Sorry to hear about your relapse and - at the same time - admire the honesty and strength you've shown in putting this video together. Best of luck with the counselling - look forward to seeing your updates on that. Cheers!
Morning Trevor, many many thanks for your kind message and support. Counselling starts tonight so will post an update video as soon as possible. Thanks again - Phil
The access to a few quid when you've had a couple of beers is lethal Phil - I'm the same. Chin up mate, onwards and upwards....its a blip. Long term you'll smash it I can see it in you, looks like you've also got great support as well - fair play for admitting it to yourself....and us !! Steve
Thanks Steve, really appreciate your comment and your support mate. Hopefully some good can come out of this. Thanks again for your comment and for watching the videos. Like you say, onwards and upwards - Phil
I really appreciate your honesty here Phil , you didn’t have to do this so very brave and honest of you . Yes disappointing to see you have relapsed as you did seem to have gotten over the urges and seemed to be very in control.. but I’ve been where you are and it’s a scary thing how the addiction can suddenly catch you off guard . For me there is so many things that trigger a gambling urge it scares the shit out of me and your right what you said that you can never be complacent! I’m still battling myself mate , signed up to gamstop 7or8 weeks ago .. first 4 weeks I was fine then it hit me that I needed to gamble so I’ve found a way around gamstop, my addiction the green devil found it for me it’s crazy so I’m back gambling online again 😩
Hi Mr Ronald, Thanks so much for your reply (and sorry for my delayed response, I wanted to reply properly but I was too tired/drunk/at work yesterday!). Well done for abstaining for 4 weeks, I really don't want to sound patronising but that really shows that you can do it! I wish you all the best in your recovery and keep me updated as to how you're getting on. Thanks again for your kind words - Phil
Very interesting and educational Phil. I had a relapse after a year of abstinence a few weeks ago. I confided in my boss as he is a recovering alcoholic and we relate though addiction which is ultimately the same thing whatever form it takes. I did not ask for money, but he gave me a few quid anyway to make up what I lost. Amazingly he made is a condition for me not to tell my wife so as not to upset her or lose confidence as I did so well. He did make me reinstate the self-exclusions though. As it happens my wife knew anyway but I think we are lucky to have such amazing bosses. Enjoying and relating to your videos. Keep up the great work.
Stumbled across these videos at 4.00 am this morning as couldn't sleep. Now watched about 5 videos and found all very relatable. I always mess up and have a very supportive wife, however now at 46 years of age I have had enough of this insanity. Keep up the good work, there is so much work to do to help yourself and other gamblers.
FairPlay mate for the honesty it’s a big step forward and it’s nothing to be ashamed of at all in anyway…..your back on track again and that’s what really counts 👍
Hi i have only just come across your videos, i get paid approx 1400, per month. i give my partner a measly 550 for house keeping. She works on saturdays and i gamble, i always feel sick when i pick her up from work. Because she works hard and is usually very tired. i am wanting to quit, as i have lost all my wages in the first few days of the month. And also gone overdrawn 200, i am in the process of barring my self from Bet365, as we speak, text, i am 17th in the que. Fingers crossed i can control my gambling.
I just got sick and tired of it. I gamble now and again if I am in a service station and I'm bored, but the days of me going to bookies and playing these horrible machines for any period of time or financial aim are over. IT HAS TO COME FROM WITHIN. Accept that even if you win, at best its a loan until you lose it again. Accept that even if you win, all it does is fuel the belief this is a positive and viable thing to do. Sooner or later you know this habbit only leads to you losing your money and feeling terrible. Just take up golf, or metal detecting, pan for gold, get into extreme camping, do something else with the money, time and emotions, because you know where that road leads.
Hey Phil mate what a story I mean I’m in a horrible position mentally myself just lost over 600 pound online and the hangover likeylu said when you wake up and realise you have no money on your account and begging to borrow mkney from people and lying why I need it it’s horrible I can’t carry on I wanan stop for good and will watch your videos and can talk to you maybe it can help via social media or something stay strong mate and I have subscribed too
Bro Me too I hate online poker. I never ever again Why tv shows Ivey and others billionaire players. Its fake all fake. Poker online poker is gambling as well.
