21 Signs You're Autistic, ADHD, or BOTH | Neurodivergent Magic
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- Here are some of the biggest signs you might be autistic, have ADHD, or possibly both! If you resonate with the signs in this video, I highly encourage you to do more research and potentially talk to a doctor about getting diagnosed!
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UPDATE: Hey there everybody! I recently changed this video from "21 Signs You Might Be Neurodivergent" to "21 Signs You Might Be Autistic, ADHD, or Both" because it was brought to my attention that the signs listed in this video didn't include other forms of neurodivergencies, like personality disorders, tic disorders, learning disabilities, and so much more. They were strictly related to autism and ADHD, so that's what I changed the title to. I hope this clarifies things!
@@raginbakin1430 Of course no two brains are truly the same. But fact is, that our society is based on a "standard" and brains, which only differ slightly from what is considered the standard, won't have as much of a hard time living in that society and especially won't have to mask as much, because their way of thinking/acting is considered within the norm. Try to look at it like a normal distribution (Gaussian bell curve). The closer your brain is to the highest point on the curve (the "standard"), the more you would be called a neurotypical (even if it differs slightly from others within that definition in some ways). If the way your brain thinks fits more on a side of the curve, which only encompasses approx. 2 % of all human brains, you can, by definition, be called neurodivergent, because there aren't that many brains that work similar to yours AND the society we live in isn't cut out for brains on that side of the curve.
And to say that everyone is neurodivergent because everyone has a slightly different brain, to me is somewhat like saying everyone has Epidermolysis because everyone has skin, so everyone can get blisters and wounds on their skin...
Your opinion is of course yours alone, just please don't belittle the struggles that truly neurodivergent people may have in our society by stating that everyone is neurodivergent (and thereby invalidating the very existence of those which truly fall under the definition of neurodivergent). It reminds me of "just try harder, everyone has problems"... It is already proven, that e.g. ADHDers have actual differences in their brains compared to the "standard".
Not everyone is neurodivergent😐🚶🏽
@@raginbakin1430 now that you go into more detail, I think I understand where you're coming from. To me it just feels belittling to say, that everyone is neurodivergent, if we live in a society that holds a neurotypical standard, although you might not meant it that way. Just because people, that differ a lot from said standard do tend to have it much much harder, so to me it feels invalidating to those experiences.
For me personally it just made such a huge difference to realize that I'm neurodivergent, and not just slower, weirder and more awkward (and in some cases dumber e.g. memory) than most of my peers, since I also got bullied a lot when I was younger, only to realize later on that my brain just works differently than theirs, and they weren't able to accept that. I maybe got triggered a bit to easily there, I'm sorry, especially since from you're second comment I understood that you actually didn't mean it in a bad or belittling way, but more as a criticism of our society.
I believe I have mixed bipolar and adhd. My life’s a world a contradictions, confusing stress and the list goes on lmao. I’m currently being treated and awaiting assessment. I suffer with Manic/polar eyes
I want to share about a herbal recommendations I got about Dr Oyalo on CZcams and his herbal remedy which work perfectly on my sons improvements and social skill till now. He now speakers in sentences, responds to name and instructions, no more aggressiveness and many more unlike him before
I got 16 of these and I'm currently asking my doctor for ADHD diagnosis test but I'm constantly battling the "am faking it? Exaggerating?" and I just want to cry. The research I've done for it relates so much to my life but still so scared of being a fake/attention seeker, i feel like I can't speak to anyone about it
I absolutely relate to this. Idk if you saw my video about it, but I self-diagnosed with autism and turned out to be wrong and it was so embarrassing. But then...I survived. So my advice is to explore the ADHD diagnosis, and if you're wrong, so what? Better to explore and check it out!
@@TheNeurocuriosityClub thank you I appreciate it 🥰
If you have insurance, try to get a neuropsychological exam to help with a diagnosis!
Oh God same here man. Maybe that's a good thing. Diagnosis wise not for our mental health lol
A lot of people have both.
List for those trying to keep up.
1. Time Blindness
2. Executive Dysfunction
3. Task Multiplying
4. Inconsistent Sleep needs
5. Emotional Dysregulation
6. Special Interests/Hyper Fixations
7. Missing the Obvious
8. Sensory Sensitivities
9. Rejection Sensitivity
10. Auditory Processing Disorder
11. Meltdowns and Shutdowns
12. Eye Contact
13. Rich Internal World
14. Narrow Range of Stimulation
15. Low Frustration Tolerance
16. Shame Based Motivation
17. Stimming
18. Literal or Metaphorical Communication
19. Black or White Thinking
20. Nonlinear Thinking
21. No Brain Secretary
I scrolled only for this, thank u 🙏🏽
Thank you 🙏
Thank u soo much for this bro 🙏
Welp!!! 😂
PSA autism cannot and should not be cured. It is a neurotype not a disease. If anyone contacts you claiming they can cure your (or your child's) autism. Please ignore them.
I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with ADHD. Also suffered severe anxiety and mental disorder. Spent my whole life fighting ADHD. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
Congrats on your recovery. Most persons never realizes psilocybin can be used as a miracle medication to save lives. Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death bud, lets be honest here.
Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Germany. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them
YES very sure of Dr.alishrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
100% agree I used to have Psychosis and paranoid thoughts like "people thinking about me talking about me etc. Very odd behavior after getting off Adderall from 7-16. Antidepressants at 18-29. 31 now. I took way to much, but took about 20g of Gold caps (Psilocybin containing mushroom) I analyzed my entire life. The emotions that came out helped me understand behavior etc more. Wont ever need to do it again because I'm happy and contempt forever, but I wish more people did this to alter their perception of reality. Would help with healing much trauma
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
I was diagnosed with ADHD almost 20 years ago, and this video had me in tears because I don't think I've ever felt so seen.
