6 Do's and Don't's of your FIRST RELATIONSHIP (High School Relationship Advice)

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    6 Do's and Don't's of your FIRST RELATIONSHIP (High School Relationship Advice)
    This video is full of high school relationships advice for girls entering their first couple of relationships. These relationship dos and don'ts will help you to protect your heart and stay smart in the dating world.
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Komentáře • 142

  • @AbbiWinslow
    @AbbiWinslow  Před 3 lety +22

    What questions do you have about a first relationship? LEAVE IT BELOW!

    • @BobVisMo
      @BobVisMo Před 3 lety +6

      Your first one is so true.. i really hate that about me but it happens when girls go head over heels too fast..
      Yes, im a guy watching this.. it thought its also for guys but i just got hooked and curious on the girl perspective..

    • @matthewcampbell1766
      @matthewcampbell1766 Před 2 lety +1

      Okay Ms Abbi Winslow what world do be interested Relationship with @ 21 BiancaAndreeocu Canadian Tennis Championship by @ 40 MJCampbell by now

    • @olgakoklioti4886
      @olgakoklioti4886 Před 2 lety

      I am just searching cause i want help what to do on the first week of you dating?

    • @mridula7119
      @mridula7119 Před rokem

      I just got into a relationship and he keeps asking me to ask him questions to know him well .. I know him like 2-3 years and I don’t know Wat he means

  • @shayla9894
    @shayla9894 Před 2 lety +264

    I'm 17, but I really think I found a good guy. I just need to stop over thinking everything he does and says lol

  • @existens6173
    @existens6173 Před 2 lety +96

    I'm 17 got into my first relationship it is also her first relationship so we both are kind of inexperienced, so far everything is good I want to keep the relationship for a long time but I don't know what the odds are to keep it for my life time but I will try haha

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  Před 2 lety +32

      I’m glad to hear your relationship is going well. At 17, you shouldn’t be worried about making this relationship last forever. That puts too much pressure on you and the relationship. It’s better to think “we will be together for as long as we are supposed to be.” If that’s a year great, if that’s a week great. If that’s a long time great.

  • @crishelleanne7824
    @crishelleanne7824 Před 3 lety +103

    Tbh I'm 18 yrs old and this is my first relationship ever. I really didn't know what to do because it's my first time. Thank you for your advice it helps a lot to me 😊

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  Před 3 lety +6

      You're so welcome!

    • @KhushiArora-mu1ei
      @KhushiArora-mu1ei Před 6 měsíci

      It's my first relationship and I really don't know what to talk about with him i don't want him to think that I don't like to talk to him...i really do wanna talk to him but I just don't know what to talk abt

  • @renaruseva3800
    @renaruseva3800 Před 3 lety +85

    I rlly like this boy and he likes me back but I’m too shy about my body, body hair, odour, discharge or not having good underwear and bras. I’ve also never kissed a boy before or done anything with boys before. How do I overcome all these insecurities and mental blocks

    • @fuzzyo_
      @fuzzyo_ Před 3 lety +17

      Sorry if I am to late, but there is a few ways to get over it. One way is to drop subtle hints and see how they take them. Then after a while, if you think that he’s the one, just go for it and say “will you go out with me.” It was hard for me to do it, but it just comes down to bravery and stepping out of your comfort zone

    • @sweatingfrommyeyes767
      @sweatingfrommyeyes767 Před 2 lety +12

      Hey Jesus is with ya. Honestly don't force stuff. I do think waiting til marriage is good as then it's not a big heartbreak.

  • @maayandanino8952
    @maayandanino8952 Před 2 lety +11

    I'm 18 and I'm almost 3 years into my first relationship , it's also my partners first relationship.
    going really well

  • @rachaelrojas6689
    @rachaelrojas6689 Před 2 lety +36

    I’m so glad I found this video I just got my first boyfriend and I’d probably have made a lot of these mistakes

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  Před 2 lety +1

      Welcome to the tribe! 💕

    • @owencashman8226
      @owencashman8226 Před 2 lety

      Feels bad for your bf he gets hit wth “set limits” and “Dont start off with physical too fast” F in chat lmao

  • @hollowlavender_
    @hollowlavender_ Před rokem +5

    I just got my very first boyfriend and I'm soo nervous. I'm like 15 and NEVER even had like a situationship so I'm excited but have NO IDEA what to think lol

  • @axelmcavinue6723
    @axelmcavinue6723 Před rokem +6

    I know this is meant for younger people. But I'm 22 and just got into my first relationship and this was really helpful for me! Thank you so much for this!

