HOW I COPED WITH BEING SINGLE
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- čas přidán 14. 05. 2022
- Asalamualaikum all, this is the story of my single life, the ups & downs, the things I found difficult and how I coped and finally reached a point of happiness in my life. I give you some tips based on my own personal experience of how to manage if you are in a similar position and I hope you find it beneficial insha'Allah.
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i am single, childless, never been mARRIED and 37yo. and besides still wanting marriage and family in ways that please Allah, i also know i have a lot Allah has given me and i am very grateful for that.
Alhamdulillah for this perspective. There’s always something to be grateful for and gratitude is central to being pleasing to Allah and Him being pleased with you.
@@habibawest9253 you won't believe it, but a few hours after watching this video yday, a colleague of mine confided in me she and her hubby divorced just before Ramadaan after 6 years of marriage; and i said to her, i just watched a video a few hours ago that increased my hope about marriage and starting a family and look at life; look at our tests and circumstances. i still aspire to marriage and you are no longer married. but Allah knows best. my heart is so sore for her.
Single too childless too never been married too same age too and very grateful because Allah gave me so much! Alhamdoullillah Alhamdllilah alhamdoullillah
@@yasmineali906 may you continue to be blessed x
I want to get to know you
I'm 28, and single. I can relate to everything you've said. When I look back, I'm grateful for all the men I said No to. Allah's time is the best. The reality is that I'm so content and happy with my journey through life. Sisters should also bear in mind that, not everyone is destined to get married, so whilst you make dua to get a righteous spouse, build yourself spiritually, get to know Allah, go after your career, hifz Quran, anything khair, and also believe that Allah has the Best in store for you.
Allah! You have said my heart thank you sis🤍
Ameen
I don't think you should STOp doing all these things because you are married.marriage is not a new page its a continuation of your journey.
@@purplelove3666 yes you shouldn't stop these after marriage. Creating the habit of hifz or any good act prior marriage will help you maintain it when married.
Then you can continue building or developing yourself...hope you get my point 👌
You are Young sister!!! the situation really depends on where you are because here in my country we are 98 percent Muslims but the average age of women getting married is 30 or 35 so you're good Masha Allah and even if someone gets married after 35 it's still good Alhamdoulilah. May Allah choose the best for us all in this life and the next. Amiiiine.
I'm a christian, and I DEEPLY admire the cleanliness, modesty and devotion Muslima sisters have to God. This video had TRULLY blessed me! Even though I am Christian, I can 100000% relate to you my sister, and I am still waiting at 29 (It hits me harder each day that goes by!) Congratulations and God bless you and your marriage.
I humbly invite you to sincerely read the Quran.
May Allah ﷻ guide you and grant you a righteous and pious husband.
Ameen SumAmeen
I think for women it can be really difficult to be patient when it comes to getting married because most of us want to have children, and our body can’t carry a child after we reach certain age. But we need to do out best to remember that nothing is impossible to Allah and He is the best of planners. It’s easy for me to understand it now that I’m married but when I was single, it was so hard to cope with being single and the only muslim in my family. May Allah make it easy for all muslims around the world to be patient while waiting for what Allah has prepared for them 🌹
Aameen aameen yarabbal aalameen
Well should be putting in effort
Aamiin aamiin!
Your body can curry children if Allah swt wills
@Rayaan Abdullahi it’s not but it could be worse.
Yes I needed to hear this. I’m 30 years old now and has never really had a relationship but have always desired to be a wife and mother. I’ve always wanted to be a housewife. However, I just have to trust the Most High’s plan for my life even though I really need to trust Him and stop complaining.
33 here.. haven't lost hope
May Allah bless you both with what your hearts desire in the way he loves sooner than later
Aameen aameen yarabbal aalameenn
@@zainabzuhasarafdeen4873 ameen Sister ❤️
30 by September
@@afishetumohammed2834 ❤️❤️
Subhanallah sister. I totally agree with your decision to not post your wedding pictures online. May Allah protect us all
Ameen. Jazaka’Allahu for understanding
Same I agree. But I did want to see your wedding dress, I can’t lie, lol
Seriously some one on here had posted a full video of her wedding and I found it weird because she hadn’t announced it herself. So I commented that I hope the person had permission to post it because she didn’t announce it, and it would be very disrespectful.
