Margaret Neale: Negotiation: Getting What You Want

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  • čas přidán 12. 03. 2013
  • Negotiation is problem solving. The goal is not to get a deal; the goal is to get a good deal. Four steps to achieving a successful negotiation: assess, prepare, ask, package. Women increase the chance of a success when a proposal is framed in terms of benefits to your counterparts, team, or organization. Three questions to prepare women to enter a negotiation: Why are you asking? How are you asking? For whom are you asking?
    Margaret Neale's research focuses primarily on negotiation and team performance. Her work applies judgment and decision-making research from cognitive psychology to the field of negotiation. Neale is the Adams Distinguished Professor of Management at Stanford Graduate School of Business. She her BS in pharmacy from Northeast Louisiana University, her MS from the Medical College of Virginia and Virginia Commonwealth University and her PhD in Business Administration from the University of Texas.
    Read the discussion guide and find other resources at Stanford's Clayman Institute for Gender Research: gender.stanford.edu/negotiation
    Learn more about Margaret Neale: www.gsb.stanford.edu/users/man...

Komentáře • 234

  • @abcd12342695
    @abcd12342695 Před 3 lety +298

    Goal of negotiation is not to get a deal, but to get a good deal.Some of the key points:
    -You should have alternatives.
    -Reservation price.
    -Aspirations of achieving.
    Planning negotiation:
    -Access.
    -Prepare.
    -Ask (Interests and preferences of the other party.Engage with ur counterpart. Both are unique.)
    -Package of solutions
    One key takeaway-Without getting into negotiation , negotiation will never happen.

  • @Motivation2Invest
    @Motivation2Invest Před 2 lety +240

    Goal of Negotiation, Aim for a WIN/WIN . The only successful negotiations long term have both people walking away happy 👍

    • @dianahill5116
      @dianahill5116 Před 2 lety +3

      She only speaks about controlled negotiations. People committing crimes aren't going to negotiate. People who steal, embezle, rape, commit incest, pedophiles, murders and such; only have their interests in mind. Whatever emotional, mental, physical or financial damages done to their victim; is the least of their problems. And if law enforcement don't do their jobs professional; it could encourage the criminal(s) to continue their crimes.

    • @alienboogieman
      @alienboogieman Před rokem

      Ooooo big brain oooh.

    • @theshadylady1982
      @theshadylady1982 Před rokem +2

      ​​@@dianahill5116 yes. Clearly, criminal negotiations fall into a seperate category... a category not being discussed/ referred to here. I'm fairly certain anyone watching this is aware of the type of negotiations she is speaking on & what type she's not... likely not a lot of hostage negotiators watching this video. Imo. Lol.
      And when law enforcement fails to do their job... criminals will use that to their advantage, in every way possible... including, but not limited to, an increase in crimes. Criminals look for opportunity... not permission.

    • @dianahill5116
      @dianahill5116 Před rokem

      @@theshadylady1982
      Example:
      There are people that have to be taught and trained for (I'm not taught or trained): to negotiate someone from not committing suicide.

    • @jonroddy1016
      @jonroddy1016 Před 9 měsíci

      ____. I will take 2 double foot long’s to go .

  • @expertjacksonwilliams7368
    @expertjacksonwilliams7368 Před rokem +210

    Taking the first step is the hardest, but 7 house later living off passive income since June 6, 2016. You’ve got to start taking steps to achieve your goal.

    • @nathanjane7729
      @nathanjane7729 Před rokem +1

      I really want to start something for myself but the problem has always been not knowing where to start. What kind of investment would you advise? And what is the best way to follow it?

    • @justinscott6855
      @justinscott6855 Před rokem

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      @bendickson9414 Před rokem

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    • @josephlee4001
      @josephlee4001 Před rokem

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    • @josephlee4001
      @josephlee4001 Před rokem

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  • @mardaya
    @mardaya Před 3 lety +81

    women don't ask, not only for fear but also because negotiation is viewed mistakenly as adversarial when in reality, it should be viewed as a team collaboration and go further and bring a solution... changing our expectations and ask because if you don't ask nobody knows what you want! brilliant!

    • @zacharybristol1996
      @zacharybristol1996 Před 2 lety +7

      Women don’t ask because they fear confrontation. And they aren’t as competitive as men naturally

    • @Bluegreenfinance
      @Bluegreenfinance Před 2 lety +7

      I completely agree with you Marycruz. And please disregard the stupidity from Zachary.

