Damn man. I am a guy who turned 23 just over a month ago(on 22nd December) and I never had a girlfriend before. I had my first ever date a bit over 4 months ago at the age of 22. She was 19(turned 20 a week ago) and we went to the mall and ate in Mcdonalds and had my first hug ever from a girl but still yet to get my first kiss and I was pulling her cheeks a lot as she is really cute. 2 weeks after the date, she turned out to be mean and toxic to me and blocked me everywhere. She basically just used me for free lunch and to take lots of pics of her so she can post them on social media. For the past 6 months, I also have been crushing on this girl in the class where I go for preparation of exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college 6 months ago and planning to study MBA next. She also just turned 23 over a week ago and she has called me cute before and I pulled her cheeks twice too but I am usually shy near girls in person so she is the one who usually initiates conversations with me and its usually short as I have nothing more to say as an introvert. I do see her with some male friends so that makes me worried thinking what if she goes for either of them. 3 months ago, I went out with this another girl in that same class and she is also 23 but idk whether to count it as a date as we are just friends. We just roamed around our city and then had lunch in a big restaurant and had lots of fun. I did pull her cheeks once while taking selfie but was shy to ask for a hug. We might go out again in Feb probably. But today I got a new crush(yeah I am a mess haha) on this another girl who is also 22 or 23 in the same institute but different classrooms and she is one of the prettiest girl I have ever seen but I was again shy to approach her but I got to know her name and followed her on Instagram but she is yet to accept it and maybe then I will message her after 2-3 days but its possible that she probably has a boyfriend too. I also have been chatting with this another girl on Instagram for over 6 months. She is 19(turning 20 in April). We used to be in the same school but didn't know each other in school days and only have been knowing each other since July 2023. We are planning to meet up too and eat somewhere as we are both foodies and we send each other virtual hugs in the chats daily and she is really sweet too. But in the end I am still single.
@manosijroy8282 Bro, you’ve done more than me. You’re doing good. I’m gonna be 24 this year and have never had a girlfriend, never kissed, and, frankly, have never felt the love of a woman before. I’m pretty fit, I have a good job, and I present myself to people to be their friend and to be there for them but still nothing. I’ve only been on like 3 dates, (3 good dates). You’re doing really good.
@@manosijroy8282 seems like you are doing alot kid lol just remember girls are also humans,they are not better than you. You deserve the best too young man. Just keep putting yourself out there,never stop. I belive in you. This is coming from a woman in her 30s,so its my big sis advice❤️❤️
I’m in the exact same boat as you. There really isn’t anything like so badly wanting to be in a relationship and not being able to. I feel you. B’ezrat HaShem, our time will come.
Guys, let me advise you all with 2 pieces of advise: 1. Don't fear going out to meet new people, find a church or club, etc or at the beach. And be open to meet new people, don't look at them funny or intimidate them or act too awkward. 2. Learn to start conversations with guys and converse with them. And towards the end, ask the number. Some guys need to be led on. Learn to send hints without being aggressive.
I was just watching a TikTok of a girl that just got into her very first relationship at 31. There were a bunch of comments of women saying that they also had never been in a relationship. It's not the end all be all and I've learned not to let the fact that "everyone" else is in a relationship bother me. I was surprised learning about the statistics of people who are in relationships only because they don't want to be alone. The goal is to be in a happy, healthy relationship. It'll happen at the right time, when you're ready, open and intentional :)
It's a lot more shocking to hear of a woman being alone or single that long than compared to a man, because women don't have to do the pursuing, or because women don't have to do the approaching or asking out like men always have
That's interesting and a good thing to remember... that so many people are in relationships out of fear of being alone. We should all want real love in our life and keep hope that it'll come with time 🩷🙏
I totally understand how you feel when you’re surrounded by people who are in relationships. A lot of times I enjoy going out alone but when I’m around so many couples having fun and looking so happy together I get that sense of FOMO wishing I had a partner to go on dates with and engage in different activities.
First off. I love your channel. I’m 28 and am still a virgin and have only had one serious relationship with someone who I was not in love with. I too, felt influenced by my religion at a young age to remain pure until marriage. I was raised Catholic and subscribed to the belief that if I was pure and was a good follower of my religion who attended worship services and did “everything right” that God would reward me with a soulmate. And honestly that is all just a fallacy of organized religion. I too, have been on a million dates with guys who were great but I felt no solid connection with. I feel your pain. The sad part is, there really is nothing wrong with us yet the expectations of society make us feel like there is, like we are inferior or strange when in reality we should be praised for not simply settling for convenience and convention over true, honest love and connection. I wish that instead of being shamed, society could look to women like us as examples. For we are the ones who truly know what we are worthy of and won’t settle until we find it, no matter how much society or our religions might expect us to. But I understand how hard it is to live in a society that doesn’t. Sending you love and positive thoughts❤
@@CynicalDuchess Thank you! And thank you for making such entertaining, honest, and inclusive content. Keep doing what you’re doing. You deserve an exceptional husband, don’t lose hope if it takes awhile to find him-and remember you are not alone!❤
It's good to remain pure and save sex for marriage because that's how it was meant to be. It's actually for YOUR protection. Don't feel bad about being a virgin. Having sex outside of marriage has more Cons than Pros
Just wanted to say that if I met a woman who for whatever the reason hadn't been with somebody their whole life, Id say that I'd found someone with something so special! I'd feel honoured, humbled and so privileged. When that happens for you, that man will be so lucky and will probably feel special that you saved yourself for him!
You are not alone by the way. I just turned 27 a few months ago and lost my virginity at 26 earlier this year. Had 2 sexual partners since then but still no girlfriend my entire life. My reasons were family obligations growing up, poor socialization and video game and weed addiction. I was comfortable being asocial and it was making me into a hermit who would just work and cope with depression with weed and video games. Thankfully I made lots of changes, I am being more social and I am addicted to the gym now instead of video games (lost 50 pounds) so my body is looking athletic and fit. You aren’t alone out there, us late bloomers are fairly common. Now I just gotta get my mind right and forgive myself for all the time I wasted in my adult life thus far.