You're not alone. I did it again last night myself after a good drink. Had a bit of a breakdown and woke up with a hangover and now feel worse than I already did. Gambling and depression just arent a good mix but it's like an escape for me
I subscribed I appreciate your videos the struggle off overcoming this addiction is really hard especially all The money I have lost and chances I have blown I’m from Australia and there are pokies everywhere I wish I could stay away but it’s very challenging
Sorry to hear this Phil.... You've done all the right things in the aftermath.. Keep talking bud.. Oddly when I was due to go to counselling many moons ago, I too relapsed, I put it down to the relief that I was due to finally understand the root cause of the addiction, so as a result of this relief I went and rewarded myself with gambling and maybe what I thought at the time would be a final goodbye.. Anyhow stay strong bud and chin up mate.. Like I said you've done everything you can.. Shake yourself off and start a fresh.. Agreed its not your wife's issue as we need that trust back.. However no more card to Phil from Mrs Phil for a while hey.
Thanks GS (as you shall forever be knows until I actually remember your name...sorry!). You may well be right about the counselling, maybe I saw something positive and either, subconsciously, didn't see the harm in 'one last go' or I fell into a bit of a false sense of security. Like I said in the video, it's obviously a negative but it can also be a lesson and I really hope that my experience can help at least one person not to make the same mistake. Thanks for your comment - Phil
Hi Katie, thankyou so much for your response. I, too, am at work at the moment so will reply or drop you a message properly later. Thanks for your support - Phil xx
The sad thing and it’s the same for all of us when we’re gambling addicts you can talk on here upload blogs but 70% of the brain is still thinking about having a gamble even tho we’re saying we’re gonna stop hope your ok mate keep ya chin up
Yup, totally agree. It's all about reprogramming your brain. I'm about 5 months in now and it's definitely getting easier. Definitely have to stay alert though. Thanks for commenting. If you haven't already, I'd love it if you would subscribe. All the best - Phil
My psych told me you shouldn't beat yourself up when something like this happens. Your human and humans make mistakes. The best part is that we can forgive ourselves and move forward having been made stronger for the future.
I had a relaspe this week but put gam stop in place today now l think l covered also barred from casinos , I was gamble free for 3 months very angery with myself very supid
Hi Mara, thanks for your comment. I'm glad GA worked so well for you and hope you're recovery is going well. Thanks for watching and please subscribe if you haven't already. All the best, Phil
Thanks for making this hones video. I know it has been a while since. But one thing that strikes me is that before it went wrong, you were watching your friends play the slot machines. Maybe that was part of the problem that caused you to fall back? I know for sure that if I watch video's on CZcams about online gambling it increases my urges. Do your friends know you have a gambling problem? If so, they shouldn't be playing the fruit machines when they are with you in the pub.
Know you may not see this because its a long time ago I watch your videos I need to eliminate this triangle as after 3 days of bank blocking and I struggle because I sort out our finances
I relapsed again losing $3500. I keep saying this is it but I keep going to the casino. I’m tired of it. I looked at my saving account and It upsets me. Beginning of January I had $54k and today I have $44k😤😤
I relapsed after a month...but instead of I wanna kill myself like usual, now I wanna fix myself...i was going to and my friend hung himself the night b4 i planned my death. So I didn't go through with it (was biting the bullet the night b4 drunk and wondering how it would taste when it smashed into my mouth) but seeing the pain his death caused made me realized that it was not the way. I use to hate myself, now I hate our sickness we all have that controls us...we can do this. It's only money we'll make more,lost a wife/husband hey fresh action, even if homeless and hungry we have a chance to eat/get a home tomorrow. Took five friends dying from cancer,car crash, and cancer in a short time for me to realize this finally. In the end its just money, we are alive to fight this shit another day, that is a gift...we are quitting gambling NOW and our last bet is to put all in on living, cuz that's the biggest jackpot we are gonna WIN. I'M STRUGGLING, WE ARE STRUGGLING...our brains are different, we're fighting to be normal like how a non smoker feels all the time after a smoker only feels after smoking. Gambling is a cancer, we gamble to feel normal knowing it kills us like smokers when we light up...I just want to be normal like everyone else : /
Hi Kit, thank you so much for sharing your experience. I'm really pleased to hear that you chose the right option. If I can do this (and 5 months so far says I can) then anyone can. Look, I'm really not the guy to speak to if you ever have suicidal thoughts (the Samaritans are amazing for that) but I hope my videos help in some small way. All the best, you can do this - Phil
The only thing certain in gambling is relapse. If anyone was ever serious about stopping you would never ever have access to any form of money you would give complete and ultimate control to someone else.
