Visiting My Dad in Prison | Chiquis and Chill S3, Ep 17
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Visiting My Dad in Prison | Chiquis and Chill S3, Ep 17
Hi, everyone! I’m opening up about something really personal today. Many of you know my dad has been in prison for a long time for sexually abusing me as a kid. And as I work through my healing, I’ve decided that visiting him will complete that journey. So, tune in to hear more about my decision and why I’ve decided to see him face-to-face for the first time in decades.
Original Air Date: March 25, 2024
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As a mother and a victim myself I can't say I wasn't disappointed hearing this. To forgive him is your choice but to petition to get a child molester into society and willingly exposing more children to him is wild to me and definitely not ok! 💔
All that weed she smokes is getting to her.
She is sick she slepted with her step dad so what can u the expect
I now I have doubts if she had been molested with this family has so many twist and turns she make me think I am crazy I would want him in jail I do not want him out to hurt someone else and she would think of him see her child if she had one it crazy it strange to me
Absolutely! I can't wrap my head around this. I hope she comes to a realization once she has kids of her own because there is no amount of therapy that can teach you how to protect your own children.
No, no, and no!
Forgiving for your own peace of mind is fine, but petitioning for a sexual abuser to be released earlier is not. He may have changed but there’s a risk of reoffending. And no one should be put at risk of becoming another victim.
Absolutely 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽💯
Not only that..did you listen to what she said about all this crap about forgiveness? Like lady her grandfather and Juan did nothing compared to what her dad did. Not only to her but to Rosie too. Why not forgive her moms side of the family? Since she preaches forgiveness. All that weed she smokes is messing up her brain.
@@AG-91109 weed has nothing to do with it, go smoke a blunt and relax
@@SandraC-lr3cd you must be a pot head too.. 🤣
Exactly what I was thinking!!!
Okay then forgive your moms side of the family too, what your dad did to you was way worse
OMG!! BINGO! SAY IT LOUDER.
That was years ago. The crap the familia is doing now is recent and they are liars about the whole thing.
Wtf? @@klaimster3184 el guey abused her sexually. That is worse. Not only her but Rosie too. Sicko
It’s not your choice to make and she had time to heal from what he did. Versus what her mother side of the family has done
@@Chronicallymanette have you ever been sexually abused by your father? You would know...that you never heal!
I do not believe Chiquis and her sister have healed mentally. This is not normal for victims to wanna have a relationship their abuser.
Nor take their last name.
The fact that she says that her dad was a good dad in the am but rapist a night…clearly she doesn’t see it as he would groomed her to believe that. A good dad doesn’t rape their children.
Más creo que ella aceptaba eso por eso odia tanto a Rosie ojalá no salga ese señor por el buen de nuestras hijas
@@yaniramartinez7981 exacto es un monstruo a mí no me importa cuántos años tenga si se arrepiente o no el diablo nunca duerme
If it weren’t her father I’m sure she wouldn’t want to know anything about him. But since he’s her father she blocked the other side of of him that hurt her
Saying it is admirable his wife stuck by him after doing the worst possible thing a father could do to his daughter is INSANE. You lost it girl. You can forgive him without trying to advocate for his release. And it’s insane that your sister would still communicate with him and want her daughter to meet him like if he’s some long lost dad that’s just been vacationing. He’s in prison for the worst thing on earth. This was a horrible take.
I get you
I think she's definitely lost her mind!!
Making your babygirl meet a sex offender is insane to me. I don't know what Jacqui is thinking.
@@oceanwaves8589 she is not.
@@AG-91109 Chiquis literally said it in this video that Jaylah wants to meet the man, and that Jacqui is thinking about taking her.
1. I wonder if her perspective would change once she has a child of her own. 2. I wonder if Jackie would allow him to be left alone with her children, knowing what he did to chiquis. 3. The fact that it’s been years, and years, and he still hasn’t owned up to his actions and hasn’t asked for forgiveness is insane. Also, when people in prison “change” it’s hard to know if they’ll reoffend considering that they haven’t had that temptation of reoffending in prison. He hasn’t been around a child so how do you really know he’s changed?
I also wonder if Jackie’s daughter knows about everything and if she will still be so eager to meet him.
Exactly... All criminals change behind them 4 walls... Know numerous of them and once they released back in society they forget about God and bad habits pick up
Yup & sometimes they use being “godly” as a front to do evil.
