I'm doing a year long replacement only no buy for 2019. With 5 "treat" items throughout the year. (as a buffer). After finding and religiously watching your channel, I realized that after I got clean (from heroin) I had so much "extra" money and started binging on makeup instead. I essentially traded one addiction for another. I want to be healthy all the way. Your videos helped a lot of people by putting into words what a lot of people are feeling.
Angela Pennington Not the same thing at all but I lost 100 pounds in 2013. By 2014 I realized I was trading eating for buying makeup. I gained it all back but now have two ( 3 or 4) problems. You’re amazing for beating that girl. A-freaking- mazing! I don’t know you but I’m happy for you and proud of you.
Congrats on getting clean & good luck with your no buy! You should document it if you can, I think a lot of people will find the addiction replacement interesting..
2022 is the year I finally get myself together and commit to a no-buy! Thank you Hannah for continuing to inspire even years after this video was posted ❤️
2023 is my year for using loving and enjoying what I already have, because I spent ALL OF 2022 buying tons of (great) stuff. Only buying things to restock what I need. Focusing on saving for a house and buying things to make my apartment cozy cause we're gonna be here for another 3-5.5 years 💕
I quit smoking cold turkey going on 9 years ago and it was so hard, but so easy at the same time. I didn’t have to “cut back” or anything, I had one simple rule to follow: not even one. I convinced myself that someday, after I’d quit, it would be okay to become a social smoker and have one every now and then but guess what? Those things are effing disgusting and I will never put another one near my mouth. I smoked for 9 years, most of those years...heavily....and I quit cold turkey and never turned back. I think cold turkey can work for everyone because those who say it can’t, probably haven’t even tried it. Congrats on your no buy year!!
Hi Smacy! I love the "one simple rule" thing. That is great. I agree that cold turkey can work for everyone, it's a matter of deciding to actually do it. Thank you for watching! xoxox!
Hi Smacy, nice to see you here. I have become a heavy smoker in the past year when I used to be that person who would avoid being around smokers at all costs bc my parents would smoke all the time. I would have a cigarette occasionally in social situations but it was never a habit. I don't blame my ex bf but I did start smoking regularly and enjoying it more and more while with him. I am currently staying with my dad who still smokes and I now smoke more than him. His new wife is a doctor and does not like us smoking one bit. I hope someday soon both my dad and I can quit. Cold turkey seems to be the best way to stop this particular harmful habit.
Mariel Hinojosa yes, cold turkey is the way to go! When I quit smoking, I still lived with my college roommates, ALL of whom were heavy smokers! But, every time they went to smoke, I went with them. I brought a cup of coffee or tea, ya know, something to keep my hands busy, and I kept up the social habit without the cigs. It was SO hard at first but I decided I didn’t want to give up the social aspect, so I didn’t! I didn’t want to change my entire routine, I just eliminated smoking from it, and never looked back. It took a few weeks for the cravings to go away, and it took about TWO YEARS for the intermittent cravings to stop. But now I can’t freaking stand them and I can’t believe I ever smoked at all. I wish you all the best! And when you’re ready, cold turkey is, in my opinion, the only way to quit smoking for good (shy of Rx medication ofc).
Oh my goodness!! I have NEVER in my entire time on CZcams have I ever watched someone who has admitted on camera to everyone, their true struggle like this before. Or maybe it’s the fact that everything you just described has been the EXACT same turmoil I have lived with for so so long now😩 and have not been able to tell another living soul, because of the embarrassment and shame that I have. YOU are the reason that I’m starting my NO-Buy journey, before you I had never even heard of a No-Buy. YOU are the reason I’ve taken a long hard look at myself, and the situation that I’m in; and been able to say to myself enough is enough!!!! Thank you so much for this video, your channel and the work that you have put into it!! Between you and Makeup Rehab I’m looking forward to My NO-Buy Year!! 🙏🏽❤️❤️❤️
Nicole you are not alone. I’m am on a Supa Low Buy beginning January myself. I simply want to LIVE again and not be a slave to makeup! I’m going to be using Hannah’s categories if the event arises and I think I want makeup. Mostly though, I plan to get to know and enjoy what I already have....And that’s an enormous beautiful collection. I’ve started tonight with the first cut of channels that I subscribe to. Next are the emails followed by IG. You can do this! We can do this! 🙏🏾🙌🏾😍
Vibrant Delights thank Thank you! I’m telling you the support that is given to one another in this No-Buy community is amazing!!! Hanna’s channel has truly been a God send, and her videos will definitely be a place for reference and grounding when times get tough😬😩 Being on makeup rehab has become a safe zone for me as well. So far I have not read one time that when someone says they messed up, and are feeling pretty critical about themselves; has someone uttered an once of criticism, only advice and encouragement!! So thank you for the confidence boost! And yes WE got this!!🤗🙌🏾🙌🏾
I'm not starting a no buy year but I recognize certain patterns I need to address. I've been a stay at home mom for a year. That in itself made me realize a lot about myself. When I worked outside of the home I spent a lot on unnecessary things. With one income I don't feel comfortable spending money on random things. But I do a lot of " window shopping", reading reviews, looking at beauty videos, and making wishlists. I was obsessed with getting into to luxury make up. I wanted fancy packaging and that feeling of being luxurious and rich. When I found your channel it was perfect timing. I was distracting myself from real issues trying to make myself feel better with products. I've been binge watching your videos and enjoying the make up I have. Many things that I thought I wanted I'm not interested in anymore.
yes! I never realised that so much of my headspace was taken up by my 'window shopping' behaviour - binge watching/reading review, compiling wishlists etc. Whether I eventually bought the product or not, a lot of time was still spent thinking about spending money instead of going to do something that's actually productive.
One (reliable) income here! I'm considering a no buy, and a definitely a change to my shopping behaviors that I do to self-soothe. I went from being a compulsive antishopper to an overspender over the course of 5 years or so...I want a healthy balance (both in my mind and bank account!). Thanks to Hannah and this community, I have a shot at actually being successful 💜.
Danielle, I was in the same place a month ago (now I have a job but the rest is staying) so I totally feel you! I think I could do a budgeting instead of no buy - I buy relatevely reasonable amount of things. But my problem is buying unnecessary things because of a low price... I've been tracking this year what I bought and most of these items I don't even have anymore. But I have and like using those which I bought after longer consideration. I cross my fingers if everyone of us could fulfill her own idea of breaking of the bad habits 👍
Wow same! My baby is 6 months and finally adjusting to one income & an extra mouth to feed has been eye opening! I notice so many things now that I would’ve bought without a second thought. I cringe at all the money I could’ve saved over the last couple years...
I felt #7 on a spiritual level “I was always looking for something to want”. I’m so tired of this mindset and you’re a huge encouragement especially knowing I’m not alone or psycho
I feel like you picked a lot of those observations directly from my life. It’s like you looked into my head and read my mind for the reasons why I want to do the no buy year. I’ve certainly drawn a lot of similar experiences and self reflections! I’m so proud that you’ve done this - you’ve done yourself proud too!
I literally felt that she was describing me. I'm getting ready and every time she points out i look back and stare....how you know that, More so, I'm not the only one out of control.
🙋🏽♀️ I'm dealing with some stuff - I'm not suffering but I don't like the pattern. I was touched by every checkmark on the list. I want to do a low-buy if not no buy and focus on trying to use what I have. Buying is a hollow hobby I use to cope, even for PC parts...
I told myself for years that I was that person who just couldn't stick to rules and would immediately rebel and blah blah blah and it turns out, I had ADHD, which means my brain is garbage at impulse control and lacks the chemicals for it. Shopping is common problem for people with ADHD because our brains lack dopamine and the anticipation and acquisition of new things gives us the dopamine hit our brains need to function. After being diagnosed earlier this year, there was a period where I thought my prospects for getting shopping under control were hopeless because, well, my brain was WIRED to give in more easily to impulse, right? Wrong. Shoutout my therapist and doctor who cleared up a whole bunch of misconceptions for me. ADHD means I have shitty impulse control and that things like goal setting are harder for me than for the average person only if I persist in using an average person's strategies (most of which rely on having reserves of willpower to accomplish things that my brain can barely muster even with meds). So how does this roundabout confession link to your vid? Because a no-buy is an exceptional (as in, non-average) strategy. I've realized that when I don't cold turkey, when I give myself the option for engaging in a behavior (like shopping), I've ended up putting myself in a place where I'm frequently asked to test my impulse control and willpower. And since that's in shorter supply for me than a neurotypical person, I'm setting myself up to fail. Because I just don't have the reserves of willpower to be constantly asking myself if I should or can buy a thing or not. So cold turkey (the radical option) with rigid rules is what WORKS, because it means my brain doesn't constantly have to try and make decisions. It doesn't leave room for impulse or, worse, trying to rationalize buying something (which takes up so much mental energy that I should use for my life's work!). The rules I've made for my no-buy are clear and simple and non-negotiable, and the cold turkey nature of it is what pulls me out of situations where I could even give into impulse. Doing it for a year makes it a period long enough that my brain stops associating shopping with a dopamine rush, allowing me to break that habit. I truly never though cold turkey could ever work because I went into it the wrong way with the wrong mindset, but I'm almost a month into the no-buy I started after seeing your No Buy November vid and it's difficult, but working. I've been tinkering with the rules a bit and workshopping them so that they're fully set by Jan 1st, but honestly you've been such an inspiration! 2k19 is going to be the year of expending my mental energy on academics and law school applications and the LSAT, not shopping for pretty things to feel a high. Thank you, as always, for giving me the pep talk and inspiration and insight that keeps me motivated to change and keep going! And apologies for leaving a second incredibly long comment on your channel - I'm apparently incapable of stopping myself from writing entire novels under your vids! Hope you're having a relatively stress free and happy holiday season! 💛💛
Wow I have ADHD and I've never known this. In fact I haven't been told anything at all except that I have a short attention span. This makes me feel like maybe I should look it up
@@unofficialxii8424 yeah you definitely should look more into it because the amount of misconceptions about ADHD out there are ridiculous, and there's a lot of debate about changing the name because it's a misnomer. ADHD doesn't mean you always have a short attention span or deficiency of attention because people with ADHD can hyperfocus on a thing for hours (in fact, my psych said that if you can never pay attention to anything ever, you likely don't have ADHD and are going through something else). Yes, ADHD is an inability to regulate attention (control when and how you want to focus) caused by insufficient and inconsistent amounts of dopamine reaching the outermost parts of your brain. But that lack of dopamine causes problems way beyond attention and affects things like time (like most ADHDers are time-blind aka can't properly perceive the passage of time), organization, goal setting, emotionality (like being super sensitive, acting on emotions without thinking at all, not being able to recognize what emotion you're feeling before already having acted on it), poor impulse control, issues with procrastination and motivation and even some memory problems. Delays in being diagnosed and treated also often wreck people's self esteem to the point of depression because they're constantly underperforming, and the pathological procrastination can cause intense amounts of anxiety. It messes with your life in a BUNCH of different ways, so if you have it, I would definitely spend some time looking into it and talking over it with a psych or doctor if possible!
It seems like the "baby steps" method works better for making habits. You can do a little exercise, incorporate a little more healthy food. I think "cold turkey" is the really effective way to quit something. When you can't smoke, for example, you become a non-smoker. I think that incorporation of lifestyle into identity is helpful in breaking a habit.
Thank you for articulating this, that's really helping me see some important distinctions in my own issues. Quitting spending is one habit that needs breaking and therefore a cold turkey approach. Developing new healthy habits is totally different and can utilize baby steps.
This is exactly the content I needed at this point in my life. I’ve quit smoking cold turkey, I’ve quit drinking cold turkey. And the emotional hunger that fueled those addictions has shifted to shopping. I feel out of control. I have every issue you listed. I know what I need to do!
