Spicing Up Your Sex Life (w/ Sarah Bonsignore) | Perfect Person Ep. 19
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- čas přidán 15. 11. 2022
- My lovely wife Sarah joins me once again in the studio to answer calls about bad texters, and coworkers who cannot for the life of them stop talking like a baby.
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How does Miles miss the opportunity to open the show with "Hello and welcome to perfect person, the show where I'm perfect and you're a person". I always expect him to say that when he starts the intro
Oh that’s reaaaally good
#virgo
he did it he used it in ep. 20!!! so good!!
@@ariaxion lol I think it's bc he stole it from the person who commented this hshs
Congratulations! He’s done this on so many of the more recent ones
Does anyone else think that Sarah would be the *perfect person* to play Drew Barrymore in a biopic ?!
omg she does look like Drew!!! especially today, her hair looks especially Drew-y in this episode
absolutely yes and i have always said that
Check out the 73 questions with Jennifer Lawrence interview from vogue. I saw a clip of Jennifer sitting at the picnic table and did a double take thinking it was Sarah. She could do impressions of drew and Jennifer in her comedy
i think you guys trying to roleplay how to talk to cheryl over and over and over is literally the funniest bit ever i was dying trying not to laugh too hard in public and embarrass myself
Lol right! I think that I would preface it by saying "I think you're a great person and I love working with you, but I think the baby talking is unnecessary. Is there a reason you do that?" Just honesty. They're literally just co-workers at a clinic.
So funny 🤣😭 They are hilarious together
Me too!
I thought I was going to have a heart attack! 🤣
frr we need more roleplay!!!!
Every podcast featuring Sarah I watch immediately. 🥰
Same 🥰😊
Me too!
"I'm constantly meeting myself" is so reassuring, to be honest.
I fell on the floor laughing when the person had to clarify that they don't work with babies but with grown women.
“my weewee hurts” Sarah 🤣🤣 why is that the first thing she thought of 😂
Advice for the Baby Talk Cheryl thing: It might be better to just have lunch, and when she does the baby talk, sincerely just tell her "Hey, you can just be yourself," instead of telling her "You don't have to do that," or "That's weird." Because if it's coming from insecurity, it might just be more hurtful. Otherwise, continue on with the small steps of facial cues and whatnot if all else fails :,)
I was coming to the comments to say this!
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You can always "blame" wanting to spice things up on like "Hey I heard/read/saw this thing and it sounded kinda fun/hot; what do you think? Would you ever want to give it a try?" Also I think it's good to talk about it outside of the actual spicy moment. It can help take some of the pressure off. Yes/No/Maybe lists are also a great tool to discover what you all might want to try or are into.
For the baby talk scenario: If the caller knows that her colleague doesn't have a family member young enough to warrant baby talk to, maybe the next time it happens she could say something like, "Does your child, niece, nephew, etc. love playing with you the most/get so excited around you? You're so good with that voice." That way it's set up like a compliment, but if she didn't realize she was doing it so much at work, or doesn't have a family member that would typically experience that, she'd be made more aware & might quietly back off the talk at least a little. It's like loving her for her as Sarah said, and trying to address it kindly.
Watching you grow this platform and get your first ad read was like watching a child trust their steps forward and giggling while you stand by, proud of the infinite chaos and joy they can bring the world. You know, except we both have unimaginable back pain and you’re a tree of a human. Perhaps a bad metaphor
Haha this was very sweet! Back pain hive rise up & thank you for listening to the show!
Miles and Sarah will be wonderful parents. Your final segment brought all the feels. Miles may not be able to cry but I will be happy to cry 😭 for him. Your son is blessed to have you both.
I have a theory about Cheryl. So maybe once upon time at a previous job, maybe her and her coworkers did a baby talk joke as like an inside joke. She had so much fun and thought it was funny, so she’s trying to bring the fun to the gyno office. Just trying to make it a thing? Idk. But I’ve listened to this advice at least 10 times now 😂
"Im constantly meeting myself" RELATABLE
I watch this at the gym and truly almost dropped a weight on my face when they started the baby talk back and forth 😂
My go to for Sheryl situations: after they make the joke is to give them the usual reaction plus, "that joke is starting to get old". If they double down you just nod and say "yeah, it's getting old, time to rotate jokes." Or if they take it personally you can back track with, "It's fine, it was funny before, but it is getting old."