Keep living your life to the fullest. Live the life you’ve always pictured for yourself and you’ll eventually run into someone who’s on your same path, who shares your interests and likes the same things as you. Sending positive vibes ❤
Honestly I do this but I'm too scared I'll be lonely for the rest of my life, everyone my age is getting married and I feel very very lonely, ashamed and sad 💔
Girl don’t fret. Welcome to the club. I’m baal teshuva, 7 years sober, and didn’t get married until 27! Everyone of my close friends got married very late. We are the special diamonds that need to cook a bit longer before we can attract the spouse truly worthy of our love and our life. Hang on, keep growing, be independent, stay teachable, and build the life you want. Your man is out there and working on themselves just like you
I am 30 and I went on a dating hiatus for 8 years for similar reasons. I have started going out on dates again despite my anxiety and discomfort because I decided if I end up not finding a partner, if I end up being hurt again, I would rather look back and think “I did my part” rather than looking back and thinking “what if I wasn’t afraid?” I can’t control other peoples choices but I can control my own. Best any of us can do is make choices the we believe will bring us the life we want and let the pieces fall as they may.
These are the kinds of comments I should be responding to instead of replying to hate comments. No you are not alone and we are perfectly normal and thriving and romance isn’t all there is in life and it will happen when the time is right ❤️
It’s hard out there, and I can’t imagine how bad these dates have been - that’s really a bummer. I know 27 feels old, especially in the yeshivsh world, but take it from me, at 42, you have plenty of time, even if it doesn’t seem like it. I think your vulnerability in this video speaks well to your character, and I am confident you will meet someone who makes you happy. Sending you good wishes and a Shabbat shalom from Israel!
Maybe marriage is not meant for you. I'm 43, highly educated, never married, no kids, not the prettiest, not the ugliest. I've desired a family of my own since I was a child. I've dated and dated. No one has been interested in anything serious. Sometimes God says no. Pray and ask Him to reveal His will for your life NOW. Don't buy into the BS of people who say, "Oh, there are plenty of fish in the sea. It'll happen when you least expect it. You just gotta put yourself out there." I've done ALL the things. Sometimes God says no and the sooner you can come to that reality, the happier you'll be. Don't fall into a delusion of hope if it's not a part of God's plan for your life. Pray and ask Him for clarity.
I believe that people have different paths in life, and for some people having many relationships isn’t the path for them. I do believe that for some there’s hundreds of people that they could be with, but I also believe that for some people they are only meant to have a few, one, or none at all. Its just the way of this lifetime. Whenever I get worried or anxious about these things I always tell myself that being my true authentic self with attract the right people to me ❤❤
Just bc everyone around is getting married and finding the one who is meant for them quicker then u doesn’t mean ull never find him. Ur a beautiful human being I’m sure Hashem has someone out there for u he’s just taking longer to get to u ❤
Me personally, I’ve lost all hope. Whatever people need from me, I don’t have it. All I am is a good friend to people, and nothing more. I can’t even keep an app downloaded to try dating app, because I’ve never even been on a date at 24. At least you sound like you’re more afraid than giving up on hope. Don’t quit. Trust me. It sucks to give up, and you lose yourself.
22 yaşındayım durum tam da öyle çünkü sosyal medya ile insanlara güven çok azaldı. Baktığın kişi aslında bambaşka biri çıkıyor, güvenemiyorsun. İletişim desen o da yok. Dilerim bir gün güvenebileceğim bir insanla tanışırım.
Hey! So, we're the same age, and I wanted to let you know that I have several friends who are in almost the exact same boat as you. They've either had bad experiences, or simply haven't (yet) met their person. Sometimes that's something they struggle with, too. Please know that you're not alone in this - you're not 'broken' or 'lacking' or fundamentally flawed. Relationships are the kind of destination where you don't know you've arrived until you're already there. Your person, the one who makes you feel comfortable and safe enough to take the leap, is out there - they might already be close to you but you just haven't gotten to the right place yet, or they might still be on their way. Either way I'm crossing my fingers for you!
Don't focus on what goes on around you focus on what makes you happy as a person do the things you want to do because you want to do it not because of someone else.
I'm about to turn 37. I've been single 90% of my life. I NEVER have a girlfriend. It's really frustrating and disheartening. I'm decent looking, I workout, and I'm a very talented musician (guitar, drums, vocals) Yet, I see so many loser looking dudes, skinny, balding, skeevy/gross looking, with these smoking hot girlfriends. What's wrong with this world?
You are so cute, beautiful, and chic. You are very valuable, simply because you are here on this earth. HaShem wanted you to be here. This means you are worthy of self-love, and the love of others. Your self worth is totally separate from any sense of being in a relationship. Don’t compare yourself to others, because that is a type of social pressure that really isn’t even realistic. Words don’t completely assuage the feelings of wanting to be in a relationship and not having one at the moment, of course. It is indeed difficult to stir up the courage to try again. Yet, trying again is the only way to experience the serendipitous magic that would connect you to your desired partner. You never know how you will meet someone. It may not even be through and arranged meeting. It could happen anywhere!
Don't worry about this. Relationships are highly overrated by society. And this society is deeply unhealthy. Learn to take your nature in all perfect beauty as it is.
'I don't want to get hurt again' is the same thing that happened to me before.To be honest, being alone doesn't mean that you have to live alone,still got your best friend and just moved on...just be yourself ☺️☺️
I’m also 27 and it’s exactly the same for me. I think society has just conditioned us to think that we have to be in a relationship, and if we don’t we are “weird” or “incomplete” and something must be missing in our lives. But I genuinely think that as long as we are happy and satisfied with our lives, there is no need to necessarily be in a relationship. If it happens and we happen to find someone then that’s wonderful, but we can live a life just as good or maybe even better by ourselves too. I personally have decided for myself that I won’t be looking for a relationship. If I happen to meet a person and we click and I could imagine sharing my life with that person, then I’d totally be willing to give it a shot, but if it doesn’t happen, I will just continue to try to make the best life for myself that I can and continue working on myself and indulging in things I’m passionate about. If we can’t be in a relationship right now, then why not try to enjoy the perks of not being in one for now? And then when the time is right, maybe someone will pop into our lives and we can meet them as the best version of ourselves ☺️
I'm also 27. My thoughts and feelings are completely and exactly the same yours. I feel like I can't find love again cause I'm so scared of getting hurt again😢
Just go for it! If it hurts a bit that will only make you stronger...and you will rock your date anyway...I will pray for your soulmate to come out to date you whereever he is!
