Don't Put Her Up on a Pedestal
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- Many men make the mistake of putting a woman up on a pedestal, and it often leads to heartbreak, and oneitis. If you treat her like a celebrity, she will treat you like a fan.
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Treat your woman like a concubine, she will treat you like a king. Treat your woman like a queen, she will treat you like a jester.
-Donovan Sharpe
Donavan sharpe is a big talker. He watches the bachelorette and has a below average chick. All his talk about getting with 9s and 10s is complete bs.
I was about to comment the same thing, except with peasant.
Like Patrice O'Neill said, Who is the Queen? The King's bitch!
😂😂
Concubines act like concubines. Fools act like jesters. Gold diggers dig. And so on.
Kings are worthy of Queens and vice versa. Many people are not kings or queens or princes or princesses but think they are and that's the problem.
Women want to look up to men, who show leadership and integrity.
Putting her up high, flips that role, and they don't like it.
O'SSÉIN - Master Your Mind With Me yes definitely even if woman don’t say it they want a man to look up to. For example even a feminist will lust after an alpha male.
This guy 😂😂! You are everywhere dude!!
Well said mate
@YHVH Shammah what kind of man do you pertain yourself to be?
@Amber sen it is part of his purpose maybe. He is actually adding value on every post he makes to be honest
Women want their men to be taller, stronger, faster, heavier, smarter than they are. In other words BETTER. And when you start with all that drooling about being lucky you signal her that she is better and she is settling with some loser. How do you think it makes her feel?
In other words, you treat her as it's your biological imperative to protect and love your partner, and you are paving the way to divorce. Honestly, why the fuck even bother with modern women.
@Hugh Jargon What is this incel bullshit with taking rights away and banning women? What's wrong with women wanting better, wanting quality men? Women have standards and so are men. When you raise your SMV you can also get smarted, hotter, slimmer women.
@@Laurius57 The issue with the "increase" to women's "rights" is that it gives opportunity to raise their status in society. (No prob, on the face of it). This raises an issue when on average men don't really care what status a woman is, if they're simply nice to be around and attractive to them and give a little respect.
On the other hand women *do* discriminate based on a man's status - on average they don't wanna go "beneath" themselves, only equal or higher, with no upper limit on how high. Probably why it's mainstream still, to mock the "stay at home dad".
With women entering the workplace and so on, it created more potential for males to be deemed "low status" and more opportunities to be out of the league of X girl.
Couple that with the already inflated ego women have due to media narrative/social media and all the rest. It isn't like the loyalty rate of women goes up to 100% as long as you earn more green than they do, and do your best to do right by them, is it?
And a fun side note that arguably has fucked every common person, male or female alike : is wage growth crawled to a halt since the 70's because it turns out doubling the potential workforce of the population is a phat bargain for big business :}
Demand went down, and cut to 2019 we have to suck dick in the *hopes* of landing a job, and then keeping it. It's held over our heads that we are easily replaced, so you better not slack one bit, bucko, etc.
Before then it was not uncommon to be able to actually live on a single income household. Dual income now feels mandatory for the majority of us.
I dunno about you, it's just anecdotes but most women I've chatted to, give off a very frequent air of "I hate that I have to do this job" and unhappiness/anxiety etc that comes with feeling that way on a regular basis. Sure they feel independent nontheless, but seem to be hating a fair bit of it.
And we call that a gain in rights, or freedoms? heh
I'd venture to guess that despite putting on a brave face, there's so many women who'd be tons happier if they could drop that shit tomorrow and have a guy take care of them.
I have actually witnessed this first hand. I was talking to a girl and things were going pretty well, but as soon as I canceled other plans for her it was like a switch flipped. She was no longer interested.
Never cancel plans for a woman.
That's exactly what happened to my brother!
Does this apply also to situations where you try to bring plans together? Situation like this: I was planning to visit my (now ex) girlfriend. Then my friends and I wanted to visit a friend in the hospital later that day. The logistics were very complicated, but i figured out a way that would work to get to see my girlfriend and the trip to the hospital. But here's the catch: I told her of course about the hospital thing, which would happen AFTER our time together and she seemed to dislike that I tried to bring plans together. She would constantly say something like: If its too complicated, just go with your friends and we see each other next week." If the hospital plan had been made before my plan to meet my gf, I would ve of course chosen my friends, but in this situation I managed to get both, but she wasn't too pleased so it seemed... Is this comparable? To clarify, she almost insisted to not see me that day. Is this loss of interest because I wanted to see her although it was complicated to do? Does this count as pedestal? I did not pick her over my friends. Sometimes it seems to me that all effort towards women will be punished. ( Perhaps it had nothing to do with the hospital plan anyway, so I am excited to hear your opinions)
@@teefleck3774 maybe it would have been better if you didn't tell her you planned something without her. But idk..
