WEB EXCLUSIVE: Dating a Guy with a Child
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- čas přidán 16. 07. 2018
- A viewer is conflicted about staying in a relationship she’s been in for about a year with a guy who has a 3-year-old child. Do you think she should absolutely stay, even though she doesn’t want kids, or absolutely leave? Find out what Adrienne has to say!
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A hasn’t been giving good advice imo. That child is 3 not 17. It’s not like they’re going off to college and no longer require hands on parenting. If they end up together she will be a mother figure of some kind. She needs to go find a man without children.
StingingwithqueenC Exactly
StingingwithqueenC 🗣🗣🗣🗣 Preach!
I think she should leave him alone and move on if she is uncomfortable with the fact that he had a child... they’ve been talking for a year and she’s not making it official?? Sis you don’t want him don’t waste his time
Also dont waste your own time!!! Youre 26 Nd youre young and gorgeous!! Men want them young! Dont waste your OWN precious time with something you dont see long term
I think she should back away. When you're with someone who has a kid you have to treat that kid like your own so if you don't want kids then it's probably best to be with someone who doesn't have and doesn't want kids
Esther Jean Exactly, I’m surprised she told her to go for it knowing what happened to Jeannie.
But she maybe meant like she doesn't want to birth the child cause fir example right now I don't want to birth the child but I want children you know?
dev0n920 Wym?
Nephtalye L. Most people who say they don't want kids just mean they don't want to be a mother. So idk if that's it in her case but if it is being a stepmother to a child so young is you being a mother because you'll be taking part in raising that child. In Adriennes case it doesn't matter cuz the kids are old. If she just doesn't wanna birth kids then like Adrienne said it's a plus but she can't assume that
@@tealhiid I’m in the same situation. I don’t want to birth but I wouldn’t mind being a step parent or adopting because I do want my own little ones but not my actual birth ones and people always find that confusing.
This girl does not want to be a stepmom... keep it pushing honey...
I would never date a man with a kid. There is someone else who will always, and rightfully so, have a bigger place in his heart than me, and I don't want that.
I agree with u but kids come everywhere u can never guarantee that the perfect man for u doesn’t have a kid and if he does do u really wanna let that go because of a kid?
@@victoriagalexis8106 if he has kids, he’s NOT the perfect one for you. In fact, he’s not FOR you, period. He’s for his ex and his kid.
@@austind4301 I get that but your basing it on every guy who has guys his kids are just an extension of that person but I see your point
@@victoriagalexis8106 Are you feeling sorry for single dads ? Single dads come with baggage and limits, single childless women shouldn’t place their life on hold for that.
Not always true. I have a friend whose guy had 3 kids from someone one of them in heaven and she told me he NEVER once ever made her feel like she was second. He always put her first right there with his kids. They also have 2 kids of their own together too.
Adrienne's advice giving skills are questionable lol
If she don't want children... why would she want someone elses child... no girl move on, I think this was a question more for Jeannie.... can't ask that question to someone who loves and is dreaming of kids
Or Loni, she would've given her the straight truth
Sach6693 right :)
You’re right
Leave him alone. At the end of the day, she doesn’t want kids and he has. You are going to want to be with someone who has the same interest with you.
Why would you even entertain something with him if you know you don’t want any children? When you get with someone that has a child, their child eventually become you child too. He comes with a child; they’re a packaged deal.. Smh and then she doesn’t even want to make it official? Girl you’re wasting everyones time, leave him alone and let someone else take care of them the right way!!
A dose of JJ Facts.
I believe people with kid(s) should get involved with those with kid(s) because they get each other, feel each other and therefore they deserve each other.
Personal experience back away . God bless
If she’s doubting, she’s not sure about the relationship ( I don’t think it has to do with the child) Don’t force it, walk away, you could end up regretting it.
Omg girl nooooooo runnnnn!!!!! She didn't even mention the baby mama drama that always comes along with it! And the fact that the man will always choose the baby over his girlfriend. She has to accept that she will never be his number one and if you ain't got baggage yourself then it's totally unfair.
dev0n james thanks for being so honest. I notice that women put up with it a lot more than a man would. Why do you think that is? I have one guy friend who's dating a girl with kids but he has kids too so maybe it's different when both aren't each others number ones?
dev0n james meaning that I have tons of girlfriends with no kids who date men with kids and help pack their lunches and literally care for these kids without a thought and totally sacrificing their own dreams. I know no men that do this. I don't get it.
She doesn’t want children.
What difference is there in birthing a child and being a step mum to a growing and developing 3 year old a part from the physical pregnancy lol
LadyChaos101 Adrienne's not the sharpest tool in the shed.
