How to Enjoy Being Single (SPOILER ALERT: You don't always have to!) | Christian Single Girls
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- Hey girls! Do you ever feel guilty because you don't enjoy singleness enough? If so, this is for you! These are six things I WISH someone had told me when I was single. I didn't know it was actually okay to mourn singleness, even while searching for the gifts in it. These tips (numbers 1 & 6 are especially surprising) helped me realize I didn't always have to feel happy about being single, and at the same time, they turned my single years into some of the most beautiful years of my life. I hope they can encourage you too! Love, Tiffany Dawn
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Thank you-I’m 30 and struggling with loneliness, and it’s been really hard during Covid. If anyone sees this, please pray for me.
Dear our Father in Heaven, I pray for this person and anyone struggling with loneliness. I pray to God for everyone's comfort. You are the God of all comfort (II Corinthians 1:3). You know how lonely we are on this earth. Please help us set our hearts on things above and seek You with all our hearts. Please help us see our singleness from Your perspective, not the world's. Please protect our hearts. Please help us trust in You and praise You even when our souls are downcast (Psalm 42:5,11). Please help us trust in Your provision and timing because Your ways are higher than ours, and Your thoughts are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:9). Please be with us and have mercy on us. Thank You for sending Your Son, Jesus Christ, to die for our sins so that we can establish a relationship with You (Romans 5:10). I pray in the mighty Name of Jesus, our Saviour, Amen.
Your content is so loving and nonjudgmental. You are so kind in your delivery of you message, and I definitely feel like God is working through this video to give peace to single girls (like me) who are struggling with contentment. Thank you for your different perspective❤️
“Pursue your dreams” MY DREAM IS BEING MARRIED, LIKE ????
Same 🥺
Well okay, but there are some people who have dreams and goals apart from being married, so they can pursue those things. It's a good advice.
Are you preparing and becoming the woman God wants you to be? Utilize your time.
I love that you've made this video - when I was single, so much of the advice centred around 'enjoy yourself!' And while there is some truth to it, like you said there is nothing wrong with being truthful that you do want to get married! Love all you said in this video! - Est X
Amen! Preach! I'm 28 and single and I want to get married (preferably sooner than later haha). But God has taught me so much over the last two years that I wouldn't have learned had I been in a relationship and I am so incredibly grateful for it. I still want to be married though and sometimes it's hard being single, especially when your social media feed is full of engagement, wedding, and baby photos...😂
I 100% agree with everything in your video. Loved it so much!! Thank you for always being so real and genuine and not giving the typical "christianese" advice.
YES! Social media is the WORST when you're single! 😂 That is so cool how God has been teaching you so much over the past two years. I love how He does that! He gives us such gifts in our singleness! And thank you for the encouragement - that means so much to me!❤️
Transformed&Renewed I'm going through the same thing. I just turned 29, on the 4th of July, and even though I'm in my season of singleness I still want to be married with children one day. I know that God will bless us both with these things. God bless you and have a wonderful day.
Keep in mind: Your eggs have a time limit. Over 30 and you'll get one child, if you're lucky. You're not 18 anymore, your choice of men has shrunk significantly.
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Ahhhhh Thank you!!!! I'm turning 25 in 6 hours, and I've ALWAYS wanted to be about to get married by the time I was 25, and unless God does the "It's Raining Men! Hallelujah! Here's yours!" (it is about to rain, so who knows! hahaha) I will definitely not be getting married any time soon. I've always struggled with being single. I have been in two different relationships for much longer than I should have because of it. But, I think the lesson I have finally learned is that it is better to be single than in a relationship that hurts you and doesn't bring you closer to God. This video really resonated with me. And, as you said, the time of singleness is really bringing me closer to Him and I am developing a relationship with Him and focusing on me and healing, and I know that if God has marriage written in my journey that I will be grateful for this time. And maybe soon, I'll feel like dating.
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Thank you for sharing, I go through periods of loving and appreciating my singleness and other times that I’m so annoyed seeing all my friends get to do things I want to do with a spouse. But I realise God is teaching me so much truth about marriage through my friends to prepare me. I’m 26 and have always been single so sometimes loose hope but hearing stories like yours encourage me to be patient and just be who God made me
How will you know? Why would men be drawn to you? Men don't just approach out of impulse anymore. Times have changed.