Sorry but I disagree. Very few people quit gambling without any lapses (or relapses) but it isn't inevitable. Handing over access to money is a powerful tool when quitting but it doesn't have to be forever (nor is it practical to be). Once other blocks are sufficient then access to money is essential, not as a 'test' but as a means by which to live a ''normal' life. My wife can access my accounts so can see what I'm spending but I now have access to the accounts knowing that I'd be found out very quickly if I was gambling.
Ask your banks to set limits on ATM withdrawals. That can restrict your access to cash. Disallow cash advances on credit card. You can buy just about everything everywhere with a card so you don’t need to carry much cash anyway.
Problem is people get out control gamble all their income that's foolish get handle on how much of income you gamble dont over do it and you will be ok
Can you control how much you bet 10% of your weekly income so if you make 1000 you can gamble 100 if make 2000 you can gamble 200 3000 300 4000 400 5000 500 never bet more then 10% of your income and you can gamble safely but more then that your asking for big problems and olny gamble once a week tops
Sorry to hear about your relapse and - at the same time - admire the honesty and strength you've shown in putting this video together. Best of luck with the counselling - look forward to seeing your updates on that. Cheers!
Morning Trevor, many many thanks for your kind message and support. Counselling starts tonight so will post an update video as soon as possible. Thanks again - Phil
Thank u for sharing this Phil . proud to support this channel . Much love from Nova Scotia ❤
The access to a few quid when you've had a couple of beers is lethal Phil - I'm the same. Chin up mate, onwards and upwards....its a blip. Long term you'll smash it I can see it in you, looks like you've also got great support as well - fair play for admitting it to yourself....and us !! Steve
Thanks Steve, really appreciate your comment and your support mate. Hopefully some good can come out of this. Thanks again for your comment and for watching the videos. Like you say, onwards and upwards - Phil
I really appreciate your honesty here Phil , you didn’t have to do this so very brave and honest of you . Yes disappointing to see you have relapsed as you did seem to have gotten over the urges and seemed to be very in control.. but I’ve been where you are and it’s a scary thing how the addiction can suddenly catch you off guard . For me there is so many things that trigger a gambling urge it scares the shit out of me and your right what you said that you can never be complacent! I’m still battling myself mate , signed up to gamstop 7or8 weeks ago .. first 4 weeks I was fine then it hit me that I needed to gamble so I’ve found a way around gamstop, my addiction the green devil found it for me it’s crazy so I’m back gambling online again 😩
Hi Mr Ronald, Thanks so much for your reply (and sorry for my delayed response, I wanted to reply properly but I was too tired/drunk/at work yesterday!). Well done for abstaining for 4 weeks, I really don't want to sound patronising but that really shows that you can do it! I wish you all the best in your recovery and keep me updated as to how you're getting on. Thanks again for your kind words - Phil
Very interesting and educational Phil. I had a relapse after a year of abstinence a few weeks ago. I confided in my boss as he is a recovering alcoholic and we relate though addiction which is ultimately the same thing whatever form it takes. I did not ask for money, but he gave me a few quid anyway to make up what I lost. Amazingly he made is a condition for me not to tell my wife so as not to upset her or lose confidence as I did so well. He did make me reinstate the self-exclusions though. As it happens my wife knew anyway but I think we are lucky to have such amazing bosses. Enjoying and relating to your videos. Keep up the great work.
Stumbled across these videos at 4.00 am this morning as couldn't sleep. Now watched about 5 videos and found all very relatable. I always mess up and have a very supportive wife, however now at 46 years of age I have had enough of this insanity. Keep up the good work, there is so much work to do to help yourself and other gamblers.
