how to let go of friends that you've outgrown (tips for bettering yourself)
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- How to let go of friends that you’ve outgrown (tips for bettering yourself)
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In this video, I’m going to be talking about how release old friends and how to know it’s time to let go of people that no longer serve you. If you are searching for an answer of how to let go of someone you love, this may be the video for you. It can be hard to learn how to deal with letting go of a friend, but sometimes it is necessary for our growth to do so 🦋
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I appreciate how you’re stressing the fact that the person who you’re trying to break from isn’t always ‘toxic’. Sometimes the people are still good people, y’all are just different now. To me, that hurts the most. I’d rather HATE the person than love them so much. That would make it sooo much easier. But like you said, sometimes it’s the best thing for both you and them.
girl yes, can definitely make it harder since you have love for them. but you become such a stronger person being able to let go w love, knowing that there is something better for the both of you guys ♥️
@@betteryoubysabrina do you recommend sending a text to let them know that you’ll always care? Or just letting what is, be what it is? I’m struggling with letting go because I’m not perfect myself. But it’s time. It’s become too stressful to think about anymore and being the only one wanting to fix anything.
it’s completely normal for it to feel hard, and for guilt to come up thinking you could’ve done something better or just feeling bad in general etc. sending a text telling them you’ll always care can definitely be helpful on both sides & is something i’ve also done. they may not fully understand but that’s okay. you know what needs to be done. it’s also helpful to journal about your feelings if it’s really feeling tough to do and energetically sending love to them, yourself & the situation while also energetically cutting chords if that makes sense 🤍
@@betteryoubysabrina makes perfect sense, thanks again girl. Greatttt words of wisdom!
glad I could help 🥰 sending so much love xoxo
This is exactly what im going through atm, my current friendship just doesn't serve me anymore. We have been friends for 9 years but as we are approaching our 30s I realise we have absolutely nothing in common anymore and nothing much to talk about but the past when we used to drink and party I also find that I am drained with every encounter we have, I just don't enjoy seeing her anymore. Thankyou for giving us the tools to be able to deal with this situation because its so hard and not spoken about enough !
it’s not fun realizing you don’t resonate w the same people you used to 😅 but you really know it’s not right for you when you feel it’s draining, & that’s great you’ve become aware of that! some people are just meant to be in a ~part~ of our lives. sending so much love for the both of you in this situation 🤍
If you find that someone drains you or that the only thing you have to talk about or that you have in common is the past, you know it's time to move on. This has happened to me before. I had a good friend for many years and it used to be that we could talk for hours about anything and everything; however, it eventually got to the point where our conversations felt forced and we had to dig for things to talk about. Then, our conversations would usually start with something like, "Hey, remember that time X number of years ago when this happened?" The past was literally all that we had to talk about. We never had any fun experiences together anymore. We had simply grown apart and had little to nothing in common any longer. It has now been a good 4 or 5 years since I've seen or even heard from this person, and we used to get together almost weekly. I doubt if I'll ever see them again.
@@jrwheeler81 it really is a journey, I'm truly learning that not everyone you start with you will finish with no matter how close you are. Its very uncomfortable and quite sad to begin with but as time goes on you realize that it was the best thing that could have possibly happened. I'm hoping the same thing happens for my situation.
Exact same situation for me as well!
Dang I've been feeling like this about my bff (idek we are bff anymore tho lol)
Covid really made people start to see the truth of their lives. It has definitely helped us to grow❤ you have to let go to grow
I 100% agree 🤍
True!
That's very true. I've made some pretty drastic changes as a result. Feels good, but it wasn't without it's unpleasantness initially.
What it showed me is there are more sheep than than free thinkers and most of my friends are not able to think freely and need to be told what to do.
So now I fell sad that they are not on the same level as myself.
Yeah it’s been never ending since then for me
I let go of friends and the guilt is still there. also, it is very difficult to make new friends as we step into adulthood. you could address that in a new video! thank you for this one!
ask yourself, what about that situation is making you feel guilty? can you see how letting go was beneficial on all terms? release any need to feel responsible for other people’s feelings. if everything is in good intentions, there is no need. in a world of unlimited possibilities, you can attract into your life whatever you believe 🦋
Ι feel u
I like what Sabrina said in this video and in the comment she replied to you. You just have to keep on keeping on. It’s okay to let them go. You won’t die.