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Are you married now?
I remember as a teen crying at the end of A Walk to Remember and thinking well at least Jamie got to marry and not die a virgin. I wondered if God cared about how important marriage was to me.
This appeared in my feed. And I am currently in a state of confusion about the currenf situation I am in. This has been a GIFT to me from God! Thank You Lord! ❤❤
I’m so glad!! 🙌🙌
So much wisdom here!!! I'm 36 and still believing for my miracle. Thank you for acknowledging the aspects of the hardness of the wait, and the importance of meeting new people.
I'm so glad you enjoyed this! For years I felt like it was wrong to acknowledge the hard parts of singleness. But I've finally realized, that's not wrong at all! It's actually healthy and important. It was so interesting, last night we were with an older couple from our church and talking about this, and they said, "It's funny because years ago, no one expected you to be happy all the time in your Christian life. They just expected you would let God work on your heart. But now, because of our culture, we have this expectation that we should always be happy during it too." I thought that was so insightful!
Your eggs are dry. It's a long time until 90, so I hope your standards aren't too high, because you're competing with all women younger than you.
@Kayla Jean If you can't take an opposing opinion, get off the internet. I do not care about your feelings, nor do I feel any desire to flatter your ego with lies.
I've noticed that people usually meet their future spouse when they're not expecting it, so if you're striving to only be satisfied in Christ, you may be surprised at what comes along
@@nicholasrandall3507 aw are you single and bitter about it? I'm sure most women are better off without you anyway lol
And THANK YOU for saying it's ok to want to meet someone...I am SO tired of the rest of the church telling us to just wait around hoping it magically happens. I'm nearly 40 and still single because that's what I did for most of my life...finally putting myself out there. So thank you! :)
40? Too late for kids, and you're in the same field as women half your age. Good luck.
@@nicholasrandall3507 biggest troll I've ever seen.
@@steflondon88 You must not see much, then. If I'm a troll, tell me: What use has a man for a 40 year old woman that a 20 year old woman cannot do?
@@nicholasrandall3507 wow you are just rude you should really stop commenting on things that don't pertain to you
@@melonyrash4543 The truth hurts.
Thank you for this!! I think as single christian women we feel as if were being punished because we are single an it’s so hard to be happy as a single women, or that being fulfilled as a women it means married and children, which just isn’t true! Im 30 and learning to love singleness and the strange of life im in finally at 30. My 20’s were tough, I look back and the only reason it was tough is because I made it though! Life is too short! Be happy enjoy the simple pleasures! :)
Yes, agreed! It's so easy to think marriage and children are what fulfills us. That's so cool you've been able to learn to love singleness! What a gift!
You realize you still have another 2x your lifespan left, but your child potential is 5 years. What are you going to do during that time?
As a younger widow (not quite 40) I can't tell you how much I love hearing someone say we don't have to want to stay single; we don't have to love being single! I knew that, but it feels good to hear someone else say it even if in a slightly different context from mine. Yes, some people will never marry, but we are meant for relationship!
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I really needed this. I needed someone who understood. I’ve been struggling with this a lot. I really can’t express how much you just helped me
Really appreciate this video especially you talking about pursuing your dreams and living instead of waiting. Love that so much!
Thank you! Number 6 has really made me feel so much better! Definitely going to check out the book!
This was posted a year a go and I have just found it today
It's encouraged and blessed me thanks for sharing
Beautiful hire I love 😍😍
Such a timely message. Thank you for posting!
For months I wasn't content with being single, but I am so happy with where I am right now. When non-believers in lecture halls and seminars followed me and would sit with me, I got scared. Seeing how dating them would not further my relationship with God, I am happy to serve my Father without any distractions. At my job, all of the co-workers except two were in a relationship, and I felt like I could not relate in any way. But there are so many perks to being single, and I am grateful for this season for sure!
Ivy, that is so amazing how you've been able to find that joy where you are right now! Praise God; what a gift! This makes me so happy to hear.❤️
Pretty sure God said that the wife should be subservient to the husband. Not co-workers or equals.
