How To Fight Right / Don't Win The Argument and Lose Your Marriage

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  • čas přidán 27. 08. 2024
  • Arguing in a relationship is inevitable. And we are not new to it. After 23 years of marriage we have learned the do's and don'ts of arguments. In this episode we are going to show you principles of how to fight right with your spouse.
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Komentáře • 93

  • @mo_sozo21
    @mo_sozo21 Před rokem +46

    “My angels know the speed that I drive…” 😂😂😂😂

  • @alisheabasson2987
    @alisheabasson2987 Před rokem +34

    The biggest fight actually restored my broken marriage! I believe it was Holy Spirit lead and broke us down to build us up!

  • @resmith44321
    @resmith44321 Před rokem +12

    She said you were fighting by yourself 😆 🤣 😂.

  • @marshaesmith
    @marshaesmith Před 10 měsíci +8

    Can you guys do a video breaking down the biblical roles of the Husband and Wife? That’s something I feel has gotten pretty blurred lately to the point where we really don’t know our roles and/or we’ve seen our mothers have to play a role that wasn’t hers and now we’re growing up doing the same and it’s holding us back

  • @MaShiaMone
    @MaShiaMone Před 4 měsíci +2

    “I believe that you can outrun your angels.” When I say I screamed so LOUD Pastor Ken.☠️☠️☠️☠️ OMG!

  • @1jazzjasmine
    @1jazzjasmine Před 6 měsíci +3

    I feel bad for Tabatha…she reminds me of me, I have a gentle spirit and hate getting into arguments because I’m easily overpowered. People see people shut down and still continue to yell and do so much

  • @StayHealthyWithLinda
    @StayHealthyWithLinda Před 10 měsíci +4

    I love the fact Ken and Tabatha are being realistic. I’m learning a lot and really appreciate. Thank you for allowing the Holy Spirit to guide your podcasts❤❤❤ yep married for 14 years everyday is a new day. Marriage is beautiful and lovely ❤❤❤

  • @yourshma
    @yourshma Před 5 měsíci +2

    It's crazy how I am soooo hooked to your videos even though I am not married and single. Haha! I am learning soooo much from you Mr. Ken and Mrs. Tabatha. I wanna be like Mrs. Tabatha -- she's so eloquent, calm, and gentle yet so empowered. God bless your marriage! Praying that many single people would watch your videos and learn a lot like how you impacted my life.
    Greetings from the Philippines!

  • @dwaynebastiany9816
    @dwaynebastiany9816 Před 2 měsíci

    I really love the intelligent manner in which you two can discuss your differences. We can see that even in this video, there are some points that need ironing out, but it’s worked out really effectively, with respect.

  • @michellelove5411
    @michellelove5411 Před 8 dny

    Loving this

  • @kellyquenery5166
    @kellyquenery5166 Před 7 měsíci +3

    it’s so funny how you discuss this infront of so many people!! I just love how genuine you are guys!!!! I thank You Jesus for bringing this people to my life!! I am learning a lot from this since I am newly married! 😃
    sending love from Canada!!! 🇨🇦
    God bless!!!🎉

  • @tekelagreen9197
    @tekelagreen9197 Před 21 dnem

    This Was soooooooo good, raw and true examples of how or what married couples go through I appreciate that. I'm able to learn and understand when it's raw and real not sugar coated thank you guys for answering the call of pouring into marriages❤

  • @mbusosibanda8951
    @mbusosibanda8951 Před 10 měsíci +1

    The Phone Police!!! Wow. Perspectives, you are bound by any rule that you have not challenged at inception in the home.💗

  • @user-ii7kl4mz1c
    @user-ii7kl4mz1c Před 6 měsíci +1

    I love how even on air you all resolved something ❤

  • @carola.richards9405
    @carola.richards9405 Před rokem +4

    I sense the unconditional love btw you two. God bless you both. ❤

  • @norahnakalanzi931
    @norahnakalanzi931 Před 7 měsíci +1

    This is very good, the Holy Spirit will always keep reminding us what we did wrong, and ask for forgiveness, Amen. I love you Ken and Tabitha, your Awesome ❤

  • @belindasierra5775
    @belindasierra5775 Před rokem +3

    That's absolutely correct Agree to disagree.. Sister Im with you. I do same thing living in high desert I also drive on 2 lanes.n these turtle 🐢 drivers just to slow
    I'm with you Tabitha 💯 ❤️

  • @PrestigeMarriageAcademy
    @PrestigeMarriageAcademy Před měsícem

    Love the vulnerability. Thanks

  • @georgeblackwell4670
    @georgeblackwell4670 Před 3 měsíci

    This is blessing my life!