Focus on you 🧘🏽
And the right people will come 💚
@Louis76 I hear you, it can be hard to make friends but you’ve gotta try somewhere and sometime. Go on Facebook and find some good friends there in the free group events around the you. Pick up a hobby like photography and offer to help others with their profile photos or something. You can do it Louis. 👊🏼🙂
@Louis76 all love. I’m currently on the same boat. I know how it is 🙏🏼🙂
I’ve out grown all my friends now I have no friends and that’s ok but it gets super lonely but now I’ve found my self and my new hobbies and things that I LIKE and now I feel like I’m ready to find MY PEOPLE ❤️
Yesss and you WILL find them! / they will find you! They’re looking for you too 🤍
@@betteryoubysabrina ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️thank you for that I needed it
Same here love ❤❤❤
I definitely had to let go of friends as I moved into different phases in my life. And I don't regret it! It's really improved my life for the better.
I tried the "Slow Fade". But I felt that I was being dishonest to both of us, by not admitting openly I no longer had the same level of affection or desire to hang out together. So I made the more painful break. "The Truth Will Out"
Some people are just plain toxic or takers and immature. Pray the Lord sends you someone who you will click with. I don't believe in the law of attraction but this is good advice. A friendship is a two way street and is mutual
your friends will hold you back if you let them its the crab in the bucket syndrome when one crab tries to leave the bucket other crabs on the bottom pull them down. misery loves company they will annoy and drain your energy they want whats best for you but they don't want you to leave them behind. it takes a lot of balls to say no to others and yes!!! yes!!!! to your self we do need allies we need friends but when you raise your standers for living you have to say good bye, no matter how painful it feels if you have a vision follow it because if you don't you will go back down with them. always be grateful for the time you had but you really want people lifting you up giving you kind words showing you love rooting for you because when others pick you up they pick them selves up as well.
@@lightinthelantern yes when I would do good things for my self they would get in my way. And when I stopped hanging around them my life got better and they stayed the same we grew apart
This!!!!!!!!
I decided that in 2021 I would start to listen to my intuition and speak/act accordingly. My intuition told me I needed to let go of a couple of people in my life, so I did. It was one of the hardest things I had to do in my life, because we used to be very close. I blamed myself for months and feed off of negative self talk. I have the tendency to see everything as right or wrong and since they hadn't done anything particularly wrong, I started seeing myself as the monster. Still to this day, I sometimes fall back into the loop of self blame and self hatred, which then becomes self pity and blaming them. It's not easy at all, but I'm trying to be more patient and compassionate, both towards me and them. I love them but I had to fly way in order to love myself.
the guilt really does get to you, i’m going to be making a video on how to deal w the guilt of letting go friends so stay tuned but I totally feel you on that. remember that you’re not a bad person for bettering yourself ♥️
you’re not a bad person for stepping away from whatever doesn’t serve you. you’re not a bad person for listening to your intuition & letting yourself be guided towards things that are more aligned w your higher self. constantly forgive yourself & remind yourself of this. what you did was RIGHT. if the friendship wasn’t aligned for you, it wasn’t aligned for them either. some people are meant to just play a part in our lives, not stay in our lives forever & that’s okay 🤍
@@betteryoubysabrina thank you so much for the kind words, I really appreciate it! 🤍 I can't wait to see that video, I'm sure it will help a lot of people. I'm grateful that the universe brought you into my life!
Tu és eu neste momento. Como nunca me fizeram nenhum mal e eram amigas há muito tempo, sinto-me um monstro. Mas na verdade, estamos a fazer o melhor para nós. Ainda choro pelo facto de nao me identificar mais com amizades que achava que eram para a vida...infelizmente nem tudo é um conto de fadas.
@@jessicaribeiro8928 Acredita que aos poucos tudo isto melhora. Começas a perceber que não é natural manter todas as amizades de infância/juventude para o resto da vida. As pessoas mudam, passam por experiências diferentes, evoluem em sentidos distintos. Com o tempo poderás entender racionalmente as razões desse afastamento. Pode levar meses ou anos. Ou podes até nunca entender com a mente. Mas a alma entende, o teu corpo energético e astral tem todas as respostas. Aceitar o que é tal como é e confiar em ti e no Universo (ou no que acreditas) é o necessário para acalmar essas dores e curar essas feridas. U got this 🤍
@@ritajrg Muito obrigada Rita 🤍
I agree with a lot of what you said. I'm a very creative person, and none of my friends were. At first, it wasn't a big deal but now as I am getting more serious about my creative career goals, it is hard being around people that don't share the same creative energy. I even felt jealous of my brother (also creative) who had a whole group of creative friends who would make films together, write scripts/plays -overall, they were productive with each other and were moving in the right direction. Instead I had friends that would rather drag me out to drink, date and things that didn't serve me. They weren't terrible but you're right, it's hard to 'get higher/grow in potential' with people who aren't on that frequency.
