WHY HE WON'T COMMIT TO YOU
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- čas přidán 5. 07. 2024
- Asalamualaikum all, here are 10 reasons why a man may not commit to you/ to marrying you even if he approached you initially.
This video is created with the islamic perspective in mind however, whoever finds it relevant and beneficial is also more than welcome to take lessons from it.
If you find this video helpful, please share with anyone that you feel may also benefit from the content. Jzk
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Im a simple girl, I see Nafisa, I click the like button.
Be like me!
Hello Nafisa, I'm quite the opposite of your target audience, as I'm a nonreligious male, and yet I find your videos filled with wisdom and decency that is so rare to find on this platform! Keep making wonderful content and spreading your many great messages.
A grown up man who does not want to commit is still a boy who has not turned into a man yet. Let him stay a boy & just say ‘Goodbye’ / ‘Salaam’ / ‘FeeAmanAllah’. You want to be a WIFE to your husband not a mommy to someone who still wants to be a little boy.
On a side note sisters I just do not think it is a good idea for women esp. Muslim sisters to chase after men. If he VALUES you he will want you in his life as his WIFE. Otherwise, he’s got other things on his mind that you really don’t need to bother or concern yourself with. Your life is a gift from Allah swt and you have a purpose in life. Don’t waste it just waiting for a man to give it meaning and purpose esp. one who hasn’t even figured out his own purpose yet.
Ur comment fixed my depression by the Will of Allah (swt) ❤❤
That whole “see where things go” is the first few things I clear up! SubhanAllah, many people are truly just out here to waste time
I think some sisters also have to accept the fact they won't get married young. Sometimes sisters ignore red flags just to get married at a specific time not realizing that time isn't what is best for you
Honestly it’s no big deal, love using this time to work on myself and what I want :)
@@CreativeexplorerTPT Yes I agree. You can memorize Quran, deen, get into new hobbies and have faith Allah will give everything at the right time
That’s true I didn’t recognise the red flags I was too young,I didn’t have no role model in my life as well.
Thank you ...nice video❤
Another thing to keep in mind as well. If he oversteps your boundaries, even if it does not seem that bad of an overstep, do not let them come back after you break things off. Some men will come back, bending over backwards with elaborate apologies and how miserable they've been without you. Do Not allow them back in your life! It will be a sunshine and roses for a while, and they may seek a faster track to marriage. There are some people who will try to establish a pattern that way, and you may be in for a ride where every time you allow then back into your favor or even your door, ,the next boundariy crossed will be worse, and it becomes like being slowly boiled alive. Know and establish your boundaries first, before ever starting the path towards matrimony, and keep those boundaries clad in iron. There are many sadder but wiser Muslimahs out there.💔
MashaAllah perfect reminder sister! May Allah bless you with Jannatul Firdaus 🤲☝️🙏
This is so true ma shaa Allah
Such a truthful and wise warning. Jazakillahu khairan for sharing.
Trust me on this one, I am speaking as a young Muslim man myself, who has been around many Muslim men. Most of us do NOT have unrealistic expectations of how a wife should be or look like. Most of us are willing to commit, Wallahi we are. But on the flip side, I’ve seen sisters who chase the wrong types of men, the phenomenal “bad boys”, then these bad men mistreat and abuse them, until he leaves her. Then guess what happens next? “Boo hoo where have all the good men gone?”
Take heed, sisters. I gave you the warning. Now change yourselves before it’s too late. Assalamu alaikum
@@MC-fw5vt Alhamdulillah I’m on a journey of self-improvement. While I’m not perfect, I don’t drink/smoke/do drugs, and I’m not in a haraam relationship. I never did these things. I do my best to maintain my 5 daily prayers and do as many good deeds as possible.
Again, I’m not perfect. But you haven’t interacted me in real life. You don’t know who I am or what personality I possess. What is one flaw you know about me that I should change? I’m fine with constructive criticism, but these are things only my family and close friends would know. You’re just an online stranger who might be on the other side of the world.
Even good men have commitment issues. Nice guys are not always nice exp when they label themselves as nice.
A lot of brothers will string u if u let them . And 1 u mention is very true Allah is in control of everything
When you said “because this ain’t cheap” I loved you for that. As a women I absolutely agree with everything you said. Jazak Allah Khayran
Waiyakum
Honestly this is so much needed
May Allah reward you and increase you in knowledge
Ameen. Jazaka’Allahu khairan
Short answer: Because he isn't in your destiny/Qadar.
You deserve better ladies. Allah swt might be saving someone better for you in this World or Hereafter.
The dude you like, could be domestically abusive and Allah swt is blocking your marriage with him for that very reason.
