WHAT EVERY MUSLIM GIRL NEEDS TO KNOW BEFORE GETTING MARRIED

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  • čas přidán 24. 08. 2017
  • These are my tips on the top things I think every muslim girl needs to know before getting married.
    These are my OPINIONS, not facts, just sharing my views on the things I'm considering and I hope it helps girls who are also currently looking or thinking about getting married. As Muslim girls, I think we have to be more specific when it comes to marriage preparation and I think it starts before even meeting a guy.
    In Islam, marriage is taken very seriously, so I hope we also take the issue seriously considering that we hope to spend the rest of our lives and possibly our life in Jannah with a particular man so its never been even more important to think carefully before making such commitments.
    May Allah grant you all righteous husbands who will be the coolness of your eyes, ameen.
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  • @jasmineperez9061
    @jasmineperez9061 Před 6 lety +852

    I am not a Muslim but I find the religion of Islam to be a very beautiful thing and your tips in this video are very spot on and helpful. Thank you for sharing ☺️

    • @aminah761
      @aminah761 Před 5 lety +52

      Jasmine Perez May Allah guide u to Islam

    • @HaroonAl-Rashid
      @HaroonAl-Rashid Před 5 lety +19

      @Nacho Pop's brother you know that Islam was the first religion that gave rights to women?

    • @HaroonAl-Rashid
      @HaroonAl-Rashid Před 5 lety +7

      @Nacho Pop's I'm not gonna argue with a jahil like you so keep barking and please get some knowledge about all religions...I chose Islam over others because it makes sense and doesn't contradict the discoveries of science...unlike your religion your book mentions incest,mistakes made by prophets, multiple Bibles that contradict each other...I mean seriously will you be a sheep that follows the media or a lion who decides what is right and wrong

    • @user-um9if2gk5x
      @user-um9if2gk5x Před 5 lety +1

      Stupid people here will mean the end of freedom

    • @HaroonAl-Rashid
      @HaroonAl-Rashid Před 5 lety

      @@user-um9if2gk5x Sofia T Sofia T right to property,right to get married by your own choice, freedom to do work(occupation),Right to express their ideas etc...what does your religion offer? You people commands women to stay in home only and treats them like animals and btw your own bible commands you to do hijab and cover your hair book of Corinthians 11:5.And one more thing I'd like to ask you...You know your Prophets Abraham,Moses etc? How many wives did they have? Wicked woman go away and read your scripture before accusing us.And you represent your faith in the comments and I can clearly see what your faith taught you to say to disbelievers...you are rude and jahil learn how to talk first. Hahahahaha you said "Get shot" and you are the ones who label us as terrorists.

  • @m.3881
    @m.3881 Před 2 lety +51

    1. your spouse is not your main source of happiness but it is Allah
    2. Knowledge is power
    3. the habits that you have now, stay with you for life
    4. develop domestic skills
    5. lasting marriage is a union of two very great forgivers

  • @integritygenes1948
    @integritygenes1948 Před 6 lety +765

    Beneficial reminders. Men should have domestication skills too so they can help out around the house . The prophet swa use to cook and clean .

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Před 6 lety +69

      Integrity genes exactly sis, good point.

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Před 6 lety +72

      Integrity genes there's a lot that men should do too however this video was advice to sisters hence the statements.

    • @storiestotell
      @storiestotell Před 6 lety +7

      WORD :) ITS THAT SIMPLE

    • @kushinaa1XD
      @kushinaa1XD Před 6 lety +1

      Integrity genes exactly

    • @lapisskies
      @lapisskies Před 6 lety +2

      Integrity genes You are perfectly correct.

  • @fatimaee4184
    @fatimaee4184 Před 6 lety +253

    Another thing is to realise when you get married u can not expect a man to understand u 100 percent and u to understand him 100 percent we are different and have different ways of expressing ourselves so we must be patient with eachother. Everything was sooo accurate

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Před 6 lety +13

      Fatima ee very good point mashallah

    • @mujahidalikhan4301
      @mujahidalikhan4301 Před rokem

      @@NafisasPearlz Asalamoalekum...I would like to ask u question my cousin sis is 35 yrs old and she is lawyer and she is at such a peak of her career where she is eligible for a job and coz she was getting all the rejection she started focusing on her career and now she gt a proposal where a person who is 40 yrs old and doesnt run a good job n doesn't have a proper house too coz his father married another women who is from another religion plz guide me so that I can guide her

  • @Malenassaura
    @Malenassaura Před 6 lety +357

    I'm not even Muslim, but I still watched your video :)

    • @saidaalhassan409
      @saidaalhassan409 Před 6 lety +3

      Maa Shaa Allah.
      Jazak Allahu khair dear

    • @mosalah5215
      @mosalah5215 Před 5 lety +2

      Malena Sandim Even though your not a Muslim, if u ever come to Islam choose islam Ahmadiyyat is the truth,Love for All Hatred for none...

    • @mosalah5215
      @mosalah5215 Před 5 lety

      @Rowan Izadi u have no knowledge of Islam how dare u call us Kaafir,Allah will deal with u and u will be Cursed in hell, stupid Mirza Sb was a Muslim not an Indian,And he died on his bed not toilet, if u don’t no anything then apne bikwaas bund kurro understand?

    • @asahnii7926
      @asahnii7926 Před 5 lety +9

      If both of you consider yourselves Muslim, fear allah and don’t act like this towards each other regardless of each other’s opinions on your beliefs. Islam is a religion of peace. Muslims are to be kind and peaceful.