All the best to you, keep fighting i got diagnosed when im 43 and struggling to come to terms with it...
Same, diagnosed with ADHD *exactly* 20 years ago at 19, and this video pretty much hit all or nearly all of them for me
Just diagnosed age 51. I had 3 decades of treatment for anxiety and depression. A decade of that was at the same clinic! Hard to come to terms with that and keep questioning “do I really have it”? I actually got mad at the therapist for mentioning it. I thought “is she listening to me”. Then spoke to my psych doc who screened me and I have it. The same doc saw for years for 15min for my monthly meds. Second therapist confirmed after some sessions that she believes I do and it was that non linear conversing she sees so often with ADHD. Start off with a topic then get in the weeds off into another thing etc and eventually come back to the point. Oh, how I wish I could just GET TO THE POINT! Sorry, thanks for putting up with me.
I get it. My daughter probably knows more about my diagnosis' than I do and she explains this stuff to me. I have borderline personality disorder, bipolar and a few comorbities. I feel absolutely dumb when the simplest things fly past my understanding especially when I can explain quantum theories and other highly complex topics. It is very frustrating. I learned to laugh at myself and if others can't laugh with me I walk away.
Dr Oyalo is trustworthy and doing great work with his product on autism kids. My daughter is a point of contact and her improvement in speech and other social activities
"the world wasnt build for neurodivergent people..." yes true. i feel that way about anxiety or introverts. i feel this society was build for extroverts.
... i always suspected i have autism. Highly sensitive really describes me well...
If you're highly sensitive, you definitely might be autistic, I just made a new video comparing autism and the highly sensitive person, maybe check it out!
I can understand that
I want to share about a herbal recommendations I got about Dr Oyalo on CZcams and his herbal remedy which work perfectly on my sons improvements and social skill till now. He now speakers in sentences, responds to name and instructions, no more aggressiveness and many more unlike him before
extorverts can have anxiety to just because they get energy from being around people doesnt mean they dont have anxiety and some intoverts dont have anxiety
Just because you're really sensitive, that doesn't mean you're for sure autistic though. I am def a sensitive person but I'm not autistic, ADHD probably lol in the process of diagnosis currently.
I am grieving the loss of my 26 year old son to suicide, and listening to this is breaking my heart becasue he has these issues and needed help he didn’t get, please everyone help, be better, and love one another
I’m so sorry. 🙏 I hope his story helps others. Peace be with you.
I am sorry for your loss. Thank you for encouraging others.
I am sorry for your loss 🙏
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16/21. Self-diagnosed because I'm 61 and it wasn't a thing when I was young. The one about tasks really got me. One task leads to another and another. I really can't imagine doing things another way. It takes me a whole day to clean my kitchen. Apparently it only takes most people an hour or two.
@Maximumevent710 there is no cure, you are buying grass water
@Jane-co9ev SAME GOES FOR YOU
Im 25 and i feel as if i hit 16 points as well. I dont know what to do with myself and don't know how to do life's "basics" despite growing up normally.
Yes - dishes are a pain in the patootie! I chunk the task, washing cups, then bowls, plates, tupperware and pots last. Sometimes I get overwhelmed and other times I am physically exhausted with the thought of washing one more spoon! I can also get distracted by other stimulii, so much so, that my kids are not allowed to chat with me when I'm doing dishes. I do my best to hyperfocus on the task, being mindful to enjoy the warmth of the water and to internally give praise and petition my creator for help.
@@elementaryfundamentals I kind of do the same, except that I reward myself by watching youtube or some other type of entertainment (britcoms, etc.) on my cellphone. We're all in this together! (Quote from Red of the Red Green show)
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporesss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is. dr.sporesss
I'm 99% sure I'm neurodivergent, I'm just scared I'll be wrong in the end. I feel like there are so many things wrong with me that I'll get them all souped up and mixed, it's so stressful, I've been daunting on this for weeks researching potential things I might have, I don't know anymore, I just want a community, people who know how I'm feeling you know
Theres nothing wrong with you. It’s just that you have a different way of processing. Find out what your strengths are and how to use them to your advantage.
This is my experience that stressing and overwhelming things u might have. Kf you have genuine concern and its inhibiting daily life, talk to a professional or someone who can help you.
@@joshuamclean4588 Thank you, I've discussed things with my parents and they're setting up an appointment with my psychiatrist sometime this month, Hopefully I'll get an idea what I have and move on from there
Love you.
I cannot tell you how much I can identify. But my therapist helped me accept myself and remember that you know you more than anyone else. I wish you well!
The metaphor of having no secretary in your brain is really spot on 😂 I have tried explaining my high sensitivity to people by telling them my brain has no filter for what is important or not important but will be using this metaphor from now on! Very clear!
Thanks! I believe I first heard it from @howtoadhd
I want to share about a herbal recommendations I got about Dr Oyalo on CZcams and his herbal remedy which work perfectly on my sons improvements and social skill till now. He now speakers in sentences, responds to name and instructions, no more aggressiveness and many more unlike him before
Yes!!!!😮😮😮
I used to call my husband, my brain, because he would remind me of dates and times or if I turned off the stove or locked the doors. Now I put reminders, alarms, and timers in my phone.