    • @letisriva8581
      @letisriva8581 Před rokem +4

      women are traditionally educated to be nice and kind. men to be strong and capable. so women don't want to be viewed as an unkind person

    • @feather1229
      @feather1229 Před rokem

      @@zacharybristol1996 why do western societies believe in this?

    • @irlandaise5631
      @irlandaise5631 Před 9 měsíci

      @@zacharybristol1996 I do ask and demand as a woman and I can be told, I am crazy, not nice, socially isolated so the professor is right. I think it's because they dont know/want to defend themselves too. Most of the time, people I face and the men I face have no arguments but most of the times if you say NO people are gone, want you out etc. I

  • @lesliecapalac5037
    @lesliecapalac5037 Před 2 lety +33

    This was so helpful! Plenty of examples to help understand how to negotiate and I loved how Margaret shares facts about women who negotiate or doesn't. Her tips are really a lesson to apply onto life.

  • @davidalejandrogutierrezgra7376

    This is one of the best videos regarding negotiation I've ever seen. Thank you Stanford School of Business and Margaret Neale for this valuable information.

  • @demichwui8473
    @demichwui8473 Před rokem +2

    Great video and learnt so much! Thank you Stanford and Prof. Margaret Neale! Women definitely need to learn more on negotiation. Go ask girl!

  • @trafalgarjaquez2792
    @trafalgarjaquez2792 Před rokem +10

    Wish me luck, I got the negotiation of my life tomorrow morning, thank you Margaret and Stanford University for accommodating this sensational video!!!

    • @ChloeLux
      @ChloeLux Před rokem +3

      How did it go? Did you get more?

    • @trafalgarjaquez2792
      @trafalgarjaquez2792 Před rokem +10

      @@ChloeLux I got it!!!! I felt like using a cheat codes lol

  • @selyemperzsa1
    @selyemperzsa1 Před 2 lety +10

    I loved this presentation. Thank you Prof Margaret Neale! I think one of the bests I listened to. I understand why but I think it is a bit of a shame you turned off comments for the other videos, you cannot comment/cheer the presenters.
    Thank you again! 👏👏👏 Stanford

  • @tarunommadan
    @tarunommadan Před 2 lety +17

    Very helpful. To the point. Concise. Lot of substance covered in less time. Good deal for time. My gratitude to each and every individual who contributed in making this video happen. 🙏

  • @letisriva8581
    @letisriva8581 Před rokem +1

    very practical and seems it's easy to take a small step to start! thanks very much for the four elements and special thanks to guest speakers' input!

  • @jonathanaguilar1232
    @jonathanaguilar1232 Před 2 lety +15

    This was very helpful in providing me with the whole negotiation process and the best approaches to take. It is very critical to continue to negotiate in order to win. It is no longer a negotiation when you no longer try to persuade.

  • @kellypatriciapajarocardena7031
    @kellypatriciapajarocardena7031 Před 9 měsíci +1

    Margaret Neale, you are so elegant, so inspiring.
    Excellent negotiation teaching! Thank you

  • @nia_sheikh1948
    @nia_sheikh1948 Před 2 lety +113

    1:44 negotiation as problem-solving
    1:55 GETTING A GOOD DEAL
    2:14 The goal is to get a good deal
    2:29 what are your alternatives?
    2:46 what is the reservation price?
    3:03 reservation: your bottom line
    3:17 what is your aspiration?
    3:25 aspiration: you're realistic of the best possible outcome
    3:31 PLAN FOR THE NEGOTIATION
    3:41 access
    what my access
    4:04 prepare
    4:12 aspect: know your interest are?
    4:18 know the interests and preferences of my counterpart?
    4:40 ask (Interests and preferences of the other party. Engage with your counterpart. Both are unique.)
    5:18 package
    5:57 One key takeaway-Without getting into negotiation, negotiation will never happen.

  • @noahcriss3436
    @noahcriss3436 Před 2 lety +2

    Wow, this is the best presentation I heard on YT.

  • @ilmareverticale
    @ilmareverticale Před 3 lety +6

    I love your confidence!

  • @danielx40
    @danielx40 Před rokem

    This is great. I negotiate often at work for procurement. And this provides great points.

  • @veep5712
    @veep5712 Před rokem

    Thank you for a very excellent overview of the process. I saw you speak several years ago. Wonderful.

  • @starless9
    @starless9 Před rokem +2

    Great video - breaks down all the factors at work in a negotiation. Good to know but practice at your own risk with the state of this job market.

  • @sis1296
    @sis1296 Před měsícem

    This video is timeless.
    Thank you.

