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I knew I was trans as a kid, but I didn't have the language or knowledge to understand how I felt I knew I was trans as a teen, but a host of trauma and indoctrination left me feeling like an abomination unto god Finally, at 44, I was able to understand and accept who I am
Except for being gay, not trans, this looks so much like my story, in general outline at least. Except I never felt like an abomination (I did feel I had to hide), and I didn't come out until I was nearly sixty. It's never too late, and it feels so much betrer, even if only because you can acknowledge and accept yourself.
That's pretty much exactly how I was too, OP; I always saw myself as a girl, I just didn't quite realize it or understand why when I was a kid. Because my family and I didn't have the language or education to understand or articulate what I was experiencing.
19:28 This is like that story about the kid who got into a fight with a trans boy and then, when the school's principal (headmaster) told him off for hitting a "woman", he got mad on the trans boy's behalf and got into another fight with the principal.
@@waffles3629 Having been in a similar situation where my bully decided he was gonna defend me, the whiplash is surreal but there's also this weird joy in knowing someone that hates your guts has decided that you deserve respect even if they hate you. (I had a very strange relationship with my bully after that defense that was half "uneasy truce" and half "eerie respectfulness")
While uncommon, GNC alternatives for titles such as Mr/Mrs/Miss/Ms exist. As an enby, I prefer Mx (pronouned "Mix") which happens to be the most mainstream option, but just google it and youll get a whole list. If you're looking to get it changed legally without the name change hassle though or someone doesn't want to use your preferred title, then Dr. may be your best alternative because not calling you by that is a major sign of disrespect (which should be said for all titles and names in general but unfortunately we live in a society)
@@neoqwerty Ngl a good portion of Jojo villains fit the criteria of being peak masculine energy while wearing suth you’d never seen in your life… With eyeliner
Yeah, at most they might see if that person was pregnant before or something, but other than that, almost no signs, if they were archeologists, they'd probably see the objects around that dead person, oh wait, graves would probably look creepy to be honest
One of my roommates came out as a trans woman in college during the lockdown. She told us that she knew all throughout high school that she was trans, but her parents were transphobic, so she ended up repressing her feelings to the point that she presented even more masculine and would use a deeper voice and grew out her beard. So on the surface, she "didn't show any signs as a child or teen" but that hasn't invalidated her identity!
That’s really REALLY common. Most trans ppl try to be hyper the other thing for awhile. I was hyperfeminine for awhile bc I always felt like I wasn’t convincingly being a girl or was doing it wrong so I just kept trying harder and harder.
@@SpecialBlanket That also happened to me. I am so glad that I'm not alone. It made me feel less valid because I "wanted" to be a girl so I couldn't be trans. It got to the point that I was questioning if I really was because I made myself like dress, makeup and other super-feminine things. So I was like "you can't be trans, you like lipstick", for exemple. What made me question a bit less was how I felt when I saw myself with a short haircut and a somewhat flat chest. It was true gender euphoria. I still question myself everyday because of that super-feminine phase. And I haven't told anybody around me because I always think "what if this is just another phase?". And because I'm scared of how my transphobic family will react. I "played around" with the idea of me being trans in front of them and their reaction and the argument they started were not pretty.
I started watching the first Bad Education series recently because I used to love it. Episode 5 casually drop the t-slur when a (cis woman) teacher wears makeup. Surprising with how Stephen loves to blur gender so much.
Millennial here, so my fav childhood shows had not just transphobia, but also homophobia, rhape culture, fat "jokes" straight up racism, blatant misogyny, ableism, Islamophobia and anti semetism on a VERY frequent basis Needless to say, most are not enjoyable to me now
I still love Life Of Brian even though that whole Stan/Loretta sketch is being held up as a Transphobic joke. You have to remember when that movie was made, I doubt anyone was thinking about being anti Trans because that wasnt something people even really knew existed back then. Unless its bigotry for ALL ages like this *they're just best friends* thing when its CLEAR they were lesbians and lesbians have been known about since Roman times, you have to put each movie in the context of the time it was made or just dont watch older films. Your choice.
As a cis man, I know what dysphoria is like. A woman once told me that I have nice and feminine hips/waist... that messed with me for a long time. That wasn't the only thing, but it's the one that still sticks out in my mind.
@@SpecialBlanket she may have meant it that way but I was already doing everything I could to be buff and "manly" in appearance, so it had an undesired effect.
Jammidodger: "trans women aren't just cookie-cutter copies of eachother!" me, holding my blahaj, sipping monster energy, and eating a pickle: "yeah! you tell em!"
I realized not long ago that too much of my reason for wanting to go for a PhD right away (despite it being questionable whether I can afford it right now) was so that I'd have a gender-neutral title. I think I've decided "screw it, for the next ten years or so they'll have the choice to use 'Mx' or 'Reverend,' and I may eventually show mercy by giving them the option to use 'Dr'."
reverend is so iconic i jokingly tell people to exclusively refer to me as bitch because i just feel ✨not gendered✨but reverend might take the place of that….
Translation: A process or instance of rendering one language into another. Cislation: Standing there dumbfounded, unable to understand each other. Transportation: Conveyance or travel from one place to another. Cisportation: Sitting around in the same old boring place. Transaction: An exchange of goods, services, or funds. Cisaction: I take your things and run away without paying.
@@M_M_ODonnell Incisigent: changing your opinions and behavior every time you find something else that you want to hitch your wagon to because you have no self-identity and values of your own yet
So, kinda going off of the don’t bind with duct tape, there actually is a tape that is designed for both tucking and binding. It’s called transtape. I’ve actually recently switched to using it for working out since I swim and weight lift a lot and lifting with a binder is not safe lmao. It is nice and waterproof, and you don’t really need to change it that much (probably more if you use it to tuck), and I personally find it more comfortable than a binder. It only tucks under your arms, and doesn’t compress your ribs like a binder does, so it’s a lot easier to breathe in it.
I saw it and can't wait to have the chance to buy it! I have used regular sports tape and I think the main thing we should all keep in mind when using any type of skinsafe tape is it should always be removed using oil. Especially for anyone who is hairy, which would be most trans guys lol
Just came to say this! I exclusively use tape to bind because it works better for me than regular binders. My chest always shifts to make it look like I have one big boob in normal binders. 😂
The transformer meme made me think of this sweet anecdote. Warning, I’m dyslexic, and AuDHD so this will probably be long-winded and full of typos. I think it’s worth it though. I used to teach English as an additional language at a secondary school. I was one of several openly queer teachers working there (I was out to other staff but not to the kids), and the head teacher had recently sent out an email to all staff saying that we could not have any pride displays or teaching materials, because “students learn about the equality act in PSHE (Personal, Social, Health, & Economic Education)”. I’m not even sure if he was allowed to do that by law, but many of us were afraid of losing our jobs. This was around the time that Lil Nas X came out, and Caitlin Jenner was a contestant on I’m A Celebrity. My year eight students (aged 12-13) were all obsessed with old town Road, and one of them asked me if I’d heard that Lil Nas X was gay. I said yes. One of them said that they thought it was really cool that a Black gay man was making country music. Then another kid asked me what the word was for when someone likes boys and girls. I said “ bisexual”. It turned out that his friend had just come out as bi to him, and he wanted to know the English word for it so he could be a supportive friend. I had to try so hard not to cry. Then the same kid asked me about Caitlin Jenner. He said “ she used to be a man, and now she’s a woman. What’s the word for that again? I know it’s something like ‘transformer’, but that’s not it. I said “transgender” and he laughed because he was embarrassed that he got the word wrong. I said he had nothing to feel embarrassed about, and that it was good that he was so respectful and wanting to learn about different people. I kept trying to think of how I could change the subject, but the kids kept asking really thoughtful questions. Some were wanting to talk about LGBTQ+ laws in their home countries. I was anxious that the kids were asking me all these questions about sexuality and gender identity. On one hand, I felt really emotional that they felt comfortable enough to ask me these questions, and I was also immensely proud that they were so inquisitive and respectful, but on the other hand, I was worried about the email we’d received, and I was cautious about safeguarding guidelines and overstepping boundaries even though it was the kids who brought up the subject. I said “I want you to know how proud I am of you all, but I’m not qualified to have these kinds of discussions with you, so I’m afraid I’m going to have to end this conversation. I’ve been told you learn about these kinds of topics in PSHE, so I suggest that you write down any questions you have, and ask your PSHE teacher in your next lesson.” One of the kids said “but we never learn about bisexual people or transgender people in PSHE!” and another kid said “yeah! All they teach us is “don’t do drugs and don’t meet strangers off the internet”, and we knew that already!” I quit teaching in 2020, and with the current moral panic against queer teachers, I am so relieved that I don’t teach any more. The Tories and the media are pushing this narrative that LGBTQ+ issues are being “forced” on kids, when in reality that’s not the case at all. If my students had been receiving adequate social education, they wouldn’t have needed to ask me what words like “bisexual” mean.