This does a few things that the options they came up with don't: 1. You are directly addressing the behavior and asking for it to stop. 2. You are giving them the ego boost that it used to be kinda funny, so you're not destroying their ego. 3. It is separating their value from the behavior. 4. It is inviting them to continue engaging with you playfully instead of just shutting them down completely. 5. It can easily be made lighter or played off to ease the hurt.
yeah! Another Sara Special 🎉🎉 Miles is basically the freelance cohost associate when Sara’s involved. That’s all, oh and love the show
Sarah and Miles are the funniest couple I’ve seen. Big love to you two ❤
Also, hope Bébé Bonsignore is doing well!
the baby voice role playing is sooooo hilarious. good job guys. but I have to agree with Sarah. call that shit out and stop it
petition for sarah to be on every episode i love watching you two !!!!!!!
I second this petition!
At the very least they need a spin-off podcast where they talk about the day-to-day of marriage life.
I realize now that I need a flustered and panicked Miles stuck in a room with Kelsey, Will and Sarah recording the pod.
Soooo for talks about sex, it's not a good idea to do it DURING, because that's extremely likely to end in hurt feelings, AND talking about it precoital is great too because it usually will set ~the mood~ and it's like immediate application of what you just said you wanted. That's my unsolicited advice for the day, perfect people!
The baby bit oh my lord you two are so funny I love how you bounce off each other
Between my spouse and I, I am the one who doesn't really cry. I don't have grief trauma from childhood, but I've got other stuff. When I had my son, I got better at connecting with my emotions physically. I don't cry all the time, but it comes easier now than it did before. Having a baby really changes your emotional landscape. You'll cry more in the first 2 years of parenthood than you did in the previous 10 years combined.
So true!
Miles what you said about your brother was touching. Keeping his memory alive by naming your son after him is beautiful. Sending you and your wife love ❣️ amazing couple 💞
ADVICE FOR BABY TALK WOMAN SITCH
When my coworkers start oversharing or being dramatic in convo (or any annoying verbal thing)
i say "ok"
NOT in a rude way, an "ok" as if im listening but its a subtle/nice way to say "get to the point". its a clear sentence ender lol works everytime and we are very friendly!
it even works on me lol
Just tell your partner that you’ve been reading smut and want to recreate the spicy scenes 😂
For the bad breath debacle, I always have peppermints in my bag so I can be like, hey I'm having a mint, would you like one? And usually people get the message haha
The ending was so special and Miles you are 100% right - while our childrens births were magical and blah blah, there are so many little moments and family inside jokes that feel so much more powerful. When my son turned four he woke up and ran to our room to wake us up and said ‘guys, look at me! I’m four!!’ And we made a big deal like ‘oh my god Atticus is that you?? You are so much bigger! You look four dude!!’ And I swear to you I can remember every look on his and my husbands faces from that moment. Makes me teary thinking of it. There are a bajillion moments like this with both our kiddos!
Taking 2 baths in a day is perfect person energy.
The baby talk roleplays were beyond hilarious, oh my god. 😂 Also I feel like being honest and telling "Cheryl" that the baby talk makes you uncomfortable would be the best way to handle it.
the first caller is giving me strong adhd/asd vibes 😂 I'm also a terrible texter haha
i would rather someone just silently handed me a toothbrush & toothpaste and walk away, than tell me 'you have stinky breathe'
This makes work in the morning so much more enjoyable. I can’t get enough. I need more Miles. You are doing a wonderful job.
Can we get more Sarah content please??
“The moments I hold most dear, are often the least planned ones”
- Miles Bonsignore
Sarah always has such an incredible perspective. She’s so funny and charming!
always SO stoked to see sarah back y’all handle big topics realistically and with top notch humor
Sarah is legit the best guest! i look forward to your conversations and advice on becoming the perfect person every time haha Congrats on the baby!!!!
My mom is the most positive, ray of sunshine person I have ever known and she lost my dad (her first & only boyfriend) when me and my brothers were still super young (i was 4yo). Ever since then her philosophy has always been "Nothing will ever be as worse as that" and like you said Miles everything just sort of pales in comparison so she goes through life with almost a carefree, zen energy which i really admire.
