The LIES of the LaBrant Family: Exploitation, Manipulation and Greed | The Downfall
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How the LaBrant Fam destroyed themselves, a masterclass in manipulation and shady deception. The LaBrant Fam and family vloggers have been caught in lies, deflection, manipulation, and so much more we need to talk about. Are they exploiting their family for profit? Where is the accountability? Are we supposed to feel bad for the LaBrant Family? Who is responsible? Something doesn’t sit right in this masterclass of how to get away with everything.
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UPDATE: (originally posted September 2022) I just saw a couple of you from Australia have left comments saying that my acronym abbreviation of the word abortion is actually an offensive word in Australia! I had absolutely NO idea, and while I obviously was just taking the first 3 letters of abortion because we're forced to have to censor so many words, I would never want to hurt anyone in the process! Thank you for taking the time to inform me so that that acronym for abortion is never used again! I appreciate you ALL, and that acronym/word will never be uttered from my mouth again. And I hope one day we can be free to use the actual words like abortion on these heavy topics instead of having to constantly dance around them and minimize their importance. Thank you again for your kindness and concern and educating me on your culture. I so appreciate these open conversations so we can better protect communities and I will continue to strive to learn how to do that even more. I also filmed an update, statement and apology that appears in the video uploaded after this one as well for those who were curious. Thank you all, I appreciate you.
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If you make your eldest daughter a co-parent, don't expect to have authority over them when they hit puberty. Trust me. If I was grown enough to raise my half-sibling, I decided, I was grown enough to do whatever I wanted to do. You can't expect adult responsibility from us then expect us to be children again when you want control.
Oof this hit hard and I’m sorry you went through this as well!! I can remember as a teenager saying to my parents, “You don’t get to parent me when it’s convenient for you anymore. I got it from here.” They seemed relieved at being even more hands off after that.
See, this directly relates to why older generations think the younger are rude and out of control.
You're looking at the least parented generation. If someone has lost all respect for their own parent, what makes you think they're gonna respect your dusty arse?
Yep! Can’t have your cake & eat it too.
god i could not relate more!! i had to practically raise my brother when i was only 9 years old because my mom was too busy going out clubbing and spending all day with her boyfriend (while still married to my dad) i change more of his diapers than anyone else. then when i grew up they wondered why i was so grown and mature compared to other kids my age. like um? maybe because my childhood was robbed.
My sister made me raise her daughter for the first 3 years cause she was only covered for 6months mat leave. I was in grade 7. My sister would meet me outside of school at 330, id bring the baby back home with me until she got home at like 130am (i obviously lived at home but my mom worked till like 6 and by the time she was home she was exhausted).
The fact that they’re all “we’re fighting for the babies” yet actively exploit their children for money on the daily is just…
Hypocrisy
Well yeah that's what a lot of people like this do. Like pro lifers that want us to have all these babies but don't seem to care for the babies that currently actually exist being afraid to go to school, or sitting in foster care. It's bonkers.
Ironic for sure.
Posting your children online is not exploitation. It’s actually very, very rare that parents don’t post their kids. The only difference is they make money. And guess what? They’ve been doing it long before they ever had a kid. Cole has been a huge social media personality since vine very first came out.
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Whenever I hear you say "it's not Drama, it's Dangerous" I always expect it to be "it's not Drama, it's Trauma"
Can be both ....Or both... !!!!
Consider: “it’s not Drama, it’s Dangerous Trauma”
That's a good one!!
Sounds better
I fully expected you to say "Digiorno"
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Love from England. 🩷
U.K. here too! Totally agree, I’d probably say the most truly principled person on CZcams that I’ve come across. Too much US content and especially the comments makes me seriously depressed if I consume too much of it, but SWOOP is an oasis of kindness and sanity. Much love 🇬🇧❤️
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I have a 10 year old and a 5 month old. Anytime someone hears about their age gap it’s always “oh my gosh you have a built in babysitter!” NO. The only responsibility I’ve given my daughter when it comes to her brother is to keep an eye on him for 10 minutes so I can shower, after I’ve made sure he’s been fed, changed, and burped. I chose to have this baby, not her. It will never be her responsibility to help raise him. That’s the job my husband and I chose.
I had 3 kids by the time I was 22. Then I had another baby at 32. People say that to me all the time, oh you must have so much help with the older boys, this baby must be so easy! Yeah no I have teenage boys that aren't interested in a baby lol sure they will sit with him and read him books etc but they have never changed a nappy or fed him or anything like that. They are busy with their own lives and friends and school and the older 2 have jobs. I couldn't even imagine my kids reactions if I asked them to change a nappy 🤣
My mom had us 10 years apart, and yes my sister did babysit me when she was a teen, but my mom always paid her. Otherwise, my sister never parented me.
there is a HUGE difference between parentifying your child, and asking them to do reasonable things to ask a sibling of. as someone with a 10yr age gap between me and my little brother who has been parentified over half my life, youre doing it right ❤️
My mom had my older brother 10 years before me, and 13 before my little brother. She had him babysit us occasionally as a teenager, but she made it her mission to never make me or my little brother his responsibility. I think that was extremely good for his relationship with us, and for his relationship with my mom.
That thought has literally never come into my mind when someone says their kids are that far apart in age. It makes me wonder if the people “joking” about a built in babysitter have done/would do it and think it’s just the norm.
I had a miscarriage in my second trimester. The procedure I went through to remove my dead child from me can be effected under some of these abortion laws.
Until my state, Kansas, thankfully voted against taking away the right. I was terrified. My husband and I were talking about him getting snipped because the idea that I could get pregnant again... lose a baby again... and be told that I HAD to carry a dead child till it naturally was expelled from my body. I couldn't.
I came very close to suicide when I lost my son. If I was forced to carry my son longer than the week I had to carry him, I would not have made it. That week of being a tomb for my son was the hardest thing I've ever been through in my life. It almost killed me because I wanted that baby more than anything in the world. He was my first child... and I lost him. It is no one elses choice how long I carry my dead child inside me.
It is NO ONE elses choice what happens to my fucking body period. No ones. Across the board. The fact that people are so willing to ignore that these laws effect far more than JUST abortion is fucking terrifying. You don't want an abortion. Don't get one. The fact that you have no problem with a mom being forced to carry a dead child or being forced to continue an ectopic pregnancy just because of your misguided agenda is so much more terrifying.
I am so sorry for the loss of your baby boy 🥺❤️ I can’t imagine your pain throughout it. The fact that people make it seem like abortion is just a “oh I woke up today and decided to get one” type of deal is disgusting. That decision is a hard one and an emotional one. 🥺❤️ I hope you have healed or continue to from it
Hello fellow Kansan!! I'm very sorry you went through that. I'm glad you got the care you needed and I hope you're doing ok 💜 I was really surprised we actually voted no but I was so so proud
It’s vile how anti choice groups lie and pretend these things don’t happen while further traumatizing those in the midst of unexpected loss. I am so sorry.
My mother has had a third trimester abortion to save her life and spare my brother horrific pain prior to his inevitable death. No one is out there getting a third trimester abortion just because they decided at the last minute that l they don’t feel like having a baby or use it as birth control. Anti choice groups know all of this but choose to lie
When I was 4, my mom got pregnant with my brother Anthony and everyone was so excited. All of my mother’s pregnancies were high risk and we all had touch and go moments. During her third trimester, the doctors sat my parents down and said that carrying Anthony to full term was not a safe or viable option for either my mom or my brother. Anthony had no chance of surviving more than a few minutes and he would be suffering in pain for his entire short life. My mother would not survive either.
My parents were gutted. My brother said was wanted. They agonized over following their faith which would leave 2 little girls under 5 motherless. They wanted to avoid causing undue pain to my brother as well. Why should an infant suffer for the sake of a religious principle?
My parents went to go see their priest and told him everything. He made them feel like it was okay to go through with the procedure. I shudder to think about what would have happened if they had talked to literally any other priest or if they followed another religion. My mother had the third trimester abortion. Our family grieved the loss. A year and a half later, my brother Michael Anthony was born (mostly) healthy. My mother is still alive.