22:30 Jaimie's *gasp* "I'm a doctor!" is low key adorable that said, I too have a doctorate, and although I honestly don't really like being called Doctor as it seems too egocentric however I WILL use it as a tool against transphobes them: "ok SIR" me: "it's Ma'am if you please" them: "no, it's SIR!" me: "ok fine you wanna play it that way, it is in fact DOCTOR and you WILL address me as such!"
I used to get dysphoria from the feeling of jeans on my legs. Not leggings, or sweatpants, just jeans. So for like, a year, I didn't wear jeans at all. We're good now. Jeans are comfy.
I've never liked jeans and likely never will. I've never understood how people can feel comfortable in them. They're so restrictive. I always stick to sweatpants, yoga pants, shorts, or even a casual dress (with pockets) anytime I'm not staying at home. Oh, and on the dress, that's never a particularly girly one. Just basic and comfortable single-color-soft-fabric. Others can wear those frilly and/or fancy ones, if they want, but I won't be caught dead in one. I'm an afab enby that very much refuses the "girly" stuff, after having it forced upon me against my outspoken will for my entire childhood.
Tbf, it seems like a relatively new invention, like an offshoot of the kinesio tape physio and massage therapists sometimes use to treat chronic muscle and posture problems.
Do you know the best brand of transtape? My binder has been feeling more and more uncomfortable to wear, which sometimes makes me feel dysphoric because I can't bind as often or for as long as I'd like to at times.
The character with the "NO TRANSPHOBIA ALLOWED" sign is Caine, from The Amazing Digital Circus! He's basically what happens if AM from "I Have No Mouth and I Must Scream" was a wacky little guy instead of a murderous, hateful AI bent on wiping out humanity. Hope that helps!
Considering how anti-trans Rowling turned out to be, it's so funny how easy a medical (...or I guess magical?) transition would be in the Harry Potter universe... Potions that can regrow an entire skeleton *OVERNIGHT* are a common mass-produced product that the school nurse keeps in stock. Temporarily turning into a copy of another person just takes a moderately advanced potion and a bit of their hair. And then we've got Animagi who can change *SPECIES* and stay that way for years on end if they so choose... Changing a wizard's hormone balance and restructuring some of their body parts a bit so they're closer to what feels right for them should be super easy compared to all that!
"You can just be a feminine man!" "No." _Thiiiis_ is something I've come to figure about myself. On principle, effeminate men are legit, in all the ranges that incarnates, but since I started medically transitioning and subsequently began concretely conceptualizing myself as a woman, I've -chocked- chalked up the occasional unease in my receptivity to such men as -- well, prolly no small part internalized toxic masculinity, but also a repulsion against that for my own self. The answer's been, I want to be feminine _as a woman,_ thank you very much~
Helping people understand the difference between being an effeminate man and being a trans tomboy is one of my most frustrating but favourite things to do.
It's also completely valid to be a tomboyish trans woman, or a tomgirlish trans man. You can be trans and gender nonconforming relative to your gender identity. It's okay to experiment with and change your gender expression day by day if you want. Do what makes you happy.
@@FrozEnbyWolf150 Quite true! I think my comment got hidden because I am literally the syrup within CZcams's walls by now, but it was mainly just pointing out that I'm a perfect example of your point; a transfemme tomboy. Someone who, while having typically masculine-coded/marketed interests and dressing in a mildly masculine or "blue collar"-ish fit, identifies more with the female gender and engages with those interests from a feminine perspective.
There are devices that actually are designed to open lids. They have a rubber part that tightens around the lid, and a ratchet part that lets you tighten them until they're tight enough. That said, I usually just ask my Dad, who built up his grip strength from doing a lot of pruning work as a kid and teen. So, if anyone does get dysphoric with their grip strength, it can be something you can work on.
a few weeks ago in my lgbt youth group we were at a church because they were letting us use their kitchen to make food (we made nachos and rice krispys 10/10) and one of my friends was tryna open a salsa jar and couldn't then asked "does anyone have man hands to open this?" and I then popped it open(for a slight bit of context I have kinda big hands and like long fingers almost everyone who sees this says I should play piano or something) and I just wanna say as an afab enby it was extremely validating
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Me as a child: “I hate wearing dresses because they make me feel like I’m a boy wearing the wrong thing. Also I’m not playing with dolls anymore because I don’t have pants for them and I feel bad forcing them to wear dresses.” My parents: “Ah yes, our beautiful and very feminine daughter, who is 100% a female girl, we have never seen any evidence to the contrary.”
Meanwhile, I have had to deal with people telling me I’m just a man or that I should just “stay a man” because I’m a transfem and a tomboy (yes we exist)
I'm non-binary, but I'm a bit older. So, I don't think I'm quite up to getting a Ph.D at my age. I think I might just carry around a toy sonic screwdriver and say that I'm The Doctor. That should work too. Also, I think I would go with the sign over the door. It's probably faster and easier to put the sign on the door itself, so that seems to me to be the easier mistake.
@@missnaomi613 Doctor who is British and has always been queer. it's just been more apparent especially in nuwho. there's a whole compilation of 13 forgetting she's a lady now
I was fine with myself until I understood what trans/nb were and that there were certain characteristics I had that were difficult, if not impossible to reverse after puberty…
As for the reversed signs on the bathroom doors, I agree. It's more likely the signs on the doors were correct and someone mixed up the hanging signs after installing the brackets. I thought this just before Jamie asked so I thought I'd comment and feed the algorithm...
I would love to identify as an attack helicopter. Not in a transphobic way, just in a cyborg/armored core sort of way. All my trans and ally friends could ride around in my cargo bays with the transphobes below watching in envy. Fwoom fwoom fwoom get blocked get blocked get blocked get blocked.
My worst dysphoria, oddly enough, comes from my feet. Any time I look at my feet I get dysphoric, because they're larger than the average woman's. It really sucks when I'm trying on shoes, and someone points out how big my feet are. I'm just sitting there like: "Thanks... I really needed to be reminded of that."