“Cold turkey” didn’t work for me until I acknowledged it was an actual addiction and mental health issue. Would you give an alcoholic just one beer? nOpe. I can’t give myself the wiggle room because I don’t stick to it. It’s so much easier to say I can’t get anything versus I can have just one thing. When I tried “low buys” I would obsess over which things got to be the winners and choosing would stress me out until I would say who cares and just buy it all. I had to figure out why my emotions were triggering me to shop in the first place.
This video should be a TED talk. I hope it goes viral. I am currently on day 31 of my no buy year. The straw that broke the camel's back for me was what you mentioned as your number 7. When I realised that, I knew sth had to change. Thank you for this video.
Wow. Another Hannah video where I think to myself, “How did this stranger get into my head?” Thanks so much for this content. You are the reason I am doing a 7-month no-buy. I am 16 successful days in. My biggest challenge is how to redirect my shopping behaviors. I want to stop “shopping for recreation,” even if I am not buying anything. I hope you discuss that in your next video.
When someone you never met says the things you know to be true but have NEVER said out loud to anyone, the answer is YES. I am doing a no-buy next year. It sounds like you are showing up in your own life in a new way. It sounds like you are more aware of what you are doing and why. Thank you for being unapologetically you and for encouraging all of us to be the same. 🙏🏽
It saddens me that I can relate to these feelings of shopping. When my sister passed away and was being taken out in a bag in order to avoid the pain I fixated my self in front on the shopping channel practically brought everything they were showing on that show. Being true to myself I know shopping for me is a fantasy land where you feel no pain, look perfect and live perfect. Thank you for your honesty and placing yourself in such vulnerable way. I admire you and congratulate you on your no shopping year. Keep shining like that priceless gem you found in your soul ✨
Hannah! I love you! A very good friend told me once when I was being hard on myself “stop shoulding all over yourself”. Now I think all the time “stop shoulding on me!” I am entering a no buy year myself. You inspired me to try no buy November, and it felt great. I have a million things I want to get done this upcoming year, and spending money isn’t on the list. 💋💋💋
This year, I started a no-buy. Since January 1, I haven't spent any of my own money on makeup. I made rules, and I have followed all of them. So, I completely agree with you! It can be done!
excellent commentary about buying as a band aid. for me my former excessive spending was a band aid for my depression, low self esteem and creative slump (which lead to a lot of makeup AND art supplies being bought), and new makeup always came with the 'promise' of renewed creativity and the thing that will finally make me feel better about myself and my skills as both a makeup lover and as a painter/artist. eventually i went to therapy and realised that i can enjoy those things but shouldn't use them as a crutch, and that they will never bring the desired change. your channel, as well as therapy, was a turning point for me because i finally saw someone that struggled with shopping like i did and persevered and prevailed. for 2018, i am thankful for finding you, your channel, and becoming friends!
I did a no-buy for a year as well, and I think... I think my desires for things drastically changed immediately because whatever time I spent shopping and stuff, was quickly filled by other parts of my life. But I will say, that I never realized how much of life I was missing out on before my no-buy. So many family gatherings, helping my neighbors out with stuff, hanging out with friends, babysitting said friends’ kids, and all these other things I didn’t realize was going on... because whenever someone inquired me about these things, I was shopping and when I told them that, they assumed I didn’t want to be bothered. So while I learned that yeah, my brain just isn’t drawn to shopping or things if I’m not in that environment, it took a while for me to realize just how stupidly I was spending my time on this Earth! I had so many wonderful things that you can’t pick up at the stores, but I didn’t appreciate them until this no-buy. Would I recommend a no-buy? Absolutely. Not even just on a consumerism / spending problem perspective, but just... see what your life would be like if you weren’t shopping as much. I think you’ll be surprised at how much happier you are with the things you already have. ❤️
This is the first video of yours I've seen and I'm so happy I found you! A lot of what you are describing about shopping behaviors is so true for me as well. The avoidance of looking at your financial situation, the desire to want things and the subsequent buying of things not needed, the fantasy of being someone important that you describe all rings true. Before I even saw your video I had already put into place a mindset of stopping the uncontrolled shopping. Seeing your video has reinforced my resolve. I subscribed to your channel and look forward to hearing your future videos.
I listened to my first no buy video of yours this morning and as I was in Dollar General looking for bandaids, I picked a box up and found myself looking around thinking “what else can I buy” and I remembered your video and walked directly to the checkout, laughing to myself! Thanks Hannah! Maybe I’m late to the party but 🎉 count me in! ❤
I thought I was the only person like this: the vicious circle of panicking about money and then spending compulsively on exactly the same kinds of things. I also have a similar working situation and interests (writing, working freelance and art). I have tried no-buy in the past, but it didn't work. I still bought things. Now I just don't want any more stuff. I want to enjoy what I have. I have too much around me and I have money issues. It's not even about baby steps v. turkey: I am fed up with the whole rigmarole and you have framed that for me perfectly. I am busy with lots of other things and the energy and resources should be going into them.
Thank ypu for your videos! I don't need a no buy, but I decided that I will buy makeup more cautious. Don't think that I can call in low buy eather, but I made some rules about makeup - how much, how often and on what budget I am allowing myself to buy.
Thank you, Hannah for sharing your No Buy Year journey with us. Your well-articulated advice and the issues and questions you've raised have been thought-provoking and they have certainly made me examine my buying habits. Looking forward to more wonderful content from your channel in the coming years. Congratulations! Merry Xmas!
Hannah, I just found you this evening and I'm feeling really grateful that CZcams's algorithm recommended you to me. I appreciate how honest and self-aware you are when sharing the things you have observed about yourself through the course of this no-buy year. Your insights have sparked some intense self-reflection in me and as I give thought to the kind of year I'd like to have in 2019, I'm keeping your comments in mind. I'll be watching more of your vids this weekend - I'm just really surprised and grateful to find some real thought-provoking personal development/betterment content that isn't focused on things like ridiculous tea detoxes or waking up at 3:30am to hit the gym. It's the inner life that drives change, and I'm so happy to find a channel that actually addresses that.
I watched all of the videos you have posted since I discourage your channel.. and I watched some of them more then once haha I just love spending time with you.. so I play your videos while I do my makeup or when I’m having makeup play time just for the pleasure to hear your sweet voice and the amazing things you always have to say!!!
You've inspired me to do a replacement only No -Buy Year (for makeup, skin, hair) for 2019. I have a lot of these same habits, ESPECIALLY the habit of "wanting to want". And beauty/skin care is my weakness. I have decided that I have bigger goals in mind.
I first read of no-buys in the book “Not Buying It” by Judith Levine. (Wow, I just looked it up. That was in 2006!). Over the years I’ve tried on many occasions to set shopping rules and restrictions for myself; but I could not (or would not) stick to them. I have to say, watching your channel this year has convinced me that it *is* possible to set rules and stick with them. The thing that is different for me this time is that I’ve taken the time to examine my own habits and I’m targeting specifically the behaviors that I want to change. I agree, I think 2019 is the year of the no-buy in the beauty community, and I’m excited about it
@@HannahLouisePoston It is admittedly dated -- I remember in particular a rant about the Bush administration's energy policy, LOL. But I liked it enough that I have kept it and re-read parts of it over the years, for inspiration or motivation. If I remember correctly, the author saved enough money to pay off several thousand dollars of credit card debt.
Excellent content Hannah! I love how you mentioned that your feelings of anxiety during the 2016 elections drove you to developing a shopping addiction in an effort to alleviate what you were going through. I can relate to those feelings. I too had misplaced my need to release my depression/stress with reckless shopping behavior rather than healthy forms- therapy, exercise, coaching, etc. I had left a job in the teaching field and after a decade into it to suddenly not knowing what I would do next was scary. I didn't have direction or a safety net in the financial department. I was irresponsible and accrued a lot of debt...not just with shopping for makeup, but charging my card for an escape like vacations, lavish meals, buying expensive gifts I couldn't afford, etc. 2017 was a wake up call and I had to change because I was causing my own set-backs in all areas of my life. I remember when I couldn't even afford gas in my car to drive over and support a friend's grand opening of her new organization. That hurt. It was the kind of pain I know well enough to protect myself from having to ever feel it again. I guess everyone's level of "no-buy" will be based on how motivated they are.
The word “should” doesn’t rub me the same way as it does you, but I’ve definitely had some ridiculous experiences with men stubbornly telling me what I should do. I knit and crochet on my public transit commute and men love to tell me I should turn it into a business and that they would totally pay for what I make. When I explain that to cover materials and to pay myself minimum wage, a pair of socks would cost well over one hundred dollars, they quickly switch from “I’d pay that” to “someone would pay that.” Turns out, they had no idea what they were talking about 😒😒😒
Hannah thank you so much for all of your advice!!! Your videos helped me to change my habits and my life!! I love you so much!!! And just for let you know I’m from Brasil 😊 and I’m so happy to see your channel growing so fast!! We need more people like you 💖
I had to laugh at the should part. I was running a small business at a time and it was quite funny how everyone from random strangers to family members will give business advice once they asked what i was doing and now that i think about it, it was primarily men who did it 😂 love the thoughts in the video
For me it’s almost like the feeling fancy, or the need to unwrap something. I felt special somehow and never got the same appreciation for using the thing instead of acquiring it.
If it's the wanting to unwrap things, in January you can wrap up a couple of eyeshadow palettes (or any set of items) and unwrap them when your really struggling. Should help it feel like a new item and you've unwrapped something
I'm so sorry that I was one of those people recommanding you to try something by saying that you ''should'' try it! English isn't my first language but I do understand now the slight distinction! I wasn't seeing it this way, but it makes perfect sense. On another note, I will start my own no-buy year! I've been binge watching your videos since I found your channel and you're exactly what I needed to begin my recovery from a slight makeup shopping addiction. I thought the only way to feel a spark of joy and excitement was to buy new products, but I felt very similar and even stronger feelings by watching you talk about the products you already own and the satisfaction of using them up and rediscovering them. It motivated me to do the same! Thank you, Hannah xx
aw, don't worry about it babe! I was being a bit dramatic about it (especially with regards to the comments). I totally understand what you meant :) I'm so glad you are enjoying the channel! Sending a big hug!
My biggest downfall is online shopping mainly for makeup so I’m going to go on a no buy via the Internet. I tend to go to Marshalls once a month and To me that’s okay, since my issue is the inter webs. I have to unfollow all brands and stuff on my social media.
@Olivia Carlo unsubbing from emails and social media accounts really helps. I stated above that I am a fairly controlled and frugal shopper, but beautiful social media feeds announcing discounts were so tempting to me. You know your area to watch, and there is great power in that! We are rooting for you!
I feel like this is really good idea because knowing you have to physically go out and buy the thing you desire in that moment gives you more time to really think about whether you actually want it or not!
I wanna try a no-buy year in 2019. Buy only things I need to replace. Avoid social media. I’ve been off Instagram and Facebook for 4 months now. So I think being off social media had help me control my urge to spend. I maybe purchased 3-5 new makeup items in the matter of 6 months. I’ve been into decluttering too to curate my collection (makeup, clothing, shoes, accessories and perfumes).
It's amazing how once I decided to go on a no-buy year I started finding so much content about this on youtube ... Yours are the best videos so far, for me: from the way you look, to how articulate you explain your journey and your motivations, i just love watching you and will keep doing so. Each one of us is different of course, but I've been finding quite a lot of inspiration for myself while already in the mindset of doing (more or less) the same thing ...