My mother has had a third trimester abortion to save her life and spare my brother horrific pain prior to his inevitable death. No one is out there getting a third trimester abortion just because they decided at the last minute that l they don’t feel like having a baby or use it as birth control. Anti choice groups know all of this but choose to lie
When I was 4, my mom got pregnant with my brother Anthony and everyone was so excited. All of my mother’s pregnancies were high risk and we all had touch and go moments. During her third trimester, the doctors sat my parents down and said that carrying Anthony to full term was not a safe or viable option for either my mom or my brother. Anthony had no chance of surviving more than a few minutes and he would be suffering in pain for his entire short life. My mother likely would not survive either.
My parents were gutted. My brother said was wanted. They agonized over following their faith which would leave 2 little girls under 5 motherless. They wanted to avoid causing undue pain to my brother as well. Why should an infant suffer for the sake of a religious principle?
My parents went to go see their priest and told him everything. He made them feel like it was okay to go through with the procedure. I shudder to think about what would have happened if they had talked to literally any other priest or if they followed another religion. My mother had the third trimester abortion. Our family grieved the loss. A year and a half later, my brother Michael Anthony was born (mostly) healthy. My mother is still alive. Abortion should be safe, free, and available to everyone who wants one.
I'm so sorry for your loss. My comment makes me hurt for you two. Hugs❤
I'm so sorry you went through that ❤
As a ballet dancer I am so so so grateful you included the pointe shoe risks! It is commonly known in the dance world so there is ZERO excuse for introducing pointe shoes at such a young age. My studio did not allow dancers to go on pointe until age 15/16.
Very true! My studio did it a little earlier where some kids at 13-14 were getting them but it wasn’t everyone it was based student to student. We did a lot of strengthening and stretching training to be able to be able to get them. We also like to wait until kids feet stop growing before they can have them. It is so much healthier to wait and keep the growth on the right track.
My little sister is in point and she started when she was 13 I believe? She’s 15 now. She is *beautiful* on pointe, but our studio didn’t let anyone under 11 start pointe, and even then you had to have been at the studio for at least a year AND it was only at the discretion of the dance teacher.
The narcissism, the saviour complex, the exploitation, the emotional abuse, the propaganda, the parentification, the lack of emotional maturity & emotional intelligence, the entitlement, the lack of empathy or understanding, how unapologetic they are and god so much more that if I was to write it all out by the time I was done the kids would be full grown adults is so fucking horrifying… it’s overwhelming
I lost my daughter to cancer, i have friends who lost their beautiful child to cancer....the amount of anger I have towards that family for that is impossible to verbalize.
I’m so sorry for your loss 😔 They’re absolutely gross.
Im so sorry for your loss. Hope you doing okay❤
Truly sorry for your loss. My husband got diagnosed with testicular cancer about 6 months ago & I'm still dealing with how I am affected. He's ok now, but anyone who does stuff like this makes my blood boil.
Im so sorry for your loss I have no words that can help other then I’m so sorry your child will always be your baby and there protecting you
I'm so so sorry for your loss, and for the loss your friends suffered as well 😞♥️
As a kid who was taken out of school to take care of my younger siblings, it did a ton of damage to my education, social life, and sense of security. It was so isolating, caused a decade of mental health crises. It took until college to catch up my education and I still struggle with feeling isolated. I cannot stress how much damage pulling a kid from school to be a nanny does.
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I'm sorry that happened to you :(
Hopefully your in better in mental health now days
And like...aren't they stay at home parents????
Omg did we live the same childhood 😢 I too was the one who took care of my 8 younger siblings I’m currently raising my youngest brother still and I’m 37. My mom had 13 kids some she gave up for adoption and then I had 1 older brother who left home super young. But I missed a lot of school I missed my childhood and so many experiences most young people got to have. I do also still struggle at times feeling so alone.
On the topic of the “crisis pregnancy centers” I was walking into a clinic to have an abos(smh) and a woman approached me stating she was a nurse with the clinic and was there to help me get inside safely due to about 10-15 protesters surrounding the building. As we began to walk another nurse came out of the front door and told me the nurse I was being led by did not work at the clinic, she was a protester leading away so I would miss my appointment and wouldn’t be able to go through with the procedure!!! I couldn’t believe it! I was truly shocked! The only thing I could say to her was she should be ashamed of herself, she had no idea of my situation and shouldn’t judge people! I still can’t believe there are people out there willing to mislead women to take the option from them! Now this happened around 22-22 years ago, things have changed now unfortunately. Just wanted to share my experience.
Yikes. How sad for your dead baby.
@@AS-qy1zz Tearing other people down is sadder
Trying to justify why I needed an ectopic pregnancy removed to "pro-lifers" is the most undignified thing I've had to do.
Yeah I've seen some on Reddit saying they'd just "let it take its course as there's a small chance of life" ummmmmmm...
@@ByeByeBelly The only way an ectopic pregnancy "ends" if it's not dealt with in a medical way is when the fallopian tube bursts (the egg is stuck in the tube and didn't travel to the womb) and the mother will bleed out quickly. So letting it "take it's course" more than likely ensures the death of the mother.
It's a lack of dignity and humanity of the people demanding you satisfy their interest in your body, not you. I'm sorry you had to deal with an ectopic pregnancy, and then had to go through it again because some people think they have a right to impose their beliefs on the bodies of others. That kind of attitude makes me vibrate with anger just thinking about it. 💗
OMG! I can't imagine what you went through. My mom had an ectopic pregnancy when I was about 10 yrs old, and although being young, I don't recall anyone around me, even today, saying it was an A. It was simple a medical procedure needed to save my mom. The same has any other medical treatment or surgery. Note that I'm Portuguese and A were not legal yet (with some exceptions)
There's been like. One single woman who carried one to term. It was hell. She was happy she did it, but to ask anyone to do that- it's too much.
I miss the days when parents used to just film home videos that they'd keep to themselves. I totally understand wanting to document your family and children's lives for the memories, but there's literally no need to upload every single little thing to a ton of strangers on the internet, especially since many of those strangers do NOT mean well. Just keep them at home to watch back in the future and maybe send it to grandparents or other close family and friends.
At the very least families that want to upload and share their homevidoes with other loved ones can upload it to CZcams and then make the video private and simply share the link with the people they want to see it. That way strangers still don’t have access
@@Patchouliprince this^^
I have always thought this, I don't have social media anymore (I only watch CZcams) because I think it's so easy to fall into the rabbit hole of oversharing. However when I did have Facebook I was very careful about what I posted about my children and I never posted photos of them anywhere identifiable or in their school uniforms just in case
But that doesn’t get a parent the attention and money that social media might get them!
It's dangerous too. I have erased all of my pictures practically from FB and have never uploaded a video of any member of my family where anyone would know who I was. China is watching. People posting video on Instagram and elsewhere are spied upon by China. Who knows what they'll do with all that data, but it can't be good.
I was a parentified child. I still have issues. People really need to stop thinking their older kids are babysitters.
These two make me LIVID.
I was legitimately fighting Acute Lymphoblastic Leukaemia at the age of 2. I nearly died. I am more than angry that they exploited that kind of life-changing event.
I had ALL when I was 13, so messed up! Hope you are doing well
i hope you both are doing well!! cancer fakers of any kind are abismal humans. i wish you all health and happiness
as the oldest who’s been put responsibility into caring my family, including dropping out of college to work and provide for them, it does tremendous trauma and severely effects your life
The cancer video got me. I watched my mum go through cancer and lose her life to it. Seeing them make that video enraged me beyond all belief. How anyone can exploit people in probably the worst moments of their life is the most sickening shit I've ever seen. I'm not religious but I doubt they repented their sins for that one. Arseholes.
It almost feels like in the Mandela Catalog with the "false Jesus" where they are pretending to be religious to fool actual religious people into following them when really they are demons leading them to slaughter
Same here. My dad is currently fighting cancer and that video had me fuming
I'm upset! My grandmother passed from cancer years ago, and this brought up bad memories for me
I lost both my parents to the same cancer!! I agree with 💯, some of the worst days of my life. I took care of both my parents before they passed and I'm so glad I got that time with themZZZ wasHow they exploited their child for profit, I will never understand!! I'm so sorry to hear about your mom!!
My little brother passed away from cancer. It was the most horrific and traumatizing thing that has ever happened to my family. Anyone who exploits terminal illnesses, children or tragic deaths for views and money are the scum of the earth.
