@@TiffanyDawn Hello everyone my name is Nadeem Christ and I belong to Pakistan. my age 23year I'm single I need Christ woman No age limit My online number whatsapp or hangout +923049523765 email nnadeemmasih611@gmail.com Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled: but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers.
Rachel Holmes 1) Examine, if you like him or the ideals your project on him. In case its him: 2) Open and honest communication, tell him about it and he will say one of those: a) Sry, i am not interested in that b) Ok, i dont see us that way, but we can try c) I recently thought the same Hope i could help you. Good Luck.
I naturally did all the things she mentioned growing up, but found it to be quite negative! Since I was able to get along with guys and talk about all kinds of things with them, girls were very intimidated by me, and started to shut me out. Consequently I started to hang out with the guys even more! The guys got very confused because no girl had ever been able to click with them that well, so they all developed feelings for me. Soon I was seen as the class flirt, and the boys who couldnt handle the rejection (of being just friends) dragged my name even further through the dirt, spreading roumors and lies! Be careful when you make guy friends in small groups, make sure you have a balanced relationships with guys and girls! Xxx
@Amarissa Henning DUDE this is me 100% as well, both in middle school and now again in college. I had serial long term dating relationships throughout high school that I think made it easier to be friends with my guy friends but that's a whole nother story as well. Definitely finding a balance between guy and girl friends is important, as well as creating healthy boundaries for opposite sex friendships and being clear and wise. 👍 Thanks for commenting btw, it's encouraging to know I'm not alone in this situation. ❤️
Old guy here, 58 years old, with timeless advice: Get interested in the things that interest him. If he like fishing, go fishing with him, learn about it, enjoy it. Works every time. Works the other way too -- I got into things that my three-decade wife liked, and it means we enjoy lots of the same things. Elementary.
Yeah and I’m at the point where my guy “acquaintances” are getting a LOT taller than me so I just kinda ignore them but I just want a genuine friendship with someone I click with.
@@graciejoy4777 ur guy friends are like the brothers u never wanted 😂jk but they are just that u like them just not in an attractive romantic way the RIGHT guy will like you for you be friends with someone u can TRUST to and just be you nothing romantic or anything I love her tips though and it's true friendships do change 🙂
Awesome vid Tiffany!! ❤ To recap, the tips were: 1. Learn how to talk about all different topics. 2. Be Yourself! 3. Invest in MEANINGFUL friendships. 4. Be "Just Friends" in your mind too. 5. Have open and honest communication! 6. Realise the friendship will change over time ~ ❤
Serious relationships start with regular friendships. Serving in ministries are great for getting to know somebody. You get a feel for their heart for Christian service, and it is an excuse to talk to each other to get to know each other.
Hi Tiffany , your tips are so good. I need them. I really like you say: "If you want to just be friend with somebody, you need to be friend IN YOUR MIND." Oh man, I turn to temptation with guy friends a lot. It is so hard to keep a healthy relationship with guys. But God can help and your tips are helpful too. I am excited for your next video!!
I loved the advice "If you want to be just friends, be just friends in your mind!" So good. I think it's so easy to be on the other end, too. When someone says they're just friends, I need to respect that and not say "But you 2 would be so good together!" Because that makes it harder to stay pure in their mind.
Tip#4 "Be just friends in your mind, too" is such a good tip for me. For me, it's hard to think like making a "friend" when I like a guy. I really doubt whether a girl can be normal friends with a guy since I was a teenager. And I think the main reason might be that living in Asia, interacting with "guy" classmates or friends can be made fun of as "you guys are having crush on each other." And that complicate things when there was truly just friendship between me and the other guy classmate. Shyness might be another issue. As a grown-up and looking for possible mate person now, I do think it's better to be friends first than being more than friends, however, I think my mind always tend to think the other way. Just wondering is there some good ways to do to keep the mind from working in the wrong direction?
I always wanted a true guy friend it's just that I'm scared they'll end up changing or I'm just scared maybe they think I'm lame or something,,but I'm mostly scared of why they think about me 😔
@ Y C A N - You raise a great,great point.So many man-woman relationships could go smoother if men and women could be friends. From the man side, you are really going to be taken advantage of.
I’m 17 and have never had a “guy friend” I can talk to one-on-one without a twinge of awkwardness on my end. If I do end up making acquaintances out of guys, it’s short lived and I feel like a failure bc i couldn’t keep it up or I had only started speaking to them through some of my girl friends. All my life it was just rooted into me that guys are intimidating!! I have extreme anxiety and OCD where I will obsessively obsess over small things and make them so profound. I will unwillingly make up invasive scenarios about what I “think” is going on or what could. Annoying as hell bc I’ll turn something most likely fine into something so extravagant. I get extremely confused w guys and where I place them in my mind as just friends or more so if anyone has any advice pls send it my way lol
Dude! Yes...I know exactly what you're talking about. I have OCD as well (idk if you've heard leave me alone by nf cause that's exactly how he described it lol) and it sucks. I also grew up and found guys pretty intimidating even if I wasn't romantically attracted to them. It also didn't help that I was never really close to any of my older brothers or dad because they were quite toxic :( I didn't really start making guy friends until right now, in my early 20s. I would say just hang out with them in groups. Perhaps your best girl friend and another guy. It's okay if it's awkward at first. That's how I felt, but it gets better! Prayers going out to you 💜💜
In college I was so good at being sister and friend with guys idk what it was about me. I was just really sweet. I had all races of male friends and I would attract females to them as well. I was the best wing woman ever. I miss the way I used to be I was just so innocent and friendly and laid back. Now that I’m older and trying to find a boyfriend it’s kinda harder. I’ll try to find the old me
I really like your hair 😊 I have a really hard time with believing that guys will want to spend a long period of time with me. I just feel like I'm not very interesting sometimes and then I get self-conscious and just psych myself out.