    • @rasheeda1303
      @rasheeda1303 Před 5 lety

      Malena nice to know👍

  • @nanaskin6
    @nanaskin6 Před 6 lety +332

    How on earth have I been following many many muslim Islamic channels but never seen yours! Loved this video so true. New subscriber!

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Před 6 lety +5

      nanaskin6 thank you, and welcome.

    • @simsimx723
      @simsimx723 Před 5 lety +1

      nanaskin6 subhanallah same thought!

    • @steffe9051
      @steffe9051 Před 3 lety

      I just find out 3 years later 🥺🌝

  • @aminah761
    @aminah761 Před 6 lety +521

    I agree sis Allah is ur main source of happiness is Allah 😀😀😀😀😀

    • @arnelabih1845
      @arnelabih1845 Před 6 lety +1

      Aminah A your cookies in pic looks delicious.

    • @thebellatwins2758
      @thebellatwins2758 Před 6 lety +1

      agreeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

    • @aminah761
      @aminah761 Před 5 lety

      arnela bih thanks 😃

  • @kimberley3577
    @kimberley3577 Před 6 lety +187

    I'm a Christian and I found these tips very helpful.

  • @hibetullah
    @hibetullah Před 6 lety +72

    Yes my bel bed sisters. As a sister who’s been married for over 8 years I say definitely check your expectations before you go in to marriage. Happiness is certainly every girls expectation from her husband. And it is to a small degree but trust me when I say if that’s your main thing you’re looking for from a man, you’ll be heartbroken. I know cuz I was there. Like the sister mentioned, always ALWAYS give your heart to Allah. Completely and unconditionally so when things happen that you never expected, the hurt your imperfect partner WILL CERTAINLY CAUSE AT SOME POINT, you’ll be equipped AND perhaps be able to forgive. Forgiveness is definitely a key to a lasting marriage. Forgive, forgive and forgive. And my sisters know that this does not mean you deserve a marriage of misery with a man who abuses your rights as a woman or as a wife! Know your rights and know your obligations. Seek knowledge so you’ll be able to differentiate between culture and deen! It’s sad that many sisters suffer at the hands of ignorant men and the baggage of culture simply because they’re not equipped with the right knowledge! My sisters Allah has given you rights many centuries ago and elevated your statuses. You are queens that need to be treasured not slaves! I pray all my beautiful single sisters find your kings that will lead you to Jannah and I pray Allah blesses those of you who are married with a lasting marriage filled with Imaan and contentment ameen. Love you all fillah.

  • @93lookatmenow
    @93lookatmenow Před 6 lety +285

    MsA sister this is great advice! I am a western girl who married a middle eastern man from my parents homeland. He is a great Muslim but we do have cultural clashes. Having this independent women mindset that is bashed into our brains doesn’t work in marriage. At first I used to get so offended when he wouldn’t want me to run my errands alone. I was like what the heck is this? I don’t need a babysitter! But after learning to communicate properly and most importantly respectfully I found that he was just worried that people would treat me badly or rip me off. Shaytan found many ways to come between us especially in the begging. I didn’t marry to find someone to make me happy or complete me, I married because that’s what my parents wanted and my husband is a good man. Of course I wish he wasn’t as strict as maybe a western Muslim man would have been but he has darastically improved my deen as you mentioned. And to be honest I was quite lost until I met him and he is teaching me to read quaran and we pray together. So for the most part it’s a major adjustment for me because bad habits are sooooo hard to break! And I know I haven’t been the best muslimah. As for the domestication and learning to maintain a home this slapped me in the face so hard I cried after the first week because I was so tired. I called my mom to tell her she is an amazing women. Girls you need to practice doing laundry, cooking your own meals, but most importantly before marriage make sure you tell your man how you will split the household chores! When I told mine that I need help after marriage, he laughed and said that he didn’t get married to wash dishes and I was so angry! Both parties must understand that we share the same living space and it must be a certain level of cleanliness. It doesn’t make a brother less of a man if he sees the dishes pulling up and decides to wash them. Also please be cognizant of the amount of time you spend on your phones, keep technology out of the bed room and charge them in another room. Use an alarm clock to wake up and appreciate each other after a long and tiring day at night. I have plenty of advice but for now these are my key points. Salam alikum wa rahmatu allah wa barakatu. ❤️😊

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Před 6 lety +31

      93lookatmenow Mashallah Amazing advice sister, may Allah reward you and continue to bless and protect your marriage, ameen. X

