Men Are Too Feminine... Ladies We Can Fix That
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I just wanna say thank you for posting this video, it makes me as a viewer feel listened to, and that you're leading the way we all think and I'd also just like to say how the energy you're exerting right now is good energy and I like it when you take the initiative to post videos
Bruh this comment almost triggered me.
Pin of appreciation.
I thought there was a catch when I saw the pin 😂
I dont get it
@@AbaNPreach why
Yes... Very good masculine energy.
I was in a relationship with a woman that would give out these long compliments. Always felt in-authentic. Then we break up and those long compliments turned in to LOOOOOONG insults LMAO
😂😂😂
Yeah bro it’s hard finding someone that is real with you, I hate two faced bitches
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Lmao damn
We need examples bro please
I'm with Preach, it feels like I'm being manipulated. Like, if my wife is gonna ask me to do something for her - just ask, you don't need to spend two minutes trying to sell me.
Women always play these games. You are supposed to read her mind and know! I will never understand that approach. How hard is to just ask straight?
@@Loqque
But, but... If u LOVED HER, u wouldn't NEED her to ask straight, u would just KNOW! 😂😂😂
('Love' is unsubstantiated telepathy, apparently).
@@Loqque When I ask my husband straight it doesn't get done 😂 I have to go get his tools out, start moving them around and then he jumps in and takes over because he doesn't like when I mess them up 😂
I hate people that do that, I’ll literally say 3 seconds into that type of shiii that they need to spit it out. Only a stupid ignorant person can’t see what they’re doing, but everyone else can.
And it doesn’t seem like manipulation, it is manipulation. You’re wife might not be meaning to do that and it’s a behavior she’s never recognized, but trying to sell someone on something is manipulation, it could be positive or negative, but it’s manipulation.
Honestly man we’re simple creatures just tell us straight forward what you want
This woman has it all wrong.
Appreciating your man is just that, so stop framing it around how it makes you feel.
"You make me feel like such a princess" should, in fact, be... "You're such a gentleman."
Compliments, in general, should be framed around the person receiving them.
Ohw my goodness yes!YES compliments are not about you they are about the other person. This you make me business is about them and the moment they dont make them feel nice they move on.
Very true, though I think it's also important to say "Thank you for doing x, it makes me feel loved/precious to you.
Facts!
thanks for pointing this out.
I personally like when people tell me they like I make them feel a certain way about themselves rather than telling me what I am good at. It makes it easier to accept, but that may be just me.
I think personality types are more important than gender roles. My girl does the majority of the planning because she's more anxious and it helps relax her, whereas I'm laid back last-minute, I'll arrange the occasional surprise or birthday/anniversary events but let her take care of the day to day and family planning. Works for both of us.
yeah if u're the anxious type u need a dude that 's more laid back who can calm u down but i guess even her she'd appreciate u taking charge and taking the load off her sometimes
Dang. She handles everyday life, and you handle the surprise birthdays? Damn dude. Don't throw your back out carrying all that weight.
@@lidiagizaw3828 Yeh you right, can definitely ease that burden still.
@@gonzo5648 That's just my cross to bear, but I do what I can.
In the 15 years I’ve been on CZcams, this has been the top 3rd best comment I’ve ever read.
The other two I don’t remember but this one is top notch
As a man, I can confirm that receiving long ass compliments sounds very strange and self-seeking, almost like you're just waiting for the right moment to ask me for a favor afterwards.
Same man. I don't take compliments well at all. I always think there is a catch.
Facts like a "I appreciate it, or Appreciate you" is all it takes
Lol I was gonna say the exact same thing, it almost sounded sarcastic too but I understand the sentiment of what she was saying
It just seems fake to me
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All my psychological systematic alerts will go off. I'll feel I'm being played.
I dont want my girl sayin “I love you being in your masculine energy and protecting me you treat me like a princess” every time I open the door for her lmaoo
Why? You are so boring??
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Just went on a date last night, opening the car door for her. Her simple, “you’re such a gentleman” was enough for me. Anything longer than that feels weird.
Not saying that this is your case, but whenever I say the “you’re such a gentleman” I say is sarcastically, kinda like saying Thank you but you really dont need to do all that.
@@SolitudeVolante someone tries to do something nice like open a door and you feel the need to be sarcastic? And then when you see someone happy about a compliment they got, you feel the need to try to make them insecure about whether it was or not?
You should reevaluate your mindset
@@101Sailorfan you might be taking this way too personally. If a guy is doing to much (in my opinion) Im gonna tell him in a light hearted manner. That’s why I said that this might not be his case, relax.
@@101Sailorfan i say that but i like when guys r being gentleman but i say that in a sarcastic way cus the word kinda feels weird its like js telling me ur so feminine it just feels like a sarcastic compliment
@@princesskadi7 this is what I was trying to say, using the words just feels fake and like theatrics.
Long compliments feel either disingenuous or self indulgent. Like they're showing of how nice they are instead of being nice. Keep it simple.
I just say "rawr" and slap my man on the bum and tell him he's sexy beast, he loves that shit.....
jk, he fkn hates it lol.
why don't guys like it when we slap your bums?
Yea I take a lot of compliments depending on who they’re from with a grain of salt tbh
I used to feel like that too, she would say that I'm special, but I don't see it
I give longer than usual compliments but they're usually about specific things that I really like about a person to show how special and appreciated they are to me. Watching their faces light up and smile always makes my day. Yes, it's self-indulgent because it makes me feel good to raise the mood, but it's mainly to point out that I recognize, in others, qualities that maybe they didn't even know they had. For some of my friends, it was the first time anyone had ever said anything so nice to them, specifically to them. I don't see anything wrong with recognizing the good qualities in other people in this way.
isn't that the only type of compliment women give to men or other women they're all status chasing women have no true friends or agency when thats all their about and not taking accountability makes me happy I'm a man cause I may have less "friends" may not see them as often but they are True friends unlike the backstabbing catty bs I've seen in lesbian groups over 10 years. They're all miserable all talking bad behind one anothers back they only group up when there is a man no behaving in a solemn and sad attitude. They can't accept that they made bad decisions so they just dump all their negativity on any man they can target
The masculine/feminine thing is a little much; she clearly is the ultra feminine princess type who wants a knight in shining armor to compliment her needs. Not all men want a princess to rescue, and not all women want to be princesses.
