YOUR GUIDE TO SOCIAL CONFIDENCE & CHARISMA | how to be a natural conversationalist & attract people
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- Welcome to 𝘈 𝘉𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘠𝘰𝘶 podcast by lifestyle, wellness, & self help youtuber - Fernanda Ramirez. in this weeks episode we're talking all about being the most confident and charismatic version of ourselves in social situations! as a social butterfly myself I love nothing more than being in social settings, meeting new people, having great conversations, and practicing being myself no matter who I'm around or where I am! You can expect to hear all my tips on overcoming social anxiety, being more social, having charisma in the way you speak, never running out of things to say, and attracting people all around you! one of my fav episodes for sure :)
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Confidence isn’t “I know they’ll like me”, it’s “I’m okay if they don’t”.
I like your thought
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@@boiledpotatoe haha
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YES !!!!
Absolutely mind-blowing! I'm not one to endorse things often, but "Women's Magic Truths on Borlest" is a gem of a book. Trust me, it's worth your time!
Totally relatable. My social rizz depends on how good i feel with my look that day. If i feel uncomfy with my look i literally just wanna leave 😭
I totally getchu!
i would leave school in early highschool if i felt like i looked bad that day
So what do you do if you are ugly, this stuff is always told by good looking white people
practice loving yourself, some people are just “ugly”, we can blame that on beauty standards but you still have to accept yourself as beautiful at least to YOU. stay on top of self care, skin care, smell good, teeth care, hair care, neat clothes, if u are presentable people will over look your features. then you can practice confidence because it will just radiate off of u once u become content when being ugly!
also don’t forget exercise and good diet and sleep! i know it’s so basic but i promise these things matter, take ur medicines and love ur ugly body!
Being an introvert i always tried to follow all these guides on how to be more extrovert, get what you want, etc. I think the hard work is accepting yourself and not trying to change to be a person you are not. Once you embrace yourself you will feel so much relieved. This tips might be great in certain situations you need to "sell" your work but really, if you don't feel like talking in a party just be you 💛💛
Coincido contigo!
I agree. I think the moment introverts stop feeling pressured to leave a good impression on everyone, they become more relaxed and charming
For real, the "fake it till you make it" surely works but only in certain situations. I don't have to fake who I am everytime, it's draining
I agree!
But isn't it what she said? Authenticity is one of the most (if not the most) attractive traits. The trick is in knowing how to pull it off with confidence
A reminder that “it doesn’t matter” doesn’t mean you have no reason to be upset/nervous/anxious. It just means that you are safe even when you don’t feel safe emotionally
This is so good!! People don't realize that social anxiety is directly related to not practicing enough! I use to have "social anxiety" but after I started pushing myself to be more focused on getting out there, not focusing on myself and just trying to be about making others feel seen and accepted, my social anxiety went away... for the most part... some days I feel like being a recluse but I never let myself fall back into that.
I have no social skills and so much social anxiety that I analysis every movement feeling devistated that they don't like me 😞
@@Ifidreamitidoit3566 That is hard! BUT if this helps, it takes consistent practicting(putting yourself in the hard situations) and literally not allowing yourself to think those thoughts THEN after being consistent (it'll take awhile) you will notice a change and it'll be encouraging to help you keep going.
It never fully goes away but you CAN learn to control your thoughts. The bible says "Take every thought captive" and it applies very well to social anxiety situations.
Hope this was helpful, even if just in a small way. :)
@@allthingsaremadenew236 thank you:)
something that has helped me when I’m feeling embarrassed is to reassure myself that “it’s not embarrassing” and to change the outlook of it to not feel that way because it’s simply not embarrassing to me.