I'm so sorry you and your family had to go through that! That is one of my biggest fears as a parent, so I don't understand how people want to exploit patients and their families to get some views, and of course, money. It sickens me. I just don't understand why they can't make a video about cancer patients just to help educate and donate what they make to actual people who are going through that and could help them a little bit on the financial end, since they're going through so much as is. Smh
Swoop is such an amazing advocate for people who have been abused and groomed. You can hear the pain in her voice when she talks about what she's survived. I only recently found her channel, and I love her so much already!
I had an early miscarriage with my first- Went into urgent care and the fetus was already expelling itself from my body, I watched as the doctor pulled out the whole fetus and set it in a jar and took it away. I cried the whole time, they told me they had to send the "tissue" for tests, and never asked me if I wanted it back. They classified it as an abortion and still bring it up as an abortion at multiple appointments with my second child.
So many people do not realize that an "abortion" is only the early end of a pregnancy, regardless of the reason. Hence why villainizing "abortion" is so incredibly dangerous. It makes even saving the life of a mother to remove a dead fetus into something seen as "baby murder" when it's clearly not, and puts women in danger when health professionals become wary of providing life saving abortions because abortion is viewed so negatively.
I had a misscariage with my first too. Its horrible that in the documents its never stated as a loss and its called an abort cuz its not twchnicaly a fetus bevore 10 weeks. Its only about the size of blueberrie. I coulden't even see mine and I am so glad. I think what I saw was just clothed blode and uterinnlining like with a very heavy period.
I always made it a point at to twll doctlrs and midwifes that I LOST the first. I understand they do theyr thing to not judge you or pressur you to state if it was a choice or a loss, but since it was so traumatic for me EVENE THO its medicaly so comon to lose a baby in the 1. Trimester to Doctors, it was important for me that it was aknoledged as a loss. I was sooo scared to lose my second and I am now pregnnat with my 3 and everything is diffrent. Rainbowchildren are somethig ❤
“Instead of being pro life, or pro choice, why can’t we be pro-love?” So deep. So poetic. Goosebumps.
I sense sarcasm and it has been executed perfectly! 🎉 lol
@@CelticLulu I was hoping my comment would come off sarcastic 😂
Much deep. Such poetic. Perhaps Gabbie Hanna can use it in her next poetry book😂
That's what pro-choice is, in my opinion.
@@whitney8678 Except for the future child just saying.
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Thanks again, Swoop!
Ohhh, they are adorable! 💖💖💖
Glad your babies are okay and yes, thank you Swoop!
@@ashleyw6160 aw, thank you!!
@@nikkie5912 thank you!
This is nice information to know! Thank you 💞 I hope you and your kids are doing well.
I had a situation where the condom slipped off. I went to a clinic and got what we call " morning after" pill. Never had any regrets about not having a baby. It wasn't sure I even was pregnant but having a choice to be sure there would not be a baby was liberating. No regrets.
As an afab who’s the oldest of three kids, being basically a co-parent absolutely sucks. I’m 15, and I have the crushing responsibility of watching an 11 year old boy and a 10 month old baby. I’m treated as a third parent with none of the respect. I constantly have to babysit, I’m put in charge of dishes, and I have to change diapers all the time. I barely have a social life outside of social media because of how often I have to babysit, and my brother doesn’t even listen to me when I do. It’s infuriating, and the idea of this “family” forcing their NINE YEAR OLD daughter to take care of a baby sickens me. I can barely take care of myself, I can’t read my baby sister as well as our parents, my brother all but refuses to help with something as simple as ‘make a bottle’, and yet I’m still put in charge of all of this.
Hey, I’m really sorry you have to go through this. I wasn’t exactly a parentified kid growing up, but my life was full of familiar abuse and trauma, and I was neglected while my younger sister got all the attentions. I honestly don’t know how to help, have you tried talking to a teacher, or reaching out to helplines or even social workers? Parentification is abuse and you shouldn’t be sacrificing your youth, mental health and time you should be dedicating to friends, education and passions to be the third parent.
I know it’s scary to try and remove yourself from the situation or to try and improve it, but your health is worth it, you will probably need therapy to process all this, waiting it out until your adult years makes it worse. If I could give any advice to my 15yo self would be to go and get help because what I was living was traumatising and extremely unfair.
I was 15 when I found out I was pregnant with my brother in laws baby as a result of him taking advantage of me and getting me high and drunk for 3 months. If I hadn't been able to have that abortion...... I can't even. I literally have no words thinking about these girls out there right now. *semi-side note* swoop, thank you. Every time you say it's not your fault .....to this day I have no one to talk to really. Having someone say that. Even if it is a stranger on CZcams. Really thank you.
@MadeleineTess I look back at it and think I must have been strong. To get through it and get here and survive. But it doesn't feel that way when its happening It felt like a numb blur. Like in frozen 2 "stumbling blind....do the next right thing" I recognize now that, that was strength. I very much appreciate you saying something. I didn't have anyone looking out for me back then. And I'm still isolated because I don't have friends or family to lean on. I went on this whole tangent in case anyone else going through or who has gone through something similar reads this. To know that there is no right thing to do other than get through it without hurting yourself or anyone else. Even if you are alone and think its not possible, it is. I have 4 kids now, and because of everything I went through I've made sure that they were never alone, they have been protected and have family to lean on. I wouldn't be the mother I am had that not happened. And had I not had the choice to say I'm not having a baby right now. Thank you very much for your kind words. ❤ I'm sorry I went on a tangent!
You may have been numb, confused, and stumbling, but you stumbled into a family you’ve made for yourself. This is one of the times where how you got there doesn’t matter. What matters is you got through it and you’re now thriving with a happier life :)
@LolaBola thank you for your kind words. I slightly disagree, though. How i got where i am does matter. Had things not happened the way they did, if I didn't have the choices I did, I wouldn't have what I do now, or be the parent I am to my kids. I don't know what works for other people, but for me, going through it, seeing all the bad, made me eventually appreciate the good and look out for my kids, see the dangers, and understand the world in a way i wouldnt have. I realize that for some people that doesn't help but it does for me "if we don't learn from the past we're doomed to repeat it" and i have met a lot of people who repeated the cycle. So I think it does matter how I got here. Just my experience, Nothing but love❤️
@@sarahwilliams4092 Alr ty for correction, sorry if it came off as insensitive or anything ^^
@LolaBola no worries, not at all. I was worried my reply would seem defensive. These are the problems with text communication! In person this would just be a regular conversation. On here it can come across badly. Luckily we both understood each other!❤️
The father of my child comes to mind. When our son needed heart surgery twice he said he was “too anxious and felt sick” to come to the hospital both times. Unforgivable
I hear you. I had to beg my ex to come see our daughter who was fighting for her life in the ICU in WA (we live in AK) after a having a stroke post-brain surgery. He came, but only for 2 days. I was there for over a month and almost lost my job, but I was NOT leaving my girl (18 at the time) until the docs could tell me she was totally out of the woods.
Unforgivable for sure as it made her feel more unloved by him.
Yup my son who was 8 months old at the time was hospitalized for getting Herpes on his toe (a grandmother kissed his foot after I cut his toenails anf she must have been getting a fever blister) and it’s dangerous for babies if they get it.. anyway he came for 1 hour to visit that entire week. I lived there, didn’t even damn shower.
I am so so sorry, that is unforgivable. I really hope your son is doing ok, that's so scary 💜
Speaking from my own experience, your son will remember one parent not being there for him, but he’ll remember the parent who was there far more.
My friends of literally 20+ years just lost their 8 year old daughter this year after a lifelong battle with cancer that I diagnosed as a pediatric eye doctor. This is so infuriating
Preparing meals is kind of a gray area when it comes to parentification. I don't think there's anything wrong with asking an older teen to cook once in a while (once a week at most) so they learn how to cook in a controlled environment and don't burn their first apartment down.
Right, older TEENS. Not a 6 year old
Family channels are fascinating to me, in a terrible way. How do they get MILLIONS of followers?! Why do they always have this painfully fake vibe- I will never understand how family channels become so popular. Thank you for what you do! You're amazing Swoop!