Oh thank god Sarah’s back I have been getting desperate and just watched the old YCSWU with her on it
Once at work a relatively senior colleague asked me did I know where [my name]'s mailbox was? I was reluctant to embarrass him, but I figured he had to learn the truth eventually and better that he learned while no one else was around. So I said, my mailboxes right here, or you could just give them to me! He turned so red, LOL
every episode with Sarah is totally perfect. I can't wait for more once you guys become parents and you both become even more fun and even more wise.
Pleaseeeee have Sara on more often. Something about her energy just makes me wish I was her friend. (Or start a new podcast with just the both of you ;) )
This was by far the funniest episode
The Get Real today got me welling up at work. 🥺
i cant wait to hear you talk more about your brother & your experiences with grief. i really relate to what you’ve said thus far. this summer i lost my stepdad & a week after his funeral my dad had a shocking crisis that resulted in him going missing for several days & being hospitalized. i’m going thru a hurtful breakup right now & am a little shocked at my resilience & control over my feelings. but like you said, some things you go through are so intense that the rest pales in comparison & it affects how you emote, period.
Please have a Sarah and Will episode!!! Because I love Sarah, and I also miss Will.
I have a kid and the first few weeks and months of his life were not the most emotional. It hits us at the craziest time. Like when my two year old grows into a real person and chooses to give me a hug without me asking That's when the parenting/loss feelings hit. So, I hope you feel those feelings whenever you're ready, Miles!!
I actually think that if the person who works with Cheryl were to confront her, gently say “hey what’s up with that baby voice you do?”
And Cheryl honestly says she just thinks it’s funny, then the caller doesn’t have to do anything. Just log her away in the weirdo category and not take her behavior so personally.
I think that kind of behavior gets to us so much because we don’t understand why it’s happening - so if she gives you an explanation, even if it’s that she genuinely thinks its funny, then you have permission to just back away from the situation.
Of course if she crosses the line with sexual jokes then you can just go to HR! Like even if they aren’t about you, making sexual jokes in the workplace that make other folks uncomfortable should be dealt with by HR. *insert snide comment about 2nd Try here*
i love how theyre bickering w the person on the phone. i just know theyve never felt more like a 3rd wheel 😭😭
Am I secretly listening at work? Yes.
Am I laughing out loud at the Cheryl conversation and having to turn it into a fake coughing fit? Yes.
Lmao same! I was in tears laughing 😂
This Get Real was so, so real, thanks for sharing it with us miles.
My partner grew up very close with a cousin who was his age who passed when he was 19 and would struggle for a similar reason, that once you’ve cried for something so terrible, every other reason just doesn’t seem to merit the same response. Over the years as we hit milestones he’d often be grieving that his cousin was not going to have them, too, but no tears.
When our son arrived I saw a smile on his face that I had never seen in the 7 years we had together before that, which were also full of many smiles. And he did burst into tears. And those first few months were full of many tears- me, partner, and obviously our baby boy.
Not like it’s all the time but he is more often moved to tears in the last two years than pre-dad life.
You guys seem like you’ll be incredible parents. Baby bonsignore is a lucky little guy.
For Sheryl you could blame it on a patient saying they overheard the baby talk and it made them a little uncomfortable
This episode literally made me spit my water out on myself when Miles did the baby talk and Sarah did it back.
I hope the woman looking for sex advice gets all her fantasies fulfilled
I like to imagine the first 2 minutes of the podcast is just the way conversations in this house go even when not recording
low key think I like the short loop in the get real segment. nothing more human than a silly laugh to break the tension when talking about heavy shit. n doesn't mean anyone thinks what's being talked about is funny, just nice to have that duality. no light w out dark, no dark w out light
Does Cheryl have young children? I know some parents get so used to using baby talk at home they sometimes use it in normal conversation without realizing it!
Sarah is the freaking best
I am ashamed at the fiendish sound I made seeing and clicking this upload. The amount of times I’ve rewatched every episode is insane.
miles the end of this episode was so beautiful and the love you and sarah hold for each other is so so heart warming
I love hearing Miles talk about his brother. I'm lucky enough to have not lost anyone really important in my life so far but know plenty of people who have and I feel like I never knew what to do with that information. Hearing Miles talk about his loss and grief so candidly in this and future episodes has really helped me understand what that sort of loss feels like and what I can do to support people in their loss and grief ❤
Thank you for being so candid about your experience with loss and how that may effect you on your journey to parenthood. My husband and I had a son in June and it was difficult reconsileing with the feelings of grief over my son not having aunts or a grandfather on my side of the family, Wondering how capable of being a grandfather my husband's dad was going to be, and now grieving the loss of my husband's best friend before he got to meet our son. Im sorry grief entering parenthood is something you have to deal with emotionally but I am grateful you spoke about it. Thank you.