Im starting my no buy in 2021. The fantasy of owning a makeup/skincare/jewelry item was more strong than actually using it. Like foundations, when a new one comes out the fantasy of this formula being the best or the colour match being the best is what makes me buy it. So many disappointments didn't stop my from buying more. My collection is currently very curated through smarter purchases but now I need to start finishing some makeup items. In 2019 I finished 143-148 products and none of it was makeup which is saying a lot.
I can 100% relate, I just go out buying makeup that I know I’m not going to use but still buy it. I am getting myself ready for a no buy year starting from 1 January 2019. I really hope I will be as successful as you in your no buy year. I am so tired of buying things that makes me happy for a little bit then feeling guilty or no longer feel the satisfaction I had when I first bought the items. Thank you so much for inspiring me and really opening my eyes to the fact that I do have a shopping addiction which needs to stop.
I'm starting a no spend year because of a toxic fantasy self. I buy clothes as a costume screaming to the world " I'm edgy, I'm interesting, be my friend !", I buy books that I'll never read but say to my guests that I'm artistic and intelligent. Buying stuff is not about money and needs, it's about emotions and hopes. I'm one month in, and I have to face my problems, it's hard but so rewarding ! Keep going 💪
"I was always looking for something to want" Oh my god that is exactly what I'm going through and its exhausting. I always feel this sense of 'what next?' 'what can I buy to make me feel like I'm accomplishing something?' and a feeling of anxiety in my stomach if I'm at home and not at the shops... And I always justify that whatever I am buying is just adding to my "productive" life, because I buy what I considered "practical" things like skincare for self-confidence, clothes for work, books for self-development etc... but I know that at the end of the day I'm just wasting my time, money and effort and always preparing for something that's never coming because it's an endless road....
i just wanted to thank you for this channel- i stumbled across it not too long after i started getting into makeup and Beauty CZcams, and i really think it helped me stop some bad behaviors before they even really started.
I feel like one way that my brain gets lured into wanting more stuff is when I watch videos talking about product lists e.g. monthly favourites, hauls and best of videos - I know that alot of these videos are supposed to help me make a more informed choice as a consumer, but more often than not they actually introduce me to more products that I wouldn't even know about before watching the video, let alone want. It's a part of my shopping behaviour and I've been trying to cut down on it - i.e. only spending time to watch a review of a product that I was already thinking of getting, instead of enticing myself to get more stuff that I don't need. It's saving me so much time and I never realised how much time I actually spent researching and obsessing over products that I didn't even want in the first place!
While there are independent youtubers who strive to bring us unbiased content, it's all just advertising. Even Hannah's "Monthly Empties" videos have influenced me this way - for FOMO I decided I "had" to have a product she said she loved and was sad she couldn't buy again until 2019 (my 2nd irrational justification was that it was on sale). A negative repercussion of her no-buy is that I decided to spend my money in her stead. Hannah's "youtube made me buy it."
@@bebelovely7451 yup i think the beauty community started off as a way to share good/bad products but with youtubers accepting sponsorships, reviews are no longer so transparent :/ I've basically cut myself off from watching any videos that recommend products (or focus on product lists such as best ofs and empties) unless I have something that needs to be replaced and I find that it helps! Project pan videos are good sources of motivation too
I have to do cold turkey, I agree. Have you read the Gretchen Rubin book? She calls that ‘abstainers’ versus ‘moderators’ and absolutely an abstainer. Moderating is a slippery slope for me!
I was just thinking about the same book - Better than Before. We are all different and no buys won't necessarily work for everyone. I think I need a no buy for 2019... my stuff is getting out of control. It's not just make up, it's skin care (face and body), perfume, clothes, jewellery, footwear... you name it, I buy it! I just need to work out my rules - if they feel unreasonable I will look for every loophole going or just quit. Like I have bought a ton of new clothes since I lost weight. I don't need any more - unless I lose enough weight my new wardrobe no longer fits. So it can't be a 100% no buy of clothes for any reason, but no more buying another new dress for dancing when I have plenty in the wardrobe that fit, and so forth.
I think you would find it really interesting. She wrote a couple of books about happiness and then Better than Before emerged from a conversation with a friend who commented that it was odd how habits were sometimes east to form and other times nearly impossible even when it was the same habit. She came to the conclusion that a lot of happiness is about being able to form healthy habits and so a book on how to do that was worthwhile. The key is there is no "one size" that fits all, but that it's down to self awareness and understanding the person you are and what will work for you. I have been to a couple of talks with her when she has been to the UK, she is a really interesting talker and her books are the few I return to for ideas again and again. I shall be revisiting my copy over the holidays as I make some plans for 2019.
@@estellehowell4414 Said it perfectly, that's exactly what the book is about. She also has a lot of the basics of the information on her website, if you wanted to give it a read over before diving into the full book. I had never thought about my personality like that before, but it's true - I'm an 'abstainer' who has to do the all or nothing approach and also the 'obliger' who needs external motivation to get things done, like having someone else depending on me or checking in on me. It's probably why I blog about my goals publicly, so people can call me out when I'm not working towards them!
It’s nice to see someone that is in the beauty community that I really enjoy watching that doesn’t also reinforce my voracious appetite for new beautiful things. I have decided that I’m on a no buy through the end of this year. I want to have more meaningful experiences and I can’t do that if I am constantly acquiring new things. Watching these videos help me renew my commitment and thinking about different ways to go about being in the world. I need to create room for growth and that takes time. Thank you Hannah!
I totally understand the buying expensive makeup to feel fancy and prosperous. Chanticaille was my go to for a while. Buying and shopping is definitely my happy place. I can afford most of it it’s not that. It being overwhelmed by how much I have. It’s ridiculous. Thank you for your honesty.
Literally *everyone* needs to have a budget. It’s not about how much money you make (unless you are living below the poverty line-but that is a different situation than what this video addresses) it’s about how you manage that money.
This talk is making me think of Gretchen Rubin and her writing and podcast about habits and personality types. If you haven't read her books or listened to her podcast Happier I recommend them. She discusses different personality types, and how if you know your type, you can use that information to figure out strategies for forming better habits. She says that one difference is that some people are Abstainers and others are Moderators - in this case, Abstainers would be able to do a no buy, but Moderators might be better working with a budget. This is a great topic and I'm thinking of a no buy for 2019.
Okay first I’ve had three days of makeup not cooperating even my go-to looks were wonky. Ugh. Second- Oh my god your “should” monologue gave me life. I feel like that COMPLETELY. IM SO TIRED OF SHOULD! I am also a woman small business owner who has ran and managed businesses for 9 years. YET, certain people - specifically men - have to tell me what I should do. Rraawwwrrr. Ugh. Yes girl. You hit the should nail on the should head. Lastly, my list of reasons for starting my no buy in August were completely different but the root cause was the same. Doing a no buy for the last 4.5 months was one of the best decisions I have ever made. I have learned so much about myself and my finances are beautifully in order these days. In fact my no buy has helped me in so many ways. My diet is 1000% better. My running is becoming one of my biggest passions. And after all this Im actually reformulating my no buy for 2019 to be a touch stricter. I’m doing this because I have some big financial goals in 2019 and I want to achieve them. The biggest of which is to contribute to a retirement account for the first time! P.s. my hair is doing beautiful things since I’ve cut out brushing my hair and dry shampoo until absolutely necessary. I’m on day 7 and my hair is looking exactly how I want it to! You’re the best HLP.
1. I love how you vocalize the things you were feeling because it helps me work through my own thoughts and feelings. 2. I have anxiety about whether or not I've used the word should in my comments. 3. Your brows are everything in this video. EVERYTHING.
I also started a no-buy in the beginning of November and I’m so excited! I don’t want to give in to my impulses any more and I want to prove to myself that I can survive without buying that thing. Thank you for inspiring me! ❤️
You are an amazing communicator! I have watched several CZcams videos regarding this topic and yours resonates the most with me. I am way older than you and thought women my age would have the best advice for me. They were very helpful but your experience hit closest to home for me. Thank you and continue sharing your gems of knowledge.
I so appreciate this rambly pre-meat "should" monologue. I'm the last person who tells other they should do something but now I'm thinking if sometimes I for accident don't say the word "should" ❓I want to be more aware of my words (yeah, but I'm a master of faux pas sometimes 😔).
i was an essential worker, during hard lock down in my city, and i really connected with Hannah when she spoke about ‘shopping as your main hobbie’. i would work then come home and watch beauty youtube and shop, bc i had an income that wasn’t being spent on going out to shows, restaurants, cafes. it was the only thing that like hannah said was engaging but not confronting or challenging. since my city has been out of lock down and ive been able to re engage with other activities like theatre, yoga classes, seeing stand up, i spent less time and money on make up! although i still enjoy watching yt and i will consider a budget!
Thank you for sharing. People don’t talk about THIS side of cosmetics, and more people than we know engage in these behaviors. I can relate to every point you made. PayPal Credit was my downfall. Now, I have to pay it all off, rather than fix up my house, buy a new car, go on trips etc. How sad!
I'm so sorry about what you're giving up to get out of debt, but you've got this! Remain strong, and don't lose sight of your goal, because once you've achieved it you'll be able to fix your house and travel!
I want to mention that I love how human your no buy has been. It hasn't been perfect. You have made mistakes, changed your mind about things, and realized bad decisions. Its been real. Which has been what I find extremely relatable. If a person were to watch each of your videos from the beginning up until now they would witness a transition and an experience of self-reflection. It's refreshing content that's been inspiring and thought provoking.
Loved the should intro! I feel the same about should but in my case it’s because my English teacher explained us that should it’s a strong word and only can be used in parents-children or boss-employee relationships, so each time I received a should I think I’m not your kid! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I identify with so many of these reasons! I think shopping - specifically makeup - became a way I handled my anxiety over my disability. I have felt so out of control that shopping for makeup became a way to release that anxiety and feel like I was in control of at least one thing. I have blogged for years and sharing on my blog has helped me in so many ways through the years but because so many things that happened in my personal life over the past 12 months, I felt like I lost my voice and shopping for makeup didn’t require one. I also told myself it was ok because I learned ways to purchase makeup cheap so it couldn’t be that bad! CZcams helped fuel that flame as well with the constant barrage of new products coming on the market. Thank you for being so open and transparent! You have given me so much fuel for thought and I am really excited to start my no buy and super excited to relaunch my blog!
I've decided to do a no--buy for 2019 for clothes, cosmetics and jewellery. I recognise the symptoms you described, particularly looking for something to want. I'll replace essentials like deodorant, but I'll use up all my other items. I've got enough make-up, shower products, creams, clothing and jewellery that I don't need to buy more of anything. I realise my spending is ridiculous and I buy for no good reason. I want to make a change, it's time.
I think you might like the book “power vs. force” by Dr. Hawkins. He discusses how poor habits can be suddenly broken using “m fields” or quantum leaps by focusing ones intentions, he gives some history about how Alcoholics Anonymous uses this technique. I have since read 4 of his books and I have found this concept applies easily to many difficult psychological and emotional blocks. Great video💛💛💛
You’ve inspired me to do a no buy year in 2019. I’ve done really well with decluttering and minimizing my makeup “collection” but doing a no buy year will (hopefully) re-train my brain to treat makeup the way I did pre-CZcams. You’ve described nearly exactly the experience I’ve had over the last 6 years since I discovered the CZcams beauty community. So thank you so much!!! 😊🙏
I think its worthy also to note that when we buy under impulse theres a big probablity that the item will not truly be appreciated or used. Theres a reward and a good feeling u get when u truly saved for something and waited. I get that ugly feeling when i purchase under impulse especially when i have recently bought similar items i havent even tried yet. This is madnesss....(cough)...eyeshadow palattes...😩
You just read my mind Hannah. I don't have a lot of makeup as per most people's standard. But being a new stay at home mom having even 2 pallets is a lot since I don't go out much. I hav one foundation concealer and a face powder and recently bought few palettes . Hav 4 palettes and 1 blush and a bronzer and a mascara. But I don't use them much. So thats a lot for me.(most of them r high end like Marc Jacobs) So I am going on a No buy 2019 because my low buy will still b a lot for me. Not sure how I will change after no buy. U never know. I hav enough money and money is not an issue. For me spending on something I know I hav no use is the issue. I also spend a lot of time searching and doing window shopping online even though I don't buy them. I spend my free time on browsing. So no buy will cut down my time online too!! I can spend that with my baby.. I hav issue being on CZcams for a long time. I am also spending less time online in 2019. I am doing this because my anxiety becomes more when on CZcams watching makeup hauls and it's adding fuel to my fire. I spend money only on 2 things in my life. Books and makeup. I am going to do No buy for books and makeup. Will finish the books before buying new ones. Sorry for the long comment. I just feel so relieved and happy for my way forward.