Im sorry Chiquis, but if he did that to you, sister and aunt, most likely he did it to his other child and can continue to do it 😢
The day this woman has a child and realizes the real magnitude of harming a child it will click. Right now she’s giving “I’m sooo healed look at how healed I am” the thing is she isn’t the only victim so it’s not her place to say he got too much time.
👏👏👏👏👏👏
The fact that you remember the details of what he did to you is what makes me confused to why you are open to talking with him. What’s more crazy is that you want to go visit him. 🤯
It’s probably like that Stockholm Syndrome. 🤒
@@katm41 how does that happen🙈 I guess I just don’t understand because I feel the complete opposite. Till this day I continue to get friend requests from my childhood abuser and it messes with me sm. Makes me nervous and scared because it brings back disgusting memories and its just so wrong to want to reach out now after so many years after what happened why would you.
@@JessicaGarcia25Why haven't you reported him?
@@JessicaGarcia25that is disgusting!! What a sick monster!!
Big NO no no no no no. !! After all these years he never asked forgives or admit what he did was wrong speaks LOUD and CLEAR.. That should have been the 1st thing he did years ago.. Ppl want to believe someone chances while they are in prision but fail to remember they dnt have access to children or ppl to that they desire to offended so yes of course they all turn to the lord while in prision and want to do better between those 4 walls but had they had full access will they reoffend or offend and offend because they got a slap on the hand. Everyday we hear sex offender being released and committing again and even worse... You can forgive but having a relationship i could never do.. You will get the answer now because he will say what you want to hear .. Ahhh chiquis more power to you girl but sex offenders/rapist i could NEVER
Facts
The sick part of this is can you imagine the face of Rosie if he was to be let go? She was also a victim! Chiquis you are a sick human being
I would not be able to speak or even see my abuser EVER. To think back at what was done and how much it affected me makes me sick to my stomach. I have kids and I can’t imagine anyone hurting them the way it was done to me. Idk what kind of therapy makes you want to forgive and reach out to the person who hurt you in the most sick way.
My father molested me from a young age to young teenager . He only got 7 years and did half. My father should have never been out. I went to his place after he died and he had tons of porn and binoculars when there was a school next door. I get you that you want to forgive him. Good. But he did something that was not ok. It’s dangerous and it’s a behavior you can’t really change. How would you like being responsible for other possible victims that he can hurt once he’s out. That’s a huge possibility that you can’t stop him from doing. He can still be that charming groomer that can deceive and charm. I became a mom and no way would I want a molester around my child or any child. He cheated me out of a potential trauma free life, one that he caused. All the BS that I suffered and still do while I am in my 50’s . He robbed my innocence and you would put an innocent child at his disposal for this harm? You can do anything you want for your growth but there is a difference at letting a mentally disturbed man out into society to destroy another child. Questions to ask him, why did he molest you? You were a child, his daughter with a responsibility to love and protect and not use for his disposal. If he can’t and hasn’t yet addressed it, he using faith to Charm and groom his followers into believing a reality they isn’t real. If you say he probably hasn’t addressed it yet because he had his parents…he sure didn’t think of them or your mom or you when he molested you. His thought process is hard wired to only think of himself as he continues to do. You can forgive him but it’s your responsibility to make sure that he never does this to anyone else. You testified against him to make sure he didn’t. It’s your job to make sure to do nothing to break that protection of other children. He’s only 50… about the age my father was molesting me. Seems to me and anybody that since he hasn’t addressed it then he’s still in denial and has not rewired his thought process into making responsible life choices. I wouldn’t give my abuser the privilege of seeing his sexual prize and gloating at how lucky he was at being able to score such a beautiful innocent child. Nope. You don’t need to wish him harm but also no need to be responsible for him. Seems to me that you feel responsible for his well being and incarceration. Not cool. Let his wife who stands by him be that fool, not you.
This is so offensive and disgusting for anyone that is a victim of sexual assault. This lady/Senora almost 40 years old (Chiquis) is asking people to forgive a man that rapped 4 little girls, which includes her mother Jenny Rivera, who he impregnated at age 15 and violently abused her for many years, he also committed incest by forcing himself on his two daughters, and Rosie her aunt, that just a monster that belongs locked up in a cage. I understand Chiquis is also a victim and I am truly sorry that he did terrible things to you but honestly this is not the message you want to send to other victims that you should forgive a monster that takes advantage of children, no one that loves their children does that. Chiquis needs to hire a better therapist and public relations person!!!! Everyone saying this is her story is correct, but to go on the internet and demand others be equally ignorant and disgusting baffles me. No kids, do not forgive your parents if they molest you, that is not okay!!!!!!! And if you have kids do not handed them over to a child predator, terrible message!!!!!!