Dude! you have to put a spoiler warning on the doctor who bit... I've been waiting for my niece to catch up so we can watch it together, and it's killing me that I haven't seen it yet lmao 😂😭... I'm probably the last whovian that hasn't watched it, but we sacrifice for the niblings lol
Listen. I watched that episode the day it came out and the Internet still managed to spoil this for me. I'm insanely impressed you made it this far but i think it was a losing game.
There is tape for binding. I've been using it for the past 2-3 years because I need to be able to play hockey without crying in the locker room. Obviously, don't use duct tape.
Years ago, pitched in to get a Satanic Temple member card, a design with the Seven Tenets on the back. I'd lost it by now, but with a week of me taking a look to the site for a replacement, there's a site-wide sale! So, will have a new card with my new name embossed in golden sheen~
TST is hot garbage. You question any of the eugenecist, sexist, antisemetic, racist bull the leaders spew and the members will attack you. So glad I left that cesspit that makes a joke of actual Satanism...
19:50 The pronoun-respecting bully actually reminded me of in 8th grade how these two kids at my table would try to make fun of me for not wanting them to kill tadpoles, but were still respectful of my preferred name, haha. Very strange way to get gender euphoria.
The one I get as a nonbinary person is " But you have on a dress and makeup. Shouldn't you be wearing pants?" Cloths don't have a gender. People make that up. If its cool and I look good, I am going to ware it.
I'm a med student. A while ago, some of my fellow trans students and I were chatting, and it seems we all coincidentally had the thought at some point that going to med school -> being called "Dr." -> never having to use our assigned gendered title again. You know, as cis people think.
Omg I relate to the "I didn't understand the assignment" meme because I'm autistic but diagnosed later in life and I literally did not comprehend until I was an adult that gender norms are also a social expectation and not just a description of averages. I knew that sexism and gender stereotypes existed ofcourse but like I did not comprehend that most people genuinely identify with their gender and were expecting me to as well. Like I basically thought gender was only sexism and oversimplification and not something people actually experienced, so I just escaped the feeling of being pressured to conform to one because any effort to instill that in me went over my head 😅
@@meilinrivera1 I think I basically only noticed gender as a social thing when it was at an extreme, so when someone was expressing overt sexism or portraying a stereotype. When I did notice more nuanced effects of gender (like most kids preffering friends of their own gender for example) I probably assumed that to be a result of sexism too and not any innate experience of gender.
I'm trans and I knew since I was around 10-11 that I wanted to be a girl, that I was a girl. All of my life I would wear women's cloths, I finally was diagnosed with gender dysphoria and stared to transition. Several months ago I asked my mom if she would have let me transition when I was 13, she told me NO and that I was a child and that I didn't know what I was. I'm living as my true self and I looked at her and said "Apparently I did know, just look at me now!". The problem with most people is that they don't think that kids are self aware. If an adult can be self aware, so can children. Parents need to listen to their children.
My family told me they didn't see any signs. Even though I have a lot of memories of me thinking about being the opposite gender. I literally was wearing a skirt outside once and was told to take it off. My Mom doesn't remember telling me that, but I remember it clearly. Besides the skirt I don't remember what happened that day.
self awareness is all well and good but adults have an awareness of the world and experience in it that you can't understand yet. Stay true to yourself but be aware they want what's best for you and can see a longer view.
Was originally gonna talk to my doctor about starting hrt next month but I knew I was gonna psych myself out before then, but on a whim I checked out my local planned parenhood's website to see if they did hrt a few days ago and now I've got an appointment tomorrow morning!!!
I didn't figure out I'm trans until into my 30s. And it's not that there were no signs: it's that no one recognized the signs. I never identified as a girl as a child, but I was quite feminine. Oh! Your assessment of The Meep is actually really interesting. I hadn't thought of it like that before.
People are allowed to have preferences when dating, but if that preference is ONLY because someone is trans, that's ridiculous. Trying to separate cis women from trans women without singling out a lot of other cis women in the process is funnily sad in it's own right
80% Of those people have unresolved insecurities relating to gender or sexual orientation (then I'd say 10% are pick-mes and the other 10% straight up evil). What is tough is that those types are usually so afraid of what they'll find if they start questioning where their insecurity comes from that it's really hard to get them to do it.
me as an 8-year-old: screaming and crying about being forced to wear girls clothes and play with girls toys my mom when i was 24: "i accept trans people but i don't believe that you are trans"
There's a local socialist trans group that I'm in the Discord server for, and it feels like most of the active posters are transmasc, and my endocrinologist had even remarked about more people getting testosterone treatment, but I don't clearly remember if that was an anecdote for that practise, in which case maybe it's skewed by D.I.Y. availability between estrogen and testosterone? I'unno, I jus' eat them blue pills~
I'd go by the sign on the door too. I love that you know about The Star Beast! I'm a lifelong (48yo) Doctor WHO fan so cool to see that referenced here. If you hadn't already obviously seen it I'd have wanted to see you and Shaba react to it.
@drillturkiye31051 I'm sure someone equally depraved will find that impressive. I thank you for buying one in the first place, your money will spend well for one of us.
Gotta love Jamie not knowing who Caine is and asking if it's something he should know, and then later in the video goes on a whole ramble about whatever "the Meep" is like it's something that everyone knows about and needs no explanation.
I don't misgender horrible trans people because being identified by your correct pronouns is not a privilege that can be taken away, its a right everyone has. Unless they're transphobic and you're doing it to make a point, you'd never normally misgender a cis person just because they do something awful, so why would you ever do it to a trans person? And like, its not even about the awful person, its about telling the trans people around you that you respect their pronouns unconditionally. Misgendering trans people if they've done something awful is just like saying that you don't actually recognize them as the gender/non-gender they identify with, and that you only recognize them as their preferred identity if they're 'good' in your eyes. At least, this is how I've always thought about it. TLDR: Correct pronouns are a right not a privilege.
Also, as for the toilet signs, I'd go by the on door sign. It would be the most obvious one and the one you see last as you enter. Unfortunately I'd probably still go in the male one though as I got a long way to go before passing yet and kinda scared lul. (but I WILL get there)
A technique I'm itching to use if/when I interact with someone who claims to be anti-pronouns is to use their name. For example, "Bob's birthday party is at Bob's house this weekend. Bob has promised Bob will not get as drunk as Bob did at Bob's work's Christmas party". See how long it takes them to back down.
8:13 TRANSTAPE THO!!!!!! binding with trans tape (when done correctly) is super safe!!! ive been doing it for almost a year nearly (every 6 days not in the night) and my skin is perfectly fine!
My favorite comeback to the "my pronouns are attack/helicopter" meme is simply... respecting those pronouns and seeing how fast it takes the transphobe to get fed up. If attack wants to be referred to with attack/helicopter pronouns, then who am I to deny helicopter that?
If you claim the benefits intended for a minority group, you may have an easier time. Think of someone using a handicapped parking space when they're not disabled. It doesn't mean disabled people have an easier life, it means that person usurped resources intended to help someone who is struggling.
@@alex_blue5802 people dont really do that for lgbtq cause regardless of their stance on it they know its frowned upon and if they dont think that then its likely they would be embarrassed to present that way
@@axel90000 I don't think anyone actually does it, but plenty of cis people joke about taking advantage of policies meant to help trans people. I think the "life on easy mode" comment was coming from the same place.
@@SpecialBlanket usually it's about self id. The joke goes "I'm going to identify as a woman to get access to women's showers/changing rooms/prisons." When of course that's not what self id is for, it's to help trans people.