Awww! I hear you -- I psych myself out about a lot of things! At least in my own life, what I found was that there were lots of guys who I didn't have that connection with (or who I bored haha), but there were also guys that I did have that connection with. I think that's true for both guys and girls -- there are some friends you really connect with and could spend hours with, just doing nothing, and others you just don't click with in that way. And that doesn't mean you're boring or there's something wrong with you; it's just how relationships work. Which in some ways can be a good thing, because if we deeply connected with every single person, we wouldn't have enough time for all the friends we'd have! Haha. So be encouraged that there will always be people we don't click with, but then there will be some we do click with as well. And the more we can relax into being ourselves around them, the more easily we can see if we click. I hope that helps in some way! ❤️
I feel completely the same way. Everytime I get to know someone and we have a good connection at first - no matter if boy or girl - I am afraid that it won't last because one day they're going to find out that I'm not that fun to hang out with etc. Oh my. ^^' But thank you for your response, Tiffany, it really helped. :)
Childof God there is no substitute for true male bonding. females dont like it when men have strong friendships with other men. lit this is the first thing a female does when she starts to date a male. she will do everything she can to drive a wedge in their males friendships. If they are able to do this it isloates the male and opens him up to be overly influenced by the female. she sees it as competition for her attention and females want to be the only ones in the spotlight. while you may consider yourself "one or the guys" just know that you are the odd man out so to speak. they will treat you good and be considerate of you but as a female you can only go so far into the male world.
@@johnreed4388 I'm sorry if you've had this response from females (trying to put a wedge between you and your guy friends). But not all females are like that.
That helps a lot. Because I’m trying to make friends with a boy at school. But I just can’t. I look at him all the time. But he doesn’t even notice me. I can’t even ask him a question because I’m to shy. So this video help a lot.
I personally like the idea of a relationship starting with a friendship, but this was super helpful because sometimes it's hard to not think of them in a relationship way 😂 This is really good advice for keeping your eyes on Christ and not on whoever is going to be your future husband. Thank you Tiffany! 💖
Tiffany! I've loved that sentens "Where your brain's going, your heart will follow..." It was really wise and thank you for it! I would like to add a point in your list: Boys are our brothers in Christ. I really respect their future tasks, like be a husband or a dad. I try to see them in this way, "OK. I don't want to break your heart, because it is stored for another girl, not me." Sometimes it's really hard, beacause I have to always pay attention what I say or do. Our hearts are sinful, nobody needs another heartbreak.
What a great thing to add! I love that you are so aware of their hearts. That's amazing! For a long time I didn't think guys had deep feelings, but eventually I realized they actually do feel very deeply, they just express it differently than I do. It's sooo important to be careful with their hearts and not lead them on if we have no intentions of dating them, like you said, because it can be incredibly hurtful to them. And I wouldn't want a girl doing that to MY brother! :) Thank you for adding this great point!
Many people have told me in the past that I’m “annoying” when I’m truly acting myself and being happy. They think I’m overly goofy and weird. Now whenever i interact with someone I can’t stop feeling self conscious of what I do/say. Even if I try to “pretend” that I’m being myself, I end up acting unnatural.
When listening to your video I realized a lot of what you said is the same for men being friends with woman. I was raised with 6 sisters so I was much more comfortable with friendship with girls then guys. Interesting video. God bless.
I'm More like the Girl Who turns every Guy into *Mr.Enemy* ....heh he he 😅 I change My Auroa When Guys start talking to me....but I really want to Be friends with guys.......believe me *ITS HARD FOR ME*
I think it is true that it just a natural human thing to have a crush on friends all the time. And because somebody said it, it makes it so much clear and helpful cuz now I know that it is okay to do that, and therefore know that friendship will or has to go under some changes after marriage. I think this way of thinking, accepting human behavior as it is, is so much better than denying it (for example, saying "it is awful to have crush on many people. Faithful people dont do that", which makes All human beings unfaithful) . Denying it just gets you nowhere, where as accepting human nature and weakness, of easily growing affection or anything, helps you to be real and free from guilt, and ultimately makes your life just so free and genuine and effective. Thanks for the video.. I love your messages. Thank God I found you.. I literally thanked Him.
That’s what I was talking about until I was pretty sad about my van breaking down…omg how quickly the snowball of love n romance grew until it smashed into his wall of fears and not respecting my boundary. Then came the merry go round n rollercoaster ride ugh the highs r amazing but the lows almost destroy eachother…we need to just be friends that don’t want to see eachother dating other people or having more “friendships” like the one we have. Therapy is coming soon.