  • @siddheshshinde1542
    @siddheshshinde1542 Před 2 lety +2

    Thanks ma'am, I've learned a lot.

  • @tushardesai8659
    @tushardesai8659 Před 2 lety +2

    Really nice information.very Simple not too complicated.Tank you for such useful learning .

  • @mindtheprivacy
    @mindtheprivacy Před rokem +3

    I hope these woman are helping and coaching woman even in the room.

  • @LaurenHuleis
    @LaurenHuleis Před 2 lety +2

    This video was very helpful and to the point. I enjoyed all of the examples and steps the video gave.

    • @marvincaldwel111
      @marvincaldwel111 Před rokem

      Hello Lauren how are you doing today?i'm glad this video is Very helpful. To the point. Concise. Lot of substance covered in less time. Good deal for time. My gratitude to each and every individual who contributed in making this video happen. 🙏

  • @saidfarid6382
    @saidfarid6382 Před rokem

    Hello Professor
    Thank you so much for your help and advice,
    i do appreciate your job. I wish you peace and happness under the sky of prosperity. Take care and have a good time. All the best. Take care and have a good time.
    Your Student from Algeria.

  • @naturalbynature8690
    @naturalbynature8690 Před rokem +4

    Major exams in 2 days and this video was a GREAT help!
    Thank you sooooo much! 🌹

    • @KimAhrina11
      @KimAhrina11 Před rokem

      @@marvincaldwel111 no, stop bothering people

  • @feliciawen-wc4mv
    @feliciawen-wc4mv Před měsícem +1

    2024, her skills and knowledge still work and inspring.

  • @halo231halo
    @halo231halo Před 27 dny +1

    A queen B voice and tone 😮❤

  • @iFreeThink
    @iFreeThink Před 2 lety +5

    Dialogues, witnesses/testimonies, evidence, professionalism.

  • @anpe6524
    @anpe6524 Před 2 lety

    I LOVED EVERY MINUTE OF THIS!! Thank youuuuuu

  • @AbdulAbdul-qp4yo
    @AbdulAbdul-qp4yo Před 7 měsíci

    ❤❤❤
    Thank you for your time

  • @marisortiz273
    @marisortiz273 Před 3 lety +14

    Fantastic insights. Thank you for this video!

  • @RPMT
    @RPMT Před 2 lety +1

    Really appreciated this information.

  • @yuriyhlushchenko8653
    @yuriyhlushchenko8653 Před rokem

    She is fantastic!

  • @user-zm1zp8tv4i
    @user-zm1zp8tv4i Před 7 měsíci

    A big thank you ma from Lagos Nigeria ❤

  • @thequeenmidas
    @thequeenmidas Před měsícem

    The communal negotiation strategy for women makes a lot of sense.

  • @boeingpameesha9550
    @boeingpameesha9550 Před rokem

    Survival is the best, thank you for sharing.

  • @danielletreadwell8180
    @danielletreadwell8180 Před 2 lety +29

    As a chef - its extremely IRRITATING when others don't use recipes :/

  • @jijiji9520
    @jijiji9520 Před rokem

    Wow, this is gold

  • @princesorlo6366
    @princesorlo6366 Před rokem

    love the voice, easy to listen but difficult to action if one is just deperate for a job, whethet contract or long term

  • @carlosettienne5412
    @carlosettienne5412 Před rokem +1

    thanks, I would try these approaches, everything mentioned made sense.

  • @namjudoka
    @namjudoka Před 3 lety

    thank you so much

  • @srdjanjovanovic3313
    @srdjanjovanovic3313 Před 2 lety +2

    Nice video !
    I suggest that you make a video on how to ask for a employment contract renewal in the presence of multiple generous job offers on the other side !
    How to politely ask for a salary raise and leverage the whole situation ...
    Thanks a lot

    • @veep5712
      @veep5712 Před rokem

      From experience, unless you are very top tier talent in a high demand market, who VALUES your talent, it is possible to over negotiate.
      I helped a friend increase their salary offer by 30K.
      However when dealing with mediocre employer in a typically flat rate market, I increased the annual salary by over 7K with additional holiday days. The problem with this negotiation was the employer became overly critical of my performance in the ramping up stages. Instead of having confidence in their negotiation and their hire, they only saw me as additional cost instead of remembering that I would greatly increase their business and worth every penny. Unfortunately, I never got the chance to prove them (and our negotiation) correct, because they lacked confidence and began to internally diminish me in the very beginning.
      I find women evaluators penalize females more than males.