Wow, the way you said that just hit me. But it really is just like that. For me the problem is that my brain defaults to literally EVERYTHING being put to the front of the queue as URGENT, which makes me try do do everything at the same time, resulting in wheels just spinning in the sand.; I never really saw it that way before. Now that I can see it, I wonder if there is a way to fix or at least manage it so I can live effectively.
NZT 48, anybody?
I love how direct you were! I usually speed up informational videos, anywhere from 1.5 to 2x, but I didn't have to do that for this video. You spoke at an efficient pace, and informed without unnecessary information. Additionally, there's not many videos that cover this subject, especially as well as you did. ✌💜🙂
Yes I agree so many videos don't get to the point I just switch them off . So thank you for direct information .
I actually did have to speed the video to 1.5x, but also agree that Megan was concise with her explanations (I can just get impatient at times).
I still watched it at 2x with subtitles. I wonder if that's a neurodivergent thing? ADHD specifically? That's what I think I have.
Dr Oyalo is trustworthy and doing great work with his product on autism kids. My daughter is a point of contact and her improvement in speech and other social activities
@@joelfaceI do the same thing! It takes me a minute to grasp things
But I do really like how clearly she spoke and direct I hate dragged out videos and didn't have to fast forward to get to the point which was nice
I was diagnosed with adhd when I was 30. 38 years later and having a son on the spectrum, I'm beginning to think that anyone diagnosed with adhd should automatically be tested for autism. So much overlap. I ticked almost every sign.
Me to my brain: which one sounds familiar?
My brain: yes
Yeeeeeeep
Lol! YES!
I may have misidentified ADHD and lack of executive function as the "i-do-what-want-and-feel-like" while I'm operating the one that knows better. After a reeeal breakdown i decided to make up some reasonable truths to help convince myself to do what i should, so basically manipulate my self into wanting what i should. Opens up for some pretty good joke deflections. "what do you mean?"
Me: "I have no idea, but with your help, i believe we can get to the bottom of it"
i like to guess some things... sometimes people hear me aggressively when i didnt mean it to be. or dont understand what they heard because i dont concieve a way for it to be offensive at all.....
I did have a training manager tell me ON MY FIRST DAY, "Its hard to get fired here"
i was following him and dramatically stopped and looked at him until he turned around, "Don't tell me that, why? my subconscious is going to take that as a challenge!"
he laughed and over the next 6 months.... well covid shut the place down but it was getting close.
I'm in rage mode but for guys it's friend or foe ? Right now it's usually foe nobody likes me I stole their land and they believe it I've never owned land in my life .
same
I’ve been diagnosed with autism and ADHD. I also have C-PTSD, fibromyalgia, lupus, anxiety, OCD and seizures. I just wanted to connect with others and let you know that you are not dumb because you are neurodivergent.
She did miss one for us Autistics, which is our love of routines and when there is disruption in routine or a change, we might feel lost, anxious, anger, frustration, sensory overload or have a meltdown. I can list many times I’ve had meltdowns just from changes in routine alone. (Not to forget the sensory overload I was already in.)
We autistics also tend to not understand other people (facial expressions and body language) or our own feelings. (Guilty!) some Autistics are good at recognizing other peoples’ feelings based on body language and facial expressions (not guilty). I judge by tone of voice, but that’s not always accurate unless I personally know the person I am talking to.
Thanks for letting me vent if you read my whole comment, Autism and ADHD can be hard to live with. Stay awesome everyone!
Thank you so much for sharing! I totally hear you when it comes to changes in routine. I like having every part of my day planned out, for sure.
@@TheNeurocuriosityClub exactly, I thought I was the only person who felt that way when my routine is changed or disturbed.
@@justsomerandominternetuser6379 right?? Turns out our brains just work a little different and there's millions of people just like us
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Have yiu ever checked your minerals esp B1
I was misdiagnosed as Bipolar II at 26.
I was properly diagnosed with AuDHD at 48. 🎉
Now that I am learning to understand my neurodivergent self, a huge part of my depression finally lifted. Not completely, but a definite shift in the right direction.
I am a whole, unbroken human being that just happens to think differently than most others.
I now have found so many women across the web in the same situation of receiving a mid- to late-life diagnosis of ASD and/or ADHD.
I have recently started using life-hacks, which makes life so much easier (e.g. silicone ear plugs.)
Omg. Been using those since 2006
I’m 61 and have been living with something that is very similar to what you have described. I learned to manage many things. Had a 25 year career and raised a son, but how much easier and better my life could have been if I had educated teachers, doctors and parents on these conditions. 💕☮️🙏🏼
We may not be able to 'educate' everyone around us as to what our idiosyncratic traits and tics are and exactly how they should approach us. That would be an almost ludicrous situation if everyone was doing it. Can you change your techniques of relating to each and every person you encounter? This one ADHD, that one EAD, the other one is Bipolar, and that one over their is just plain old psychotic.....ya know? We must figure out our own selves and how to navigate our lives, instead of assuming that everyone else should know how we need to be taught and related to differently than the other students. Our life is our job. It's nice when family and friends know us well enough and can cater to us sometimes that way. But to kind of expect the world to do that is asking for a lot.....probably asking for a lot of disappointment, in my opinion.