  • @Aimee_Esther
    @Aimee_Esther Před 3 lety +58

    My favorite is "dont put up with crap!" I needed you with all my past relationships! So happy I found Josh but oh my goodness I put up with way too much crap because I was "in love". Such a good video! :)

  • @cheesobogo3199
    @cheesobogo3199 Před 3 lety +24

    I love how you shared your experience with us. Thank you!

  • @kennedycall5120
    @kennedycall5120 Před 3 lety +35

    Yes! Thanks for this video! I just turned 16 and we all know what that means in the church! 😂 You are amazing! I love your videos and I know they are helping me be a better version of myself!

    • @somyatomar8486
      @somyatomar8486 Před 3 lety +5

      What does that mean?

    • @elizatoponce9375
      @elizatoponce9375 Před 2 lety

      Lol in Massachusetts it’s harder to get dates that fit my standards, and I only JUST got my first date at almost 18

  • @FirstLast-ut2bk
    @FirstLast-ut2bk Před 2 lety +75

    1: keep it light
    2: have a conversation about your relationship
    3: hang out with lots of friends
    4:don’t rush it
    5: don’t get too physical too fast
    6: do not put up with crap (take notes of red flags)

  • @Artisticallyy
    @Artisticallyy Před 2 lety +8

    These tips were really helpful! I just made things official with my girlfriend earlier this week! Thank you for this!

  • @sasb3675
    @sasb3675 Před 2 lety +16

    I know this is aimed at the younger ladies, but I'm 27 and dealing with a potential relationship for the first time and found this really helpful, so thanks haha

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  Před 2 lety +1

      Yay! That makes me so happy!

    • @ΜολονΛαβε100
      @ΜολονΛαβε100 Před 2 lety +2

      Girl, don’t be scared. Im 35 and was never taught any of this stuff and Im learning about relationships each day. Yeah, i was never taught or shown how this shit goes. But hey, you never stop learning in life.

  • @everykoala2302
    @everykoala2302 Před 2 lety +4

    Thank you, I think these were really helpful tips!

  • @pixicoke
    @pixicoke Před rokem +1

    I’m in middle school and I rlly don’t want our relationship to be super awkward so I’m watching tips 😅

  • @randomdude6719
    @randomdude6719 Před 3 lety +56

    I don’t know if there’s one of these for dudes but I’m gonna watch so I can catch on

  • @ambersummer2685
    @ambersummer2685 Před rokem +2

    I’m in a developing relationship right now. I’ll admit we kinda rushed things physically. Not sex but it was very intimate. Afterwards we decided to slow down. Our relationship started off as platonic so it’s not a big deal. Knew each other for about a year so it was kinda easy to be comfortable enough to get physically. We’re not strangers.
    I’ll be ok with hand holding first.

  • @mackenziecaughlan1752
    @mackenziecaughlan1752 Před 2 lety +3

    thank you im a sophomore in high school and i just got my first bf and this rly helped me

  • @coco-belle7790
    @coco-belle7790 Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you for the tips I’m a pre teen and this will really help it is my first relationship with a guy a like

  • @lenagolgol
    @lenagolgol Před 3 lety +13

    I'm reading an amazing memoir "My Awful Luck With Men" by roya shynz. She dated in Iran and in USA. Problems are universal and no one set of advice works for everyone. The only definite advice would be to respect your heart and yourself and others will follow

    • @LoveLife-ry5mm
      @LoveLife-ry5mm Před 3 lety

      I got help from someone, he was the one only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband to me and he seve and solve my relationship problem

    • @LoveLife-ry5mm
      @LoveLife-ry5mm Před 3 lety

      Text him on WhatsApp..

    • @LoveLife-ry5mm
      @LoveLife-ry5mm Před 3 lety

      ±1.(204)=808=22-34
      I'm from USA

    • @Hunter-yn4ug
      @Hunter-yn4ug Před 2 lety

      Watch Kevin Samuels on YT (not just him insulting actually watch a full show)

  • @drewvoski
    @drewvoski Před 6 měsíci

    Hi, this really helped my Chinese friend Alex Chen who is currently going through a rough time with his girlfriend. Hopefully you can upload so we can continue to help him learn

  • @Trinitysflicks767
    @Trinitysflicks767 Před 2 lety +2

    I literally overthink SO MUCH

  • @lillia.rae07
    @lillia.rae07 Před 2 lety +25

    Hi,I’m a freshman in highschool and me and my crush both found out we like each other over text. We are both to awkward to do anything about it tho. He is really nice to me he holds the door open for me at school and he is a Christian like me! Any advice? (Btw my parents know)

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  Před 2 lety +6

      This is awesome! I’d just keep playing off of each other and make sure that your relationship is mostly in person and less over text-meaning sometimes you will ignore each other at school and then text how mush you like each other over the phone, this is okay to start with but you want to translate your relationship from just digital to hanging out in person and taking it slow 💕 hope that helps!