A healthy relationship is one where both partners feel like their relationship needs are met for a sustainable amount of time.
This is probably the best comment I've seen on here, perfectly explained.
This is pure common sense..not every person is the same...
Wow very well said
What a wonderful comment!!!! Hope you get PINNED!
She’s completely valid in her approach but everyone needs to be honest and forthcoming about how they want their dynamic to be from the start. Women that complain about “feminine men” are assuming men are supposed to be and act in certain ways and same with men who don’t want “nagging women”. It’s not the 50s anymore. Our lives and relationships (thankfully) don’t have to be uniformed.
Ladies, keep it short and sweet.
Last date I had the girl said "I love when you talk like that, it's so sexy", referring to my nerdy talk. Not just what she said but also how girly and giddy she was when she said it to me. I knew it was a genuine reaction because every conversation and date we've had up to that point their has been an noticeable increase in attraction, comfort, depth, intimacy etc...
ladies...keep it however you want it. if you give long, drawn out compliments or whatever else you may do but it's genuine and authentic, then bro will appreciate it. because you are giving out positive energy but in your own way. don't feel like you need to abbreviate the way you express yourself(as long as you're not doing the extras, there is such a thing as attention seeking, being a "pick me", etc.) but if the guy doesn't like the way you put out positive energy then he doesn't like you, because that's all you was tryna do. also make sure you're not just trying to portray that you're a positive person, don't fake the funk. cuz at that point you're just trying to make him think you something you're not. shoutout @ratede91 that's tuff bro
What was it u spoke about? Sorry fellow nerd here that has an obsession with certain things
@@moonknight4053 nothing, because it’s bullshit lmao
@@Ralphwright101 Hey there's people who find nerds who talk about their passion rather attractive y'know. Usually they're fellow nerds lol, just that maybe a nerd for a different subject. And y'know what, it's fun.
90% of the time a simple "thanks" does it for all men, don't complicate it if it doesn't need to be.
Yep, a simple, "Thank you, (insert endearing term)." works wonders.
Haha true bro, but tbh, if it’s doing a job a “oh you did a great job !!” Always helps too tbh
Half the time we don't even expect the gratitude. We just don't want to get actively dragged for it when we're going out of our way to act like decent human beings. Which is exactly why so many of us have just checked out and switched to beer or heroin or video games or something, because why the fuck should I waste my life on a job I hate pissing my whole life away for somebody who's not only ungrateful, but she's going to fucking argue with me with this entitled princess complex too?
Someone needs to tell these girls the world doesn't owe you shit.
The complete 360 we have done is so funny to think about.
"Gender roles are too enforced men need to be more feminine, women need to be more masculine "
Now we are at
" There's too many feminine men and masculine women we need to find out roots"
Lol, that's because the "feminine men/masculine women" thing hasn't been any less enforced, it's just reversed.
when we tear down ancient walls, we then face what they were protecting us from
@@bepishombre8999 this.
I think you meant 180 but I'll let it slide
Thats because you're too online. This shit aint real
I remember fixing a printer for a gf..her mom and aunt lived in the same house with her. It was simple but they really appreciated what I did and admitted that they'd never have figured it out. I remember suddenly feeling different and more comfortable around them, I felt a bit out of place before (it was only the second time I came over to their house)
Its nice to feel appreciated and needed. Good stuff
Exactly
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@@jasonandrews1770 we're not garden tools dude...I don't need to serve women to be a man.
@@cnote3598 thats interesting. Dont remember saying any of that. Was rather refering to how accomplishing a task, helping someone and being appreciated for it felt good. So please contain your insecurities
My husband would literally say to me, “Please put your teacher voice away. I’m not your 2nd grade student.”
I’m with Preach - agree 100% but watch how you talk to your guy. *Don’t patronize or overexplain*
Yes it is not acceptable unless you are our moms or grandmas or aunts.
It's the small things. A look, grabbing your hand, quick compliment, a hug, a kiss, paying attention to what we do...these and others speak volumes more than any explanation.
@user-hf9io6zb6qahhhh okay now I get why youtube has 2 usernames now
I appreciate you sharing my content and always enjoy growing and hearing feedback ✨🙏🏽 Also, the compliments I used are many examples put into one sentence. They’re not suggested to be used all at once. I should’ve clarified that 😜
You are gorgeous beyond words
Lol, please keep the compliments short. Haha
I pray 1 day we stop having this type of shite content
@@demam4648 bruh what energy is that 🤣
@@musical_lolu4811 lol I'm not a bro . & she is beautiful
She literally said masculine energy is about "thinking and doing". That's what everbody does. That's what every lifeform does.
We all literally have both energies, some lean towards one over the other and I don't have a problem if a woman leans more to masculine or vice versa. It's a human thing to do and I don't think it's an issue for the entire population. Like her advice only goes out to certain people, not all.
Her advice is for people who prefer traditional man-woman relationships where people aim to meet expectations.
It’s just astrological type advice lol it’s total bs
um we are human beings, not human doings
@@chefchefchef Yep everything said is another form of that astrology bs
This was good! I’m married and this was useful. My husband fixed our washing machine and u know what? I didn’t even really acknowledge that yet 😅 but that is something I absolutely love about him, he’s handy and totally masculine. ❤❤❤ let me get out of this comment section and let him know 😍
If a man opens the door for me, that is super sweet. I love those little protective things that men do... like 'Be careful' because there's a puddle coming up you didn't notice. Cheesy, but I love it. Do I always say something? No. But just a sincere thank you I think goes a long way, no? Just to show him you took notice...