This is exactly how a feel! I hope others going through this don't see this as "healthy healing"! Most victims will tell you the toughest part is having people support you in reporting him/her and making them accountable for their actions and here she trying to get him out early and exposing more children to him. Her message is definitely damaging
Exactly… very disappointing and disgusting!!!
I agree with you 100%. She is a public figure and a lot of people identify with her story and she should have talked all this with her therapist. It seems from her perspective that survivors have to somehow forgive and help their abusers. Survivors carry so much shame and it shouldn’t be this way. The aggressor should have taken responsibility and apologize to her not her go seeking the apology and saying she will forgive him and go out her way to help him get out. I know Chikis has a good heart and maybe she just doesn’t understand the magnitude of her words and actions in this situation.
@@MiEli987this lady is a Senora, she can do whatever she wants but I’m not that dumb or ignorant to forgive and ask others forgive a convicted child predator. Let alone demand his sentence be reduced. That is all her.
Wow I’m so disappointed with this episode
I believe you can forgive while still allowing someone to deal with the consequences of their own actions. When I became a mother, my protective heart grew and I will not risk my children around someone with a history of being a child molester. Sending blessings to you Chiquis. Only YOU know what is right for you.
Dudeeee I can’t…. You are contradicting yourself! Saying he was a nice dad but when the night came he was someone else. What makes you think it’s not the same thing now ?! A nice guy when he wants but has that other side of him hidden.. I’m sorry I just think a molester does not change.
I'll SIGN the petition! To get you some real mental help, a life sentence and maybe even a refund from your therapist.
I hope others going through this don't see this as "healthy healing" and "God's will" Most victims will tell you the toughest part is having people support you in reporting him/her and making them accountable for their actions and here you are trying to get him out early and exposing more children to him. Your message is definitely damaging. I truly hope you heal from this and maybe inspire others one day that his actions were not ok then and are not ok now and should always be held accountable.
9:37 why do feel bad ? He is there because his actions have consequences.
You can forgive and not have him in your life. What if he does it again to another girl when being out, it would be even more hurtful. I think it’s the victim in you feeling these things I hope you pray on it💗
This is upsetting. I can understand that this is YOUR story and you get to do as you want but as a public figure and Jenny’s daughter a lot of people have supported you and have identified with your story and held you as a person who has demonstrated strength through this horrific situation. He did not only molested you but raped you and your aunt. These are the only victims we know of. To forgive him is one thing but to go out your way to help him be set free is mind-boggling. I hope all the people that identified themselves in your story don’t feel as if they have to do the same. And I also, hope your father (child predator) doesn’t hurt anyone else. These are the consequences of his actions. His decisions to violate another human got him incarcerated…not you speaking up. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you have to go out your way to help set free your abuser. This is the wrong message.
She doesn’t care, she is telling people to forgive a child predator, yeah no thanks!
I don’t think she doesn’t care however she is putting blame on herself and making excuses as to why her father (child predator) has suffered enough for his crime. She says that her father was a good dad despite him raping her. You can clearly see that she doesn’t see that she was groomed by him. He is not even sorry. He hasn’t admitted to her or apologized. She is seeking that to move forward. I don’t think she realizes the magnitude of her actions by sharing her thoughts and feelings about her father. It is definitely the wrong message to send to all the little girls that identify with her story. She needs to talk to her therapist about that rather than talk to people that have a hard time understanding and accepting those decisions.
I can’t even begin, to each their own but how can you say he’s suffered, consider how he lost his parents, when this is a CONSEQUENCE to what he not only did to you but other people in your family. Aside from that, when you said his wife stood by him all this time and it’s “admirable” 😮 how can you think that a woman who stayed loyal to a chomo admirable!? I really feel like you should’ve really sat with your thoughts & feelings before airing all this out and spoke out of emotion. Lastly, you talk about closing a circle, & wanting kids….would you forgive Emilio for doing what your dad did to you, to your own daughter? Would you feel bad for Emilio if he was to be incarcerated after doing that to your daughter & going through some extra consequences behind bars? I’m a mother to TWO girls, & PERSONALLY, if my husband who is their father was to ever, even slightly do something near or what your “dad” did to you, nothing in this world would heal the tear in my heart & soul, I don’t think there is a forgiveness for that, I would gladly watch him age in prison, and everything else your “dad” has experienced. I think you are yearning a parent, a father and you’re acting out of emotion, of finally being face to face with him and feeling good enough, etc. I can’t say I’m upset with you, because I don’t know you. I will say it hit a few nerves….