Well after seeing the insane number of views on the videos with the kids in swimsuits…it’s no surprise who’s subbing to these channels 🤮
I've wondered if they pad their subs with fake accounts. Create a higher sub count so they'll be shared more by the algorithm to then gain more organic subs in the platform.
I've felt that way about vlogs in general ever since I learned what a vlog is. Why would I care what some stranger is doing day to day??
@@caseyw.6550 It seems to me that some people watch vlogs out of loneliness. It’s part of the reason that mukbangs were popular in Korea: Eating with others is ritualized and a form of bonding, and the isolation that Korean youth feel (similar to how Western youth feel right now) was attempted to be rectified through eating on camera for others to watch. Personally, I absolutely despise mukbangs. I find the way mukbangers eat (literally shoving food in their mouth at times like a pig), to be revolting.
But I’m heavily digressing. It’s my belief that people who enjoy vlogs either like the personality of the person making them, or they are mentally ill/in a bad situation and want some normalcy in their life.
It's mostly children and older people watching. My kids always go from coco melon to family bloggers on CZcams. My mother loves them too. Lol. They seem wholesome until you start digging and I think that's what draws in the demographic they have.
Everleigh's bio Dad died recently at the age of 29. That child is only 9 and has been through so much already. My husband died when my kids were 9 and 2 without the backdrop of living their lives on Social Media. The trauma they have both experienced in the past 16 years is unimaginable. I just hope they give her the time and space to grieve in private. I don't think they will and that makes me sad.
i am genuinely anxious to see whether or not or how they end up sharing his death on their channel. they haven’t posted a video in 10 days and the last one was about everleigh starting homeschooling. the way they’ve framed her dad in their videos has not been positive but i hope with every bit of my soul that they keep her grief and his death PRIVATE for her sake. but with the things they’ve shared before, i can’t trust that they’ll have the maturity to do so
WHAT???? HE'S GONE??
@@pettybee3860 yes. I think the manner of death is unknown at this stage.
@@jayde6873 I think she posted an announcement about it on her ig, I don’t follow her but people did a story about it
They haven’t and sold shoes her dad gave her as a memory thing with his handwriting on it away on one of those thrift reseller apps
as a childhood cancer survivor who lost my little sister while we went thru chemo/radiation together i genuinely cannot fathom this. the amount of survivor’s guilt i experience daily and after-effects i struggle with this makes me so angry.
As someone who got cancer at the age of 7, this genuinely made me cry.
Swoop we are THRIVING with all the docs you are working your ass off!! We appreciate you so much!
This comment deserves more likes.
Queen of docs ❤️
Everyone please spread word about Amanda Rabb's tragic death and Lima Jevremovic and SoftWhiteUnderbelly's exploitation of her.
@@Nines.z Please can I get more info abt it? Maybe link..
@@Nines.z going to look into this when I’m off work.
I work at a planned parenthood and a pregnancy crisis center opened literally across the alley making it appear they are us. Their trickery makes me so upset because we’ve gotten records for patients whose ultrasounds from the crisis center are of their bowels, not even their uterus! I don’t understand people pushing their own agenda on someone else… NOT OKAY! I work for the patient, whatever they choose and want, even if I don’t personally agree.
My ex went to a crisis pregnancy center, they gave her an ultrasound picture of the baby. The problem is, she was carrying twins, and they only saw one, even though the twins were side by side, one wasn't hiding behind the other, and we had already gotten ultrasound pictures of both of them. She was 11 weeks along at the time, so they should have seen both twin. Fortunately, she had already decided to keep them, so the center's aggressive "it's a baby, you wouldn't k*ll a baby, right?" Didn't pressure her into something she didn't want to do. Also, when they found out we were in a relationship, not friends or siblings, I got kicked out of the clinic 🙄
Crisis pregnancy centers are horrible and should not exist/need to be shut down.
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On my way to work, there's a planned parenthood on the same street my job is at. Guess what just opened down the street like two months ago and even put up a billboard on that same street about offering "solutions" 😒
@@Zaddy-Lu that just sounds completely awful across the board. At the same time, sounds about right for that kinda place. I hope your ex and her kids are doing good tho, and same with you
@@alim.9801 The twins will be turning 16 next month and are healthy & happy, thank you so much for your well wishes 😊 My ex is doing fine as well, we stayed friends & co-parent, um, adequately 🙂
I cried as a 16 year old at the thought that we would have to get rid of our dog (he was having issues with my baby sister). Nearly had a full break down. I cannot imagine what she was feeling in that moment. That was awful for her mother to do.
I was turned into a co-parent when I was 8. I was "homeschooled" and since the only job a woman can have (according to my parents & the religious community I lived in) is to be a mother & housewife, that is what I did. Raise my younger siblings, do all the cooking & housework, and wait on my mom who was "on bed rest" (due to chronic fatigue syndrome) starting when I was 10. Yet, even though she "couldn't" take care of herself, my parents kept having kids because "god decides" how many children people should have. I moved 2,000 miles away as soon as I could. That is the only reason I take issue with people having a ton of kids, the older children end up having to parent their younger siblings. I was unlucky that the next girl born after me was born when I was 13 (I was the first daughter), so all the child/house care was on my shoulders because "men are providers" so my brothers needed an education, whereas I only needed to know enough to read recipes & learn how to double, triple, or quadruple said recipes, and be able to read books to my younger siblings.
This sounds like the many Quiverfull stories I've heard and it's just so heartbreaking and infuriating what they do to women and children! I don't think many people realize how many kids are in these cults because they focus so much on having so many children. I feel like we are starting to see a wave of kids escaping these abusive cults and speaking out as adults, sadly too late to do much for the thousands of kids raised this way. Hopefully some kids can be saved now but I doubt it. Police and CPS are often powerless to do anything without clear evidence of abuse.
I remember my dad used to “jokingly” ,out of frustration, tell me he was going to get rid of my childhood cat because she threw up a lot due to being a chronically ill cat and I would burst into tears every single time. He also took me to this building that he claimed was an orphanage after I had told my mom I didn’t love her (i was 5-6 years old at the time) and he told me if I didn’t take it back by the time some lady in the parking lot reached our car he was going to give me to a new family. Shit still fucks with me even though I later discovered it was just an insurance building. I’m also shocked the cole and sav say all of these things and think they’re all valid?? Like how do they hear themselves say these things and not think it sounds awful??
JEE-ZUS! I'm so sorry you had to deal with that hell. He sounds like the type who won't understand why he's in the bad nursing home that you'll never visit.
mine used to do that shit to me all the time too. now i have DID and severe cPTSD. wonder why 🤷
When I was little people would come up to my mom and tell her how cute my brother and I were, her response was to laugh (I think) and then say something like do you want them or do you want to buy them? And apparently (according to my mom) after one of these responses I asked her why she kept trying to give us away. She said she never said it again after that and felt horrible.
It sucks when your parents say things thinking they’re joking but the “joke” gets lost on the little person.
@@smashli8160 oh shoot, I hope my cats can't understand what I say to people, or I'm in BIG trouble 😂 (for the record, I love them with all my heart lol)
Narcissism is one hell of a disease. I'm so sorry you went through that. God still loves you! I don't know if that means anything to you but I felt like that needed to be said to you.
Forcing the elder sibling to become a third parent never ends well. Most of the times the siblings end up resenting each other. Idk why anyone thinks it won't mess up a child to take care of another child.