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Love that you made this i think the same thing live now love now enjoy life now. Being married is about giving more and being able to work on issues as well it gets harder not easier to think of someone else everyday. I'll enjoy my season of singleness. Thanks tiffany.
I am so glad, that I found this video. Indeed when we are in 20's or late 20's or early 30''s these thoughts comes in our minds. I am in my late 20's, some times such thoughts haunts "Why Am I single" . Got really BLESS by your videos. God bless u & use U 4 his Glory. All your 6 points are quite applicable, as I see my life. Good work done.
LOOOVE this video!😍♥️ I agree with everything you said, and I definitely needed to watch this
I needed to hear this! Thank you Tiffany for your encouraging words in such an uneasy time in my life. Being single has kept me on my knees, and this time of waiting for God to fulfill my desires is not easy... but it will be worth it. I love your videos!
❤️❤️❤️ Praying for you as you're waiting on God!
SO MUCH WISDOM & ENCOURAGEMENT HERE...THANK YOU.
Thank you for saying it's ok to not enjoy singleness all the time.
I couldn't more agree with you Tiffany. I am 37 yo and still single. Thanks for sharing this video. I also like the videos from Jeff & Alyssa Bethke.. Gbu!
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Thank you for your videos. Although I accidentally found them, they are so good and full of wisdom. I'm in my mid-twenties and it seems everyone around me is dating or getting married. Thank you for your perspective.
I just wanted to say that this video truly shed some light and brought encouragement to me :)
I love love your videos!!! So enlightening!!
Very good video. Fair and balanced and realistic! I love your content!
I am so glad I found this video!
Point 1 spoke to me as I noticed for the first time I was sad about being single/lonely and thought I was just being desperate lol
Point 2 spoke to me because I noticed I started meeting guys/getting coffee and I thought it was not okay and I was seen as a flirt
This might be one of the best videos I've ever seen about being a single Christian girl. I'm only 24, but I've struggled SO much being single. And I've felt so much shame and guilt because I believed I wasn't thankful to God enough for the season He has me in. So, because of that, I was scared to bring it to God. Unfortunately, I've been taught, as SO. MANY. GIRLS to "kiss dating goodbye". My mom had me believing that a simple coffee date meant I was considering marrying this guy. And that scared the living crap out of me. I just found you and shall continue binging on you!
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This video really speaks to me, thank you so much. :)
Your channel blessed me alot. Thankyouu tifanny 🙆🏻🙆🏻
I'm seeing a new light that I need to open a new door in my life!
I do stay home and don't do much because of things that have happened! I'm less than a year away from 50 and have no desire to date maybe ever again or at least for a long time! I don't think I'm suppose to meet anyone cause things that happened! I only feel safe when I'm with my girlfriends and their husbands! Wondering if this is what I'm supposed to be doing or if it's a bad thing! I am fixing all the broken things that were broken long ago! Working through the book Love is a Choice! It's difficult for me! Thank you for sharing your storys!
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This video is so encouraging.
I really like your ideas. I have been under pressure to "enjoy being single" with a lot of corny meaningless platitudes. I also have been pressured to get married. I do not like either.
I like you a lot! Very encouraging, reflected and authentic videos! 🔥
thank you! this definitely put things into perspective
WOW I LOVE number 5!! ❤️
I have been watching so many of your videos and I want you to know your hair is beautiful!
Awwww that makes my day!! Thank you!!
Wow thank you for this ❤
Hair looks great tiff! It looks full and lots of volume
The Lord just spoke to me..thank you
I really love the theme I’ve heard you say a lot in your videos: “Sometimes we think that trusting/waiting on God means doing nothing and that is NOT true.”
This is really helpful! This is a video about singleness that I can actually relate too! So thank you for sharing! I think it’s wonderful how you share with us your experiences and what you have learned to help us with different seasons we face in life having to do with singleness.Thank you God Bless!
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Amen!! Allow singleness to keep you on your knees!