24:51 I have mine set to fucking/disaster because I am legitimately not a human being I am three raccoons in a trench coat and I live for pure chaos. My pronouns are not a joke, they are a warning
with the stuff about the meep, i havent read the original comic yet, but the star beast was adapted from a comic of the same name from a dr who magazine from the 70s or 80s. idk if the meep was written to be an allegory for a bigot then but 100% was adapted into one (even makes a transphobic remark against rose after revealing the meep was evil)
Somebody attacked me for having preferred pronouns in my Twitter bio yesterday (just standard he/him/they/them to help make others more comfortable) and then blocked me when I pointed out their bio started with a pronoun. These guys don't know what a pronoun is and just think it's some kind of thing they can throw out and win any argument. The more we normalise people listing their pronouns the more our friends whose pronouns may not be obvious can feel comfortable. It's not hard to be nice so all the pronoun attackers do is show they aren't nice. It's an easy win for us because it means we can spot arseholes really quickly :)
oh god i'm just imagining a trans man using baby powder to dry himself off before putting the binder on and ending up like ross from friends in the leather pants... tugging on it and whacking himself in the face, "the powder and the moisture have made a PASTE!" i hope that never happens to anyone...
My (trans woman) weirdly specific dysphoria was from the first time I shaved my face after coming to teens with who I am. It was such a rush of so many emotions all at once. The next day, it was better, and now I hate it when I have any visible facial hair, but shaving it off that first time made it so real that I could barely manage.
As a cis woman who is letting her leg hair grow out, but occasionally gets dysphoric about is as a neurodivergent person cause it's visually "not neat" (it's too flimsy, short n spaced out to be fluffy & too dense n dark to blend with my very bright skin LOL) ....... I find the hair aspect of your description so relatable. I'd be fine shaving them but I'm NOT fine shaving them for the wrong reason. And the thing is, I don't notice in everyday life. I only notice when I'm "brushing up" for some doctor's appointment or outing and then it's "learned ingrained misogyny" and I go "NOPE, I'm NOT damn shaving NOW for THAT reason!" and "I'll just shave next time I shower and have no plans, just for myself". But then my brain pays more attention to my humming and the lovely hot water sensory stuff and I forget 😆 Brains are funny sometimes! Bodies are, too!
my parents said they didn't care when I came out bc "I was their kid" it took a lot of arguing, but I think they understand now that I care about being recognized as their daughter
the part about there not being a "right age" to be trans genuinely made me so happy. Because these are the same internalised issues I have with myself. I feel like I'm too old to come out as trans (I'm 25) and if I actually were trans I would've known earlier and shown signs growing up. It really helps hearing that that argument is nonsensical
Some people know who they are when they're little kids. Other people don't realise until a lot older than you are. Whether you realise at five, twenty-five, or one hundred and five, these are all equally valid.
As a 5'5" trans guy, I rarely feel height dysphoria because men are so short where I live I'm just kind of average height, especially among other French Canadian men in the area. (I'm not from Québec, those mfs are tall)
As a trans guy from quebec I can confirm that even the transmasc mfs are tall here. (I blame our egos, we just need more body to fit all that French ego in.)
"Dinosaurs are cool, transphobia is not" Me, a trans guy sitting here in my dinosaur pjs, looking at my shelf with my dinosaur figurines: :) **adds to cart*
Yaaaay I got an ad with a German petition for LGBT+ rights (which I signed last time I saw it). Good job for once, YT ads!! Can't you blasted keep it up and let me say "no" to all of the triggering n creepy stuff for myself already? surely there's more AWESOME ads like this in the repertoire?!
I’m 53 cis woman. I’m a nurse. I go in the bathroom that doesn’t have anyone in it. If it’s a single toilet I don’t care what sign is on it when I have to pee! I’ve survived many dirty looks and a few nasty comments from all kinds of people when coming out of a men’s toilet.
*sapient. Sentient is just being able to perceive and feel things, without any higher intelligence. Even a jellyfish, which has literally no brain therefore no real ability to even think, is sentient, so it's not the bar to apply for "that is people". (you hit my pet peeve when discussing intellect can you guess)
Jamie, I like how you say "official binders," with the weight and authority as if there is a national league of binder experts who are going around cerifying the things. That said, as a transmasc who is only discovering myself in my 30's: I love my binders! They are incredibly comfortable, easy to wash, and don't cause me any pain when used correctly. Worth every penny. Bind safely, friends!
I will say for binding, there is KT tape, which is meant for binding, but, and this is important, you don't go all the way around with it. The technique is completely different. (I don't have room to talk though, because I used to use masking tape.) Also, shadow euphoria/dysphoria. If your shadow looks particularly masculine or feminine when you look down at it, you tend to fixate (at least I do).
I can still remember people saying that I must want to be a boy when I was younger because I've always felt more comfortable in either gender neutral or masculine clothes. They also said that I should dress more feminine, have more feminine hobbies, and that my goth "phase" would end eventually & I would start being into more feminine stuff. Fast forward 20 years later & I'm still see myself as a woman who loves my goth wardrobe and is a massive nerd when it comes to video games, history, & technology. It's almost like the way someone dresses & their hobbies don't define who we are as a person. Rather, a person defines themselves & people should be able to be themselves without fearing what other people will think about them or being shamed for who they are
I can highly relate to the people wanting to be offended of transphobia on my behalf, its like "Were you offended" "should we be offended too" "Who do we need to kill to fix this". Hilarious but still nice that people do care. 😂
@drillturkiye31051a lot of modern flags are fireproof, mate. Nice try. Also please get your face out of the pfp, the internet’s a scary place. You even old enough to use the internet?
@@notareallifetiger4817 it's a spam bot, and honestly it's even more useless than the "hot singles in your area" bots. Probably uses some rando's facebook photo for this
I knew I was trans as a kid, but I didn't have the language or knowledge to understand how I felt
I knew I was trans as a teen, but a host of trauma and indoctrination left me feeling like an abomination unto god
Finally, at 44, I was able to understand and accept who I am
Except for being gay, not trans, this looks so much like my story, in general outline at least. Except I never felt like an abomination (I did feel I had to hide), and I didn't come out until I was nearly sixty. It's never too late, and it feels so much betrer, even if only because you can acknowledge and accept yourself.
That's pretty much exactly how I was too, OP; I always saw myself as a girl, I just didn't quite realize it or understand why when I was a kid. Because my family and I didn't have the language or education to understand or articulate what I was experiencing.
Yep. I literally called puberty torture and my parents still claim "there were no signs".
Good job
I relate so hard to this as a younger trans person who knew something wasn't right with being called what I was assigned at birth.
19:28 This is like that story about the kid who got into a fight with a trans boy and then, when the school's principal (headmaster) told him off for hitting a "woman", he got mad on the trans boy's behalf and got into another fight with the principal.
Yep, like trans inclusive bullying? Uh, well it's better than transphobic bullying.
Well it's possible to get into a fight with a friend, so not necessarily bullying.
@@waffles3629 Having been in a similar situation where my bully decided he was gonna defend me, the whiplash is surreal but there's also this weird joy in knowing someone that hates your guts has decided that you deserve respect even if they hate you.
(I had a very strange relationship with my bully after that defense that was half "uneasy truce" and half "eerie respectfulness")
That kid is like a rival in a shonen anime. It's cool that such people exist.
wrong channel lil bro@drillturkiye31051
I'm non-binary and studying Veterinary Medicine, and can't wait to graduate, as I can call myself "Dr".
now THAT is a pro strat right there, kudos!
