Main Cause of INF Burnout
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- čas přidán 3. 02. 2024
- INFJ personality types and INFP personality types both struggle with productivity in similar ways. Because the temperament of these two types is so different from the mainstream, the mainstream methods of productivity usually don’t work for either type. Most INFJs and INFPs notice this early on, when they are in school, and it carries over into adulthood, when they are in the workplace. It seems that no matter what method of productivity they try to use, it doesn’t work.
Mainstream methods of productivity usually involve a “warrior mindset,” where the person is supposed to thrive on strenuous challenge and push ahead through obstacles at every turn. Whenever they feel resistance, they are supposed to push harder, until they meet their goal. This method very rarely works for INFJ and INFP personality types, most of which are not warrior types, but instead are artisan types. Artisan types have a very different kind of energy, and pushing and forcing themselves through things almost always triggers more resistance and shuts down the whole process, rather than gets them to the goal.
Warrior methods of productivity are very prevalent in mainstream society, but they’re not healthy for INFJ or INFP personality types. In addition to triggering resistance, they also trigger a whole host of psychological complexes in the INFJ and INFP psyche that result in the INFJ or INFP blocking themselves even further and getting nothing done. The solution is to move away from these kinds of productivity methods and instead use strategies that complement the INFJ and INFP’s natural flow of energy.
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I burnt out at my last job. While they talked up "work-life balance" and "flexibility", in reality everyone was working 50+ hours a week, and those who didn't were frowned upon. Since then, I've learned that I hate committing to long-term employment, and will be looking at project-based employment instead. I love coming in, helping fix problems, and then moving on to the next thing.
Yes I understand this so well. Corporate expectations vs the phrases they like to use to boost morale. I hope you can find the project based employment you are seeking. I would like to find it as well. I am sure it is!
I love this Warrior and Artisan distinction. Thank you Lauren. I do all these things instinctively: slow down, project switch, take daydream breaks, appreciate beauty. It's nice to see them validated and think about how to lean into them more
Chronic stress + candy= adrenals cooking, danger zone. I did the same thing, burned out after 3rd big tech corporate job, toxic enviros, not self aware enough, disintegrated shadow, also rare disease. Autism diagnosis at 36 helped me understand autistic burnout has long lasting neurological implications. A lot of people like me have the COMT warrior/worrier gene flipped on, which in females shows up as Hashimoto’s, PMDD, ADHD like symptoms. I did 13 Ironmans before my body and adrenals quit in late 30s. Guess what I learned? I’m not a warrior. Hehe. My burnout has lasted 4 years, starting to peek out the other side when I stopped pushing to maintain old standards and met myself where I’m at instead. Such a great video. Not pushing myself to go to the groups or stay friends with folks I’ve outgrown. Cannot wait to turn 40 in April! 🙌🏽✨ Life is about BEing and creating peace and joy now in artisan phase. 😊
Its great that you have discovered yourself before 40! You have a great future because of it!
I'm unquestionable a true Warrior. The problem is - I'm a warrior for everyone by myself. And I burn out trying to fix everyone else's life until I'm a pile of wreckage.
INFJ- Burnout going on 2 & half years now. Insomnia M-F, then sleep the entire weekend (15+hrs) to be able to do it all over again the next week. Struggle to get out of bed to go to work. Staying employed! 😮
Wow, giving you a virtual hug and just wanna tell you that I’m PROUD of you. I hope you stumble upon new things that will help you settle into this journey with a bit more ease. 🙏🏻 big or small
I hate works that include tons of confronting and detail-oriented communication. Gosh, it’s so damn frustrating to deal with. Sadly, my current job requires me to do so. I felt burnt out already.
Have been called out for doing things slowly in a work environment. Called lazy, stupid, etc. Typical INFJ problem.
i was already aware of this. My body crashed several times and i developed a scary autoimmune disease. I stopped working as i used to, started to rest and replenish. But how on earth am i going to make money??? ive been resting for several years now, changed my diet, spending time in nature, being creative, being alone to recharge, slowing down a lot, cultivating beauty, etc. And i still dont know what im here to do in the most nourishing way for me, so i can make money effortlessly. So frustrating.
I am exactly in that same boat. I burned out to a crisp after a 30 year career and am basically considering myself retired. But I'm not wealthy and I am still a bit young for retirement. I am healthier than ever and in a good place mentally. But the big problem is how does one earn any money. It almost seems that we either sacrifice our health to our jobs or we save our health and lose our jobs. 🤔
@@YAMISOOLD2009 totally get it and so true about the sacrificing part. But there must must must be another way. And yes, i too have the feeling that i could be retiring :)) and this will literally happen in a few years from now, but there is also this stronger inner knowing that i am not done yet, that im here to make a huge contribution and i will be famous for it. What is this about? i dont know! I still hope that the path will be revealed to me. I am practicing trust, acceptance and patience as much as possible, but its not easy.