    • @93lookatmenow
      @93lookatmenow Před 6 lety +41

      yeah another good piece of advice is not to share everything, especially in social media. When I was engaged my now husband went onto my phone to check my Facebook. At the time i didn't care because i have nothing to hide. However, I never did that to him, and later i realized it was a major invasion of privacy. I know some people say or believe your husband is your best friend but there are things you may or may not want to share with him. I'm not saying be a sneaky person, but there needs to be limits drawn in the sand. He later asked me to take off all my male colleagues from FB because he believed it was not relevant to have them since i graduated university. At the time I was naive and thought, yeah he's right. I don't actually talk to these people. But DO NOT DO THAT ever. The idea is you are a good person, and isA may allah protect us but you won't do haram with any of these people. Because after that I found he asked me to take down my profile picture because he didn't want people to see my face. And at the time, i agreed as well. The moral of the story is i didn't draw any lines in the sand and so he kept taking it a step further. When I finally had enough I added back some male colleague and place a profile pic. He was so angry and we had an argument. I told him that he is not invited to manage my social media, and I don't do the same thing to him. He has female collegues on his FB. He tried to give me this BS on male vs female. I just ignored it, but we ended up not speaking to one another for three days! This brings me to the next point. Everyone expresses there anger in different ways. For me when I am angry or very upset I bottle my feelings and hold resentment, my husband yells and then ignores me. So at this point no matter how you argue dont be afraid to just CRY. If your man feels any empathy at all he will calm down and listen. That's when i told him how he needs to behave when we disagree. It is very cruel to ignore a person especially when you see each other for many hours in the day. I told him, when you ignore me i will find other people to talk too. So you will push me to talk to people that shouldn't know our issues because you are ignoring me. Don't let things linger. Just air it out and be done, and move on. Really FORGIVE. Also girls we are used to having our parents guide us, and give us there opinions. Hamdulliah we are so lucky to have them, but you need to learn to have your own opinions and most importantly learn to just say NO. The reason behind saying NO is so that you don't let your husband get used to the fact that you are complacent and agree to everything. He will stop asking for your opinion or advise. If he knows that you don't always agree than he will think twice and say "i need to discuss with my wife".

    • @93lookatmenow
      @93lookatmenow Před 6 lety +5

      Asifa Jaay ya no problem, message me anytime if u need more tips :D I been married for a year and a half now. I know it’s not a long time but they say the first year is the hardest!

    • @jessicamhone
      @jessicamhone Před 4 lety +2

      Ah that was fantastic advice, thank you

    • @cathyb2967
      @cathyb2967 Před 4 lety

      93lookatmenow
      What about submitting to his sex needs ?

  • @zaakirah4997
    @zaakirah4997 Před 6 lety +213

    Very helpful, masha'Allah. Another tip is to not baby/spoil your husband. In the beginning of your marriage, you may want to be sweet and do everything for your husband down to buttering his toast however I advise that you don't because before long you will tire from having to do EVERYTHING for him. From the beginning, try to get him to pick up after himself and help you with small things so that later down the road, you do not become overwhelmed with being a one woman show.. Just some advice ❤ may Allah give barakat in all our marriages. Ameen.

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Před 6 lety +16

      Zaakirah Khan very good point sister.

    • @Slavic-Queen
      @Slavic-Queen Před 3 lety +5

      On point sister thank you

    • @zaakirah4997
      @zaakirah4997 Před 3 lety +19

      ❤️ At the end of the day, you are his partner NOT his mother ✌️

    • @azfarhameedkhan7117
      @azfarhameedkhan7117 Před 3 lety +2

      Well i would suggest you allow him to have 4 wives and by doing so he will be spending only one or 2 nights a week with you. So you wont have to do everything for him and you will have more "me time". Or time to worship Allah or you can visit your parents. Jazak Allah bil khair 🙏

    • @ivory8492
      @ivory8492 Před 2 lety +2

      @@azfarhameedkhan7117 lol

  • @Tassycrafty
    @Tassycrafty Před 6 lety +115

    I have been married for 14 years and everything you said is so true in my opinion. You are amazing mashaAllah. Subscribed of course!

  • @manthapantha2632
    @manthapantha2632 Před 6 lety +97

    I wish I had watched this before I got married lol would have saved me a whole lot of drama. I think there need to be classes for men and women alike at the masjid. It needs to educate them on marriage in islam and how to be successful in it. By the way the point about the two of u being forgiving is a VERY strong point. It's truly the secret to a long marriage. Jazak Allah khayr sister, may Allah reward u for ur efforts X

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Před 6 lety +4

      Samantha Kanniappen lol, your so funny, but yes you're right, these things should be taught to men and women of marital age in the masjid. Thanks for watching sis.

  • @anisanoor194
    @anisanoor194 Před 6 lety +172

    I've been looking for sisters on youtube who discuss Islam and alhamdulillah I found you!
    May Allah reward you

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Před 6 lety +4

      Anisa Noor Ameen sis, welcome to the family. 😘😘😘

    • @lapisskies
      @lapisskies Před 6 lety +1

      Anisa Noor ameen

  • @thequranicwisdom744
    @thequranicwisdom744 Před 6 lety +35

    May Allah bless her with Jannatul Firdaus... and make her Husband coolness of her eyes..Insha Allah

  • @PriscillaCooke-bd7tz
    @PriscillaCooke-bd7tz Před rokem +22

    I am not a Muslim however I listened to your advice and the information you provided is on point. I am looking to share this information and the likes of it with our granddaughter who is Muslim and is looking to get married. She needs all of the insight she can get to have a grounded and successful marriage. Thank you ❤

  • @aesthete7227
    @aesthete7227 Před 6 lety +313

    *I CLICK THIS SO FAST EVEN THOUGH I'M NOT OUT HERE TRYING TO GET MARRIED😂😂😂*

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Před 6 lety +16

      ThisIsNajma lol, your funny mashallah

    • @rknoor1742
      @rknoor1742 Před 6 lety +2

      ThisIsNajma girl you’re a mini celebrity in my world. I see you out here commenting on The Real and All sorts

    • @FlamingYoungho
      @FlamingYoungho Před 6 lety +2

      aayyyyeee Najma omg i swear we constantly watch the same vids fellow muslim, somali and kpop fan

    • @user-yv9lu7jp3t
      @user-yv9lu7jp3t Před 6 lety +2

      I see you everywhere 😂👵🏻

    • @lair.9173
      @lair.9173 Před 6 lety +3

      As soon as i scroll down, I always see your comment in litterally every video ... like how !?