This is exactly how a felt forgiveness is one thing and her choice but her feeling bad/ guilt about it and the part where she would petition to get him out blows my mind!! That is OUR business and not ok. As a mother I would NEVER
Lol not dope I meant NOPE
100% agreed
I agree God wants us to firgive if he admits and asks for forgiveness. But a big NO on bringing your children to meet him, or trying to get him out early just cause he seems gentle. Stay strong God bless❤
Forgiveness doesn't change the person who hurt you. If he was willing to hurt you, his own daughter, his own flesh, and blood. he will hurt anyone else without remorse, and it will be your responsibility because you petitioned him out.. As a prison nurse, i see inmates do and say whatever they can to brainwash their loved ones. He will tell you what you want to hear to help him, but people like that are sick in the head forever. Unfortunately, I can't follow you anymore nor support you because I don't want to know what you do. I've been watching you since I love jenny but I just can't anymore. This is disturbing. You feel bad for him?? Why didn't he feel bad for you?? This was very disappointing. Couldnt even finish this episode.
Good luck to you.
I can understand u wanting to forgive but not to petition for a child molester to be released.
So if he gets out and does this again you are guilty af
I hear your inner child talking 🥹 I to was sexually abused by a few family members through my moms side. Forgiveness is giving up your right to hurt someone back for hurting you but it doesn’t mean you have to allow them back in your life.
One thing is to forgive and another is to release him early he could possibly do it to his daughter and someone else mentioned this....if you can forgive your dad for what he did forgive yyour family. Your dad messed up way worse than steal money
Its our businesses because if /when he gets out anyones kid is at risk.
Everyone in prison always becomes sometype of believer. They learn the bible they pray for God to do this to do that but when they’re out and about everything changes.
Im so sorry chiquis but i dont agree with you at all! Victim myself nd my daughter going through some sick sh** like this NoNo just nooo he needs to pay what he did! He needs to stay in jail
I have been your fan and have admired your strength since we were kids. I have watched your growth not that it is any of my business, nor anyone else’s. I was hurt as a Survivor of Domestic violence, myself of what your father put you guys through. But our faith tells us that we don’t forgive the person for them. We forgive them for ourselves, I appreciate that you were so transparent with us, but you owe us nothing you have Emelio, the kids, and anyone in your inner circle that you want to share this with you should. As someone who would love to meet you just on the street and have lunch with you, I am so proud of you for putting your faith out there and forgiving your father. I pray you have a nice visit with him and that you’re able to help him get released early if that is what is weighing on your heart, we love you not because you’re an awesome singer or a public figure, but you are a strong woman! From Ohio I send warm regards and blessings your way. May you and the family have a private and beautiful Easter Sunday and Season
I hate the confusion that parents like this bring to the children…it’s not fair ..and still as his child she defends him..I hope she finds healing because I can relate and still trying to figure it out ❤#Respect to you Chiquis sending Prayers#May Gods will be done
Wtf did i just hear. 😓😓
Garbage and nonsense
Si esto le hubiera pasadoba tu hijo, jamas lo perdonarias.
knowing jackie…she’ll pressure him into admitting it so chiquis will petition
EXACTLY🤮
Is your decision at the end of the day. You keep saying you don't want to hurt him. You did not do anything to put him in that situation he did that you u should not feel guilty for a consequence of his wrongdoing
girl wtf
It’s very understandable that Jenni forgave Juan, because he hurt her (Jenni) However, a mother has a different point of view if it’s their child(ren)! When you give birth, you’ll understand clearer, raising siblings is similar but there a maternal bond that’s more unique.
I don’t believe she’s fully healed but she craves having a parent. She’s had to be a parent to all her siblings and go through loosing hers. Everyone forgets there’s daddy issues but there’s also issues to having to grow up so fast and not having a childhood. Now she’s an adult and she’s ready to have a relationship and mend bridges. For her own peace of mind. She’s not saying she’ll be close to him. She also mentions how her sister has a relationship with him and maybe that’s what’s leading her to be curious about getting to know him. It’s just a thought she never said she’d do it. We all have impulsive thoughts. I at least hope she wouldn’t.