  • @elishajorden4457
    @elishajorden4457 Před 4 měsíci

    So happy I found you guys page 💜🙏🏽

  • @losenanakailoma5437
    @losenanakailoma5437 Před 3 měsíci

    Love listening to you both. Thanks for such an impacting interaction!

  • @cameliamoodie4928
    @cameliamoodie4928 Před 6 měsíci

    I really appreciate your openness to share real life situations to help so many marriage couples struggling or heading to divorce.

  • @crisjacobs7322
    @crisjacobs7322 Před 4 měsíci

    Your podcasts have truly helped my marriage. This one will be a game changer!!! I am the one who is "always right". In January, I made the resolution to not have to prove it! I can be right but sometimes I can just know that in my heart without shoving it down his throat. Key #1 is going to be what puts me in the correct space to keep it from escalating. Thank you for your real life examples and Keys to make it doable!!!!

  • @Sabrinajbeltran
    @Sabrinajbeltran Před 9 měsíci +1

    Tab! I love your spirit! 😂 this episode has me laughing out loud!

  • @choyceybarra1274
    @choyceybarra1274 Před 6 měsíci

    Thank you both for being real and vulnerable to share your experiences and stories. As a fallen world, We need more of this and less of the scripted, polished, smiling fakery that most “Christian” leaders offer.

  • @ashleyperkins2711
    @ashleyperkins2711 Před 14 dny

    Was blessed by this

  • @zmatolo
    @zmatolo Před rokem +3

    Thank you so much for the podcast, going through each and learning so much from you guys. Its so good to be in the kingdom because God made a provision for all we need in this life. Your union is a blessing.

  • @user-bx8lx8lg5i
    @user-bx8lx8lg5i Před 7 měsíci

    This was one of my favorite episodes.
    Thank you sooo for helping my marriage and my relationship with Jesus!!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @jessefoster2832
    @jessefoster2832 Před rokem +2

    FOR GOD SO LOVED THE WORLD THAT HE GAVE HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON THAT WHOSOEVER SHALL BELIEVETH UNTO HIM SHALL NOT PERISH BUT HAVE EVERLASTING LIFE
    JOHN 3:16

  • @LoratoPhefo
    @LoratoPhefo Před 4 měsíci

    Wow, you guys are always so real and vulnerable. It’s always the small meaningless things that end up blowing up 🤦🏿‍♀️. You look back and you just like mhmm if I had just kept quiet, if I had just said sorry 🤦🏿‍♀️. Thank you so much for this video

  • @samarhernandez2601
    @samarhernandez2601 Před rokem +3

    So much wisdom, wow!

  • @jamaracrockett5489
    @jamaracrockett5489 Před 5 měsíci

    yoou really have made me see things in a different way im 34 and dating to get married and it gets tough but i stick it out in listen and write all the nuggets down so i can make the bond better

  • @UhHuhReedsy
    @UhHuhReedsy Před rokem +2

    I loved this! Totally re-watching/listening to take notes. Thanks y’all!

  • @Ehipopo
    @Ehipopo Před 11 měsíci +1

    These podcasts are always so inspiring

  • @AngelGarcia-fy8yx
    @AngelGarcia-fy8yx Před 7 měsíci

    I love listening to you both, when you speak I know god’s presence is just surrounding you guys. I’ve gained so much wisdom from the month & half of listening to your old and new podcast about marriage. As a 22 year old woman who is married I will be the first to say it is hard, but I absolutely love learning and growing in our marriage, growing up and till this day I have parents who haven’t learned a foundation for their marriage and I see how it really can destroy your marriage your self image and all around you, I have such amazing parents but unfortunately they didn’t learn the foundations of a marriage. So I love I can hop on CZcams and listen to you both and share it with my husband and share it with my mom and my dad. You guys are such a blessing and I’m thankful god sent me here! Thank you guys for the honesty the realness and the guidance! Y’all are amazing! God is good! 🙌🏼❤️‍🔥

  • @Derionna
    @Derionna Před rokem +2

    Loving this podcast and love you too pastors! 💗 So happy to hear from you guys in another format.