For most men, at least in my experience, that’s all we want is a bit of recognition that we did a kind thing. Whether it’s a simple thanks, a nod, a smile, a wave, or whatever. Just an acknowledgement for the kindness, that’s all🙂
@@CrippledMerc Yeah, that's sweet and not overdone :)
@@smu7270 I tend to think so too. I hope you’re doing well!😊
@@CrippledMerc Same to you. Happy New Year!
@@smu7270 Happy New Year to you as well! It’s been a pleasure chatting!
I’m over these women telling us about masculinity… to some extent it’s always how “she” feels in the moment.. she sometimes wants you to be feminine and sometimes the opposite..
Which is funny because some of these chicks go to the stoic guys with their emotions in check, but get sad or angry when you’re not emotional
eyup been mocked by women for simply being myself all my life its not my fault some mean girl bullied and shamed you to giving up the things you love so you could clout chase with the in group get over your weak frame of identity and let me enjoy my own
Well, but to be fair, she was not talking to men in this video, but to women. She is telling women to stop behaviors that encroach on a man’s masculinity (e.g his duty, responsibility, position, etc)
But never yourself
Nah women don't want a feminine men period. They don't want a too masculine man either meaning not a viking with chest hair and lifts her up push her in bed ready to F her.
Meaning she finds it hot if the man steps up do some dirty work or take assertive. Don't be an emotional bith
And we are back to the original starting point lmao
They could not live with their own failure and where did that bring them? Back to the start.
Accurate
@@Bradyfamilyhams 🤣🤣🤣"I understood that reference"
@@Bradyfamilyhams We are repeating the same day for a VERY long time.
Like Preach said in a video a while back -- "we went from 'OMG, 50 Shades of Grey is so good', to 'don't talk to me', back to 'pursue me, you're a real man'".
I don’t have “masculinity,” nor “femininity,” come into my thought process. I just do whatever is proven to work in accomplishing my goals.
Yeah I just do me, I do what I want 😂
@@ishyameru6232 Ya, same, except that I’m practical about how I get what I want by doing whatever is proven to be most often successful in achieving my goals. So, I do whatever is most healthy, and try to educate myself. Beyond that, I don’t have many personal preferences.
For real...lmfao
Exactly
That literally is masculine frame, doing the logical thing to achieve your goal lol
How logical. Listening to a woman about masculinity and what men need emotionally
Honestly I see men doing the same thing for women. The world is simply flooded with amateur professionals and social media/CZcams give them the perfect stage
Pov: an “alpha male” does a take on femininity
Both sides are stupid and inconsequential. They might as well be left as a footnote in internet history in 50 years lol
Imma be real, after being in ungrateful relationships bro I FOR A FACT love the appreciation and compliments in this relationship I am in. I go to work and come home motivated as hell. I got two jobs and it helps to have that vs somebody who isn’t grateful.
Thats very understandable, but also I guess it depends on the level of corniness of the compliments. Positive reinforcement is always a good thing but don't overdue it or at least thats how I feel about it
@@Xxxxavvs tbh, my girl and I are happy to have each other and I lived a life void of all that cheesy romance, I sure as hell was never a role model. I just wasn’t a person who let people close enough for that. Now that somebody has been brave enough to stick by me, my life turned around and I cherish the fun cheesy things. I still have a lot to work on as a man, but having someone appreciate the growth vs ignore it makes a drastic difference in my drive to grow on my own and my roles as the man.
SPITTIN FAX OF EXPERIENCE
In my family we say thanks and blessings after every little thing. I grew up seeing that way. I do that to my husband and kids. I felt so bad thinking , should i not? 😅
W.
Of course you're not your man's nurse, mother, therapist, etc etc. BUT if feels sooooo good doing all those things for him and having him appreciate the work I do!
I pack his lunch for work, do laundry, cook supper when he's back from work and his breakfast when he goes to work on nightshift, he sometimes does breakfast and often brings me fancy coffee with foamed milk, I like to ask him about his gym session and progress and always ask about his day (and I'm a nurse so obviously I can't keep myself from doing my job lol). I leave him tf alone to game and sometimes I just watch him, sometimes we're both gaming in separate rooms with our headsets. It makes him happy, it makes me feel more feminine and most importantly, it makes ME happy and complete. I say do what makes you both happy, in our relationship we never spoke about it but we are very oriented towards traditional gender roles and it works magic for us, healthiest relationship we've both had.
That sounds like a perfect relationship dynamic. Of course everything will bring some discussion or arguements, but if that is the core of your relationship, you both had a catch
Sadly you’re the last of a dying breed these ladies weren’t raised to value and respect men a lot of them feel as if they’re better than their man so doing anything for their man is seen as beneath them and being a “slave”
Hey, as long as it feels like and is a partnership, do your thing :) It is hard to argue against 2 people making each other stronger.
I'll call you out and say that you have no idea if she's "the last of a dying breed"
Oh no, they are going to call you a "pick me".
I love this because my man has been through a lot of trauma so when she said “your not his mother, nurse, therapist etc.. that hit so hard because I feel like I have to play all those roles and it’s exhausting. I just want to be his woman and be supportive & encouraging. He’s getting therapy and finally dealing with past trauma which shows me he’s willing to take the extra step to being the man he wants to be, Also in the future I would like to do couples therapy so I can know how to respond to him as well for the improvement of our relationship🤍🙏🏽
She has good points. I think the hardest part in it all is releasing the control and letting your partner have a say or the oppurtunity to do. Requires a lot of trust (some of it blind).