Im too impatient to finish watching the video, so I'm just going to add something about feelikng like having to be always happy being single: nobody is happy always with what they have, if you are married sometimes you will want to be single, if you have a job at some moments you will want to not have it. Childreb will be a burden from time to time, etc. Being single is not different.
Amen in God's perfect time😊 so inspiring
Thank you God led me here
I agree so much with what you say!
I am 29 now and been single throughout my 20s. I dated a lot when I was in high school or 18 years old. I was really focusing on ending bad habits and building my future for myself and set goals. I came a long way since my early 20s. I'm starting to really appreciate singleness, I just can't find relationships today. I also gained a lot of happiness, so yes a lot of benefits of being single. This video made me think, yeah it's a gift alright
Good video! Nice perspective!
I’m 26 still single and never really had a serious relationship; but I’m not sad for being single. I love the independence it brings. I’m good with being by myself. So I can say that I’m not sad for being single. 🤷🏻♀️ but I get crap for it all the time. “Why are you single?” And “Are you sure you’re not gay?” Yadda yadda. Answers: One, I’m single because I want to be, and I haven’t found anyone remotely interesting enough to date. And two, I’m not gay, that’s your thought. I very much love guys and am attracted to them. Buzz off.
However, I do have concerns. Should I be concerned that I’m not bothered by the idea of being single, or possibly of never getting married? I’m at the point that I shrug at the idea of marriage. It happens or it doesn’t, I’m down for it. It’s not like my utmost goal to find a guy or to even date. Which may or may not be a healthy mentality?
You could say that I have some trust issues when it comes to guys, by seeing it in other relationships around me.
I can be really difficult. *sighs*
Simple. Lower your standards, pick a decent guy, and put out kids before you're 30. Otherwise you won't get a choice in being single.
Omg I'm in that same situation if I find a guy great if I don't that's fine to but Im more focused on my purpose and dreams...
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This good advise thank you God bless you.
Hi Tiffany, I watch your video again, I'm 41 year old and still waiting for my husband. It's very hard for me, it's like I want to give up on the thought of getting married one day. I've met guys but it did end well
I love all your videos-- love your heart! Xoxo from a (married) sister in Christ :).
This was very good advice. It was great to hear in a different perspective. I'd never thought about the fact that it's okay to be sad. It's okay to admit that you really want to be in a relationship. You don't have to pretend that you always want to be single. But it's saying "yeah, I am sad, but that's okay. I'm not letting that get in the way of my life". I'd never seen it put like that before. Great video!
It's such a freeing perspective to me! Even just to realize that God knows all our feelings and we can share them all with Him! 😍
Thank you for this! and thank you for giving advice about how is it ok to meet guys while you're waiting for the right person. I'm 22 and haven't had any relationship yet. I know I'm young and shouldn't get worried about it but the thought just hit me like I plan to get married at 35. I really want to wait for the right person so I made a deal with myself that my first boyfriend will be my last and because I'm working on my goals and dreams right now, it will take me a long time to get into a serious relationship. But my dilemma is that what if I met my first bf at my late 20s or I am nearing 35 and then he's not the one simply because I didnt try meeting alot of guys and just have an experience about dating. That kind of bug me really. And I felt like if I go out without the intention of getting married, I felt like I am sinning to God. But yeah I guess I'll just go with the flow.
No man will marry you at 35 if he wants children. You are in your dating prime NOW. Bio clock is ticking.
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Thank you for this encouraging message!! Love your videos!
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Greetings back from New York! I'm so glad you enjoy the videos -- that makes me so happy to hear! ❤️
I love your content
Amen!!!
So.... it's actually "ok" to say visit another church.... just to hopefully meet a potential spouse (wife in my case)?😅 There's a real "taboo" about going to church just to look for a spouse- after all you should be going to hear and receive the Word of God. But I've always wondered: what if there are no prospects in my own church?? Where/how would I meet prospects who hopefully share similar belief and worldviews that I do?Can't go to the bar/club for that 😏... so then where?
I still feel "guilty" or hypocritical for wanting to visit another church "just for that"; but your example of when you went to other churches and bible studies got me thinking....