When I start to become un-confident I just say to myself "You know what, it doesn't matter if they like you, if they don't like you who cares you have friends and many things to look forward to throughout the day" I also remind myself that if I make any mistakes or embarrass myself it makes me better.
having a self-care + self-improvement summer and ur podcasts are helping so much, love u and so grateful for ur content 🤍🤍🤍
Good guidelines
You have such a beautiful soul Fernanda. Thank you so much for using your presence online to help us collectively become our best selves. All of your advice resonates so much. Thank you for always being so vulerable, open, and down-to-earth. Never stop chasing your dreams queen. I love you Fernanda :)
wait that's the sweetest comment I've ever seen
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i felt like this on my early 20's, before knowing myself. now i know me and i know why i'm like this and i can deal with myself, life and people a lot better because i don't force myself on anything / with something anymore, neither with someone. i'm introvert and i always got manipulated about what people said to me like "you're shy" "you're insecure" but i always felt like "no, i don't" and then someone just come to me and said "you're not shy, you're just don't like being with that person, you don't think they're interesting. don't force yourself on doing something you don't like. you're still be a good person even if you realize that people suck for you and don't talk to them" and that started to change me. because i heard so much that i was shy that i putted on my head that i was without realizing i actually just don't like it. and then i discover i was introvert and not depressed. i just feel exhausted socializing and prefer being at home than going outside.
Honestly I recommend getting a job as a server somewhere. It literally forces you to interact w ppl plus you get tips lol. That’s the main thing that’s helped me become more comfortable around ppl
yup!
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looks is confidence: 12:18 (mine is through my outfit & musicality)
19:20 - listening is key
Communication is a super power and can get you the world! Like you mentioned it’s amazing to know when to tone it up or down, knowing how you should act in a certain environment and reading a person/ room all without having to abandon your true self and personality!! I’ve only recently learned how to do this and it’s amazing i love going out wherever and getting to know so many people
I think she is the only youtuber who opened a podcast and is really passionate about that idk but I get the vibes she really puts a lot of hardwork in it and she has really good advice not the same advice everyone gives😭💋
thank you sm!
Having social anxiety is a feeling that hurts you. Every time my friends invite me to go somewhere where there are a lot of people, I avoid going because I don't like that feeling. But I want to change bcs i know that so many doors close and good opportunities because of this situation ❤thx for the help
You vibrate so high! I'm loving all of the inspirational gems you're dropping! Keep 'em coming, Queen!! 💎❤
🥹🫶🏻this means a lot to me! thank you🌸
@@ABETTERYOUBYFERNANDA You're welcome, lovely! ❤
@@ABETTERYOUBYFERNANDA I am pregnant
What you said on the importance of social skills is so true. Even though many people aren't naturally outgoing and extroverted, this world kind of requires you to be and you're better off improving the skill in order to be successful. As someone who's very likely on the spectrum, it can be so so hard to constantly mask and try to act expressive, excited and engaged. Still, it's an important measure of surviving. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and methods!
i appreciate this comment!
This girl inspires me to get out of my bed and create my dream life and I love her for that 🤍🕊️💌
FR SAMEE💌
It’s possible!
frllll
I definitely over analyze a lot & think about what I’m going to say about a thousand times & end up being afraid. I’m going to not think so much & just DO…thank you for this
I’m autistic and this video helps me a lot to know how to better interact with people! Thank you for this!
Youre so young and so well spoken, im really glad i came across your channel bc there is so much i can learn from you
Thank you so much!!
The fact that you talked for nearly an hour and I can still continue watching this video if it was longer, really just show the realness of it and how u really applied to everything you spoke about in this video. ❤
You are such an inspiration!!! As someone who is trying to grow on social media I would love to hear you talk about it! Thank you ❤️ love you queen
Every time I feel down in social events, I come home and hear this. This makes me feel better and ready for next time.
fern you always inspire me so so much and i’m so happy when you post your new episodes!!!!!!! i absolutely just love the vibe in general ❤❤❤
I love this!!! As soon as I started listening, the first thing that came to my mind as to what you were saying is the book ‘how to win friends and influence people’. And even though I’ve read the book and reread so many chapters cause I love it so much, I never get bored of the topic & this was such a helpful episode. Thank you for all the advice Fern!!