Oh my god, Im literally the same!❤
Genderqueer & in vet scool!
YOU GO SIB! LOVE SENT FROM THE BOTTOM OF THE OCEAN
OMFG YES SAME I WANT TO GO TO MEDICINE AND THEN I CAN BE DR!
While uncommon, GNC alternatives for titles such as Mr/Mrs/Miss/Ms exist. As an enby, I prefer Mx (pronouned "Mix") which happens to be the most mainstream option, but just google it and youll get a whole list. If you're looking to get it changed legally without the name change hassle though or someone doesn't want to use your preferred title, then Dr. may be your best alternative because not calling you by that is a major sign of disrespect (which should be said for all titles and names in general but unfortunately we live in a society)
'But you can be a feminine man'
Me, a buff man with makeup: why cant you have both?
Femboy? ❌
Femman! ✅
Kars, how did you get back down from space
I imagined that said in a deep voice.
@@neoqwerty Ngl a good portion of Jojo villains fit the criteria of being peak masculine energy while wearing suth you’d never seen in your life… With eyeliner
The person saying this will go on to attack feminine men for not being butch enough. Just like they always do.
Transphobes: archeologist will tell from your bones that-
Miniminuteman (archeologist youtuber): no, they wont always.
Transperson: If archaeologists are looking at my bones, it'll be because I'm dead, so it won't matter either way.
Holy crap, never thought I'd see someone mention Miniminuteman here lmao
@@benson23198 what
Yooo fellow miniminuteman enjoyer!!!
Yeah, at most they might see if that person was pregnant before or something, but other than that, almost no signs, if they were archeologists, they'd probably see the objects around that dead person, oh wait, graves would probably look creepy to be honest
One of my roommates came out as a trans woman in college during the lockdown. She told us that she knew all throughout high school that she was trans, but her parents were transphobic, so she ended up repressing her feelings to the point that she presented even more masculine and would use a deeper voice and grew out her beard. So on the surface, she "didn't show any signs as a child or teen" but that hasn't invalidated her identity!
That’s really REALLY common. Most trans ppl try to be hyper the other thing for awhile. I was hyperfeminine for awhile bc I always felt like I wasn’t convincingly being a girl or was doing it wrong so I just kept trying harder and harder.
@@SpecialBlanket That also happened to me. I am so glad that I'm not alone.
It made me feel less valid because I "wanted" to be a girl so I couldn't be trans. It got to the point that I was questioning if I really was because I made myself like dress, makeup and other super-feminine things. So I was like "you can't be trans, you like lipstick", for exemple.
What made me question a bit less was how I felt when I saw myself with a short haircut and a somewhat flat chest. It was true gender euphoria.
I still question myself everyday because of that super-feminine phase. And I haven't told anybody around me because I always think "what if this is just another phase?". And because I'm scared of how my transphobic family will react. I "played around" with the idea of me being trans in front of them and their reaction and the argument they started were not pretty.
"A transphobic joke / Me trying to watch my favorite childhood show"
*Sighs in Gen X...Yeah...
Yeesh,, Least the next generations are getting less of these
Gen-X gay here. Right there with ya.
I started watching the first Bad Education series recently because I used to love it. Episode 5 casually drop the t-slur when a (cis woman) teacher wears makeup. Surprising with how Stephen loves to blur gender so much.
Millennial here, so my fav childhood shows had not just transphobia, but also homophobia, rhape culture, fat "jokes" straight up racism, blatant misogyny, ableism, Islamophobia and anti semetism on a VERY frequent basis
Needless to say, most are not enjoyable to me now
I still love Life Of Brian even though that whole Stan/Loretta sketch is being held up as a Transphobic joke. You have to remember when that movie was made, I doubt anyone was thinking about being anti Trans because that wasnt something people even really knew existed back then. Unless its bigotry for ALL ages like this *they're just best friends* thing when its CLEAR they were lesbians and lesbians have been known about since Roman times, you have to put each movie in the context of the time it was made or just dont watch older films. Your choice.
As a cis man, I know what dysphoria is like. A woman once told me that I have nice and feminine hips/waist... that messed with me for a long time. That wasn't the only thing, but it's the one that still sticks out in my mind.
Oh no. I’ve told someone that before. I genuinely thought it was hot!!!
A doctor told me my legs were masculinely powerful once. Cue me not going to the gym for years
@@SpecialBlanket it depends on the person i think, so hopefully they weren't bothered by it
@@SpecialBlanket she may have meant it that way but I was already doing everything I could to be buff and "manly" in appearance, so it had an undesired effect.
Hey, look at that high waisted men! He's got feminine hips! (John Mulaney joke, not me making fun of you)
Jammidodger: "trans women aren't just cookie-cutter copies of eachother!"
me, holding my blahaj, sipping monster energy, and eating a pickle: "yeah! you tell em!"
Do you like fallout tho?? 🧐
@@grampa.corybreshears fuckin love fallout
@@Kcthetransgirl
Have you also caught Uranium Fever?
@@Dutch_Man68 yeah, it's gone and got me down
16:54 as a non-binary person, I'd go in whichever one my trans girlfriend went in to be ready to defend her honour in a duel
This is the accurate answer.
You've got my respect, for being ready to protect your partner's honor
You're a good partner.
"you can be a masculine woman"
can i though? because i seem to remember also getting a mountain of shit for being a masculine girl when i was a kid.
I realized not long ago that too much of my reason for wanting to go for a PhD right away (despite it being questionable whether I can afford it right now) was so that I'd have a gender-neutral title. I think I've decided "screw it, for the next ten years or so they'll have the choice to use 'Mx' or 'Reverend,' and I may eventually show mercy by giving them the option to use 'Dr'."
That's fantastic 🤣💕🙏🏻
reverend is so iconic i jokingly tell people to exclusively refer to me as bitch because i just feel ✨not gendered✨but reverend might take the place of that….
Did nobody tell you that anyone can get an Esq for free? (Esquire)
Translation: A process or instance of rendering one language into another.
Cislation: Standing there dumbfounded, unable to understand each other.
Transportation: Conveyance or travel from one place to another.
Cisportation: Sitting around in the same old boring place.
Transaction: An exchange of goods, services, or funds.
Cisaction: I take your things and run away without paying.
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What would "incisigent" as the opposite of "intransigent" mean?
@@M_M_ODonnell Incisigent: changing your opinions and behavior every time you find something else that you want to hitch your wagon to because you have no self-identity and values of your own yet
@@neoqwerty oh hooray I don’t have this! I have the opposite.
What?
Sign mixup over the bathroom? Ahh... I guess they're gender neutral, picks a door, walks in.
grow the f*** up and stop plastering the comment section with this immature garbage @drillturkiye31051
Instructions are unclear, so I'm just going with whichever line is shorter, regardless of gender. 😆
Me too. I'd definitely just pick one at random.
So, kinda going off of the don’t bind with duct tape, there actually is a tape that is designed for both tucking and binding. It’s called transtape.
I’ve actually recently switched to using it for working out since I swim and weight lift a lot and lifting with a binder is not safe lmao. It is nice and waterproof, and you don’t really need to change it that much (probably more if you use it to tuck), and I personally find it more comfortable than a binder. It only tucks under your arms, and doesn’t compress your ribs like a binder does, so it’s a lot easier to breathe in it.