yeess, it’s so needed to be in a group that you ~really~ connect w & can grow with on a deeper level. it changes so much 🤍
i am actually very intruiged by this because i do wonder if for creative individuals is it possible to have people close to them that are non-creative. I don't mean like everyone is in the creative industry but by nature i wonder if some element of creativity must be at the core of the people closest to us. Doesn't matter if you are an accountant, lawyer, scientist, etc.. creativity I think can be broken down into other traits and play into how people view and come at the world and i think ties a lot to emotional intelligence maybe? idk I just wonder that. because if i now take a look back and examine the people closest to me, they are all in various careers but one thing I know, they all value art and creativity and it matters to them in some capacity.
@@mor9820 I can say from personal experience that it is possible for creatives to maintain friendships with those who are more business-minded/ structured/ traditional with what they do. Just as long as they are supportive of us, have the same values, and share similar interests. For example my boyfriend is more business minded while I’m more creative but we both value respect, manners, showing kindness, listening without judging.
I like how she talked about when a friendship doesn’t serve you. To me, I feel like my goals and my friends goals are at a completely different level and at some point I feel they are whats blocking me from getting there. So I’m trying to build a space for myself to grow but I feel that they always are a bit clingy, and won’t understand WHY I need the space.
This is worded well. I expressed to my friend that I just need space to hyper focus on my pathway. And she feels that because we aren’t face to face it is detrimental to our friendship. It’s very clingy behavior but I don’t want to tell her that. I’ve told her I needed space because I’ve been through a lot the last few months and only I can fix it. She is trying to link up every time she is off work and gets upset when I’m not available smh 🤦🏽♀️
The real challenge is them not noticing the dynamic has shifted and not being able to understand boundaries and expectations have changed. They try to hoover me back into their BS and the only thing I can do is not answer them anymore. No amount of explaining helps a toxic person understand what they refuse to look at within themselves.
Sometimes you definitely feel like you need to move on. My problem is that I keep looking back. Good times etc.
They are nice memories and that will never go away. You had them and now it's time to make good memories moving forward with others
It is so hard sometimes to move on from a friendship. But like you said, we should always listen to our intuition. And for sure there are some that are revived later in life. The older I get, the more I cherish energetic growth in relationships even if it is hard sometimes.
It's funny how the people you hang out with the most are the habits you start copying. You won't notice but others will first. My mom noticed this with me, i was picking up lazy bad habits and it was affecting my future and the plans I was making. When she told me I was offended but when I took a step back i realized she was right. I'm slowly hanging out with them less and less and since doing that i have been working a little harder and elevating more. This video was perfect, every other video only talked about toxic friends and drama this and drama that. I needed something like this, something about a person who is trying to better themselves and because of that they are outgrowing their friends.
Good idea.
Yes, when you grow - you must go!
If you love someone, set them free. You then allow yourself and them to grow. Life is all about growth and at the end of the day we have to let go of each other anyway. Don't cry because it's over but smile because it happened.
Agreed!! 💗
Healthy attitude. You have the memories
Girl, this is EXACTLY what I'm going through in my life right now... for the past month, I've been searching for videos on this topic nonstop... glad I found yours. I do feel super guilty and am now in the grieving process but I know that this is the best decision for me. It's still hard. I quit drinking completely to become a life coach among other things and I don't resonate with my friends anymore...
can I ask why? why is it you ended those friendships?
Are you feeling better?
I feel like there are so many parts of my personality I want to change and expand, and that my friend group, many of whom I’ve known since childhood unconsciously prevents me from doing so. As we have grown so accustomed to our habits that when we hang out or communicate it’s impossible to break them. I love many of these people so much, but they are holding me back, and it’s not even their fault
Friends are overrated, being alone with silence, no distractions. Just you and solitude. That's how you get to know YOU. When all is said and done towards the end all we have is ourselves, we need to be at peace with that.
Being alone to get to know yourself *is* definitely important and to be at peace with who you are, but I also think that we as humans need community - to be picky about who we let in, but making sure we still allow others in 🤎
friends are definitely not overrated, this is probably the best bond you create on earth. we need alone time just like we need to be with other human beings. you can’t spend your whole life alone, it’s proven that loneliness leads to diseases and serious problems. we are social creatures and we need people around us in order to function normally and basically not go insane. i can partly agree with you on “all we have is ourselves”, but in the same time i truly believe that it’s never only you. there are people who’ll always be there for you, root for you and love you till the very end. they’re not many, but they exist.