Also, you look fabulous !!💞
yes practice practice practice. I feeel like you said you've been shy in the past but now confident.
yessss
I never have commented on a CZcams video, but I just wanted to say I really truly enjoy this second channel of yours. I love your bright personality and I think you’re a very insightful woman, I hope you know how much potential YOU have. You made my day better today listening to your podcast/videos… thank you! :)
This acc helped so much thankyou!!! When I was younger I was like always a very confident girly who was that little sunshine and chatter box but I got to secondary school and everyone found be annoying and loud so I just kinda shut that park of me down and I thought I could open that door after so long of trying to be more humble but I genuinely couldn’t and I just felt so much anxiety and reasently it’s really hit me that I’m so self conscious about what everyone thinks abt me and it was time to find my little sunshine again and boost my confidence so thankyou really this generally helped so much love ur content you keep it so real and love listening to you yap 🎀🩰🎧☕️
thank you so much for this fernanda, this gave me so much clarity and developed my confidence in the span of a week, I've finally had such good understanding of how I can socialize with ease. Love u sm for this fernanda
Finished listening to this over chores. Truly needed this when i noticed why i just sucks at holding connections/longer conversations/start convos with ppl esp with my relatives during festive season. I did notice that maybe it was bcos of my low energy and lack of charisma. Time to reflect,honestly. Thanks for the vids+podcast!
Hi, thank you for making these positive podcasts. You are the reason that i get energised when i am super tired. Thank you for making this keep going! It really makes me happy
This video was a helpful reminder for me to stay grounded. And be able to happily look back on what I’ve overcome and have no regrets.
Hi Fernanda, I have recently started listening to you and I do it every morning. You have such a soothing voice and deliver amazing content. Thankyou sending you much love.🤍
I love your positive vibe in every video💙 Your vibe helped me to live as positive person!
This episode is truly amazing. I love how you talked about this and the flow and pace is great. I'm glad I clicked on this video, girl you are a blessing!
Although I don't want to have a negative mindset I still end up comparing myself to others, even if they're my friends/the people around me. I sometimes catch myself doing this and I try to challenge those thoughts but at the end of the day I'm still thinking that I'm not as good as I feel I should be. (I do always try to catch myself when I start thinking I'm not good enough and just tell It no😁).
For example: job interviews. My friend and I are complete opposites haha. They're pretty good at articulating their thoughts and can answer questions in a short amount of time. I, on the other hand, tend to completely blank when I'm asked a question which starts the cycle of anxious thoughts/feelings. I thought about this and I told myself that I shouldn't compare myself to others. They have their strengths and I have mine. I shouldn't try to be more like them because it adds to my insecurities I guess. So what I've been telling myself is my strengths are different. I've found that mine is to prepare and practice in front of a mirror or to a friend before an interview (what I mean by this is I become a little bit of a perfectionist but point is I work really hard on it). Being prepared helps me so when the time of the job interview comes all I'd have to focus on is breathing and grounding myself (to stay calm). I'm still not the best at being out there but the important thing is I'm trying. If you read this entire thing lol thank you for your time and I believe in you! You got this 💜
Here's a few tips that I took from this video
(They're mostly the ones that I find that will work for myself)
- Network!!!! Its not about what you know, its about WHO you know
- Sell yourself to others - know who you are, how you can help other people, persuade, show your value
- Show authenticity
- Being good in social interactions is like a muscle, you need to keep training it.
- When you are thinking to much, being too much in your head, you need to ground yourself. Be present. Do something that makes you present.
- Be playful
- Set goals when you go out, for social interactions
- Say affirmations before going out
- Go out and practice your social skills with new people, they dont know you and never met you, so it doesn't matter if they will like you or not!