I don't resent my siblings. I resent my mother. Some of it I let go of because she was dealing with post partum depression and did what kept us the safest by locking herself in her bedroom. And my stepfather thought it was the best time to enlist in the military. My brothers and I have pretty good relationships. But some of what happened I can't forgive when it comes to my mother 🤷♀️
4 blonde haired blue eyed white biological children born to upper class parents. 😢I’m glad her CHOICE was easy for her. There’s so much nuance to this debate. It’s definitely not such a simple subject for family vloggers to just decide how they FEEL is the only and final answer for everyone!! I agree with you 100%. It is sneaky and putting info out there that could be medically dangerous for someone who follows this family and makes decisions based on what they push as fact. 😢😢😢
Not me as an Australian hearing her repeatedly say “abo” and being shocked, not realising she’s just abbreviating abortion so she doesn’t get restricted 💀
The parentification of children thing really hit me as a teacher when I taught a child from a traveller community. She was expected, at 13, to go home from school and solo look after her autistic five year old sister and wasn't bothered about what she got to take at GCSE because 'she would leave school at 16 and just become a cleaner for her family until someone married her' anyway. And there was nothing we could do because it was all legal and part of the culture. Like, she was cared for and healthy, but she was not happy. She'll be coming up 20 now and I hope to heck she at least ended up married to someone who would treat her right because she absolutely will not have left and it breaks my heart x
The traveller community is disgusting honestly. Every girl at 16 HAS to drop out of school and then spend all day every day cleaning the house top to bottom. They will do this every day until they find a man( that the parents approve of) to marry her. Also a lot of them end up marrying their relatives( mostly cousins). It’s just sick and sets them up for failure. Also they can’t divorce either, not even for extremes like if their husbands abuse them.
I cannot imagine legitimately thinking my child had a potentially terminal illness and not taking her to the doctor bc I don’t wanna deal with it. Like if she HAD had cancer, the longer you wait the worse it could be. It just blows my mind.
Thank you for bringing awareness to so many important topics. I am over 40 years old and still dealing with the aftermath of emotional parentification. For one, it took me a very long time to even know that was what was wrong and it could take a while to recover, but it is possible. I am already doing better with therapy and support groups.
Thank you for your honesty and compassion. Keep up the good work.
Thank you for being vulnerable, and for saying what you said about struggling to feel like your body is yours. It was hard for me, too, to work through what it's like when your own body is a crime scene. And even though it's been some time, and I've been an adult now for some time, it's not like the damage just goes away. I cried when you opened up because sometimes I just need to hear the "what happened to me/you/us was bullshit and you are worthy of support and grace" piece. Thanks for taking the time to define pro love.
TW: child S.A., child pregnancy, abortion.
I just wanted to add this story happening recently here in Brazil, where, keep in mind, abortions are only legal in a handful of cases, for example in cases of “grape”, in cases when the pregnant person’s life is at risk, but most of the time…the decision comes down to the judge ruling the case 🤡
Last year, if I’m not mistaken, a 10yo girl was the victim of “grape” 🙄, by a cousin, she ends up pregnant. And by law, this didn’t really need to go to trial, but it did because Brazil is still a very christian and evangelical country, so the girl’s right to an abortion was called in to question, but after a months long battle in court, she got the procedure.
Evangelical organizations, churches, religious celebrities, and the whole lot, decided to attack the girl and her family, with doxxing, death threats, etc.
Cut to the last two months, the specific family is in the news again. The girl, now 11yo, is pregnant again, after being assaulted by an uncle. On side of the country, the logical side, is questioning WHY IN TARNATION WASN’T THE CHILD TAKEN FROM THAT FAMILY??? They’re clearly not protecting the poor girl.
The other side, the rotten…are religious people saying she’s to blame, that she’s probably promiscuous 🤡 yeah my dude, I think I’ll just peel my skin off after that one…
The full story is way way WAY worse than this, but I think it would be too heavy to put here in the comments, sorry if I ruined any of y’alls day 🫠
Jesus... Did the poor girl get a second ab*rtion? Please tell me she did :(
Revoltante nem começa a descrever esse caso, a irresponsabilidade que tiveram com essa menina e os comentários que apareciam sobre o que era noticiado, condenando a coitada quando ela é a VÍTIMA, só porque as pessoas queriam preservar a vida do feto, engraçado que ninguém se ofereceu para cuidar do bebê ou ajudar a menina de alguma maneira depois que nascesse.
Brazil needs so much to change there…. It’s so fucked. USA is pretty fucked too though now I’m regards to abortion. We are going backwards in evolution when every other species is going forwards. Wtf
That’s horrifying for that poor child. Because, that’s what she is, a child. What reasonable, rational, critically thinking human being would not see the where the problem lyes here. That girl was failed by “the system” and her own family. Again and again and then by her community. Brand her with a “Scarlett Letter”. It really sounds like something that would happen here where I live in the Southeastern, United States.
I hope the young woman finds herself in a safe place. She’s not the problem,the family are.
as a dancer when she brought up pointe shoes i wasn’t expecting her to pull out yagp and orthopedics and it made me so happy bc i feel so bad for kids on pointe too early it can seriously damage them and they normally burnout
I did pointe far too young - my ballet teacher thought I was ready and obviously as a little girl obsessed with ballerinas, I wanted to be just like my idols. so of course I jumped at the chance. I suspect that doing pointe so young contributed to me breaking both ankles when I got into my teen years and I have slightly deformed feet and daily pain in my ankles and toes to this day. the laws are there for a reason - they were written off the back of little kids' pain.
Doesn't seem like it's good for anybody tbh, but I'm hardly an expert.
@@gokuxsephiroth4505 I did ballet casually from 4 to 30 and went en pointe when I was 13. My ballet teacher really emphasized why it was important to wait until you were strong enough to go en pointe and her explanation made the wait so much easier to deal with.
It's not really that bad for you if you have worked to develop your muscles and know the correct techniques. I'm now a middle school art teacher and I have to tell my students to not try to stand on their toes (on the tips, not demi-pointe) somewhat frequently because they can easily hurt themselves, whereas I can safely do the same thing in regular shoes without the same concerns because my feet are still really strong, even after years of not dancing en point.
SAME! I hate seeing really young dancers en pointe because I know what damage is being done. My dance teacher wouldn't let anyone under the age of 12 go en pointe, except one extremely strong and dedicated dancer, who she let go en pointe when she was 11.5 years old. She made her go through our school's "summer toe shoe camp" program 2 summers in a row to build up her strength before she actually went en pointe. She always explained exactly why she wouldn't let anyone go en pointe younger and I really appreciated that explanation.
I’ve listened to several of your docs. I’ve also listened to another YTuber cover this family’s pro-life doc; but I think this specific video is your best.
I’ve been in this situation & made the hardest choice that I ever had to make, I was more anxious/sick/terrified/uncertain/etc. than I’ve ever been before when I made the choice.
Your supportive words, especially of “space & grace” are so powerful, especially on this topic. You, as a survivor, are making more of an impact than you’ll ever know. The world needs more influencers like you, inclusive, loving, respectful, and the thing I love most about you is how you encourage us survivors that it wasn’t our fault & we didn’t do anything wrong.
Your commentary is everything. I saw a short clip of this family before and quickly moved along because of how uncomfortable religious and child exploitation makes me. Those poor children.
I'm convinced that in the future there will be several docs about the grown up children from family vlog channels talking about how this impacted or even ruined their lives.
I had an ectopic pregnancy and the doctors told me to wait it out, "just in case" even though I knew something was wrong. In the end my tube burst and thankfully had life saving surgery in time. I live in Canada and my heart breaks for those who have to deal with these new laws 💔
I had a really far gone ectopic pregnancy I was over 4 months but I was pregnant in 2 different places so I was getting all the morning sickness and stomach growing but I was also getting pain.
I went to the doctors and they said you seem fine but we will send you to the hospital just incase.
I went to the hospital she felt my cervix and she said it had thickened which is a good sign but to come back on the Friday for a scan.
I went back on the Friday and this is when I found out.
I was on the operating table luckily when my left tube burst.
Most physically traumatic thing I've ever been through as I've always wanted children and don't think I can now.
Did the doctors know yours was ectopic but told you to wait it out?
Wait it out for what?
When they did my scan and found out it was ectopic they wouldn't even let me walk to the ward even though I wanted to, I remember going to the cafe the night before my operation and they sent security out looking for me.
I didn't realise how dangerous an ectopic pregnancy was until it was explained to me then.
@@camvin575 omg that's awful! I am so sorry you went through that!! They told me they couldn't be sure it was ectopic even though I had symptoms, I think they were thinking either my levels would start to rise again or I would miscarry. They told me they couldn't see anything in ultrasounds so they kept sending me home.
