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  • čas přidán 12. 08. 2024
  • The biggest question I've come across was
    'How did you deal with pressure to get married?'
    Hmmm let's have an honest conversation.
    Happy watching and let me know in the comment section how you dealt or deal with this question.
    💗

Komentáře • 241

  • @hallejudy
    @hallejudy Před 2 lety +86

    I make 29 in a few days. I felt that pressure and still feel. I went through bad relationships. I left the country to work and grow my career. I did cut off all my friends to find myself. Let's says I'm happy finding myself now. Ive hit a few financial goals and I'm clear about who I want to marry. I pray marriage will happen to me. If it doesn't I'm already on my path of personal fulfilment. There's someone I'm talking with and it's mature now. All I can say,find yourself.

    • @FlaviaTumusiime
      @FlaviaTumusiime  Před 2 lety +8

      Don't worry. Seek your joy and it will come

    • @aronronnieamanya9922
      @aronronnieamanya9922 Před 2 lety +2

      Live your life and pursue your career goals. Nothing should put you on Pressure

    • @evelynnandagire1735
      @evelynnandagire1735 Před 2 lety +2

      Gal, Hit those goals

    • @Flourish_today
      @Flourish_today Před 2 lety +13

      Sometimes leaving the country is one of the best decisions. Uganda does not have a lot going on. It's weddings and Kwanjulas back to back. When you leave the country you see life in a different light. There is more to marriage and having kids. There is a whole lot out there people. I commend those parents who never put their children under pressure to get married.

    • @doreeningabire1315
      @doreeningabire1315 Před 2 lety

      Sounds great ♥️

  • @yvetteebot302
    @yvetteebot302 Před 2 lety +61

    I just love you Flavia. I'm a Cameroonian and do follow you and most others Podcasts from Uganda. I want to say thank you and the rest for impacting this new generationl with wisdom and knowledge. 🙏🙏

  • @leeariyo6626
    @leeariyo6626 Před 2 lety +14

    Flavia is like a big sister
    A virtual big sister you can run to any time ❤

  • @carolinemayende7917
    @carolinemayende7917 Před 2 lety +12

    I clock 30 this August...l am.thankful I kept myself and I knew it was for the best..I have been relating..and Next year we shall be visiting..the pressure comes..but..with prayer,patience and wanting to be the best..thankfully my parents have not asked me when this when that narra...I started to feel the pressure at 28...
    And then there those friends your wasting time etc..I kept saying guys everyone has got there time and God's timing is best..
    I am glad I net someone who even flew to where I am just to ask me can we embark on this..I first kept them on Katebe....and guess what they flew second time to ask me....
    I started to study and prepare myself..thank God most of my married friends were in different country from now....
    So the pressure is there but know and understand what you want..and prepare your list...they may not have it all..but check and weigh in.and let them in from start am not here for jokes and games am here for good!..so are you in it for good too..if not..move baby gal.otherwise your going to struggle alone...
    Above all discover yourself!..

  • @ekibamargret4886
    @ekibamargret4886 Před rokem +8

    Am making 24 in 15 days...I have never been in a stable relationship. I just realised, I don't even have a passport and I have not been at serena hotel yet am stressing about being in a relationship and marriage. Thank you Flavia💟

    • @keithrobin6566
      @keithrobin6566 Před 11 měsíci

      Passport should stress you first 😂 not relationship things

  • @aronronnieamanya9922
    @aronronnieamanya9922 Před 2 lety +5

    Life is a journey and when it comes to marriage, it's not a one day event that happens out of the blue.. It's a union between two people who are ready to tolerate each other

  • @nalwaddaresty2696
    @nalwaddaresty2696 Před 2 lety +19

    I feel you Flav, the pressure is real but financial freedom fst for me

  • @maclynn3465
    @maclynn3465 Před 2 lety +7

    The pressure maybe too much and leads us into regrets with forcing relationships. I can't heal😭

  • @anitakomukama
    @anitakomukama Před rokem +3

    Thank you for this Flavia. Thank you for summing up my book “Life In the Single Lane: Finding Joy in the journey of Single-hood”…
    You spew wisdom and nuggets that will help our generation and the next ❤🎉

  • @julielukwago4355
    @julielukwago4355 Před 2 lety +7

    It hit me at the age of 28 years, dated someone for about 6 years right away from kampus and he candidly told me he wasn't ready ..it hit me ,and sttayed in several bad relationships looking for marriage ..well I didn't get it ..until I had to love myself and clearly I focused.. pressure around married friends got me thinking am not good enough...lesson in this was we have different lives...my career is on the move and will meet love along the way ...thanks Flavia ...you made sense of what's been happening ..happy child 🚸

  • @christineasaba4730
    @christineasaba4730 Před 2 lety +1

    Right on point Flavia, you are on point. Knowing who you are is the most important thing. I can't say this enough!