I’ve been in one relationship and now I’m afraid to ever be in one again. I no longer trust, and the hope I had before dating is now gone. Tainted. Yes it feels good to be wanted but it’s gut wrenching when the person suddenly changes their mind. Single feels safe and I’m sad about it.
Idk you at all, but do know this, you're a beautiful woman. You date when the time is right. You seem to be a nice person. Keep your head up because nothing is wrong with you
I have the same situation like you (Given the title of this short I am 27 and never been in a relationship but the only difference is the age cause I am 29) I can say this with absolute guarantee that there are many people like us who haven't had the privilege to experience relationship primarily because of one's own insecurity or one's strict rules in the house. But let me be the one to assure you among the many that we need not fret or fume just because of lacking the experience of a legitimate relationship and people around us are having a ball of a time! There is a reason for everything and just like that if we have made it this far without anyone's help other than our family (Clearly Optional- Doesn't matter if its there are not!) cause its ultimately upon us whether we allow us to be crushed underneath the weight of sadness or allow it to strengthen us! So, that at the appropriate time we can be in a position of not just only able to look after the loved one/s but also have the adequate amount of confidence of looking after ourselves as well! There is an important life lesson which says "Learn to appreciate or love oneself!"
Oh sister. It hurts to have to be the bigger person when there's trauma in the mix. I push with my truest self and WHEN it fails I have been grateful because even though the relationship was a waste of time.. I didn't waste a minute of being me.
Whether you end up with someone or not, there is definitely nothing wrong with you. Other people aren’t what’s needed to make us whole and complete, you’re a whole complete worthy person all on your own.
I'm 30 and I've never been in a relationship. no one had ever shown any form of affection to me. i am extremely lonely. no family, dead mother, no friends. i didn't know that i was such a bad person. and makes me believe that something is wrong with me. but i must keep it together because i am a man and I'm not expected to be weak.
Shalom my brother. There’s stuff wrong with everybody. But Yah is the one that thruw His Grace and Mercy visits us and blesses us. He Is true happiness and fullfilement. But, did not made man to be alone. Seek Him with sincerity and He shall bless you ! Mutch luv bro!
Waiting to be in the right relationship is SOOO much better than being in a shitty relationship because you're lonely or you just want to be in a relationship. When the right person comes along, you won't compromise what's important to you, in your life. I've seen a lot of women compromise stuff that's important to them, or shove parts of themselves aside for a man. I feel like a man is going to have to step up to your standards instead of you dimming your light for him.
The problem is the time, as long as you wait for the prince charming or for the princess more are the possibility to be alone, and let be honest, nobody wants to be alone, is unnatural. In women case the time comes faster because her biological, to have children. Maybe the problem is to expecting or projecting too much onto the other person because nobody is perfect and accepting faults of others is a virtue. Loyalty, respect, companionship are non-negotiable qualities in a relationship, the rest is acceptable.
Damn man really at 51? How come? Did you have a girlfriend before? I just got my first handshake with a girl 2 weeks ago but not more than that. I am a 22 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before and yet to get my first kiss. 2 months ago, I tried asking out my childhood friend who is 21 turning 22 soon but she isn't that active on Instagram so she takes weeks or even a month to reply. She agreed to meet up and we even decided that we will meet some weekend but idk when exactly due to her being so inactive on IG. Since 13th July 2023, I also started going for some classes for preparation of exams to get into an MBA B School as I am pretty much done with college and I got a new crush on this girl in the class who is also 22 or maybe 23 now. She tried to initiate convo with me on that day and we did handshake too and it was the first time I did handshake with a girl. She also asks me whether I had lunch or not and yesterday she asked me some more things too about myself. I answered her all but I am still shy to initiate any further conversation with her. I wanna get to know her more but I am kinda shy. I also wanna ask her for a hug as she is really sweet and pretty but I am just not confident enough. I also had been chatting with another girl who is 19 now on Instagram. She also used to be in the same school as me but now we are in different colleges. Her college is very near to my home tho and we chat a lot daily and even send each other virtual hugs but I am nervous to ask her out too as I got rejected by 4 girls recently and she still seems to see me just as a friend. What should I do as I like this 19 year old girl, my childhood friend and also this new crush who is 22/23 year old?
I’ve been with many different women and you aren’t missing out if you already in love with yourself and happy . Tbh, a lot of people are broken and hope a relationship will “fix” them
Shes pretty, this is all perfectionism. One time I bought a homeless guy a whopper from burgerking. He took a bite and threw it on the ground. Yelling, ahhh I hate ketchup. And he just walked away all mad. You're not settling if you dont start. Theres no contrast. She needs to date a martial artist or a skateboarder. Someone not serious because shes way too serious. Like a comedian. 9/10 comedian guys are definitely single for some reason. Like Sean Astin on Stranger Things or something.
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this part of your heart with your internet friends. NOTHING is wrong with you. I understand the feeling of watching from the outside and wondering if love gets to be a part of your story, and being paralyzed with fear at the idea of getting hurt. You are an absolute gem and the people you go on dates with are beyond lucky to get to spend a bit of time with you. And yeah, horrible dates are really trauma inducing. What if you made a blind date series on your channel so we could follow along with you? If that sounds awful, I get it. Just an idea :)
Me too, Batsheva. It’s also wedding season among my friends right now and seeing another engagement announcement just makes me want to hurl. But Hashem has plans for us. Right now, we only see the back of the tapestry with it’s loose ends and disconnected colors, but the Weaver knows how everything works out. I’m sure our bashert is on their way. Soon by you!