  • @zinhlemkhize5693
    @zinhlemkhize5693 Před měsícem

    Oh Tab Tab! They just can not accept that sometimes we have to be in control, and when we are on that steering wheel it becomes such a big reality check for them and they certainly at times can not accept that. Someone PLZZZZ correct me if I'm wrong.

  • @tarshapatriz3632
    @tarshapatriz3632 Před 7 měsíci

    Me & my love needed this one. We are in the dating phase. This is going to help us🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾thank u for transparency

  • @AngelaMillion-gq5nf
    @AngelaMillion-gq5nf Před 7 měsíci

    Your podcast have really been helping me out I ❤ that you give examples of you guys experience because we all are human and none of us is perfect ❤

  • @Ehipopo
    @Ehipopo Před 11 měsíci +1

    Passenger seat driver😂 , gotta love ‘em

  • @MrHandoverfist
    @MrHandoverfist Před 3 měsíci

    Praise the #Lord

  • @olabuk2000
    @olabuk2000 Před 10 měsíci +1

    I think the rule about no cell phone on the table brings order especially when there are children, because that's good manners and you have to lead by example, and there can't be one rule for the kids while you are doing the same.
    How about leaving the table and attend to your phone, which makes it appear real necessary as opposed to sitting on the table flipping through your phone, because in these days of social media, your being on the phone among people especially during family time is just not on.

  • @l.dozier1984
    @l.dozier1984 Před 11 měsíci

    Practice the grace of forgiving. ❤

  • @sandrashavers1516
    @sandrashavers1516 Před 3 měsíci

    Mr. Ken again you were wrong, your justifying your wrong, again Tabatha was right. I'm getting upset listening to you guys. Blessings, you guys still rock

  • @maameodeadu-gyamfi7913
    @maameodeadu-gyamfi7913 Před 5 měsíci

    Listening from Ghana!!!! God bless you both

  • @biiraruth7290
    @biiraruth7290 Před 10 měsíci

    God led me to this channel thanks for teaching us

  • @cynthialocke2269
    @cynthialocke2269 Před rokem

    Happy Valentine's Day to 2 of my favorite people! Podcasts are absolutely amazing 👏

  • @michelleestevez3234
    @michelleestevez3234 Před 11 měsíci

    Hahaha you guys are such a blessing with your messages. I thank God for your obedience..

  • @mangalisopepper4507
    @mangalisopepper4507 Před 10 měsíci

    Thank you for the Life lesson, God bless you in The Mighty name of Jesus Christ Amen

  • @allysonrose6515
    @allysonrose6515 Před 7 měsíci

    This channel is such a blessing ❤

  • @sherrynelson365
    @sherrynelson365 Před 10 měsíci

    Great nuggets

  • @NijahBrunea
    @NijahBrunea Před rokem +1

    This was so good!

  • @shannonwhite6591
    @shannonwhite6591 Před 9 měsíci

    This is so helpful to couples. Thank you for your transparency

  • @SheSharpNotFlat
    @SheSharpNotFlat Před rokem +1

    This was so good!!

  • @kristineford9185
    @kristineford9185 Před 3 měsíci

    Like today.

  • @cameliamoodie4928
    @cameliamoodie4928 Před 6 měsíci

    I really love that jacket tab. I'm trying to find it ...