  • @naturindablessing5330
    @naturindablessing5330 Před 2 lety +2

    My lady ..you bright my day when ever I open up

  • @mutoni7505
    @mutoni7505 Před 2 lety +22

    Thank you for the advice Flavia, I am 23, still a virgin 🤗, I have been having a lot of pressure lately about my dating life, asking myself questions of who would date me. I clearly need to first love myself before anyone can. You are right when you say we shouldn't force our partners in marriage, I am not thinking about marriage just yet but, been somehow trying to trigger someone to date me(it ain't) working😂 clearly, he is not ready for a relationship (with me). I have realized that and now I am on a journey to self discovery 😀❤️

    • @FlaviaTumusiime
      @FlaviaTumusiime  Před 2 lety +1

      👏🏽👏🏽

    • @aronronnieamanya9922
      @aronronnieamanya9922 Před 2 lety +2

      Hold on to your values and the right person will come your way

    • @mutoni7505
      @mutoni7505 Před 2 lety

      @@aronronnieamanya9922 thank you

    • @anitanatuha8897
      @anitanatuha8897 Před 2 lety +6

      Do it when you want to not when people want you to! Also, sweety you are 23, damn I am getting married at 31. Go make money and enjoy single. I never advise any one to even marry before 30. We need to eat our money in peace first 😂😂 just do you!

    • @mutoni7505
      @mutoni7505 Před 2 lety +2

      @@anitanatuha8897 😀 this is my journey now girl 🤗... Things will happen when they happen 😂

  • @MarthaAtuheire
    @MarthaAtuheire Před 2 lety +3

    Thank you for the content Flavia. Finding oneself and knowing what one wants is important. It's the beginning of attracting better people who deserve you and who you deserve.

  • @nataliewantscookies
    @nataliewantscookies Před rokem +1

    This is so relatable, and you speak with so much humor. Thank you ❤ This has helped me so much!

  • @karigirwaines2922
    @karigirwaines2922 Před 2 lety +2

    Thank you flavia, you just spoke my mind. You’re a great inspiration to us

  • @shanitahankundamaali1065

    My bestfriend just shared this and I am so glad I listened to this now . The timing is perfect . Xx

  • @anitanatuha8897
    @anitanatuha8897 Před 2 lety +4

    This is so insightful for the single ladies. Wanted to have this conversation on my podcast but after the wedding. I still will do but let me share this with my friends. Cz this pressure can be so painful. Been there.

  • @ritakiteme1175
    @ritakiteme1175 Před 2 lety +1

    Great advice Flav 😍 And yes you are right , not all that glitters is gold ! Those that "act" calm ,turn out to be what you least expect of them...

  • @miremberenniter9401
    @miremberenniter9401 Před 2 lety +6

    One reason I love @Flavia is that she always knows how to hit the point... thanks for the content...came in just on time for me ☺️☺️

  • @Marianakazi
    @Marianakazi Před 2 lety +2

    My notification button, check. Thanks dear Flavia for the beautiful content🔥🔥🔥.

  • @claire6ify
    @claire6ify Před 2 lety +2

    No truer words have been said! Enjoy singleness to the fullest, it doesnt come back! Enjoy that season of your life! What happens most single people miss enjoying singleness while looking for/into the next season (marriage)

  • @ninsiimajosephine5881
    @ninsiimajosephine5881 Před 2 lety +9

    I ask every guy on the first date, what do u want from this relationship? His answer will determine if I.have tea or a full meal with him.