I’m not sure if Chiquis is fully healed from the trauma she went through with her father. Some of the comments she made are those of victims and I don’t think she realizes that.
I don’t agree with her, sex offenders should not be walking around freely, and the time he got is what he deserves for the crime he committed. She shouldn’t be justifying him, there is a high chance he will reoffend once released we have seen it over and over in many cases. I wouldn’t want to risk that at all for the safety of others.
It is one thing if she wants to speak to him but allowing your children is a big no. Maybe once she is a mother she will change. I think Jacquie wants to believe who he is presenting himself to be to her but I wouldn’t fall for that. Everyone who is in jail repents and says they will change and once released they continue to do what they did.
He is exactly where he needs to be, I’m sorry but I don’t have any compassion for offenders who prey on the most vulnerable our children and take so much from them.
Girl you probably don’t know a lot of people in prison but most men and women that go to jail get into religion and begin to practice but once they come out to the real world they forget about it. Sad but true 😢
Wow.... she really not knew her Mom, Jenni would never ever forgive this action, peleo tanto for justice and now theyre asking for him to be release, and this just shows that everything happens for a reason a Jenni she is resting about all of this. Her kids are doing everything she didnt wanted 😢
God bless you for allowing yourself to forgive your father I’m sure your mom is smiling from above ❤ best wishes
I love and support you Chiquis but I think you should definitely talk about this subject more in therapy and reflect on it more. I think it’s wrong for your sister to seek a relationship with a man who assaulted you.. kinda bizarre
Chiquis, I'm glad that you are beginning to heal! However, have you thought about if your mom was still here and she was in your life, giving you love, being a present mom...if you had all that would you even consider releasing your dad from prison? Are you simply just missing having a parent figure in your life? Have you ever talked to his daughter to see if he ever did this to her? If he did, would you still forgive him? Would you feel comfortable with him being around your nieces, your own children, or ANY children for that matter? I think you first need to receive the genuine apology that you deserve and visit him several times to see if he truly has changed before you allow him his freedom. Ultimately, it is up to you, but please think long and hard about this before making your final decision.
I'm in the same boat, I pray you find the peace you are looking for. People don't understand how difficult it is. We know its something unforgivable but that doesn't make every other thought and feeling easier to get pass.
So I have been a supporter of you, and I too was abused from my step-dad, from ages 7 to 16, and it was the most horrible thing. I can never ever look at that man in his face ever again. I had my own kids, and I would die before I let someone hurt my children. I dont trust my mothers judgment still, and mainly, no one with my children. I'm in my 30s now, and it has been hard for me to be free even in my marriage from the hurt and pain that that situation has caused me. It's fine to forgive, but you can do that from a distance and keep living your life without him in it. Maybe you would understand after you have kids of your own. I support your music career and the artist you are, but I can't support this. I hope you really heal after the visit with him.
James 1:19
Be willing to listen, slow to speak...
Chiquis I'm so happy for you. Prayers & Love ❤️
Prayers for you, hope everything falls into place for you 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼❤
Chiquis, forgiveness is for you, the victim, to let go and heal. It doesn’t make what he did ok. Forgive him, but don’t petition for him to be let out early. Those are the consequences of his actions!
Regardless, I will be praying for your situation.
OMG! I'm going to need therapy after this episode! I say NOOOO!, but it's your choice girl!
Chiquis you are strong 💪🏽. Thank you for sharing your story . Glad you are healed and happy . We love you ❤
Shes that desperate for a father figure wow chiquis this podcast 🤦🏽♀️
Sending you prayers 🙏🏻!
Great episode. I've always loved your transparency! With that being said, I'm sure his wife or younger daughter will see this and tell him what to tell you now. So if he does tell you what you're hoping to hear, you'll never know if it was genuine 😔 I'm not sure I'd try to get him out earlier, but it is up to you.
Forgiving a chomo is 😬
Chiquis do what is in your heart you are not crazy solo tu sabes como te dirige tu corazón! I think what you were trying to say about the potential negative outcomes in all this is that you simply do not want anymore darkness to come out with this decision. You’ve got this ❤
Esta mentalmente mal. Fuma mucha mota y se nota. Va perdonar el guey que le hiso daño y habla ella de perdon..pero no perdona a sus abuelos y tios?? Hipocrita es eso.