FairPlay mate for the honesty it’s a big step forward and it’s nothing to be ashamed of at all in anyway…..your back on track again and that’s what really counts 👍
Just came across your videos great advice and great support u give us all, it’s a long road ahead of us all but we can do this.
Hi Darren, Many thanks for your kind comment and for your support. All the best to you too - Phil
Loving these videos Phil
Hi i have only just come across your videos, i get paid approx 1400, per month. i give my partner a measly 550 for house keeping. She works on saturdays and i gamble, i always feel sick when i pick her up from work. Because she works hard and is usually very tired. i am wanting to quit, as i have lost all my wages in the first few days of the month. And also gone overdrawn 200, i am in the process of barring my self from Bet365, as we speak, text, i am 17th in the que. Fingers crossed i can control my gambling.
I just got sick and tired of it.
I gamble now and again if I am in a service station and I'm bored, but the days of me going to bookies and playing these horrible machines for any period of time or financial aim are over.
IT HAS TO COME FROM WITHIN.
Accept that even if you win, at best its a loan until you lose it again.
Accept that even if you win, all it does is fuel the belief this is a positive and viable thing to do.
Sooner or later you know this habbit only leads to you losing your money and feeling terrible.
Just take up golf, or metal detecting, pan for gold, get into extreme camping, do something else with the money, time and emotions, because you know where that road leads.
Hey Phil mate what a story I mean I’m in a horrible position mentally myself just lost over 600 pound online and the hangover likeylu said when you wake up and realise you have no money on your account and begging to borrow mkney from people and lying why I need it it’s horrible I can’t carry on I wanan stop for good and will watch your videos and can talk to you maybe it can help via social media or something stay strong mate and I have subscribed too
Bro Me too
I hate online poker. I never ever again
Why tv shows Ivey and others billionaire players.
Its fake all fake. Poker online poker is gambling as well.
I lost 25K USD
Its all of my private money
My salary is 800USD per month
Bravo myself...
You're not alone. I did it again last night myself after a good drink. Had a bit of a breakdown and woke up with a hangover and now feel worse than I already did. Gambling and depression just arent a good mix but it's like an escape for me
I subscribed I appreciate your videos the struggle off overcoming this addiction is really hard especially all The money I have lost and chances I have blown I’m from Australia and there are pokies everywhere I wish I could stay away but it’s very challenging
Hi Paul, welcome to the channel and thanks for your comment - All the best in your recovery - Phil
Great video mate been there a hundred times
Thanks mate and thanks for watching - Phil
Honesty is important in addiction recovery, the next best thing after staying clean is owning up to it !
Sorry to hear this Phil.... You've done all the right things in the aftermath.. Keep talking bud.. Oddly when I was due to go to counselling many moons ago, I too relapsed, I put it down to the relief that I was due to finally understand the root cause of the addiction, so as a result of this relief I went and rewarded myself with gambling and maybe what I thought at the time would be a final goodbye.. Anyhow stay strong bud and chin up mate.. Like I said you've done everything you can.. Shake yourself off and start a fresh.. Agreed its not your wife's issue as we need that trust back.. However no more card to Phil from Mrs Phil for a while hey.
Thanks GS (as you shall forever be knows until I actually remember your name...sorry!). You may well be right about the counselling, maybe I saw something positive and either, subconsciously, didn't see the harm in 'one last go' or I fell into a bit of a false sense of security. Like I said in the video, it's obviously a negative but it can also be a lesson and I really hope that my experience can help at least one person not to make the same mistake. Thanks for your comment - Phil
Hi Katie, thankyou so much for your response. I, too, am at work at the moment so will reply or drop you a message properly later. Thanks for your support - Phil xx
The sad thing and it’s the same for all of us when we’re gambling addicts you can talk on here upload blogs but 70% of the brain is still thinking about having a gamble even tho we’re saying we’re gonna stop hope your ok mate keep ya chin up
Yup, totally agree. It's all about reprogramming your brain. I'm about 5 months in now and it's definitely getting easier. Definitely have to stay alert though. Thanks for commenting. If you haven't already, I'd love it if you would subscribe. All the best - Phil
My psych told me you shouldn't beat yourself up when something like this happens. Your human and humans make mistakes. The best part is that we can forgive ourselves and move forward having been made stronger for the future.