Thank you! Im a 79 year old woman who was recently diagnosed as having ADHD. I protested the H part, but learned it is my brain that is hyperactive, which explains why I often jump ahead of whoever is talking to me and (rudely and often annoyingly) finish their sentences. I asked my therapist if I might be on the spectrum and she pulled out a book and asked me a few questions that I answered. She said she thought most people exhibited some of the signs, and that was normal. Hmmm… I watched this twice and then watched your previous video on self diagnoses, and then rewatched this one. I answered 15 questions, no problem. I think numbers two and 21 are the same, forgive me, I may be wrong, and I don’t really understand #5deregulation. I was often punished as a child for my low grades and not paying attention. My mother often said “she marches to a different drummer, but usually comes to the correct conclusion”. “Back in the day” these symptoms were considered disciplinary problems. Times have changed.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Yes, back in those days, one was considered stupid or labelled a spastic.
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@@Keturah53 - I was hit by a junior school teacher in the 1950s for being different and made to stand in the corridor for being unable to write my name. Children who appeared disobedient were sent to be caned by the headmistress 😢 I am undiagnosed (Aspergers) high functioning autistic with devastating lifelong (70 years) OCD - I don’t know about ADHD which is a relatively recent diagnosis. I am a published author and have a Bachelors joint honours degree in Biology- Geology - not so stupid then!
Hi, I am 40 years old and even for me growing up all these symptoms where considered disciplinary issues, now I look back and wonder how many people like us did we lose because society let them fall through the cracks. It makes me happy that things are changing, it gives me hope for the new generations coming up, I'm excited that we may get to see through them what our real potential could have been.
I was diagnosed as ADHD inattentive type for a decade and a half. Earlier this year, however, I related a few things like how differently from others I responded in my youth to sugar, caffeine, alcohol, and cannabis. My psychiatrist rediagnosed me and two sessions later started changing my medications. As an adult the H isn't as obvious for me, and as a child I seldom had any of those substances, if at all; so being introverted and a bookworm and apparently autistic, I didn't stand out particularly as hyperactive. In retrospect I can see how some of my odd behaviors were my unique expression of hyperactivity. Interesting and weird to figure out these things decades later in life, isn't it? And times HAVE changed. Yet "support" programs in schools still teach autistic kids to feel "less than" rather than differently abled, which is tragic. Now their categorized as wrong and in need of assistance rather than fully capable if the world would accommodate differences.
I don't think I've ever seen ADHD/autism described so concisely yet perfectly in a video.
My Neuro divergence is making it difficult for me to listen to this video I keep having to go back and repeat what you’re saying I really appreciate your knowledge and truth for us folks whose brains work differently
I've never had learning troubles (I have always did very well in school, I love it even) But I relate to a lot of this. My thing is, I can be hyper, loud, annoying when I'm by myself (or around people i'm comfortable with (which is no one really)), but when other people come around (specifically people I don't know, and distant family) I'm quiet, When they talk I listen, rarely give input, never ask questions unless its life or death, Only speaking if someone speaks to me...Its like i'm 2 different people. I don't open up about anything about myself to ANYONE unless it is a very very specific circumstance....i don't know anymore. :)
Reading this was strange, because it's like I wrote it myself. I'm also very outgoing and energetic around my family and close friends, but in front of people I don't know well, I'm an entirely different person: quiet, anxious, reserved and awkward. I'm also very sensitive to sounds and noise, and have a low tolerance for socializing, my social battery drains completely after an hour, after which I'm just forcing my way through painful encounter after another.
So, I'm not sure if I am neurodivergent, but I'm 77% convinced that I belong on one spectrum or another.
@@wildflo267 glad Im not the only one 😅
Same, exactly the same
OMG YES!!!! I'm like this too!
This is exactly me.
Sweet baby Jesus I’m not crazy! My whole life I’ve been told Im stupid or brilliant. But a common thread is im always confused as to why people can’t be direct with what they need. I am at 21/21 and laughed all the way through this video. Life changing. Thank you
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
I got diagnosed with ADHD last year, and it has changed my life for the better. So many things finally make sense, and I understand now why I always seemed different from everyone else.
My son fits many of these. It took us a while to figure it out and I feel bad about that. He struggled in school but made it through high school. He is now in his element studying to be a graphic designer. I accept him for who he is. ❤
it took me 21 years to realize that most of the things i do aren’t what neurotypical people do and now i’m reevaluating my entire life
Right??? Me too
This felt like someone was reading my life off of a list. This has genuinely gave me so much insight & i will be studying this more, maybe i can figure myself out a little better. Thank you
Aaahhhhhh, I'm so glad I could help!
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Pretty much everything you've said here resonates with me massively, I'm 36 and have only just got the ball rolling with an autism diagnosis through my doctor.
I'm sick of wondering why my brain seems to work differently to other people's, I spend so much time being angry and frustrated, rushing through life but never being able to focus on a given task and never achieving what I set out to achieve.
Thanks for this brilliant video!
I need these people to start a support group. I need others like myself that understand me. I am all of this and more, life couldn't be any harder to just be.
I love the explination of thoughts being a spiral. Like, for me it feels like building a tower of comfort and then just teleport spawning everywhere in the world. I could have autism, but definately have adhd
Thank you for doing this. You’re so clear, right on point and a pleasure to watch. This video helped me realize why I felt so different all my life. Not sure what to do about it, and the confusion is kicking in, but now I know I’m not just “broken” or “weird.” Very much appreciated! 🤗
Of course, thank you for watching! From here, maybe start researching neurodivergent accommodations and see if they help you!