Chiquis please don’t put no petition at all he don’t need to be out he will not admit it trust me. I hope he is not playing with the word of God because if he wants to get close to God he will admit it publicly not privately if you know the bible please leave him in there
I had a family member who touched me. He was so apologetic almost instantly. Never did it happen again. I forgave but that always stuck with me. I believe those that judge you haven’t gone thru it. I love you Chiquis
I believe that everyone heals in different ways and like you said it’s your story and you can do whatever you like and if you forgave him you don’t need an apology from him just let it go and moved on if you want to open that door realizes that you are opening that door for him so please be realistic and don’t fool yourself you basically be open to anything and everything praying for you ❤🙌
God knows your heart. No one else’s opinion matters. Praying for this moment. That God is in it and it’s real and healing. ❤
My husband did the same thing to our daughter, he admitted it to me only because I left him no resort but to be honest. He killed himself due to all our kids wanting nothing to do with him afterwards. He never apologized to my daughter for what he did and I believe that she deserved an apology 😢🙏🏼♥️
You can forgive a pervert nasty sick person but you can forgive your grandpa and Juan sending them to court only cause money is involved oh now I see
Bingo
This !
The visit is either gonna go good or bad. Prepare yourself for the worst. Get all the answers you want or your just wasting your time. Now me, get your fans to see what kind of questions they would ask, who knows they might have some great questions that you don't have. Go with an open mind, your more brave than I would ever be that's for sure.... Dont feel bad for his life like having a daughter, he didn't feel bad what he did to you when he continued it for 4 years. Your innocence was taken away. Good luck.
It is our business when your thinking of petitioning him when his a danger to the comunity
Noooooooo!!! One time a wise person told me "God can forgive you but you still have to live with the consequences" he was given that sentence for that many Years for a reason!!! He raped and molested you! You can forgive him even if he hasn't asked you for forgiveness, but to ask to get him out before he completes his sentence is crazy to me!!!! I feel like you are so desperate to hear him say he actually did it for you to heal but that might never happen 😕 Ask God to help you Chiquis.
Respect. My mom said she didn’t understand why the trial had to be so public but I reminded her that thanks to that public trial, your story was a voice for others. I can’t wait to see these next chapters unfold for you and your siblings.
Sending love and light ❤
The power of forgiveness is amazing. The Lord God is so proud of you. And your mom is too! 💖
She should use that power to also forgive her grandparents and her uncle whom has defended her 99.9 percent of the time
@@AG-91109 I'm pretty sure she does. It's ok to forgive and keep a healthy distance from people
Did you not hear her say she wants to petition for him to come out early? She smokes too much weed Monica. It is messing up her brain. Ay...but she talks crap about her moms side of the family and takes them to court.
I believe that once you have your children you might change your mind about him meeting them. I don’t think a predator changes . How can someone harm a child
If and when he gets out of prison he won’t be able to live close to your kids. You know that
You’re greater not bitter! Love you girly you do understand. Thank you. Much love and respect.
You sound like you feel guilty and you shouldn’t be did this to himself. You have not fully healed. You are strong and I admire your courage of coming out here and putting your story out here for everyone.
I’m sorry I can’t believe you want him to get out early
i really like you so much Chiquis and I'm so grateful youre sharing this with so many people but as a survivor i just cannot agree with everything youre saying. maybe it's cause i still cant forgive my cousin (im a male who was touched by a male) but the fact you might let your abuser around your children....... my love i would never ever ever let my babies be in the same room as my cousin. we're all different i just want you to think over my pov. love you Chiquis youre super strong. think a lot through every choice you make surrounding this 🫶🏽
Didn’t he also touch Rosie?
I thought he did more to Rosie than just touch her.
He touched Rosie, chiquis and Jacqie
Listen to your heart. Block the negative voices. It takes a strong person to forgive and you are doing just that. Our strong chiquis. ❤️✨️
She can forgive for herself but to suggest he get out when there are other victims is not it
It’s called toxic empathy. I have it too. The heart doesn’t let the logic come through and you overanalyze all the little nuances and justify certain things. Not a bad thing just a learning curve when it comes to heavy stuff.