  • @proudmuslim1535
    @proudmuslim1535 Před 6 lety +248

    Mashaa Allah This is my first time to see such a different channel not about makeup, fashion, etc love you channel sister may Allah bless you wishing to you all the best.

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Před 6 lety +3

      علم ينتفع به Ameen, thank you and for you the same.

    • @proudmuslim1535
      @proudmuslim1535 Před 6 lety +2

      Nafisa's Pearlz keep glowing 🌷🙏.

    • @proudmuslim1535
      @proudmuslim1535 Před 6 lety +2

      Nafisa's Pearlz may Allah shine you with his blessings and power 💪😊👍.

  • @anikanalohamin1077
    @anikanalohamin1077 Před 6 lety +140

    Alhumdulilah beautiful video sis! So happy to see a hijabi CZcamsr not focusing on look books lol!

  • @NafisasPearlz
    @NafisasPearlz  Před 6 lety +22

    Salamualaikum all, if your new, please don't forget to click the bell near the subscribe button so that you get to know when I upload a new video inshallah. If you don't click on it, you may not get notified that I've uploaded. Jazakallahu Khairan for all your kind comments and duas.

    • @nabiirahswalez9200
      @nabiirahswalez9200 Před 6 lety +1

      Nafisa's Pearlz Jazaka Allah khair shkt

    • @mariammbonde6602
      @mariammbonde6602 Před 6 lety

      Nafisa's Pearlz nyc ukhty

    • @musasayyaf3101
      @musasayyaf3101 Před 6 lety

      Nafisa's Pearlz wa alaykum ssalaam warahmatullahi wabarakaatuh madam teacher waffe. Baarak Allahu fiik

  • @iSTACKA
    @iSTACKA Před 6 lety +195

    I’ve been married for 6 months and it’s been really HARD but the key is communicating and expressing concerns and being open to those concerns. My husband and I lived two completely different lives I lived in the US while he lived in Qatar his whole life so although it was a shock at first and hard we have learned to express and communicate are concerns rather then get angry or upset about it.

    • @michellesoomro7946
      @michellesoomro7946 Před 6 lety +5

      Iman Ali I lived in Qatar for nearly 3 years. It's a very different lifestyle. I love Qatar. . .but it is not a fast adjustment. I wish I was still there, but that is a different topic.

    • @rabbithole8592
      @rabbithole8592 Před rokem

      And those who no longer expect menstruation among your women - if you doubt, then their period is three months, and [also for] those who have not menstruated. And for those who are pregnant, their term is until they give birth. And whoever fears Allah - He will make for him of his matter ease. - Quran 65:4 (Sahih International Translation).
      Would you let a 51 yr old man marry your 6 yr old child?
      Would you allow a 54 yr old man rape your 9 yr old Daughter?
      Would you marry a 6yr old child and rape her when she was 9yrs old?
      For the love God Muslims, read your Quran and Haddiths.
      Allah said he only made it look like Jesus was crucified, for Allah is the best of decievers. So either way he's a deciever. And to decieve is to be dishonest. Lie.
      Allah, the Best Deceiver (Qur'an 3:54)
      Your god Admits he's a liar. Father of all lies. Satan!
      Mohammed was a war mongering murdering pedophile rapist who forced a 6yr old Aisha into marriage when he was 50yrs old and raped her when she was 9yrs old. Aishas father didn't even approve of Mohammed marrying Aisha. A 6yr old cannot consent to marriage and a 9yr old cannot consent to sex.
      “The Prophet [ﷺ] married Aisha when she was six years old and he consummated his marriage when she was nine years old.” - The revered Sahih al-Bukhari, 5134; Book 67, Hadith 70.
      Narrated 'Urwa:
      The Prophet (ﷺ) asked Abu Bakr for `Aisha's hand in marriage. Abu Bakr said "But I am your brother." The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "You are my brother in Allah's religion and His Book, but she (Aisha) is lawful for me to marry."
      حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ يُوسُفَ، حَدَّثَنَا اللَّيْثُ، عَنْ يَزِيدَ، عَنْ عِرَاكٍ، عَنْ عُرْوَةَ، أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم خَطَبَ عَائِشَةَ إِلَى أَبِي بَكْرٍ فَقَالَ لَهُ أَبُو بَكْرٍ إِنَّمَا أَنَا أَخُوكَ، فَقَالَ ‏ "‏ أَنْتَ أَخِي فِي دِينِ اللَّهِ وَكِتَابِهِ وَهْىَ لِي حَلاَلٌ ‏"‏‏.‏
      Reference : Sahih al-Bukhari 5081In-book reference : Book 67, Hadith 19.
      Sunan Abi Dawud 2147
      Narrated Umar ibn al-Khattab:
      The Prophet (ﷺ) said: A man will not be asked as to why he beat his wife.
      حَدَّثَنَا زُهَيْرُ بْنُ حَرْبٍ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ مَهْدِيٍّ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو عَوَانَةَ، عَنْ دَاوُدَ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ الأَوْدِيِّ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ الْمُسْلِيِّ، عَنِ الأَشْعَثِ بْنِ قَيْسٍ، عَنْ عُمَرَ بْنِ الْخَطَّابِ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ‏ "‏ لاَ يُسْأَلُ الرَّجُلُ فِيمَا ضَرَبَ امْرَأَتَهُ ‏"‏ ‏.‏
      Grade: Da'if (Al-Albani) ضعيف (الألباني)حكم :
      Reference : Sunan Abi Dawud 2147In-book reference : Book 12, Hadith 102English translation : Book 11, Hadith 2142
      Sahih al-Bukhari 392
      Narrated Anas bin Malik:
      Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "I have been ordered to fight the people till they say: 'None has the right to be worshipped but Allah.' And if they say so, pray like our prayers, face our Qibla and slaughter as we slaughter, then their blood and property will be sacred to us and we will not interfere with them except legally and their reckoning will be with Allah."
      Surah 3:151: "We shall cast terror into the hearts of those who disbelieve (all non-Muslims) …"
      Surah 2:191: "And kill them (non-Muslims) wherever you find them … kill them. Such is the recompense of the disbelievers (non-Muslims)."
      Surah 9:5: "Then kill the disbelievers (non-Muslims) wherever you find them, capture them and besiege them, and lie in wait for them in each and every ambush …"
      Apostasy is a Hudood crime. Execution is traditional punishment for both genders of Muslim apostates. Ja'fari - Male apostates must be executed, while a female apostate must be held in solitary confinement till she repents and returns to Islam.
      Jihad is not self defense. It's offensive. An Islamic army spreading Islam with the sword conquering new lands. Otherwise they never would have stayed in one place instead of spreading outwards. It's common sense. And Islam is a direct attack on Christianity. That's why it was created. To appose Christianity. It's Satan's Army.