Being alone is bad for mental health and COVID proved that.
Exactly
Friends are overrated.
Wow great video!! I really needed this, i’ve been holding on to a friendship that i’ve outgrown for so long. I’m getting very tired of dodging them & having here and there pointless interactions. I started applying healthy habits ; mindfulness ; leaving things that don’t serve me ; etc. While they were still doing/saying the same things. it’s so much harder to let go of someone you know is a good person and had great memories with. My intuition has been nagging me constantly, so i slowly distant myself. it’s working. i wish that person nothing but good fortune and hope they find reflections of themselves in other individuals.
so glad you resonated 🤍🤍 i went through the same thing 😫 but it feels so freeing to walk away from things/people that no longer serve you! also stay tuned for part 2 i’m going to be posting soon! it goes more in depth of how to find new friendships that you align with after leaving outgrown friendships, and it should also help 🥰
@@betteryoubysabrinaI couldn’t agree more! Definitely liberating releasing the weight of outgrowing past friends. Oh wow, Awesome! I will be looking forward to part 2, would love some insight on how to attract friendships that i can vibrate with 😇💖 thank you again!
You give me the courage to let go of friends that really doesn’t serve me, I have been ignoring this idea for a long time but I feel this is the right time to do it.. to attract new things that really serve me. I definitely support this. Cuz we just live once so why would ever waste our time and energy with people who doesn’t give us the energy we really need?
exactly! our energy is so precious & who we spend our time with affects us so much more than we realize 👏🏼 mustering up the courage to step away is the hardest part. you’ll thank yourself later for it 🥰
This video resonates so much with me! It’s true not every time we cut off the person they’re toxic, sometimes we just outgrow them and they outgrow us.
Yes 100%!!
You can also be honest and tell your friends that "Hey, I need to take a break from you". They sometimes need to know why you're avoiding them, so this thing about talking less and less to a person can be harmful if they don't understand why you're doing it.
it definitely depends on the situation but yes you’re right! it can be more beneficial at times to be straight up with them and let them know how you’re feeling & why
I agree... its better to be upfront about it. I get not wanting a dramatic break, but that's like a boyfriend suddenly ghosting you.
I have a question about this because that is what I am trying to figure out. How do I know if its better to say it or not. Because its not that I want this friend out of my life. They are just not in the same "tier" of friendship anymore. They are no longer emergency contact best friend level, they are more would love to catch up if we are in town together in a group setting kind of level for me now. and I just don't know if that is beneficial to communicate or how I would even go about doing that when she thinks we are still best friends. and I dont know if its kinder to take my space and let it happen naturally. i am truly at a crossroads.
@@mor9820 honestly in the same boat and don’t know what to do either.
I had to let go of a best friend of 13 years but I’ve outgrown him and it’s not the same anymore, feelings were mutual. I really thought this friendship was gonna last forever but I was naive.
And that’s so okay!! New friendships will come that will replace it that will match that growth you’ve had and that newer direction you’re in 🤎
So stressful... most people don't accept that friendships may naturally end, because there is no benefit or evolution.
I've had friends end friendships with me without any explanation, and I can honestly say, it is one of the worst experiences in the world. You are left wondering, "What happened!" And yet, had there been a discussion or explanation, if we had a talk, I would have hurt less. At the very least, there would have been less confusion and self-blame; there would've been clarity.
I do agree that we should have that difficult conversation & give clarity for those closer friendships!
I can relate 😪💔
do you have any suggestions on how to have this conversation in the kindest way possible. I do NOT want to hurt my friends' feeling and she thus far has been my best friend.
@@mor9820 Hello. First, hurting someone and someone feeling hurt are not the same.
When we are honest with people, and sincere, they may feel hurt, but it doesnt mean that we--that you--are the cause
If I may ask, do you want to end this friendship, or do you want to have a tough talk with a friend?
