Motherhood: Choosing to be a Childfree Woman in India ft. Amrita Nandy | Love Matters Podcast

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  • čas přidán 4. 01. 2024
  • Motherhood In India: Being a mother often seems to be the inevitable and most desirable role a woman can have in India. The question is never if, but when and how many children a woman will have. But why is this considered the “natural” destiny and the one and only true fulfillment of a woman’s life? How can there be a choice for - or against - motherhood? And what are the challenges for those who do not want to have children? In this episode of Love Matters host Leeza Mangaldas and writer Dr. Amrita Nandy unpack this sensitive subject; looking at how society romanticizes motherhood, the obsession with having biological children as well as finding purpose and kinship beyond being a parent. Join them in their candid and insightful conversation.
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Komentáře • 46

  • @LukasEddy
    @LukasEddy Před 5 měsíci +27

    Whether you have kids or don't, it should be a very conscious, deliberate, informed and well-planned decision, without pressure from others.

  • @Jyotsiee
    @Jyotsiee Před měsícem +5

    As a child free woman this was a wonderful thought provoking discussion. The funniest part about natalists who propagate the idea of having kids, cannot seem to behave decently towards me, a living, breathing human. How can they expect me to bring a child in the world where they will be as cruel to the child as they are to me? I’ve been subjected to generational trauma, have been shunned out of friend groups, dumped in relationships. Humans can be very cruel. People often say who will take care of you in your old age? I say to them what if your child is born disabled, what if they pass away before you do? what if they cut-off contact with you? then who is going to take care of them?

    • @Fan-zx1lz
      @Fan-zx1lz Před 6 dny

      Say The people I pay for will take care of me in my old age.

  • @6abhisekbackup9
    @6abhisekbackup9 Před 4 měsíci +11

    Glad that the childfree lifestyle is spoken of which essentially is a choice, a choice to not have kids. With the growing acceptance, I can only hope that we witness the end of prejudice/stigma in this lifetime. All we want is acceptance

  • @brave_new_india_science
    @brave_new_india_science Před 5 měsíci +9

    Everything should be done with true freewill not anything of ignorance
    ❤❤
    Great 😃

    • @VSM101
      @VSM101 Před 5 měsíci +1

      nonsence

    • @Akankhya_09
      @Akankhya_09 Před měsícem

      just because you are forced and unemployed to interfere in other's life, doesn't mean everyone else has same intention s. It's completely up to them what they want ​@@VSM101

  • @user-ti9tc9ir8i
    @user-ti9tc9ir8i Před 5 měsíci +3

    Glad that this conversation is happening. As a child whose mother passed away a few months after my birth, growing up was difficult .Supermarkets were not there to buy essentials, buying undergarments was diff, No help during childbirth, cruel nasty indifferent narcissistic husband and his elder sister and in-laws and younger brothers , .... dealing with all this plus the usual chores of motherhood+ being an academically oriented achiever whose rosy dreams were shattered, multiple artistic talents gone to waste,... NO NEED for children... After all this"When did you do anything at all for me, my family and my constant stream of friends and relatives?' by the husband is all that remains today. SACRIFICE. Where has my life gone? Young girls, don't choose motherhood/marriage - only partners on an equal footing.

    • @6abhisekbackup9
      @6abhisekbackup9 Před 4 měsíci +1

      Sending you warm hugs, and hope you meet warmer people

  • @hindi-urdushayariandghazal555
    @hindi-urdushayariandghazal555 Před 5 měsíci +3

    Very informative. Can't wait to read the book. 😊

  • @yashagar4443
    @yashagar4443 Před 3 měsíci +4

    Motherhood is not important

  • @harinikapoormusic
    @harinikapoormusic Před 5 měsíci +4

    It will take a vast heart to accept these bare truths. A panoramic and unimpeded vision of the universe, and our tiny little place in it, a vision unobstructed by inflated egos, and a vision empowered by immense love, is essential, to acknowledge these truths. Miles to go... We will all struggle to accept what they say, we will all feel the sting, because we all are actors, participants, one way or another, in this social setup they have described so well. But let us start facing it. So extremely well spoken by both speakers! Such calm, unhurried articulation! Thank you for the upload!
    Dr. Amrita Nandy's book is a must-read... It is unique, extremely well researched and well written.

    • @VSM101
      @VSM101 Před 5 měsíci +1

      nonsence this wasnt based on any love but based on biological identy and to exert and accumulate power

  • @ppurabidash8659
    @ppurabidash8659 Před 29 dny +1

    I really want to be childfree but always fear of being alone at my old age mentally. What to do ?please please guide me.

    • @Akankhya_09
      @Akankhya_09 Před 29 dny +3

      what is the guarantee that if you have children,they will take care of you? i have seen many people living all alone despite having 3 or more children and even they get abandoned at their old by their OWN CHILDREN.

    • @ppurabidash8659
      @ppurabidash8659 Před 28 dny +1

      @@Akankhya_09 yes i know but i when i need mentally support as i am staying at outside but still talk to my pare everyday.I really dont want kids but akways have fear that soneone own should with us to mentally support you.But i really really dont want kids.

