I'm A Daddy Now (w/ Sarah Bonsignore) | Perfect Person Ep. 29
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- čas přidán 24. 01. 2023
- The little guy is here, and we are so unbelievably psyched/tired. Me and Sarah take calls from Sexy Lovers and intense bartenders.
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"He's really cute, and I think he's gonna be a really cool guy, but right now he's like a goblin. A goblin that leaches you dry." --the most accurate description of newborn parenting I've heard in a while
You guys are doing great, the anxiety and sleep deprivation is so real, but it just keeps getting better, hang in there!
Right?! I had to laugh so hard at that!
Parenting is hard...especially the first year! I have so much more respect now for other parents since I'm a mother myself. And birth is traumatizing (eventhough I had a best case scenario birth).
Congrats to Sarah and Miles!
The way you were SO supportive the second your wife said she didn’t know how long she’d breastfeed. Ladies don’t settle for anything other than this!! Love you both 🥹🥹
Truly fantastic he didn’t even hesitate half of a second before supporting her. Great job,Miles. This is how you treat the woman that sacrificed so much for your goblin. The Miles Nation is so proud. We stan.
Oh god, I'd think such a response would be the norm? The thought that there are partners who aren't this kind of supportive is a troubling one.
@@JoshMarshain You’d think huh. My mom told me when she was first trying to breastfeed me in the hospital, I kept biting when I was trying to latch and it hurt too bad. So they had to use formula instead. My dad kept giving her a hard time about it. Infuriates me to think about.
@@JoshMarshain It's definitely not. Formula costs a fortune so some people really have some ideas. That's just costs, there's also myths and societal beliefs.
Anybody else think Julian's nickname will continue to be "Goblin" well into his childhood? So cute.
The crack in Sarah's voice when she said "it was very scary" broke my heart. I'm so thankful you two have each other, it's impossible not to idealize y'all. Can't wait for baby Juju to be giving perfect advice next week
I immediately started tearing up when her voice cracked. my heart.
That really got me 😢
For the first caller: "we're reading the same book, you're just a chapter ahead" is a useful quote.
Ooh! I like that!
I don’t know if y’all need to hear this, but I know I did: it’s okay to grieve your birth experience even if everything turned out okay. It’s so hard to have things not go how you imagined for so many months of pregnancy. Sending love to you as you continue to process ❤
It's a truly traumatic event that impacts your body FOR LIFE. It's okay to acknowledge how huge it is and how it can feel so hard.
Absolutely true. Mine traumatized me so bad im never having another child ever again. I didn't realize I had to grieve the birth.
So true! I don't have kids, but a couple of people around me had traumatizing labor experiences, and it can affect you for years after. Birth related PTSD is very real, and something that may not be noticed, because it doesn't manifest in the same way as other types of PTSD may. So although they sound like they're doing great and are dealing with it very well, I hope they'll really take the time to process all of it, even if that time is a year into the future. Someone I know had a traumatic labor experience with her first child, but it wasn't until her second child was born that she realized how much impact that experience had had, and the first child was almost three years old when she got therapy to process that child's birth.
Also, birth trauma is very very real. If the mental/emotional weight of the experience doesn't shift as the baby blues lift, do speak to someone. PTSD from an emergency section isn't unheard of, and convincing yourself 'the baby is fine and I'm alive so all is ok' doesn't work for everyone, speaking from personal experience. It's ok to not be ok after a mind-bending event like that and it's ok to reach out for help processing it. Don't suffer through it assuming it's normal. Much love and empathy your way Sarah and Miles.
I hear you, but it is normal at this point. Doctors offices and hospitals are traumatizing people left and right and there's been no stop to it. They need to be held accountable! I've heard about 90/10 split of BAD stories to good ones. Something isn't right here, birthing in the USA should *not* be this hard or traumatizing. No doctors in the birthing hall??? Absolutely not a standard we should be upholding in the USA.
@Greenery it may be common, but it is not normal.
@@Michelle_Gian Babe, look up the definition of normal.... please
@@greener336 There's some studies saying hospital intervention in labor has led to more undesirable outcomes. It seems when they go in and start inducing for non already emergency reasons they create emergencies
Miles saying that parents think they are smarter really means a lot - childless people are not inferior!