@@dumitriudaniela I have seen doors open easily multiple times in my life. It seems that when something is supposed to be that it opens up and we almost glide into it. I hope that happens for both you and I!☺️
@@YAMISOOLD2009 thank you! i need all the encouragement i can get :). Wishing all the best to you too.
@@dumitriudaniela you are very welcome 🙏
I certainly do have a lot of wOrrier in me :D
You just explained my whole life... Its my 60th Birthday today and youve explained my messy desk.. My multi coloures post it notes all over the place. How colour and variety are lifes breath.. Ive been facking Warrior Virgo mode for so long I have had many Burn Out illnesses. But no more.. After the Eclipse yesterday and this info today I feel a new love for my Inner "Authentic
" Child.. Thank You
But i wanna be a warrior😭😭😭
Oh my gosh...I am learning so much about myself through your videos. The pieces of my puzzle of who I am and why I do what I do and how I feel....I want to 😢❤
Im an INFJ, but on the fence whether I am more warrior or artisan. I feel comfortable in both roles, but feel more "me" as an artisan. I lived the straight up warrior life, if only just for survival, and while I know how to make it work for me now. But, boy did it bring out my shadow and God help you if I appear alert and emotionless. Tired and emotionless is one thing, but if I'm alert and shutting them off, I'm in business mode. Lol. Awesome video!
Wow!!! You are a life saver. This information has helped me so much. I am totally not a warrior. I am the artisan. I love time to myself and rotate between different projects. OMG, I love you. That is why I do not stick to one thing. I rotate my focus.
I feel I have both artisan and warrior in me equally.
Perfect take! From the what I wear on a given day to how I want to function. Pressure or challenge me and I WILL oppose and counter. I hate external targets but usually exceed external targets by applying my own unique approach. Weird?
Not at all. I hate external targets as well but also end up usually exceeding them in my own way. That is the INFJ way!😊
Lauren, I genuinely adore you. I love your videos because every time I watch one I feel truly understood, in a world that doesn't understand me. Thank you.
Actually brilliant. My therapist is infj and shes like you and im entj and im a warrior and i know i make her tired with all my war energy. You explained it so well. And conversely if i cant express myself honestly i go out like light. I need to te run and she needs to ni sleep.
This resonates so well with me. I had no idea this was even a thing! Thank you for helping me see it’s not that I’m broken, just applying the wrong methodology.
Love, love, love this Artisan archetype. And this video crystallizes beautifully what I KNOW in myself 🙏
I have seen warrior in myself, but in VERY VERY specific situations, and probably exacerbated by conditioning. Thank you!! 🌻🦋🌺🐦❣️
As a infp this is really a great video!! Thank you!!
Well I’m definitely the artisan, slow pace, change things around, have time to reflect and think and recharge, feel comfortable, that’s so important. People who are warriors wear me out after a while, all those lists and logistics and eating on the go and talking too fast 😂
This video really got me thinking. I've always thought of myself more as a warrior, as I enjoy warrior things like martial arts and guns and what not, and have taken on and completed physical and mental toughness challenges. But somehting is certainly missing, and I believe I am out of touch with my inner artisan. I also seem to approach these warrior activites in a more artisan way, with a less rigid structure and a need for novelty to keep them interesting. So it would seem I have both the warrior and the artisan, but the warrior may be learned and the artisan within is what drives how I approach those activies 🤔 Need to reflect and learn how to truly channel my artisan. Could even make me a better warrior. Allow them to work together.... Thank you for all of your insights Laura, really gets the wheels spinning in my brain.
Fantastic! Thank you Lauren. ❤ I recognize so much!! After 40 years with a tough and stressed job I became burnout. Late in life I am trying this other way - which is THE REAL ME!!
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Thank you for saying this. Yeah, I started figuring out that bootcamp mentality makes me shut down. I can't do people yelling, being condescending, tall expectations...it just makes me feel bad. I also don't like micro-managing. I need a nice balance of structure that I can also do my own thing in and am trusted to get it done.
Thank you for describing the artisan method. Didn't even know what anything but the warrior style might look or feel like, to embody it
Wow, I feel so seen, thank you 🤍
This "warrior personality trait" makes so much sense! It's a genius realisation!