It's all about rolling the dice sometimes. There is no way to know how you or other people will change as time goes on, so it's impossible to predict whether or not you have found the perfect person. Trust your gut as well as your heart and hope for the best. Good luck!
I'd like to add late 20's to early 30's for a woman is the best time to marry and have a family, scientifically speaking LOL. You will have beautiful, strong, and intelligent children! You are in your mid-20's, enjoy life husband-free!
@@noraaa8479 Female body fully develops by late 20's. Also gives women a chance to focus on their careers after high school and become stable with their finances by age 30.
You do know what to do, either overcome your fears, or you don’t but still throw yourself out there, or you don’t overcome them and just keep being like this
I have ptsd my self not for same reasons but my advice if you don’t want to be hurt just refrain from it but if u don’t want to live your days alone I would wait for someone to find you that’s how I can tell that’s who ur meant to be with because patience is a virtue
Just grow up like the rest of us and go through it because it's called being a part of life and things like this happen when you're in existence with people 😅. Life is about people and experiences guy's. Ergo, don't let the good one's go or never meet you because you were too scared to say hello or be open enough to let you grow into a better person because of all the good, bad, and ugly things that goes/happen in life. 🙆🤷💁
Feel you pain. I am in a similar position but am 25 and male. I am personally not religious but don’t want upset my parents. I’ve even spent thousands of pounds on date apps but no luck. My luck is so bad that my parents have dropped their ethnicity clause and just make sure their of some faith us.
i will turn 27 on 10 days and i´ve never been on a relationship too! you´re not alone ♥ sending u hugs and maybe we need more time than other people to connect w/ other beings. idk. love u and your videos are my favs ♥
@@initiatorhater0688 why do you keep posting this same comment under women who say they are in their late twenties and never been in a relationship? So what if it’s shocking?
for the longest time, i've always found cases like this shocking for women but not for guys, men, to still be single as in never been with anyone by an age like this, due to how for all time, women have always been on the receiving end of sexual attention, women being the gender that gets pursued and hit on, asked out, men normally never have women trying to come at them@@MySistersAlive
45M here, also single still. I basically took myself out of the game and I give up. Even if I was to get a girlfriend it would be too awkward since I don't know what to do and fear judgement. Also I wouldn't even enjoy it because I'd just mourn all the years I lost, especially the prime ones
You are so amazing, too amazing for who you get set up with. I hear how tough it is with your mental health. You can and will work through it. One man will come around and click with you. The right one... but you will need to be open to taking some risk. You have already taken so much risk by traveling the world and walking to the beat of your own drum, even if it has been within some boundaries of your culture and religion. I have such admiration for your courage. I think once you see how courageous you are, you will have the courage to take that next step!
The cost of love is that you have to put yourself in a vulnerable position , and there’s a chance being hurt. But you can’t do one without a possibility of the other! A broken heart is awful, but it does pass and heal eventually too. Just all a part of being a human!
There's nothing to worry about. You seem caring and genuine. It will come. I appreciate you being so forthcoming and vulnerable.
thank you dude, it will definitely come, when the time is right
@@CynicalDuchess yes I can wait my love ❤❤❤💯💯💯
You dont know if shell find someone
More lies 😂
It won't if there's a mental block.
I'm 38 and never been in relationship, never even kissed a girl
Damn man. I am a guy who turned 23 just over a month ago(on 22nd December) and I never had a girlfriend before. I had my first ever date a bit over 4 months ago at the age of 22. She was 19(turned 20 a week ago) and we went to the mall and ate in Mcdonalds and had my first hug ever from a girl but still yet to get my first kiss and I was pulling her cheeks a lot as she is really cute. 2 weeks after the date, she turned out to be mean and toxic to me and blocked me everywhere. She basically just used me for free lunch and to take lots of pics of her so she can post them on social media. For the past 6 months, I also have been crushing on this girl in the class where I go for preparation of exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college 6 months ago and planning to study MBA next. She also just turned 23 over a week ago and she has called me cute before and I pulled her cheeks twice too but I am usually shy near girls in person so she is the one who usually initiates conversations with me and its usually short as I have nothing more to say as an introvert. I do see her with some male friends so that makes me worried thinking what if she goes for either of them.
3 months ago, I went out with this another girl in that same class and she is also 23 but idk whether to count it as a date as we are just friends. We just roamed around our city and then had lunch in a big restaurant and had lots of fun. I did pull her cheeks once while taking selfie but was shy to ask for a hug. We might go out again in Feb probably. But today I got a new crush(yeah I am a mess haha) on this another girl who is also 22 or 23 in the same institute but different classrooms and she is one of the prettiest girl I have ever seen but I was again shy to approach her but I got to know her name and followed her on Instagram but she is yet to accept it and maybe then I will message her after 2-3 days but its possible that she probably has a boyfriend too. I also have been chatting with this another girl on Instagram for over 6 months. She is 19(turning 20 in April). We used to be in the same school but didn't know each other in school days and only have been knowing each other since July 2023. We are planning to meet up too and eat somewhere as we are both foodies and we send each other virtual hugs in the chats daily and she is really sweet too. But in the end I am still single.
@manosijroy8282 Bro, you’ve done more than me. You’re doing good. I’m gonna be 24 this year and have never had a girlfriend, never kissed, and, frankly, have never felt the love of a woman before. I’m pretty fit, I have a good job, and I present myself to people to be their friend and to be there for them but still nothing. I’ve only been on like 3 dates, (3 good dates). You’re doing really good.
@@manosijroy8282 seems like you are doing alot kid lol just remember girls are also humans,they are not better than you. You deserve the best too young man. Just keep putting yourself out there,never stop. I belive in you. This is coming from a woman in her 30s,so its my big sis advice❤️❤️
I can relate with that. 💔
Damn bro
I’m in the exact same boat as you. There really isn’t anything like so badly wanting to be in a relationship and not being able to. I feel you. B’ezrat HaShem, our time will come.
amen!