Hi Hannah This comment comes 3 years after posting but I wanted to say how much it will continue to help and support those of us who are striving to break free from a shopping addiction. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! I am recently retired with more time on my hands than ever in my life. Add Covid restrictions on top of that and how did I spend the majority of my days? Shopping! The thrill of the hunt! I started my ‘no buy’ in December (it’s Dec 17 today) and so far so good. So many reasons to break the cycle. Loving all your videos. ❤️ Congrats on over 50k subscribers!
Dear Hannah, I do not actually overspend on makeup/skincare or anything else. Just because I invest enormous amount of time choosing/considering/getting the information about that exact item I intend end up buying. And eventually I do not. Lost time bothers me the most.
I’ve been going back and have been rewatching your videos. I like the idea of doing a no buy year but I honestly feel like what’s best for me is to loosen up and not be so restrictive with myself.
I have watched this twice. 2019 will be a transformation year for me in the areas of work, health and now being more fiscally responsible. That satisfaction I used to get where I would open all my makeup boxes immediately has changed to disinterest and boxes that remain unopened and unused even though I continued to buy other things. I don't want to do this anymore so thank you for documenting your journey. I will be coming back to your 2018 videos often for inspiration and to resist temptation. I look forward to your 2019 content as well.
no girl, don't panic, it's fine! I was exaggerating in the video. I don't actually get actively mad about it in the comments, I just notice that the word makes me get all up in my feelings :)
Hannah, I always find your videos inspirational. What I think is unique is that it really feels like you're understanding and supportive of all your viewers and I think that's what makes a lot of us look up to you. I already started my no buy last month but I'm still struggling a lot- for example looking for otger things I can buy that give me some temporary joy, instead of makeup. I am working on myself and my habits, and your content has been so helpful and encouraging, even when I feel like I've failed already. I don't have enough words to thank you for everything and I'm SO glad I found your channel!
Baby steps seems to work well for me when I have a goal of adding a new habit or behavior to my life. Stuff like bringing lunch from home to work, working out, stuff like that. Cold turkey works best for me when I'm trying to stop a behavior like when I quit smoking. I'll occasionally take a break from sweets and treats for a period of a few weeks to a few months... That's a cold turkey thing for me too. Great video, Hannah. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts. Have a great day (not telling you what you should do, lol).
I have 3 coming in the mail right now and about 5 or so I have recently bought. So I was thinking go no buy and put those new ones away and instead of tearing into them and stacking them up in my drawers and proceeding to get on CZcams foolishly convincing myself that I wont buy...I will refocus myself use what I have bought And then when I really want to open a new one durring this coming up year instead of shopping I will open one up...keeping them all in their packaging as is...ahhh!
I just found your channel in the recommended section. You speak so eloquently and soo much of what you said resonated with me. I can't wait to see more of your videos. Thank you so much for sharing your truth - videos like this are the reason social media CAN BE amazing!
This may sound crazy but did you ever have the thought, if I were to die tomorrow what purpose would a no buy serve? That thought of “balancing” the now with he later is what always seems to do me in and ruin my will power. Can you relate to this thought?
I can see where you are coming from, but if I lived asking "if I were to die tomorrow what purpose would x serve" I would never invest in my future. I wouldn't eat healthy food, make big plans, organize projects, work on my relationship, etc. Life is unpredictable so in some ways the hard work of self-improvement is a gamble. But if I end up living a long life, I don't want to be broke and sick and drowning in stuff. So it's worth it to me.
craftywoman ok but if you die tomorrow what would it matter that you bought something the day before that might have caused her so much stress or fear because of finances so then she would spend her last day feeling those feelings of guilt
Have you thought of writing a book? You have so much knowledge! I just learned about you, watched a few videos in a row, and immediately thought of a book. Then I looked up more about you and found you are a writer. I think this could help so many people. Thank you for all you do.
Thank you for posting this, you were so honest and I really value what you had to say. I could identify with so much of what was said and I realise I need to do something like this and get my spending down. Thank you for this wake up call, I really needed to hear this.
This is the first video I've watched from you. I find it interesting that you keep referring to "the election". As an older, mature woman, I fail to see how something outside yourself, like a presidential election, could possibly compel you to behave in a certain way. I speak from a long history of substance abuse, with now 14 years of clean and sober living. Perhaps it's our age difference or a difference in our values, but external circumstances are an unfortunate part of life. I appreciate that you recognize your behavior, however, to marry that behavior to the result of an election shows a profound lack of personal accountability. I appreciate the changes you are making as this does show accountability and maturity. I appreciate you sharing your experience. I'm just completely dumbfounded that by your own admission, a presidential election was the impetus to your actions in spending. I mean no insult to you, these are simply my observations. The fact that you and I can be on different sides of the same coin further illustrates that we are fortunate to live in a society that allows us to each have an opinion.
I don't consider elections to be "outside myself." The question of who Americans are choosing to vote for is something that matters to me, inside myself.
Lol the election thing was odd for me too- I’m not a trump fan but I don’t see how it makes any sense blaming his win on impulse buying. Politics and buying makeup don’t seem to go hand in hand in my mind but maybe that’s just me 😂
perhaps I wasn't clear about it in this video, I've been clearer in other videos and I try not to repeat myself too much. The election precipitated a long period of depression, and it was the depression that made room for my overspending tendencies to grow out of control. From what I've read, it is a common pattern.
I'm not even American and I was deeply depressed and stressed by the 2016 election, I had a lot of stress and anxiety related to it. It didn't necessarily cause me to spend out of control but it was an awful time.
Caught you on Angela’s channel and had never seen you before. This video really hit close to home- the unwise spending primarily- but ESPECIALLY the way the election changed me and that I then needed something mindless to numb the pain. I feel you sister. 💜
this was exactly what i needed to hear. i’m so glad that i’ve found your channel, i’m a college student & the stress has been really taking a toll on my the past couple years, & it’s manifested as a minor shopping addiction. i totally related to the parts about spending all of my time shopping and browsing & the need for cold turkey. anything i’ve quit & stuck with has been through just quitting. the biggest ones have been smoking (i smoked for 3 years daily) & going vegetarian. it’s always worked best for me to just force myself to stop, but also not beating myself up when i slip up sometimes. like if i have a cigarette when i’m out, i don’t shame myself. i accept that it happened, think of WHY i slipped up, & then resume not doing it. i feel like that attitude has been super helpful for me breaking habits because i think a lot of addictions are shame based.
Thousandth comment- I’m taking this as a sign to start my no buy. Just found your channel and you are so beautifully well spoken- i feel lucky to have stumbled upon your videos!🥰
This video totally helped inspire me to commit to the no buy for 2019. I was already thinking about it and leaning towards it, but your explanation in this video is what pushed me over the edge to go for it. Thank you for documenting your no buy. I have been binge watching your videos after watching this first one. I have enjoyed every video of yours that I have watched so far and I will continue watching more.
Sometimes your videos are so hard to watch because they speak to my present reality. It's tough to look in the mirror and see all those qualities you described reflected back to me - especially in relation to those temporary feelings of prosperity. I have cute clothes and makeup, but I can't even save up enough money to buy the new car I need so desperately! I've said this before and I'll say it again until I'm blue in the face: thank you so much for doing this project and having your CZcams channel, Hannah. It's prompted me to do a lot of self-reflection and to reassess my habits in order to make the coming years better for me.
You are so beautiful inside and out Hannah! It's great to be able to face ourselves and admit our flaws. I am wondering if I "should" do a no-buy. I really try not to overspend and to think hard about my purchases and to use what I have. But, at the same time, I spend so much time thinking about shopping, or online shopping without actually buying anything. I think CZcams does this to us. I watch people who have a different lifestyle than me, or who earn more money than me, but I still see myself as them and think that it's okay to spend how they spend or to buy what they buy. It's also very hard now that I have a son. I have cut back so much on spending for myself, but I wonder if I am just filling that hole by spending on my son. Granted, he does need things (clothes, toys, etc), but I wonder if he needs less than what I give him. I find myself justifying purchases for him because he needs to learn so he needs educational toys, etc. I wonder is this true or am I delusional? Of course, he will survive with literally just the basics, but I also don't want to deprive him of too much because of my own issues with shopping. Kids make everything more challenging! Haha. Thanks for inspiring me to analyze more and more and make myself a better version of myself every day.
I'm doing a year long replacement only no buy for 2019. With 5 "treat" items throughout the year. (as a buffer). After finding and religiously watching your channel, I realized that after I got clean (from heroin) I had so much "extra" money and started binging on makeup instead. I essentially traded one addiction for another. I want to be healthy all the way. Your videos helped a lot of people by putting into words what a lot of people are feeling.
Angela Pennington Not the same thing at all but I lost 100 pounds in 2013. By 2014 I realized I was trading eating for buying makeup. I gained it all back but now have two ( 3 or 4) problems. You’re amazing for beating that girl. A-freaking- mazing! I don’t know you but I’m happy for you and proud of you.
Thanks Donna! I appreciate it!
You are amazing Angela! So good for you.
You can do it, Angela! Sending a huge hug and loving vibes!
Congrats on getting clean & good luck with your no buy! You should document it if you can, I think a lot of people will find the addiction replacement interesting..
2022 is the year I finally get myself together and commit to a no-buy! Thank you Hannah for continuing to inspire even years after this video was posted ❤️
How did it go?
2023 is my year for using loving and enjoying what I already have, because I spent ALL OF 2022 buying tons of (great) stuff. Only buying things to restock what I need. Focusing on saving for a house and buying things to make my apartment cozy cause we're gonna be here for another 3-5.5 years 💕
I quit smoking cold turkey going on 9 years ago and it was so hard, but so easy at the same time. I didn’t have to “cut back” or anything, I had one simple rule to follow: not even one. I convinced myself that someday, after I’d quit, it would be okay to become a social smoker and have one every now and then but guess what? Those things are effing disgusting and I will never put another one near my mouth. I smoked for 9 years, most of those years...heavily....and I quit cold turkey and never turned back. I think cold turkey can work for everyone because those who say it can’t, probably haven’t even tried it. Congrats on your no buy year!!
Hi Smacy! I love the "one simple rule" thing. That is great. I agree that cold turkey can work for everyone, it's a matter of deciding to actually do it. Thank you for watching! xoxox!
Hi Smacy, nice to see you here. I have become a heavy smoker in the past year when I used to be that person who would avoid being around smokers at all costs bc my parents would smoke all the time. I would have a cigarette occasionally in social situations but it was never a habit. I don't blame my ex bf but I did start smoking regularly and enjoying it more and more while with him. I am currently staying with my dad who still smokes and I now smoke more than him. His new wife is a doctor and does not like us smoking one bit. I hope someday soon both my dad and I can quit. Cold turkey seems to be the best way to stop this particular harmful habit.