Chiquis te deceo que todo este bien visitando a tu papá, ojalá que todo salga como sea lo mejor para ti en todo sentido,Que dios te cuide y que estés bien mija. Tu solo sabes que es lo mejor para tu salud mental, familiar y todo. Los queremos mucho. Te Felícito por esa decisión y lo importante que tu prometido Emilio va a estar contigo en ese momento. Cuídate mija. Nos platicas después como te fue. Vas a estar bien chiquis, eres una joven muy tierna y buen ser humano. Te felicito por ser así. ❤
It’s good to forgive someone even for a horrible crime that they commit I understand forgiveness I had to forgive my dad for abusing my sister and myself, but as far as advocating for him to be released because he lost his parents while he did that to himself, and believe me once in abuser, it’s always an abuser it doesn’t matter if their 80,50 100 they’re always going to abuse children because that’s what they are they’re Abusers and yes, like I say, you forgive someone, but for you for your own mental stability, not to advocate for that person to come out of prison, because believe me, if he was out, he will still be abusing and the only reason he’s sorry is because he got caught because he was in the run for 10 years and if he was really sorry for what he did to you your sister and your aunt then he would’ve turned himself in. This is not right I’m sorry.
Because at the end of the day that’s her dad.. and she has a forgiving hearth but she’s in all her right to go see him and forgive/ or have relationship with him if she wants.. that’s her choice
Rosie was also a victim
Janay you have such a beautiful heart! Thank you for sharing this with us and allowing us to be with you during this journey. You deserve all the peace in the world! I’m so happy Emilio will be there with you too ❤
I love that Emilio is going with you. He's a badass supporter. Great bf a keeper for sure. ❤😊
Not what’s crackin!? 😂
I feel old af now lol
We def show our age when we say that my 15 yr old says lmfao
I’m so proud of you
Forgiving is a beautiful thing for peace in our heart. However, we should never expect anyone who hurt us to take accountability or ask for forgiveness. In a perfect world that would be the outcome but I pray that he’s healed and can vocalize and give you what you long for. I can’t judge or understand because I’ve never experienced that. May God give you peace and strength as you take this leap of faith! 🤍
POBRECITO...EL GUEY ESTA SUFRIENDO. Y EL DOLOR DE TUS ABUELOS QUE?? ALLI SI NO TE DUELE. F THAT.
Exactly she believes in forgiveness that’s questionable. Quick to forgive her s£x offender and not her uncles or grandparents. Como está eso?
@@katm41In time she’ll probably forgive them too. You act like it hasn’t been almost 20 yrs since she testified against her father.
@@asofnow3015 20 or 30 years that shit you do not forget. In reality you never heal!
A sex offender has to first admit the wrong doing. And second he should be the one asking for forgiveness. Not you going there for the answers. As a family member of someone sexually abused I could never. I forgave him for my own peace. But my job is not to appease his current wife and family especially him. You have not healed if you’re still contemplating all it. Shut the door and move on. Ask yourself if someone did this to your children are you willing to forgive them and have a relationship with them? Or your nieces? Hell nah!
He could hurt other kids. Please don't let him get out.
Forgiving him for your own peace is your choice 1000% but to petition a for a child abuser to be released is WILD you claim that he is a pastor and a barber in jail and that he is doing good well maybe because there arent children in jail he can harm. The fact that he wont admit what he did and that it was wrong and that he has not asked for forgiveness is a RED flag.
I’m glad you’re in a stage of forgiveness. But he made you suffer 1 million times more than what you ever have made him suffer. But I wish you the best of luck with whatever you decide and hope you get what you need out of it.
No chiqs, do not petition for release. Only because most victims never report and or get justice. ❤ u.
Im with you Janney, do it now that he is alive rather than later if he happened to die. You would regret not trying ☺️I wish you the best
You are so mature and wise❤
Good luck Chiquis! 🩷
What a big step God is guiding you to take. But he is perfect and knows exactly what your heart needs.
To each it own but why will you forgive your dad and not your uncles and your other side of the family ?? What your dad did was far worst that what your mom side of the family have done.😮
it’s been 20 yrs of trying to get to the point to where she’ll visit her father and forgive him. In time she’ll probably forgive her family too. Betrayal is betrayal no matter who it came from
@@asofnow3015 bull
I truly love you Chiquis & you are free to forgive whoever & whatever you’d like. But please do not allow this person to ever be around your kids, your nieces & nephews or any child. In other words he needs to stay in jail for the rest of his life. The “predator” in him never goes away. It’s not something that cures itself with time. Once a predator ALWAYS a predator.
Does anyone know if I can see the trial anywhere