- Listen actively - show genuine excitement - ask questions even if you already know the answer
- Introduce yourself to new people! - Step out of your comfort zone
- If theres anyone you want to talk to in a social gathering: make strong eye contact, introduce yourself, compliment something that they are wearing or if you already know something about them.. ask something about them that you like, ask questions, be agreeable, show it off your personality, be confortable in your own skin, have positive body language, smile, cultivate inner sense of confidence, show emotion in how you speak, be an interesting individual (stay curious and learn continuously; know what's going on around the world, have a list of things you have knowledge on), be open to learn new ideas, ask questions that they are passionate about, be able to relate to other people and show empathy, storytelling, engaging communication, be expressive with your stories, positive attitude and energy, be an enthusiastic person, spread positivity, match others people energy, influence the room, be able to find something in common with that person, know when to exit the conversation, follow up with them (dm them about how good it was that you met them, ask to go out together)
- Dress to impress, feminine energy, to mostly feel good about yourself and have confidence in how you look like
(Read books and articles about things you wanna learn)
- Self awareness
- Be aware of other people energy
You're a lifesaver and so helpful you don't have an idea HOW MUCHHH
I love your podcasts so so much!!! Your advice is very helpful!! And it gets more interesting as the conversation gets deeper!
Hey Fernanda you are so kind about being inspired, I love you 🥰🥰🥰🥰
I loved this video, this is my first video I have watched! This made me feel more confident to not only be in social settings but start my content creation and CZcams journey! Thanks girl ❤
Hello Fernanda, i am your biggest fan. I have been watching you from almost 2 years now. I love how you make everything so positive around and I inspire that.
I have an interview for a new job coming up and this really helped me ease my mind and brush up on my social skills. Love your podcasts so much🥹💕
I have such a yearning for building relationships and my toes are dipped in communities that could be so awesome if I just had the confidence to open up and socialize but im too scared. So this video inspired me to experiment with being more social this Thursday. Thank you! 🥰
You are a very intellectual person, your thoughts are in the right place and you succeeded to get to lots of people ❤️
Such a random thought while listening, but you kind of sound like Lizzie McGuire 😭💕
you've helped me immensely with mindset and goal-setting. I love how you recollect exactly the thoughts that run my mind, but articulated from a different POV
Exactlyyy
I really love you fernanda you help everytime so so much
really needed this podcast, thank you💙🌸✨
Perfect way to end my day! Love you Fernanda 💕 😍
Goodness, I am so happy I found your channel. 💛 You have such a beautiful and personable presence, and the topics that you go over are the exact type of topics that most people crave. Thank you so much. 💕
I love this podcast and I may watch it again later to take notes and get it fresh in my mind. I do really love your energy and I honestly agree with pretty much everything you said. Good work, I'm definitely subscribing to listen to more of your great topics you have to share. Thank you for the advice! ❤
I've been impatiently waiting for a new episode!! So happy its out:)
thank you so much for this! i rlly struggle in social situations as a highschool freshman and I'm trying to get to a place where I can be more social for my sophomore year :)
Perfect timing thank you 🥲🙌🏼❤️
another inspiring podcast, love your energy, Fernanda!! thank for sharing, appreciate it ❤
I can’t express how much I appreciate your wisdom Fern!!!!! ❤❤❤
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GIRL I LOVE EVERYTHING ABT THIS
My favourite person, I appreciate you sm fern!!
Hey fernanda!! Love this podcast, I love when you upload, love youuu
The way I just watched this whole video.. I enjoyed this so much and was truly helpful
your podcast has been helping me so much. I love u
i love ur podcast so much oh my god i wait all week for this ilyy
I'm marathoning all your videos every day. I've been learning so much with your conversations. Also, I think you have a relax vibe. Adorable!
Oh thank you!
This video helped me so much! I feel like i got an overall idea on what I can improve on
I have always listened to alot lot of influencer. You are only one providing actual valuable content and facts. Love ya
i love hearing you talk 🫶🏼
Thank u so much for this Fernanda!