Thanks Tiffany ♡ I needed this. So many times in the video I just thought 'wow, Tiffany is me!' Like with the whole Mr Maybe thing haha. My favourite tips are the be just friends in your mind and be yourself; I especially needed those ☺☆♡
Kristine Plange that is too funny!! Well I'm glad I'm not the only one who experienced those things 😂#soulsisters - & im so glad it could encourage you!!
2:05 I find it so annoying to socialize with people who tries to fill my needs by avoiding their genuine expressions. Their personality get a twist on it, so I have to think in the opposite directional twist ALL THE TIME, and to relate to the person gets harder than if the person's just weird (cuz face it; individuality is weird).
Nilisa Arkward awww you're so sweet!❤️ actually what you're noticing is just that grief comes in waves - you have really good days and really hard days - and you can love and trust God equally in both types of days. So Friday's video I filmed on a hard day because I want to show on my channel that it's ok to feel grief and sadness, and experience that with God. It can actually draw us closer to Him. I think as Christians we often associate sadness and grief with weakness, but I think it actually takes great strength to feel those things with God, and there's no other way to fully heal from pain and loss without letting yourself feel them. But today's video I filmed on a day when I felt good, which is when I film most of my videos just because the CZcams platform is more based on happy videos 😂 but yeah my counselor describes grief as like wading in the ocean - all is still and then a wave crashes over you, then all is still again, and then another wave. So this videos was filmed on a still day haha. I hope that makes sense! 😍
Tiffany Dawn that completely makes sense! You’re so transparent- thank you for that! I think it’s great you’re overcoming and being open to God still through it all ❤️ love you!
Friendships are natural. Do what comes to your mind and naturally it should be fine. If your mind gets a don't-do, think of a so-what-to-do before you act.
Tip from a guy here, we are super curious so telling us how you feel goes a long way also just treat us like how you treat your female friends(I know harder said than done)
I been indoor so long and hardly socialis and only have few friends ,kinda losing myself ,i dont even know myself😂😂 busy with work sort of stuff ,im already forgetting how to talk to people or socialising😂😂
Love your hair in this video!! 💗 such a fun take on this topic!! I was never the sort of person who had lots of guy friends, I always just had a lot of friends who were girls! 😂 this was super interesting to watch, and I totally agree it's always good to make sure we are able to have a lot of conversation starters for all sorts of people! - Est x
You can be friends with men if 1) They don’t find you attractive 2) The guy is gay 3) The guy is happily married (and you are too, or in a relationship) 4) The guy literally wants a platonic relationship and told you that. If the guy still likes you sexually it’s not really a friendship.
I disagree with the first point you made: Just because a guy finds a girl attractive doesn’t necessarily mean he’s going to pursue her romantically. As long as neither develop feelings for each other it’s still possible for them to just be friends
This has been really helpful, thanks Tiffany! I know you have another video coming up but I was wondering if maybe I could get advice on how to deal with having a crush on the brother of a really close friend? Thanks and keep up the great work!!
Cat Duffield oh that's a great question! I think a lot of tomorrow's video will speak to your question - especially the part about weighing the risks vs the benefits. I hope it can help in some way - I think this is something a lot of girls wonder! I'll let you know if I think of anything else to add for this situation - right now I'm drawing a blank😂
Girl, I really enjoy your Videos! I could talk with you for houurrsss 💁🏽 I always had this struggle around guys with knowing how to be nice and smile and laugh around them without them thinking I like them. I realized that sometimes people will want to be liked so much that they take the littlest gesture as flirting. I'm guilty of this! It's sad 😄
I agree with it all except the last . I guess it’s different for all, but I am married and still call up my guy friends and meet for lunch just as I do with my woman friends. I put them all in the same category. If you have to worry about catching feelings just by having a guy friend, your marriage is not that strong. My husband loves that I have guy friends and we can all hangout together , but if One of my guy friends is in town and wants to grab food and my husband is at work I’m not going to make it a point to say no, my husband would tell me to go grab lunch! My guy friends are like brothers to me.
Stefani Joanne all it takes is one argument wuth your husband to flip things. I have seen it happen to a friend of mine where a guy who was friends with his wife was always hanging around in the background. I have known him most of my life and I told him to watch out for this guy and to tell him to hit the bricks.i was able to tell him this because of our long history and strong friendship. I told him if you let this clown hang around he will be the first person she runs to if they have a fight . Unfortunately I was unable to convince him and sure enough they has a fight and the he was there giving her a ride to wherever. it pays to remember that females are only as loyal as their options. if they think they can do better elsewhere you will be kicked to the curb
John Reed sounds like a weak marriage though. There could be no fight or argument that could ever even make me think of running to my best guy friend. If your marriage is that weak then you should have never been married to begin with. It was bound to happen eventually for them
Stefani Joanne I was able to se things from the outside that he couldn't. I have come to understand the true nature of females. in his situation he be was a victim of briffaults law. if youre not familiar with it Google it. It worked out for him in the end though as he was awarded alimony which is extremely rare in my state. so she now has tovpay him for being a ho. females are only as loyal as their options force them to be
John Reed so sad you think that way. Maybe the females you know but I’m sure as hell not like that. Some are, some aren’t. Some men are that way too. You’re not that smart that you just understand the mind of every woman in the world just because you made one correct observation about one woman. Get over yourself. I am extremely self aware as is my husband.