  • @aminad9337
    @aminad9337 Před 6 lety +58

    We need more sister like this so we can encourage and inpire each other!

  • @druoleary
    @druoleary Před 5 lety +23

    I'm Catholic and married 30 years. Everything you say is true for all who love God. Young people really need to think about what they are bringing to the table and not just what they're getting. If compromise hurts your pride you are not ready for this holy commitment!

  • @muna4631
    @muna4631 Před 6 lety +56

    omg the first advice had me liking this video. this was so helpful

  • @paperhaq
    @paperhaq Před 6 lety +14

    Alhamdulillah so glad I found you! So many Muslim vloggers out there but hardly any Islamic content! I'm married alhamdulillah, and I agree with everything you say! I do get annoyed with my husband easily because as you say, your first child is your husband - that is really true! But then I put things into perspective and think that life is unpredictable and short and it breaks my heart to think there will come a time we will say goodbye to each other (crying as I write this lol), so I make dua too that we are united as husband and wife in jannah. This means encouraging each other to do good to get closer to Allah

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Před 6 lety

      AichaBlueSky subhallah, that's amazing sis, may Allah continue to bless your marriage, ameen. I can imagine it may be difficult at times but like you said, if you both put Allah first then inshallah he will reunite you again in Jannah as man and wife.

  • @shannonross148
    @shannonross148 Před 6 lety +212

    I love SOOOOOOOOOO much how your channel is about just spreading the deen and helping other muslim. Such an inspiration. May Allah grant u and ur loved ones jannah and that ur channel grows. Salam💟

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Před 6 lety +7

      Thank you so much girl. Ameen to your dua and may Allah grant you the same.

  • @pearls2733
    @pearls2733 Před 6 lety +83

    Salams sister! The points you have made in this video are all valid points .I would just like to add that men who are immature and not able to take the responsibility (provide for a wife and children) should not get married because that is a condition that Allah has placed upon them as stated in the Quran. Also, a big reason for the high divorce rate is infedelity so ladies it is really important to select a God fearing and righteous husband who will remain chaste in a marriage. Always verify details and information that you know about a potential spouse particularly on online matrimonial websites because often people are not who they say they are so be cautious and careful.

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Před 6 lety +4

      Pearl S very good points sister, jazakallah

    • @ilhamfarid498
      @ilhamfarid498 Před 6 lety

      Nafisa's Pearlz Please also talk about "finding happiness". Great talk up there

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Před 6 lety +2

      Ilham Farid inshallah, however I already have a video on how to be happier in life, its one of the first videos I made so check for it on my channel page. Hope it helps inshallah but if you're meaning happiness in marriage then that's one that I'll have to save till I've settled down myself inshallah.

    • @pearls2733
      @pearls2733 Před 6 lety

      Nafisa's Pearlz Your welcome :)

    • @ilhamfarid498
      @ilhamfarid498 Před 6 lety

      Nafisa's Pearlz Thank youu. Al checknit out. God Bless You

  • @brookenemo8857
    @brookenemo8857 Před 6 lety +107

    I Iove this! I am not married yet, but it seems like you really know what you’re talking about. I am not Muslim myself, however, I am very interested in it as I have a Muslim boyfriend (soon to be engaged inshallah). I think it’s important for me to better understand him and maybe what he is expecting in marriage. Glad I found your channel, now time to binge watch you videos 😂

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Před 6 lety +11

      lol, thanks, all the best sis, yes its definitely a good time to learn as much as you can. All the best with the engagement inshallah. Welcome to the family and enjoy the binge. 😂

    • @lapisskies
      @lapisskies Před 6 lety +16

      Brooke Campbell There is no boyfriend or girlfriend in Islam.

    • @brookenemo8857
      @brookenemo8857 Před 6 lety +20

      lapisskies yes we know, and that is why we are engaged now 🤗 we have asked Allah for forgiveness

    • @lapisskies
      @lapisskies Před 6 lety +11

      Brooke Campbell I'm SOOOOOO HAPPY. I will make du'aa for you.