And then when I’m masculine it’s “why are you listening to doom metal, why don’t you tell me how you feel, you’re too distant” then when I do those things she goes and makes a video like this. Can’t win. Don’t adhere to their standards. Be who you want to be and don’t change just because a person wants you to.
Notice how no matter how great of a person you become, you will probably have to adhere to their standards one way or another
Idk women are weird one minute they shame you for being too masculine and then shame you for acting the slightest bit feminine. Its like you can't be both at the same time.
I'm a nerdy muscular short dude with good looks. When I sit down women find me attractive when I stand up they mock me but I mention a work out session and I'm phatphobic and sexist ............... Yeaaaah sounds pretty biggoted to me
Doom Metal LMAO
That’s the best advice, it is not black and white, you can have a man or a woman who have a bit from both, masculine and feminine but it fits. There are many people who will fit to you and those who don’t will find their partner.
Shout out to women who support their man's masculinity. Also... kombucha is nasty.
Yeah i don't understand how that shits actually popular with anybody.
You must've had some bad kombucha
I just googled that shit, it's basically fermented tea with sweetener, yeast and bacteria. No wonder Preach has poop smoothies drinking that
Why are there women who want masculine confident men but enjoy belittling men at the same time? Makes zero sense
I had kombucha. Once.
The “Bruh she’s not talking to you” at 9:12 KILLED ME 😂😂😂😂😂
Just imagine a guy saying "I can be in my masculine energy for the right woman" 🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️
They do that allllll the time… just in differentiating words. E.g., “I’ll take a wifey type on a nice date date and pay but not a booty call”…
@@TuffLuv1984 That's not the same. That's the difference between treatment of a ho3 and a housewife.
They do.
u expect her to let u lead when u a shitty dancer ?
@@goodguy...badrep. YOU CAN'T TURN A HO INTO A HOUSEWIFE! HOS DONT ACT RIGHT! THERE'S HOS ON A MISSION AND THERE'S HOS ON A CRACKPIPE!
Asking a woman to help find your masculine energy is like asking a vegan to help find a good steakhouse.
Edit: yall need to chill its just a dumb joke. Not that deep
But a woman who’s truly feminine knows what true masculine energy is. It’s a natural attraction.
Vegans ate meat at one time so why couldnt they point you to a good steakhouse?? 😂🤣😂🤣
@@ladybug3380 A truly feminine woman is about as extinct as true masculine men. These women who claim to possess true feminine energy have about as much as a transwoman has, aka, all fake on the outside, no true inner beauty on the inside. That's what this world classifies as feminine energy nowadays. Pink dress, lots of makeup, high heels, fake eye lashes and nails, cutesy walk and fake acting out a social constructed role. Ofc you could be talking about 'actual' balanced feminine energy but who knows at this point. It's all fake nowadays.
@@ladybug3380 look at it like a customer product relationship. Feminine women are the customers of masculine men. Other masculine men are the salesman.
@@eigna8914 I always wondered if vegan vvomen refuse to sw*ll*w. 🤔
The thing is, extreme feminine energy is a little girl, and extreme masculine energy is a dad, and one leads to the other. So the different energies need to be moderate instead of extreme, so that you have a sexy adult woman and a strong sexy man without any creepy DDLG, Daddy + My Little Princess vibes.
Thank you! I'm female and am baffled by the types of girls saying they want men to make decisions for them. I always think they sound like they want to be treated like children (and that they probably have daddy issues).
And the type of men who would be into this... it's just weird vibes all around.
@@TheFirstHurrah Be by yourself then or get a weak man!
@@TheFirstHurrah The issue is no one explains exactly what it means when they said let the men make the decision. What is meant is female is able to give input but at the end of the day the male will make the final decisions based on what is known and the input from the partner. Hence why there is always a leader in everything that comes with decisions.
@@TheFirstHurrah If i have to make all the decisions for a women then i will not respect her or take her seriously.I will treat them like 9 year old girls rather than adult women
@@anthonybutler2001 So according to you, a "strong" man doesn't want an equal relationship?
I’ve been with my man 6 years and he’s never planned anything or taken charge once. It’s really frustrating as I am naturally very feminine. I’ve tried stepping back and letting him take charge and he gets annoyed by it that he has to. He wants me to be both the feminine and masculine. I have to take care of the bills, plans, fix things, look after the kids, cook, clean, make money, organise all appointments, deal with the real estate, organise the groceries and pay for it, drive to places while he’s a passenger (he does have a license), take the kids to school, be involved with their school and teachers. God I’m getting exhausted just writing this all.
You don't have a man, you have a child.
He’s not “feminine” he’s just fucking lazy 😂
If what you're saying about him is 100% true and if you had no kids with him I would have said you should leave his lazy behind and make better choices with men next time, but kids need both parents in the house ...for the sack of your kids you need to wake his ass up because judging from what you're saying, you are no longer invested in him and you just don't want him no more
If a man does not provide and protect then he is not doing his duty as a man ..does he not pay the bills coz he don't have a job or just because?
Having said that ma'am ..i hope you are not too masculine yourself because typically when a man stops doing what he needs/has to do as a man it's for a reason ..a man will stop fulfilling his duties of loving providing and protecting you when he fills disrespected and unappreciated ..do you let him lead you or you think you should both be leaders ..you say you are feminine but do you submit to your man. You could be masculine and you don't realise it. Man will stop putting effort in relationships were they feel like they are being disrespected and unappreciated, that could be the reason why his acting the way he is
I know being a working mom can be overwhelming and you would appreciate it if people around you would do more to help you around the house ..ive seen it 2 of my cousin sisters are single mothers and I have sisters who are married and are working moms. My mom is still working and still with my dad even though non of her children are still kid now. But, you as the home maker should focusing on making sure your house is a home and you, your man and your kids are a family and let your man handle the finances ..if your man does have a job, don't pay the bills that's really not your responsibility its his, even if you got the money, don't use your money to buy the groceries around the house he should be the one to finance that ..make sure everytime you need something from the store, no matter how small the item you need is RESPECTFULLY ask him for the money to get what you need and always say thank you when he give it to you. It will make him fill more appreciated it will make him feel like his providing for his family and it will make him feel like his family need him. Your life with him will change and trust me the relationship that you want with your man will begin to manifest.