LadyChaos101 Personally, I dont want to ever get pregnant. If im being honest, I care about my looks too much to birth my own child. However, I wouldn't mind adopting or becoming a stepmom because I really do like children. I think Adrienne thought this woman's situation is exactly the same as mine and that's why Adrienne told her to go for it. She wouldn't have to birth her own child, but she can still be a mom. Now if this woman doesn't like to be AROUND children, then thats a different story and she should definitely drop him.
Rosario Colon she shouldn’t have assumed. If she just didn’t want to birth her own child the submitter would’ve said?
Right, the girl said she doesn't want to have children. That usually means raising children too, not just birthing.
Rosario Colon If she had no problem being a stepmom or adopting, this wouldn't even be a problem in the first place. She clearly doesn't want kids. Period.
Adrienne,Adrienne,Adrienne 😳 Girl....leave that man ALONE! Telling her to go for it is like telling someone " marry him, you would grow to love him"
lifeisablessing she’s saying it’s ok to date a guy with a child even tho she doesn’t want her own 🙄
BritBrit Nicole I understand that's what she's saying, however, what if she falls in love with the guy but not his child? I think the best thing to do is move on, find someone without children.
lifeisablessing she just has to do what’s best for her
BritBrit Nicole Agreed!
lifeisablessing you know it sister!!!
Sorry, Adrienne. We need Loni and Tamera on this one, even "Cousin Jeannie" knows better. You're doing that child wrong by pushing an unwilling mother.
I already knew what Adrienne gonna say but the advice was bad. The women said she didn’t want kids, that means they don’t wanna raise a kid either.
Listen, for the sake of the child, **break it off* with the man!! Don't be introducing unfair rejection on that little kid because you like his or her dad... its not fair on the kid.
As someone who has dated a man with kids, you may not “fall in love with them”. In fact you can really dislike them, especially if you don’t want kids around in the first place. I’ve always wanted kids, but my exes kids made me second guess having kids of my own! Now that we’re no longer together, I realize that I’d like my own, and there’s a load of complications that may come with dating someone with kids. My two cents.
Between this video & the last video she gave advice on, Adrienne would be that friend I go to hang out with and have a good time, NOT for advice lol
Adrienne stop thinking this is your situation
I thought Adrienne would say, given her situation, that the hardest thing about dating a man with children is not knowing how many children he has.
R A RIGHT!!!!
I think she should back away, the child is way too young and at the age, people want to be pinning the child on everyone for free babysitting . Besides the relationships is still fresh with the baby mama who might be petty and resentful.
Yeah she should back away or tell him she justs wants to be friends usually when someone says they don’t want kids they aren’t just talking about giving birth
wtf adrienne your advice has been off girl
Real love is blind. I never wanted a relationship with someone with a child and what do you know... I am now married and I’m a stepmom lol
It hasn’t been easy but I wouldn’t have it any other way.
If after a year she isn’t sure then she’s wasting his time. He sounds like a great man and he needs to find someone that’s willing to help raise that innocent child.
That doesn’t make her a bad person, it’s just the right/ mature thing to do for the sake of the child.
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If she’s writing in to get advice on her situation, she’s not sure enough to take on such a responsibility
I love how they are doing these extra videos for the fans 😍😍😍
At 3 years old they kid isn’t even going to remember you girl😂😂😂😂😂
No, A. Believe it or not, not everyone finds children a joy to be around. Also, if something were to happen to the mother... that child would then be under full custody of their father.. and her, if they were to be married.
Exactly ! Well said . Thanks this help me I was really feeling really depressed and down . I relate to the asker 😢❤
What!!! She should stop dating a man with kids if she does not want any kids...
I just love your videos!
Adrienne made no sense in the video, if a woman is dating a man with a child and she wants nothing to do with the child, she should leave the man alone - simply
i feel like shes asking for help but you can tell from the question that she knows deep down shes over him and wants to end it.
Should have asked Loni B/C Adrienne dont have any clue what she talking about..
She should make sure she know all her step kids
This is tricky. I’m 34 and always figured i didn’t want to be a mom. Somehow I ended up teaching children for 4 years and have always been around kids. Kids adore me.
However, I never wanted to date a man with children. I just happened to deeply like a man with a son.
I think it’s a little different for men bc generally the child is with the mom more. If the child lives with the dad, this could be an issue if she reallllly doesn’t like kids.
It’s a lot to consider.
This is absolutely a terrible advice
Love you A. Hope all is well
I think you need to find out why she doesn’t know if she wants children. It might not just be about birthing that child. Maybe she doesn’t like being around children. That’s a lifelong commitment with that means seeing/having that child every other weekend and holidays. After a while if you don’t want children around it becomes a huge burden and it takes away from the relationship when other things come up to do with that child. We got to be careful of the advice we give in these situations. I’ve been in them many times
can we get my girl some better lighting!?