@@teefleck3774 Dude listen to what you wrote...
"she almost insisted to not see me that day. Is this loss of interest because I wanted to see her although it was complicated to do?"
Did it ever cross your mind that she "pieced" YOU together as being a NICE GUY (when you were actually being kind, considerate and accommodating), in her little female brain she saw that as being beta and weak, while she was making plans with the bad boy who was going to have her every which way but loose!!! STUDY uncle Rich's material and move on!
@@firsthealth9080 Okay, to clarify even further: She was seventeen,I was her first boyfriend, first kiss, first everything. She had horse riding lessons at that day (which I spend watching as planned) and afterwards I went to her home with her. She definetly had no bad boy waiting, I can assure you that. @she "pieced" YOU together as being a NICE GUY" . That's what I am trying to figure out, I study Rich's stuff and other for years now and I absolutly dont act like a nice guy in dating. But I am also not considerably mean or "selfish" when everything is peaceful and going as I wish it to go. Sometimes I have the feeling, that I have to be more asshole like even when its not necessary... And thats just stupid in my opinion. But is it necessary?! Thats something I never really heard people talk about, what to do, if everything is just fine - do women respect me when there is no need to stand my man, no need to show alpha traits? In my example I had my way, because I was stubborn and got to see her AND my friends. No problems. Nor did I agree with her on every occasion, I smacked her ass but I am also very tender and enjoy it, maybe women take even that as weakness, when its really not.. That makes me angry, because she was a little feminist ( yaya I know I know) and even talked against ,Objectifying, women, but enjoed the ass smacking. Here is the thing: I had always on my mind - if there is drama or nagging or a fight, I will stand my man, I wont reward disrespect ect, but there was almost no such situations, so I wasn't necessarily searching for it, but I still have the feeling that too much harmony will lead to women thinking that I am too soft. Well, maybe she was just immature as fuck, like many of my friends said and many actions were but I try to reflect and take responsability. Thx for the answers
Yep in the UK we say: "Treat them Mean. Keep them Keen"
Common saying in Australia too.
It’s about to become common in Canada too
"treat em like dirt, and they stick like mud"
Unfortunately Men have lost their ability too do that .
The pendulum has swung the otherway totally back 50 years ago Men would be walking 5 steps steps ahead cigarette in hand wife is pushing the pram dealing with kids , nowdays the wife is 5 steps ahead phone in her hand and Men are pushing pram and carrying the bags
Last week I got into trouble dropping some REDPILL truths on two betas . They got really offended and it almost ended in a fist fight.
Lmao dang😃
I tried to tell a college roommate that Sweet Suzi Cream Cheese was not going to date him. 18 months later she showed up at a party where he happened to be and she left with someone else. That ended the friendship.
sad and true!
Ah man you nearly had the opportunity to knock some sense into the frail and lost.
A fistfight they definitely would have lost I'm sure, I don't think betas know how to fight
No celebrity worship from me...
Basic respect= yes.
Worshipping= BIG turn off.
This man spills the truth.
Make them earn your attention and respect. Don’t just pass it out like it’s a piece of candy which so may guys do nowadays. By the way Rich I love the content your making. Keep up the good work brother 👍
There is this co worker I know who is always posting photos of his gf saying how amazing she is and how lucky he is to have her its disgusting. It comes off very weak
...especially to the other guy she is probably banging.
You have helped me waaaay more than my therapist. I just subscribed & you know what? It's forever until my phone gets destroyed.
CZcams is accessible on laptops or you could just get a new phone lol
Also, you won't be unsubscribed even if your phone gets destroyed.
I was in the middle of drinking some vitamin water and choked laughing when Richard said if you treat her like a celebrity she'll treat you like a fan.
Too many women saying men should put them on a pedestal, and then penalizing men for it? Sounds about "right." Appreciate you giving some perspective on this.
If you take your advice about women, from women, you're gonna have a bad time.
For a time, I thought they might be able to at least get that right. 😉
Women know women and they hate each other.