I just discovered your channel and podcast via this video. It’s really nice hearing you speak very calmly and clearly about these topics, and your voice is very relaxing to listen to while still being engaging. Thank you for making this video! ❤
Thank you so much!🥹🥹🥹
tysmm i needed this omg💞💞
Fernanda, I must say, I recently found your TT then fell into a rabbit hole in your YT and you have easily become one of my favorite people on the internet. Thank you for sharing your thoughts here. I love learning from genuine and down to earth people. You are a rare gem 💎 keep on shining and inspiring it’s totally working. And to top it off you’re gorgeous 🤩❤
omg thank you!!!!
I know you said in the beginning bit that you aren't a medical professional and can't help with diagnosed social anxiety, however for me at least this is still very helpful! I got diagnosed at 16 and in in my experience it causes a lot of the issues you discussed, such as feeling to scared to talk to people due too traumatic experiences and overall being shy and awkward. Sometimes it can be really beneficial just hearing someone explain that if you mess up, people will just forget about it. Because so often for me, no matter how much I tell myself that, its hard to believe it until someone else says it.
this episode came at just the right time. I took notes even and time flew by so quickly I didn't even realized it. thank you, it was a pleasure to listen to it!!
🥹❤️ so glad to hear this!
I have been suffering from type 4 morbid obesity and this helped me to become confident at 5 foot 1 410 lbs. Thank you! I wish the best to my fellow fatties!
Fernanda I absolutely looove your podcast ❤
The fact that you made me watch the whole video from Star to end proves that your advice works
She commented it in another comment!
Thank you this was amazing Fernanda❤
As someone w adhd the fact you have recorded videos of your podcasts is super helpful bc trying to listen to podcasts alone without something to look at is so distracting and difficult for me to do :)
Fernanda, you are such a wonderful and engaging speaker! I love listening to you 🫶 Thank you for all the tips!!!!
thank you so so much!
thank u very very much thats was so helpful plz make more vids like this lyyyy💖💖💖💖
Thankyou girlll, I love listening to ur vids while doing my makeup for the day ❤ Ur so wise and I love the fact that you really take your time to put out these vids to help others! That’s such a great quality of you to be proud of! Ur also really gorg
thank u for this video! goals of "talking to five new people" "three people three personal questioon" oooooooof really putting it out the level of anxiety are we talking bout here for me personally bc when u said it i was just like - wow thats a freaking WILD suggestion. i must say that im glad im not avoiding these situations as much as i could, since i always kind of forget how bad it gets and then my squirrel brain just goes out again and again, but whow............. its a lot, a lot of times.
these types of videos are the ones helping me be my desired self 💘 thank u!!
I'm so glad!
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Girl I just love you , I needed this kind of podcast!!! Thank you so much for this
🫶🏻💓love u sm!
Wow how magnificent the stories you bring about! I'm totally gasp and already loving your podcast by just watching this! I hope I can grow my skills just like you, thanks!!❤
thank you!
i love u sm thank you sis, this is so on point 🤍 God bless you.
So glad!
This is so useful ngl!! You are not only mentioning about learning about others and make others feel good, but you also talks about how us ourselves to do to show our values and to make ourselves comfortable. Thank you!!
I'm so glad!🥰
“Being a social butterfly “🦋 awwww
I think I'm going to have to listen to this multiple times cause I think what you're saying is good. I just hope i overcome these insecurities I have that prevents me from being as confident as I think I could be. Thank you
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I just love you😘. Thanks to your speech❤
She is my idol! Thank u so much❤
Thank you for helping me so much 💞
You are literally the best
"Socializing is a muscle"
you are so incredible i swear
I naturally have confidence and charisma but sometimes when things change in my life or someone gives me bad energy I felt insecure and wasn’t as confident . I’m want to always be the bright light I am I’m super fun and a lot of ppl love me for it but I have a very introverted and shy side I don’t want to dim my light for anyone
I love listening to your opinions sooo much ❤ Thank you for sharing ❤
i appreciate that!🥹🫶🏻
During the week I always count down the days until your podcast gets released, your so inspiring and motivating keep up the good work girl! 🤍
This is healing!!!! ✝️💓
"We all die anyway" is my go-to quote for combating my diagnosed SAD