Are you still looking?
She could get into a relationship though. She's just choosing not to.
Guys, let me advise you all with 2 pieces of advise:
1. Don't fear going out to meet new people, find a church or club, etc or at the beach. And be open to meet new people, don't look at them funny or intimidate them or act too awkward.
2. Learn to start conversations with guys and converse with them. And towards the end, ask the number. Some guys need to be led on. Learn to send hints without being aggressive.
I was just watching a TikTok of a girl that just got into her very first relationship at 31. There were a bunch of comments of women saying that they also had never been in a relationship. It's not the end all be all and I've learned not to let the fact that "everyone" else is in a relationship bother me. I was surprised learning about the statistics of people who are in relationships only because they don't want to be alone. The goal is to be in a happy, healthy relationship. It'll happen at the right time, when you're ready, open and intentional :)
It's a lot more shocking to hear of a woman being alone or single that long than compared to a man, because women don't have to do the pursuing, or because women don't have to do the approaching or asking out like men always have
what is her tiktok username?
@@nobodysperfect06Well maybe because some of us women want to date to marry.
That's interesting and a good thing to remember... that so many people are in relationships out of fear of being alone. We should all want real love in our life and keep hope that it'll come with time 🩷🙏
I totally understand how you feel when you’re surrounded by people who are in relationships. A lot of times I enjoy going out alone but when I’m around so many couples having fun and looking so happy together I get that sense of FOMO wishing I had a partner to go on dates with and engage in different activities.
Don't worry, there's nothing wrong with you. I'm 36, and I just found my soulmate. Finding the right one can take a lifetime.
how long you been with him?
5 years
@@evangeliatounas5944 what was your dating life like before your met him?
Im 20 and I don’t wanna await til im 36, that sounds depressing asf
@@cryaboutit7499at that point it ain’t even worth it
First off. I love your channel. I’m 28 and am still a virgin and have only had one serious relationship with someone who I was not in love with.
I too, felt influenced by my religion at a young age to remain pure until marriage. I was raised Catholic and subscribed to the belief that if I was pure and was a good follower of my religion who attended worship services and did “everything right” that God would reward me with a soulmate. And honestly that is all just a fallacy of organized religion.
I too, have been on a million dates with guys who were great but I felt no solid connection with. I feel your pain.
The sad part is, there really is nothing wrong with us yet the expectations of society make us feel like there is, like we are inferior or strange when in reality we should be praised for not simply settling for convenience and convention over true, honest love and connection.
I wish that instead of being shamed, society could look to women like us as examples. For we are the ones who truly know what we are worthy of and won’t settle until we find it, no matter how much society or our religions might expect us to.
But I understand how hard it is to live in a society that doesn’t. Sending you love and positive thoughts❤
beautifully said Kristen
@@CynicalDuchess Thank you! And thank you for making such entertaining, honest, and inclusive content. Keep doing what you’re doing. You deserve an exceptional husband, don’t lose hope if it takes awhile to find him-and remember you are not alone!❤
It's good to remain pure and save sex for marriage because that's how it was meant to be. It's actually for YOUR protection. Don't feel bad about being a virgin. Having sex outside of marriage has more Cons than Pros
make sure u get worthy man who r same as u and value u...dont get a man who have some other girls in their heart or already slept with any girl
Wow as someone who was in a kind of similar situation, this is beautiful. ❤
Just wanted to say that if I met a woman who for whatever the reason hadn't been with somebody their whole life, Id say that I'd found someone with something so special! I'd feel honoured, humbled and so privileged.
When that happens for you, that man will be so lucky and will probably feel special that you saved yourself for him!
You are not alone by the way. I just turned 27 a few months ago and lost my virginity at 26 earlier this year. Had 2 sexual partners since then but still no girlfriend my entire life. My reasons were family obligations growing up, poor socialization and video game and weed addiction. I was comfortable being asocial and it was making me into a hermit who would just work and cope with depression with weed and video games. Thankfully I made lots of changes, I am being more social and I am addicted to the gym now instead of video games (lost 50 pounds) so my body is looking athletic and fit. You aren’t alone out there, us late bloomers are fairly common. Now I just gotta get my mind right and forgive myself for all the time I wasted in my adult life thus far.
Keep living your life to the fullest. Live the life you’ve always pictured for yourself and you’ll eventually run into someone who’s on your same path, who shares your interests and likes the same things as you. Sending positive vibes ❤
Honestly I do this but I'm too scared I'll be lonely for the rest of my life, everyone my age is getting married and I feel very very lonely, ashamed and sad 💔
@@rarazegh992have u heard stoicism???
nice clown fIag
I am also Jewish and I have never dated a guy. I recently turned 24 and was feeling lonely but this video made me feel less alone.
I’m 68 and never been on a blind date
Me either and I'm 23!
you deserve someone as wonderful as you 🖤
sad to see those who deserve love can't get love.
Girl don’t fret. Welcome to the club. I’m baal teshuva, 7 years sober, and didn’t get married until 27! Everyone of my close friends got married very late. We are the special diamonds that need to cook a bit longer before we can attract the spouse truly worthy of our love and our life. Hang on, keep growing, be independent, stay teachable, and build the life you want. Your man is out there and working on themselves just like you
I am 30 and I went on a dating hiatus for 8 years for similar reasons. I have started going out on dates again despite my anxiety and discomfort because I decided if I end up not finding a partner, if I end up being hurt again, I would rather look back and think “I did my part” rather than looking back and thinking “what if I wasn’t afraid?” I can’t control other peoples choices but I can control my own. Best any of us can do is make choices the we believe will bring us the life we want and let the pieces fall as they may.
you're so strong for saying that,I feel like so many people go through this but nobody has the courage to actually say it so props to you
There's more people than you think who are single in their 20s and 30s they just don't go about broadcasting it.
It's okay to wait, 27 is regular, don't worry even at 30!