@@behroozshahdaftar4209 that all depends if you think the friendship is worth saving than have a talk with him/her even though it's tough if you think the friendship is not worth saving than let them go
I am so glad I found your video, I can relate so much! Thank you for this. I’ve been having similar thoughts lately. Most videos on CZcams talk about friendships ending because things get toxic or there’s clearly a “bad friend” in the scenario. But sometimes you can just outgrow friendships even though nothing was wrong and nobody did anything bad! People grow and change, interests and hobbies change... it’s completely normal.
yes I wish it was more normalized to end friendships that you’ve just outgrown! no hate & no toxicity, just not much relation anymore 🤷🏻♀️ i’m glad you resonate 💓
I’ve had some friendships that have died off due to lack of communication. A lot of people were in the habit of receiving messages, reading and not responding or neither. If I didn’t reach out, I’d probably never hear from them. One who I had a great friendship with drew away, got married inviting all the friends in our circle except me. That was upsetting. I’ve had to move on and cease friendships quietly
Yeah, it feels personal, but maybe it's not. People have so many complexities it is hard to mesh with all all the time. I pulled away from a group too. It changed and just not interesting right now
Just wanted to say this video hit hard for me because I’m going through a situation where I feel I’m outgrowing my friends but I feel guilty about it. Your video helped me put things in perspective. So I just wanted to say thank you for making this. Keep it going.
i’m glad it helped you! it’s SO normal to feel the guilt when you outgrow friends. just means you’re a decent human being lol but realizing it’s for the better on all grounds is really important. your life will uplevel when you let go with love the things that don’t serve you 🙏🏼
I broke up a 3-year lasting friendship and it's been a whole year since, I've grown so much and so many of these things you talked about are so true. I'm in a better place now. I came here because I was feeling guilt for how I treated them when they wanted to separate. I wasn't ready to! But I don't hold it against them now and it really is true that you love your friends even after leaving them. I appreciate those 3 years so much more than I could have when I was friends with them.
Yess thankyou for sharing 🤍🤍 I hope this video series was helpful for you for letting go of the guilt!
I've struggled with this understanding in the past that friendships come and go as we maneuver through different stages of life. It's a natural process but can be super painful to come to grips with. I've come to terms with this over going through a period of grieving. Now I feel better and more confident about letting some friendships go. Often the longer you are away from the person the easier it is to identify why they are no longer a good fit for your life.
Exactly ❤this is what I am processing. My friend group of the last five years changed. So now I am so not into it .. going to take some time and later get back into some other group and start over
All people are users by nature, everyone has an agenda and take take take and not give.
Thank you so much for this insight. I have been feeling guilty about wanting to part ways with people simply because we are moving in different directions. Perfectly nice people, but I find myself getting irritated because now I feel obligated about hanging out with them... so glad I am not being a bad person because I want to move on.
yes you’re totally ~not~ a bad person for just growing in a different direction! people change & that’s not a bad thing! so happy this helped you 🤍
You probably won’t see this, since this is a recent comment but thank you so much for this video. Today is my birthday and I just cut off a long 3 year online friendship. Me and her met twice in person and we’ve always had each other. We were like sisters. We did everything together and we were so close. She helped me out of my comfort zone with my anxiety around irl and my depression and I gave her advice for her problems she was facing at home . We talked every single day of our lives and sometimes all day and all night . There was never a dull moment until when I noticed she started being super distant a few months ago. We would talk like once every week, sometimes it would be just like 1 hour every week. She made many new friends which I was okay with and didn’t mind. But she started to not make any effort to hang out or talk to me, when I tried to talk to her about anything it seemed like she just didn’t care what I had to say. She would change the subject and talk to me about what she wanted to talk about (which she’s never done that in the past) I got the courage to tell her that I can’t handle the friendship anymore and that the friendship is just too much for me and that I’ll be changing into a new person . She didn’t even wish me a happy birthday today (which she always does) and she got mad at me when I said I wanted to leave her and blamed it on me. I still love her so much . Life is hard
This is a great share Sabrina. Appreciate the perspective. You are absolutely right. Life is about change and growth. Sometimes we need to create the space in our lives for the better
Thank you for this episode (and the comments section too). I've carried so much guilt for leaving certain friendships I've outgrown & the majority of advice I see are leaving toxic friendships/relationships, but hardly ones that say it's ok to leave ones that don't serve your growth anymore, even if they're good people. It hurts in some ways because you feel like the bad guy, but that's life
I love this. Such great advice, so on point, honest and real. Thank you so much, can't wait to see all of your other content!
I am goin thru THIS! I’m lonely sometimes but I rather not be irritated by talkin about same stuff that I’m not interested anymore 😬
I feel that!! You’re not alone 💗💗
Aaaaaah this is exactly what I'm going through and I knew it was going to happen 3 years ago then lockdowns accelerated the process! Thankfully I already was creating a new friends group before hand thanks for the confirmation
wow, this is the exact video I needed to see. THANK YOU so much for making this
I'm going through this now. 2 friends I have known over 40 years! Lately, they don't seem to be as supportive of me as they used to be. It's time to let go and move on.