Mariel Hinojosa yes, cold turkey is the way to go! When I quit smoking, I still lived with my college roommates, ALL of whom were heavy smokers! But, every time they went to smoke, I went with them. I brought a cup of coffee or tea, ya know, something to keep my hands busy, and I kept up the social habit without the cigs. It was SO hard at first but I decided I didn’t want to give up the social aspect, so I didn’t! I didn’t want to change my entire routine, I just eliminated smoking from it, and never looked back. It took a few weeks for the cravings to go away, and it took about TWO YEARS for the intermittent cravings to stop. But now I can’t freaking stand them and I can’t believe I ever smoked at all. I wish you all the best! And when you’re ready, cold turkey is, in my opinion, the only way to quit smoking for good (shy of Rx medication ofc).
@@Smacy thank you so much for replying. I appreciate the tips.
Oh my goodness!! I have NEVER in my entire time on CZcams have I ever watched someone who has admitted on camera to everyone, their true struggle like this before. Or maybe it’s the fact that everything you just described has been the EXACT same turmoil I have lived with for so so long now😩 and have not been able to tell another living soul, because of the embarrassment and shame that I have.
YOU are the reason that I’m starting my NO-Buy journey, before you I had never even heard of a No-Buy. YOU are the reason I’ve taken a long hard look at myself, and the situation that I’m in; and been able to say to myself enough is enough!!!! Thank you so much for this video, your channel and the work that you have put into it!! Between you and Makeup Rehab I’m looking forward to My NO-Buy Year!! 🙏🏽❤️❤️❤️
thank you so much for this comment, Nicole! Sending so much love to you. It will be an amazing year
Nicole you are not alone. I’m am on a Supa Low Buy beginning January myself. I simply want to LIVE again and not be a slave to makeup! I’m going to be using Hannah’s categories if the event arises and I think I want makeup. Mostly though, I plan to get to know and enjoy what I already have....And that’s an enormous beautiful collection. I’ve started tonight with the first cut of channels that I subscribe to. Next are the emails followed by IG. You can do this! We can do this! 🙏🏾🙌🏾😍
Vibrant Delights thank
Thank you! I’m telling you the support that is given to one another in this No-Buy community is amazing!!! Hanna’s channel has truly been a God send, and her videos will definitely be a place for reference and grounding when times get tough😬😩 Being on makeup rehab has become a safe zone for me as well. So far I have not read one time that when someone says they messed up, and are feeling pretty critical about themselves; has someone uttered an once of criticism, only advice and encouragement!! So thank you for the confidence boost! And yes WE got this!!🤗🙌🏾🙌🏾
I'm not starting a no buy year but I recognize certain patterns I need to address. I've been a stay at home mom for a year. That in itself made me realize a lot about myself. When I worked outside of the home I spent a lot on unnecessary things. With one income I don't feel comfortable spending money on random things. But I do a lot of " window shopping", reading reviews, looking at beauty videos, and making wishlists. I was obsessed with getting into to luxury make up. I wanted fancy packaging and that feeling of being luxurious and rich. When I found your channel it was perfect timing. I was distracting myself from real issues trying to make myself feel better with products. I've been binge watching your videos and enjoying the make up I have. Many things that I thought I wanted I'm not interested in anymore.
yes! I never realised that so much of my headspace was taken up by my 'window shopping' behaviour - binge watching/reading review, compiling wishlists etc. Whether I eventually bought the product or not, a lot of time was still spent thinking about spending money instead of going to do something that's actually productive.
One (reliable) income here! I'm considering a no buy, and a definitely a change to my shopping behaviors that I do to self-soothe. I went from being a compulsive antishopper to an overspender over the course of 5 years or so...I want a healthy balance (both in my mind and bank account!). Thanks to Hannah and this community, I have a shot at actually being successful 💜.
Danielle, I was in the same place a month ago (now I have a job but the rest is staying) so I totally feel you!
I think I could do a budgeting instead of no buy - I buy relatevely reasonable amount of things. But my problem is buying unnecessary things because of a low price... I've been tracking this year what I bought and most of these items I don't even have anymore. But I have and like using those which I bought after longer consideration.
I cross my fingers if everyone of us could fulfill her own idea of breaking of the bad habits 👍
sending a big hug!
Wow same! My baby is 6 months and finally adjusting to one income & an extra mouth to feed has been eye opening! I notice so many things now that I would’ve bought without a second thought. I cringe at all the money I could’ve saved over the last couple years...
I felt #7 on a spiritual level “I was always looking for something to want”. I’m so tired of this mindset and you’re a huge encouragement especially knowing I’m not alone or psycho
you are not alone!
I feel like you picked a lot of those observations directly from my life. It’s like you looked into my head and read my mind for the reasons why I want to do the no buy year. I’ve certainly drawn a lot of similar experiences and self reflections! I’m so proud that you’ve done this - you’ve done yourself proud too!
Rachael Stephanie I agree with you Rachael. The stuff she mentioned is spot on for me.
I couldn’t agree with you more Rachael!! And I am very thankful that you and I will be able to support each other through the process this year!! 🤟🏻💕
JourneyInBeauty definitely! 💗
I literally felt that she was describing me. I'm getting ready and every time she points out i look back and stare....how you know that, More so, I'm not the only one out of control.
Yup, I agree..that’s why I’m doing a no buy year next year
🙋♀️ if Hannah described you in the first half of the video.
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🙋🏽♀️ I'm dealing with some stuff - I'm not suffering but I don't like the pattern. I was touched by every checkmark on the list. I want to do a low-buy if not no buy and focus on trying to use what I have. Buying is a hollow hobby I use to cope, even for PC parts...
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Yes I agree she described me!
I told myself for years that I was that person who just couldn't stick to rules and would immediately rebel and blah blah blah and it turns out, I had ADHD, which means my brain is garbage at impulse control and lacks the chemicals for it. Shopping is common problem for people with ADHD because our brains lack dopamine and the anticipation and acquisition of new things gives us the dopamine hit our brains need to function. After being diagnosed earlier this year, there was a period where I thought my prospects for getting shopping under control were hopeless because, well, my brain was WIRED to give in more easily to impulse, right? Wrong.
Shoutout my therapist and doctor who cleared up a whole bunch of misconceptions for me. ADHD means I have shitty impulse control and that things like goal setting are harder for me than for the average person only if I persist in using an average person's strategies (most of which rely on having reserves of willpower to accomplish things that my brain can barely muster even with meds).
So how does this roundabout confession link to your vid? Because a no-buy is an exceptional (as in, non-average) strategy. I've realized that when I don't cold turkey, when I give myself the option for engaging in a behavior (like shopping), I've ended up putting myself in a place where I'm frequently asked to test my impulse control and willpower. And since that's in shorter supply for me than a neurotypical person, I'm setting myself up to fail. Because I just don't have the reserves of willpower to be constantly asking myself if I should or can buy a thing or not. So cold turkey (the radical option) with rigid rules is what WORKS, because it means my brain doesn't constantly have to try and make decisions. It doesn't leave room for impulse or, worse, trying to rationalize buying something (which takes up so much mental energy that I should use for my life's work!).
The rules I've made for my no-buy are clear and simple and non-negotiable, and the cold turkey nature of it is what pulls me out of situations where I could even give into impulse. Doing it for a year makes it a period long enough that my brain stops associating shopping with a dopamine rush, allowing me to break that habit. I truly never though cold turkey could ever work because I went into it the wrong way with the wrong mindset, but I'm almost a month into the no-buy I started after seeing your No Buy November vid and it's difficult, but working. I've been tinkering with the rules a bit and workshopping them so that they're fully set by Jan 1st, but honestly you've been such an inspiration!
2k19 is going to be the year of expending my mental energy on academics and law school applications and the LSAT, not shopping for pretty things to feel a high. Thank you, as always, for giving me the pep talk and inspiration and insight that keeps me motivated to change and keep going! And apologies for leaving a second incredibly long comment on your channel - I'm apparently incapable of stopping myself from writing entire novels under your vids!
Hope you're having a relatively stress free and happy holiday season! 💛💛
I totally agree with this thing about rigid rules being easier to follow!!! You explained it so well!
Prachi Singh This made a lot of sense!!!
Wow I have ADHD and I've never known this. In fact I haven't been told anything at all except that I have a short attention span. This makes me feel like maybe I should look it up
Seriously, going keto helped my brain in this area. I am totally more at peace. 🦄
@@unofficialxii8424 yeah you definitely should look more into it because the amount of misconceptions about ADHD out there are ridiculous, and there's a lot of debate about changing the name because it's a misnomer. ADHD doesn't mean you always have a short attention span or deficiency of attention because people with ADHD can hyperfocus on a thing for hours (in fact, my psych said that if you can never pay attention to anything ever, you likely don't have ADHD and are going through something else).
Yes, ADHD is an inability to regulate attention (control when and how you want to focus) caused by insufficient and inconsistent amounts of dopamine reaching the outermost parts of your brain. But that lack of dopamine causes problems way beyond attention and affects things like time (like most ADHDers are time-blind aka can't properly perceive the passage of time), organization, goal setting, emotionality (like being super sensitive, acting on emotions without thinking at all, not being able to recognize what emotion you're feeling before already having acted on it), poor impulse control, issues with procrastination and motivation and even some memory problems.
Delays in being diagnosed and treated also often wreck people's self esteem to the point of depression because they're constantly underperforming, and the pathological procrastination can cause intense amounts of anxiety. It messes with your life in a BUNCH of different ways, so if you have it, I would definitely spend some time looking into it and talking over it with a psych or doctor if possible!
It seems like the "baby steps" method works better for making habits. You can do a little exercise, incorporate a little more healthy food. I think "cold turkey" is the really effective way to quit something. When you can't smoke, for example, you become a non-smoker. I think that incorporation of lifestyle into identity is helpful in breaking a habit.
I totally agree with this
Thank you for articulating this, that's really helping me see some important distinctions in my own issues. Quitting spending is one habit that needs breaking and therefore a cold turkey approach. Developing new healthy habits is totally different and can utilize baby steps.
This is exactly the content I needed at this point in my life. I’ve quit smoking cold turkey, I’ve quit drinking cold turkey. And the emotional hunger that fueled those addictions has shifted to shopping. I feel out of control. I have every issue you listed. I know what I need to do!
“Cold turkey” didn’t work for me until I acknowledged it was an actual addiction and mental health issue. Would you give an alcoholic just one beer? nOpe. I can’t give myself the wiggle room because I don’t stick to it. It’s so much easier to say I can’t get anything versus I can have just one thing. When I tried “low buys” I would obsess over which things got to be the winners and choosing would stress me out until I would say who cares and just buy it all. I had to figure out why my emotions were triggering me to shop in the first place.
SUCH a good point, Rebecca! xoxo!
Rebecca Huss 💯
This video should be a TED talk.
I hope it goes viral.
I am currently on day 31 of my no buy year. The straw that broke the camel's back for me was what you mentioned as your number 7. When I realised that, I knew sth had to change.
Thank you for this video.
Wow. Another Hannah video where I think to myself, “How did this stranger get into my head?” Thanks so much for this content. You are the reason I am doing a 7-month no-buy. I am 16 successful days in. My biggest challenge is how to redirect my shopping behaviors. I want to stop “shopping for recreation,” even if I am not buying anything. I hope you discuss that in your next video.