27 is far from regular
I’m 31 😭😭
@@salingstuff808527-32 is the most common age group to be single, especially among men, so not sure what you’re talking about…
Hell maybe even 91
@@alonzorodriguez8878 You have lots of time. Many women have kids in their 40's!
Me, 36 and single: o_o
May God Bless you... nothing is impossible for Him
May God Bless you . Nothing is impossible for Him
I’m 24 and only ever been on one date. Never kissed a boy either! I’m glad I’m not alone!
These are the kinds of comments I should be responding to instead of replying to hate comments. No you are not alone and we are perfectly normal and thriving and romance isn’t all there is in life and it will happen when the time is right ❤️
You are not missing out on anything girl. Live your best life and find yourself a quality man!
It’s hard out there, and I can’t imagine how bad these dates have been - that’s really a bummer. I know 27 feels old, especially in the yeshivsh world, but take it from me, at 42, you have plenty of time, even if it doesn’t seem like it. I think your vulnerability in this video speaks well to your character, and I am confident you will meet someone who makes you happy. Sending you good wishes and a Shabbat shalom from Israel!
thank you Michael
same thing and am 23...am so close to marriage age and i think i dont have time for these experiences like love, dating,bf,relationships,break ups etc
@@bangtangirl8784same- tho I'll be 21 soon
Maybe marriage is not meant for you. I'm 43, highly educated, never married, no kids, not the prettiest, not the ugliest. I've desired a family of my own since I was a child. I've dated and dated. No one has been interested in anything serious. Sometimes God says no. Pray and ask Him to reveal His will for your life NOW. Don't buy into the BS of people who say, "Oh, there are plenty of fish in the sea. It'll happen when you least expect it. You just gotta put yourself out there." I've done ALL the things. Sometimes God says no and the sooner you can come to that reality, the happier you'll be. Don't fall into a delusion of hope if it's not a part of God's plan for your life. Pray and ask Him for clarity.
I believe that people have different paths in life, and for some people having many relationships isn’t the path for them. I do believe that for some there’s hundreds of people that they could be with, but I also believe that for some people they are only meant to have a few, one, or none at all. Its just the way of this lifetime. Whenever I get worried or anxious about these things I always tell myself that being my true authentic self with attract the right people to me ❤❤
TAKE YOUR TIME there is no rush. U can’t miss out on something that is meant for u. Ur person will come love
Sweetest authentic self, may we hear good news soon
I didn't realize that dating for this generation was such a problem until my 23 and 25 year old daughters told me.
Just bc everyone around is getting married and finding the one who is meant for them quicker then u doesn’t mean ull never find him. Ur a beautiful human being I’m sure Hashem has someone out there for u he’s just taking longer to get to u ❤
Staying single is the best choice i have ever made 😁
Me personally, I’ve lost all hope. Whatever people need from me, I don’t have it. All I am is a good friend to people, and nothing more. I can’t even keep an app downloaded to try dating app, because I’ve never even been on a date at 24. At least you sound like you’re more afraid than giving up on hope. Don’t quit. Trust me. It sucks to give up, and you lose yourself.
I feel the same way but I'm 23!
Be happy and healthy, young lady. Everything else is secondary.
Ive been rejected by so many girls that i have given up because theres no one for me
not true. there is someone out there for you. I believe in you, keep trying.
22 yaşındayım durum tam da öyle çünkü sosyal medya ile insanlara güven çok azaldı. Baktığın kişi aslında bambaşka biri çıkıyor, güvenemiyorsun. İletişim desen o da yok. Dilerim bir gün güvenebileceğim bir insanla tanışırım.
Hey! So, we're the same age, and I wanted to let you know that I have several friends who are in almost the exact same boat as you. They've either had bad experiences, or simply haven't (yet) met their person. Sometimes that's something they struggle with, too.
Please know that you're not alone in this - you're not 'broken' or 'lacking' or fundamentally flawed. Relationships are the kind of destination where you don't know you've arrived until you're already there. Your person, the one who makes you feel comfortable and safe enough to take the leap, is out there - they might already be close to you but you just haven't gotten to the right place yet, or they might still be on their way. Either way I'm crossing my fingers for you!
Don't focus on what goes on around you focus on what makes you happy as a person do the things you want to do because you want to do it not because of someone else.
I'm about to turn 37. I've been single 90% of my life. I NEVER have a girlfriend. It's really frustrating and disheartening. I'm decent looking, I workout, and I'm a very talented musician (guitar, drums, vocals) Yet, I see so many loser looking dudes, skinny, balding, skeevy/gross looking, with these smoking hot girlfriends. What's wrong with this world?
lolll why did CZcams shorts choose the worst image as the thumbnail LOL
they knooooowwww ahah
They do it on purpose I swear😂
30 and in the same boat. thank you for sharing. would love if you made a longer video!
You are so cute, beautiful, and chic. You are very valuable, simply because you are here on this earth. HaShem wanted you to be here. This means you are worthy of self-love, and the love of others. Your self worth is totally separate from any sense of being in a relationship. Don’t compare yourself to others, because that is a type of social pressure that really isn’t even realistic. Words don’t completely assuage the feelings of wanting to be in a relationship and not having one at the moment, of course. It is indeed difficult to stir up the courage to try again. Yet, trying again is the only way to experience the serendipitous magic that would connect you to your desired partner. You never know how you will meet someone. It may not even be through and arranged meeting. It could happen anywhere!
Imagine being 39 and dealing with this
She said dating again and at the same time she claims she did not date. WTF?
I’ve been on blind dates set up by matchmakers :). They were all pretty much one and dones. Chill my dude, eat a salad 🙏
I am almost 40 and have never dated at least once. Also I have nothing in common with anyone around my age or younger.
No one wants to get hurt. Getting into a relationship has its risks and that’s one of them.
Don't worry about this. Relationships are highly overrated by society. And this society is deeply unhealthy. Learn to take your nature in all perfect beauty as it is.