It's why women are terrible decision makers all together. That's why they love competent men with direction. They want to follow , they want to be shut down and they want to be submissive. Confidence wins women over. Not anything else
neuromancer9k never listen to women. They don't know what they want. They are looking for men to lead, not listen to them. If you listen to them, they will treat you like crap as a result.
A guy told me once ,” I skipped the gym to see you.” I told him I’d much rather him not skip the gym because it’s hot when a man takes care of himself.
He also kept talking about how tired he is from work . This man has no kids and isn’t doing a business on the side after work . My parents raised 16 children and I’ve ever heard my alpha father say he’s tired. He’s a real man that’s why. There’s a reason why I’m not attracted to weak men. I watched my father work hard and be strong and raise us kids with no complaining!
The worst thing a man can say is this , “Anythjng for you! “
That’s a man trying to impress me and I’d rather him not do that.
But 16 children!!!
NWA1 read my message!! Only if he has a business on the side is he allowed to ever be tired- understood? When did I say he should have a business on the side? Stop making up crap. Thank you
Subha Dutta yep! And I am the second born . I helped raise all my siblings and I worked with my dad on weekends as a young lady .
In other words you don't want men to impress you. You prefer men who treat you like shit. There are plenty of them out there. That's why you will be single for life. A man who does not impress you have basically told you that you ain't worthy of his time.
stevo Stevo You will later find out that she’s very right! I’m a male nurse. 99% of my acquaintances are women. She’s right.
yeah, i am 100 percent of guilty of that. Need to change, thanks for the advice!
At least you are up front with yourself about it. Now go take action.
@@jayd5354 u legend 😎
Shame on you!
@@jayd5354 how to do an action?
Fk that! Been there, done that! Catering to a woman and putting them on a pedestal leads to misery.
Pedestal a woman and it’ll cost you your self respect...
The truth is this doesn't apply to just women it just occurs more often with them and everyone is inherently attracted to a partner that challenges them - it's actually evolutionary, someone that challenges you will also help keep you out of danger
Male celebrities aren't attracted to their female fans that literally melt at their feet and don't treat them like people
Great message! It made me think of the act of “liking” a girl’s photo on Instagram: Don’t like every single photo and don’t leave gushing comments of praise.
As a metaphor:
Imagine you were a baker.
Your cakes are superb. There is no Cherry on the very top.
Your cake is as good as a cake could ever get. It is awesome without a cherry. It is so good that all cherries out there would want to be the one single cherry on top of your cake.
This is what women are. Your life, your empire, your mission is the cake. It's phenomenal without a cherry. Your life and you are phenomenal without a single woman.
Dont run around in search for the cherries. Focus on the cake. The cherries will follow and be there eventually.
In other words: never give a woman all the energy of your life. She will dry you out and destroy you. If you happen to be in search for cherries all the time you will never even have a cake to begin with. And then no cherries either since they need the cake in the first place. At the end of the day/week you can share what's left of your energy once you have done your stufd. Your woman will love you for that. She will appreciate your effort and the time you give her.
Men and women both need to do that.
@@jeanettapocius2286 Shut up
@@joseaguilar6437 Why? It's the truth.
This is very true, even from a woman's point of view. The state of men at the moment is so bad that a few years ago I was that cake. I didn't even want a cherry because I thought it would spoil the cake. But then I met a cherry.
The use of cherry as your metaphor is perfect and well-chosen.
Yup, I learned this the hard way. Putting a woman on a pedestal puts her in the position to look down on you.......from that pedestal
You are 100 percent right! I want a man to look up to, someone I can admire and learn from. I love that my husband is competent and driven. There’s nothing more unattractive than a needy man who worships me...this emasculates him! No thanks!
Wheres my male unicorn? Lol
keep this up, short gems
In his 73rd year a friend, raised by a single mother, ruined every relationship by striving so hard, asking repeatedly do you like----first time ok---third time----maybe not----10th time in 6 minutes--not good enough. He learned too late in life, go with the first answer---a good woman is comfortable to be with. Unfortunately death took him shortly after making the discovery that he should have learned 60 years ago.. At least he had three months of comfortable companionship.
Treating a woman as if she's better than you is a fool-proof way to get her to believe that she's better than you.
Thanks Rich. These quick videos are great for the quick reminder. We all need that quickie.
Women give attention to the men who ignore them but ignore the men who give them attention. Understand this concept and you will succeed.
*attractive men who ignore them.