    • @brookenemo8857
      @brookenemo8857 Před 6 lety +4

      lapisskies thank you so much I appreciate it! Peace and blessings

  • @haleemabegum22
    @haleemabegum22 Před 6 lety +57

    MashaAllah I agree with all the points you’ve highlighted to make the marriage work. Although I’m not married, I’d also like to add the importance of having shared values, morals and beliefs. It’s soooo important to discuss this sort of stuff before marriage like lifestyle choices because there really is no point marrying someone who thinks it’s acceptable when you think it’s haram like clubbing, smoking and drugs etc. It’s not any women’s job to change and neither it’s his. Its important to accept him for who he truly is. It’s also important to acknowledge and ask the question if he’s a good father role model. Would you want your child to look up to him? If he has more bad habits or character than the good, then perhaps this guy isn’t the right guy for you. And also, trust - such an important foundation for marriage. Without trust and openness, there really isn’t much point in a relationship leaving it really unhealthy because after all, no other relationship will ever come close between a husband and a wife. It’s really deep stuff this you know. May Allah grant us good loving spouses. Ameen!

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Před 6 lety +4

      Haleema Begum very good points sister, may Allah reward you for it.

  • @Najmalhulwa
    @Najmalhulwa Před 6 lety +5

    I love it sister, straightforward and brutally honest. I'm excited to hear this.

  • @sadafahmed3387
    @sadafahmed3387 Před 6 lety +3

    Very good, mashallah.
    Do also bullet point/ break down.
    Very good points.
    May Allah reward you.

  • @naylisyazwina6836
    @naylisyazwina6836 Před 5 lety +17

    I am 17 now. I'll hopefully get married in 7 more years, after my master's degree and first year of job. Inshallah I will become a great clinical psychologist.

    • @icygirl97
      @icygirl97 Před 2 lety +3

      hows life treating ya?

    • @doubleslit3913
      @doubleslit3913 Před rokem

      @@icygirl97 don't know bout her but mine has been ruined !

    • @aj__love5919
      @aj__love5919 Před rokem

      @@doubleslit3913 hope your doing better 🥺?

  • @sabrinasamsuddin
    @sabrinasamsuddin Před 6 lety +5

    Very useful video.. I am going to get married soon InShaAllah.. Pray for me sisters 😊❤

  • @bugajekaramcooks7481
    @bugajekaramcooks7481 Před 6 lety +87

    Salam sister Nafisa. I have Been married for 4 years Alhamdullilah and I agree with all you have said. The first year the hardest for us but Alhamdullilah we have both settled very well in our marriage and couldn't be happier.

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Před 6 lety +10

      Mashallah, that's so good to hear, with every difficulty Allah gives many eases. May Allah continue to bless and protect your marriage sis.x

    • @bugajekaramcooks7481
      @bugajekaramcooks7481 Před 6 lety +5

      Nafisa's Pearlz Ameen sister. And may Allah reward u abundantly for all your effort.

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Před 6 lety +6

      Ameen sis.

    • @lapisskies
      @lapisskies Před 6 lety

      Buga Jekaram MashaAllah

    • @lapisskies
      @lapisskies Před 6 lety

      Buga Jekaram ameen

  • @ttrdf
    @ttrdf Před 6 lety +60

    Union of two forgivers :-)

  • @jannahseeker447
    @jannahseeker447 Před 6 lety +1

    Masha'Allah Great Tips, Jazak'Allah for sharing! :) I can definitely work on some of these things before I get married someday, In Sha Allah.

  • @asumanwatara9114
    @asumanwatara9114 Před 6 lety +67

    You are great my daughter. You are 100% right. May Allah bless you.

  • @sweetsalara
    @sweetsalara Před 6 lety +5

    You had me at point 1 sis, bravo!!! 👏👏👏👏👏

  • @sharidanaisley2905
    @sharidanaisley2905 Před 5 lety +2

    You are very inspiring throughout your videos. I'm a studying Muslim and my husband was born Muslim. I just begun to cover my hair a few weeks ago. Your journey to cover in complete hijab is so relatable in my current situation.

  • @kanwalyasir4156
    @kanwalyasir4156 Před 5 lety +5

    I am getting married in four days insha'Allah 😓😓so confused but jazakAllah jazakAllah this helped...and thanks for saying that Allah is the main source of happiness....we expect alot 😝

  • @Nezeo
    @Nezeo Před 6 lety +3

    Thank you for this eyeopener.. BarakAllahu feeku

  • @Najmalhulwa
    @Najmalhulwa Před 6 lety

    I love the part about forgiveness! Beautiful and essential.

  • @jamilathompson9146
    @jamilathompson9146 Před 6 lety +3

    Love the video. Communication is so important. You have to talk sooooo much! I had no idea how important it is to share honestly and peacefully from your heart. It takes time too. Thank you!

  • @islamicinformation495
    @islamicinformation495 Před 5 lety

    These are really good tips. Thanks for sharing these, they will come useful inshAllah

  • @BoiAmina
    @BoiAmina Před 6 lety +25

    Asalamu alaykum warahmatullahi dearest.... I love you for the sake of Allah the Almighty and thank you very very much, I really enjoyed your video 💖🤗🌹.

  • @User-to7nb
    @User-to7nb Před 6 lety +12

    Just subscribed. Thank you for being a good influence.
    "Your first child is your husband" sad truth... Reality hits hard 😂

  • @The1Li
    @The1Li Před 3 lety

    Masha'Allah! Loved this! Great points to reflect on before marriage, for sure.