Maybe I don’t get out enough I have not had anybody treat me this way pre baby or even now “on the inside” I have not luckily heard parenting superiority complex IRL.
I def know it exists bc it’s highly documented online and I just don’t understand why.
My guess is people who maybe don’t/didn’t have good self worth/identity/appreciation beforehand want to tie their value to it in some way? It’s just such a socially clueless way to conduct yourself
Seriously. Maybe I’m biased and ignorant, but I feel like childfree people are smarter. They’ve had so much more chance to be an individual and learn from the world outside of keeping a goblin alive.
Childless people are smarter in my opinion lmao I have kids … my brain doesn’t function the same since being pregnant and my lord the anxiety and hormones after having kids… love them.. but it’s ALOTTTTT
@@zerocraic3966 My best guess is that a lot of people who had children without wanting them feel the need to continue justifying their decision to have children.
Hearing Miles talk about how much he loves his wife is absolutely beautiful 🥰
Btw, the anxiety about "is your child ok", never leaves. No matter how old they get.
Lmao it did for my parents FAST, but they not everyone who has children are actually parents. Hopefully these two are good to their kid
I mean I know it’s with us forever but comparing toddler or infant anxiety to newborn anxiety wasn’t even close for me.
Now I worry if he’ll be safe or happy but not if he’s alive or if my milk supply is starving him or if he’ll die bc he rolled into a corner of the couch when I wasn’t looking 🤣🤣 the crisis management anxiety goes down at least.
@@zerocraic3966 Definitely. Not everything is a crisis now, but I do constantly think about my 2 year old's development. I'm constantly worried about him, but it's not like all consuming anxiety like it was immediately postpartum. Him rolling off the couch isn't a catastrophe like it was the first time he did it as a baby.
@@whatsupimlouie4670 "not everyone who has children are actually parents" - literally summarizes my core trauma wow thanks!!!!
@@naxp42 sorry to hear it, I’m right there with you. It’s a hard road of acceptance (in my experience, at least) but I promise that with work and time, you will start to replace what should have been your parents role in loving, caring for, and guiding yourself. You are worth more than what your parents gave you, and I really mean that.
Only a few minutes in but how is Sarah somehow even MORE radiant and cool two weeks postpartum?! Congratulations Sarah, Miles and bebe!
Ok finished the podcast now - I also had a really traumatic birth experience with my first which really affected me for a long time. The book "How to heal a bad birth" by Melissa J Bruijn really helped me a lot. I know it is really a hard thing to feel so deeply traumatized when everything ended up "ok". Sending you many healing vibes!
Every time I see her she’s more beautiful and funnier than the last time. It’s wild!
@@delcarr26 I have never wanted to be friends with or just be someone I’ve never me more than Sarah!
With my first child I had a csection, they also messed up my epidural. I felt them cut me open then went into shock from the pain. I remember coming in and out of consciousness and then telling me to breathe. I kept telling myself I just needed to stay alive long enough to hear my baby cry. I kept fighting and I remember hearing his cry and nothing after that. They told me that they showed him to me, but I wasn’t there. They said as soon as I heard his cry I blacked out. They immediately took my husband and my son out of the room because they thought I wasn’t going to make it. It was so unbelievably traumatic. I have heard so many stories just like mine and yours, and it really shows the lack of care for women in this country. It’s heartbreaking. There shouldn’t be any stories like mine, but there definitely shouldn’t be as many of them as there are.
I listened to the pod this morning on Spotify and had to come over here to say congratulations and thank you for your vulnerability and openness in sharing the birth story. You two are warriors and also it’s so great to hear that you can cry again Miles! Y’all are rad af parents already 🎉
omg i did the same! congratulations miles and sarah < 3
I did as well and I feel like yours is worded so much better than mine 😅 I appreciate them speaking about their birth story, especial so soon afterwards!