Can’t believe how spot-on the artisan/warrior distinction felt for me. I am so CLEARLY an artisan!😅
And I'm celebrating you for spreading this message!! ❣️❣️❣️
This helps me so much ❤
Also, I feel like the warrior method could work for me in one circumstance- that the drill Sargent was a strong intuitive Mr Miagi, then I could silence my inner rebel and be like, “no this guy really knows his stuff”
I know for a fact I'm an INFJ warrior, but this video explains more and helps me to understand myself more
This was helpful. Thank you.
That was so helpful !
Thank you
I’m new to your channel. This was spot-on for me, thank you Lauren! 🍀😊
Thanx so much for this video. This explains why I've felt off for the past four years, because I was trying to self improve but I've been using methods that feel off to me.
So helpful thank you 😊
This was a super informative video Lauren and I needed it badly. Even among INFJ's there is quite a diversity in terms of how we work. This artisan/warrior archetype breakdown is helpful. I think I am an artisan who was raised among warriors and has tried to be a warrior for most of my life. But it just burned me out like your title suggests. I am trying to go forward in life knowing who I am and what works best for me so that my last decades of life will be much more compatible with who I am rather than with who I think I should be! Thank you!!
Wow discovering you has been life changing
Thank you. Definitely an artisan! This explains a lot!
This is an awesome video, thank you!!
Thank you ❤. I think you’ve just saved my life 🎉🥳✨🌟🙏🙏🙏
… or maybe bullying yourself into doing it… so interesting to imagine the family dynamics that lives in our heads lol- that should make a Pixar movie like inside out but with inner parent/ child, etc dynamic instead..😂
I love it, super useful information. Thinking of joining your classes. The clarity your help brings is much appreciated. Thank you!
I LOVE how much you crossed out my list. Is like I needed permission for that even though I already knew that was what was reasonable for me. Do less, and do it more slowly- lately I’ve been doing this but feeling so darn guilty about it, but in the end, this is the way I can do the thing well, and not hate and resent life along the way. I’ve been reminding myself of the 80/20 rule until bow and appeasing my conscience that I’m focusing on the 20% that matters and that’s just plain more efficient. But hearing outloud is helpful, so thanks ❤. Also balance too though… is a constant tapdance for me.
Recently learning about HSP's brought me here.. This language is new to me, but your distinctions are very very helpful! I've felt very alone within myself, and have been "Warrior-ing" it to this day... I'm exhausted, and needing beauty..
Thank you for this video, Lauren. I've learned so much more about myself. I've done the MBTI twice. The results were practically the same; high percentage INFJ. I would like to learn more about the Artisan type. Could you please share any links or information that would be helpful. Sincerely, Eric.
Artisan.....most definitely...
wow! Im an artisan!
Interesting. I've burned out as you describe a few times--once in college. I do have the "warrior" thing, but not as naturally as, for instance, my brother (former Marine). Martial arts really kinda balanced me out, b/c I'm so cerebral+daydreamy. Anything interoceptive has been helpful on that score. I didn't even notice that I was ADHD, even my mom (a special ed teacher) failed to recognize, until I was injured...then holy crap, I realized rigorous exercise was taking care of like half of my ADHD tendencies. I certainly don't have the "warrior gene" as it is called, as no matter how much I trained, I never did actually like hitting people...some people really get into it like that, but not me (more of a lover, negotiator-type)
I am an INFJ (I have strong INFJ traits) with a warrior character; but I think that I like challenges because they involve highly repetitive tasks that calm me down because of the proximity with the autistic spectrum.
Lauren (and other commenters), is there a specific archetype system that you usually reference? I've seen a few different ones with a different number of archetypes
solution: artisan method, focus on beauty, slowing down, breaks, music, task reduction, minimizing, novelty
Can you do a video on how infjs can handle personal caregiver roles for like bedridden with chronic pain parents do they do not burnout?
Currently experiencing burnout now in my job.. I am miserable, stern, can’t even smile anymore at work, way too much sensory overload, constant music playing loud all day, man.. the amount of times I think about walking out everyday is high, I’m going on vacation this weekend & I can’t wait to leave, I get anxiety as soon as I walk in the building. How do I help myself, I am even worried to apply for other jobs cause I have no experience or degree, & I have low self worth so job interviews always make me nervous, because I can’t tell the interviewer why they should hire me. Idk man.. thoughts?
artisan 11:40
IN 2 WISHIN.
Is it possible to be both?
I'm at 7:46 and you still haven't gotten beyond defining the warrior mindset. "Warrior" has replaced "INFJ/INFP" as the most overused expression in this video. I hope you have so.ething more to say beyond sign up for my class.
Something is missing in your topic 😮