Ma'am by you taking care of the bills and all the finance and being "independent" and playing his role and doing the duties of a man in the household ..you are making yourself masculine and that's is why he ain't doing nothing for you anymore. Stop competing with you and be cooperative. He innately knows his duties and role as a man you know yours so stop tryna do his part and then complain that his ain't doing nothing while you're doing what his supposed to be doing
Yea I usually don't say shit like this but you should dip... Sounds like a lost cause.
I can say it to him. "I am telling you that because I respect you. I am frustrated in this relationship that is suppose to be a team. I am a solo player and you need to step up and do something because you doing nothing is a problem and if this co tinue it might be the end of my love for you."
I swear preach your laugh is pure therapy. If you depressed just put preach on
You’re right about the long shit but a short acknowledgement of people doing stuff for you feels good. So when he opens a door, you smile and say thank you, that’s so sweet! My husband has been thanking me for making dinner every time I do since we got married, even when I do a half assed job. It absolutely makes me feel like it’s worth the effort and fuels me going all out when I can. I think some women, when they’re mad at men for not appreciating them, don’t realize this is a two way street. You want to be treated like a princess, you gotta treat him like…I’d say prince, but guys don’t want that, they want to be treated like a valued and respected MAN, emphasis on valued.
Basically, don't treat anyone like 💩 especially when you say you love them and they are trying to give their 100% each day. Appreciating and valuing things someone does, with words, needs to be a thing, in that case
I tend to lead in terms of finances and home improvements because that was the way I was raised but I do love when my husband takes charge and is in a more protective mode. I'm pregnant with our first child and he worries when I carry a laundry basket up the stairs and I think it's sweet. I think its just more about knowing your strengths and weaknesses in a relationship.
I get a bit creeped out when people are always smiling at me when talking. Also long compliments make me really uncomfortable. Lol. I'm crappy at socializing, but I can spot a fake smile.
Right! like girl relax
I feel you on that. Any compliment I get from a woman, I’m always on some defensive shit.
One of the hard things for me was growing up with a dominant and emotionally distant father (but still very much present) and also a very assertive mother. I was denied my "masculine energy" until my mid 20's since my father always had to be the "man" and make all decisions and my mother always demanded to be consulted before I did anything. It played hell with my confidence independance. Still struggling by my mid 30's but a lot better.
Kinda similar to me actually, my mom has always treated me and my brothers like incompetent idiots right up to me being 26, when my father started showing alzheimers symptoms, and then we had to all the sudden make the man of the house decisions
@@Captain_Insano_nomercy Yea, I moved to the other side of the planet by my late 20's and my father died in 2019 so both these events were vital to my transition into a more assertive action taking man. First by choice, second by circumstance. But looking back, I see why I struggled with social aspects since I would panic and not have a freaking clue how to independently act or always seek approval from others before doing anything. Which, understandably made me look anxious or at worst- incompetent. Luckily I see that now so I go out of my way to leave my comfort zone when I can to force the driven and motivated part in me and push the mild-mannered complacent follower in me aside. It's a struggle, and I know many fellow guys out there have this issue.
Coyote, when u said incompetent idiots I couldn’t help but think of how British characters can be… You sound more human then u think,
@@m.a.118 kinda same again, at 18 I joined the military and left home for 6 years. Bout a year after that I became a private contractor for the military, so I was overseas for a lot of my mid/late twenties too. This was only a few years back, but I recall the moment where all the sudden my mom expected the boys to just become man of the house one second later, and none of us knew even how to tell our dad to do anything, because he was such a strong and competent guy
@@m.a.118 this comment truly spoke to me as i too know what it feels like to have a dominant and emotionally distant father and also still trying to grow in the assertive department.
1:44 " the world is out of balance"
This woman must have been watching avatar
Wow ... is this the first time anyone knows about appreciation, kindness and compassion ... if you love yourself, you should be able to show that to others with ease
Nobody is supposed to lead in a relationship…both are supposed to support each other. That’s the whole point of a relationship.
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Thanks..people are crazy with their leading crap!!
how single are you?
Men lead women follow
If your nuance is that the men and the women do their roles then thats supporting. But a man generally leads
Yeah my gf is exactly like this bc it was culturally engrained in her given that she was brought up in china. And we initially tried evenly splitting work but found that she enjoyed it when I did things for her (even unnecessary things) and I enjoyed making her happy so it benefited our relationship. She can cook some mad Chinese food and I can do the washing etc.
That's sweet. I wish my ex thought like this but that's why he's an ex. He expected me to do everything and he barely do anything then he'd complain despite him making lots of mistakes too.
I'd love to see some content from Aba about dancing and having confidence in that. As a dude I feel awkward as hell when I try to dance at a party or something so I just avoid it. But when I'm home alone I love to dance and get funky with my music, but I probably look like I'm having a seizure compared to someone who actually knows what they're doing.
She is on a roll and I'm taking notes. That dancing reference made so much sense! Thank you Aba & Preach!!
She's right about leaning back and letting men fix problems.
I feel like we've all either had a friend who dated a girl or we have dated a girl who just criticizes everything they do and it makes them check out. If they would just shut up and get out the way the man would naturally fix the problems on his own. I know for me, I just changed the doorknobs in the house because they were looking nasty and no one even noticed but it's like my animal instinct to fix shit.
Lol, my husband is the same way. If something is broke, he needs to fix it.