  • @faithatieno7643
    @faithatieno7643 Před 2 lety +1

    Thanks for this in for it is an eye opening, it came for me at the right time

  • @penelopeakankwasa994
    @penelopeakankwasa994 Před 2 lety +1

    You’ve spoken a very big point, knowing yourself/understanding yourself , it was until I leant that my entire life completely changed not necessarily marriage . It’s very important once you understand stand yourself, you’ll keep cup full and overflowing. Most times we blame others when we are actually the problem, once you’re whole and complete you’ll always live well with others because you know what to say and when to say what but once you’re empty and dry definitely there is nothing that comes out of empty cup.

  • @kirundazuena9219
    @kirundazuena9219 Před 2 lety +1

    Every John ain't happy with you 🥰
    But hey gal thank you so much for this vlog, you spoke to my heart. I have been living my life and so will continue.

  • @adrianatuheire4938
    @adrianatuheire4938 Před 11 měsíci

    Thank you dear Flavia, many people go through this but the fact you have clearly explained for us/them. We shall overcome. Again I thank Lord for you, I have been following you on capital fm for many years but seriously I have learnt alot from you. From gal talk I got alady and now we are married and enjoying seriously. Thank Flavia. God bless you

  • @fionaamongin9455
    @fionaamongin9455 Před 2 lety +3

    I am 28 this yes the pressure is there from family from friends but recently I made a decision to focus on me I walked away from a relationship that clearly had no future and immediately someone I dated in the past is here and his mature now coz we broke up in the past coz he was very undecided he seems serious now but I have given him conditions and we talking about officializing hopefully we do it but before this I had to do alot of self discovery and I am at a better place now

  • @norahnakawooya5400
    @norahnakawooya5400 Před 2 lety +2

    I don't regret subscribing yo vlog cause am evolving everyday learning at while trying to practice them, bravo dear ❤

  • @faithkasirye7655
    @faithkasirye7655 Před 2 lety

    Wow Flavia this is so beautiful, have always been straight forward so i don't waste my time.

  • @Buckstein11
    @Buckstein11 Před 2 lety +5

    The pressure is real, even for men...🤦

  • @bwagasamantha6561
    @bwagasamantha6561 Před 2 lety

    Thank you so much you have reminded me that I should work on my goals first

  • @maureenmagona7818
    @maureenmagona7818 Před 2 lety

    Thank you Flavia for this great advice.

  • @btwug
    @btwug Před 2 lety +2

    Enjoy while you can as a single person

  • @dinahmirembe7675
    @dinahmirembe7675 Před 2 lety +1

    I enjoyed this one... The Fake it till you make it chaps are so many....

  • @NKSamson
    @NKSamson Před 2 lety +2

    Something about you that makes life interesting whenever you speak! Love you.

  • @paskaziatumwesigye1534
    @paskaziatumwesigye1534 Před 2 lety +1

    I love this Flavia

  • @akankwatsaemilly7403
    @akankwatsaemilly7403 Před 2 lety

    Well said Flavia,thank you

  • @nansubugabridget9469
    @nansubugabridget9469 Před 2 lety

    My role model Flav😘😘, thank you for that piece of advice 🙏🙏

  • @maggieshaka
    @maggieshaka Před 2 lety +3

    I realized if you break down the whole thing that is in marriage and ask yourself how you could do about it, it will tell you if you are there or not. I recently released that I don't know the how for the parenting style I want to use and that is a clear sign that I might not be ready till I figure that out how am going to raise my kids without them going through what I went through. So am here learning how I will parent my kids.

  • @godsgloryandgracehannah2736

    Flavia..you spoke my mind.
    Wow!!!

  • @kebirungideniz6264
    @kebirungideniz6264 Před 3 měsíci

    Wow.This is amazing ❤

  • @fionaflaviak
    @fionaflaviak Před 2 lety

    This is really some good advise. Thanks Flavia

  • @nanderabarbra724
    @nanderabarbra724 Před 2 lety

    This is really nice. Thanks Flavia

  • @rhinahatukunda2209
    @rhinahatukunda2209 Před 2 lety +1

    And the elders tell you , there is never time when one is ready for marriage , oooooow when you got a mentor and big sister to guide you, hehe and above everything God being at the centre of it all,, Senchu thx for this ,, always ready for classes.