    • @lillia.rae07
      @lillia.rae07 Před 2 lety +3

      @@AbbiWinslow Thank you 💕

  • @sharonwilliams275
    @sharonwilliams275 Před 3 lety +3

    Spot on‼️

  • @richardpalmer4242
    @richardpalmer4242 Před 3 lety +12

    Ma'am, I'm not the kind of person who bolts if my significant other goes in too deep... I wish I could find someone like dat😂

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  Před 3 lety +3

      SAME!!! But in high school and early relationships that loyalty didn't always serve me. So that is why I tell people to keep it light now so that when you are older and ready to find the one, you have the skills to do so!

  • @hazielop
    @hazielop Před 2 lety +13

    Here I am, looking at advice for High School relationships on my second year of college, haven't even been close to a relationship ever in my life, feels bad lol

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  Před 2 lety +2

      You got this! This advice works at any age, and there is no “being behind” there is just where you are 💕

  • @lilypotter2617
    @lilypotter2617 Před 2 lety

    Thank youu! CZcams is amazing, it doesn't wonder why A 11 year old had a boyfriend!

  • @AGNTWolf
    @AGNTWolf Před 2 lety +1

    Im 16 both of us our in our first relationship. I literally can't stop thinking about him most of the time and Its hard to not text him. I don't want to make him uncomfortable. How do I deal with this?

  • @nubbsstumpremoval2024
    @nubbsstumpremoval2024 Před 3 lety +18

    What would be a good example of keeping it light Abbi?

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  Před 3 lety +10

      Dating lots of people, group dates, not hanging out every single day, or not being exclusive

  • @abigailsaunders5759
    @abigailsaunders5759 Před 2 lety

    Thank you!

  • @kairo75xd13
    @kairo75xd13 Před 2 lety +5

    im in hs, i have NO other friends besides him cause ppl dont rlly talk to me, and when they do they always stop a couple days later, what do i do?? :((

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  Před 2 lety

      check out some of my other videos on being more social and making friends. Remember, making friends takes time and we have to put in the effort to talk to people too. YOu got this!

  • @PriyankaSharma-ny4qe
    @PriyankaSharma-ny4qe Před 2 lety

    I'm in 8th grade and a guy from 10th grade is like crazy about me. I don't even know him that well and he said "since the day i saw you, i was in love" and that was just 2days ago before he asked me out. My best friend who i trust with all my heart also says he's a nice guy and i didn't want to hurt anyone so i said yes. But he's just SO crazy about me. It's like he's attached to me or something cause everywhere I go, he's there. I don't know if i like him or not. Also i might even be too young for a relationship. Idk. Any advice?

  • @caxzrockz
    @caxzrockz Před 3 lety +13

    When you are nearly 30 and still havent had a relationship

  • @styx_alt
    @styx_alt Před rokem +1

    As a girl with a girlfriend, I’m unsure how to express my affection without doing too much and making her uncomfortable.

  • @mr.prestige9798
    @mr.prestige9798 Před 2 lety

    I like my friend but she likes someone else but I don’t think I should say anything as I don’t want a friendship ruined

  • @rhinadan2432
    @rhinadan2432 Před 2 lety +5

    Hi, theres a girl who I really like, like really like. She is so kind and sweet and i want to ask her out... The issue is though is that I think she likes me back but she also just broke up with my friend. What do I do?

    • @seankelly378
      @seankelly378 Před 2 lety +2

      With that profile picture I'd advise not to pursue her lmao

  • @cristal9841
    @cristal9841 Před 2 lety +4

    Almost everyone's 17 when they get into their first relationship huh.
    Yea, I was planing to keep it light. It's my first and her second. She's one year younger. But yea. Imma keep it real chill.