'I don't want to get hurt again' is the same thing that happened to me before.To be honest, being alone doesn't mean that you have to live alone,still got your best friend and just moved on...just be yourself ☺️☺️
I’m also 27 and it’s exactly the same for me. I think society has just conditioned us to think that we have to be in a relationship, and if we don’t we are “weird” or “incomplete” and something must be missing in our lives. But I genuinely think that as long as we are happy and satisfied with our lives, there is no need to necessarily be in a relationship. If it happens and we happen to find someone then that’s wonderful, but we can live a life just as good or maybe even better by ourselves too. I personally have decided for myself that I won’t be looking for a relationship. If I happen to meet a person and we click and I could imagine sharing my life with that person, then I’d totally be willing to give it a shot, but if it doesn’t happen, I will just continue to try to make the best life for myself that I can and continue working on myself and indulging in things I’m passionate about. If we can’t be in a relationship right now, then why not try to enjoy the perks of not being in one for now? And then when the time is right, maybe someone will pop into our lives and we can meet them as the best version of ourselves ☺️
I’ve been alone for for almost ten years and I also share that feeling of not knowing what to do or wondering what’s wrong with me.
Finally more people are talking about this... I'm 29, same story
I'm also 27. My thoughts and feelings are completely and exactly the same yours. I feel like I can't find love again cause I'm so scared of getting hurt again😢
sending so much love
same my girl
I'm 29 and never dated before
Let it come *naturally* . DON'T rush. Or you'll *regret* it.
I feel like that every day
PTSD! For real!? Lol. Theres your sign! 🤣
At least you've had a date, and getting hurt is your biggest obstacle.. I'm 33
I know its hard to walk a different path ten everyone around you, but dont worry, you are perfect the way you are
Just go for it! If it hurts a bit that will only make you stronger...and you will rock your date anyway...I will pray for your soulmate to come out to date you whereever he is!
I’ve been in one relationship and now I’m afraid to ever be in one again. I no longer trust, and the hope I had before dating is now gone. Tainted. Yes it feels good to be wanted but it’s gut wrenching when the person suddenly changes their mind. Single feels safe and I’m sad about it.
I’m a late bloomer btw
take that leap of faith girl, don't throw your youth away it's the best time to be with someone
Idk you at all, but do know this, you're a beautiful woman. You date when the time is right. You seem to be a nice person. Keep your head up because nothing is wrong with you
I have the same situation like you (Given the title of this short I am 27 and never been in a relationship but the only difference is the age cause I am 29) I can say this with absolute guarantee that there are many people like us who haven't had the privilege to experience relationship primarily because of one's own insecurity or one's strict rules in the house. But let me be the one to assure you among the many that we need not fret or fume just because of lacking the experience of a legitimate relationship and people around us are having a ball of a time! There is a reason for everything and just like that if we have made it this far without anyone's help other than our family (Clearly Optional- Doesn't matter if its there are not!) cause its ultimately upon us whether we allow us to be crushed underneath the weight of sadness or allow it to strengthen us! So, that at the appropriate time we can be in a position of not just only able to look after the loved one/s but also have the adequate amount of confidence of looking after ourselves as well! There is an important life lesson which says "Learn to appreciate or love oneself!"
I am 27 and not in a relationship. 😅 we will get there
yes!
Oh sister. It hurts to have to be the bigger person when there's trauma in the mix. I push with my truest self and WHEN it fails I have been grateful because even though the relationship was a waste of time.. I didn't waste a minute of being me.
I know the feeling, 33 and in the same boat. Feels like loving life wrong compared to everyone else
Whether you end up with someone or not, there is definitely nothing wrong with you. Other people aren’t what’s needed to make us whole and complete, you’re a whole complete worthy person all on your own.
I'm 30 and I've never been in a relationship. no one had ever shown any form of affection to me. i am extremely lonely. no family, dead mother, no friends. i didn't know that i was such a bad person. and makes me believe that something is wrong with me. but i must keep it together because i am a man and I'm not expected to be weak.
You are not a bad person! In fact, you are a very strong person. I pray you find your way soon and heal from the negative feelings. More power to you!
Shalom my brother. There’s stuff wrong with everybody. But Yah is the one that thruw His Grace and Mercy visits us and blesses us. He Is true happiness and fullfilement. But, did not made man to be alone. Seek Him with sincerity and He shall bless you ! Mutch luv bro!
Waiting to be in the right relationship is SOOO much better than being in a shitty relationship because you're lonely or you just want to be in a relationship. When the right person comes along, you won't compromise what's important to you, in your life. I've seen a lot of women compromise stuff that's important to them, or shove parts of themselves aside for a man. I feel like a man is going to have to step up to your standards instead of you dimming your light for him.
The problem is the time, as long as you wait for the prince charming or for the princess more are the possibility to be alone, and let be honest, nobody wants to be alone, is unnatural. In women case the time comes faster because her biological, to have children. Maybe the problem is to expecting or projecting too much onto the other person because nobody is perfect and accepting faults of others is a virtue. Loyalty, respect, companionship are non-negotiable qualities in a relationship, the rest is acceptable.
Don't feel bad I'm 51 and never been kissed. You eventually just learn to live with it.
Damn man really at 51? How come? Did you have a girlfriend before? I just got my first handshake with a girl 2 weeks ago but not more than that. I am a 22 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before and yet to get my first kiss. 2 months ago, I tried asking out my childhood friend who is 21 turning 22 soon but she isn't that active on Instagram so she takes weeks or even a month to reply. She agreed to meet up and we even decided that we will meet some weekend but idk when exactly due to her being so inactive on IG. Since 13th July 2023, I also started going for some classes for preparation of exams to get into an MBA B School as I am pretty much done with college and I got a new crush on this girl in the class who is also 22 or maybe 23 now. She tried to initiate convo with me on that day and we did handshake too and it was the first time I did handshake with a girl. She also asks me whether I had lunch or not and yesterday she asked me some more things too about myself. I answered her all but I am still shy to initiate any further conversation with her. I wanna get to know her more but I am kinda shy. I also wanna ask her for a hug as she is really sweet and pretty but I am just not confident enough. I also had been chatting with another girl who is 19 now on Instagram. She also used to be in the same school as me but now we are in different colleges. Her college is very near to my home tho and we chat a lot daily and even send each other virtual hugs but I am nervous to ask her out too as I got rejected by 4 girls recently and she still seems to see me just as a friend. What should I do as I like this 19 year old girl, my childhood friend and also this new crush who is 22/23 year old?
why am i not surprised that your male
I’ve been with many different women and you aren’t missing out if you already in love with yourself and happy . Tbh, a lot of people are broken and hope a relationship will “fix” them
Shes pretty, this is all perfectionism.