  • @mpologoma_ntale
    @mpologoma_ntale Před 2 lety +2

    Thanks Flavia .. i really needed this

  • @sonniakamukama
    @sonniakamukama Před 2 lety +1

    Thats why I love you. U have cleared it for me

  • @bossbabysyda7714
    @bossbabysyda7714 Před rokem

    Why is she talking exactly the way i was month back, thank you flavia🙏❤️

  • @tendovioletnakirijja1173
    @tendovioletnakirijja1173 Před 2 lety +1

    Live your life, Enjoy...Get that best bod,Get that job, get that career,Get that money....Daily motivation, Thank you Flavia. Turning 30 and ehhh Life is a rollercoaster from all angles

  • @julietmujumba6094
    @julietmujumba6094 Před 2 lety +2

    Have you ever thought of the worst moments in life? That's the time as a girl child.Me the best thing have always done to avoid that pressure,I keep away from all people who ask me about all that,and if you want me to hate you,ask me such things, it sounds so disgusting. why? Am only a girl child who can't look for a man to marry me,And me because of even gone through some hell staff!! Eeeh!!! Oh! Am careful my dear, it's ok to have single stress than getting married to a fake person ,katonda mwesigwa,his not a son of man to fake around with his creature.

  • @mwambashamirah6432
    @mwambashamirah6432 Před 2 lety +1

    True to live your life and know what you want at the end.

  • @buyingavickie8885
    @buyingavickie8885 Před 2 lety +1

    Thanks Flavia

  • @estheroluka8598
    @estheroluka8598 Před 2 lety

    Great topic Flavia..

  • @twebazejoseph2128
    @twebazejoseph2128 Před 2 lety +1

    I really love you Mrs Kabuura. There are many things we learn from you always 🤝🤝

  • @ilonakyeyune
    @ilonakyeyune Před 2 lety +2

    Was halfway though n was like i ned to rewatch already. Also how do we get our numbers to 100k. Flavia is doing the most👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 am just so glad i have an opportunity to listen to such minds

  • @musabyejeanne8644
    @musabyejeanne8644 Před 2 lety +2

    Well said. Your mom did a good job 👍

  • @natukundajesca7044
    @natukundajesca7044 Před 2 lety +1

    Thanks Flav

  • @ann-liznyakato8227
    @ann-liznyakato8227 Před 2 lety

    Can't wait for this one too!💃

  • @lizbirungi32
    @lizbirungi32 Před 2 lety

    Thanks a lot Flavia. Lots of love from Liz.😍😍😍😍

  • @violakalembe7795
    @violakalembe7795 Před 2 lety

    Really really love this

  • @irakizacharlotte9495
    @irakizacharlotte9495 Před 2 lety +1

    This is so interesting...senchu...my favourite....

  • @nimusiimaflavia4112
    @nimusiimaflavia4112 Před 2 lety +5

    you have invested so much in me, am so glad i can always learn from you

  • @africanmuwala
    @africanmuwala Před 2 lety

    This is a very interesting vlog to us ladies 👌👌 thanks for this topic Flavia🙏

  • @shibanakigozi4556
    @shibanakigozi4556 Před 2 lety +3

    I really love this gal, I will look for her one day just to look at her

  • @violakalembe7795
    @violakalembe7795 Před 2 lety

    I love this.
    This video is speaking to me

  • @serasara1530
    @serasara1530 Před 2 lety

    Thx darling Flavia,very educative

  • @oliviabamwenda1328
    @oliviabamwenda1328 Před 2 lety

    Waiting patiently for this one.

  • @joweriahussein7830
    @joweriahussein7830 Před 2 lety +1

    Thanks so much Mrs K❤❤❤🇴🇲

  • @faithmiracle6314
    @faithmiracle6314 Před 2 lety

    Thanks Flavia.

  • @dorcusnzayisenga1751
    @dorcusnzayisenga1751 Před rokem

    I guess you're right about enjoying my singleness...I loved it once again

  • @tikojoy7297
    @tikojoy7297 Před rokem

    I love this lady

  • @womanoffaith1806
    @womanoffaith1806 Před 2 lety

    You always speak to my life Mrs Kabuura
    God bless you 🙏

  • @nabakkajulian6470
    @nabakkajulian6470 Před 2 lety

    Thanks Flav.for this moral topic abawala twebuzabuza nyo

  • @bintokiria5338
    @bintokiria5338 Před 2 lety +1

    30 and single,,,,and loving it, though sometimes the pressure feels like am living in a wrong country .