I like your straight talk. My grandmother used to say, "why buy a cow when the milk's so cheap?" From what I see also, a lot of Muslim parents spoil their little boys, thinking they will one day take care of them. But all this does is make the boy unable to take care of anyone, including himself, when he becomes a man. Some men are never ready because of this. I hope parents will raise their sons as strictly as they do their daughters, because that strictness will teach them how to care for others.
@@MC-fw5vt I like you. Over my dead body is one of my favorite sayings.
thats the reason why i dont want getting married yet, its such rare to see men who can be able take care himself , because i dont want to be his mommy😂
May Allah's richest blessings be upon you
Ameen. Jazaka’Allahu khairan
Nafisa, I am not muslim but I find your videos extremely helpful. I look forward to the day you start making videos giving advice on motherhood, as that's something I'm working hard on right now.
Thank you for watching and I’m glad you find the videos beneficial. Stay blessed
I struggle with that.....".it's not meant to be "
That is understandable. It’s not usually an easy pill to swallow but that is where your faith is tested, can you accept the decree of God and trust in him well enough to know that he has a better plan for you?
To show faith is partly to do with accepting the will of God over ones desires in the affairs of your life.
@@NafisasPearlz Jazakallah sis! I really needed to hear this because I've been hung over and even upset because I thought he had to be "the one," however I haven't seen any signs of him commiting. Inshallah I can see past this and look forward because Allah may have better plans for myself.
These are good points. No matter what we do, what effort we made or even his family like us. If Allah say (qadr) that he is not for us, then he is not for us. He wont make any move even as small as start the conversation. Then walk away, move on or forget it.
Set our marriage goal clear. Dont chase or attached to creation. Only Allah as creator that we need to be attached.
I broke up with my ex-fiance a week ago after I got to know one of the reasons that he is not ready. I immediately called off my engagement after watching this video and came to my recommendation. Thank you Nafisa for saving my life. May Almighty shower you with lots and lots of rahmat.
Sis, Im' sure that Allah put this video on my way ! I recently have a bad experience with zawaj I was in a bad mood.. and thanks to your vidéo, now i understand my mistakes and it's a lesson for me !May Allah give you Jannah al Fidaws !
@Al-Lateef No im' not talking about the website
Jazaki Allah khayran ukhtee! Any time I watch your videos it motivate me to keep going, May Allah reward you abundantly.
You are like an older sister to me, I have been watching all of your videos and your videos have helped me a lot. I really appreciate your videos, JAK
You are so welcome! Jazakallahu khairan
Mashallah sis that was useful
Can you please make videos on how to know a potential spouse have the characteristics that we want without asking them directly b/c we don't date and we can't spend just talking to him for years
That is a great suggestion. I’ll add that to the list insha’Allah
Im frustrated at myself for the thought of marriage preoccupies my mind. Some days I try so hard to fight it some days I feel utterly helpless.
جزاكم الله خيرا و في ميزان حسناتكم جميعا يوم القيامة
Top notch naseeha as usual. Ma sha Allah, Nafisah, you're a gem. 💎
جزاك اللهُ خيرًا
Sis for this wonderful video.
The best video on this topic so far 💯🌼
This Video just Come Right when I Need it 🥺 Barakallahi Feeki ❤️
Insightful.
Allahuma barik
Sister Nafisa is always throwing facts!!!
Great and very helpful video ! Ma Sha ALLAH.. Allahumma barik.
Allah has blessings for those with sound hearts. Thank you sister for your wisdom.
I really needed to hear all of this. Thank you for making this video ❤
Omg i needed this video. Especially the first point
I had heard of wives refusing to cook what their husband prefers! Wow! Why? Yes! Make sure he’s ready to be responsible. My Dad says don’t go in their cars and don’t go to their rooms. My husband is a religious Muslim so he brought up getting married. Odd in US when not dating. Good video, great advice!❤❤❤
Waow....nothing but the truth💕😭! may Allah bless you oukhty.
Ameen and may Allah bless you too
I could hear you talk all day Nafisa. I feel like I know much about how to go about marrying a good Muslim man, however I really don't know where to find them lol. MashAllah your channel has grown so much and hope it continues. So many sisters and brothers will benefit and InshAllah you reap all the rewards of the advice you give to us.
Thank you sister for your commitment!
May Allah grant you happiness in both worlds 🤍
Personally, I have issues with sadness these days. I pray for a clear mind for myself and the Ummah.
May Allah grant you ease in your affairs and support you and all Muslim in every way, ameen
@@NafisasPearlz ameeen ajma'in wa iyyakee, thank you sister 🤍
We are in one basket
Sister just remember this whatever Allah does to you he has full rights over it because he made you and he own you completely. Ask him to forgive you everyday, take care of your self, read some Quran everyday and try your best to do whatever you are capable of doing. May Allah make everything easier for you and grand you contentment
Thanks for the beautiful reminder 🥰🥰🥰
Would be interested in getting your perspective on interracial marriages and revert marriages. Things to take into consideration and solutions to possible hardships that come with both.
