5 Keys to Saving a Broken Marriage with Ken and Tabatha Claytor
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- čas přidán 16. 07. 2024
- Ever found yourself questioning the strength of your relationship? A feeling all too familiar to us, Ken and Tabatha. We've traveled that rocky road and turned our marital agony into a pathway of hope for others. Our journey in marriage has been a tumultuous ride, filled with trials and tribulations. But, with God's grace, we transformed our relationship, and now we're here to share with you five key points that brought about a divine turnaround in our marriage.
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Tabitha, may I say you are a very sweet and patient person. I have watched a number of y’all’s videos and I come to the same conclusion each time. You are a gift to ken . Keep your soft , sweet spirit. You are a beautiful person. May God bless y’all ‘s marriage continually.
It's better to loose an arguments rather than loosing my marriage
This is very powerful. You are so much like me as a wife. Recently our 17 year marriage was under attack to the point, that in a period of 2 weeks we told our kids we were divorcing and were calling lawyers. Until the Holy Spirit started coming at me with pray and fight for your marriage. As soon as I got out of my way and started praying everything changed. God answered our prayers and things started to change. No more divorce talk and we still have a way to go cause my spouse is still in his selfish stage but I’m still praying, I’m still serving and asking God to make each rejection be a sign that the devil is still trying to attack us and make me fight harder and love harder. I’m not saying it wasn’t hard but I know we have a ministry and we won’t let the devil ruin it or our family.
Marriage ain't easy and definitely not the fairy tale I envisioned when I got married young 8 years ago.
I am unmarried but I you guy’s are apart of my preparation. Thank you so much for your transparency.❤🙏
I am so blessed by this word. My husband has separated from our family 7 weeks ago, but I’m trusting in God for restoration. He is moving! I am encouraged by Tabs testimony to win over her husband.
I LOVE that…”Fight with your faith, not your flesh.” Amen and Amen again. 👏👏👏👏🙌
Love this healthy and wholesome conversation that lifts and exalts Jesus while giving what’s practical and wise.
I’ve been married for 25 yrs. We have 2 autistic adults. My is narcissistic, pathological liar OCD personality disorder.. Decided tostop reading the Bible go to church fast and pray I thought I was equally yoked. He told the marriage counselor after two sessions don’t come back. I’ve been a Christian for 35 years. I’m loyal, humble patient. My first love is Jesus.. His family hates me because he talks about me all the time.. I decided to throw the towel. He sabotages me, tries to destroy me.. He has no idea that God shot an idea out of heaven and into my head. I don’t have time for the drama, because I’m too busy following the Lord.
This man is SUPER lucky to have Tab. As fine as she is and she was going after him after he pushed her off??!! Make it make sense !!! Sis gets the gold medal today!!
Will you ever do just a marriage conference??
Wow… this is for me.. sis Tabitha. This is what needs to be taught. Humbleness. Not being defensive. I have learned so much from you. Mistakes I made in the past. I want to be a great wife. God please give me strength and maturity. Increase my faith. I didn’t know how to fight or what to do. Now I understand
I just recently came across the two of you and I must say that you truly are blessed to have each other.
I’m currently going through a divorce not finalized just speaking in the mouth. So much hurt and betrayal ,infidelity, pride ,selfishness. It’s so hard to let go off the pain caused and hold onto the marriage but seeking God in the trails and tribulations has brought so much calmness in me that I want to look beyond it all and fight for my husband.
#flight in faith and not in flesh 🙏🏽
This is so good. Thank you both for sowing so much into us.
I'm going to be an amazing wife to my future husband, by the grace of God!!❤
Hallelujah! This word was soooo touching and a blessing. I pray that many people, single and married watch your podcasts and learn what it means to be in Godly marriage or to aspire for a Godly marriage. The aim is God...all the time. Keeping our eyes on Him. I am single but have been in unholy relationships with fornication, lust, addiction, depression, anger and just lived a sinful life but earlier this year God hardened the heart of one I loved more than Him against me. I learned that this person wasn't the source of my joy and even though I love them, I needed to love God more. And so the Holy Spirit caused a huge transformation in my life. I no longer had desire for sinful acts. I became disgusted. God renewed my mind. Since then I have been growing in grace and Im so grateful for God's peace which passeth all understanding. The devil still tries me everyday but I have been arming myself with the word of God and living in faith. I prayed for a husband and have decided to wait on the Lord. Right now I just want to serve Him alone and be faithful to Him. Praise God for His love and His word. My life will never be the same
I've been following y'all and let me tell you....this ONE is marked as the game changer for me! I was both of your testimonies... depressed and prideful...I feel so liberated after confessing the prayer at the end! From TABITHA to TABATHA thank you for sharing your heart, your womanhood, your softness and smile for us ladies to learn from!!! Thank you Ken for being a man of standard and leadership for men to glean from!!! I LOVE Y'ALL! MAY GOD BLESS YOUR UNION AND FAMILY!!! 💞
Finding you two is a God sent
I love that you guys were holding hands. I can tell that you genuinely love one another. My husband and I married after 4 1/2 months of dating, trying to do things God's way. We are in our 11th month of marriage now and it's been very difficult, but every time I hear you say that the first 2 years of your marriage was horrible and to see you all now, it gives me hope. Keep up the good work! Know that you are making a difference. God bless you both.