I saw it and can't wait to have the chance to buy it! I have used regular sports tape and I think the main thing we should all keep in mind when using any type of skinsafe tape is it should always be removed using oil. Especially for anyone who is hairy, which would be most trans guys lol
was about to comment this lol
Is there a particular brand that is the best/safest/most comfortable transtape to use?
@@sassylittleprophet transtape is the brand (and product) lol it should be the first result when you google it :)
Just came to say this! I exclusively use tape to bind because it works better for me than regular binders. My chest always shifts to make it look like I have one big boob in normal binders. 😂
The transformer meme made me think of this sweet anecdote. Warning, I’m dyslexic, and AuDHD so this will probably be long-winded and full of typos.
I think it’s worth it though.
I used to teach English as an additional language at a secondary school. I was one of several openly queer teachers working there (I was out to other staff but not to the kids), and the head teacher had recently sent out an email to all staff saying that we could not have any pride displays or teaching materials, because “students learn about the equality act in PSHE (Personal, Social, Health, & Economic Education)”. I’m not even sure if he was allowed to do that by law, but many of us were afraid of losing our jobs.
This was around the time that Lil Nas X came out, and Caitlin Jenner was a contestant on I’m A Celebrity. My year eight students (aged 12-13) were all obsessed with old town Road, and one of them asked me if I’d heard that Lil Nas X was gay. I said yes. One of them said that they thought it was really cool that a Black gay man was making country music. Then another kid asked me what the word was for when someone likes boys and girls. I said “ bisexual”. It turned out that his friend had just come out as bi to him, and he wanted to know the English word for it so he could be a supportive friend. I had to try so hard not to cry.
Then the same kid asked me about Caitlin Jenner. He said “ she used to be a man, and now she’s a woman. What’s the word for that again? I know it’s something like ‘transformer’, but that’s not it. I said “transgender” and he laughed because he was embarrassed that he got the word wrong. I said he had nothing to feel embarrassed about, and that it was good that he was so respectful and wanting to learn about different people.
I kept trying to think of how I could change the subject, but the kids kept asking really thoughtful questions. Some were wanting to talk about LGBTQ+ laws in their home countries. I was anxious that the kids were asking me all these questions about sexuality and gender identity. On one hand, I felt really emotional that they felt comfortable enough to ask me these questions, and I was also immensely proud that they were so inquisitive and respectful, but on the other hand, I was worried about the email we’d received, and I was cautious about safeguarding guidelines and overstepping boundaries even though it was the kids who brought up the subject.
I said “I want you to know how proud I am of you all, but I’m not qualified to have these kinds of discussions with you, so I’m afraid I’m going to have to end this conversation. I’ve been told you learn about these kinds of topics in PSHE, so I suggest that you write down any questions you have, and ask your PSHE teacher in your next lesson.” One of the kids said “but we never learn about bisexual people or transgender people in PSHE!” and another kid said “yeah! All they teach us is “don’t do drugs and don’t meet strangers off the internet”, and we knew that already!”
I quit teaching in 2020, and with the current moral panic against queer teachers, I am so relieved that I don’t teach any more. The Tories and the media are pushing this narrative that LGBTQ+ issues are being “forced” on kids, when in reality that’s not the case at all. If my students had been receiving adequate social education, they wouldn’t have needed to ask me what words like “bisexual” mean.
22:30 Jaimie's *gasp* "I'm a doctor!" is low key adorable
that said, I too have a doctorate, and although I honestly don't really like being called Doctor as it seems too egocentric
however I WILL use it as a tool against transphobes
them: "ok SIR"
me: "it's Ma'am if you please"
them: "no, it's SIR!"
me: "ok fine you wanna play it that way, it is in fact DOCTOR and you WILL address me as such!"
Honestly? Power move.
you gotta have a sonic screwdriver tho. take your pick of the 17 tho
@@jamesnelson6656 what makes you think I don't have a sonic screwdriver 😉
I used to get dysphoria from the feeling of jeans on my legs. Not leggings, or sweatpants, just jeans. So for like, a year, I didn't wear jeans at all. We're good now. Jeans are comfy.
Ive never owned jeans because i find them so uncomfortable lol
@@pissapocalypseSame here.
I've always hated jeans. For me, it was for the longest time suits. Like, I think men look good in suits, but I wouldn't be caught dead in one. Ever.
@@pissapocalypse I avoided them my entire childhood lmao
Now they’re just,,, the laziest way to make an outfit socially acceptable
I've never liked jeans and likely never will. I've never understood how people can feel comfortable in them. They're so restrictive. I always stick to sweatpants, yoga pants, shorts, or even a casual dress (with pockets) anytime I'm not staying at home. Oh, and on the dress, that's never a particularly girly one. Just basic and comfortable single-color-soft-fabric. Others can wear those frilly and/or fancy ones, if they want, but I won't be caught dead in one. I'm an afab enby that very much refuses the "girly" stuff, after having it forced upon me against my outspoken will for my entire childhood.
"Never use any kind of tape for binding"
Transtape, Jamie. It is tape that exists to be used to bind.
Tbf, it seems like a relatively new invention, like an offshoot of the kinesio tape physio and massage therapists sometimes use to treat chronic muscle and posture problems.
Do you know the best brand of transtape? My binder has been feeling more and more uncomfortable to wear, which sometimes makes me feel dysphoric because I can't bind as often or for as long as I'd like to at times.
@@sassylittleprophettrans tape has an official brand just called that :)
@xxt0th34rkxx8 thank you so much!
Some people really think one would choose to be trans as if you’d endure the discomfort of a binder for fun…
0:47 CAINE!!!! (He’s from the show The Amazing Digital Circus on CZcams btw)
I was going to say that
Caine would support trans rights🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for sure
@drillturkiye31051 nobody asked
@drillturkiye31051 Kay baby have fun nobody cares ❤
This man just summoned a whole fandom and didn't even realize it!
Dinosaurs are cool heck ye.
Agreed
Yes!
Watch your language. (Lighthearted joke)
And I agree
AND TRANSPHOBIA IS NOT COOL!!! 🏳️⚧️
AND TRANSPHOBIA IS NOT COOL!! 🏳️⚧️
The character with the "NO TRANSPHOBIA ALLOWED" sign is Caine, from The Amazing Digital Circus! He's basically what happens if AM from "I Have No Mouth and I Must Scream" was a wacky little guy instead of a murderous, hateful AI bent on wiping out humanity. Hope that helps!
@drillturkiye31051SILENCE, BIGOTED TWERP
Just realised, in Harry Potter it is TRANS-figuration, the best part is that you can use TRANS-figuration to transition 😮
Considering how anti-trans Rowling turned out to be, it's so funny how easy a medical (...or I guess magical?) transition would be in the Harry Potter universe...
Potions that can regrow an entire skeleton *OVERNIGHT* are a common mass-produced product that the school nurse keeps in stock. Temporarily turning into a copy of another person just takes a moderately advanced potion and a bit of their hair. And then we've got Animagi who can change *SPECIES* and stay that way for years on end if they so choose...
Changing a wizard's hormone balance and restructuring some of their body parts a bit so they're closer to what feels right for them should be super easy compared to all that!
"You can just be a feminine man!" "No."
_Thiiiis_ is something I've come to figure about myself. On principle, effeminate men are legit, in all the ranges that incarnates, but since I started medically transitioning and subsequently began concretely conceptualizing myself as a woman, I've -chocked- chalked up the occasional unease in my receptivity to such men as -- well, prolly no small part internalized toxic masculinity, but also a repulsion against that for my own self. The answer's been, I want to be feminine _as a woman,_ thank you very much~
My family was like that. ‘Just be a tomboy’. I transitioned anyway (transmasc nb) and my cis brother overheard those ideas and became a femboy.