Gotta take those little wins to stay positive sometimes. Stack em up and you feel pretty damn effective.
@@JP2GiannaTThis isn’t really much different from you being hyper aware of your child when he/she was an infant (assuming you have kids). If something is making the baby cry, you’re gonna be urgent on fixing it. Think that trait can be shared amongst both sexes depending on what they’re inclined to immediately fix.
But that only works for physical things. You try to fix a woman's shit so you don't have to hear the bitching anymore, now you just went and uncovered a whole new level of hell.
@@custos3249 Women love to stay broken. It’s a victim thing.
I always like how the bare minimum always seems to be like some challenge people have to learn that ends up making this shit sound manipulative af. Basically, ladies, if your man does something you like, let it be known. Same with dudes, if you like what she is doing, make it known. This shit is crazy when basic relationships edicate is treated like some tip. Ew my niggas lol
big facts. “masculine energy matching my feminine energy” like bitch just say y’all need to communicate lmao
Bro people over complicate this way too much, master the basics of communication before testing all this jargon.
😂 😂 😂 I just found myself shouting "OMG B, just get in the f***kin car!" during that part of her advice lol...
This is actually gold. Most women get this shit wrong. I see this one a lot: They take charge and then there's nothing left for the man to do lol.
I like it ahah. Women can have all the responsibility they want no cap.
Ladies keep the "you make me feel like a princess" crap. Keep it simple. THANK YOU and I'M SORRY! Literally that simple
sorry about what?
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If she wants me to make her feel like a princess....I’m marrying her off to strengthen my alliance with Spain
Lmfaoooo😂😂😂😂😂 as a women I hate that too 💀 cringey as hell
@@weswolever7477 why Spain? they got almost no strategic value, marry into the British Royal Family and get that Commonwealth influence
100% right on the appreciation... That's like 50% what a man honestly needs from his woman. Respect and appreciation it goes a long way
1:29 I'm naturally shy so this is legit how I look when greeting people for the first time. lmao
People. Please be who you are. I don't understand any of this. If you need another person to help you be yourself I hope eventually you can be your own person on your own two feet. I'm so over this masculine/feminine bullsh*t, lol.
Amen..these people are silly with their masculine feminine crap..
Exactly! It all boils down to being a decent human being
honestly, as a man I want to feel protected and provided for as well....., why isn't that a two way street? I like being the one to do it, but I also like being on the receiving end of protection and provision, being made to feel safe......., I also like being able to express and share my emotions and being taken care of, so not sure what she means by don't be his nurse, therapist, etc....... but I think this needs some context cause it depends on how you execute those roles. I don't mind as long as she's not manipulative or controlling and respects my individuality/independence and would probably love her for it.........
Are you telling us that men are sensitive creatures too? Woow!! Could you believe it? Lol
@@afrosamourai400 I'm confused by the sarcasm here
@@thegamereaper5730 how and why?
I will have to try this. I wish my man would take charge and actually follow through with anything at this point.
One of many examples: one time the plumbing in my bathroom was messed up. I went to fix it. My dude at the time says it was a man's job. After 1,5 hours he had taken half of the bathroom apart! It was a mess. He said we had to call a plumber. I went in and fixed the problem in 30 minutes. He was FURIOUS that I fixed it. Instead of being happy we saved money by not having to pay a plumber. A "Thank you" would be nice. But not necessary. I am willing to fix things without thanks, just don't be ANGRY at me for fixing things. That makes no freaking sense! Am I supposed to pretend to be stupid just to stroke his male ego? Men can't always do things better than women. Who tf teach men to be so full of themselves? Stop that. It's ruining relationships.
yup u have to baby them sadly especially if they are not confident enough
4:35 was brillllliiiannttttt “get in this masculine energy & help me move this couch” LoL
Drinking Kombucha in the middle of a video shoot opened her up to a full-on roasting by Aba and Preach
7:50 I’m a woman and I don’t like those long, drawn out compliments
Short affirmations are what work and that's why me and mine have been together for as long as we have. It also doesn't have to always be verbal either. Body language and shows of appreciation that are non material work too.
To be honest all a chick needs to do is say" thank you" and occasionally "I appreciate what you do for me" and that's more than enough to show love imo. However, I will say that the sentiment behind what the lady is tryna say is largely appreciated.
You guys just make me feel like a princess watching this video! Thank you for being the black knights in shining armor, these things that you do for me...
black knights in shining armor 😂
She said all the right things, just worded as a girl would like to hear it. Translate it to how guys speak, and she’s golden.
I personally think a long compliment is great every once in a while, but if every compliment about me handling my shit like man is long and drawn out, I’ll start feeling like it’s disingenuous.
Short, Sweet, simple, and to the point.... When you start hitting me with long sentences or stories I literally tune out and I can't control it I just glaze over.... Like I can struggle against the process of glazing over and still end up glazed over.... If you want your man to not know a damn thing you said say it the longest way possible and he will not know anything that happened
No man I love long ass compliments. When a woman writes to me a long text about all the things I did that made her feel good, I highly doubt anyone not wanting something like that. Protect this woman at all costs.
Idk too much feels manipulative
Bruh 100. I think dudes here saying ‘feels manipulative’ cause they not used to grateful & honest women. Maybe for some there’s nothing to appreciate and be grateful for in the first place lmao
@@jetla22 there’s people out there worth lowering these walls a bit my man
I think the context matters. A long text about you ordering Chinese may come off as insincere or overkill
@@zolantemo3482 true, and I understand where those folks are coming from as well. Women definitely have a tendency to overcompensate to try to get things from you but I assure you there are women out there who are radically honest and when you find some of them share what they feel, you'll be on top of the world, even though for a while. Haha. The people you come across are a reflection of you so that's also something to think about.