  • @sharalyndemonte2511
    @sharalyndemonte2511 Před 5 měsíci

    lol I like to fight too Tabitha 😂 that’s what my husband says

  • @jenriquefilms1634
    @jenriquefilms1634 Před rokem +1

    Love this channel. These podcast’s have been such a blessing ❤️🙏🏽

  • @jessyjonas4988
    @jessyjonas4988 Před 11 měsíci

    “There is something u r doing more important than your rule”😮
    You’re kidding right 🤔

  • @purposedwifelife3825
    @purposedwifelife3825 Před 8 měsíci

    I love this prodcast

  • @blackcure8744
    @blackcure8744 Před 10 měsíci +1

    I just apologies for everything because i feel like my partner wants to win every argument, misunderstanding and anything that she can win. It ends up draining to always be the one that apologies for everything for the sake of peace and sometimes when you keep quite you end up feeling like you dont have a voice in the marriage, and that's also hard. Because how do you lead if your voice is not given much of a chance.

  • @ChristFan868
    @ChristFan868 Před 11 měsíci

    Hey guys, thank you so much for sharing this. I'd like to know, what happened after two years that improved your marriage?

  • @susanhaines7358
    @susanhaines7358 Před 6 měsíci

    Silence us agreement. If the wife made the rule and the husband did not rebut or rebuke the rule then he agreed the rule stands and also does disservice to all involved when he breaks the rule. The time to act was when the rule was spoken . A husband can go and remove a vow the wife made

  • @dandelane8088
    @dandelane8088 Před 10 měsíci +1

    How do you leave the past in the past when the same thing keep showing up in the present while pressing?

    • @Mhelinblack
      @Mhelinblack Před 9 měsíci

      Im struggling with this one as well

  • @sandrashavers1516
    @sandrashavers1516 Před 3 měsíci

    Mr. Ken why are you trying to work in the car while the car is moving, it's not her fault if there's a bump in the road. I Believe Mr. Ken your wrong and Tab is right. Blessings. You guys rock

  • @akayla_playz
    @akayla_playz Před rokem

  • @226justt3
    @226justt3 Před 11 měsíci +1

    “Public displays equal private withdrawals.” What did you mean Ken in the intro?

    • @Mhelinblack
      @Mhelinblack Před 9 měsíci +2

      I think he means he’s gonna get some reward later 😅

  • @jessefoster2832
    @jessefoster2832 Před rokem +3

    REPENT FOR THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN IS AT HAND TURN FROM SIN AND TURN TOWARDS RIGHTEOUSNESS THROUGH CHRIST JESUS
    JESUS CHRIST IS COMING BACK SOON AND WE MUST BE READY FOR WHEN HE COMES BACK

  • @dwaynebastiany9816
    @dwaynebastiany9816 Před 2 měsíci

    Anyone. Please answer for me I don’t know what they mean by #1. Shut up. Do u mean don’t reply? Let the addresses go w/ o an answer?

  • @IamTreyWarren
    @IamTreyWarren Před rokem

    📝💎🖤

  • @andreag8416
    @andreag8416 Před 7 měsíci

    LOL.

  • @karenbailey921
    @karenbailey921 Před 11 měsíci

    😍❤😍❤🥰

  • @lisasweeney6509
    @lisasweeney6509 Před 11 měsíci

    Lol! Yall both were petty and wrong about the phone situation.
    You should have asked respectfully to give you 5 min. It is a business deal.
    Maam you on the other hand could have used 5 min to deep breath to prepare you for some real intimacy time. Lol

  • @chrisbryant9473
    @chrisbryant9473 Před rokem +1

    This video on how to fight fair is really disturbing to me. Ken you got out of character. Your wife holding your hand is to calm was you down. 😢

    • @Doinglifewithkenandtabatha
      @Doinglifewithkenandtabatha  Před rokem +3

      What is disturbing about it?..

    • @bernadettejohn3055
      @bernadettejohn3055 Před 10 měsíci

      They are really people…..love covers ❤

    • @cameliamoodie4928
      @cameliamoodie4928 Před 6 měsíci +1

      No judgements, please . They're trying to help others by sharing real situations and issues. There is no need to comment any judgments. People are so close-minded and appear to be so perfect. It's difficult for them to process real people with real-life issues.

  • @marysebaya306
    @marysebaya306 Před rokem

    Thank you for this podcast. It really applies not only in marriage but when single, with family members. I will fully support, every video I will watch I will definitely comment. You’re international! I’m listening from London 🇬🇧🫶🏾