When someone you never met says the things you know to be true but have NEVER said out loud to anyone, the answer is YES. I am doing a no-buy next year. It sounds like you are showing up in your own life in a new way. It sounds like you are more aware of what you are doing and why. Thank you for being unapologetically you and for encouraging all of us to be the same. 🙏🏽
Yay, Lisa, thank you for this sweet comment, and I'm so happy for you! You can do it! xoxo
It saddens me that I can relate to these feelings of shopping. When my sister passed away and was being taken out in a bag in order to avoid the pain I fixated my self in front on the shopping channel practically brought everything they were showing on that show. Being true to myself I know shopping for me is a fantasy land where you feel no pain, look perfect and live perfect. Thank you for your honesty and placing yourself in such vulnerable way. I admire you and congratulate you on your no shopping year. Keep shining like that priceless gem you found in your soul ✨
Thank you, Doris! I'm so sorry about your sister
Hannah! I love you! A very good friend told me once when I was being hard on myself “stop shoulding all over yourself”. Now I think all the time “stop shoulding on me!” I am entering a no buy year myself. You inspired me to try no buy November, and it felt great. I have a million things I want to get done this upcoming year, and spending money isn’t on the list. 💋💋💋
haha, I love it!
This year, I started a no-buy. Since January 1, I haven't spent any of my own money on makeup. I made rules, and I have followed all of them. So, I completely agree with you! It can be done!
yay!!!! awesome!
excellent commentary about buying as a band aid. for me my former excessive spending was a band aid for my depression, low self esteem and creative slump (which lead to a lot of makeup AND art supplies being bought), and new makeup always came with the 'promise' of renewed creativity and the thing that will finally make me feel better about myself and my skills as both a makeup lover and as a painter/artist. eventually i went to therapy and realised that i can enjoy those things but shouldn't use them as a crutch, and that they will never bring the desired change. your channel, as well as therapy, was a turning point for me because i finally saw someone that struggled with shopping like i did and persevered and prevailed. for 2018, i am thankful for finding you, your channel, and becoming friends!
thanks, Mia! xoxox!
Also I love your gentle ‘Tough love’ segments. They’re so effective with me when my brain tries to think of reasons or excuses of why I can’t do it.
I did a no-buy for a year as well, and I think... I think my desires for things drastically changed immediately because whatever time I spent shopping and stuff, was quickly filled by other parts of my life.
But I will say, that I never realized how much of life I was missing out on before my no-buy. So many family gatherings, helping my neighbors out with stuff, hanging out with friends, babysitting said friends’ kids, and all these other things I didn’t realize was going on... because whenever someone inquired me about these things, I was shopping and when I told them that, they assumed I didn’t want to be bothered.
So while I learned that yeah, my brain just isn’t drawn to shopping or things if I’m not in that environment, it took a while for me to realize just how stupidly I was spending my time on this Earth! I had so many wonderful things that you can’t pick up at the stores, but I didn’t appreciate them until this no-buy.
Would I recommend a no-buy? Absolutely. Not even just on a consumerism / spending problem perspective, but just... see what your life would be like if you weren’t shopping as much. I think you’ll be surprised at how much happier you are with the things you already have. ❤️
I totally agree with this! The way that other aspects of life came rushing in to fill the space was amazing.
This is the first video of yours I've seen and I'm so happy I found you! A lot of what you are describing about shopping behaviors is so true for me as well. The avoidance of looking at your financial situation, the desire to want things and the subsequent buying of things not needed, the fantasy of being someone important that you describe all rings true. Before I even saw your video I had already put into place a mindset of stopping the uncontrolled shopping. Seeing your video has reinforced my resolve. I subscribed to your channel and look forward to hearing your future videos.
I listened to my first no buy video of yours this morning and as I was in Dollar General looking for bandaids, I picked a box up and found myself looking around thinking “what else can I buy” and I remembered your video and walked directly to the checkout, laughing to myself! Thanks Hannah! Maybe I’m late to the party but 🎉 count me in! ❤
I thought I was the only person like this: the vicious circle of panicking about money and then spending compulsively on exactly the same kinds of things. I also have a similar working situation and interests (writing, working freelance and art). I have tried no-buy in the past, but it didn't work. I still bought things. Now I just don't want any more stuff. I want to enjoy what I have. I have too much around me and I have money issues. It's not even about baby steps v. turkey: I am fed up with the whole rigmarole and you have framed that for me perfectly. I am busy with lots of other things and the energy and resources should be going into them.
Thank ypu for your videos! I don't need a no buy, but I decided that I will buy makeup more cautious. Don't think that I can call in low buy eather, but I made some rules about makeup - how much, how often and on what budget I am allowing myself to buy.
Thank you, Hannah for sharing your No Buy Year journey with us. Your well-articulated advice and the issues and questions you've raised have been thought-provoking and they have certainly made me examine my buying habits. Looking forward to more wonderful content from your channel in the coming years. Congratulations! Merry Xmas!
xoxox! Thank you!
Hannah, I just found you this evening and I'm feeling really grateful that CZcams's algorithm recommended you to me. I appreciate how honest and self-aware you are when sharing the things you have observed about yourself through the course of this no-buy year. Your insights have sparked some intense self-reflection in me and as I give thought to the kind of year I'd like to have in 2019, I'm keeping your comments in mind. I'll be watching more of your vids this weekend - I'm just really surprised and grateful to find some real thought-provoking personal development/betterment content that isn't focused on things like ridiculous tea detoxes or waking up at 3:30am to hit the gym. It's the inner life that drives change, and I'm so happy to find a channel that actually addresses that.
thank you so much!
I watched all of the videos you have posted since I discourage your channel.. and I watched some of them more then once haha I just love spending time with you.. so I play your videos while I do my makeup or when I’m having makeup play time just for the pleasure to hear your sweet voice and the amazing things you always have to say!!!
thank you so much!
You've inspired me to do a replacement only No -Buy Year (for makeup, skin, hair) for 2019. I have a lot of these same habits, ESPECIALLY the habit of "wanting to want". And beauty/skin care is my weakness. I have decided that I have bigger goals in mind.
bigger goals!
I first read of no-buys in the book “Not Buying It” by Judith Levine. (Wow, I just looked it up. That was in 2006!). Over the years I’ve tried on many occasions to set shopping rules and restrictions for myself; but I could not (or would not) stick to them. I have to say, watching your channel this year has convinced me that it *is* possible to set rules and stick with them. The thing that is different for me this time is that I’ve taken the time to examine my own habits and I’m targeting specifically the behaviors that I want to change.
I agree, I think 2019 is the year of the no-buy in the beauty community, and I’m excited about it
I've never heard of that book! I'd love to read it!
@@HannahLouisePoston It is admittedly dated -- I remember in particular a rant about the Bush administration's energy policy, LOL. But I liked it enough that I have kept it and re-read parts of it over the years, for inspiration or motivation. If I remember correctly, the author saved enough money to pay off several thousand dollars of credit card debt.
Excellent content Hannah! I love how you mentioned that your feelings of anxiety during the 2016 elections drove you to developing a shopping addiction in an effort to alleviate what you were going through. I can relate to those feelings. I too had misplaced my need to release my depression/stress with reckless shopping behavior rather than healthy forms- therapy, exercise, coaching, etc.
I had left a job in the teaching field and after a decade into it to suddenly not knowing what I would do next was scary. I didn't have direction or a safety net in the financial department. I was irresponsible and accrued a lot of debt...not just with shopping for makeup, but charging my card for an escape like vacations, lavish meals, buying expensive gifts I couldn't afford, etc. 2017 was a wake up call and I had to change because I was causing my own set-backs in all areas of my life. I remember when I couldn't even afford gas in my car to drive over and support a friend's grand opening of her new organization. That hurt. It was the kind of pain I know well enough to protect myself from having to ever feel it again. I guess everyone's level of "no-buy" will be based on how motivated they are.
The word “should” doesn’t rub me the same way as it does you, but I’ve definitely had some ridiculous experiences with men stubbornly telling me what I should do. I knit and crochet on my public transit commute and men love to tell me I should turn it into a business and that they would totally pay for what I make. When I explain that to cover materials and to pay myself minimum wage, a pair of socks would cost well over one hundred dollars, they quickly switch from “I’d pay that” to “someone would pay that.” Turns out, they had no idea what they were talking about 😒😒😒
YES this is exactly the kind of thing that happens to me.
Uh, yeah. Men just want to talk to women.
Hannah thank you so much for all of your advice!!! Your videos helped me to change my habits and my life!! I love you so much!!! And just for let you know I’m from Brasil 😊 and I’m so happy to see your channel growing so fast!! We need more people like you 💖
thank you!
I had to laugh at the should part. I was running a small business at a time and it was quite funny how everyone from random strangers to family members will give business advice once they asked what i was doing and now that i think about it, it was primarily men who did it 😂 love the thoughts in the video
:)
Me too!! But I feel the same way about the word. I had to look in the mirror and tell myself to calm down!😂😂😂😂
For me it’s almost like the feeling fancy, or the need to unwrap something. I felt special somehow and never got the same appreciation for using the thing instead of acquiring it.
If it's the wanting to unwrap things, in January you can wrap up a couple of eyeshadow palettes (or any set of items) and unwrap them when your really struggling. Should help it feel like a new item and you've unwrapped something
stopping buying things really helped me develop the appreciation for what I have!
I'm so sorry that I was one of those people recommanding you to try something by saying that you ''should'' try it! English isn't my first language but I do understand now the slight distinction! I wasn't seeing it this way, but it makes perfect sense. On another note, I will start my own no-buy year! I've been binge watching your videos since I found your channel and you're exactly what I needed to begin my recovery from a slight makeup shopping addiction. I thought the only way to feel a spark of joy and excitement was to buy new products, but I felt very similar and even stronger feelings by watching you talk about the products you already own and the satisfaction of using them up and rediscovering them. It motivated me to do the same! Thank you, Hannah xx
aw, don't worry about it babe! I was being a bit dramatic about it (especially with regards to the comments). I totally understand what you meant :) I'm so glad you are enjoying the channel! Sending a big hug!
My biggest downfall is online shopping mainly for makeup so I’m going to go on a no buy via the Internet. I tend to go to Marshalls once a month and To me that’s okay, since my issue is the inter webs. I have to unfollow all brands and stuff on my social media.
knowing yourself is key!
@Olivia Carlo unsubbing from emails and social media accounts really helps. I stated above that I am a fairly controlled and frugal shopper, but beautiful social media feeds announcing discounts were so tempting to me.
You know your area to watch, and there is great power in that! We are rooting for you!
I feel like this is really good idea because knowing you have to physically go out and buy the thing you desire in that moment gives you more time to really think about whether you actually want it or not!
I wanna try a no-buy year in 2019. Buy only things I need to replace. Avoid social media. I’ve been off Instagram and Facebook for 4 months now. So I think being off social media had help me control my urge to spend. I maybe purchased 3-5 new makeup items in the matter of 6 months. I’ve been into decluttering too to curate my collection (makeup, clothing, shoes, accessories and perfumes).
I think social media definitely plays a part! Decluttering is so wonderful
It's amazing how once I decided to go on a no-buy year I started finding so much content about this on youtube ... Yours are the best videos so far, for me: from the way you look, to how articulate you explain your journey and your motivations, i just love watching you and will keep doing so. Each one of us is different of course, but I've been finding quite a lot of inspiration for myself while already in the mindset of doing (more or less) the same thing ...
Im starting my no buy in 2021. The fantasy of owning a makeup/skincare/jewelry item was more strong than actually using it. Like foundations, when a new one comes out the fantasy of this formula being the best or the colour match being the best is what makes me buy it. So many disappointments didn't stop my from buying more. My collection is currently very curated through smarter purchases but now I need to start finishing some makeup items. In 2019 I finished 143-148 products and none of it was makeup which is saying a lot.
I can 100% relate, I just go out buying makeup that I know I’m not going to use but still buy it. I am getting myself ready for a no buy year starting from 1 January 2019. I really hope I will be as successful as you in your no buy year. I am so tired of buying things that makes me happy for a little bit then feeling guilty or no longer feel the satisfaction I had when I first bought the items. Thank you so much for inspiring me and really opening my eyes to the fact that I do have a shopping addiction which needs to stop.
keep an eye out for my Wednesday video for some extra support! xo!