One time I bought a homeless guy a whopper from burgerking. He took a bite and threw it on the ground. Yelling, ahhh I hate ketchup. And he just walked away all mad.
You're not settling if you dont start. Theres no contrast. She needs to date a martial artist or a skateboarder. Someone not serious because shes way too serious. Like a comedian. 9/10 comedian guys are definitely single for some reason. Like Sean Astin on Stranger Things or something.
how you know I'm too serious?
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this part of your heart with your internet friends. NOTHING is wrong with you. I understand the feeling of watching from the outside and wondering if love gets to be a part of your story, and being paralyzed with fear at the idea of getting hurt. You are an absolute gem and the people you go on dates with are beyond lucky to get to spend a bit of time with you. And yeah, horrible dates are really trauma inducing.
What if you made a blind date series on your channel so we could follow along with you? If that sounds awful, I get it. Just an idea :)
Me too, Batsheva. It’s also wedding season among my friends right now and seeing another engagement announcement just makes me want to hurl. But Hashem has plans for us. Right now, we only see the back of the tapestry with it’s loose ends and disconnected colors, but the Weaver knows how everything works out. I’m sure our bashert is on their way. Soon by you!
I love the tapestry concept! I’m going pass it on to encourage my 26 yo youngest daughter !
Tf she’s definitely the type Everyman wants rn
Girl you’re good. You will find your person at some point ❤
It's all about rolling the dice sometimes. There is no way to know how you or other people will change as time goes on, so it's impossible to predict whether or not you have found the perfect person. Trust your gut as well as your heart and hope for the best. Good luck!
You seem pretty awesome don't worry it's coming up
I Just accepted it. At First IT hurts but it gets better with time.
Everyone journey is unique, which is why not all of us make it
I'd like to add late 20's to early 30's for a woman is the best time to marry and have a family, scientifically speaking LOL. You will have beautiful, strong, and intelligent children! You are in your mid-20's, enjoy life husband-free!
Why
@@noraaa8479 Female body fully develops by late 20's. Also gives women a chance to focus on their careers after high school and become stable with their finances by age 30.
Im sick of lying to people about myself, i truly want to fall in love with
You do know what to do, either overcome your fears, or you don’t but still throw yourself out there, or you don’t overcome them and just keep being like this
never allow pain nor fear control you
I don't believe in mutual love. I am 40 and my feelings were never answered.
I have ptsd my self not for same reasons but my advice if you don’t want to be hurt just refrain from it but if u don’t want to live your days alone I would wait for someone to find you that’s how I can tell that’s who ur meant to be with because patience is a virtue
Don't want to be hurt? I've been hurt a lot and my hearts broken at 33 so bad I want to let you know you're not missing out on much sweetie!
Don't worry, Sis! God will send the right person for you! God bless you ❤
Just grow up like the rest of us and go through it because it's called being a part of life and things like this happen when you're in existence with people 😅. Life is about people and experiences guy's. Ergo, don't let the good one's go or never meet you because you were too scared to say hello or be open enough to let you grow into a better person because of all the good, bad, and ugly things that goes/happen in life. 🙆🤷💁
never let the worth get down..u deserve worthy man
Feel you pain. I am in a similar position but am 25 and male. I am personally not religious but don’t want upset my parents. I’ve even spent thousands of pounds on date apps but no luck. My luck is so bad that my parents have dropped their ethnicity clause and just make sure their of some faith us.
i will turn 27 on 10 days and i´ve never been on a relationship too! you´re not alone ♥ sending u hugs and maybe we need more time than other people to connect w/ other beings. idk. love u and your videos are my favs ♥
more shocking for a woman to be alone this long compared to a guy since you as a woman, don't have to be the one to court a guy
@@initiatorhater0688 why do you keep posting this same comment under women who say they are in their late twenties and never been in a relationship? So what if it’s shocking?
for the longest time, i've always found cases like this shocking for women but not for guys, men, to still be single as in never been with anyone by an age like this, due to how for all time, women have always been on the receiving end of sexual attention, women being the gender that gets pursued and hit on, asked out, men normally never have women trying to come at them@@MySistersAlive
I remember from the new Thor movie. A quote that went something like:
“ i’d rather feel like shit then feel empty”
ooof I like that
Don't settle! You know what you deserve
I’ve been with so many women I can’t count and I’m miserable too. So don’t feel bad
45M here, also single still. I basically took myself out of the game and I give up. Even if I was to get a girlfriend it would be too awkward since I don't know what to do and fear judgement. Also I wouldn't even enjoy it because I'd just mourn all the years I lost, especially the prime ones
You are so amazing, too amazing for who you get set up with. I hear how tough it is with your mental health. You can and will work through it. One man will come around and click with you. The right one... but you will need to be open to taking some risk. You have already taken so much risk by traveling the world and walking to the beat of your own drum, even if it has been within some boundaries of your culture and religion. I have such admiration for your courage. I think once you see how courageous you are, you will have the courage to take that next step!
The cost of love is that you have to put yourself in a vulnerable position , and there’s a chance being hurt. But you can’t do one without a possibility of the other! A broken heart is awful, but it does pass and heal eventually too. Just all a part of being a human!
So you've either used guys or hooked up
I’m 34 and never been either. No one loves me. Oh well.
I’m 30 and I’ve never had a boyfriend either, and that is okay too 😊❤
I really appreciate and know how that feels to be so lonely to start liking it
I’m 21, haven’t kissed a girl, and I’m just giving up at this point. It is what it is boys, better luck next time I guess.