These conversations are meaningful and soooo necessary. It becomes difficult to receive when the Pastor keeps cutting off, interrupting and overpowering the other Pastor. Respectfully, I (we) really NEED to hear both Pastors equally.
Amen!! Thank you for sharing your story and these principles. I have shared this with my husband & praying he will watch it. Me need a change in our marriage.
This podcast has really been a blessing to me and helping others
Tab your a hero
This was one of your best ones y’all!! I had to turn around and stop what I was doing as I heard Tabitha.. woman of God we have such similar testimonies!! Thank you both for bringing your life out for us to learn from❣️🔥👊🏼💖🫶🏽
needed this, thank you so much.
Sooooo INSPIRATIONAL!!!!
😢 the raw honesty is what really hit me. God bless you
I’m thankful for seeing y’all on Hope City and now the podcasts are a blessing.
Hi Ken and Tab, firstly love from Trinidad and I just want to say thank you guys as you have been very informative and helpful whilst God has been transforming my mindset regarding Christian lifestyle, dating and marriage. I am single, however I like educating myself and I been ministered too that I am going to get married so when Ken talked about learning and preparing yourself for marriage, I stuck around and a lot of your videos have been very eye opening for me about things I knew and things I never even considered or thought about. I have definitely learned a lot, I even discuss your videos with my mom which made her start watching and she always tends to say that she never thought about what you said or from that particular perspective.
God bless you both thank you !
GOD is looking for obedience over humility where there is obedience humility will follow.
What a word! You’re gonna pay one way or another. Wow!! Blessings to you both!
Thanks for your prayers for our marriage.
What an amazing talk. I cried a few times. 😢❤ I always want to be better for who ever God brings into my life. ❤ so good ken and tab❤❤❤
Thank you so much I am learning so much from you guys thank you for your rawness!
You guys thank you very much,I am believing God to restore our trust,love and respect.❤❤ may God continue to bless you🙏🙏🙏
I love this so much!! Thank you for this hope 🙏
I appreciate you both for sharing this content/message!!!
I loved and enjoyed the message thank you for this.By the way i love that Hoodie Mrs Claytor
I want to know how she deals with her husband, so patient and loving
Thank you for this message and God bless 🎉
Been together for 9 years since 18 and 21! I've been saved for 4 years and he just started believing last year. Boy oh BOY did you smack me upside the head when you said he would be petty or mean on purpose and you still did what you were supposed to do. That's where I'm at now and I too hope and pray I can withstand his pettiness and anger and just LOVE THE HELL RIGH OUTTA HIM!! 😂
You are so right
Your contribution to the saving and success of many marriages has been recorded in the book of remembrance and there is a reward for you in heaven. I wish I would get one on one counselling with you one day. Thank you.
Wow wow wow!! My marriage is where y’all’s was in those first two years BUT I know God is about to turn it around. He will restore our marriage and we will have a thriving marriage ministry in Jesus name 💕🥲🙌🏾 thank y’all sooo much for sharing. Truly praying for a strong marriage ministry my husband and I can join in Chicago! We need it. I’m praying and believing for it. ❤
Did y’all reconcile?
@@yanilovee31 no not yet but I’m still praying for him and myself and believing that God will do what He said 🥲
This podcast was so good! Very well done. After watching I immediately went to audible to see if you had a book! Couples need your perspective on marriage… thank you for sharing.
God bless you Tabitha...your spirit could only come from God. It's so calm
Hallelujah!! God is working through you two. ❤
Thank you! 🤗
"Shock and Awe"...That my face right here, right now. We love ou two (and your family and growing extended work fam too...THANK YOU for all you do! :).
Anyhow, just wanted to say thank you. You'd be surprised at just how prescent, timely and insightful this advice...these "pain points"...can still be relative in a NEW marriage, as well. With deep and abiding love and appreciation,
-The Erich's
Tabitha and Ken thank you so much for your sharing, really anointed, so raw and honest. Thank you for this. Really practical advice. I continue to listen to all of your CZcams videos. Congratulations on this and may God continue to bless you both abundantly with his wisdom and understanding.
Hello. I just want you two to know I’ve been following and watching you guys for a minute. This particular convo blessed me. Thank you guys for what you do. It truly helps a lot. ❤
Glad to hear it!
How long after an so called "emtiona" affair do you start to trust again, how do you believe after all the lies
This a good question. I hope they a see it
Am actually asking the same question. It's hard for me to trust or believe my partner after betrayal.