Jazakkullah khayran Nafisa ❤️
The opening verses( I so love it) This is one of the beautiful warning advice, given in most full of gentleness of Allah SWT, is like HE pick a flower(The advice) from HIS garden (The Al Quran) and place it in the Human heart from HIS ALL AWARENESS into our awareness to HELP see REALITY with carefullness and to practice COMPASSION when facing adversity specially between sposes. SubahAllah..Salaam Nafisa from Singapore.
You really hit the nail with this one! Jazak Allah Khair. You won't believe how helpful these videos are for someone like me who's actively looking into prospects of marriage.
Alhamdulilah
May Allah (S.W.T) Protect us all and thank you for this Sister because we all need to hear this and learn from it, it might not happen to us as an individual but it might happen to some1 close to us or about to happen. May Allah(S W.T) forgive our sins and continue to direct us in a good way.
This is so insightful , jazakumulahu khair sis
So beneficial and very good points. Sister you made very good points which i had never thought about. Now I know so jizakallah for this video.
SubhanaAllah!!!!!! Another powerful video Ma shaa Allah TabarakAllah my Sister this was awesome very beneficial knowledge you bring on your channels thank you my Sister very good 🤲🏾💪🏿🌹❤️
You are most welcome
Wallahi....you are so on point...may Allah continue to guide you aright 💕👍🙏
Ameen and you too
you’re so beautiful sis ma sha allah. As usual amazing content 🙈❤️
Thank you
This is such sound advice. Thank you
May Allah make it easy for me to get the right person in my life Amen
👌🏽💪🏽 shukran for ur insight ukhti
May Allah Rahman reward you for this 🙏🏽 ♥ ❤ 💕
Masha'ALLAH 🥳 jazaki ALLAHou khairan 🥰
Barakallah Feeki Sis 🤍🤍☺️☺️!! This was so needed!
Asalam aley kum Nafiza ! Thank you so much for this video. May Allah rewards you. What you said about insecurities and what it can do to our mental health unfortunately I was the victim of that a couple of years ago but from a female friend. Yes it happens in friendship also. And you are right they don't know how damaged they are I think in the past she was abandoned by her friend and it caused her to be so possessive and controlling of me.
As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, JazakiAllahu khair for this video! I am already married now, al hamdulillah, but this let me understand my past better and that I made a really good choice. And that it was the insecurities and some other things from the first man that I got to know, that are the reasons he didn't committed. Or yeah, not at the time I wanted to commit.
Thank you very much for everything!
As-salamualaykum Sister Nafisa Alhamdulliah you're back I've missed you're videos. Grateful for the Nasiha it was very useful and informative. May Allah ta ala reward you and your family 🥰🥰
Ameen. Jazaka’Allahu khairan
Asmualaikum dearie I am also so happy when I see a new update of ours😘🤗❤️
Thank you nafisa
Jazakallah bi khair❤️
Girl I love this video amazing advice
Assalaamu alaikum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuhu sis 🌺
Right on time!!!
Ma shaaa Allah sister n my name sake,i totally agree and understand everything you said because i have been through this for years....Alhamdulilah i am free from it now and i pray Allah help us all in finding the right spouse.
❤😍well said! mashallah
MashAllah sister. Thank you so much.
Masha Allah you are glowing
I really needed this❤️
Me too
My name is Nafisa as well am so greatful to watch your videos,thank you sis.
Everything is true what you said sister.I really like your talks.
Salaam Sis Nafisa. Masha Allah for this knowledge shared. May Allah SWT continue to bless you immensely, ameen. Can you do a video on polygamous marriage? Much needed!!!!
Assalamu alaykum my sister !!!!!
Salam and love from Kazakhstan !!!!!
🥰 👋🏻😘🇰🇿🤝🏻🇬🇧💖
Masha allah thank you so much for the lecture 💜
There is a brother whom I am interested in (he was too), when I knew his name I looked for his social media account, he didn't follow any women but after some time he started to follow bunch of women. There are a lot of red flags but I'm still having hopes inside despite that and crying from time to time because of course it is not meant to be.
So this video was much needed
Same with me sis I think he is was notgood run
You are gorgeous Masha Allah Allahouma Barick!!!
Masha'Allah ❤
Many of the videos out there play so much on what a woman is supposed to put up with in the name of Islam….for example, the topic of 4 wives, asking for permission etc….Thank you Sister Nafisa for creating this really in depth video that keeps things real and addresses many issues misinterpreted and ignored in this time and age. May Allah help you create many more videos to help us sisters out there looking for a good husband.
love love love this video sister.