@@bsbalways47ultrasounds can be so inadequate - but cheap. Both your stories are heartbreaking 💔
Swoop I just love you. I grew up in the same type of ridiculous religious thinking like “this happened because of this reason to teach this lesson” and that thinking screwed me up so much, to the point I finally left the church totally. I cannot handle being around people who literally think another kid would die so god could teach someone ELSE a lesson?! That makes ZERO sense but there are millions who think and teach others to think this way. I love your approach, your intelligence, your grace and kindness. We are so lucky to have you on CZcams!!!
the first kids coming from family channels are now coming out with their statements (those born into it) and it's haunting to hear their tells, as they are so scared they need to be anonymous (and well deserved privacy) but feel it has to be talked about, as it does damage them in a way
I have also been reading/ hearing their stories & it’s truly heartbreaking 💔 I really never got into watching family vloggers as the few that passed through my feed seemed so fake (& boring).
Yes, I agree that within the next 10 years or so so many others will be coming out about their ‘life’.
@@jayannakelley9051 same I’ve somehow missed family channels that didn’t put their kids as highest priority and etc., so hopefully with rubys case, it’ll keep the talk going and give the kids some support
@@meimei - Oh my definitely! I couldn’t imagine raising my kids thinking of grabbing a camera first.
Goodness, snapping a couple ‘embarrassing’ pics I keep out of the family album. (Before smart phones came along-lol). I even went back & deleted most fcbk photos also. Then a couple years ago just deleted it altogether.
I’m glad you replied as I didn’t think about your original comment from 6 mos ago! 🤦♀️
Have a wonderful evening 🌹
@@jayannakelley9051 thank you and you too 💖
My mom thought I had cancer as a kid. I was constantly throwing up and having really bad migraines, and my aunt lost her son (my cousin) to cancer so obviously that’s where my moms first thoughts went. I still remember the tests I went through, and I still remember getting the result that it was just chronic migraines. But I didn’t figure out until years later that my mom thought I had cancer because she was decent enough to hide the fact that she thought that from me because *I was a kid*. She knew it would do me no good to think that I might have a life threatening disease and when I figured it out she said “well what was I supposed to think! You were spewing like a hydrant!” And we got to share a laugh about it, because I was old enough to understand that her cancer scare was just that, a scare.
I can’t even begin to imagine if my mom did something like this to me lol
Migraines are the pits. Did you grow out of them?
I went through something similar, only as things evolved they got more worried about IBD or uterine cancer or something similar. I missed a semester of middle school due to constant pelvic pain, nausea, vomiting, etc. They sent me for a Transvaginal ultrasound (at 13) and I remember sobbing through it and begging them to stop. Exploratory surgery turned up Endometriosis all over my pelvic cavity.
But I remember how scared my mom was and she was trying literally everything she could find. The caster oil packs memory is still a bit of favorite that we're able to laugh about now.
I have a very painful physical illness and the pain i have felt since birth sometimes just kills me. Or at least sometimes even make me WISH it did. But I've never had headaches or migraines. My little cousin started getting them around puberty and to this day still gets them. I wrongly thought that my pain crisis helped me understand how she felt but dear God .... when I got a few a couple months ago and felt it ... holy shit , did I underestimate how that felt. I have a pretty good pain tolerance but feeling that migraine even ONCE was definitely right up there with my recurring crisis. I know you have to be suffering and I hope you one day don't have to endure them anymore. I can't imagine having to deal with that more than even ONCE a year. You're a strong soul. 💙
Your mother sounds like a very sensible and loving parent.
Migraines are vile, I've suffered cluster migraines for years sometimes they can last for 3 days. Nothing particularly works even the very strong painkillers I take only take the edge off them. I usually take 2 of my pills and collapse in my almost black bedroom and stay put until it all just goes away.
Oh my gosh same! My mom thought I had lymphnode cancer bc her grandpa died from that and my lymphnodes were always sooo swollen and thick. So one day I got a full body mri and brain scan, I had to lay In the machine for 5 hours, couldn't eat 12 hrs before ... and I was terrified, I knew exactly what cancer was since I had seen my grandma die from it when I was 6!!! Thankfully I was completely fine but still that was probably one of the most terrifying days of my life!
THREE WEEKS WITHOUT SEEKING MEDICAL ADVICE?? No parent does that ever. This makes my blood boil, thank you for highlighting them.
Thank you for sharing your story along with the video, as someone who went through similar trauma while living in a country with no choice I really felt your "what if"
All the love from this new subscriber! May you always be strong enough to deal with that pain❤
I used to have a fascination with family blog channels when I was younger. I finally realize now that I am older I only had the fascination with them because to a young teen, or even adults, who grew up or are growing up in a dysfunctional family, only were/ are being raised by one parental figure, or have some sort of trauma(s) with their family tend to be drawn to them with the sight that seems to be "picture perfect" in the eyes of the media and public. I have seen things like this happen with many of the channels i used to watch younger fall apart with these allegations, like the Labrants, Colleen, and so many more I can't even remember the names of. as an inference i would never, ever put my kids on the internet until they were old enough to have the conscious decision that they would want to be on it, and even then it would be iffy ash! I have seen the psychological effects it has had on so many kids that were growing up on the same time as me, but were completely messed up by the exploitation of them on the media without their permission. My mother tried with me, but failed because unfortunately, i had to grow up fast, and saw things like this to come, and made her delete the bad image she had tried to create of me off the internet. Then only later to suffer having her try it again when she found out that I had started making a following for myself to start my career in art. all this to say, the want for family blogs may never die, because for the creators it is a form of escapisim to seem as though they live in the perfect paridise, nd for the watchers, to see and feel the warmth of it
Hearing Cole talk about how he thought his daughter had cancer and capitalising off of that reminds me of my own father. He told people I was on my deathbed when I had a bad cold, not once checking to see if I'm actually okay because it was "too much" for him to bear. He loves the pity and how that brings the attention to him.
Watch the full video series, it’s about yes his daughter had a scare but it was to put awareness to other children who actually have cancer. They then visited two children with cancer.
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Hey Swoop,
Just wanted to let you know that the word “abo” (pronounced abbo) is actually a derogatory racist term for the native Aboriginal people of Australia. I’m assuming you didn’t know because most Americans probably don’t. But just wanted to give you a heads up. Loved the video as usual. ❤
I was looking for this. I'm not even Australian and it's jarring every time.
was just thinking this. important info 🖤
Jarring every single time…
I’m so glad you said something, and Swoop saw it. I’m American also, and had no idea. Thank you for educating with compassion!
Thank you for politely correcting her. I’m an American and I had no idea either!
My sister almost died of an ectopic pregnancy. It went undiagnosed (they thought she just had a severe flu). Her fallopian tube burst while she was sleeping, & her husband found her not breathing. She was rushed to the hospital for emergency surgery.
After 4 blood transfusions & 11 days in the ICU, she recovered, with a 50% less chance of getting pregnant again.
An ectopic pregnancy is 100% not viable & extremely dangerous for the woman.
When i was younger I loved family channels because having a family was the only thing I ever wanted. I grew up watching a lot of family channels until I got older and realized how obscure they are. I genuinely didn’t realize how weird it was back then, but than again I was also a child
Hey, this might not be big thing, but I just want to say thank you for donating to St. Jude. It always makes me happy to see people I enjoy watching/listening to donate to a place that had a huge hand in saving my life. You’re awesome 💙
I may not know you, but I'm very grateful you're still alive
@@ashleypetrini4627 Holy cow, thank you so much. That’s so very sweet of you 🥹
Im happy to see you still here ❤️👭
A perfect example is Marlena owner of Makeup Geek, she posted a video how she was unable to seek the medical care needed because in her very conservative state it was considered an abortion. This was a mother who desperately wanted to keep her baby but it was putting her life in severe danger. She was getting to the point where she was going to need to travel outside of the state of Texas to receive the medical care that she desperately needed
Swoop. You're an amazing person. Your messages about abuse and your passion in delivering them are so touching, so imoactful. You're a hell of an advocate and I'm so happy I've found your channel.😊
As a daughter who’s family member DID have Breast Cancer, this makes me BEYOND sick… I would never even wish on my enemies that they go through what my family went through… Just makes me so infuriated! I feel for their kids 😭
Also I’m in love with your hoodie swoop! Id love to purchase but obviously a year on watching, it’s sold out 😢 but love your content! Keep it up Swoop! ❤
Okay...that hit hard bawling 😭
I chose to have an abortion a few years back after a highly abusive relationship and have never looked back or regretted mu choice to protect myself and unborn child. I have a hanger tattoo on my wrist and wear it proudly to symbolize the right I had that many dont. I trived because of my choice! I firmly believe that.