I take it my hunch was right (that they didn’t have permission) because the video is gone now Alhumdulilah.
@@meh5069 YES I've seen it too Subhan Allaah Putting a video of someone for the World to see without their knowledge 😔
Al Hamdu lillaah it's gone & You commented to let our sister know in case She wasn't aware💕
It's nice to keep not only your marriage pictures but all your happiness and success offline
im almost 38 and single. Indeed there are time in my life that i got so depressed about being single esp when people make fun of my being single, i laughed with them but deep within its hurting. I just couldn't understand why people find it so funny to laugh at single person. I admit im a struggling single, sometimes i give up even making duaa for a future spouse. Thank you for this video, i dont l know but i am crying while watching this. Please for pray me, may Allah make it easy for me and may i attain contentment that I've been longing for.
May Allah ease ur affair
May Almighty Allah be there for you now and always...
may الله give you good spouse
May allah give a righteous wife, inchallah
I'm so sorry to hear that. People are cruel. It's inexcusable to mock like that. Even if you laugh along they ought to be mature enough to realise it's fake and that you're still hurting. It's a sad situation with so many single women nowadays despite the freedom and choice they have. There are many reasons for it. One is many men nowadays are no longer men. They don't know how to treat a woman. But also many women have unrealistic expectations only to realise that when it's too late. 2nd wave feminism really hasn't helped and caused so much delusion amongst women.
I'm 55 now and still single. Honestly I think that being single is best for me.
Marriage is NOT for everyone; and Singlehood is NOT for everyone. GOD knows what is best for me. I change friends after they marry to avoid problems. My friends now are younger and single (some desiring marriage/children and others don't). They are more like siblings than friends. They are so positive, supportive and challenging at times. I am grateful for them and for my growth from them. I am grateful to my GOD for my breath, the beating of my heart, my mobility, my senses, my consciousness, my energy/vibrations, my good youthful health and my needs being met. I choose to be happy for me, and to be open to opportunities that GOD has for me. Alhamdulillah!🙌
Where do you live? I wish I was like you! I am single at 32 and some days I consider suicide because I am so bother by it.
@@user-zv4ci3pm1lI'm a single mum
Salam Alaykoum sisters, I'm turning 24 in a couple of months and never been engaged or even seriously approached, and I must say that I relate so much with everything you said in this video Nafisa, I too used to think (stupidly) that a good marriage must strictly happen in your early 20s, and to achieve that, you must content yourself with whatever suitor comes your way and disregard some essential standards, this is what I was taught from a young age, however Allah has guided me in the couple past years to work on myself, mentally and spiritually, for the first time in my life, I am truly dealing with my childhood trauma and correcting my distorted view of myself and others, I learned that I am worthy regardless of marriage, children, money, success.
I am worthy because Allah has made me worthy, and shifted my mindset to the point where I would live amazingly, whether I met the right man or not! to the point where I am absolutely thankful and relieved that I didn't marry earlier in life, because uhh I now see how that could have been a disaster.
Thank you for these beautiful sage words and may Allah bless you with a beautiful marriage
Mashallh make dua for me I’m 37 still single Allha know better inshallah
Personally what helped me with being okay staying single, is reminding myself to be the energy I want to attract, cause when we’re in a desperation state or in state of wanting a man cause our friends already have a man, is gonna make us attract men that we do not want cause God when he sees you in this state he’s gonna keep testing you with men who aren’t for you until you learn to choose yourself and him.
+ God is my first happiness. It’s by following God, connecting myself to God that God is gonna guide me toward the right man for me, at the right place and at the right time.
In sha Allah
I’m a 31 year old girl, still single not married yet and of course never had boyfriends because i’m a muslim. But i’m unhappy, i pray Allah everyday that he gives me à good hsband and be a good partner.