I think that that's great advice but if I could add anything, it would be that you should be honest with him that you don't want any children. The fact that he already has a child makes me think he would want another down the line even if his first wasn't planned for, so just be really respectful of his feelings and be honest to yourself too x
Girl, let that man go. I mean it could turn into a pleasant surprise, but with the doubt I'm hearing, best to let it go.
You need a longer show on advicw.. Keep the energy
I’m dating a guy with a 12 year old little girl.
I haven’t meet the little girl yet because it’s new relationship. It’s been about 3 months now and she knows all about me. We are meeting soon and I think it will be wonderful. I’m excited. ❤
She needs to back off and find someone that wants what she wants.
Leave That Man Alone Because In The Long Run She Might Hurt Him
Happened to me...he immediately wanted to show me his child.
I have dated men with kid(s) and it probably the most hardest thing in the world to do. I back to seeking men with no kid(s), which is extremely hard to find. To viewer that wrote Adrienne, I think it better that you not become an official couple with this man. Because his child will become attach to you and will be hurt when things sours between you two. I realize it was easier for me to end things and move on, because I did not have kid(s) with these men. Where as, things were a little harder on their parts because they kid(s) were attach to me and needed explaining about why their father would not let them see/talk to me anymore. It is hard to cut ties with them and their kids, but at the end of the day it was the best decisions I ever made. And do not even let me get started on the Baby Momma Drama that always seems to follow!
agree! red flag if they introduce you to the kiddos right away!
Nah girl RUN!
I’m in the same situation with a man with 3 boys. I love kids. I never want to birth any and he doesn’t not want have any more, it’s a win/win. It’s with two different women and they both have their own kids with other men so I’m not worried about him being back with them the way he’s so committed to me. I just feel like I’m in a dilemma because I’m scared I’m gonna be held back. I make almost 6 figures, got a career, almost done with my last debt, college grad & he’s not doing financially good as me. Idc about the money, I just don’t want to go backwards but other than that I have no worries. We been talking for 6 months and I just don’t know what to do because it’s so hard to find a good man who doesn’t want kids that keeps my interest & dating is so hard when you don’t want to birth kids.
People wants advice from Adrienne?? 😂😂😂😂😂
For me personally this advice is on point...just because you don't want children of your own doesn't mean you don't like children and you will happily accept your partners children. There's a difference. Like married couples who don't want children but are godparents to others.
Some people just don't want to be parents that's what they mean when they say they don't want kids. They don't hate kids they just don't want to be parents. Being a godparent is different
Esther Jean True!
Ohh I loved this so much
Its okay to date men with kids if you are childless just don't get serious it doesn't have to be a forever man soulmate thing. And if they ask about it working out just say probably not you don't put me first I don't put you first.
She should let him know upfront with her views. I had the same views as her and grown to be part of the family and when you break, boom its all gone. So i can see where shes coming. His child was enough so I didn't want any either. So no it doesn't mean she hates children, she just want to make sure the chemistry works before adding a child in the mix.
Uh it’s definitely not good to stay with someone with a child if you don’t even want children yourself
I don't know, All Things Adrienne but it sounds like she not wanting kids might mean not raising someone's own. If she is doubting, she should not mean the child yet.
Love u Adrienne
She is off with this one. She said that she doesn’t want children. I don’t think she should settle to be with anyone. Especially if she already knows what she wants. There are several men in their 20s that don’t have children.
Adrienne, at 11:11 today I wished a wish for you!! I wished that you could here how beautiful your voice is. Just like the rest of the world!! So I wish for you to hear what I hear in your unique singing voice!! It's a one of a kind and you Hispanic mix added with the hip hop sound with a twist of story telling country would be a hit. I am a writer and I would love to write you a song
She does have a really special voice and they sound like good ideas for her. You should send her a sample. I wish this was a singing segment and not advice.
mercerdamon I think I will send her a song. Ty for reading my comment
" u don't have to actually BIRFF the child urself.."
Janelle Novitsky 😂😂😂
By this woman saying she doesn't want any children, it doesn't mean her issue is with birthing one like Adrienne thinks, it is probably that she doesn't want to raise one or interact with one period. If she does continue to stay with this man she is going to play a part in raising it because she is going to be around it all the time, and clearly that is not what she wants right now. If the woman doesn't want kids why date someone or marry someone with a kid? being a stepmom is a form of being a mom whether you birth it or not, and she was clear she doesn't want any.
As someone that is with a man with a kid I would tell her she should back away. She is still very young, there are plenty of guys out there her age that don't have kids.
It's been a whole year and she doesn't know if she wants to be with the guy? He's attempted multiple times to make things official? The woman doesn't seem to be serious about being in a relationship. If she really didn't want kids, it wouldn't take a year of dating someone to move on. She's clearly wasting this guys time.