I wouldn't say a marriage is weak if they only hang out as couple friends and not one on one. I say it's staying strong and smart and not always that temptation to creep in. The devil hates godly marriages and can use anything to break them about. Sometimes that person or their friend could develop feelings for them which can lead to an affair or soul ties. But it is good to guard your heart and set boundaries when you are married. But it depends on that couple and what God puts in your heart.
What to do when you are very good friends with a guy who is very interested in you, but you have no interest in dating them. Like I really can't go there with him. I've told him and its broken his heart and yet still he reads into everything I do or say to him as a potential indicator of my interest. I've tried to go there, but I can't. I'm not going to just settle for someone who I know is not gonna make me happy.
Anna Breithaupt you will keep him around as a back up for when the guy you like dumps you or you need something from him.its called the friendzone but it only exists to serve the needs of the female. The only thing that a guy would get out of this arrangement is the false hope of something in the future. and we all know females are good at bait and switch schemes
Emma Jones no its not you at all - I just totally forgot to include it!! Thank you so much for pointing that out! Now I can't even remember what book I was talking about in the video😂😂
In my case i had so many hobbies i always find stuff in commun if they talk about videogames or work or movies or music or politics or religion. We just talk about stuff. I think im an intresting person and i have a lot to talk about. One barrier for me is when i like a men that doent know anything. 🤷♀️have u seen the news 🙊no 🤷♀️history🙊no 🤷♀️politics🙊no 🤷♀️music 🙉kanyewest 🤷♀️sports🤖 soccer futbal basball hockey basketball Sorry some men obly know sports and nothing else. They cant even keep a conversation is like a zombie
When I was younger it was easier for me to talk to guys. Now I usually get shy in front of them. I don't know why, but I'd really like to be in a real friendship w a guy for once. My problem is that I don't know what to talk about whit them, because I fell like they won't have interest on what I'll say or even get bored, you know just cause I'm a girl 😪
Hey Tiffany! I wanted to reach out and ask about guys at school or youth group and how I can start conversations with them. They all seem to be in their clics and it’s sometimes hard to reach out and talk to people that I don’t know (I'm pretty shy at first when it comes to meeting new people especially guys.) I've never been one to have many guy friends if I do it’s usually just one or two.. How can I change that?
Being friends with guys is EASY!!! Just be easygoing and LOSE all the DRAMA!!! It is so much easier than female friendships,, plus unless they are weenies they will almost always treat you, because they don't want to be that guy having a girl pay. 💯
But I never think of my guy friends as anything romantic. LoL 💯 😆 In fact I have so many guy friends, , I never know if a guy really likes me romantically....LOL. You have to be REALLY direct if you like me beyond friendship, because once I put you in the friendzome....You are freinded.. Every chick knows this. It's what men dread....the friend zone. Platonic. Easy.
I’m such a girl that turns every guy into a Mr.Maybe!!!🤦🏼♀️
I'm glad I'm not the only one!! Hahaha
I hate it! I feel like I'm desperate for doing that 😂😭
I need woman
My name is Nadeem Christ and I belong to Pakistan
My age 23year
My online number contact
Whatsapp and imo number +923049523765
Sounds to me like Tiffany's 15-year-friend was with a guy who was Mr.Maybe too sometimes. Seems fine.
@@TiffanyDawn Hello everyone
my name is Nadeem Christ and I belong to Pakistan.
my age 23year
I'm single
I need Christ woman
No age limit
My online number
whatsapp or hangout
+923049523765
email
nnadeemmasih611@gmail.com
Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled: but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers.
Haha. The most important thing is women need to be their authentic real self. The right guys will be attracted to you for the right reasons.
I'll never have a guy friend then ouch
I used to get crushes on every guy I got close to.
Me too! It's easy to do, especially if you're like me and didn't have a lot of guy friends.
Same
@@TiffanyDawn but, how deal with it?
Rachel Holmes
1) Examine, if you like him or the ideals your project on him. In case its him:
2) Open and honest communication, tell him about it and he will say one of those:
a) Sry, i am not interested in that
b) Ok, i dont see us that way, but we can try
c) I recently thought the same
Hope i could help you. Good Luck.
@@rationalthinking8401 ok, i will try.. thanks ;)
THANKS I'm 16 and havent talked to a guy my age since 5th grade and this is really helpful
Alyza Kashif OMG same 😭
I m 17 , but same dear
Same 🙁
I naturally did all the things she mentioned growing up, but found it to be quite negative! Since I was able to get along with guys and talk about all kinds of things with them, girls were very intimidated by me, and started to shut me out. Consequently I started to hang out with the guys even more! The guys got very confused because no girl had ever been able to click with them that well, so they all developed feelings for me. Soon I was seen as the class flirt, and the boys who couldnt handle the rejection (of being just friends) dragged my name even further through the dirt, spreading roumors and lies! Be careful when you make guy friends in small groups, make sure you have a balanced relationships with guys and girls! Xxx
The guys were never confused, you were
@Amarissa Henning DUDE this is me 100% as well, both in middle school and now again in college. I had serial long term dating relationships throughout high school that I think made it easier to be friends with my guy friends but that's a whole nother story as well.