I love sis! May Allah protect you
Ameen. Jazaka’Allahu khairan
I think there was something wrong with the sound at the end of the video
Maasha Allah!
sometimes i just dont want to get married, im in a relationship i use to tell him lets get married, he was all about it but now i just lost interest because my parents not approving it first and kept question me why i chose him and him not taking any more initiatives anymore until i ask him about it , this is making me dont want to get married anymore to anyone
You're very right I did the same as you saying in my new relationship and thankfully I was thinking he was gonna go away when I said I wasn't in for sex or dating but wanted something halal and amazingly he didn't live he asked for my mum's contact that instant and the next day he came to see my mum thou he is married and is wanting to make me the second wife I believe we ladies should just value ourselves and not throw ourselves at every guy that comes our way and let's not forget to make Dua but I need little advice in the cooking part ive not visited him yet and I'm not planning to till marriage he came home twice in the presence of my family but he wants me to cook for him which I did last week with my own money today he is demanding for me to cook for him again in the weekends and I've told him he will have to fund it then is it cool that way
I would avoid. Cooking for him now especially as he already has a wife. Keep your values and trust in Allah and insha’Allah Allah will do the best for you.
@@NafisasPearlz Thank you sis I appreciate may Allah bless you
M,a happy for ur mariage pls can u make avedio how to cut being addected to phone and social media pls nafisa❣❣
To all Muslima sisters: please do istikhara before each and every marriage prospect. In fact, do istikhara even before exchanging contact information. Then Allah SWT will become your Wali, and take control of how situations unfold. When warning signs present, please do your part and heed them, and when the situation gets to breaking point, do break things off. If the person happens to come back for any reason later, look at the situation from a practical perspective, consult with family, and do istikhara AGAIN. Keep your guard up at all times and be prayerful throughout the getting-to-know-you stage until marriage happens. You’ll need another set of behaviors once marriage does happen, but that is another post for another day.
I got married really young it was my choice we liked each other at that time it didn’t work out it wasn’t meant to be, I went through a lot alhamdullilah i got out of it this is why I’m a strong and independent person now.Allah helped me.
Masha Allah tabark Allah
You hit the nail on the HEAD EVERY TIME SISTER!!!
I have heard a guy ask me would I be comfortable be with me taking multiple wives!!!! I honestly don't think they realise the responsibility of multiple wives 😒
I love you for the sake of Allah dear sister Nafisa ... how can I contact you please?
Masha'Allah
All the red flags are true
Mashallah beautiful smile...
I had a question.
I saw a lot of people saying & writing : My super power is Allah or Allah is my Super power.
It will be sirk, won't it? Cause Allah himself is super powerful & depends on none.
Can anyone please tell me about it?
You r so sweet
Allah grant you firdous
We love you
Subhanallah
Don’t forget dua makes miracles
I wish I had a sister like u❤❤❤❤❤
Nafisa i pray to allah that I don't posse any of those qualities and i hope to be better than that
wa alaykum salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
Perhaps he is not committing to you because you’ve shown him what life would be with you. If you’re argumentative, dramatic, disrespectful or simply disagreeable you will find that most men will not want to make you their wife. We live in a day and age where women are told to ‘speak their truth’ and be a ‘bad b*tch’ resulting in unmarriageable women
Not always true. Sure there are few women making it themselves impossible by being that bad bitch. But on the other hand ive seen many good humble housewives who got played and fooled over, abused and left for divorce with a kid, left for "a bad bitch"
lol ic you have been influenced by your woman hating husband Mahdi Tidjani.
If that’s the case he should leave.
sometimes men choose bad bitch over good women , just like some women choose bad boy over good man .
Mashallah, you are beautiful
2 v255...he (God) know what is before them (us) and what is behind them.....
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Iam looking for marriage and want to settle down. I got to know a guy, and i see him practising and into the deen. He is divorced and has one child, sometimes i found myself waiting for him to be open to commit and i feel like its taking time. I give him chances bcos i feel like since he went through a divorce, maybe he is dealing with some personal stuff. Now iam confused if he even is ready for relationship or marriage. N am still waiting. Shall i just move forward?
Communicate with him and just try to find out if y'all are on the same page is he seems like he doesn't want to commit let him be siss...May Allah grant you righteous spouse
Yes am going to see if he is on the same page, if not, try to move on to someone more serious, insha Allah 👌🏾
@@caishaloyaan258 He's obviously not serious maybe he is still hung up on his ex either way he's got too much baggage move on and find someone else.
@@lail111 by baggage do u include the child?