    • @caitlingill
      @caitlingill Před rokem +1

      I’m 19 and I’ve kissed (had my first kiss two weeks ago) but no relationship yet, me and the guy aren’t rushing into relationship status

    • @cristal9841
      @cristal9841 Před rokem

      @@caitlingill ayyy. But I had mine with her and it's going pretty alright

  • @marywahba5301
    @marywahba5301 Před 2 lety +6

    Does this advice go for those who are in their first relationship but are in their early 20’s? This is my first relationship and I’m in college right now

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  Před 2 lety +3

      Absolutely! But you have the advantage that you can progress your relationship because you are an adult and have options instead of being stuck in high school

  • @meiyaoli2258
    @meiyaoli2258 Před 3 lety +9

    How can i get my bf to hang out with my other friends? I fear it seems like showing off and also that would be awkward bc they are not in the same friend group. I haven’t hang out with his friends as well, i am nervous about that because I’m afraid of his friends judging or criticizing me, and plus I’m people-phobic

    • @Hunter-yn4ug
      @Hunter-yn4ug Před 2 lety +1

      Idk if y’all dating but I guarantee you your bf thinks your friends are so annoying

    • @Hunter-yn4ug
      @Hunter-yn4ug Před 2 lety +1

      His friends won’t really judge u as long as you aren’t ugly (lol your not) . It’s just his friends can’t talk the same and say the same things when you are around most of the time so you may feel Akwardness. You don’t have to worry about his friends, but don’t try to get him to like your friends because 99.99% of boyfriends despise their GFs friends, they are just so annoying and nosy and ANNOYING

    • @Hunter-yn4ug
      @Hunter-yn4ug Před 2 lety +4

      Trust me on this, I have never liked any of my GF friends and my friends have never liked their GFs friends either

    • @MassHystarix
      @MassHystarix Před 2 lety

      @@Hunter-yn4ug spot on man

  • @justadude274
    @justadude274 Před 2 lety +8

    I'm 23 I'm still virgin and I didn't talk to a girl (I mean flirt and shit)

  • @mehakverma7043
    @mehakverma7043 Před rokem

    I'm 17, and I'm getting into my first relationship...

  • @N0TB3K09
    @N0TB3K09 Před 10 měsíci +1

    4:12 i wouldn’t bolt if my girl was to serious 😂😅

  • @onvly8672
    @onvly8672 Před 2 lety

    I’m 13 and in my first actual relationship but I have no clue what to do.

  • @sophiemarie8489
    @sophiemarie8489 Před rokem +1

    i asked someone out just before i watched this video

  • @kindnessandgracestaysmilin5990

    This video is super helpful. I’m 15 and me and this guy have been on 3 dates and I made sure to let him know I like to go slow. So he’s respecting that completely. He’s the dream guy in so many ways but I also know that if guys like you, they’ll show you and chase you. And you’re not gonna have to be the one doing the chasing. Which is exactly how this has been. So I’m finally getting into my first real relationship and all these tips are great thank you

  • @elliemay9119
    @elliemay9119 Před 3 lety +5

    So I told this guy I'm ready for a relationship,which I am but I've been thinking (this could just be my anxiety) but im getting really nervous just thinking about hanging out with him and there's thus other guy I really like so im not really sure what to do cause me and the guy I told I was ready for a relationship im really good friends with him we just haven't talked to eachother but we told eachither we weren't gonna be in one until we talked in person and im not really sure what to do

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  Před 3 lety +1

      You are in the best spot Because you have so many options! You should never feel forced into a relationship and you have the option to change your mind at any time. Especially if you like multiple guys you shouldn’t probably be in a relationship with just one

  • @CramcrumBrewbringer
    @CramcrumBrewbringer Před 2 lety +5

    What if you’re a junior in college and have never been in a relationship? How do I start? I don’t even know what’s socially correct and feel I’m too far behind.

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  Před 2 lety +2

      First of all you aren’t behind at all! Just go slow and have fun! Relationships that are right will be natural and feel good

  • @ProbusMihraban
    @ProbusMihraban Před 2 lety

    Love is various so you cannot simply tell people to love others in this way not that and hate in this particular wae if u get what i mean

  • @Iwannadriveagarbagetruck

    Bro I’m 13 and me and my crush litterally just admitted to each other that we like each over today

  • @mohamudomar8577
    @mohamudomar8577 Před 3 lety

    Hi

  • @alayahledoux9806
    @alayahledoux9806 Před 3 lety +11

    Bestie please tell me when i can say ily

    • @naiguerrero9467
      @naiguerrero9467 Před 3 lety +5

      Whenever you love that person

    • @Olivia-em3pd
      @Olivia-em3pd Před 3 lety +2

      When it feels right. For me it was about 2-3 months into the relationship I think. It probably could have been a bit later because we were still in the honeymoon phase. Now its normal for me to say it and I say it genuinely and meaningfully. Loving someone isn't 100% feelings either, its also a decision.