Definitely finding a balance between guy and girl friends is important, as well as creating healthy boundaries for opposite sex friendships and being clear and wise. 👍 Thanks for commenting btw, it's encouraging to know I'm not alone in this situation. ❤️
What are the things you did? I’m the opposite of your case, i need some advice 😭
Faced a similar story.
The best you can do is approach us if you want to kinda be friends with us. We really love the confidence of the girl who has the guts to approach us!
Old guy here, 58 years old, with timeless advice: Get interested in the things that interest him. If he like fishing, go fishing with him, learn about it, enjoy it. Works every time. Works the other way too -- I got into things that my three-decade wife liked, and it means we enjoy lots of the same things. Elementary.
Thank you!
Thank you 😊
I’m very very intimidated by guys and I’ve never had a guy friend in my whole entire life.... I don’t know what to do to not have this thing lmao
Yeah and I’m at the point where my guy “acquaintances” are getting a LOT taller than me so I just kinda ignore them but I just want a genuine friendship with someone I click with.
@@graciejoy4777 ur guy friends are like the brothers u never wanted 😂jk but they are just that u like them just not in an attractive romantic way the RIGHT guy will like you for you be friends with someone u can TRUST to and just be you nothing romantic or anything I love her tips though and it's true friendships do change 🙂
Awesome vid Tiffany!! ❤
To recap, the tips were:
1. Learn how to talk about all different topics.
2. Be Yourself!
3. Invest in MEANINGFUL friendships.
4. Be "Just Friends" in your mind too.
5. Have open and honest communication!
6. Realise the friendship will change over time ~
❤
Lucy Fotu yes! Love this recap - thank you!
Serious relationships start with regular friendships. Serving in ministries are great for getting to know somebody. You get a feel for their heart for Christian service, and it is an excuse to talk to each other to get to know each other.
Hi Tiffany , your tips are so good. I need them. I really like you say: "If you want to just be friend with somebody, you need to be friend IN YOUR MIND." Oh man, I turn to temptation with guy friends a lot. It is so hard to keep a healthy relationship with guys. But God can help and your tips are helpful too. I am excited for your next video!!
I'm so glad these tips were able to help you! ❤️❤️
I loved the advice "If you want to be just friends, be just friends in your mind!" So good. I think it's so easy to be on the other end, too. When someone says they're just friends, I need to respect that and not say "But you 2 would be so good together!" Because that makes it harder to stay pure in their mind.
Tip#4 "Be just friends in your mind, too" is such a good tip for me. For me, it's hard to think like making a "friend" when I like a guy. I really doubt whether a girl can be normal friends with a guy since I was a teenager. And I think the main reason might be that living in Asia, interacting with "guy" classmates or friends can be made fun of as "you guys are having crush on each other." And that complicate things when there was truly just friendship between me and the other guy classmate. Shyness might be another issue. As a grown-up and looking for possible mate person now, I do think it's better to be friends first than being more than friends, however, I think my mind always tend to think the other way. Just wondering is there some good ways to do to keep the mind from working in the wrong direction?
I always wanted a true guy friend it's just that I'm scared they'll end up changing or I'm just scared maybe they think I'm lame or something,,but I'm mostly scared of why they think about me 😔
@ Y C A N - You raise a great,great point.So many man-woman relationships could go smoother if men and women could be friends. From the man side, you are really going to be taken advantage of.
I’m 17 and have never had a “guy friend” I can talk to one-on-one without a twinge of awkwardness on my end. If I do end up making acquaintances out of guys, it’s short lived and I feel like a failure bc i couldn’t keep it up or I had only started speaking to them through some of my girl friends. All my life it was just rooted into me that guys are intimidating!! I have extreme anxiety and OCD where I will obsessively obsess over small things and make them so profound. I will unwillingly make up invasive scenarios about what I “think” is going on or what could. Annoying as hell bc I’ll turn something most likely fine into something so extravagant. I get extremely confused w guys and where I place them in my mind as just friends or more so if anyone has any advice pls send it my way lol
Dude! Yes...I know exactly what you're talking about. I have OCD as well (idk if you've heard leave me alone by nf cause that's exactly how he described it lol) and it sucks. I also grew up and found guys pretty intimidating even if I wasn't romantically attracted to them.
It also didn't help that I was never really close to any of my older brothers or dad because they were quite toxic :(
I didn't really start making guy friends until right now, in my early 20s. I would say just hang out with them in groups. Perhaps your best girl friend and another guy. It's okay if it's awkward at first. That's how I felt, but it gets better! Prayers going out to you 💜💜
In college I was so good at being sister and friend with guys idk what it was about me. I was just really sweet. I had all races of male friends and I would attract females to them as well. I was the best wing woman ever. I miss the way I used to be I was just so innocent and friendly and laid back. Now that I’m older and trying to find a boyfriend it’s kinda harder. I’ll try to find the old me
Ooh, girl. This is so good and CONVICTING! Dang! Speaking straight to me!
Hahaha I'm so glad you enjoyed the video! This was a HUGE struggle for me when I was single 😂🙈
Great tips. Plus I totally agree with the change after marriage
kimbers 123 only one I disagreed with
I really like your hair 😊 I have a really hard time with believing that guys will want to spend a long period of time with me. I just feel like I'm not very interesting sometimes and then I get self-conscious and just psych myself out.
