually don’t think it’s bad to be like “your greatest accomplishment is to be a mother and wife” but you have to dish that energy to the other side. As a society, we have a problem with absent fathers. Tell the men to be good fathers and husbands but nah. Ofc he was like “men don’t listen to the propaganda of today”. Sir you’re the only one with the propaganda. Most of the older men I’ve talked with have noted their greatest accomplishment is being a father and husband as well (well the ones that aren’t divorced). Would’ve been totally cool, not sexist, and Catholic if he dished the energy both ways.
      Anyway, the nuns associated with the school (interestingly their patron saint is St. Scholastica) said his speech doesn’t align with Catholic values which I agree with.

    • @roselover411
      @roselover411 Před 13 dny +8

      @@maddiemcnugget1076 I gotta say it was the "stay in your lane" part that galled me the most. Saying that to a school full of people with hopes and ambitions to start their lives sounds like you're telling them they're not allowed to be successful, they have to be mediocre because they're not allowed to do anything outside of the predefined box they were born into. Horrendous thing to preach.

    • @Talia.Ryn710
      @Talia.Ryn710 Před 13 dny +4

      ​@@maddiemcnugget1076agreed
      - Fellow outspoken Catholic

  • @L3N0R4L4N3
    @L3N0R4L4N3 Před 13 dny +19

    "If Marilyn Monroe was Christian, she wouldn't have unalived herself!"
    Or, mental health and addiction was something people silently struggled and died from back then way worse than now. Or she was assassinated, depends on who you ask. Either way, making that assertion is ridiculously tone deaf

  • @danniielllle
    @danniielllle Před 12 dny +1

    Just started watching the first few minutes of this & former Mormon here.. these girls are INSANE and I'm so happy you're doing this doc and I'm excited to watch all of it!

  • @thatsadking
    @thatsadking Před 13 dny +1

    Swoop talking in italian is something i never expected to see this morning but HONEY keep going!!💖 Italy loves you girl, Ti vogliamo bene tesoro!!

  • @michelleallred8521
    @michelleallred8521 Před 13 dny +7

    My Mom (the grandma who raised me) found out I was having S when I was 19 or 20. She said she'd failed raising me. I told her she'd raised me since I was 3 & I don't drink, smoke, do any drugs, so if all I did was have premarital S, she'd absolutely succeeded