  • @EbiiDaDarkSkinBeauty
    @EbiiDaDarkSkinBeauty Před 2 lety

    Whats your zodiac sign?

  • @amandathwala0178
    @amandathwala0178 Před 2 lety

    So that's why he's ignoring me 🙃

  • @nimatmehmi6459
    @nimatmehmi6459 Před rokem

    butterflies 🤣😂😂

  • @simp7591
    @simp7591 Před 2 lety

    Me watching this who’s not serious at all and the guy is low key kind of clingy

  • @tiffanie554
    @tiffanie554 Před 2 lety

    why am i here

  • @JohnChant0045
    @JohnChant0045 Před 2 lety +1

    How do I get my 1st relationship being a 33 year old?

    • @yoihenbath
      @yoihenbath Před 2 lety +2

      Bhai tutse nahi ho payega😭

  • @toilet2996
    @toilet2996 Před 2 lety +1

    Dude we don't bult if a girl likes us

  • @siddhijain9895
    @siddhijain9895 Před 2 lety

    wo

  • @lovemusic119
    @lovemusic119 Před 2 lety

    I can't believe she just assumed my gender with the first sentence 😂😭 jk lmao she assumed correct 💯🤣

  • @Ben-nc7jt
    @Ben-nc7jt Před 2 lety

    Personally I want my girlfriend to be VERY lovey with me early

  • @brandonmc3483
    @brandonmc3483 Před 3 lety +3

    What if your girlfriend wants to keep it secret

    • @maidgun
      @maidgun Před 3 lety +11

      that means she thinks your ugly or unpopular and she doesn’t want people to judge her. sorry bro, but it means you have a dope personality !!

    • @yourlocalsussinicle9932
      @yourlocalsussinicle9932 Před 3 lety +20

      @@maidgun or they're not ready for attention from people or criticism..

    • @cheesobogo3199
      @cheesobogo3199 Před 3 lety +19

      She might be too shy or maybe she is afraid of being judged by people since it is kind of a lot of pressure knowing everyone knows about your relationship. Her wanting to keep it private isnt necessarily a bad thing, dont worry

    • @blossomrockruff
      @blossomrockruff Před 3 lety +8

      It depends how old you are, some parents dont let there kids date till there out of the house or something like that, me and my gf are 14 and 15 and we keep our relationship secret irl because our parents wont approve of it and my dad thinks LGBTQ is against religion since were both girls I know that has nothing to do with the comment but that's another reason someone would keep a relationship a secret.

    • @renaruseva3800
      @renaruseva3800 Před 3 lety +6

      It could mean her parents don’t let her, or she just wanted to keep your relationship lowkey so people don’t give you guys too much attention. Don’t worry about it. Maybe speak to her about it.

  • @FghtClb28
    @FghtClb28 Před 2 lety +1

    Anyone else got some tips for a lesbian? Suki's in her first relationship right now, and she really doesn't know what the f*ck she's doing. :')

    • @AbbiWinslow
      @AbbiWinslow  Před 2 lety +3

      The majority of these tips can apply to any situation so try them out!

    • @FghtClb28
      @FghtClb28 Před 2 lety

      @@AbbiWinslow tysm for the quick reply, dude. You do NOT know how nervous Suki's been lately 😅

  • @tornadogamer7534
    @tornadogamer7534 Před 2 lety +1

    3 days ago I had my first kiss with my best friend who I’ve known for 4 years, we both have a large group of the same friends. It wasn’t his first kiss. Yesterday I turned 16 and we sneaked off twice for a bit more kissing. A) I’m scared that I’m gonna wake up since I’ve been waiting for something like this for over a year and Ive never actually thought someone would ever like me back. B) Its not his first kiss and its not his first relationship, he’s had 2 other girlfriends and I’m his first boy he’s kissed since he recently came out as bi to me. C) I think I’m very bad at kissing and I think he’s gonna move on from me.

  • @recetasdeliciosasyfacilesc1795

    Like like like

  • @USPatriot2328
    @USPatriot2328 Před 3 lety

    I am a boy my girl don't reply me

  • @ricksanchez69yearsago91

    I personally like the last one

  • @ExplainyourselfEli
    @ExplainyourselfEli Před rokem +2

    Listen to me. Don't even start dating people in highschool. Worst mistake I've ever made was trying to date people in highschool let alone date people at all. Stay single. Cause when you date and breakup you'll be alone again but worst you'll be totally heartbroken or embarrassed if they cheat on you etc. You don't want the humiliation, it's not worth the butterflies.