Awww! I hear you -- I psych myself out about a lot of things! At least in my own life, what I found was that there were lots of guys who I didn't have that connection with (or who I bored haha), but there were also guys that I did have that connection with. I think that's true for both guys and girls -- there are some friends you really connect with and could spend hours with, just doing nothing, and others you just don't click with in that way. And that doesn't mean you're boring or there's something wrong with you; it's just how relationships work. Which in some ways can be a good thing, because if we deeply connected with every single person, we wouldn't have enough time for all the friends we'd have! Haha. So be encouraged that there will always be people we don't click with, but then there will be some we do click with as well. And the more we can relax into being ourselves around them, the more easily we can see if we click. I hope that helps in some way! ❤️
I feel completely the same way. Everytime I get to know someone and we have a good connection at first - no matter if boy or girl - I am afraid that it won't last because one day they're going to find out that I'm not that fun to hang out with etc. Oh my. ^^' But thank you for your response, Tiffany, it really helped. :)
I feel the same way :( And feel when I want to make guy friends and that the guys are more fun for them and then I become a third wheel :(
Childof God
there is no substitute for true male bonding. females dont like it when men have strong friendships with other men. lit this is the first thing a female does when she starts to date a male. she will do everything she can to drive a wedge in their males friendships. If they are able to do this it isloates the male and opens him up to be overly influenced by the female. she sees it as competition for her attention and females want to be the only ones in the spotlight. while you may consider yourself "one or the guys" just know that you are the odd man out so to speak. they will treat you good and be considerate of you but as a female you can only go so far into the male world.
@@johnreed4388 I'm sorry if you've had this response from females (trying to put a wedge between you and your guy friends). But not all females are like that.
That helps a lot. Because I’m trying to make friends with a boy at school. But I just can’t. I look at him all the time. But he doesn’t even notice me. I can’t even ask him a question because I’m to shy. So this video help a lot.
I personally like the idea of a relationship starting with a friendship, but this was super helpful because sometimes it's hard to not think of them in a relationship way 😂 This is really good advice for keeping your eyes on Christ and not on whoever is going to be your future husband. Thank you Tiffany! 💖
Tiffany! I've loved that sentens "Where your brain's going, your heart will follow..." It was really wise and thank you for it!
I would like to add a point in your list: Boys are our brothers in Christ. I really respect their future tasks, like be a husband or a dad. I try to see them in this way, "OK. I don't want to break your heart, because it is stored for another girl, not me." Sometimes it's really hard, beacause I have to always pay attention what I say or do. Our hearts are sinful, nobody needs another heartbreak.
What a great thing to add! I love that you are so aware of their hearts. That's amazing! For a long time I didn't think guys had deep feelings, but eventually I realized they actually do feel very deeply, they just express it differently than I do. It's sooo important to be careful with their hearts and not lead them on if we have no intentions of dating them, like you said, because it can be incredibly hurtful to them. And I wouldn't want a girl doing that to MY brother! :) Thank you for adding this great point!
Many people have told me in the past that I’m “annoying” when I’m truly acting myself and being happy. They think I’m overly goofy and weird. Now whenever i interact with someone I can’t stop feeling self conscious of what I do/say. Even if I try to “pretend” that I’m being myself, I end up acting unnatural.
It's better to be unliked by others as yourself than somebody else!
When listening to your video I realized a lot of what you said is the same for men being friends with woman. I was raised with 6 sisters so I was much more comfortable with friendship with girls then guys. Interesting video. God bless.
Chuck McGee that makes a lot of sense! Wow - six sisters!!👀 it's really cool to hear your perspective on this
I'm More like the Girl Who turns every Guy into *Mr.Enemy* ....heh he he 😅 I change My Auroa When Guys start talking to me....but I really want to Be friends with guys.......believe me *ITS HARD FOR ME*
Open communication is so useful.
I think it is true that it just a natural human thing to have a crush on friends all the time. And because somebody said it, it makes it so much clear and helpful cuz now I know that it is okay to do that, and therefore know that friendship will or has to go under some changes after marriage.
I think this way of thinking, accepting human behavior as it is, is so much better than denying it (for example, saying "it is awful to have crush on many people. Faithful people dont do that", which makes All human beings unfaithful) . Denying it just gets you nowhere, where as accepting human nature and weakness, of easily growing affection or anything, helps you to be real and free from guilt, and ultimately makes your life just so free and genuine and effective.
Thanks for the video.. I love your messages. Thank God I found you.. I literally thanked Him.
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That’s what I was talking about until I was pretty sad about my van breaking down…omg how quickly the snowball of love n romance grew until it smashed into his wall of fears and not respecting my boundary. Then came the merry go round n rollercoaster ride ugh the highs r amazing but the lows almost destroy eachother…we need to just be friends that don’t want to see eachother dating other people or having more “friendships” like the one we have. Therapy is coming soon.
So I saw this and I was like I NEED THIS! I have guy friends. Oh Lord help us
Imani Dennis 😂😂👌 you seem like such a fun person
Tiffany Dawn I AM! I look forward to your video about how to deal when you have feelings for your guy friend! Lord help us...