Helping people understand the difference between being an effeminate man and being a trans tomboy is one of my most frustrating but favourite things to do.
this is me, but opposite- “Just be a masculine woman”, I get masculine women *do* exist, but I'd like to be masculine as a *man*, thanks!!:)
It's also completely valid to be a tomboyish trans woman, or a tomgirlish trans man. You can be trans and gender nonconforming relative to your gender identity. It's okay to experiment with and change your gender expression day by day if you want. Do what makes you happy.
@@FrozEnbyWolf150 Quite true! I think my comment got hidden because I am literally the syrup within CZcams's walls by now, but it was mainly just pointing out that I'm a perfect example of your point; a transfemme tomboy. Someone who, while having typically masculine-coded/marketed interests and dressing in a mildly masculine or "blue collar"-ish fit, identifies more with the female gender and engages with those interests from a feminine perspective.
Some people: (trying to unscrew a jar lid) "I need a mans help"
Me:
Me: /palm slaps the shit out of the lid to break the seal like I'm a magician with anger issues
There are devices that actually are designed to open lids. They have a rubber part that tightens around the lid, and a ratchet part that lets you tighten them until they're tight enough.
That said, I usually just ask my Dad, who built up his grip strength from doing a lot of pruning work as a kid and teen. So, if anyone does get dysphoric with their grip strength, it can be something you can work on.
a few weeks ago in my lgbt youth group we were at a church because they were letting us use their kitchen to make food (we made nachos and rice krispys 10/10) and one of my friends was tryna open a salsa jar and couldn't then asked "does anyone have man hands to open this?" and I then popped it open(for a slight bit of context I have kinda big hands and like long fingers almost everyone who sees this says I should play piano or something) and I just wanna say as an afab enby it was extremely validating
I feel like you've gotten a lot happier when you can't remember what used to give you dysphoria
@drillturkiye31051nice grammar bro
You do indeed start forgetting the things that gave you dysphoria.
Then, if it happens at some point later, it sucks just as bad, if not worse
@@Ohmygod_neilciccerega Just another sh***y bot…
Report, block, move on. Not worth engaging.
There are a few accounts in this comment section with the EXACT same comment.
Don’t know why turkey bots are on the loose all of a sudden, used to be ruZZians…
@@Ohmygod_neilciccerega indeed lol, they deleted it
"I used to have a bunch of other ones *that I can't even remember anymore*"
Made me do a little squee there Jamie. :D
My mum kept on saying “you’re just a tomboy”
Fun fact: From the age of like 3-10 I had a FEAR of wearing skirts or tights!
My mother said the same thing lol turns out I’m fluid and mostly masc. fun finding who you are ❤❤
Me as a child: “I hate wearing dresses because they make me feel like I’m a boy wearing the wrong thing. Also I’m not playing with dolls anymore because I don’t have pants for them and I feel bad forcing them to wear dresses.”
My parents: “Ah yes, our beautiful and very feminine daughter, who is 100% a female girl, we have never seen any evidence to the contrary.”
Meanwhile, I have had to deal with people telling me I’m just a man or that I should just “stay a man” because I’m a transfem and a tomboy (yes we exist)
@@zvezda4701 that’s just dumb do they expect to never be who you are because they don’t understand?! Psh sucks to deal with I hope it’s getting easier
@@teshlafreeman4040 eh don’t worry about it, those people were just a bunch of strangers, they’re not worth it, just annoying af
I'm non-binary, but I'm a bit older. So, I don't think I'm quite up to getting a Ph.D at my age. I think I might just carry around a toy sonic screwdriver and say that I'm The Doctor. That should work too. Also, I think I would go with the sign over the door. It's probably faster and easier to put the sign on the door itself, so that seems to me to be the easier mistake.
Is it just me, or are there lots of whovians here? 💙💙
@@missnaomi613 Doctor who is British and has always been queer. it's just been more apparent especially in nuwho. there's a whole compilation of 13 forgetting she's a lady now
Yay! My friend got me a "Dinosaurs are Cool. Homophobia is Not" T-shirt for Xmas. I love it loads! xox
How dare the meme at 11:54 call me out so hard
I was _fine_ with myself until puberty hit
@drillturkiye31051go get ur mummy to change your diaper bro.
I was fine with myself until I understood what trans/nb were and that there were certain characteristics I had that were difficult, if not impossible to reverse after puberty…
As for the reversed signs on the bathroom doors, I agree. It's more likely the signs on the doors were correct and someone mixed up the hanging signs after installing the brackets. I thought this just before Jamie asked so I thought I'd comment and feed the algorithm...
16:17 Finally, a set of bathrooms for bigender people!
When the bathrooms themselves are trans
I would love to identify as an attack helicopter. Not in a transphobic way, just in a cyborg/armored core sort of way. All my trans and ally friends could ride around in my cargo bays with the transphobes below watching in envy.
Fwoom fwoom fwoom get blocked get blocked get blocked get blocked.
you’re so real for this king/queen/your majesty
I WOULD ALSO LIKE TO BE A ROBOT
LIKE RAIDEN
METAL GEAR
Yes you could even have a “gaydar” to help find lost gays across the world and fly them to safety
My worst dysphoria, oddly enough, comes from my feet. Any time I look at my feet I get dysphoric, because they're larger than the average woman's. It really sucks when I'm trying on shoes, and someone points out how big my feet are. I'm just sitting there like: "Thanks... I really needed to be reminded of that."
some of my dyspho comes from my hands lol. i have such tiny hands that could never belong to the man i want to present as and it makes me sad
@@lurjisame
Perfect timing, I was feeling down on transphobia and needed some wholesome trans memes c:
A weak prey, perfect for victimising
@@minestar2247 wat lol
@@Whale-Shark-Katie basically announcing I'm gonna bully you
Dude! you have to put a spoiler warning on the doctor who bit... I've been waiting for my niece to catch up so we can watch it together, and it's killing me that I haven't seen it yet lmao 😂😭... I'm probably the last whovian that hasn't watched it, but we sacrifice for the niblings lol
@drillturkiye31051good for you. No one cares what you're doing
I haven’t either!!! I got spoiled dammit
I haven't seen it yet, either.
@drillturkiye31051spam
Listen. I watched that episode the day it came out and the Internet still managed to spoil this for me. I'm insanely impressed you made it this far but i think it was a losing game.
There is tape for binding. I've been using it for the past 2-3 years because I need to be able to play hockey without crying in the locker room. Obviously, don't use duct tape.
Years ago, pitched in to get a Satanic Temple member card, a design with the Seven Tenets on the back. I'd lost it by now, but with a week of me taking a look to the site for a replacement, there's a site-wide sale! So, will have a new card with my new name embossed in golden sheen~
TST is hot garbage. You question any of the eugenecist, sexist, antisemetic, racist bull the leaders spew and the members will attack you. So glad I left that cesspit that makes a joke of actual Satanism...
19:50 The pronoun-respecting bully actually reminded me of in 8th grade how these two kids at my table would try to make fun of me for not wanting them to kill tadpoles, but were still respectful of my preferred name, haha. Very strange way to get gender euphoria.
The one I get as a nonbinary person is " But you have on a dress and makeup. Shouldn't you be wearing pants?" Cloths don't have a gender. People make that up. If its cool and I look good, I am going to ware it.