The first caller just really wanted to talk about their new love lol. They didn't need advice XD
Ok the Bonsignore family is the perfect Earth sign trifecta - Sarah’s a Taurus, Miles a Virgo, and Julian a Capricorn. ❤️
Congratulations to Sara and Miles as well as Bébé Bonsignore!
It’s such a delight to see the bond between you two and how Miles will (hopefully) be the Dad people need to emulate.
He's the perfect person. So by default he's the perfect dad.
@@TheShauNanigans Fair.
Sarah being this raw and vulnerable and Miles being so supportive is the genuine and mature example I wish more people could see.Does Sarah have her own fan club like #milesnation yet? let’s start brainstorming names.
The first caller sounds like she’s in a very similar situation I was 10 years ago… and now that guy and I are engaged and living together and very much so in love ❤
Congrats guys! Those first few weeks we refer to as 'potato mode'- you spend every ounce of energy on keeping this little human alive and they give you as much positive feedback as an actual potato could. It's crushing. Once that feedback loop begins though, the first smile, first laugh, first intentional hand grabbing your finger, it all starts feeling a little easier to deal with. Hang in there, it's coming! And Sarah you look really well for feeling like a mombie, I know you don't feel it but take your time healing, you deserve the effort! :)
A ZADDY IS RISEN! Congratulations Miles and Sarah!
It’s 100% OK to grieve your birth and even be mad about it if that’s where you’re at. There are lots of resources for you postpartum to process the birth, and I highly recommend you find time to start working through it with a professional and/or support group when you’re ready. Both of you.
Also, for it to be so traumatic that it had you crying, Miles, I'm so sorry. Must have been so painful. You both are so strong!
My aunt made my cousin learn to say “water” and a few other words with a British accent and she had to go to speech therapy to get rid of the accent😭 Tiny little Texan accent with British words sprinkled throughout loll
Your son is gonna be so weird. I’m so excited for you both!
i didn’t want to mention the watermelons on the screen but 13 minutes in and you already covered it 🤣❤️ good luck to you both on parenthood!! what a blessing for all of us
That sweater is bursting at the seams 😂
Sarah, don't let anyone make you feel bad for breastfeeding! If it's hard for you, do what works :) Congratulations to you guys!!!
"weve been seeing each other exclusively for five months and he loves me but its casual" i dont think the first caller knows what "casual" means
forever in awe of how brave, honest, and vulnerable sarah is
Sarah, I had a traumatic birth. I hope you can be patient with yourself and have lots of help and care as you heal ❤️❤️❤️
Eventually, memories of the birth become more proof of how strong you are ❤️❤️❤️
AHHH CONGRATS!!! This is even more exciting than Will's December 1 post and I mean that ❤️
Never laughed so hard. Listening as I’m feeding my baby. 1000% relatable. Right on for bringing your baby to various places with you. Congratulations!!
Listened to the end. I had a very similar unexpected experience at the hospital. It can be hard and disappointing . Letting yourself grieve and mourn about not having the delivery you wanted helps. Talking about it to anyone who listens helps a lot. The emotional and physical scars heal.
CONGRATULATIONS MILES!
The first night my son slept for 5 hours straight, I woke up in a complete panic and fell running because I thought he'd died. Omg that fear is so real.
I appreciate this loving honesty and yall are gonna be great♡
Sameeee 😂
Hearing your birth story made me want to share mine and let you know that you're not alone.
I had to be induced because of pre-eclampsia (which I had anxiety about leading up to birth), and by the time I got to 5 cm (36 hours later), I had cord prolapse and went into an emergency c-section where O had to be put to sleep. My husband couldn't come with me, and he wasn't there when our baby was born. I also had to stay in the hospital because of my blood pressure for almost a week. I struggled (and still do if I think about it too much) like Sarah did talking about it because I was already terrified of birth and this solidified that. We want one more baby someday, but the trauma of everything makes me want to wait a lot longer than we originally had planned. It definitely bonds you!
I also love how you guys described parenthood. It's exactly how I felt then, and I'm just now feeling like a mom 8 months later 😂 so if it takes awhile, don't feel bad! Some of us just take longer to get there. Thank you for sharing your story so people know they aren't alone!