WOW I NEEDED THIS !
In that sort of in-between phase where I don't hold anger towards them, don't want to be around certain ppl, but am figuring out who I DO want to be around. Kind of alone but peaceful too
Ahh “the void” ✨ such a beautiful place to be. This is your time to get super specific on who you do & don’t want to have in your life! Excited for you for what’s to come 🤎
@@betteryoubysabrina thankyou so much for the support on my journey, kind soul💚
Been going through this experience often lately and this definitely made me feel better about my decision of cutting them off. Awesome video! Much needed
so glad it helped 🥰 stay tuned for part 2 of this video if you’re interested! i’m publishing it soon & it goes into why you need to cut them off & how to attract more aligned friendships 🤍
You’re amazing! Thanks for this message, Currently dealing with this 🤦♂️
This is so good❤️
This deserves millions of views
Thank u for this ma’am, I really needed help getting away from people who just wouldn’t let our friendship fizzle
i’m glad it helped 💜
I can't thank you enough this was everything I was looking for no one really talk about friendship in this way last year I let go of most of my friends and even though it felt so right sometimes I feel guilty or doubtful so your words were so helpful thank you
so glad it was helpful 🥰
Yea
This gave me courage and also I can explain to them without actually harming them
This helped me so much. Thank you. I have been struggling with doing this and have such strong feelings of guilt. Thank you for the clarity 🙏
so glad I could help 🥰 the guilt is so normal (& just means you’re a nice person) - journaling it out can help you release those feelings & help realize that it really is for the better 💓
This is a great video. I was feeling this way for a long time, because i've changed lots, and I've stopped some old habits and that has caused me to outgrow old friends, and I always felt guilty about it that I don't have much reasons to reach out to them, but I've made tons of new friends though.
I’m glad it resonated love 💗 you’re not a bad person for changing your habits, and if that means the same people don’t resonate w you anymore, that’s okay 💗
Every word spoken was and is exactly how and what I’ve been currently going through and if anything brought 100% peace and confirmation that my feelings are valid and real. Thank you so so much for sharing this video. This both confirmed and helped tremendously!
So grateful it’s helped you out love 🥰🤎 this was my intention to help others feel heard in this situation & to help them out in making their decisions so I’m glad you feel that way! Sending so much love xx
Thanks for this great message Sabrina, what you said is absolutely correct about the friendships, it’s not that you’re greater than them, it’s just that you have to step away for your betterment. I’m currently going through a tough situation of letting go of a friendship, I find this video very helpful ❤
thank you thank you thank you , i’m immensely grateful for you ‘opening up’ my courage and strength and realization to let go of my friend group. I’m still iffy about it but i KNOW i need to do this , my soul isn’t at peace. I’ll update y’all if i’ve left or not 🤞🏾💕
finding the courage to go through w it is the hardest part! your intuition knows what’s best for you, so if it doesn’t feel right - listen to your gut. you got this 💖
How is it going?
@@emile1271 It’s great , i immediately found a new group of friends who i cherish, and i’m not on bad terms with my ex-friends we just just don’t talk , as it should be . I’m more confident and i’ve gained many acquaintances that’ have supported me . I’m so much happier and grateful that i got the strength to finally do it . thanks for asking 💕
@@inathi9022 I love this for you!! 🥰🤍
I really loved your weighted analogy. I do a lot of self blame for friendships not lasting just assuming it was because of me, though it people aren’t connecting on the same level there should be no guilt letting go of those people/person! Enjoyed :)
i’m glad it helped 🥰
BEST VIDEO on this topic I have found . Thank you!!
so glad it was helpful for you! 💙💙
You're amazing! Thank you for the wonderful advice and tips on relationships. :)
This is the best video I have seen on this topic, it's not always a toxic friend, sometimes you just see less value when you hang with them. In my case I spoke directly to my friend about my concerns and they stated they will not compromise or change who they are. This is fine, but it is also fine for me to see them less often if at all.
Thank you so much for this, it helped me so much to understand that its okay to let go of friendships but also no one ever talks about the feeling after this like the feeling of guilt or that you made the wrong decision when you see them all together and you feel like you are missing out and i think that's the hardest part because often its for your own good that you cut off friendships you have outgrown but sometimes it hurts and you miss the friendships and start to make yourself believe that the situation was better than it actually was but i think nostalgia definitely plays a big part in that and its okay to not feel okay for awhile but ultimately its the best thing for you. I am just praying things get better and that i find friends that are right for me.