You can say, i am in bad mood... No more baby talks for entire week. Eventually she forgets baby talks with you
Love you guys and your podcast!!
I really resonate with the mindset of welcoming and accepting sad feelings and crying while also not being able to cry often on one’s own. I feel you closer to letting those walls down however that may feel for you, Miles, and thank you for sharing your life with us!
absolutely love the episodes with sarah more than any others shes hilarious and you guys obviously have amazing chemistry
This is the best podcast. Congrats on being the best one.
I literally need Sarah on every episode. I'm obsessed with her 😭
Omg I love the episodes with your wife as the guest she's awesome!
More Sarah!!!!! She’s the best!
I love their relationship, it's so pure and passionate. Goals.
I have a son and my brother is my best friend so the end had me crying! Love you miles, thank you for sharing your story!
Oh I needed this
I looove Sarah on the show, you guys have a great dynamic on the pod! Wish I have had parents like you ☺️
Wow, I really like listening to Sarah. She's funny and wholesome and is simply a delight. Love it when she's on the pod! 💗
Get real was really real and beautifully honest♡ thanks for sharing
Thank you, always Miles for your vulnerability 🫡 it’s rare and powerful, I started crying when you revealed your son’s middle name will be your late brothers. Big ol’ tears & laughs is the medicine for me, thank you ❤️
I really liked your explanation of why you haven’t cried since your brother died. I was telling my partner the other day that my perspective on pain changed after a 36 hour labor and giving birth unmedicated. That experience totally changed my perspective on what is pain. Thanks for sharing❤️
This is only the third or so episode I’ve watched so now it’s time to binge them all #milesnation
Woah, thank you for thé honestly on crying. Sarah’s question really makes me wonder if people question my own reactions or my own “threshold” for experiencing pain.
Almost peed myself with the Cheryl bit...the funniest thing ever!
I’m binging and catching up. Sincerely my fav pod. Tbh I only listen to Second Try affiliated pods. More than anything I just love you two as a couple. Your candor with one another is what most relationships to strive for. Congrats on the baby and all the success.
I freaking love Sarah so much💜
i loved this episode! The RANGE! Had me laughing out loud with the roleplays and tearing up with get real. sending love to you both and your incoming baby and I hope you get well soon Miles ❤ (agreed on the emojis)
Love how secure in their relationship they are that they can talk about hooking up with other people in their past and it’s not a big deal. I wish more people were open minded and not so jealous in relationships!
I have a coworker that does baby voice sometimes too...I kind of said something about it once and she told me that she had a tumor removed a few years ago from the back of her tongue. Since then her speech hasn't been the greatest so the baby talk is how she steers into her speech impediment to get ahead of the jokes...I don't think that's Cheryl's situation, but man...I would just learn to love the baby talk and avoid the confrontation.
I love when your wife is on, she's so fun! And congrats on your baby! I love the name idea. I just had a baby 12 weeks ago and his middle name is my dad's name. He died when I was in college. ❤️
baby talk person: Do an even more annoying voice every day. Until finally Cheryl says, "hey I don't really like that voice you do" and then you say, "oh... darn.. okay I guess we should both talk in our normal tone". Bing!
this was so fun ahahah!
In a similar vein of Sarah's mom asking "Are you alive?" my mom tells me she has dreams that I died. 😅
LOVEEEE SARAH!
Yes we love Sarah!
"Email is for work." Omg yes!
The people *DO* love Sarah. So happy she's back :)
The baby voice thing got me laughing so hard I choked on my spit and then I started snorting laughing at Sarah’s baby voice
Good advice on the baby talk/ lame joke.
Had an older coworker who cracked the exact same joke every day he sees me. For years. He had disturbing issues we found out much later but did let me learn why he was that way.
Like the caller, I awkwardly laughed through my breathe/ nose. I guess sometimes it's hard to shoot down a joke. Even if it's really old or really lame.
I am dying 😂