I relate so much to video that I literally want to cry... from relief. I don't know if there is help out there for neuro divergent people because I have seen so many doctors, therapist and physiatrist and nothing has come of it. Actually, had one doctor leave the room while I was still in my appointment with him. I would love if someone could guide me in the right direction to coping or living with this because a "normal" life doesn't seem plausible. In fact, whenever people would call me weird (I get this reaction in 99% of people I meet) I just say normal is boring and try not to let the comment hang over me. You described me and for once I feel seen. If you want to be friends. I'll be you're friend.
@@TrinityTalks hey, I totally hear you. I'm actually a neurodivergent life coach and I'd be happy to work with you! If you want to set up an initial meeting for just $15, here's the link:
neurodivergentmagic.com/coaching
@@TheNeurocuriosityClub Call me crazy but I just set a meeting up. I've tried everything else, so why not?
@@TrinityTalks Can't wait to meet with you!
Got diagnosed with ADHD last year at the age of 31 and all these traits finally make sense! Thank you for a really kind and welcoming video
Hi, thanks for sharing. How do You get diagnosed? I want to check but im afraid and dont know where or with whom
There is really no such thing as a 'normal' human being. We are all on various scales of every way we think, learn, perform, cope with life etc. etc.
I'm an HSP, but I also have some of the traits associated with autism like meltdowns and special interests. I'm looking into getting an autism assessment, but I'm not sure if I'll meet the diagnostic criteria because my communication difficulties are pretty mild. I like the term "neurodivergent" because it makes me feel like my experiences are still valid, even if there isn't a diagnosis that fits me.
That's exactly how I feel!!! I'm just neurodivergent.
Same! HSP who also has some traits associated with autism but not all of them.
@@sofiesbookishadventures1865 you don't have to have all of them
Yup, HSP who was denied an autism diagnosis for stupid reasons (apparently: my eye contact is good (this was on ZOOM), I have "reciprocal friendships" and my tone is appropriate in conversation). There are TV presenters with autism, I'm not sure this assessor knows what masking is... But yeah I use the term 'neurodivergent' since no one wants to diagnose/help me. I've had traits since childhood and have since learned to mask, and it's extremely difficult to 'unmask'.
I feel the same way. I'm definitely an HSP but haven't been "diagnosed"...I resonated with almost all of these. It's a relief to have this space and education of neurodivergent people. Thank you.
This is one of the most complete and concise, well defined descriptions of being neurodivergent that I've found. I'm an autistic therapist with ADHD. I'll be sending this video to a lot of my clients.
My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was since I got the herbs. Doc herbs work perfectly
The different between you and me
Is that I'm not a therapist
@@axl256gamesx7 you could be if you want to
@@iPsychlops im more interested on videogame developing
But for a while I thought on being either a psychologist or a psychiatrist
@@iPsychlops not very interested on other medicine branches or similar
I know I'm ADHD but now I'm wondering how accurate that diagnosis was. I can relate to 19 out of 21 of these examples. I do also come from an extremely traumatic background so pinpointing exactly what my issues are have been frustrating and challenging. Either way, thank you so much for sharing this!
Nolypies, I completely relate to you here.
I’ve watched a lot of videos and had many psychiatrist + therapy appointment and read books about neurodivergence because of how much my brain makes me feel unloveable and unable to be understood. This video is wonderful!! I was crying 5 minutes in because you mention things I’ve had since childhood that for some reason no one, not even doctors has talked about. You’re awesome and deserve all the best things ❤
I'm almost 27 yo now and this is my first time knowing the term 'neurodivergent'. I've felt most of the signs my whole life. Thank you for the explanation it's been almost 3 years since I rebuild my life and now I have more understanding to keep myself going forward 💛
I'm so so glad this video could help!
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Whoa! You have just helped me to realize why me and my daughter have a hard time understanding each other. I am an HSP and both my children are neurodivergent. My youngest is dyslexic and my daughter was just admitted into the gifted program at her school. Where she communicates in a literal way I speak metaphorically. This is amazing information for someone like myself who has such a neuro diverse family. Thank you!
I'm so glad I could help!!!
@@TheNeurocuriosityClub I dunno if you would know, but is a lot of miscommunication/arguments about silly/inconsequential stuff typical in a neurodivergent family, to the point where it seems constant and exhausting, yet it never seems to affect the family bond? Like normal sibling squabbles, but they’re almost lawyering each other over details? I know this sounds typical, but it doesn’t feel typical compared to other sibling dynamics I’ve seen. I have four kids ages 6-11 and my youngest was dx’d with ADD recently, but it’s clear to me that that’s not the only neurodivergence in the family lol, myself included. We’re in the process of getting our mental health squared away this year
@Fatima Mustapha mala Awful spammer!!
Being this way cost me my relationship. We were only together for a year but there were things where she’d think I was ignoring her or always felt like she was gonna leave or wasn’t great with regulating my emotions. She would always think I’m gonna cheat and I’d go nuts because of it so I would vent to people and she found out. Then when she ended things and I tried reaching out to her to explain more, she said it was creepy. Even tho she’s the one who wanted to get married after dating for 3 months and never meeting each other’s families. When I told her I believed I was on the spectrum, she would say I look to normal. But everything added up. She would always say I take what she say way too literally. So when she said something and I acted based off of that, I was called immature. Being this way does help in ways tho. My ability to create metaphors is actually amazing. Sorry, rant over. It’s still fresh.
I never considered the fact that I could be autistic…but I relate to 11 of these things you listed in this video. Specifically task multiplying and inconsistent sleep needs. When you were explaining what those are my eyes went wide and I thought to myself, “That is SO ME.” Maybe these just happen to be relatable to me and I’m not autistic/have ADHD. I’ve never been diagnosed but I was surprised at how much I related to these things
I feel such a strong connection to everything you mentioned in this video. Wow. Thanks for it. It’s a relief to understand (finally when I’m 33), that I’m not a lazy childish crazy psychopathic unicorn pretending to be normal (and always failing this mission). I’m just different and it’s okay to be like me.