    • @Akankhya_09
      @Akankhya_09 Před 28 dny +1

      @@ppurabidash8659 no body will mentality support you once you cross a certain age , even if it's your house your children and their spouses will think they are the head of the family and you are just a burden once you become physically weak , after parents only if you choose a good person to marry you , will support you mentally and emotionally and financially... now a days many are choosing to marry but never have kids , so you can choose one of them to be with you when you grow

  • @Trentz2
    @Trentz2 Před 5 měsíci +3

    Your life, your choice. My opinions are mine, just as your opinions are yours. You don’t have to agree or follow mine, so don’t expect me to agree or follow yours. All of us will get judged for something. Learn to deal with it, it’s called adulting. People have experienced much worse criticisms. Grow up.

    • @Fan-zx1lz
      @Fan-zx1lz Před 6 dny

      Stop judging and comparing situations. Don't say the Bad word called ' Grow up' you don't have any idea what situation everyone is going through

  • @nehasachin13
    @nehasachin13 Před 5 měsíci +1

    👍 Only The Truth (सत्य) is Rich and to be Considered. Rest all is the Thing. Appreciated 👏👏
    True Liberation 👍

    • @VSM101
      @VSM101 Před 5 měsíci

      just sounds like communits propaganda fuling heathenism

  • @naziahasan9833
    @naziahasan9833 Před 5 měsíci +2

    Very cogent and informative. Expresses many of those strange fears that I couldn't speak
    about in the past.
    Very helpful talk

    • @VSM101
      @VSM101 Před 5 měsíci +1

      very much propaganda

    • @sanachanna1
      @sanachanna1 Před 5 měsíci +1

      @@VSM101 How is this proaganda or nonsense as you have commented earlier?

  • @rajatsharma6256
    @rajatsharma6256 Před 5 měsíci +3

    Human beings are extremely complex. To get married, to raise a child, topics which require a deep understanding of oneself first and to that end it requires knowing one's own emotional profile. This is not what majority of society does. Raising a child brings in an altogether different experience that is unmatched and it allows the parent to grow again together with the child. For me, personally is a wonderful experience with loads of moments to cherish.

  • @Nzee2002
    @Nzee2002 Před 5 měsíci +1

    In asian households where people have helpers mothehood not very exhausted.if its romatacued to marry in wedlock ,it beneficial for woman because that man is pressurised by society to take equall responsibility of child and also of wife .
    Fatherhood is far difficult and demanding than motherhood

  • @aadityachourasia2124
    @aadityachourasia2124 Před 5 měsíci +1

    Always remember we are betting our civilization and entire humanity in long term 😢

    • @VSM101
      @VSM101 Před 5 měsíci +2

      this is all communist garbage

    • @Akankhya_09
      @Akankhya_09 Před měsícem +2

      🤣🤣🤣🤣even if no one gives birth from today onwards it will take decades to bring down population to normal range
      " betting humanity" seriously??

    • @aadityachourasia2124
      @aadityachourasia2124 Před měsícem

      @@Akankhya_09 worldwide birth rates are dropping like crazy
      Soon there would be a shortage of young people
      And civilization would ultimately decline in a diaper

  • @VSM101
    @VSM101 Před 5 měsíci +2

    23:24 yikes evil af

  • @Nzee2002
    @Nzee2002 Před 5 měsíci

    Host is very dusky but in thumbnail edited her photo to very fair skinned.woman empowerment not only to make decision of children ,but it also make woman comfortable in her looks

  • @ExZ1te
    @ExZ1te Před 5 měsíci +1

    Atleast one child should be there

    • @LukasEddy
      @LukasEddy Před 5 měsíci +17

      No. It's not your choice. Let people make their own choices.

    • @Kalinga_yodha
      @Kalinga_yodha Před 5 měsíci

      ​@@LukasEddykeep your nonsense western ideology in your backyard.

    • @suprajanarayanan8839
      @suprajanarayanan8839 Před měsícem +1

      Is there a law? If yes I would like to see it

  • @VSM101
    @VSM101 Před 5 měsíci +3

    utter nonsence

    • @sanachanna1
      @sanachanna1 Před 5 měsíci +10

      Why? What is your reasoning if you have any.

    • @serenawill128
      @serenawill128 Před 5 měsíci +13

      Ofcourse a man would say that 😂. Predictable

    • @Kalinga_yodha
      @Kalinga_yodha Před 5 měsíci

      Exactly many nations are falling apart because of low birth rates including china . Look how western society has lost family values children with single dad or mom and government importing people from other countries but still can't completely assimilate and many more problems these narrative of remaining child less should be avoided rather the government can support the new parents in various ways.

    • @yashagar4443
      @yashagar4443 Před 3 měsíci +2

      ​@@serenawill128 Well yeah....but I am on the women's side here and there is nothing heroic about it

    • @nerdyhari3471
      @nerdyhari3471 Před měsícem +2

      @@yashagar4443 how is it not ? It takes courage to be a childfree woman in this society