Thanks Tiffany ♡ I needed this. So many times in the video I just thought 'wow, Tiffany is me!' Like with the whole Mr Maybe thing haha. My favourite tips are the be just friends in your mind and be yourself; I especially needed those ☺☆♡
Kristine Plange that is too funny!! Well I'm glad I'm not the only one who experienced those things 😂#soulsisters - & im so glad it could encourage you!!
2:05 I find it so annoying to socialize with people who tries to fill my needs by avoiding their genuine expressions. Their personality get a twist on it, so I have to think in the opposite directional twist ALL THE TIME, and to relate to the person gets harder than if the person's just weird (cuz face it; individuality is weird).
This is random, but your name is so pretty. :)
Awww, thank you!! So is yours! :)
Tiff you seem so much stronger on the video. Maybe it’s just you trusting in God- it looks good! ☀️❤️
Nilisa Arkward awww you're so sweet!❤️ actually what you're noticing is just that grief comes in waves - you have really good days and really hard days - and you can love and trust God equally in both types of days. So Friday's video I filmed on a hard day because I want to show on my channel that it's ok to feel grief and sadness, and experience that with God. It can actually draw us closer to Him. I think as Christians we often associate sadness and grief with weakness, but I think it actually takes great strength to feel those things with God, and there's no other way to fully heal from pain and loss without letting yourself feel them. But today's video I filmed on a day when I felt good, which is when I film most of my videos just because the CZcams platform is more based on happy videos 😂 but yeah my counselor describes grief as like wading in the ocean - all is still and then a wave crashes over you, then all is still again, and then another wave. So this videos was filmed on a still day haha. I hope that makes sense! 😍
Tiffany Dawn that completely makes sense! You’re so transparent- thank you for that! I think it’s great you’re overcoming and being open to God still through it all ❤️ love you!
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That third point is so good
So helpful, thank you 😊
Friendships are natural. Do what comes to your mind and naturally it should be fine.
If your mind gets a don't-do, think of a so-what-to-do before you act.
I love how honest and real your videos are! 👍👏
Tip from a guy here, we are super curious so telling us how you feel goes a long way also just treat us like how you treat your female friends(I know harder said than done)
Thank you so much for sharing! A lot of good practical wisdom :)
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OMG I relate so much to you! I thank God for your videos! God bless sis
I been indoor so long and hardly socialis and only have few friends ,kinda losing myself ,i dont even know myself😂😂 busy with work sort of stuff ,im already forgetting how to talk to people or socialising😂😂
I am so in the same boat, seriously!
I literally have no guy friends. Someone help me
@@EyesOnlyTeam86 how old r u
Love your hair in this video!! 💗 such a fun take on this topic!! I was never the sort of person who had lots of guy friends, I always just had a lot of friends who were girls! 😂 this was super interesting to watch, and I totally agree it's always good to make sure we are able to have a lot of conversation starters for all sorts of people! - Est x
The first few lines hit me right out, treating guys as "maybe" hahaha
This is soo helpful you are just like me I could relate so much in this video 😃 you are really pretty btw🌸🌸
Thank you so much! I’m still in middle school and I needed this!! Also, oh my goodness, you’re so cute!!
Sooo helpful ; thanks tiff ❤
This is so helpful! Thank you Tiffany!
You can be friends with men if 1) They don’t find you attractive 2) The guy is gay 3) The guy is happily married (and you are too, or in a relationship) 4) The guy literally wants a platonic relationship and told you that. If the guy still likes you sexually it’s not really a friendship.
I disagree with the first point you made: Just because a guy finds a girl attractive doesn’t necessarily mean he’s going to pursue her romantically. As long as neither develop feelings for each other it’s still possible for them to just be friends
Oh the way I resonate with this video😄❤. Thank you so much, I've learnt so much👏💟
I'm so glad!! 🤗🤗
This has been really helpful, thanks Tiffany! I know you have another video coming up but I was wondering if maybe I could get advice on how to deal with having a crush on the brother of a really close friend? Thanks and keep up the great work!!
Cat Duffield oh that's a great question! I think a lot of tomorrow's video will speak to your question - especially the part about weighing the risks vs the benefits. I hope it can help in some way - I think this is something a lot of girls wonder! I'll let you know if I think of anything else to add for this situation - right now I'm drawing a blank😂
Girl, I really enjoy your Videos! I could talk with you for houurrsss 💁🏽 I always had this struggle around guys with knowing how to be nice and smile and laugh around them without them thinking I like them. I realized that sometimes people will want to be liked so much that they take the littlest gesture as flirting. I'm guilty of this! It's sad 😄
Very good advice.
I agree with it all except the last . I guess it’s different for all, but I am married and still call up my guy friends and meet for lunch just as I do with my woman friends. I put them all in the same category. If you have to worry about catching feelings just by having a guy friend, your marriage is not that strong. My husband loves that I have guy friends and we can all hangout together , but if One of my guy friends is in town and wants to grab food and my husband is at work I’m not going to make it a point to say no, my husband would tell me to go grab lunch! My guy friends are like brothers to me.