I'm starting a no spend year because of a toxic fantasy self. I buy clothes as a costume screaming to the world " I'm edgy, I'm interesting, be my friend !", I buy books that I'll never read but say to my guests that I'm artistic and intelligent. Buying stuff is not about money and needs, it's about emotions and hopes. I'm one month in, and I have to face my problems, it's hard but so rewarding !
Keep going 💪
yes, Isaac, you can do it! xo!
"I was always looking for something to want"
Oh my god that is exactly what I'm going through and its exhausting. I always feel this sense of 'what next?' 'what can I buy to make me feel like I'm accomplishing something?' and a feeling of anxiety in my stomach if I'm at home and not at the shops... And I always justify that whatever I am buying is just adding to my "productive" life, because I buy what I considered "practical" things like skincare for self-confidence, clothes for work, books for self-development etc... but I know that at the end of the day I'm just wasting my time, money and effort and always preparing for something that's never coming because it's an endless road....
i just wanted to thank you for this channel- i stumbled across it not too long after i started getting into makeup and Beauty CZcams, and i really think it helped me stop some bad behaviors before they even really started.
so glad to hear that, Nara! xo
I feel like one way that my brain gets lured into wanting more stuff is when I watch videos talking about product lists e.g. monthly favourites, hauls and best of videos - I know that alot of these videos are supposed to help me make a more informed choice as a consumer, but more often than not they actually introduce me to more products that I wouldn't even know about before watching the video, let alone want. It's a part of my shopping behaviour and I've been trying to cut down on it - i.e. only spending time to watch a review of a product that I was already thinking of getting, instead of enticing myself to get more stuff that I don't need. It's saving me so much time and I never realised how much time I actually spent researching and obsessing over products that I didn't even want in the first place!
While there are independent youtubers who strive to bring us unbiased content, it's all just advertising. Even Hannah's "Monthly Empties" videos have influenced me this way - for FOMO I decided I "had" to have a product she said she loved and was sad she couldn't buy again until 2019 (my 2nd irrational justification was that it was on sale). A negative repercussion of her no-buy is that I decided to spend my money in her stead. Hannah's "youtube made me buy it."
yes, exposure can make it harder to resist overspending! I'm going to address this in my Wednesday video.
@@bebelovely7451 yup i think the beauty community started off as a way to share good/bad products but with youtubers accepting sponsorships, reviews are no longer so transparent :/ I've basically cut myself off from watching any videos that recommend products (or focus on product lists such as best ofs and empties) unless I have something that needs to be replaced and I find that it helps! Project pan videos are good sources of motivation too
I have to do cold turkey, I agree. Have you read the Gretchen Rubin book? She calls that ‘abstainers’ versus ‘moderators’ and absolutely an abstainer. Moderating is a slippery slope for me!
I was just thinking about the same book - Better than Before. We are all different and no buys won't necessarily work for everyone. I think I need a no buy for 2019... my stuff is getting out of control. It's not just make up, it's skin care (face and body), perfume, clothes, jewellery, footwear... you name it, I buy it!
I just need to work out my rules - if they feel unreasonable I will look for every loophole going or just quit. Like I have bought a ton of new clothes since I lost weight. I don't need any more - unless I lose enough weight my new wardrobe no longer fits. So it can't be a 100% no buy of clothes for any reason, but no more buying another new dress for dancing when I have plenty in the wardrobe that fit, and so forth.
noo, but I really want to read it now!
I think you would find it really interesting. She wrote a couple of books about happiness and then Better than Before emerged from a conversation with a friend who commented that it was odd how habits were sometimes east to form and other times nearly impossible even when it was the same habit. She came to the conclusion that a lot of happiness is about being able to form healthy habits and so a book on how to do that was worthwhile. The key is there is no "one size" that fits all, but that it's down to self awareness and understanding the person you are and what will work for you.
I have been to a couple of talks with her when she has been to the UK, she is a really interesting talker and her books are the few I return to for ideas again and again. I shall be revisiting my copy over the holidays as I make some plans for 2019.
@@estellehowell4414 Said it perfectly, that's exactly what the book is about. She also has a lot of the basics of the information on her website, if you wanted to give it a read over before diving into the full book. I had never thought about my personality like that before, but it's true - I'm an 'abstainer' who has to do the all or nothing approach and also the 'obliger' who needs external motivation to get things done, like having someone else depending on me or checking in on me. It's probably why I blog about my goals publicly, so people can call me out when I'm not working towards them!
It’s nice to see someone that is in the beauty community that I really enjoy watching that doesn’t also reinforce my voracious appetite for new beautiful things. I have decided that I’m on a no buy through the end of this year. I want to have more meaningful experiences and I can’t do that if I am constantly acquiring new things. Watching these videos help me renew my commitment and thinking about different ways to go about being in the world. I need to create room for growth and that takes time. Thank you Hannah!
I totally understand the buying expensive makeup to feel fancy and prosperous. Chanticaille was my go to for a while. Buying and shopping is definitely my happy place. I can afford most of it it’s not that. It being overwhelmed by how much I have. It’s ridiculous. Thank you for your honesty.
Literally *everyone* needs to have a budget. It’s not about how much money you make (unless you are living below the poverty line-but that is a different situation than what this video addresses) it’s about how you manage that money.
This talk is making me think of Gretchen Rubin and her writing and podcast about habits and personality types. If you haven't read her books or listened to her podcast Happier I recommend them. She discusses different personality types, and how if you know your type, you can use that information to figure out strategies for forming better habits. She says that one difference is that some people are Abstainers and others are Moderators - in this case, Abstainers would be able to do a no buy, but Moderators might be better working with a budget. This is a great topic and I'm thinking of a no buy for 2019.
I've been meaning to read her books!
Okay first I’ve had three days of makeup not cooperating even my go-to looks were wonky. Ugh.
Second- Oh my god your “should” monologue gave me life. I feel like that COMPLETELY. IM SO TIRED OF SHOULD! I am also a woman small business owner who has ran and managed businesses for 9 years. YET, certain people - specifically men - have to tell me what I should do. Rraawwwrrr. Ugh. Yes girl. You hit the should nail on the should head.
Lastly, my list of reasons for starting my no buy in August were completely different but the root cause was the same. Doing a no buy for the last 4.5 months was one of the best decisions I have ever made. I have learned so much about myself and my finances are beautifully in order these days. In fact my no buy has helped me in so many ways. My diet is 1000% better. My running is becoming one of my biggest passions. And after all this Im actually reformulating my no buy for 2019 to be a touch stricter. I’m doing this because I have some big financial goals in 2019 and I want to achieve them. The biggest of which is to contribute to a retirement account for the first time!
P.s. my hair is doing beautiful things since I’ve cut out brushing my hair and dry shampoo until absolutely necessary. I’m on day 7 and my hair is looking exactly how I want it to! You’re the best HLP.
I'm so excited that your no-buy has been so effective! AND THE HAIR! Thank you for sharing this news. Made my day :)
1. I love how you vocalize the things you were feeling because it helps me work through my own thoughts and feelings.
2. I have anxiety about whether or not I've used the word should in my comments.
3. Your brows are everything in this video. EVERYTHING.
honestly, i cant wait for my no buy year!
yay!
P.S. If there are other areas of your life where you have employed "cold turkey" to change habits, I'd love to hear about those experiences.
there are! I'll see if I can come up with some videos
Yes! Your battle with sugar addiction especially! For me, that's def my emotional crutch.
I also started a no-buy in the beginning of November and I’m so excited! I don’t want to give in to my impulses any more and I want to prove to myself that I can survive without buying that thing. Thank you for inspiring me! ❤️
You are an amazing communicator! I have watched several CZcams videos regarding this topic and yours resonates the most with me. I am way older than you and thought women my age would have the best advice for me. They were very helpful but your experience hit closest to home for me. Thank you and continue sharing your gems of knowledge.
I so appreciate this rambly pre-meat "should" monologue. I'm the last person who tells other they should do something but now I'm thinking if sometimes I for accident don't say the word "should" ❓I want to be more aware of my words (yeah, but I'm a master of faux pas sometimes 😔).
:)
I sincerely hope the "no buy for 2019" really takes off on You Tube & all social media! 😍
me too!
I can see the trend is building up quietly & yet strongly.
i was an essential worker, during hard lock down in my city, and i really connected with Hannah when she spoke about ‘shopping as your main hobbie’. i would work then come home and watch beauty youtube and shop, bc i had an income that wasn’t being spent on going out to shows, restaurants, cafes. it was the only thing that like hannah said was engaging but not confronting or challenging. since my city has been out of lock down and ive been able to re engage with other activities like theatre, yoga classes, seeing stand up, i spent less time and money on make up! although i still enjoy watching yt and i will consider a budget!
Nearly 10K followers!! Yay so happy for you 💋 I'm happy that you can reach more people with your amazing knowledge and observations ♡
thank you!
Thank you for sharing. People don’t talk about THIS side of cosmetics, and more people than we know engage in these behaviors. I can relate to every point you made. PayPal Credit was my downfall. Now, I have to pay it all off, rather than fix up my house, buy a new car, go on trips etc. How sad!
I'm so sorry about what you're giving up to get out of debt, but you've got this! Remain strong, and don't lose sight of your goal, because once you've achieved it you'll be able to fix your house and travel!
I’m starting a no buy year January 2019
Me too! 😊
yay, congrats!
Me too. Inspired by you Hannah!
Me too.😊👍
Really need support! Glad I am not alone how do I do this!
This just confirms that i indeed need to go on a no buy next year. Thank you Hannah for the clarity and the push 💞
I want to mention that I love how human your no buy has been. It hasn't been perfect. You have made mistakes, changed your mind about things, and realized bad decisions. Its been real. Which has been what I find extremely relatable. If a person were to watch each of your videos from the beginning up until now they would witness a transition and an experience of self-reflection. It's refreshing content that's been inspiring and thought provoking.
thank you so much for saying this, Danielle. It really means a lot to me
Loved the should intro!
I feel the same about should but in my case it’s because my English teacher explained us that should it’s a strong word and only can be used in parents-children or boss-employee relationships, so each time I received a should I think I’m not your kid! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
that's such a good point!
I identify with so many of these reasons! I think shopping - specifically makeup - became a way I handled my anxiety over my disability. I have felt so out of control that shopping for makeup became a way to release that anxiety and feel like I was in control of at least one thing. I have blogged for years and sharing on my blog has helped me in so many ways through the years but because so many things that happened in my personal life over the past 12 months, I felt like I lost my voice and shopping for makeup didn’t require one. I also told myself it was ok because I learned ways to purchase makeup cheap so it couldn’t be that bad! CZcams helped fuel that flame as well with the constant barrage of new products coming on the market. Thank you for being so open and transparent! You have given me so much fuel for thought and I am really excited to start my no buy and super excited to relaunch my blog!
yes, I'm excited that you are relaunching your blog, too! Let me know when it goes up!
I've decided to do a no--buy for 2019 for clothes, cosmetics and jewellery. I recognise the symptoms you described, particularly looking for something to want. I'll replace essentials like deodorant, but I'll use up all my other items. I've got enough make-up, shower products, creams, clothing and jewellery that I don't need to buy more of anything. I realise my spending is ridiculous and I buy for no good reason. I want to make a change, it's time.
Did this with sugar six months ago. Went cold turkey and after two weeks, I didn't miss sugar that much. Why is it so much harder for purchases!? 😭
great advice if only it was that easy for addicts to quit...