Let's not get it twisted. Make sure there's a foundation of attraction first before guys go asking 'why does this not work?!!'
@@DrsJacksonn ofc but that's pretty common sensical that not everyone will be attracted to you lol.
That was mi mistake, regardless what I did to please her I was never enough. Play that game 10 year's.
This is really insightful. Thank you for the video Rich!
Since finding this channel I have become the best version of myself. Thank you man!
love the length of these vids. Thanks so much😎👍
She decides how she will treat u the two first seconds she meets u. Thinking u can change that is cocky and immature
..and in vain.
Thank you Sir. You’re throwing pearls here.
Treat them like dirt and they'll stick to you like mud
Another great video !! I love the advice Richard gives...always valuable.
So much I have to learn, and so much I have to undo. So daunting!
Another great video Rich!
Such a great quote!
Great video. Thank you for sharing. I really needed to hear this.
If you treat her like a Queen she'll treat you like a Subject.
Coop deserves million subscribers. Much respect to you coop.
As always, right on it. Again.
So true, made this mistake many times - it's also irreversible, once you fuck it up you gotta move on
Your advices are priceless..
God bless you my brother from another mother..
Good word, brother.
Thank you brother from another mother. 👍🏻
Great video
side note: you are glowing Rich! 💕
Great , Great advice in under 5 minutes .
Yet another solid chain of advice. Share share share share share
Praising a woman and putting her on a pedestal aren’t the same thing
Richard I went through a very tough breakup 3 months ago and I wanted to just say how much you’ve helped me. As a 24 year old with serious ambitions in my career and being an entrepreneur, you’ve made me realise how my ex not valuing my drive to succeed was a huge red flag. Thanks for your videos and keep up the great work. By far one of the best channels out there
Big up from Toronto
Treatem mean
Keepem keen is the way to go
Thanks Richard
It's easy to slip up every now and then, so good timing in this video.
One thing I’ve noticed is that when a man is willing to do almost anything for a woman upfront: she either treats like a leper or sadly she’ll take his wallet for a ride. I say Don’t be too available. too eager to please. For most women I know it’s a huge turn off. Unless she’s like minded and is willing to re-arrange her schedule for you, don’t do it for her. Oh! and even if you are free.. don’t be that “last minute man,” you’re not there to cure her boredom. Side note: if she’s never on time. She doesn’t respect yours! and vice versa
Love your video! And I’m subscribed !💪
Peace from France and Luxembourg !
Truths, straight from the four ringed pulpit!
I’m a woman and it’s interesting to see men’s prospective on things
Yes. Basic but worth always remembering
Excellent quote
Solid Knowledge.
Mate, you are so right!
good points.
You're one of the few coaches that is very eloquent and concise. You cut out the bollocks and go straight to the point. What you advise is always logical and factual. Great wealth of knowledge in womens behaviour.
Great video. And all true.
The only time I let these creatures open their mouth and i stay for 2 sec to compute that another human is trying to communicate is at work, because i have to. FULL MONK MODE! I left that on my will to my family to portray on my tombstone! No joke!
Right on!
Me: ...
Her: I lost weight because you stress me out so much!
1 week later...
Her: I gained weight because you stress me out so much!
Me: 🤷♂️
This is very true and a good lesson to learn. A more interesting discussion would be “why do men treat women like celebrities in 2019?”
Real talk my son. Real talk.
This a good one
Oddly my ex, who left me for an office colleague after nearly 20 years, used to tell me I did this and she didn't like it. I obviously learnt the hard way, the consequences of mistakes I made but you're spot on with this.
This is so true. I'm at a new job and while all these dudes at my job give so much attention to some decent looking chicks at work. I see these girls orbiting me quite frequently as if to give me an opening. I havent and dont plan on making a move because I'm a huge believer in not messing around at work. I must note that I'm teased all the time by the guys since I'm apperantly not "alpha" for not talking these women up.
My rule also but i usually say " I don't shit where I eat" or don't look for the honey where you make the money is what the ladies says
Sooooo true!!!!!!!!!!!
The higher you put her on a pedestal the lower she'll look down on you
I wanted to take the time to thank you. I avoided two trainwrecks by focusing on myself.
I began dating a Latina who turned out to be a failed entrepreneur who kept asking for money and even tried to get me to let her move in (we've been dating and talking for 3 weeks). When I said no, she went quiet and within a couple of days revealed on social media she found her true *"king"* and even though it's rushed she's happy to be living with this new guy. I found out today she's been arrested before for robbing others. Beta provider is gonna be in quite the surprise when they come home to possibly find their shit pawned off.