Congratulations on giving birth Sarah! I just want to let you know that you are not alone with your birth experience. We need more people to be vulnerable and honest about the realities of birth. My first cesarean was an emergency as well. I developed preeclampsia DURING labor and ended up in the hospital for 10 days. My son was discharged after 7 days.... 3 days before me. The first month was absolute hell. You.... you guys will get through this.
I even went on to have another- voluntary cesarean the second/last time- a beautiful baby girl that didnt come to this world without issues during pregnancy/labor/birth.
You did it. You're going to be wonderful parents. And I can't wait to see how parenthood changes you both!
Sarah is seriously so hilarious
I am so sorry that was such an unexpectedly difficult experience for you both. You're both very beautiful people, and thank you for sharing such an emotional story with your fans! My mom gained 70 lbs with me and said her coworkers used to make the "truck reverse beeping noise," when she would walk down the hallway. Absolutely brutal. Go viking women! Go vanity!
Wait! Sarah had a botched epidural? So like she felt the c-section? That happened to my mom when she gave birth to me! My family totally could have sued but chose to be nice about it. I’m so sorry you had that traumatic experience. I’m glad everyone is okay and you have a healthy baby. ❤
We need more women talking about their births. It's never a movie and it's cruel we have a culture that causes women to not be prepared and educated when going into birth. Even if you have an amazing birth you'll still experience traumatic outcomes because it's literally traumatic to your body, you are transforming beyond your normal limits and pushing out a living being.
Miles i once told someone I loved him and he said "why?" And that man still has a special place in my mind where I wish him the same pain
The best thing I heard when we became parents, “bad parents don’t worry if they are bad parents.” You’re doing great! ❤
19:07 Miles calling sex the throws of passion will never not be funny to me 😂
As someone who is giving birth for the very first time, hearing Sarah and miles talk about their expectations vs reality is a breath of fresh air. I am nervous as hell about giving birth, but somehow their experience helped me feel better about being a mom. No one is perfect and no parent is perfect, babies don't come with instructions and you just have to wing it and hope you did a well enough job 😅
Thank you Miles, and thank you Sarah for making me feel like less of an awful person for choosing to breastfeed for only a while and not all the time.
Congrats on the new baby and thank you for your insights into a true relationship and parenthood. 💛
Look after yourself after that traumatic experience, it can take its toll later down the line 💚
My favorite advice as a new parent was “crying means they’re breathing”
Sweet Sarah, it broke my heart to hear you describe the pain of your experience. I’m so glad you and babe came through OK, and that you have Miles by your side. Congratulations to you both, and welcome to Julian ❤
Man I know how hard those days were and I remember crying at 2 weeks in at 1 or 2 am feeling so drained. Oddly enough I'm missing those crazy days with my little baby and now I have a 3 yr old. I'm glad to hear how you two support each other and are raw about all the emotions not just the great ones.
I remember feeling like "they're going to let us take this baby home? " it felt so insane
The beginning part of the episode where they were just chatting was so candidly funny and it warmed my heart and just wow I'm so happy for you guys!
So proud of you Sarah and sorry for your scary birth experience but I'm so thankful you're all healthy. Birth is hard, scary, beautiful!
Congrats and welcome to the club. As a mother with an 8 month old, I was exactly where you were when my baby was born. Miles is on point with the remembering that plenty of dumb people have had kids and they are fine. It is a very comforting thought during times of panic.
Best of luck to you both!
I’ve been so excited for an episode with the two of you post-birth! I really love and appreciate Sarah’s honesty and transparency in this episode. Childbirth and nursing and everything that goes with it, never pans out how you imagine it to and I don’t think enough people are honest about that. ❤️
Congratulations you two! I am a mom of a 2 year old, born in the height of the pandemic. Sarah, if you can make it through the first couple months of breastfeeding, it will get better and it will get less of everything you’re feeling!
As far as personality, you might not feel like he has one right now but you’ll look back and feel like “oh, he’s always been this way!”
24:19 gonna need a gif of this back and forth
Edit: Just heard the Get Real part.. I just want to give Sarah a very big hug.