Hello I want an advice
I met a guy 22years old who has a 2years old child
and I’m 18yearsold
at first I didn’t know that he has a child and I started to text him because I have a crush at the beginning
and a few days of conversations I realized I like him
this is the first time I felt something to a guy
and during the conversation he ask me if i can accept the guy who has kid and I answered “if you love the person I think you can accept the kid and love them” that my real opinion
then he just said to me that he has a child
I was shocked but my feeling didn’t changed and for more communication with him my feelings going deep inside
I always thinking about him waiting for his text,call etc like that
but this is the point why I want a advice about this relation
my mother and some of my cousins didnt like to support me for that relationship with him
They all saying “it’s complicated “
I didn’t understand all my mom said
“ it’s ok if you in love with the poor guy or short(becauce the guy I loved is short😅) or some else just don’t unloved with has a child” in my head full of questionmark
I dont want to ended the relationship what I have with him but I don’t want to be against to my family too
what can you say about it and what i have to do
please give me a advices🙏🙏
ME LUCKY oh girl i wish i was in your age , your gonna find someone else that you gonna love too run away , i am 27 and in love with a. Guy that didnt tell me that he has a child and i dont know what to do i love him so much but i feel i am getting old to keep looking for the right one
Tamar is good with these kinds of questions I feel
The fact that the girl is saying " what if"! It seem like to me that girl don't even wanna make it official🤷🏽♀️ she ain't even sure girl... my suggestion! Get her life together and tell the guy she ain't ready to make it official cause I think the guy is getting old ready for commitment and she still looking for Mr right 🤷🏽♀️....let God do the work, I do love Adrienne's advise. It's just my opinion we can't all speak for everybody though.... #fromtheothersideofthephone 😅
😱A...TRIES VERY HARD TO BE KNOWLEDGEABLE 😎
what happened to all the “the real” clips and web esclusives of them all at the show?! :(
+kelsi ruffolo They'll be back, they're just on summer break right now. Hence the these new behind the scenes clips of their advice segments.
Tiffany Rayne ahhh gotcha. I’ve kinda been missing the little CZcams parts they showed
Y'all shocked she gives horrible advice...look at girl chat. She more of a pretty face than anything...
ineedya123 Right? I stopped watching their videos awhile ago on here since they wanna be stingy and not put the video clips up from THAT specific day. But I'm still subscribed cause I watch a clip or two when I feel like it. Since before she decided to start dating Israel, she's been giving bad advice. She was on point for the most part before she was with him. But then it all went straight to hell a couple of weeks before she was seen being all cuddly with him.
Shouldnt date dudes wit kids
Leave him if he has a kid
Wow Adrienne. 😒
I dont have kids I don't mind if the man I'm dating has kids i never plan to meet them lol but a relationship is different idk. Thats a hard one 4 me
Whats the email address to send my questions to?
Why you dealing with someone with a kid ? She could possibly not even like kids and would be treating his child wrong
If you're not that into him please stop WASTING HIS TIME. It's been a year, clearly you don't like him. She sounds selfish and in love with the attention while not wanting to put in any work.
It's bad advice A.
Your so beautiful 😍
Miss desperado.
Someone needs to as Adrienne if she has sex every single night, like she thought she would once she got married.
Adrienne has experiences with guys with kids since she has daddy issues. XD
Onur Bb Shots Fired xD Awesome comment though lol
I actually agree with Adrienne!
Hey
yall so bitter towards Adrienne what did she do to you?
Ooof
Terrible advice pretty lady.
But why do people get scared to get involved with single parents with kids? Especially when the single parent is doing a great job already? Music 1🤔🤔
Mireille M Well for me it's because I don't wanna be a step parent. I want me and my partner to experience having a child with each other. And I also don't wanna deal with the baby mommas. I don't their to be any connection between my partner and his ex. A lot of the times the guy and his child mother are never really over. And also I don't wanna play favorites, I know that when you're with someone that has a child you have to treat them like your own but ik that if we gave kids together that I'll always treat my child better. Sorry for the rant but it's just why I personally wouldn't date a guy with kids. I know what I can and can't handle
Esther Jean I hear you my dear. We all have our own views and opinions about life. I'm a single parent n I get what u mean. I always say that it's the responsibility of that parent to create boundaries that make it easy for themselves, the child n potential future partners. It can be worked out but only if the parent has put certain measures way before a new person comes along; not fair to make the new guy/girl deal with chaos they didn't create in the first place.
Hope you find what you're looking for my dear. Rooting for you!
Mireille M Right cuz at the end of the day it's about what's best for the child. Some people can handle it and some can't. My sister is with a guy who has a kid and they have a great relationship he even calls her mom. And thank you
Esther Jean I agree
Mireille M exactly
First I love you💕💕💙🤗
First
Stupid advice. Break it off. This relationship will not work
Aye
SWEETIE...DONT BLOCK YOUR BLESSING MANY MALE/FEMALE HAVE CHILDREN!!
THAT MIGHT BE MR./MS RIGHT😎