The other was with a busty blonde PAWG with daddy issues. I've been remodeling my home which has been quickly becoming a hobby. I also work full time. I've been dating her longer and she recently revealed that even though we started to become intimate, she wasn't feeling that romantic spark. She usually texts first and before this, began to complain that I wasn't messaging her first. I told her that I was wanting a relationship but with the right person and I wasn't going to jump in something, and that I've been testing out my options and let her know we can still kick it, but at this point just as friends. She agreed that she still wants me in her life. Her mom who is chronically single, acts very much so like her. Her father is a millionaire with his own business (she works for him) and is married to a woman younger than her mom. She resents him, and this shows she does not value masculinity and is why she couldn't form that spark (she wanted to be the center of my world which was never going to happen).
Being on your purpose creates a filter in which you can weed out incompatible women.
Subscribed.
So right 👀
Man your so right
Truth!!!
The more I watch your videos, the more I feel like driving my car around. LMAO
Nuggets of truth
The REAL takeaway from this video is how Rich reacts to concrete evidence of the CZcams overlords censoring this channel. Lesser men either see it as victimisation, an opportunity to complain and act defensive, or a confirmation of their false sense of notoriety and infamy. However, he just cooly acknowledges it and continues plowing ahead. Real man shit.
Richard your content is truth. Well done my friend. Curious if you have any truth bombs when it comes to dating widows. Forgive me if you have already made a video on this topic.
If I’ve treated my wife like a celebrity, can I undo this?
I am soooo guilty of doing this on the title.
Yup! The pedestal is a lonely place. They will jump off it and leave.
We are such weird animals. Primitive tribal primate mammals.
I think I'm just done playing ALL of the games that go with personal interactions with women. I am done trying to decipher their moods, done walking on eggshells around them and fucking done with their excuses. I'll treat women like any other human being but if they want to be catty and demure, they can go to hell.
Fuck, this video came right on time! I appreciate it Rich, you have no damn clue how "on time" this video is right now. I almost didn't realize I was being pursuaded, subtlety. I became a sucker again. You're right, we do need to be reminded from time to time or take another red pill to snap out of it.
When I see “How to pass a man’s shit tests” on the cover of the women’s magazines, I know we men have achieved equality!
How many times did I make this mistake??? Too damn many!!!
Missed BTT this week 💔
That is a good insight, how about just walking away from the game all together.
I know from experience this is 100 percent true. I had about 5 women in my life who were super into me, doing all of the pursuing and initiating, etc. And, being my blue pill self, I idiotically flipped the dynamic by suddenly letting them know how I felt and my feelings toward them and sometimes even bought them gifts-most of them did not even accept the gifts. They basically went from hot to cold or even freezing. And this was with women ranging from 19 late teens all the way to late 30s and it always sires the same result for me: no ass-regardless of their age, nationality, or station in life.
From this point forward, no more of this blue pill crap from me-I really mean it, as it just ruins me and hurts me bad(breaks my heart since I am genuinely a nice guy) even though I know it is not the smart thing to do sometimes I cannot help it. Deep down, no matter how pretty a woman is, almost all of them are insecure and innately do not feel they deserve to be treated well, as one of those 5 women actually told me so. It is a fucking bizarre world we live in, but as God as my witness fellas, this video is so on point and my statement is completely and honestly true and anyone who doubts me, then go ahead and try to treat the woman you're besotted with like a queen and see what happens.
how has it been since?
@@kingshanethe1st better man thanks for asking. i make tons of mistakes but learn from them. as the saying goes: insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results.
Damn bro! That's some very powerful talk right there. I was watching your going bald video the other day and guess who's bald now? Anyway, Thanks for coming across my timeline. Great work.
On point, wish I knew this red pill stuff after my last relationship, probably would have went a whole lot better! Always attract as an alpha and slip into beta as the relationship progresses! Not anymore breaking through my programming/indoctrination! On a better path now, thank you for your work so much Rich, you and Rollo have helped me grow tremendously over the last 6 months
Just about finished with your recommend reading list. Do you have anymore books to recommenced?
Love your content, did you listento Patrice O’Neal back in the day? A lot of the stuff you talk about is right out of his playbook.
Yessss...
Can you Do a video on habits?