  • @kembabazigloria1386
    @kembabazigloria1386 Před 2 lety +1

    Oh My God!!!! my dear, i thank God for you. You spoke to my heart.Telling nothing else but the truth. It's very true all the bad guys are in church. Forgive me Lord. Tbt....

    • @preciousglorious233
      @preciousglorious233 Před 2 lety

      For GOD'S love unto us is amazing, the bad boys haven't loved GOD deeper.

  • @gloriagift8517
    @gloriagift8517 Před 2 lety

    😂😂😂😂 I just love u . Here again to shake tables

  • @mulungibarbrah910
    @mulungibarbrah910 Před 2 lety +1

    Wow!
    What a message, thank you so much flavia for always giving us knowledge and real facts about Life 💯💪. How can I get this whole video like having it in my phone?

  • @user-ok1lf8hx2t
    @user-ok1lf8hx2t Před rokem

    U are absolutely right

  • @marionsenkomago8269
    @marionsenkomago8269 Před rokem

    thankyou for the wisdom!

  • @katusabebabra8932
    @katusabebabra8932 Před 2 lety

    Amazing....Madam TFlav👏👊

  • @annetmarynabukenya
    @annetmarynabukenya Před 2 lety

    It's the last look for me😂😂😂😂tell us more mommy. Thank you 😍

  • @kamwadahadrat4635
    @kamwadahadrat4635 Před 2 lety

    Beautiful topic I love the way u present these views😂😂❣️❣️❣️🥰🥰🥰

  • @daphinenamuli7566
    @daphinenamuli7566 Před 2 lety

    The home work I have to do.....eeeeeiiii Thank you for the eye opener

  • @teddynakidde4486
    @teddynakidde4486 Před rokem

    Thank you.

  • @makinghomehere1682
    @makinghomehere1682 Před 2 lety

    Brother John😂😂😂 hahaha This is another great one. Thank you Flavia

  • @dorcusnzayisenga1751
    @dorcusnzayisenga1751 Před rokem

    I must say! I have enjoyed this. Besides you look like my sis...the way you speak and your face. Oh my God

  • @ishimwedeborah3994
    @ishimwedeborah3994 Před 2 lety

    Woww Flavia, I just love you 😍

  • @scolamukisa8243
    @scolamukisa8243 Před 2 lety

    I have to comment first just to tell how your loved Flavia❤️❤️

  • @atugonzaronald1666
    @atugonzaronald1666 Před 2 lety

    Haha...I like the introduction

  • @naikazimargaretgrace8372

    Very realistic Flavia..and for the church men..olemwa

  • @assuliamassumptah5000
    @assuliamassumptah5000 Před 9 měsíci

    Thank you mummy Flavia 🙏💞for the beautiful advice to singles..iron sharpens iron,,,prob 27:17
    Let me invest when am still single wamma..
    The way how you ended the show wasso amazing 😂😂😂

  • @busingemoses2127
    @busingemoses2127 Před 2 lety

    Well said

  • @nantongoresty9766
    @nantongoresty9766 Před 2 lety

    Thank you so much Mrs. Kabuura. Me I will not mind about the pressure from people.

    • @doreenbagabo708
      @doreenbagabo708 Před 2 lety +1

      Ehhhh Ella all drinks have been poured down 😅😅

  • @annetmarynabukenya
    @annetmarynabukenya Před 2 lety

    Thank you mommy😍

  • @ninsiimasharlotte3496
    @ninsiimasharlotte3496 Před 2 lety

    The topic itself shook my table 😂

  • @angelkiyonga5777
    @angelkiyonga5777 Před 2 lety

    Tumusiime ❤️❤️❤️great advice

  • @rebeth5306
    @rebeth5306 Před 2 lety

    Flavia we didn't know about questioning on who to marry.

  • @katjenniz6891
    @katjenniz6891 Před rokem

    Lovely! Mostly I wud really figure out how to fix my finances in the due process of kwezula.... otherwise love ya flav 🥰

  • @birungichristine4022
    @birungichristine4022 Před 2 lety +2

    When realisation hits you, you wake up. We all have those frustrations but the way to handle them, thanx gal

  • @linnetmuhawe5184
    @linnetmuhawe5184 Před 11 měsíci

    feel like, liking you a thousand times 😢❤😊