I resonate so much! Trauma bonded for sure. My emergency c section was horrid but we made it out okay.
I just wanted to expand on something though, "having a baby made us closer".. you can only get there if both people were already on board the closeness train. Meaning you were already close before and you've just unlocked another way to be close.
Congratulations Perfect Person Parents!
Watching this while contact napping my 10 month old. I have never EVER related to a podcast more. I am so appreciative of y'all's honesty and humor of this episode
That video on Sarah's insta when she is chewing into miles ear while he is playing video games is exactly what a toddler is like... hilarious but sometimes soooo annoying, but also just soooo loveable and loved at the same time 🤣🤪😘
If you're really sold on the British baby thing, just watch lots of BBC with him. My mother binged Sherlock with my youngest brother, and at 15, he *STILL* sounds British.
Also, I hope so much that my husband and I look as radiant and as in love as you two do two weeks after having a baby. The way you tease each other, are so honest and communicative with each other, but so clearly love the hell out of each other is goals. Or maybe just a side effect of the complete lack of sleep lol
My daughter is four years old and I still don’t feel qualified to call myself a mom
😂😂😂
listened this morning and got quite emotional towards the end. v proud of the both of you
I never want to see Miles sad again. I’m so glad everyone is okay ❤
Congratulations Miles and Sara! You two seem like there is this really beautiful connection between you and youre so in touch with eachother in a really genuine way. Baby Jules is a lucky guy
Y’all are gonna be the BEST parents I’m so so excited for you
Yeahhhh!!! CONGRATULATIONS MILES AND SARAH!!!🎉 Adding this part on after listening through the whole episode and just want to say, thank you for sharing your experience and being so open/vulnerable. I’m sure the experience must’ve been harrowing along with so many other emotions, but so happy to know that you all got through it well and wishing you the best!
You did it!!! Yay for you both. Wishing you all the best.
yall and this podcast are my faves. impressed at the wit and humor you have going on despite the sleep deprivation.. ty for this pod
Congratulations guys 💓 Wow, emergency c-sections are no joke. This episode was exactly what I needed today. Been looking forward to your update on parenthood and your little bubs. All the best on this journey!
Such a great episode. I'm so sorry that Sarah had a hard birth experience. She is so strong. It'll all be worth it.
Can hear the joy in your voices! Best wishes!!
My dad is a high-risk OBGYN, and I have listened to him talk about these situations and how scary they are. I am shocked to hear that nobody would answer the phone! But I am SO happy to hear that everyone is happy and healthy now! I am sending you guys so many good vibes and positivity!!
CONGRATS MILES AND SARAH! 🎊 I'm sure you two will be amazing parents. Welcome, perfect baby! 🥰
I'm so sorry you both had to go through such a traumatizing, scary experience. Perfect person is one of my favorite podcasts and Sarah is my favorite guest. Hearing what you had to go through brought me to tears and I'm just so sorry it was so unfair and I'm so glad everyone came out okay. I wish you all the happiness in the world in the coming years with your baby/child!
I just wanna say that listening to your podcast is genuinely uplifting and healthily educational. I enjoy listening to the wisdom that you’ve gained and come across throughout your lifetime, and i really feel better about so many different parts of my own life because of you and your guests. Please do this for as long as possible, Miles. ❤
I loved and enjoyed all the conversations you gave us today. Definitely filled my heart cup. Congrats guys. You got this.
I listened to the pod on my drive to work this morning but I had to come back and watch to say how happy I am for you guys, and how incredible it is to see this journey. Thank you for allowing us to learn about this huge part of your life. The biggest congratulations, I’m so excited for Julian to be a cool dude one day. ❤
YAY! TBH I was still expecting a pre-filmed ep.
the love you guys share is very apparent, even to me, a simple stranger. your child is very blessed! congratulations sarah and miles, and thank you for sharing
I'm so glad that you are okay! Superstar Sarah. Good luck to the three of you, you are wonderful and you've got this!
I’m so sorry the experience was so traumatic and difficult- you and baby Julian are clearly very strong for getting through that. Thanks for talking openly about it, I had an emergency c section last year and it’s such a big thing.