May Allah bless u with a good husband.
@@sali3492 thank you very much
You said everything like you were speaking my mind. I recently got married at 40 after so many years of dua. Allah was saving me from all those other proposals for a good reason. Through my trials Allah elevates my imam, changed my entire life to something greater and I realized had I been blessed with marriage earlier I believe I would have been at a different level than I am right now. The trial was tough but what I gained through those years was priceless. All what you said including adoption and never stopping to ask and hope was exactly me. Being grateful and focusing on your blessings is really key. Sometimes it's very hard but looking at the bigger picture is very important. Continue to make dua for ease, direction and always always tie your camel. Being content and happy at where you are in life according to Allah's will doesn't mean you have to give up hope or stop asking or trying altogether
May Allah bless you for sharing your story. When you are close to that age you get a pressure from others saying you have no choice now, you have to pick now.
@@majestic6303 so true but we should try hard not to give in to people's judgments of us. I am not perfect but what Allah gave me through those years of trials and even my trials today, I cannot exchange for anything of this dunya. Allah is so merciful that even in His withholding, He is giving us. May Allah purify our hearts for Him and place all of our other blessings in our hands and make them a means to get closer to Allah who is our ultimate goal.
It is indeed a blessing and mercy from Allah to have spouses and children who are the coolness of our eyes and hearts but Allah's guidance is the gift that remains and at the end of it all, that is the only thing that will determine our ultimate success when we leave this world; definitely not our possessions of any form. May He ease all our trials and grant us beautiful patience and reward us with the best of rewards
Thank you so much for sharing. This gave me some hope
May Allah arrahman bless your married life unimaginably
Aameen aameen yarabbal aalameen
MashAllah sister so happy and gives me
Hope. Are you happy sis?
Marriage is a difficult enterprise. No matter how great your spouse is, it will be challenging. Marrying the right person is key. And you won't really know the person until after marriage. Still, there will be vital signs that will present themselves about the person's character. Be smart, don't kid yourself, pray lots, follow your gut feeling and move on with your life (with or without a person). God is most generous, most merciful.
Salam alekom.
Best comment!
I think that is is also important to remember that as much as we love to be blessed, blessings are also a test. Are we going to be grateful and use that blessing for the sake of Allah? In the case of marriage, are we going to try our best to live it according to the Quran and Sunnah? I think having that into perspective is important. If one is single, they should use their time that is a blessing for the sake of Allah. How many married people wished they have free time to do extra good deeds, like new-born mothers during Ramadan?
JazaakiAllahu kheir for your testimony. May Allah increase you in emaan, wisdom and noor, may He bless your marriage and grant you righteous children, and may He accept the duaas of all muslims!
Absolutely! Masha’Allah! You have added such an important lesson.
I know so many people at different stages of life regretting that they didn’t make the most of the previous chapter. Live in the present, count your blessings and try as hard as it may be to make the most of wherever you are currently.
Jazaka’Allahu khairan for sharing your beneficial thoughts sister.
I’m in my 30s and I have no married friends. The men in America always dated non Muslims and commit zina and the only married women I know are ones who married converts. My friends and sister are all single. It’s really sad, this is a huge problem, the Muslim women aren’t getting their physical and mental needs met. May Allah have mercy on us!!!! Our struggle is very difficult!!!!
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💯
Why do you make such unfair generalizations of your Muslim brother's sister. Just as there are Muslim men who commit zina with non-muslims, there are also Muslim women who commit zina with non Muslims. I can assure you, however, that they are still lots of good Muslims out there
This is not true, many muslim women have super high standards when it comes to marriage. Statistically in the west there are more single men than women. It is men that are struggling to get married nowadays so they turn to Zina. All muslim women I know are getting proposals left and right
@@reezis1619 nothing wrong with having high standards ,,,and it's not Muslim women problem ,,if a Muslim man commit zina. He should look harder into his faith
@@coolcat6341 You are right, nothing wrong with having high standards. But don't cry and complain when you are 30 and unmarried. I said this because she was complaining
Shukran my sister you’re young &=have a lifetime in front of you. May Allah (swt) bless you abundantly in this life & the next. I’m a senior & @ 67 years old. May Allah (swt) forgive me & I know marriage is 50 % of the Deen. There are no seriou Muslim brothers in NY on the horizon for me. The one brother I truly loved passed 2 years ago @ the onset of Covid. May Allah (swt) grant him Jannah.