Stefani Joanne
all it takes is one argument wuth your husband to flip things. I have seen it happen to a friend of mine where a guy who was friends with his wife was always hanging around in the background. I have known him most of my life and I told him to watch out for this guy and to tell him to hit the bricks.i was able to tell him this because of our long history and strong friendship. I told him if you let this clown hang around he will be the first person she runs to if they have a fight . Unfortunately I was unable to convince him and sure enough they has a fight and the he was there giving her a ride to wherever. it pays to remember that females are only as loyal as their options. if they think they can do better elsewhere you will be kicked to the curb
John Reed sounds like a weak marriage though. There could be no fight or argument that could ever even make me think of running to my best guy friend. If your marriage is that weak then you should have never been married to begin with. It was bound to happen eventually for them
Stefani Joanne
I was able to se things from the outside that he couldn't. I have come to understand the true nature of females. in his situation he be was a victim of briffaults law. if youre not familiar with it Google it. It worked out for him in the end though as he was awarded alimony which is extremely rare in my state. so she now has tovpay him for being a ho. females are only as loyal as their options force them to be
John Reed so sad you think that way. Maybe the females you know but I’m sure as hell not like that. Some are, some aren’t. Some men are that way too. You’re not that smart that you just understand the mind of every woman in the world just because you made one correct observation about one woman. Get over yourself. I am extremely self aware as is my husband.
I wouldn't say a marriage is weak if they only hang out as couple friends and not one on one. I say it's staying strong and smart and not always that temptation to creep in. The devil hates godly marriages and can use anything to break them about. Sometimes that person or their friend could develop feelings for them which can lead to an affair or soul ties. But it is good to guard your heart and set boundaries when you are married. But it depends on that couple and what God puts in your heart.
What to do when you are very good friends with a guy who is very interested in you, but you have no interest in dating them. Like I really can't go there with him. I've told him and its broken his heart and yet still he reads into everything I do or say to him as a potential indicator of my interest. I've tried to go there, but I can't. I'm not going to just settle for someone who I know is not gonna make me happy.
Anna Breithaupt
you will keep him around as a back up for when the guy you like dumps you or you need something from him.its called the friendzone but it only exists to serve the needs of the female. The only thing that a guy would get out of this arrangement is the false hope of something in the future. and we all know females are good at bait and switch schemes
John Reed it works for the opposite sex as well. Been there numerous times.
This is so good and I wholly agree!
You are soo relatable love youuu
Love this video Tiffany! Am I missing the book link in description? :)
Emma Jones no its not you at all - I just totally forgot to include it!! Thank you so much for pointing that out! Now I can't even remember what book I was talking about in the video😂😂
Emma Jones ah yes! Here it is: www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Anyone-Success-Relationships/dp/1511305169
Here’s another tip too: don’t ask them if they’re single. Just be FRIENDS! Dont try to get in their pants. Lol
In my case i had so many hobbies i always find stuff in commun if they talk about videogames or work or movies or music or politics or religion. We just talk about stuff. I think im an intresting person and i have a lot to talk about. One barrier for me is when i like a men that doent know anything.
🤷♀️have u seen the news 🙊no
🤷♀️history🙊no
🤷♀️politics🙊no
🤷♀️music 🙉kanyewest
🤷♀️sports🤖 soccer futbal basball hockey basketball
Sorry some men obly know sports and nothing else. They cant even keep a conversation is like a zombie
but...how do i found i friend that is a guy..im a loner..
Wow amazing
What are some tips to not view every guy as a Mr. Maybe?
When I was younger it was easier for me to talk to guys. Now I usually get shy in front of them. I don't know why, but I'd really like to be in a real friendship w a guy for once. My problem is that I don't know what to talk about whit them, because I fell like they won't have interest on what I'll say or even get bored, you know just cause I'm a girl 😪
do you know, i am thinking to marry a guy who is my best friend, but till now i dont even made a single guy a friend
Hey Tiffany! I wanted to reach out and ask about guys at school or youth group and how I can start conversations with them. They all seem to be in their clics and it’s sometimes hard to reach out and talk to people that I don’t know (I'm pretty shy at first when it comes to meeting new people especially guys.) I've never been one to have many guy friends if I do it’s usually just one or two.. How can I change that?
Being friends with guys is EASY!!! Just be easygoing and LOSE all the DRAMA!!! It is so much easier than female friendships,, plus unless they are weenies they will almost always treat you, because they don't want to be that guy having a girl pay. 💯
I want to be best freind with someone but maybe he hate me🙂💔
Good episode
Shit dont work like that in the real world
But I never think of my guy friends as anything romantic. LoL 💯 😆 In fact I have so many guy friends, , I never know if a guy really likes me romantically....LOL. You have to be REALLY direct if you like me beyond friendship, because once I put you in the friendzome....You are freinded.. Every chick knows this. It's what men dread....the friend zone. Platonic. Easy.
Men don’t have female friends. Men just wait for their turn.
Half my friends are guys........I’m my self with my guy friends and any other friend😂
The maker of this video is overthinking it.
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just be attractive. simple
ONSEN BEATS thats not enough. Trust me.
Actually it is easier if you are not that attractive. It is easier for a guy to see just as a friend a girl that it is less attractive
Women don’t have guy friends. Women have back up plans.
Step one: Don’t.
Hahaha,, friends? Goodluck
Don't do that
Im a girl who likes memes. Im just hella awkward
feel bad for those guy friends that didn't get to dip that tip