But man....no one has never genuinely and wholeheartedly stated that I made the right choice. I needed to hear that. Unexpected, but so needed ❤
Your body, your choice. PERIOD. You made the right choice for yourself, and absolutely nobody gets to tell you otherwise💙💙💙
You did ❤️ your body your choice girlie
I also had an abortion at 18. Had I had the child I wouldn't have been able to care for it and I wouldn't have been able to finish school. I'd be a single mother living in poverty with a 15 year old that resents me right now, instead of in financial security, happily married with a 2 year old and a infant. You did the right thing. Sometimes the most motherly thing you can do for a potential child is choose to not let it escalate into a full blown child. And wait to have a child until you choose like I did...if ever.
The cancer video is driving me more crazy as I realize how they COULDVE made it about themselves without being total douchebags. Health anxiety is real and sounds like what Cole was dealing with. Like that could also have been a huge, relatable, clickbait video too, and raised awareness about childhood cancer. They could even have titled it "Terrified our daughter has cancer" and if they immediately said she doesn't, it would've been a bit skeevy, but on the normal level. Damn I'm getting a bit fired up about this.
Sending you so many positive vibes Swoop. I love your content, university, and persona!
Thanks so much Swoop for your comment in the pinned post about the slur you accidentally used. I was horrified when I heard it and my heart sunk for you knowing you would never knowingly use such a word.
SWOOP! I just have to say, a donation to St. Jude’s had me sobbing. 😭 my cousin was diagnosed with DIPG and stayed there. It is a BEAUTIFUL hospital full of the worlds brightest and special souls. Thank you so so much for donating. I lost her in 2009 at only 13 but I will forever and always donate to St. Jude’s whenever I can. Thank you. ♥️♥️♥️
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I despise family channels. I’m grateful to be 47 and someone who grew up without social media. I would’ve been mortified if my childhood was on the internet for the entire world to see. These kids seem to be exploited to make money for the parents. It’s disgusting.
I'm an elder Millennial and SAME. I was cute enough (lol) and my mother was narcissistic enough to have been all about social media.
Right? The baby pics were bad enough.
I think in the future we will be seeing a lot of lawsuits from these kids towards their exploitative parents and the platforms that allowed this. I hope so.
Once again, brilliant doc, SWOOP! So glad someone is speaking out against this problematic family
Thank you so much for your videos. It is obvious how much research you put in every topic. Your storytelling is amazing! I wished every important theme would be talked about so reflected.
SWOOP YOU NEED TO KNOW THIS.. “what you changed the word to”… I cannot even type it, because is an extremely derogatory, racist word used here, in Australia, when bigots refer to our indigenous Australian people😬.
I would call it an A-B. Or something.
Every time you said what you did it was like a stab in my soul.
LOVE YOU GIRL. I fully understand that you would NEVER willingly harm anyone.. ❤
Thank you for bringing this to Swoop's attention. 💛🖤❤️
Swoop would never use that term knowingly. Swoop, you are too deadly💜🕊
@@sheiladuca6473 💛🖤♥️ xxx
Yeah I cringed every time she said it, arghhh
Same, at first I thought she was saying 'aba' but then I realised what she was saying 😬
I went to one of those crisis type pregnancy center… I called up specifically asking if they provide abortions, and I was told they could provide an ultrasound and had many options available. They never said no. I went there, I believe it was called “choices” maybe, I swear my brain blocked out some of that day for trauma reasons… it was a small house converted into a small “doctors” office… I went in, I was so scared and nervous, and they took me into a room and gave me the ultrasound. She did NOT turn the monitor away from me, despite me being clear what I was there for, and she even made it so I could HEAR the heartbeat, and commented it was a “strong heartbeat”.
I knew then it wasn’t what I thought it was.
They then took me to a back room designed to look like a living room on the back porch area, and said before I “made a decision” they had a video explaining the risks of my decision they “needed” me to watch.
They turned it on, and shut the door, so the one way out I had was now no longer there.
I felt trapped, and the video was all women who had abortions crying about how much they regretted it, or that they now couldn’t have kids bc of scarring from their abortion, or they had kids and always wondered what their “other” child would have been like… it was so sad… they then had women who gave their kids up for adoption commenting on how they loved their decision- I am adopted and from my own emotional experience with it, it wasn’t ever an option for me- I have awesome adoptive parents, they are my only parents, but there are emotional things I went through and identify issues of who I really was as I got older that I wouldn’t wish on anyone- but they did anything they could to try to make me not have an abortion.
They also had moms who had their babies in the video, but they even had that in a negative light, they talked about the struggles of single parenting, and didn’t say much positive… so really they were pushing for adoption.
After the video, they came in and asked me what I was feeling, which was so messed up, and I just wanted to leave so I played the game. They handed me brochures to catholic charities and said when I had made my decision about my child, if I was considering adoption I could contact their center, or Catholic charities, and they could provide “resources “.
I have an extremely rare blood type, RH-AB-, so I’m automatically a high risk pregnancy, and bc of that and how far along I was, I almost missed the window for the RoGam shot I needed to keep me and my child safe, I was losing time for the abortion. They wasted two weeks when I thought I had scheduled a procedure, and made me feel like I was doing something absolutely horrible if I decided to have an abortion. I ended up having two children, later in life, my son and daughter who are my whole world, and that video and experience still haunts me. I still sometimes look at my babies and wonder “what if” and it’s all bc of that day, and those people. They showed zero respect for my personal choice, refused to acknowledge that I was capable of doing my own research, which I did, and how hard it was to decide what I had decided. It’s not something I took lightly, and something I wish so much I didn’t need to decide. I know I did what I needed to do, but people like this family are causing SO much more harm then good. It’s traumatic enough to have to come to terms with that being the only realistic choice you had… people like this just cause so so much more pain and sadness that truly lasts forever. It’s been 18 years since that day, and I won’t ever forget it… it feels like yesterday, the fear and guilt and pain and overwhelming confusion and second guessing myself, I left their and cried the whole 45 minutes home, I felt so so alone and lost. They didn’t help me, they hurt me so much, and that experience is something I wouldn’t wish on anyone…
Just to be clear- they did NOT provide abortion services, even though to this day if you Google “abortion” they still are the first place that comes up. They target women in fragile positions to push their agenda, and that’s sick.
Thank you for sharing your story, that's so fucking awful and manipulative of them. Im so sorry you had to go through that🥺 I wish you all the love and healing🫶
What they did is unforgivable, it should always be your body your choice. They had no right to trick people in that way and try to coerce them into something they didn’t want. I wish upon them a special place in wherever we go after death that brings pain. But for you, I wish healing, peace of mind, and happiness. Kids are a blessing, but it should be on your terms, no one else’s. ❤
At first I heard the intro music & i thought WTH??!! Now I'm 55 & singing right along w you. Im now absolutely loving your channel! KEEP IT UP!!!
When swift transparently talks about her trauma and how she respects everyone personal choices n starts tearing up i cant help but start to water up too 😢
Hearing the tears in your voice as you tell us our bodies are our bodies and we must make the choices that are best for us breaks my heart for you. I hope you have found peace after the terrible events you went through, in any way you can. Thank you for what you do, your videos are wonderful.
I was tricked by a so-called “ Pregnancy crisis “ Center at one of the most difficult times of my life I will never forget how they bullied me and would not even let me leave. They lied to me they misled me .I was a naïve young woman in an extremely abusive relationship trying to make one of the hardest decisions of my life. These centers should be illegal
Thank you so Much for covering this. It actually made me cry . What you did was Show “ pro Love “ that is what we need now more than ever
I've been to a crisis center it was religious based and was told it was not an abo clinic. They helped women with supplies and resources. They did influence me and i change my mind but they never tried to guilt me. They just got me think about the reality of the situation and the future. If they are posing as something they are not it's fcked up but if they are just there to listen and give out diapers and formula then Its not a bad thing.
❤❤❤ thank you for donating , and actually doing something. And it was so quick I had to rewind it to hear what you said.
very late to this situation, and I've never heard of this family before, but as a child cancer survivor their video about the topic of cancer makes my blood boil. asking my family, they thought my illness was a curse. there's so much wrong with these people, oh my god.