May Allah grant him Nur and Jannatul Firdaus ❤️🤲
I needed this and I needed this today. There is no such thing as coincidence. May Allah grant you ease and so much blessing and happiness in your life, Ameen. JazakAllah Khayran!
Ameen dear indeed Allah speaks to us through many ways.
May Allah grant you ease and happiness in both this world and the next.
Waiyakum
SubhanAllah I am going through the same thing. Indeed Allah is the most loving. I’m confident in the next steps I need to take.
Me too
Congratulations sis 🎉 Allahummabariik ❤️❤️❤️ May Allah bless your marriage and fill it with happiness
Ameen dear and for you the same 💕
In my 40’s and still single. I still pray Allah grants me a righteous spouse. Allah knows best.
It is quite a trial and tests my patience but don’t ever lose hope. Allah’s timings are without a doubt always right.
Same here I am single. Iss duniya mein saare rishtey kaach ke khilone hai jismein Judai likha hai ya toh maut se ya phir kisi aur wajah se
It's a temporary world
Same with me. I’m single
@@saratuabdulmaji8599 Allah ko time do
@@saratuabdulmaji8599 allah ko time do duniya mein har cheez khilona hai chahe woh biwi ho ya husband ho ya bacha ho sab mar jayenge
@@saratuabdulmaji8599 yeh Allah ki.marzi hai taaki hum ibaadat kar sake
Sister nafisa!!! I have been watching you since the beginning of me reverting to islam. I watched you during me getting married and watching you now with my first child subhanallah. From the bottom of my heart I'm so happy for you. Allahumabarik! MashAllah! Congratulations nafisa. May Allah bless your marriage and I'm so excited to see you develop into a beautiful Muslim wife. Alhumdullilah. I'm so happy for you sister! I'm like teary eyed over here 🤣🤣 I really feel like I'm watching my sister getting married. I love you for the sake of Allah sister!!!
What a beautiful message and du'a may Allah bless you and your family for the love you hold ❤️
May Allah for whose sake you love me, love you more. You got me emotional too but all I can say is Jazaka’Allahu khairan my beloved sister ❤️❤️❤️
SubhanAllah , Turning 27 this month and right when I was thinking about the fact that I'm still single , you posted this and cleared things up for me the Islamic way ❤️
Jazak Allah Khair Nafissa , May Allah bless your marriage and home .
Congrats on your marriage. I'm 28 and still single. I don't really get approached that much. In those years there were maybe about 4 men that asked my parents. That's all. I work from home so I don't meet new people either and I find socializing and meeting new people so hard 😔
There are plenty apps Muslim Marriages if you are comfortable with that. I had a friend who recently met her husband on one. May Allah bless you with a great and righteous husband Ameen 🤲🏾💗
@@WakeupAmerica2025 would you mind telling me the names of those apps please?
great idea
If you prayed Istikara for the one you regret saying no, have no regret! The package may have looked shiny and good, but Allah knew what was on the inside. InshaAllah and Alhamdulilah He replaced that person with someone who will InshaAllah be your spouse FOREVER! Ameen. 💞
I needed to also hear this.
Complaining is a habit, Being grateful is a habit, Being happy/content is a habit. It is not the change of situation that gets you from sad to fulfilled. Haha Nafisa, this video, whats been happening to me. You get nowhere until 1. Allah matters most. 2. Content with now 3. Live, now.