I absolutely believe that’s ok!!! 100%!! I kept going to my original church even while attending bible studies and young adult groups at other churches with larger young people populations. Highly recommend it! 😍
@@TiffanyDawn 😅😂 duly noted! Lol. Not sure if they have "young people's groups" for late 30-somethings 😏.. but might be worth checking out. Funny enough I may be in the opposite situation: mostly younger/college-age attendees at my church, while I'm late 30-something (and tipping over on the border... LOL).
But point taken: I could attend my church's "main service"; while also attending other meetings at other churches. Thanks for the tip Tiffany!
When is James starting his "men's channel"?🙃
Being those emotions to God, and experience them with God
Waiting -> Do what you can, but part of waiting is simply waiting for the results later down the track too. Results dont always happen instantly when we want :)
WHAT YOU DIDN'T GET MARRIED TILL YOU WERE 29?!?!?!?! I am almost 28 and I still feel that marriage or even a relationship may be quite far off. This is so encouraging!
If you wait until 30 your odds of marriage drop hard.
Try searching "why men are avoiding women"
Or
"Where all the good men went"
Should have some eye opening knowledge if you can handle it.
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the hardest question God has asked me is, " are you a Ruth worthy of a Boaz?" i was angry i was still single and God yanked a knot in my chain and said i needed to be someone who someone would want to be with. i was so focused on my desire for companionship that i had never considered doing any self maintenance. Also thanks for addressing that it's OK not to like it, just because you have things in your life doesn't mean you have to or even should like it. Job lost everything and was sitting in the ash pile feeling sorry for himself, yet God still called him a beloved.
Wooooow! I love the transparency in this. It's so key to look inwards and ask yourself these uncomfortable questions. Thank you for sharing
It's exciting for a married man to live with a woman . It's exciting for a married woman to live with a man . Being single is boring . The single life is the worst punishment I've ever had ! When you're single, all you can do is sit around and wish you were married . I hate being single !
I guess the main reason why I can't enjoy being single is because I've never been in a relationship yet. I've never had a girlfriend yet. And another problem with me is I'm homeschooled, and I'm not in any social activities. Are there any tips you can give me?
Okay, I have a question. What if you are going out to meet guys and are meeting them, but they never ask you out? And so you're trying to "get out there" and explore your options or just get to know people, but guys never seem to see you as someone to ask out?
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Iam going to be pride single,untill I reach my ambition.
Remember that you have a time limit. Eggs start going bad at 30, and no man is attracted to your career or degree.
You will not attract the same men 10 years from now. Prioritize what you want, because your body doesn't care about your plans, as I'm sure you're reminded of each month.
MY Top 20 ways to enjoy being single
1.study in school and learn.
2.go to college and study extra hard.
3.be rich
4.have nice expensive things like diamonds and expensive clothing.
5.tell yourself I don’t need a spouse every morning.
6.have a Relationship with god.
7.have a mansion.
8.do fun things like travel.
9.visit mckamey Manor.
10.be a CEO.
11.get a Lamborghini.
12.have friends.
13.go party with friends.
14.go see your family from around the world.
15.meet new people.
16.ignore the urge to get married.
17.know god loves you.
18.start a CZcams channel.
19.be successful.
20.live for yourself.
Girl! I’m 31 and still single, and you were sad coz you got married at 29?! Phew 😅
i'm 53 and never been on a date. i wonder if she could give advice for GUYS to help them meet someone, and be loved.
@@patnye8227 Have money, get fit.
@@nicholasrandall3507 that's a great idea. I'm not obese, but i resemble bill gates. I don't have much money either
38 here
Matchmaking service or try different activities or hobbbies you enjoy. Online dating. Think of it as a numbers game bc it kinda is. Go on 50 first dates in a year. Etc
Could you please Tiffany Dawn add closed captioning to this video so people who are deaf or hard of hearing or have an Audio Processing Disorder can follow along with what you are saying? Thank you for your time. 🌈
Here's a question about #4 (investing in friendships)
I'm introverted, and investing takes a lot out of me. The idea of multiple relationships is overwhelming/exhausting a lot of the time, too. In addition, the times I've recently tried investing with several people, but it wasn't acknowledged or reciprocated. (Also draining.) Thoughts?