  • @KKnowledgeSharing
    @KKnowledgeSharing Před 7 měsíci

    ❤❤ I learn a lot. Thanks❤

  • @ndukamba-uzoukwu5589
    @ndukamba-uzoukwu5589 Před 2 lety +3

    Still useful in 2022...👍🏽

  • @raymobula
    @raymobula Před 10 měsíci +1

    Read her book. It covers this topic in more detail.

  • @gbarassi
    @gbarassi Před rokem +6

    Different cultures different ways of negotiating. Although this recipe covers the basics, don't take the emotional portion of a negotiation, specially in cultures were relationship building is very important.

  • @timif
    @timif Před 5 měsíci

    Move from adversarial to problem solving ideal.
    1. Assess the situation: do the benefits outweigh the costs?
    2. Prepare:
    2.1 Understand what your interests are.
    2.2 Understand your counterpart's interests.
    3. Engage with your counterpart.
    4. Package: don't negotiate issue by issue. Propose alternative solutions in packages. Use "If then" language. If I do this, I get this.
    Expectations drive behavior.

  • @clemenceafatoutse4671

    Amazing content

  • @twoplustwoequalsfour48
    @twoplustwoequalsfour48 Před rokem +1

    Best clip on the internet!

  • @mahiramar
    @mahiramar Před 8 měsíci

    margaret is so competent in her field.
    very good knowledge for us.
    thanks to margaret and stanford 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽

  • @softpink6300
    @softpink6300 Před 2 lety +6

    Cam I negotiate for a higher role?

  • @chetanasin9150
    @chetanasin9150 Před 2 lety

    Thanks

  • @bruceliebewilma
    @bruceliebewilma Před 26 dny

    To put the goal simple, I want to get more resources, and we need a deal for that.

  • @bluedragon4168
    @bluedragon4168 Před rokem

    Suffering of my enemies. I've endured so much pain and confusion to get here. I've earned justice.

  • @Thebishop250
    @Thebishop250 Před 5 měsíci +1

    "Expectations Drive Behaviour"

  • @SVTX.AP0L0_
    @SVTX.AP0L0_ Před měsícem +1

    I never thought I would see Skyler talking about how to negotiate... That was more a Heisenberg thing.

  • @singingsofia.
    @singingsofia. Před 5 měsíci

    That was GOOD. THANK

  • @filmawayvlad
    @filmawayvlad Před rokem

    The message is great! The figures are clearly obsolete by now..)

  • @solomonkingsley9825
    @solomonkingsley9825 Před rokem

    Hallelujah hallelujah hallelujah is ur name

  • @janattard6966
    @janattard6966 Před rokem

    Excellent

  • @DaddyBmusic
    @DaddyBmusic Před 3 lety +8

    Wonderful, informative and inspiring video, *and* I had to wonder if it was also a spelling test in disguise ... I’m only 6:19 into the video, and already these words have all been misspelled: R(R)ESERVATION, POSSI(A)BLE, OUTWEI(G)TH(HT) , UN(I)QUE, and again at the end, UN(I)QUE. It seems out of alignment with the status of both Stanford and Ms. Neale to have these oversights, and I thought you might want to know. Thank you for sharing this great talk.

    • @mazumdar8964
      @mazumdar8964 Před 3 lety

      Pop

    • @DaddyBmusic
      @DaddyBmusic Před 2 lety +4

      @@ngjunxiang5061 I’m not sure what point you’re making. This is a professionally produced video on behalf of one of the most prominent universities in America. The idea that they would put it out without any spellchecking or proofing is beneath their status.

    • @ericeagles
      @ericeagles Před 2 lety +1

      @@DaddyBmusic good point

    • @DaddyBmusic
      @DaddyBmusic Před 2 lety

      @@ericeagles Thanks, Eric. I appreciate you taking time to respond. Best, DB

    • @ericeagles
      @ericeagles Před 2 lety

      @@DaddyBmusic I just saw your reply, I decided to check out your channel and...................DAMN, that's a handful. But hey, you're livin' your dream.

  • @hantu4321
    @hantu4321 Před 2 lety +1

    How to negotiate the government to make better policies as I find that part of my life is government policy

  • @CoolGirl007
    @CoolGirl007 Před 2 lety +1

    Sometime, money is not the main issue what company are you service and who are you working with that count

  • @timetech-ndt
    @timetech-ndt Před měsícem

    I like this video.