Expect things to get better, & they will. Much love to you xx
@@betteryoubysabrina Thank you so much xx
Thank you so much. This is exactly what I needed to hear💗
So glad it helped 🥰
The best video I have seen for letting a friend go.
this is the video i've been looking for! in my case i definetly felt like my friendship started to turn toxic, which made me very upset after a while. i cut them off abruptly one day, and the "breakup" if you will was harsh and I'm still trying to let it go. i hold no grudge, we just don't connect like we used to. thank you for this video
i’m glad it could help 💖💖
You have no idea how much I needed this. My mind was in a knot and it just untangled. Thank you.
I’m so glad it helped love 🥰
You talk about this in such a mature and good hearted way. I'm very impressed by your advice, on something I've been struggling with for so long and sought out advice on many times!
I’m so glad it was helpful for you 🫶🏼✨
Honestly, the only video that I feel like ever made me understand and help about my friendship cuz it wasn’t “toxic” like how it can be in most cases but as for the some cases, this video was SOOOO HELPFUL! 🥺✨~
So glad it was helpful love 😸
Love this video! Literally what I’m going through right now. I’m on a journey to bettering myself in multiple ways, and I tried to take my best friend of 15 years with me. But I realized that this journey was for me, and that she and I just don’t resonate anymore. So I truly believe my ego is what’s holding on. Intuitively I know what to do. Your video has inspired me to do what’s best for me! Thank you so much! Bless you! 💕
i’m so glad it was helpful 🥰 trust your intuition! you’ll be so glad you did in the end 🤍
@@betteryoubysabrina you’re absolutely right! Thank you so much again!! 💕💕
@@betteryoubysabrina Just subscribed!! 💕
@@brittreneeswaymain thankyou love! 💖
@BrittReneesWay OMG SAME !!!!
Girl you spoke right to my soul ! I’m super easily offended to begin with.. (which makes it even worse) so this hit right on the head.
This was right on time! Thank you for sharing!!
Loooveeee your video❤️ Definitely helped!!!
Suuuper helpful and strong insights Sabrina! Thank you so much for this!
So happy it was helpful love 🫶🏼✨
You are so lovely. Thank you for this video. Its very real! ♥️
Right now I'm on a Glow up Mission and you've helped me . Thank you so much darling 💕
This hits home!
so glad it does! 🤍
I needed this!! Appreciate you!!
Yes so glad it helped! 🤍🤍
Literally in love with your thoughts!
You are awesome.
I wish you were my friend.
😂😂 I appreciate you 💕
I needed this
This has helped me so much and I am grateful to you for posting it. Last week I broke up with a friend I've had for 38 years because I just couldn't deal with some old patterns and it got way too heavy for me to carry. I waited too long and it ended very badly with me basically laying it all out because she wouldn't give me space to work it out. Then she pushed me and I fell i to an old pattern. I feel so devastated and guilty but your presentation has made me realize that I don't have to paint myself as the bad guy. I really feel we are best off on our own paths right now, just wish it hadn't ended so poorly because I will always love her.
Forgive yourself love!! You both were just doing the best you could, it’s not an easy circumstance to be in! Sending you sm love 💘💘
@@betteryoubysabrina Thank you for the kind words. You have really helped.
yes! Wise words! Thank you for sharing this! I learn't a lot! Inspiring ❤️❤️❤️
Happy it’s inspired you! 😻
I needed to hear this. Thank you!
so glad it helped 🥰
Thank-you for this video. I met my friend in a support group and she hosts the program. I do a lot of work outside of the program and she has chosen to label herself according to the beliefs of this particular group. That's fine. As I have started to grow and change, I have noticed that she takes really cheap shots or even make statements that shoot down my achievements or make them seem like they're not achievements at all or if I had taken a different path my problems would have been solved ages ago...so it's like she's saying my progress isn't progress at all because it took me so long to get there. She has always had little or no empathy, but right now I just can't even talk to her without getting annoyed. I know that she has expressed to me that many people in her life have exploded on her due to some of the things she has said to them as they felt her comments were offensive. She has said she doesn't understand why people just attack her out of nowhere. I can see why now. I am not like that, but I know I have had to breathe before I respond to her on several occasions. Despite our coursework, she is still at square one....in major denial. That's fine. That's her journey. I just don't want to be there with her. I cannot. I also don't feel good at all after I speak to her. She asked me to go to dinner on Thursday when she comes to my city, I said sure. I reached out to her last week to confirm the plans and she said she's meeting other friends. I was like...ok. She said we could meet up Sunday along with someone else from our support group. I said sure, but now I don't want to. I just want to cut ties.