I used to watch family channels. I was around 13, and my family was in shambles. Death, absence, and burden was so common in my life I was debating living the next day. Family vlogs were a way for me to project. It would feel like my life was normal for even a couple minutes. I feel so upset that the children in those vlogs lacked that relief. I wish nothing but the best for the kids involved.
That makes sense. I still watch Disney channel sitcoms for similar reasons even though I am an adult now.
Full House did that for me. That family isn't perfect, but they're wholesome and loving. Everything my family wasn't.
Love, Love Love your swoop intro everytime. I Feil it helps take the edge of some of the terrable things some of the people do in your story lines. Well done and thank you for all the hard work you do researching you telling us all. The ou always make it interesting to watch and keep me glued to the spot while I watch. I enjoy each and every story line. I made the best decision when I became a subscriber a couple of nights ago. Look forward to watching you more. Well done on job well done
You are incredible. So well-spoken. You are speaking with only love and the continual goal of arming others with the knowledge they need to make informed opinions on topics. You deserve the world, Swoop!! 💕
As a former ballerina of 14 years I also got my points at 9 along with many other girls and I knew that a lot of them (including me) have permanently damaged our feet. A few of my friends had to have surgery in their teens. At our studio it was normal but it was very old school. Please don’t does this to your children.
**PLEASE HELP GET THIS SEEN**
I love these documentaries and always appreciate the hard work put in to educating people like myself about minorities and how to stand with them. I have learnt so much and am so grateful!
I imagine Swoop would appreciate knowing that the word being used in place of "ab*rtion" is an extremely offensive slur used against the First Nations People of Australia. I understand that it's being used in a totally different context here but the word itself can be triggering.
Maybe in the future ab*rtions could be referred to as A's!
Again I love your content and thank you so much for all your hard work. 💗
I came to comment this myself. I hope this gets seen.
Commenting to help :)
Thanks for saying this, I’m Australian & this was my immediate thought too.
@@parrotperson It seems like quite few people are mentioning it which is great!
@@BJM1134 Thank you so much x
Never me and my parents would fight. I don’t watch channels because it used to look like the perfect family to me and as I got older, I realized it is not thank you for making all of these videos. I just found you through a video. You posted two weeks ago from other drama happening and now I’m down the rabbit hole of watching all of your videos back to back to back.
I am someone who genuinely had a cancer scare. It ended up being a benign tumor in the neck of my femur, which was surgically removed. But I was 16 and was terrified. I was a competitive dancer (which is kind of ironic with the pointe shoes part, I have a lot of feelings about that) and had to completely stop. I’ve never felt more terrified. I can’t imagine thinking your child has cancer and not immediately taking them to a doctor… my parents were absolutely frantic. Waiting for the results was so anxiety inducing, while also taking away one of my favorite parts of my life. It’s so disgusting to me that someone could clickbait that genuine fear and panic, and then bring on for a marginal amount of time people who got to the real fear of cancer in their child. My heart hurts for all those families, especially the family who lost their child- I can’t even imagine the agony of going through everyday knowing their gone. A lot of this video hit close to home, even things I wouldn’t feel comfortable writing here. But thank you so much for covering this topic so thoughtfully and informatively.
I had an abo because I was emaciated and I physically wouldn’t have been able to carry without stressors that would have caused defects or a miscarriage. I was in an abusive relationship that I wasn’t ready to admit was abusive. I’m really glad I made the decision I made. I’m healthy and I’m in a safe space. These are the stories that people don’t think about.
❤❤❤ people are unwilling to stretch their tiny minds to understand the incredible nuance around it. They are so blind to understanding the life-threatening and life-devastating implications pregnancy can have for some. I’m glad you made it out, love.
To be fair, the vast majority of women who get abortions do so because they deem the pregnancy/child to be inconvenient to their lifestyle, not because of any medical necessity. Your situation is very much in the minority.
@@barrettorth8413 so what? Someone’s reasoning for their abortion is ✨NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS✨
@@aliioana8586 Just pointing out the flaw in her argument. Any discussion about abortion should at least be an honest one.
@@barrettorth8413 there was no flaw in her argument. She simply explained why she sought an abortion, and then said she wished more people knew about those types of situations. You decided to insert an irrelevant statement. She’s not required to list all the possible reasons when she’s simply offering HER reasoning.
The cancer thing is so infuriating. Just about every parent has had that thought pass through their brain at some point. Because it's our worst nightmare...FOR A REASON!!! They took a normal part of parenting, and pretended they can relate to those parents who actually got devastating results...the opposite of what happened to them. I watched my nephew fight cancer at 5 years old (he's good now) and just thinking your kid might have it before you see a doctor, is not even near the same level of trauma as them being diagnosed, watching them fight it, or losing them to it. They're deplorable, vile, narcissistic, self centered scum for that alone.
Exactly. I was worried my daughter had craniosynostosis because her skull plate ridges were so prominent. She even had a risk factor (mom on thyroid meds.) It turns out that some people just have prominent ridges. Her doctor put my worries to ease. I felt silly when I remembered feeling my own skull as a child. I was convinced that I fractured my face because I could easily feel where the plates came together. I didn't worry about anyone about it- that part isn't normal!
Hi Swoop. I randomly found your channel and I’m hooked.
Your videos are so incredible. So well thought out and researched and well articulated.
Also while watching ever other thought going through my brain is that “holy crap she’s flawless!”
I recently lost my home due to the wildfires in canada… and seeing people who had time to evacuate and pack NOTHING when all i had were the clothes on my back, and no time to grab anything… it honestly pisses me off
I am SO sorry, I hope you and your family are safe ❤️
@@Mjade21 thank you so much :,) weve been living in my aunt basement, and thankfully my father just got out when the flames were already in the backyard… thankfully i was able to move into dorms and im going to university now :)
When you said the abbreviation for a*ortion
, as an Australian, I was very taken aback but I understand that the algorithm doesn't give much leeway! Thank you for your work and dedication Swoop!
*for those who may not know, the abbreviation for a*ortion is also a racist, slang term for Indigenous Australians
**this is in no way a critique or anything, just putting it out there for the sake of education 🌸💕
Yeah I just commented about this too. I’m sure she wasn’t aware, most Americans probably aren’t. But yes, I was like oh no Swoop yiiiikkkkeeesss 😬! Lol she probably doesn’t know.
Yeah I heard it and was like wait what 😵 but yeah definitely something she wouldn't know as an American
American here and I can say I didn't know that at all, so it probably isn't common knowledge around here. Regardless, I'm very glad I know now & am very thankful you commented on it.
holy crap i didn’t know this… (i live in America). i know she would never say anything offensive if she knew she probably just shortened the word and came up with that i’m so sorry!
@@twocathome399 oh yeah absolutely, no malice in not knowing! Probably why the first commenter pointed it out - just for future reference 😊
Growing up,, I was always the third parent for my siblings. For me it was because my folks worked a lot but still a 10 year old looking after a 1, 6, and 8 year old isn't normal. But it also kinda sucks when the younger ones start realizing what's going on and are sort of "forced" into helping out too. Like it felt like "no, 8 year old sister, you can't worry about our income/making food/doing laundry. That's my 10 year old self's problem." If there's an option, don't treat your kids like adults, let them be kids. Otherwise you don't deserve them and are lazy.
Haven’t been watching any family channels since I was a kid/teen, but I guess I like it cuz it’s a different perspective and it’s typically light hearted and a contrast to certain other topics like horror and crime etc
This is only my third Swoop video I've watched. Swoop's rants are my new favorite thing ever!
I feel bad for Everleigh right now. Her father just passed away. He was her only chance for normalcy and now he is gone. Now she is left to the mercy of her mom and step dad who exploit her for money and views.
Omg
Not me being here already and with a full plate of food. Y'all give me a minute I need to compose myself 🤣
Thank you for making this documentary! I didn't know anything about this family so this was fascinating and infuriating.
Hi, Emi. Glad to see that you and Kitty are doing well. Just wanted to say that your photo shots on your last video were fabulous. Stay safe and thank you for all the time and effort you put into making these lovely videos!