“Life come in stages” there will be challenges
Always
Ma shaa Allah sister Nafisa been following you for a very long time and honestly you inspire me soo much ❤️❤️
Im 35 never been married and no nikkah as of yet had many proposal however whenever I do istikhara all of them dissapeared subhan Allah. You are absolutely right this might be one of my test Ill accept it from Allah swt may He make it easy on all of us and make us all handle our trials Ameen ya Rabb 🤲🏿🤲🏿🤲🏿
Alf Mabrook on your nikkah sis 🥰🥰 may Allah swt protect you always Ameen 🤲🏿🤲🏿❤️
May Allah reward you for your patience and grant you the best spouse ameen ❤️
@@yasminemerouani7481 aww Ameen sis soo kind of you 😊🥰 may Allah swt rewards you Ameen
It was happen insha’Allah! At the best time with the one that is best for you. Keep your faith strong ❤️❤️
@@NafisasPearlz Ameeen sis yes will keep my faith strong in shaa Allah 🤍🤍
@@sapphiredesert En Shaa Allah sis. SubannAllah I was looking for a man online before I became a Muslim. I was trying to find a good man a religious. I remember crying I just wanted a good man SubannAllah I met an Arabic man online MashAllah I got married and became a Muslim on the first day of Ramadan at 20 yrs old and fasted the first time ever Alhamdulilah amazing journey and experience 12 yrs married now with 6 kids under 10 yrs old. Alhamdulilah for all.
Alhumdullilah congrats on ur marriage sister . Me myself I’m 42 still unmarried it’s the qudar of Allah if it’s meant for me to remain single it’s Allah plan . I’m grateful for everything Allah has given me 🥲🥹🥹
I pray Allah give you a righteous spouse insha Allah
Congratulations Sis! The idea of adopting is soo beautiful - I hope it's something you and your spouse are able to do, on top of raising your own children :)
Thank you
Beautiful! JazakAllah khair sister!
This was soo great,jazakaAllahu kheir
I loved this video and really needed to hear this today!
That was helpful,Jazaka Allah Allah kheir sister
Just a video I needed at the right time Alhamdulillah ♥️🙌🏾🙌🏾
Congratulations 🎊 👏 ma sha Allah, tabarakallah..
Jazakallahu Khair, this video has been a great help.
Mashallah my sister keep it up this great job you’re doing😊
Jazaki Allah Khayr for sharing and Mabrouk ❤
I needed this😭😭❤❤❤❤.....Allahumma Barrik
thank you a lot !! Allah send this video to me , I really needed it ..
Thanks so much this was extremely helpful.
Maa shaa Allah
BaarakAllaahu Feek
Thank you for the beautiful advice 💕 that’s why I worked on myself too
Thank you so much for this much needed video😭😭 jazak Allah khairan. ♥️♥️
Maash Allah, Alhamdulillah !
Jazakillahu khair sis for your kindly advice, Barakallahu laki wa baraki alaiki wa jama bainakuma fii khair
This is an amazing video. May Allah bless you 👍👍
MASHALLAH MAY ALLAH BLESSINGS & PROTECTION UP ON YOUR METERAGE.
well said sister..Jazakallah khair
Maashaa Allaah May Allaah grant us easiness 🤲🏻
I needed to hear this. Salam from Germany!
Live your best life! - I agree with that :)
Jazakallahu khairan for being so honest sis. This is exactly how I feel
Congratulations. May you have the best companionship. Ameen
Your journey is inspiring.
THIS VIDEO WAS VERY HELPFUL!!!!!!!!!1 JAZAKALLAHU KHAIRA SISTER...MAY ALLAH BLESS YOU
You posted this at the perfect time. Thank you sister❤️ I really needed to hear this today😌
Barakallahu feeki thanks sister for sharing with us Allahumma barik May Allah be pleased with you 🌸
SubhanAllah! I'm so glad I found your channel, this video was very beneficial please keep up the good work sis!
Thank you for this I reallly needed it right now
May Allah bless your union. Ameen
Barak ALLAH lakuma Wa alaykuma Wa jama baynakuma fi khayr. Trillion congratulations Nafisa!