  • @maribethcondrillon1079
    @maribethcondrillon1079 Před 2 měsíci

    Yes I want negotiate please 🙏

  • @tiffanymiiller9786
    @tiffanymiiller9786 Před rokem

    How can you negotiate a state position? 🤔

  • @laabarabdo2542
    @laabarabdo2542 Před rokem +1

    Very nice 👍

  • @orwahassan821
    @orwahassan821 Před rokem +1

    LOVE

  • @daisyeve5223
    @daisyeve5223 Před měsícem

    Expectations drive Behavior 📝

  • @sadanfarhat4535
    @sadanfarhat4535 Před 2 lety

    You try to give the video more brightness it will be great if you do

  • @S-series1977
    @S-series1977 Před 9 měsíci

    Nice 👍 video

  • @Safar.369
    @Safar.369 Před 2 lety

    Left at 13:30

  • @iFreeThink
    @iFreeThink Před 2 lety

    Textbooks could feed a family.

  • @waew7533
    @waew7533 Před 2 lety +1

    Change your expectation...

  • @justdoyisa8457
    @justdoyisa8457 Před 2 lety

    Noted

  • @genz7638
    @genz7638 Před 11 měsíci +1

    When I tried the assessment, the salesperson stated, "If you can't afford them, just don't buy them."

  • @mahendrakumarsai1178
    @mahendrakumarsai1178 Před 2 lety +2

    Expectations drive behavior

  • @arvindkumarvartiya9577
    @arvindkumarvartiya9577 Před 2 lety +5

    lol last one example you gave in this leacture is a daily activity of every indian mom

  • @RiverPaisley
    @RiverPaisley Před 4 měsíci +2

    Whoever chose the backdrop for this didn’t study the impact of light patterning and correlated brain activity

  • @professorpixeldust
    @professorpixeldust Před 3 lety +2

    Get it girl

  • @laurenth7187
    @laurenth7187 Před rokem

    Yeah, mostly with your children, they get what they want, what ever your negotiation skills. Because they take advantage of the relationship.

  • @navneetkothari8441
    @navneetkothari8441 Před 2 lety

    Viewing this in 2021. Enlightening! However, Reservation Price has been misspelled as "RReservation Price"! 2:48 Caught my attention..hope someone fixes this :P

  • @user-rr1my3tt3w
    @user-rr1my3tt3w Před 3 lety +1

    salary compression

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    Explore Golgumbaz with Guide Jahangir

  • @mba2ceo
    @mba2ceo Před 2 lety

    I knew I f'ed up and I asked for HOOKERs at Break TIME when they replied "What do U mean Break TIME ?"

  • @gibbonholder3274
    @gibbonholder3274 Před rokem +1

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  • @celestialtomas882
    @celestialtomas882 Před 27 dny

    Expections drive behaviours

  • @irenelady3322
    @irenelady3322 Před 2 lety +1

    Nice subject for discussion! I can offer you translation into Russian of this material if you wish ))

  • @irlandaise5631
    @irlandaise5631 Před 9 měsíci

    It's not that women are judged differently, it's the hassle you'd get compared to men. What happened is that people and men ignore you. That's all really but the right people stay with you. That's the fear of plenty of women that love to live a lie .

  • @cameronalisterlee
    @cameronalisterlee Před rokem

    Lots of typos in the captions. Kind of detracts from what she is saying

  • @esharashid4072
    @esharashid4072 Před 7 měsíci

    Ñiliwambiya mukuwe na subra ndio nijueae wanavhokifanya kwamiyaka mingii kuharibu ndio kupata rahisii bila kulipia ukijuwa wanabafikisha mipango kuharibu maishaa bibi wakishindwa wanakuja kwa watoto hiyoo ndio mipangoi kamili

  • @jdok6177
    @jdok6177 Před rokem

    💯

  • @user-ey4rx8vj9v
    @user-ey4rx8vj9v Před 6 měsíci +1

    Stanford Terhina

  • @Life_Is_A...
    @Life_Is_A... Před rokem +3

    - You don't negotiate and you get the job.
    - Your buddy negotiates and doesn't get hired.
    - Now you live in a house and your buddy's out on the street.
    - Think about that.

  • @imoncy
    @imoncy Před rokem

    1

  • @TheMrJoshT
    @TheMrJoshT Před 2 lety +1

    4:35

  • @yongkiamirson2376
    @yongkiamirson2376 Před 2 lety +1

    Mrs MN
    GM
    Gods Blees
    Ysa Mdn

  • @Mofarisayo
    @Mofarisayo Před měsícem

    A good deal means a strong BATNA.

  • @redgoddess
    @redgoddess Před 2 měsíci

    👏