What do you invest in others? What have you invested in yourself? What do you do to build and maintain your relationships?
Dating is a competition. If you don't present your best to someone who is attracted to that trait, you wil be overshadowed.
Try again. Relationships are never easy.
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I felt for months that i could not date and still feel that way.
Part of the reason is I've never dated as a Christian woman upholding moral values.
I've compromised a lot in my past. So i have been afraid.
I have to stay grounded in Christ believing i am a new creature ..and the former way of doing things are behind me.
God doesn't undo your past, he only forgives it. Same with STDs.
I'm 56 yr old divorced male... I have not dated anyone since my divorce 7 yrs ago.. women don't seem to want to date...or just they don't want to date me. I spend all my time alone.. I have no family left living. I have no friends.. my best friend ever died 6 yr ago. Being alone is horrible. Being unwanted destroys your self esteem and you lose confidence. I have no fun.. I don't go or do anything alone.. it is boring to go out alone. I tried and even going to a movie alone is boring and I just stopped doing it. I stopped going to restaurants... sitting in a restaurant alone.. looking around the room at people talking to each other just makes depression set in. I'm not young anymore but I'm not dead either and don't want to be alone.
I would recommend getting involved in a local church and joining a small group where you'd be able to meet people. Thats how Ive met most of my friends! Most churches have mens groups and events specifically to be able to connect with other men in friendship. You can also meet people through serving within the church. Most pastors would also be willing to help connect you with men in the church to befriend over coffee etc. As for meeting women, as you fill your life with more purpose and connection with friends, you won't be so deeply worried about that. And as you feel less miserable and less like you need a woman to be your only person in your life you will be more likely to connect with one, but you don't need to be married again to find purpose and contentment. Churches are a great place to start and have great resources for connecting with others. Also, volunteering in your city in whatever areas of interest. I volunteer at a kids center for underprivileged kids, I serve within my church, volunteer at a local hospital, etc. All of that helps with connection with other people!
Very encouraging video and yes, I'm taking steps to get myself closer to God to help me find companionship and I just feel like an emotional distress after many of my friends now married and a good fraction of those have families now. I know that I can still pursue my dreams as I'm looking to find a breakthrough my professional life, yet I still feel lonely outside of friendship moments. Often I turn to eating to fill that void of companionship or friendship and it just feels like I'm only using it as a bandage. Is there anyway I can improve on it other than spending additional time with God?
hkdiva2015 hey girl your not alone I would do that all the time . I wanted to eat my hurt, but I learned to pray . I learned to look for God and ask him to help me control it . Then God helped me, and also exercise is good to let go of anxiety . But always go to God Gordy before any other thing or even person !!
That is so hard when all your friends are marrying and starting families! I remember feeling like I was so far behind. 😞 And it is so hard when you come home alone to an empty apartment! But wow, what insight, how you said, "I turn to eating to fill that void...using it only as a bandage." That is so insightful!! 😍 I think the thing that was the most helpful to me was finding a way to help / serve others. Writing my books and blog posts, and getting to speak at different events was one way I did that. But other ways were making meals at Ronald McDonald Houses and leading Bible studies for college girls. For some reason giving to other people helps so much in seasons of loneliness--at least that's what I've found. Another thing that's helped me a TON with loneliness is counseling, to figure out where it's coming from and how I can work through those things. But there is also a real ache that's there in some single seasons. There are times when it's really hard and times when it gets easier. I hope that can help encourage you in some way! Also, I have a video about my own struggle with binge eating here, if you'd like to see it ❤️ --> czcams.com/video/7EWOMjaKlus/video.html - Much love to you and I'll be praying for you!
Beautiful! Thank you for sharing this! And I've also found that exercise is so helpful for anxiety! I heard recently that some doctors are actually prescribing it as part of a treatment plan for anxiety and depression - how cool is that?!
I didn’t mean the Gordy part my phone did that haha :)
Maybe you have had good relationships with friends but any friends I ever had always flirted with whom ever I was dating. I got saved and still have a hard time trusting women.
I am still alone at age 74. If I wasn't saved I would be married. I regret being saved. Worst thing I ever did.!