Thanks for this. Just subbed :) the analogy of the brain not having a secretary is a fantastic explanation for how I can get so quickly overwhelmed.
Yessss, it's one of my favorite analogies, I think I got it from @HowtoADHD here on CZcams.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Wow! I am 44 and have just realized that myself and my 3 daughters all have almost all of these "symptoms” I subscribed to your channel so I may learn more about Neurodivergence before this day I have never heard this term. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.
Also thank you for welcoming me. ❤
My sister was diagnosed ADHD while at the screening test for one of her kids because the person doing the test picked up on things my sister was doing at the same time as her kid.
This is probably the best, most concise, most understandable, most helpful, and most validating video I've seen among the MANY I've watched on this topic. Thank you!
I developed a note taking framework that solves the secretary problem.
That's amazing!!!
Recently I was diagnosed with C-PTSD - decades of not knowing what was 'wrong' with me, but now the diagnosis has helped me tremendously and neurodivergent characteristic is also new to me. this is a fantastic and so helpful break down of the subject. Thank you for putting this up and doing it in such cheerful and non-judgment way.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
@Fatima Mustapha mala Go away! Autism can not be healed and I feel sorry for your poor son.
I have CPTSD but now I don't know if I have ADHD overlapped or is just the emotional disregulation and that I feel stuck in freeze response. Before I had the final burn out I was very organized and competent and everytime I make the Myers Briggs test I come out as INFJ but I'm quite talkative but I don't know if is due to my CPTSD since being in silence when I'm with people feels threatening plus my people's pleasing behavior...I don't know what to think 😂
I have lost trust in psychologist so, maybe I will never find out.
Wow this video really opened my eyes. Thank you so much. The part you said about being shamed for not being able to understand/learn the neurotypical way almost made me cry. I was often shamed in school by my teachers for not being as enthusiastic as the other girls and I never understood why I was so different and it made me feel so alone. People around me called me lazy or a procrastinator but I just couldn’t focus/ learn the same way the did. This video was so good, thank you for making it and helping others
Oh. #10 describes my hearing problems spot on. One more thing into my ADHD/autism bucket. Must say, that's the first time I hear about this one.
The "delayed processing" bit really hits home: I often start asking to repeat something I "didn't quite hear", and literally a couple words later realize that I heard and understood everything perfectly fine. Or sometimes I start replying and realize that what they said isn't what I first thought they did.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
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I’m starting to think that there aren’t ANY neuro typical people on this planet or at very least THEY are the minority 👀 like idk why they aren’t the divergent ones at this point 😅
It’s always great to see people like you sharing this information that helps people who aren’t diagnosed feel seen 🖤 you’re awesome
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Same.
stop describing meeeeeeeeeeee
Lol!
Same
i broke in tears with your video...very touching...i am just learning that yes I have a lot of this in me...and it has been liberating but also i feel overwhelmed with all the info about it...meanwhile i thank you for this information...i subscribed to your channel
woah, I got 20 of 21. I've been researching about autism for 5 months already and almost every time I watch videos like this I relate SO much
@Fatima Mustapha mala you can't "heal" someone from autism. They're always gonna have it. Some kinds of therapy works with maybe helping deal with some symptoms of it, but there is no cure. It's not some kind of disease to cure either. It's just how a person's brain works.
Wow, I feel attacked lol. I just learned this term last night and now researching it. Every point you said fit. I cried when you described #9 and #10 because I had the most backlash for it and I believed I was just stupid, now I realize my brain works differently than most. I have an average IQ but it's so hard to function like normal people do. Now I get it and I can seek help to finally succeed in life. Thank you! 🧠
Oh my goodness, this comment made me smile. Thank you, and I'm so glad you enjoyed the video!
@Fatima Mustapha mala I will report you for spamming!
This Video really help me with my son that has been diagnosed with ADHD years ago.
Love the info & who you are! Thank you! Great supportive content presented nice & organized.
My husband actually told me I might be Neurodivergent because he knows I have bad ADHD and came across this term. I checked off every trait in the video. Honestly just thought this was how I was but I definitely didn't realize my childhood trauma caused my brain to be this way. I think I'm going to try to work on it..
Hey! Yeah, neurodivergent just means your brain is neurologically different in some significant way, and that absolutely includes ADHD!
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
I'M 21 for 21. I'm on the severe side of the ADHD spectrum and have been on meds for years. I've spent so many hours of so many days of so many years doing everything possible to keep my neurodivergent to myself. I spent years terrified my neurodivergent would put a big huge glass ceiling on my career--but no more. NOW, I'M TALKING.
Excellent and presented very well.
I've watched several videos like this lately, and feel like they are part of helping me find my voice. It I'd helping me understand myself better.
Thank you for being part of that.
Wow. That was mind-blowing. Yes, several things on the list resonated with me very accurately. What a relief to hear your descriptions. Now I understand. Thanks!
This video really has me asking myself questions that I never asked myself before.
That's the whole idea! If you want help going through those questions, let me know! I'm a coach and I'd love to help.
My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was since I got the herbs. Doc herbs work perfectly
Im now fully grown and I have to say adhd is a blessing I never had the problem to feel anxiety since I make drawings for my life
Thank you for creating this! I just learned so much!