  • @TheGirlylicious
    @TheGirlylicious Před 6 lety +1

    Yaaaaasssssss preach sister 👏👏 u took the words right out of my mouth I agree with u completely. May Allah bless and reward you for speaking the truth ❤❤

  • @CarpeDiem-vc3gq
    @CarpeDiem-vc3gq Před 6 lety +3

    Just found your channel and so glad! Your advice is realistic and can really help a lot of Muslimahs. Thanks sister 💗💗

  • @seemeinsyed3541
    @seemeinsyed3541 Před 6 lety +6

    Thanks a lot for this. This is the kind of content we need!

  • @aliyahanderson99
    @aliyahanderson99 Před 6 lety +3

    Alhamdulillah sister! Preach!👐🏾👏🏿

  • @zk9494
    @zk9494 Před 4 lety

    Subhanallah, preach my woman, I'm so glad I stumbled upon this channel the serendipity 😊

  • @nazianahar1830
    @nazianahar1830 Před 3 lety

    Ur advice is on point and a reality check. Jazak Allah Khair.

  • @Naturesbeautyeverywhere

    Ma sha Allah ....these advices are 'THE REAL ADVICES'.

  • @rumaanahmed3765
    @rumaanahmed3765 Před 6 lety +14

    New subscriber from somalia 💪❤

  • @smilee6003
    @smilee6003 Před 6 lety +1

    your skin is glowing mashallah allahumma barek

  • @Nezeo
    @Nezeo Před 6 lety

    Thank you for this eyeopener.. BarakAllahu feeki

  • @hozizprettyaimer4896
    @hozizprettyaimer4896 Před 6 lety +5

    Masha Allah, ur tips are very Good and important one's.
    Off the topic but I ❤ the super calm way you talk.🖒

  • @maureenomollo
    @maureenomollo Před 6 lety +10

    Hello dear. I am not a Muslim but the advice you have given ladies is spot on.☺

  • @HeatherScissorhandZ
    @HeatherScissorhandZ Před 6 lety +6

    Your gorgeous!! Love your video 💕
    Lot of girls need to watch this video.

  • @toniafofana8081
    @toniafofana8081 Před 6 lety +3

    Marsha Allah, thanks so much sis u are 100% correct, it’s my first time watching ur channel I love the topic it’s very much educative. I have share it on Facebook. May the almighty blessed u with more knowledge

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Před 6 lety

      Tonia Fofana Jazakallahu Khairan sis, I really do appreciate the support. Have a blessed day and welcome to my channel. XxX

  • @yellowspeaks4980
    @yellowspeaks4980 Před 6 lety +6

    MashaAllah you seem so kind and you’re so beautiful MashaAllah! 💛💐

  • @wolffiab5777
    @wolffiab5777 Před 6 lety +43

    Really well reasoned advise and love your no nonsense attitude if telling how it is and still coming across as kind and humble.

  • @theresapearls2302
    @theresapearls2302 Před 6 lety +5

    Jazak Allah khair Nafisa . Looking forward to get married

  • @michellezevenaar
    @michellezevenaar Před 6 lety +6

    So true! Your husband really is your first child! I would add that you have to always work on your relationship and always appreciate your partner, he should appreciate you and you him. When we were having problems in our marriage we were told about a youtube video 'a tale of 2 brains', it's very long and from the 90s I think but it's so spot on! Really worth watching in the first month of marriage to help prevent problems.

  • @raadiyaharend5921
    @raadiyaharend5921 Před 6 lety +3

    Love this ,you go girl

  • @betulk.3098
    @betulk.3098 Před 3 lety +1

    I feel like these beautiful advices came across right at the time that i need them most. Alhamdulillah. Thank you so much.

  • @shahistajuma6006
    @shahistajuma6006 Před 2 lety

    Alhamdulilah I’m getting married and found your video and this really helps sister. Thankyou ❤️

  • @asmaamjad-khan562
    @asmaamjad-khan562 Před 6 lety +97

    I found your channel today. You are very inspirational, so glad I found you x

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Před 6 lety

      Asma Amjad jazakallah sis, glad your able to join us, may Allah make it a means of goodness for you. X

  • @wajeehkhan6295
    @wajeehkhan6295 Před rokem

    Absolutely agreed sister! you also gave few points for men too....Keep up the good work!

  • @aminah761
    @aminah761 Před 6 lety +62

    New subscriber masha allah nice page sis 🤗🤗

  • @jojoxxx
    @jojoxxx Před 6 lety +31

    Salaams sister, this video is excellent and very true. I have been married almost 8 years masha'Allah and one thing I would also say is communication. Both must be able to discuss what is bothering them openly and talk about things freely. Jazak'Allah khair xx

  • @parissaintgermain6156
    @parissaintgermain6156 Před 5 lety

    A youtuber that helps and gives real information

  • @albaimussa
    @albaimussa Před 6 lety +3

    Mashaallah sister your are absolutely right with your tips
    I also watch the lecture with yasir and it was very helpful in my marriage i think every muslim lady need to watch it and this video also
    Very helpful information

  • @ProjectPak2010
    @ProjectPak2010 Před 6 lety +7

    I am getting married in six months, and I am really worried and nervous. :( I have a really bad habit of waking up late and my mums told me so many times to change it. Alhamdulilah, I don't any other problem.