You say there's nothing wrong with wanting to get married, but my mom had a meltdown when I told her I wanted to start dating... (I'm nineteen, by the way)
To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven (Ecclesiastes 3:3, KJV).
I understand what you're going through. I'm also 19, and well, I just wanna share my views: I want God's best, God's choice. So I will wait for that (not as someone waiting inside my room but actively waiting) and I did pray to God to set these desires aside for now. And the feelings dulled. Then I said: God, may you keep my heart and open it only to the one you intend for me.
It's the season be a student, to be a daughter to God and to your parents. Besides, 19, there's still so much more in life.
Hmmmmmmmm, right
Hi. I’m new to your channel. Where did you meet your husband? Where do you suggest I go to meet more men?
I'm a 44 year old man, still single and have my virginity, waiting for 'The One.'
I would have been been married now, if not for an unfortunate situation.
Hey Tiffany, I do have a question for you that, you do always mention having father daughter relationship with Christ is more beautiful during the waiting season of the singleness time. How do you find happiness in father-daughter relationship ? How did you build yourself up in the relationship with god ? The struggle is real that I also face, watched dozens of your videos. Sometimes I even review of what I watched to help me grow in a relationship with god. I never had a father who loved me. My biological father, he never loved I and my sister at all, that I had seen my mom's love in every aspect of my life. My mom's most of the life was singleness when raising I and my sister. It is great to see and understand, and apply to my life, finding a strong relationship with Heavenly Father- Christ.
Saira! What an amazing question! First though, I am so sorry to hear that you didn't grow up having a dad who loved you. I know so so many girls have that same experience, of never knowing a real, biological father's love, and it makes my heart so sad. I'm praying that God can provide some great guys to kind of step in as "dad" figures for you, to show you a picture of how much God loves you like a Father! But I think it is so amazing that you are pursuing a relationship with God and trying to get to know Him more. I really believe that that in itself brings so much joy to God's heart! Thomas Merton once wrote to God, "I think the fact that I want to please you, pleases you." And I fully agree! I am going to start thinking about your question, because I might actually do a video on it. I think it's a question SO MANY girls are wondering. In the meantime, did you see To All the Girls Who Grew Up Christian Part 1? In that video I talk a lot about how my relationship with God grew, and I think it applies to all of us, whether or not we grew up Christian. Here's the link, in case that would be helpful for you: czcams.com/video/MHV6YMilaE4/video.html - Much love to you, and I'm praying that God would reveal His love to you in a brand new way and continue to teach you how to come closer to Him!
Did you ever hear your father's side? Did your mother initiate the divorce? What is a sign of love to you? If you have not been able to learn from a good father, how will you know what a man's love is? It is far different from a woman's love.
How did you overcome your loneliness in your singleness?
I'm not sure why your videos are showing up as recommended for me, but I appreciate the more balanced approach that you take towards relationships.
I'm a 54 year old man who was in the church in my late teens and twenties. There was a hard push towards not pursuing relationships and "waiting on God" even as a guy. They'd often wrap that kind of stuff in words to mask the passivity that they were trying to preach. They'd talk about "all that Christ had done for us and how we shouldn't be so stuck on having earthly relationships." They'd give an alter call, and guys and girls would go crying down the aisle to say how they weren't giving enough to God and so on and so on. However, by Wednesday, the guys would ask for a phone number if they met a girl that they liked. By Thursday, the girls would give him the number. I wasn't one for going down the aisle, but I really did try to make myself focus on not pursuing relationships. Even when I did try to pursue them, that teaching caused me to be much less self-confident in my approach. As I look back, I realize that the church was "about half full of crap" in all of its teaching on relationships. The only reason that there wasn't more damage is that most young people were only halfway listening.
When I was about twenty-one or twenty-two, I was talking to some older friends before whom I was trying to be a witness. They first asked about a mutual friend who was in his late 40's and had never married. We all knew that being single was bad for him. We all knew that singleness had become toxic to him, and they asked why God hadn't provided a wife for him. All I could say was that I didn't know. They then turned to me and said that they felt that I had a strong longing for a relationship if not immediately for a wife until I finished college and grad school. They asked why God hadn't provided a relationship for me. I told them that I didn't have an answer for that one either but that God had met my needs. God hadn't met my desires, but He had met my needs.