Just stumbled upon your videos and I really love your kind, straightforward, nonjudgmental approach. Thank you! :)
Around 14 and I’ve been recently diagnosed with OCD. Executive dysfunction and shame-based motivation make my life way harder than it should be 🙃
thank you for that conclusion. the thing i'm most afraid of in this is self-diagnosing and being wrong, but i relate to so much, but not to everything, so i think "nah, i'm just.. i'm nt. totally"
it's such a frustrating back-and-forth between denying it and being like "well, maybe.."
My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was since I got the herbs. Doc herbs work perfectly
You are SO CHARMING and easy to connect with and listen to!!!
Refreshing!
I'm grateful!
Thank you so much for this excellent discussion! It helps explain so much between myself & my daughters! Helps us feel a little less crazy! God bless you, sweet friend!❤
Thank u!
You're so comfortable to watch didn't got bored a sec I WATCHED AND UNDERSTOOD ALL YOUR SPEECH WITHOUT GETTING DISTRACTED OR BORED You're AMAZING 💕
Oh my goodness, I'm so so so glad I could help and that you found me easy to watch! I know I haven't uploaded in a while, but I plan on being back soon, just so you know!!!!
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Omg! For years I’ve been told I had bpd and that ended up being wrong. Then CPTSD … THEN ADHD!!! Now this! Makes so much sense!
Spot on. Sometimes I think I’m just weak or exaggerating how my adhd affects me but when u list it like I have it validates that it’s a real thing and not my fault. Thank you for sharing. Excellent descriptions.
this might sound weird but i got a little emotional when you said welcome to the community, I've never been fully diagnosed, only been told I possibly have a dissociative disorder but they weren't qualified enough so I stopped seeing them. I've never felt fully welcome anywhere, so thank you
I’ve been diagnosed with bipolar disorder 1 but yet I relate to a lot of things listed here
Thank you so much! I discovered ND tiktok recently and between that and this I'm pretty sure some of what I've been berated for, or felt was just me being unworthy, is actually undiagnosed ND of some sort. Some of what you listed I've always had, and some has slowly gotten worse since I was gifted with ptsd. Maybe I just noticed it more over time of watching the other issues. I'm 57. You'd think someone would have noticed. The biggest plus for me is the relief of knowing there's a reason, that it wasn't me doing everything wrong. Such a relief.
Spot on!!! I love how introspective and knowledgeable you are on ND.
I have all of these, except for the no eye contact thing, I genuinely maintain eye contact as much as possible and stare into your soul. (btw I was diagnosed with both autism and adhd when i was 6!)
Nailed it! 21/21! If I ever feel like an imposter because I'm self-diagnosed, I will come back to this video.
My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was since I got the herbs. Doc herbs work perfectly
Time blindness in the way she described it is normal for ALL humans!
I've always known something was "different" about me and I still don't know specifics but this has helped me realise so much!! Thank you 💗
Of course, I'm so glad this helped!!!
Diagnosed Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and Chiari Malformation...Undiagnosed ASD and ADHD....after medical research and personal experience videos like this one, I am certain that at 45 years old I finally understand what all the tests at age 5 were for and why I struggled SO hard even though I was "super intelligent". My parents decided NOT to tell me the results of all the testing, however they did agree to have me skip a grade (they passed away decades ago so I can't ask anymore) and I am learning that who I have been my whole life had real reasons and I'm not "just a problem". That's life changing. Now I can learn from others thanks to the internet and learn how to live a productive and less stress-filled life! Thank you for sharing. ❤
The analogy of the secretary was excellent! Meditation gives you that secretary and then some!
Oh my gosh I feel so so seen even though I've been diagnosed as a neurodivergent, I still love to learn so much about it. Thank you !
Omg, I'm so glad this makes you feel seen, that's the whole idea. Sending you lots of love!
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
I’m coming to terms with the understanding of neurodivergent, and honestly it is relieving and emotional to find out that this is an actual reality a lot of people face.. I am starting college and heading into a really intense major ( a lot of work mentally and physically), and I’m finding already that it’s hard to pull back and say no to a lot of the “requirements” that my mind and body cannot handle.
I’m thinking about talking to someone who could help me find a way to make it easier for me to process and move through college without crashing!
Wow- this video was helpful.
This is sooooo good.
Packed and straight to the point!
While I’m not currently diagnosed, I swear I could list a lot of what you mentioned that I can downright relate to, but I just want to say that a significant amount of what you listed hit close too home for me.
I found this video and your channel 3 hours after being diagnosed with bipolar mood disorder type 2 and I'm so grateful for you and your work. I've ticked off almost all of this list and I feel less alone and able to include these things how I move forward with my life and it allows me to have more compassion for myself. The shame part was real. Thank you so much.
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I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
I’ve suspected something was different with me all my life, but it wasn’t until I became a mom and got one of my kids diagnosed with autism and the other with ADHD that I started to suspect I may have similar condition to them, I was thinking maybe a type of autism but actually the more I check about ADHD I realize it’s what matches exactly. Interesting video 🙏🏻 got 21/21 signs
Really clear information, nicely presented.
I received a perfect score😂 and it felt so nice to hear you speak with such understanding and precision. It’s wonderful that this is finally being taught.
Thank you for being such a sweet and loving soul! The way you shared that was so beautiful!💛
Just keeping track and talking cause I wanna talk haha
1. Time blindness. YES I definitely struggle with this. Sometimes minutes feel like hours, but other times they feel like seconds.