My husband had an affair three yrs into our marriage. I was angry broken and wanted to walk away. It was hard for me to trust the one I gave my heart to. I asked God what to do and if it's for me to stay how do we get past this. I stayed and God begin to work on my heart and his as well. He decided to run after God not just to keep us together but to change from the man he had become over the years. We went to counseling and I cried many tears. It was a process and I had to do the work so the bitterness and lack.of trust could be removed from my heart. Those things didn't change over night but as time went on I began to see the man God created just for me. He didn't just say he would change he did the work. We have to be willing to have hard conversations and lay our pride aside. Keep trusting God and keep doing the work. I am a true believer that God is faithful. We have now been married 31 years and now leading a marriage group. I pray that God gives you everything you need to get to a healthy place. Shalom!!
Over a month now my husband move out our matrimonial home.
He said God told him to leave😢 and not to talk to me until I reach out to him first.. the separation wasn't discussed I just reach home and saw him moving out, I didn't stop him.
2 weeks after he leave I reach out to him, I realized he was full of bitterness towards me.
Everything that happened throughout the 1 year 8months and 7 days of the marriage Everything wrong he blamed it on me.
The things he did wasn't mentioned but my replies, my actions was listed in a whatsapp breakup message he sent me.
Watching this break me....
My husband mentioned that I called him Lord😢
God's Grace
Hello guys! Both of you are so amazing! You're inspired me! I thank GOD for you! May God bless you abundantly!!!
Thank you so much!
Me and my wife love you guys and watch you every day. It’s a struggle for us in our marriage but definitely helpful. Is there any way we as a whole, speak with you personally! We desperately need your help? 🙏🏾
I wish had this when I went through my marriage. This would have saved it. :(
Ken and Tab I been married for 30+ to beautiful women and always love to hear your insight and transparency. I turned my wife on to you all and she enjoys the talks immensely really appreciate your ministry. You guys are amazing 🎉🎉🎉🙏🏽😢
Love to hear it!
Nuggets ❤
Amen!🙏
So glad i stumbled upon this video. Allow me to ask. I loved that you mentioned how old you were when you got married. As a Christian how importantbis age when it comes to chosing a life partner.
1. Age to get married?
2. Age between you and your partner. Is there Bible reference that say the man must be older?
Thank you for sharing your story ❤
I’m so thankful to find this!!! To God be the Glory 🙏🏽 we need God!! Our marriage is struggling we need counseling, we need help! We will be in Orlando in November and would love to visit your church. I would love to send a private message. Is there any way to contact you? God bless you both and thank you for blessing others with your ministry.
Me watching this while very single ✍🏽✍🏽📝📝👩🏽💻👩🏽💻
Awesome content,I hope you guys go back and watch this podcasts and review yourselves with an aim for improvement ,I feel like Ken is talking too much (not in a bad way) to an extent when Tabitha is giving her point he interrupts (so observing the turn-taking skills and practicing patience until the other person is done talking).
I thought we was working on our marriage but jus to find out he got someone pregnant and I’m so hurt by it and I been praying so hard about it. I’m saved and God have bless me in other parts of my life but jus the issue with my marriage. So I’m jus in a place of asking God to help and heal me and leave him in God Hands😢
Currently standing for my marriage and trying to get closer to God we have literally no contact and she has moved on.
My sister was resilient🥰🙏🏾💪🏽!! I love it. Teach us Woman of God!!❤ We have to fight for our marriages. I hope my husband and I can visit you one day soon.🥰
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You both balance each other!!!! ❤❤
What happens when someone was doing that for you and you didn't change immediately and because you didn't change immediately they stopped doing those things for you and when you finally changed they didn't want you anymore.
Exactly, that's why I married him because I didn't want him to go back to his home country...
I stumbled upon your video and my marriage has been very hard for 13 years. I am holding on and appreciate hearing your video because it doesn't make me feel so alone. I live in WV and heard that you all did too! Coincidence, I think not! What part of WV did you live in?
My wife and i are in a horrible season right now. We’ve been married 1 and half and it’s been more bad than good. Is divorce ok if infidelity has happen??
You guys have no idea of how your ministering to God in saving people's marriages
Over a month now my husband move out our matrimonial home.
He said God told him to leave😢 and not to talk to me until I reach out to him first.. the separation wasn't discussed I just reach home and saw him moving out, I didn't stop him.
2 weeks after he leave I reach out to him, I realized he was full of bitterness towards me.
Everything that happened throughout the 1 year 8months and 7 days of the marriage Everything wrong he blamed it on me.
The things he did wasn't mentioned but my replies, my actions was listed in a whatsapp breakup message he sent me.
Watching this break me....
My husband mentioned that I called him Lord😢
Sometimes you women replace god with your man and you start worshiping him instead