I think you might like the book “power vs. force” by Dr. Hawkins. He discusses how poor habits can be suddenly broken using “m fields” or quantum leaps by focusing ones intentions, he gives some history about how Alcoholics Anonymous uses this technique. I have since read 4 of his books and I have found this concept applies easily to many difficult psychological and emotional blocks. Great video💛💛💛
thanks for the rec!
You’ve inspired me to do a no buy year in 2019. I’ve done really well with decluttering and minimizing my makeup “collection” but doing a no buy year will (hopefully) re-train my brain to treat makeup the way I did pre-CZcams. You’ve described nearly exactly the experience I’ve had over the last 6 years since I discovered the CZcams beauty community. So thank you so much!!! 😊🙏
Yay, congratulations Vanessa!
I didn't know your channel and I am very happy I found you, because your perspective is soooo me. GREAT video. Thank you for sharing.
thank you!
I think its worthy also to note that when we buy under impulse theres a big probablity that the item will not truly be appreciated or used. Theres a reward and a good feeling u get when u truly saved for something and waited. I get that ugly feeling when i purchase under impulse especially when i have recently bought similar items i havent even tried yet. This is madnesss....(cough)...eyeshadow palattes...😩
so true!
You just read my mind Hannah. I don't have a lot of makeup as per most people's standard. But being a new stay at home mom having even 2 pallets is a lot since I don't go out much. I hav one foundation concealer and a face powder and recently bought few palettes . Hav 4 palettes and 1 blush and a bronzer and a mascara. But I don't use them much. So thats a lot for me.(most of them r high end like Marc Jacobs) So I am going on a No buy 2019 because my low buy will still b a lot for me.
Not sure how I will change after no buy. U never know.
I hav enough money and money is not an issue. For me spending on something I know I hav no use is the issue. I also spend a lot of time searching and doing window shopping online even though I don't buy them. I spend my free time on browsing. So no buy will cut down my time online too!! I can spend that with my baby.. I hav issue being on CZcams for a long time. I am also spending less time online in 2019. I am doing this because my anxiety becomes more when on CZcams watching makeup hauls and it's adding fuel to my fire.
I spend money only on 2 things in my life. Books and makeup. I am going to do No buy for books and makeup. Will finish the books before buying new ones.
Sorry for the long comment. I just feel so relieved and happy for my way forward.
it's true, you never know how it will change you! Congrats on your no-buy
Hi Hannah This comment comes 3 years after posting but I wanted to say how much it will continue to help and support those of us who are striving to break free from a shopping addiction. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! I am recently retired with more time on my hands than ever in my life. Add Covid restrictions on top of that and how did I spend the majority of my days? Shopping! The thrill of the hunt! I started my ‘no buy’ in December (it’s Dec 17 today) and so far so good. So many reasons to break the cycle. Loving all your videos. ❤️ Congrats on over 50k subscribers!
Dear Hannah, I do not actually overspend on makeup/skincare or anything else. Just because I invest enormous amount of time choosing/considering/getting the information about that exact item I intend end up buying. And eventually I do not. Lost time bothers me the most.
Confronting consumerist behaviors while fighting patriarchal practices! Can we be best friends please!
:)
Omg number 7 is so me. Looking for something to want to buy. Ouch. Yep. That’s me. 😥
I’ve been going back and have been rewatching your videos. I like the idea of doing a no buy year but I honestly feel like what’s best for me is to loosen up and not be so restrictive with myself.
I have watched this twice. 2019 will be a transformation year for me in the areas of work, health and now being more fiscally responsible. That satisfaction I used to get where I would open all my makeup boxes immediately has changed to disinterest and boxes that remain unopened and unused even though I continued to buy other things. I don't want to do this anymore so thank you for documenting your journey. I will be coming back to your 2018 videos often for inspiration and to resist temptation. I look forward to your 2019 content as well.
so glad to hear it, Leeza! xo!
Uh oh, now I’m panicking about saying “you should” in all your comments cause I know I say that all the time 😂😂🙈
no girl, don't panic, it's fine! I was exaggerating in the video. I don't actually get actively mad about it in the comments, I just notice that the word makes me get all up in my feelings :)
Same 😂😂
No-buy for me next year.
Hannah, I always find your videos inspirational. What I think is unique is that it really feels like you're understanding and supportive of all your viewers and I think that's what makes a lot of us look up to you. I already started my no buy last month but I'm still struggling a lot- for example looking for otger things I can buy that give me some temporary joy, instead of makeup. I am working on myself and my habits, and your content has been so helpful and encouraging, even when I feel like I've failed already. I don't have enough words to thank you for everything and I'm SO glad I found your channel!
Aw, thanks so much for this sweet comment
Baby steps seems to work well for me when I have a goal of adding a new habit or behavior to my life. Stuff like bringing lunch from home to work, working out, stuff like that. Cold turkey works best for me when I'm trying to stop a behavior like when I quit smoking. I'll occasionally take a break from sweets and treats for a period of a few weeks to a few months... That's a cold turkey thing for me too. Great video, Hannah. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts. Have a great day (not telling you what you should do, lol).
I totally agree with this!
Note to self, never use the word “should” on Hannah 😀
:)
I have 3 coming in the mail right now and about 5 or so I have recently bought. So I was thinking go no buy and put those new ones away and instead of tearing into them and stacking them up in my drawers and proceeding to get on CZcams foolishly convincing myself that I wont buy...I will refocus myself use what I have bought And then when I really want to open a new one durring this coming up year instead of shopping I will open one up...keeping them all in their packaging as is...ahhh!
you can do a successful no-buy whether you open them now or not! Keep an eye out for my Wed. video
Yesssss! Needed to hear all this. My no buy 2019 started and now I will binge all of your videos
I just found your channel in the recommended section. You speak so eloquently and soo much of what you said resonated with me. I can't wait to see more of your videos. Thank you so much for sharing your truth - videos like this are the reason social media CAN BE amazing!
"If you don't should on me, I won't should on you."
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This may sound crazy but did you ever have the thought, if I were to die tomorrow what purpose would a no buy serve? That thought of “balancing” the now with he later is what always seems to do me in and ruin my will power. Can you relate to this thought?
I can see where you are coming from, but if I lived asking "if I were to die tomorrow what purpose would x serve" I would never invest in my future. I wouldn't eat healthy food, make big plans, organize projects, work on my relationship, etc. Life is unpredictable so in some ways the hard work of self-improvement is a gamble. But if I end up living a long life, I don't want to be broke and sick and drowning in stuff. So it's worth it to me.
craftywoman ok but if you die tomorrow what would it matter that you bought something the day before that might have caused her so much stress or fear because of finances so then she would spend her last day feeling those feelings of guilt
Have you thought of writing a book? You have so much knowledge! I just learned about you, watched a few videos in a row, and immediately thought of a book. Then I looked up more about you and found you are a writer. I think this could help so many people. Thank you for all you do.
Thank you for posting this, you were so honest and I really value what you had to say. I could identify with so much of what was said and I realise I need to do something like this and get my spending down. Thank you for this wake up call, I really needed to hear this.
This is the first video I've watched from you. I find it interesting that you keep referring to "the election". As an older, mature woman, I fail to see how something outside yourself, like a presidential election, could possibly compel you to behave in a certain way. I speak from a long history of substance abuse, with now 14 years of clean and sober living. Perhaps it's our age difference or a difference in our values, but external circumstances are an unfortunate part of life. I appreciate that you recognize your behavior, however, to marry that behavior to the result of an election shows a profound lack of personal accountability. I appreciate the changes you are making as this does show accountability and maturity. I appreciate you sharing your experience. I'm just completely dumbfounded that by your own admission, a presidential election was the impetus to your actions in spending. I mean no insult to you, these are simply my observations. The fact that you and I can be on different sides of the same coin further illustrates that we are fortunate to live in a society that allows us to each have an opinion.
I don't consider elections to be "outside myself." The question of who Americans are choosing to vote for is something that matters to me, inside myself.
Lol the election thing was odd for me too- I’m not a trump fan but I don’t see how it makes any sense blaming his win on impulse buying. Politics and buying makeup don’t seem to go hand in hand in my mind but maybe that’s just me 😂
@@HannahLouisePoston Of course it matters, but to have it compel you to spend??? Wow, just....wow.
perhaps I wasn't clear about it in this video, I've been clearer in other videos and I try not to repeat myself too much. The election precipitated a long period of depression, and it was the depression that made room for my overspending tendencies to grow out of control. From what I've read, it is a common pattern.
I'm not even American and I was deeply depressed and stressed by the 2016 election, I had a lot of stress and anxiety related to it. It didn't necessarily cause me to spend out of control but it was an awful time.
someone just told me "you should probably start your christmas shopping" AAAAAAAGHHHHHHHh it bothered me SOOO MUCH shut UP! hahaha
I feel you!
Millions of people can relate to this entire video!! Thank you for sharing.
Caught you on Angela’s channel and had never seen you before. This video really hit close to home- the unwise spending primarily- but ESPECIALLY the way the election changed me and that I then needed something mindless to numb the pain. I feel you sister. 💜
this was exactly what i needed to hear. i’m so glad that i’ve found your channel, i’m a college student & the stress has been really taking a toll on my the past couple years, & it’s manifested as a minor shopping addiction. i totally related to the parts about spending all of my time shopping and browsing & the need for cold turkey. anything i’ve quit & stuck with has been through just quitting. the biggest ones have been smoking (i smoked for 3 years daily) & going vegetarian. it’s always worked best for me to just force myself to stop, but also not beating myself up when i slip up sometimes. like if i have a cigarette when i’m out, i don’t shame myself. i accept that it happened, think of WHY i slipped up, & then resume not doing it. i feel like that attitude has been super helpful for me breaking habits because i think a lot of addictions are shame based.
thanks for watching and for sharing your experience! xo!
Thousandth comment- I’m taking this as a sign to start my no buy. Just found your channel and you are so beautifully well spoken- i feel lucky to have stumbled upon your videos!🥰
This video totally helped inspire me to commit to the no buy for 2019. I was already thinking about it and leaning towards it, but your explanation in this video is what pushed me over the edge to go for it. Thank you for documenting your no buy. I have been binge watching your videos after watching this first one. I have enjoyed every video of yours that I have watched so far and I will continue watching more.
Sometimes your videos are so hard to watch because they speak to my present reality. It's tough to look in the mirror and see all those qualities you described reflected back to me - especially in relation to those temporary feelings of prosperity. I have cute clothes and makeup, but I can't even save up enough money to buy the new car I need so desperately! I've said this before and I'll say it again until I'm blue in the face: thank you so much for doing this project and having your CZcams channel, Hannah. It's prompted me to do a lot of self-reflection and to reassess my habits in order to make the coming years better for me.
sending a big hug. xoxox
You are so beautiful inside and out Hannah! It's great to be able to face ourselves and admit our flaws. I am wondering if I "should" do a no-buy. I really try not to overspend and to think hard about my purchases and to use what I have. But, at the same time, I spend so much time thinking about shopping, or online shopping without actually buying anything. I think CZcams does this to us. I watch people who have a different lifestyle than me, or who earn more money than me, but I still see myself as them and think that it's okay to spend how they spend or to buy what they buy. It's also very hard now that I have a son. I have cut back so much on spending for myself, but I wonder if I am just filling that hole by spending on my son. Granted, he does need things (clothes, toys, etc), but I wonder if he needs less than what I give him. I find myself justifying purchases for him because he needs to learn so he needs educational toys, etc. I wonder is this true or am I delusional? Of course, he will survive with literally just the basics, but I also don't want to deprive him of too much because of my own issues with shopping. Kids make everything more challenging! Haha. Thanks for inspiring me to analyze more and more and make myself a better version of myself every day.