I had a relaspe this week but put gam stop in place today now l think l covered also barred from casinos , I was gamble free for 3 months very angery with myself very supid
Did the same today! Feel like crap 😞
I attended Gambler's Anonymous and it really really helped me tremendously
Hi Mara, thanks for your comment. I'm glad GA worked so well for you and hope you're recovery is going well. Thanks for watching and please subscribe if you haven't already. All the best, Phil
@@onlyphil Absolutely I will subscribe now thanks for responding and good luck to you
No matter how much you win you can't buy back time. Know the value of it. It won't be around forever.
Thanks for making this hones video. I know it has been a while since. But one thing that strikes me is that before it went wrong, you were watching your friends play the slot machines. Maybe that was part of the problem that caused you to fall back? I know for sure that if I watch video's on CZcams about online gambling it increases my urges. Do your friends know you have a gambling problem? If so, they shouldn't be playing the fruit machines when they are with you in the pub.
Know you may not see this because its a long time ago I watch your videos I need to eliminate this triangle as after 3 days of bank blocking and I struggle because I sort out our finances
I relapsed again losing $3500. I keep saying this is it but I keep going to the casino. I’m tired of it. I looked at my saving account and It upsets me. Beginning of January I had $54k and today I have $44k😤😤
trust me brother your missing nothing stay far away
Gambling is only good if your winning
I relapsed after a month...but instead of I wanna kill myself like usual, now I wanna fix myself...i was going to and my friend hung himself the night b4 i planned my death. So I didn't go through with it (was biting the bullet the night b4 drunk and wondering how it would taste when it smashed into my mouth) but seeing the pain his death caused made me realized that it was not the way. I use to hate myself, now I hate our sickness we all have that controls us...we can do this. It's only money we'll make more,lost a wife/husband hey fresh action, even if homeless and hungry we have a chance to eat/get a home tomorrow. Took five friends dying from cancer,car crash, and cancer in a short time for me to realize this finally. In the end its just money, we are alive to fight this shit another day, that is a gift...we are quitting gambling NOW and our last bet is to put all in on living, cuz that's the biggest jackpot we are gonna WIN. I'M STRUGGLING, WE ARE STRUGGLING...our brains are different, we're fighting to be normal like how a non smoker feels all the time after a smoker only feels after smoking. Gambling is a cancer, we gamble to feel normal knowing it kills us like smokers when we light up...I just want to be normal like everyone else : /
Hi Kit, thank you so much for sharing your experience. I'm really pleased to hear that you chose the right option. If I can do this (and 5 months so far says I can) then anyone can. Look, I'm really not the guy to speak to if you ever have suicidal thoughts (the Samaritans are amazing for that) but I hope my videos help in some small way. All the best, you can do this - Phil
in which town do you live?
The only thing certain in gambling is relapse. If anyone was ever serious about stopping you would never ever have access to any form of money you would give complete and ultimate control to someone else.
Sorry but I disagree. Very few people quit gambling without any lapses (or relapses) but it isn't inevitable. Handing over access to money is a powerful tool when quitting but it doesn't have to be forever (nor is it practical to be). Once other blocks are sufficient then access to money is essential, not as a 'test' but as a means by which to live a ''normal' life. My wife can access my accounts so can see what I'm spending but I now have access to the accounts knowing that I'd be found out very quickly if I was gambling.
Ask your banks to set limits on ATM withdrawals. That can restrict your access to cash. Disallow cash advances on credit card. You can buy just about everything everywhere with a card so you don’t need to carry much cash anyway.
Problem is people get out control gamble all their income that's foolish get handle on how much of income you gamble dont over do it and you will be ok
Thomas Olney its not that simple lol
Whose is the blame
Hi Phil, is it possible to PM you?
Triangle similar to fire triangle 💪
Didnt relapse. Once in a while ok.
Read romans chapter 7
Life’s a gamble
The casino is not the blame Try playing higher amounts
Can you control how much you bet 10% of your weekly income so if you make 1000 you can gamble 100 if make 2000 you can gamble 200 3000 300 4000 400 5000 500 never bet more then 10% of your income and you can gamble safely but more then that your asking for big problems and olny gamble once a week tops