Man I remember being annoyed and turned off by the long constant compliments by my girl, lol now that she my wife they've turned into long and drawn out complaints. Damn I miss those complicated 🤣.
She the type to tell you pick what we eat and when you do she says no to the 1st 5 places you pick
a smile, and a quick kiss. Thats all my masculine energy requires. Maybe I'm only speaking for myself, but as a man, Iess is more.
In today's dating climate it sounds a little risky. It's best to talk about these things openly first. Don't assume anything. Otherwise, you might end up in court listening to a transcript of how you were possessive, controlling and manipulative during your divorce proceedings. 😄This reminds me of Bill Burrs sketch about women giving other women advice on what men like.
So you listen to women about what women like in dating and relationships or other men?
@@TuffLuv1984 Neither. People aren't a hive mind, they're individuals. Also blindly taking anyone's advice at face value is stupid. Regardless whom they are.
@@anonymousbo0318 well said
@@anonymousbo0318 yuuuup
The vibe and chemistry between you too is incredibly uncanny please keep it up 💪
I've been partner dancing for close to 7 years. You can really tell a girl's personality by the way she plays her role.
She has that smile that is untrustworthy but is meant to make you feel at ease, and her overall aura is just weird. I wouldn't take advice from her ever about how to be more masculine.
She kind of gives off that vibe where she’s one of those women that try to leech off men financially
More like she took a class on how to talk to crowds or something. Not authentic but not entirely manufactured..
Most of these women are golddiggers 🤢
Interesting the same can be said when men try to tell women how to be feminine.🥴
@@sensibilityspeaksany dude telling women how to be women is stupid. From what I’ve seen though it’s mostly the type of women they like and want.
Ok at first I thought she was going a different route with this. But listening to her and thinking about my own experiences, what she saying makes sense. Minus the 3 minute appreciation speech.
Preach making those noises when she takes a sip lmao
Made her video 5x funnier to watch
If my girl starts talking about how I make her feel like a princess I’d cringe so hard and be “keep that up and you’re royalty’s are flying out the window”💀
when Preach done that brbrbrb sound when she drunk kombucha it literally almost made me shit myself. was rolling a blunt before going to shitter and listening to this and I had to focus mu whole being to keep my cheeks squeezed not to soil myself whilr crying laughing hysterically
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Case in point! LOL
"Absolutely. Let's hit it."
In regards to long compliments:
When it's surface level things... no. I do that shit satirically. I say a drawn out compliment is only warranted when you and whomever have experienced some shit together. Yall have context more than just the end result. Overall men like to hear good job, you're appreciated, I'm proud of you. Especially, if it's from someone of significance and has seen the growth.
Aba's such a geek, love it! "let me put on my vault dweller outfit."
"Babe, I believe that it is incredibly stimulating, by the subject of the matter in this particular case I, specifically, mean the fact that you have chosen to take the instance of initiative into your own big, strong hands, and lead the conversation that we are currently having into a very benign direction which directly correaltes with the decisive nature of the discussion. You have actively chosen to pursue the solely singular and self-responsible decision to take you and I to consume food this part of the late post-afternoon evening in the night, and I cannot overstate how incredibly important it is that you have chosen to make this decision. To have the mental capacity to actively observe your immediate surroundings, and not only that, but to consider the external and cosmic factors that might even slightly impact my feminine mind, and to anticipate such, with incredible mental faculty and dexterity, is simply astounding. Not only do you possess incredible insight, but you are capable of keeping in mind my incredibly multi-faceted, 4-dimensional feelings both in their apparent state and quantum state, observing the fluctuating wave patterns of my emotional and spiritual being, and comprehending it. It is a most incredible thing and you are an exponentially wonderful human, masculine manly man being and I cannot wait to suck the nut out your fat dick."
This pure gold I’m so happy I’m no longer a confused teen. I’m still a confused ass adult but I’m a bit less lost.
I mean, you should do this no matter the gender. You do what works for the individuals in that specific relationship.
I have a lot of anxiety and need control and routine in my life. I also can't stand touches from other people, hugs, randos putting their hand on me, blah! But with my HUSBAND! He is my sanctuary, my anchor. All my boundaries drop, all my control, I'm so happy I can just give it all up and go, "you can take the lead, babe." Decide our weekend, where we're going, what we're eating, surprise me so I don't have to think anymore and he's the only one I want to snuggle up with and cling to etc. In saying all that!!! If I want something my way, I speak up or I just make it happen the way I want and that's that. He has his strengths and weaknesses, and I have mine.
Facts! Every person is specific and different..so is every relation
@Phoenix Rising stop letting men pay your way and protect you and we won't feel like we should lead you. Simple. The answer for women like you is pay for your own shyt. Hell pay for the man too, the more men u spend money on, the less they will lead you( this experiment is proven)
@Phoenix Rising yeah exactly. Be all those traditional male things and I'll be all those traditional female things that suit me. But as soon as someone tries to force me well.... he knows what happens. I have a serious attitude problem with people in authority that abuse their position.
@@anthonybatissa1417 your power of perception is astounding.
@Anthony Batissa what are you smoking? Your comments have no point or reason. Go try get a rise somewhere else
I had a woman like her. Black and had high positive energy like her but when she complimented me it was just too over the top and long. It turned me off and just felt like it was too much. She knew she was too much though and told me to tell her when she was being too much. The thing with me though is I'm not going to stop someone from being their natural self.
I feel you on this but honestly you gotta learn to draw your lines because ive had a similar experience and in my case since she gave me such compliments she felt obligated to receive the same energy and even more and it took a lot away from who i was because it wasn’t me, but again to each their own🤝
2:24 “21 CAN YOU DO SUM 4 MEE” 💅🏽
“So many men are in their feminine energy…” 😅 I swear they kept saying the opposite was “toxic” 😮(not that I believe that all that BS 😆
I get what they're going for: they tryna go for balance.