Allahumbariklaha I love your advices and how you talk about things that aren’t often spoken about
Subhanallah. I am 27 and almost 28. I have only JUST got to the stage of truly accepting that this is Allah’s trial. This trial has been chosen for me. To elevate me. To bring me closer to him. To purify my heart. I now have a strategy in place to make the most of Allah’s trial, knowing he has put this in my life for my benefit. I am praying tahajjud. I am making increased dhikr and dua. I am avoiding sin as much as possible. And most importantly, I’m choosing to be content with my life in the present. May Allah make this easy for us all. May He grant us more than we ever imagined having. ❤️❤️❤️
subhanAllah this is me and i feel like screenshotting your comment because of how true it is
Allahumbarik congratulations lovely not once but twice. I really appreciate for this beautiful advice. It words that were much needed.
You are like the big sister I always needed! Thank you sis 💞💞💞
Alhumdullilah this was a beautiful reminder sister May Allah reward you for ur good intentions 😀
Thank you so much Sister, really needed the advice. May Allah bless you and the people whom you love 💗
Congratulations 🎊🎉🎈 on your new journey May Allah bless your union with pious kids 🤲
Allahuma barik sister. May Allah put barakah and his rahma in your household :)
Thank you so much for this video I really needed it right now. I feel like Allah inspired you to make this video just for me. My Allah bless you and your family and rectify all your affairs in this world and the hereafter. Thank you again
Al hamdoullah I watch you from France… your speach is very helpful mashallah
May Allah increases your iman. Congratulations.💕
MashaAllah on being married, my Sister. Congratulations!
Thank you so much for this! May Allah reward you immensely and give you abundant blessings. Ameen
May Allah SWT reward you immensely.
Congrats sis! I am super happy for you.
May Your Marriage be amongst the very best.
Thank you sister. This is really encouraging. I love you for the sake of Allah.
Keep inspiring us
Wow sister you are speaking for so many of us!May Allah bless you
Jazakallah khair for posting this video you have no idea how refreshing and reassuring your words are.
SubhanAllah, your story is very similar to my sister's...Congratulations, and may Allah bless you 💕
Beautiful, thankyou for this ❤
Thank you for sharing this Video With us 🥺❤️🤲🏽 May Allah bless you and your Husband.
So happy for your marriage !!اللهم بارك
MashaAllah mabrooq alf mabrooq siz
May Allah make it easy and khayr for everyone seeking marriage
I’m so happy for you. Alhamdulillah! May allah bless your marriage and put Barakah in it. Ameen.
Jazaakal Laahu khair wa barakal Laahu feeki😇 thanks a lot for this piece yeah, I'm really grateful I saw this, alhamdulillaah 🤲🏽😇
MaShaaAllah. TabarakAllah. You have inspired us a lot, sister. I wish you were one of my family members ❤
May Allah bless you and your family abundantly and elevate your status in the hereafter. Allahumma ameen
SubhanAllah sister...thanks for sharing
Mashallah this discussion will help lots of muslim boys and girls. We'll done sister for being closer to Allah.
Mashallah you are an amazing motivation to so many Muslims this will definitely help others
Thanks for sharing, Sis. My exact sentiments. Difficult for people around to understand this and blame it on lack of effort as a cause of prolonged singlehood, but I have always had and will continue to have full faith in His plans. May He ease the journey ahead for all of us. 🥰
Jazakilah khayr sister, this was very impactful. May Allah bless your union, and grant sisters who have not been married yet righteous spouses. Allah's timing is the best timing there's no doubt in that.
Maa sha Allah. Jazakh Allahu Khair Nafisa. I thank Allah the exalted for guiding me to watch your vedio. Indeed there's no power and might except with Allah swt
Assalaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. Alhamdulillah you made some great points.
Subhanallah love your channel subscribed right away. Your advice is of great help jazak Allah
You really don't know how much I needed this video! May Allah bless you and your husband ❤💖
Mashallah you are a v grateful muslimah🥰
Ma Shaa Allah. In shaa Allah your target is reached and am one of the beneficients ❤
So glad you've been in my recommendation! This video helped me clearify that I am making the right decisions!
My dear sister my Allah bless you and your family with health, love and much barakah 🥰