  • @jayparker1541
    @jayparker1541 Před 6 lety

    May ALLAH reward you sister- Very helpful😊

  • @user-gn4qy6le9t
    @user-gn4qy6le9t Před 6 lety

    SubhanAllah 💕 I just found the channel and really appreciate your work. Very good tips 👌
    Salaam from Germany💜

  • @ayaats_boutique33
    @ayaats_boutique33 Před 4 lety +1

    May Allah always brighten your day with happiness Thank you so much for your this video!

  • @zannatss38
    @zannatss38 Před 6 lety +1

    Jazakallah khair sis..really nice tips Mashallah... :)

  • @seemaa130
    @seemaa130 Před 6 lety +3

    Love listening to you and u make so much sense
    Thank you so much sister

  • @xDreamer17
    @xDreamer17 Před 6 lety +1

    These are important and great advices, thank you Nafisa, May Allah's blessings be upon you..

  • @inasn5233
    @inasn5233 Před 6 lety +6

    Mashhaaalllahhh Sister, we needed you on this platform. May Allah bless you xx

  • @fanniruttkay669
    @fanniruttkay669 Před 6 lety

    Mashaallah great thoughts sister, thank you for sharing with us!!:)

  • @maryannkatunge2696
    @maryannkatunge2696 Před rokem

    very good content,your tips have worked for us being a non muslim and getting married to a muslim then now a muslim have had alot to learn but MashAllah everything has worked out so well.Thank you for sharing.

  • @faizaabdisalam1794
    @faizaabdisalam1794 Před 6 lety +3

    I subscribed way before I even watched because I knew that it was going to be good mashalah and you are so beautiful in and out mashalah and everything's you have said it's so true may Allah repay you back with everything you need in life inshalah amin yaa rab I love you sis may Allah protect amiin yaa rab

  • @salimachiffi8825
    @salimachiffi8825 Před 6 lety +1

    I totally enjoyed watching this video you explain things wonderful, May Allah swt bless you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @j.s.martinez1343
    @j.s.martinez1343 Před 2 lety

    A.s.a. I am new to the lifestyle and just married under a week lol also practicing Ramadan so I am exhausted. I love your videos, they are most helpful and yes compromise, forgiveness and communication are all important factors.

  • @UNSHAKLED
    @UNSHAKLED Před 6 lety +1

    Ma shaa Allah as soon as I saw you, i liked you. Keep making videos you inspire a lot of young muslim women and girls ❤️

  • @janejasmine5142
    @janejasmine5142 Před 6 lety

    Love you! Keep it up. JazakAllah Khairun!

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Před 6 lety

      Jane Jasmine Thanks Jane, may Allah for whome sake you love me love you too.

  • @Ladycooks
    @Ladycooks Před 4 lety

    MashaAllah I love your sense of humour...jazakillah khayr for your helpful videos. Ameen

  • @nurkhairaniyusuf4684
    @nurkhairaniyusuf4684 Před 4 lety

    just discovered your channel and loooveee it. im gonna need a pen and a notebook for every video. May Allah grant you His blessings!

  • @Savvy.K
    @Savvy.K Před 5 lety

    JazakAllah hu khair sister! It really opened my eyes! Alhamdulillah I watched this before getting married.
    May Allah give me a great husband and make me the best wife and make each other the coolness of each other’s eyes. Ameen.

  • @blushetful
    @blushetful Před 6 lety

    Salam
    New to your change n lovee it , Jazakillahu Khair for the super helpful tips, may Allah continue to bless you and accept your ibadas in this beautiful month of ramadan

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Před 6 lety +1

      Saaraa Azeez Ameen. May Allah continue to bless you too. Welcome to the family

  • @SS-vk5ng
    @SS-vk5ng Před 3 lety

    Jazakallah khair sister. This was really helpful in putting my thoughts into perspective ahead of getting married.

  • @GTAB89
    @GTAB89 Před 6 lety +4

    May God reward you for this info

  • @ZarshahKahn
    @ZarshahKahn Před 6 lety +4

    Salam Sisiter! I’m unmarried and about to get married and the things you said are true! 💯🙏🏻

  • @littlewitch4life
    @littlewitch4life Před 5 lety

    This is very helpful to me I am about to get married myself InshaAllah. Everything you said is correct I am going to send this video to some single sisters I know. Thank you for your videos

  • @annael8442
    @annael8442 Před 4 lety

    Thank you sooo much sister, that was so helpful! You talk very wisely mashallah 😊💖💖

  • @skrskr9181
    @skrskr9181 Před 6 lety +3

    This is the first video of yours I've watched and I'm so happy I found your channel.Stay blessed sister!👏🏾❤

  • @desiriemendez
    @desiriemendez Před 5 lety +34

    Everything was on point. I loved the part about expectations when it comes to marriage, I think as young girls your conditioned to think love is like it is in the movies, so perfect with grand gestures of romance and fairytale like. To be honest if you go into marriage thinking like that you’ll just be disappointed. Love is different for everyone but I find loving a man is about getting through your troubles, not wanting to give up, being selfless and wanting the best from and out of each other. Lots of great tips overall through the vid. Subscribing now 😍

    • @mohammedadil8134
      @mohammedadil8134 Před 5 lety +2

      I like your comments 100 % agree with you 💋

    • @roo7yy
      @roo7yy Před rokem

      for me it was even better than the movies. it’s not about the big gestures or expensive gifts and wedding. it’s about the small things and how he does everything to make me happy even if it’s hard for him and he’s so gentle with me. and ever since i’ve been with him i’ve been happy and i have no anxiety anymore