As I passed my late 20's and into my early 30's, things changed. I reached a point where I couldn't have honestly told my friends that God had met my needs. Not only could I not say that to my friends, I couldn't look myself in the mirror and say that God had met my needs, and I couldn't go to God in prayer and say that He had met my needs. Singleness became so toxic that it destroyed me. I eventually quit church and haven't returned in over twenty years.
At this point, my health has failed, and I wouldn't be able to sustain a relationship anyway. I don't know what's ahead for me.
I do know that every church person who promoted the bad teachings of that day played a part in harming me. Ultimately, I made my own mistakes, but they were direct conduits for Satan's lies. Those lies led me to the mistakes that I made. The toxicity of singleness means that I can't see singleness as positively as you do. To me, singleness is just death. I'm glad I didn't harm another person by getting into a bad marriage, but singleness is still death.
I appreciate your more balanced teaching because you may be helping to put a millstone around the lies that the church told me and sinking those lies in the ocean with that millstone. I hope that those who helped spread the lies will be confounded by a more balanced teaching.
VTPSTTU Hi, I read your comment, and honestly I’m a bit confused. What happened that you think singleness is death? I think death is turning away from the living God because you didn’t marry when that was your heart’s desire. I understand that you’ve become discouraged, but if you’ve rejected God because of it you’re going to face even worse things than singleness or even bad health. The Word talks about how the Israelites were an example for us. When they were in the wilderness for 40 years they complained and were destroyed by the destroyer. I believe that is what you’re experiencing. Repent my friend and turn to Him. He can restore the years the locust and caterpillar have eaten away.
Dating that is so true i thing. I feel like I am not trusting God if I go on a date. I would really like to get a cup of coffee with a man.
Yes it really does feel like, “I must not be trusting God” sometimes. I had to learn how to break out of that mentality! I have another video coming out soon that will talk more about this. ❤️
What dating sites would be good to go on?because I want to meet Godly men and not get on sites that are just for hookups
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I'm almost 35, and I'll never gonna be married :((
why say never?? You don't know...
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Imagine being 49 and still waiting...
I definitely can relate
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Actually, that scripture in Judges 11 is a bit obscure. It doesn't really say that she was killed. There are some who are of the view that she was dedicated to the temple of the Lord, so she wouldn't have kids that's why she mourned her virginity or something along those lines, and there are those of the view who believe it was a literal human sacrifice. I kind of hold to the first view since God didn't take human sacrifices and abhorred people who sacrificed their children in the fire to other gods. :) God bless
I agree that human sacrifices were not required but the dad did make his vow & knew God is serious about vows.... also, point to ponder, Jesus was a human sacrifice, & was accepted.
Statistically, there just aren't enough good Christian men, so Biblically the only option is to remain faithful to the Lord.
I'm only sixteen but honestly I'm so terrified that I'm going to be single forever...
Kristen Grace I've felt like that too at times, but I've realized that God wouldn't give me a desire to be married if I wasn't meant to be. Hope this encourages you!
Once you are 18 you will have your pick of men, especially if you verbally indicate interest. That will slowly decline until 30, where the decline increases dramatically.
Use that time wisely.
me too. but I want a boyfriend NOW. 🙄
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If a woman is "jealous" of her single friend who's "so lucky", who "can travel", and "can do all these cool things", she can break up with her boyfriend ! The most wonderful words a woman can say are "I don't have a boyfriend !" and she has to make sure she can say them !
I think it's a well intentioned albeit ill informed way to try and make your friends feel better
@@teejay5432 -- A wonderful world waits for a single woman, but she has to be unattached in order to get in on it . The Bible says "To everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under Heaven" . There's a time to have a romantic partner, and there's a time to be unattached !
im kevin im 50 but look 40 women stare at me alott never been married and i hate my life ,,, i met Jesus in early 90s its been a wild ride since then ,,, i watch other vids and learnd GOD is still working on me ,,, Praise the Lord Christ King Jesus
I need a lot of money to enjoy singleness.
was you single doing this vid ???