This is the EXACT video I needed
I’m so glad it was helpful! 💗💗
I just broke up with my friends .. I got love for them .. but I had to step away because the friendship doesn’t serve me anymore , I feel like I don’t fit it in .. I’m feeling guilty and sad
So normal to feel this way - also so proud of you for taking that step to better yourself!! Know that you’re not a bad person for stepping away from what isn’t serving you anymore, forgive yourself & let yourself process these emotions through maybe journaling & watch my part 3 of letting go of the guilt if you haven’t already as it may help! Sending so much love xx
I needed this so much thank you ❤️
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Thank you so much for validating me ❤️👋
sending so much love 🥰💖💘
needed this
I resonated with everything that you said girl. ❤✨
so glad it hit home 💗
Hi Sabrina, my name is Matt Winick and I want to say that I enjoy watching your videos about lifestyle and advice about how to better improve yourself. I have autism with a learning disability. It’s hard for me having a disability because I get bullied by other people including some friends about having a disability, struggle to communicate my thoughts in different settings, and have trouble comprehending on learning different advance subjects. Also with a disability I face people getting negative about how they don’t like people who are different and don’t appreciate on who I am despite working hard to try my best. I’m able to relate to this video because I want to take a break from people including friends because I want to grow better, take a break from negativity that people put on me, and work on finding motivation. I have doing volunteering work to help feed homeless people including people who low income in A2 downtown to help me find compassion while help people, exercise to help build my body, write letters to influential people who inspire me, and do morning walks. You are very inspirational to me to find motivation when I struggle with a disability and the world on being harsh on me. Thank you for inspiring me.
i know that it’s hard but you need to cut off negative people to grow as a person, those negative people are holding you back from working on yourself. find people who accept you for who you are as a person. it’s amazing that you’re helping people in need and working on yourself, and while volunteering you might even make new friends since you guys share similar interest. i wish you the best of luck in your self discovery and self growth! 🤍
Hey! Recently I cut off some friends from my life. Although I have been feeling more positive energy in my life because of it, I do still feel guilty for doing it. There are a lot of videos for people that got "broken up" with and not many trying to see the side of the people doing the "breaking up". This video helped me a lot, Thanks!
so happy for you that you made that change! it’s so normal to feel guilty ab it 😅 I actually recently released a part 3 to this series talking about how to deal with the guilt that should be able to help w this 🥰🤍
Great advise for a challenging situation.
I'm glad I came across your channel!
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Love this, thank you!
I really appreciate this video. Ill be 30 in 3 days and had to let my best friend go of 17 years. It hurts so much and i am working on the feeling of nostalgia like you mentioned. I miss the past so much sometimes it breaks my heart. However its time to grow and the only person who is going to help with this is me. Thank you for taking the time to help me grow into a happier healthier man. With all these tools i refuse to feel the same way i did in my 20s.
Well said! Great video!
This really resonated thank you ❤️
So glad it did! 🤎
It was really good to me to find this video! Almost a year ago I cut off two friends I really loved and I still wonder if I did well or not. In my case both were disrespectful to me in different ways and then said they were sorry ( to me it was fake because they put a lot of excuses for their behaivor and one of them didn't even listen to me when I told my feelings about the situation) after that I faded out slowly because I notice there were not real regret...they only talked to me when they needed someone to hang out with and even ghosted me constantly. And also I felt that we are in different paths now. So I stopped to answer or write to them. It hurt me a lot, because for me they were really important, but It was the best for my spirit and mind. Thank you so much again for this video.
you did the right thing!! so glad this video could help 💖
@@betteryoubysabrina Thank you so much for your words. :)
The sentence on the thumbnail of this is something I keep saying to myself about a girl I’ve been best friends with since I was 4. She has the same salt lamp in the background of the video and this video was posted on my birthday last year where she attended my birthday. I just feel like these things are a sign too me spiritually and I really needed to see this video as well. Thank you so much for this video. I hope this is a turning point in my life to grow ❤️✨❤️
wow the synchronicities!! yes this totally will be a turning point for you!
This video just helped to move mountains in my life!!!! Thank you. I just subscribed
so glad it helped! thankyou I appreciate you❣️
such a wonderful video, thank you so much