2. Executive dysfunction. I can't tell you the amount of times that this has affected me. I want to do it, I'm really trying to, but my brain.. or maybe my body.. won't let me.
3. Task multiplying. I actually don't struggle with this one too much. But my dad does, and he shows many signs of neurodivergence aswell.
4. Inconsistent sleep needs. Yeah. Not much else to say. Sometimes I sleep too much, normally not enough, never just the right amount.
5. Emotional dysregulation. I hate it, but I definitely fall into this one. No matter how hard I try, my emotions always find a way to show through. One second I'm calm, next I'm mad, suddenly someone made me laugh and I can't be mad anymore. And I'm definitely sensitive.
6. Hyperfixations. Yes!! My main one is evolutionary biology! I just love learning about it so much!!
7. Missing the obvious but picking up on the subtle. My friends always have to point out obvious things to me, but then I see my friend pick at her finger weird and I know something is wrong.
8. Sensory sensitivities. I haven't worn jeans since I was 5 because I hate how they feel. I also was super picky with foods almost purely because of texture. But when I was little I didn't know that so everyone thought I just didn't like the taste of things. So that led to plenty of misunderstandings. Luckily now I can medium boil my eggs and order thin crust pizza to still enjoy the taste of foods with textures I don't usually like.
9. Rejection sensitivity. I just recently found out there was a name for this. For the longest time I didn't know why I thought such mean things towards myself. She ignored you because she hates you following her around like a sad puppy. She wasn't distracted, she heard you, she just doesn't want to hear your annoying voice. Maybe it would be better if you just left, if she really wants you around then she will stop you from leaving. I'm glad I finally have a name for it. I'm starting to learn how to manage it now that I know it's not something everyone just learns to live with.
10. Auditory processing disorder. My friends find this one very annoying haha. They'll say something and I'll be listening the whole time but as soon as they finish I'm just like ".. what?" And I also hear their words all messed up sometimes. "The mokey ate jubilee" "wait what?" "I said it's funny how June's next week".
11. Meltdowns and shutdowns. I don't often struggle with meltdowns luckily. Once every few months I'll get one, but no more often than that. Shutdowns on the other hand.. I kinda had one just yesterday. My friends got into an argument and I later told one friend in private that she went to hard on the other one. She seemed mad at me now even though she said she wasn't. I just.. stopped talking. Instead I wrote down everything I wanted to say because it was easier. It was almost an hour before I felt like talking again. At one point I broke my silence to answer her question. "It feels like you're mad at me now.. are you mad?" I pointed at no. "Are you sad?" I pointed at no. "Then what do you feel?" And the only answer I could think to say was "empty".
12. Eye contact. I used to struggle with eye contact, but now it's easy with people I'm comfortable with. Strangers are hard though.
13. A rich internal world. I have the BIGGEST imagination. My dreams almost always follow a plot and are usually lucid. I have recurring dreams that just continue from where they left off like a movie. I also daydream like eveeryday. Just random stories that seem interesting and I see where they go.
This if the first video that explains it so well. I’ve always known I am different to others and everything explained above is exactly how it is for me!
I’m going in for an official diagnosis next week. I can’t wait to get validated and learn how to live in a world that caters for my brain
all of this resonates so much!
edit: never been diagnosed, but that would be the next step.
i think i might be neurodivergent so i tried to talk to my mom about it but she says i’m not.. she thinks that just because she got a psychology degree she can just diagnose me with whatever she wants and completely disregard what i say i think i have
Ugh, I'm so sorry. It's so hard to figure this stuff out as a minor without access to your own healthcare to see the proper specialists. In the meantime, maybe try living life assuming you are neurodivergent and use coping mechanisms from the neurodivergent community and see if that helps? And if not, go back to assuming you're not neurodivergent and seeing if there are other ways to cope. Regardless, you're struggling and that should be taken seriously 💜
@zachhillgaming when i told her about it she didn’t even know what neurodivergent was until she looked it up
I had exactly the same with my mum. She is also a psychologist and when I was 15 I told her I wanted to see a therapist. She said I'm still doing too well to see one. I'm exaggerating. Now with 27 I've been seeing a therapist for two years.
It's never too late but you should talk to your doctor privately when possible.
Best wishes to you.
Wow this is the video I was looking for! Thanks
Very good - covered lots and easy to follow - thank you. ✌
OMG I just began ugly crying bc THIS IS ME! And there is A TERM FOR ME!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for creating this channel!! I so look forward to watching all of your content and I was sure to follow you! Much love to you!!
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Wow- I’m diagnosed with ADHD and have been questioning for Autism and wow- I relate to a lot of these, I feel seen and heard so..thank you.
I feel like I’m faking stuff- most of the time.
@@jkstcibg me too. I think I have adhd cause I have a lot of the symptoms, for a while, but I think I’m faking all of them.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Glad I discovered your channel today. Great content!!
Thanks for Hosting this site. Loads of information to process.
This is fantastic, thank you for the info *and the compassion*
Yeah I had most of these. I’ve known/felt different my whole life, but was passed along all throughout school. I truly don’t know how none of my teachers told my parents that they suspected me of autism. In 5th grade I performed the entire Charlie and the chocolate factory soundtrack with the dances to my music class. No one stopped me, it was supposed to be a talent show and I took up the entire time.
I love this. I would have joined you in the takeover! Fantastic musical taste! 😁🍫 💖 🎟 💃
What was the response after the talent show? When did it occur to you that you maybe crossed a line inadvertently? I so get this. Sigh. It's hard to be so fascinating. 😉