The problem is, they got no idea where that balance is and, a lot of the time, it'll be two things that contradict each other on the most fundamental level (eg, stoicism *and* open emotion).
@D2daR they shouldn't get to chose that. They want to be free, let us as men be free too..
You do understand that people are individuals, right. Not everyone likes the same thing, it varies from person to person.
@@d2dar459 Stoic as a definition or adjective isn’t synonymous with the philosophy of Stoicism. I’ve studied the 3 major texts on Stoic philosophy and it says nowhere within Aurelius, Seneca, or Epictetus texts to reject emotion entirely and be quiet. That’s just wrong.
@@alyxfaust5663 smh bruh… just because men don’t become emotional wrecks when they’re dealing with stuff doesn’t mean we “reject our emotions entirely”. We just don’t express or deal with our emotions in the same ways women do, its crazy as a man yourself you’re running around with these talking points … U think women are gonna see this and want to date you or something?
Being stoic is being able to go through hardships without complaining, not “Rejecting your emotions”
So are we too masculine or feminine bruh I sware to god this nonsense is out of control we are back to square 1 😂😂😂
been called both and no one will explain
If you need validation from a woman on your energy then you know what energy you have.
Masculine and feminine are supposed to be archetypes, (representations of male and female) those archetypes are connected to certain traits. Male is assertiveness, leadership. Feminine is nurturing, kindness. In short people are supposed to have both masculine and feminine traits.
Usually men have more masculine traits then feminine (and vice versa) but there are men who have more feminine traits (and vice versa).
I think there is a problem where people think that having more traits of the other gender makes you the other gender (or the I won’t let my son play with dolls because that’s girl shit is also wrong)
To some extent men should know how to nurture and women should know how to lead, even if it’s not what they usually do.
she wants u hard enough to protect her but soft enough to make love to her
Nice to see you guys agree with what she's saying. It's reassuring to hear that masculine guys actually appreciate and respond positively to our feminine energy. Same energy, different words, though. Awesome you made this video.
11:45 the moment when preached turned and gasps the second you mentioned back leading as a bachata and kizomba Dance Lead dancer I felt his pain at personal level.i have quit mid song on follows that just do not understand that I'm trying to make you look amazing but it requires you to trust me just a little bit
It’s a blessing when these 2 upload
The thing is, when it feels rehearsed and people give this “advice” like say exactly this and do that, it feels not only forced but like you’re telling people how to think and what to do. Preach was on a podcast with Jedidiah who likes this kinda stuff, but in that podcast she was more “I like masculinity! It has a place!” she seemed confident and open to other opinions. Don’t be like “I love the way you do this cause it results in this and makes me feel like this and do this” what about just, maybe advising people to say “thank you” lol. But otherwise this was kinda refreshing tbh
Yeah, you dont have to have long drawn out compliments. Just say thanks. Let them know that you appreciate what they do.
I jus appreciate him for everything he does right there and then. Say thank you every time he does anything for me even if it’s something small like passing me more covers when I’m jus abt to sleep.
And say I love you whenever he leave jus to make sure he knows whilst being apart.
10:00 is not necessarily true. Women and men have been known to make bad decisions when it comes to compatibility standards with partners and stay in those relationships for waaay longer than needed if they just dipped. Just surrendering yourself to a man that YOU think is a responsible adult is like going to a frat party that YOU think will be fun, even though the party is run by a house that is known to take advantage of party goers. Having a good barometer of who we are and who we surround ourselves with is probably a starting point to this advice. We can't just take advice like this and take it as gospel because there's alot of prerequisites to them to function correctly.
It's interesting how for most of my life I rejected my masculinity as something bad or negative, but during covid I started to realize that I needed to be a better person, as I worked on myself, I saw Kevin Samuels content for males. It helped transformed me into a masculine dude, take charge, lead, support. Etc not the alpha male stuff. And ever since then, the energy I seem to give off now let women treat me waaaayy different, mom would never let me do anything, now I'm the decision maker, at work, I've seen women move across the room for my assistance and I noticed how women tend to stay in femininity around me, I used to attract and date a lot of bi tomboy/masculine types girls, I didn't even like telling women what to do, but now when I issue commanding type advise they don't hesitate.
But what I'm sorry she didn't address here and this is a leading issue I'm able to see now with my female friends and their spouses is that, for a male to command like that, to lead, support etc, even if he's masculine, he needs to actually be competent to her, thru action, and while you may be a super masculine dude, you also need to be a guy of results in order to earn that, I guess much like dancing if you are following and you don't trust your leader that's an entirely new problem
I believe this is the wave happening across the world right now. Men rejecting masculinity, most for a poor characture of femininity. Same with women.
@@natashaharsh9793 I think that's bad, especially if you're a straight person, it's actually best for straight people to stay in there feminine or masculine respectively, I had so much imbalances, depression and rejected by many women because I just didn't meet certain expectations. I hope people realize that we need a healthy amount of both and not a full blown one sided thing
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If a shorty started talking to me like that i wouldn’t trust it😂 id feel sum kinda backhanded comments coming soon after😂
When you think it’s going to be a roast session but they actually giving props. Lol, but seriously I appreciate that when I’m watching your videos I feel like they’re are watching them together and we’re reacting together 😂
Granted, she is talking to women they love long winded conversations so she doing well for her audience.
LOL
Her : I'm not acting feminine unless I want to otherwise I'm in my masculine energy
Noise in the middle of the night..... Her: Gets under the covers in the fetal position
then calls the cops like an adult .hilarious that that's all u bring to the table
Shorter acknowledgements are definitely better, but to be honest the acknowledgement in any capacity is definitely greatly appreciated and absolutely pumps me up in a way that makes me love her even more. So while the longer responses are a bit much, I’d appreciate the effort and acknowledgement anyways