You two are going to be such good parents...just listening to the Be Real section, and your willingness to acknowledge that things didn't go at all the way you thought they would, while at the same time being so mindful of the health and love you still have, is just so inspiring. I can only hope to be half as even-keeled as you both are. Thanks for sharing a little teeny tiny piece of your love and bliss! Congratulations, Bonsignores, and welcome Bebe Bonsignore!!!
I'm only 10 seconds in and I am just so stoked for you guys!
Happy to see y’all back and glad everything is going well!
Really thankful for you guys sharing. I also had a traumatic unplanned c-section and also found the newborn stage really hard and draining. Nearly 2 years later, he's such a little pal and DOES say both BREAKFAST!! and also "breakfast pleeease". Absolutely is a gremlin and so challenging but in equal measure a real treasure and joy to be around. Hang in there and take all the naps you can xx
It is parents like you both who are brave enough to share the actual reality of parenthood and not just the rosy “movie scene” moments that empowered me to really look at parenthood and analyze whether it’s the right fit for me or not after years of intense baby fever. Being real about birth trauma, exhaustion and the transition into a whole new mode of existence are things that are not mentioned enough to anyone before having kids, especially women. Sarah, for you to come on here and share this story with us of what was the scariest moment of your life… that’s powerful and that has impacted a lot of us in a very real way. Thank you for your honesty.
I love listening to the two of you sharing the raw, real emotions and thoughts you two are having as new parents, and being a couple in this new phase of your lives!
Congratulations Miles and Sarah! Welcome to the world Julian!
Bob and Mandy's birth story on Distractible and now Miles and Sarah - I''m so glad everything worked out ok
Thank you for sharing all of this with us. The fact you cried for the first time since your brother passed and now you're a weepy new dad is the sweetest fact I think we could've ever learned about you. Truly my favorite podcast. Thank you
CONGRATULATIONS to you both!! Two lovely people becoming wonderful parents.
i could seriously listen to you two talk about stuff for days on end. you guys are like the cool cousins i never had. congrats on the baby
Congratulations you guys! I'm so glad baby Bonsignore is healthy and safe! I'm so sorry you guys had a rough experience. I hope you guys are able to heal and process everything with time 💜
I’m 10 mins in and this is the best podcast I’ve ever heard. Love the honesty and humor.
Sarah, you are a fucking goddess! So much love to you and baby bon. Miles, I'm a huge fan of the show and you in general. Keep being amazing and remember that your vulnerability makes you perfect.
In an effort of solidarity and community, I want to point out that birth is a trauma. Your experience was so harrowing and so many other families have similar. Reach out and get some support for all those feelings as you ride the post birth rollercoaster. I'm so thankful that despite the turbulence baby , mama, and zaddy are all healthy. Thank you for sharing yourself with us ❤️❤️❤️
As a former birth doula and mother of 4, BRAVO 👏 for speaking the truth of childbirth and parenthood. Birth experiences are unique and unplanned, it's freaking hard af, and it's absolutely valid and necessary to grieve our expectations- even the ones we didn't know we had until after the fact. 100% parenthood is not all love and cuddles. I love how you are so open and honest, and how you are both holding space for each other's process and emotions 💗
Thank you for talking about your birthing experience❤️ I also had a traumatic birth. It’s scary to remember but it’s so important to talk about and process with your partner. It’s also nice to know that every birth is different and if you have a second then it could be totally different! Can’t wait to hear more about y’alls parenthood journey!
BEST EPISODE YET!! Beautiful people and a heartwarming conversation 🖤
oh my gosh I’m so sorry your birth experience was so awful. so so glad Sarah & Julian are both doing great now. hugs to you guys ❤️ you’re going to be the absolute best parents
I love you guys so much. You two really are perfect people.
Thanks for keeping it real
People told me how tired I’d be but I never could’ve actually imagined HOW tired.
Congratulations you two! The time is going to go by so fast, this will feel like a blink of your eye.
All the love to you and Sarah and Julian ❤❤❤❤❤❤ Thankyou for your vulnerability and your laughter and your authenticity