I'm a med student. A while ago, some of my fellow trans students and I were chatting, and it seems we all coincidentally had the thought at some point that going to med school -> being called "Dr." -> never having to use our assigned gendered title again.
You know, as cis people think.
Omg I relate to the "I didn't understand the assignment" meme because I'm autistic but diagnosed later in life and I literally did not comprehend until I was an adult that gender norms are also a social expectation and not just a description of averages. I knew that sexism and gender stereotypes existed ofcourse but like I did not comprehend that most people genuinely identify with their gender and were expecting me to as well. Like I basically thought gender was only sexism and oversimplification and not something people actually experienced, so I just escaped the feeling of being pressured to conform to one because any effort to instill that in me went over my head 😅
I mean it kinda is, so you're not totally wrong but yeah some people really do skew to one end or the other
@@meilinrivera1 I think I basically only noticed gender as a social thing when it was at an extreme, so when someone was expressing overt sexism or portraying a stereotype. When I did notice more nuanced effects of gender (like most kids preffering friends of their own gender for example) I probably assumed that to be a result of sexism too and not any innate experience of gender.
There are tapes that can be used, because they have body-safe adhesives.
DUCT TAPE IS NOT ONE OF THEM
I'm trans and I knew since I was around 10-11 that I wanted to be a girl, that I was a girl. All of my life I would wear women's cloths, I finally was diagnosed with gender dysphoria and stared to transition. Several months ago I asked my mom if she would have let me transition when I was 13, she told me NO and that I was a child and that I didn't know what I was. I'm living as my true self and I looked at her and said "Apparently I did know, just look at me now!". The problem with most people is that they don't think that kids are self aware. If an adult can be self aware, so can children. Parents need to listen to their children.
If you look it up: children tend to know their gender by age 3!
@@jamesphillips2285 exactly.
My family told me they didn't see any signs. Even though I have a lot of memories of me thinking about being the opposite gender. I literally was wearing a skirt outside once and was told to take it off. My Mom doesn't remember telling me that, but I remember it clearly. Besides the skirt I don't remember what happened that day.
self awareness is all well and good but adults have an awareness of the world and experience in it that you can't understand yet. Stay true to yourself but be aware they want what's best for you and can see a longer view.
@@andiward7068 Sadly some are just bigoted.
The t-shirt is very good Jamie, and I bought the hoodie version for my trans friend in the US. We love dinosaurs! No transphobia!
Was originally gonna talk to my doctor about starting hrt next month but I knew I was gonna psych myself out before then, but on a whim I checked out my local planned parenhood's website to see if they did hrt a few days ago and now I've got an appointment tomorrow morning!!!
good for you >▽
WE HAVE TRANSLATE!!!!! You forgot TRANLATE!!!!
TRANSPARENT
TRANSACTION
@@a_weird_mess3 trans son
@@dantevito1193 hi dad
Transplantation.
I didn't figure out I'm trans until into my 30s. And it's not that there were no signs: it's that no one recognized the signs. I never identified as a girl as a child, but I was quite feminine.
Oh! Your assessment of The Meep is actually really interesting. I hadn't thought of it like that before.
"Why didn't you transition when you were younger?"
"Because I feared for my life in my town."
My own (mtf) granddaughter declared at 6 years of age.
"I see you're using attack helicopter as your pronouns, is that because you want two airmen inside you at the same time?"
People are allowed to have preferences when dating, but if that preference is ONLY because someone is trans, that's ridiculous. Trying to separate cis women from trans women without singling out a lot of other cis women in the process is funnily sad in it's own right
Yep. Like plenty of cis people fit the characteristics of trans stereotypes.
80% Of those people have unresolved insecurities relating to gender or sexual orientation (then I'd say 10% are pick-mes and the other 10% straight up evil). What is tough is that those types are usually so afraid of what they'll find if they start questioning where their insecurity comes from that it's really hard to get them to do it.
True
@@MK-uz4mo 🤣
@@MK-uz4mo well trans women are women so I'm supposed to tell the difference between women and women? That's gonna be hard.
I did finally come out as trans at 25. but I grew up in "tomboy" time so I had no idea being trans could be a thing.
me as an 8-year-old: screaming and crying about being forced to wear girls clothes and play with girls toys
my mom when i was 24: "i accept trans people but i don't believe that you are trans"
Even if you weren't trans, toys and clothing being for only one gender is nonsense.
@@susanleslie6178
yeah and trying to force me to wear clothes i didn't like and play with toys i didn't like was also bullshit
@@RilianSharp Yeah, I thought that was obvious.
My earliest memory of dysphoria was my armpits
@drillturkiye31051 okay? Cool
OMG! Over been talking about those 'no heel' boots, casting my social spells, for a year now! Yay! Maybe now we'll see some hit market. 😎☺️
There's a local socialist trans group that I'm in the Discord server for, and it feels like most of the active posters are transmasc, and my endocrinologist had even remarked about more people getting testosterone treatment, but I don't clearly remember if that was an anecdote for that practise, in which case maybe it's skewed by D.I.Y. availability between estrogen and testosterone? I'unno, I jus' eat them blue pills~
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I'd go by the sign on the door too.
I love that you know about The Star Beast! I'm a lifelong (48yo) Doctor WHO fan so cool to see that referenced here. If you hadn't already obviously seen it I'd have wanted to see you and Shaba react to it.
@drillturkiye31051you’ve posted this comment hundreds of times
@drillturkiye31051 I'm sure someone equally depraved will find that impressive. I thank you for buying one in the first place, your money will spend well for one of us.
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RAR. Grog want homework. Give homework to Grog for grading. Grog will return grade.
Grog help I need to finish my research on the history of voiceover acting.
Grog is another name for alcohol in aus
Grog has an intelligence of 6, he knows what he's doing
@@haylene7521 That how Grog get name.
Gotta love Jamie not knowing who Caine is and asking if it's something he should know, and then later in the video goes on a whole ramble about whatever "the Meep" is like it's something that everyone knows about and needs no explanation.
If you're English that's probably accurate. Doctor Who is part of the culture.
I don't misgender horrible trans people because being identified by your correct pronouns is not a privilege that can be taken away, its a right everyone has. Unless they're transphobic and you're doing it to make a point, you'd never normally misgender a cis person just because they do something awful, so why would you ever do it to a trans person? And like, its not even about the awful person, its about telling the trans people around you that you respect their pronouns unconditionally. Misgendering trans people if they've done something awful is just like saying that you don't actually recognize them as the gender/non-gender they identify with, and that you only recognize them as their preferred identity if they're 'good' in your eyes. At least, this is how I've always thought about it. TLDR: Correct pronouns are a right not a privilege.
My meme was in the video!!! The platform-boots were mine :DDDD
Also, as for the toilet signs, I'd go by the on door sign. It would be the most obvious one and the one you see last as you enter. Unfortunately I'd probably still go in the male one though as I got a long way to go before passing yet and kinda scared lul. (but I WILL get there)
Well, do you want the stick figure, or the stick figure wearing a cape?
@drillturkiye31051 0 friends type behaviour. Fuck off
@drillturkiye31051nobody cares mate
The algorithm now thinks you like this stuff, as you have engaged, so enjoy seeing more of it
@drillturkiye31051
A technique I'm itching to use if/when I interact with someone who claims to be anti-pronouns is to use their name. For example, "Bob's birthday party is at Bob's house this weekend. Bob has promised Bob will not get as drunk as Bob did at Bob's work's Christmas party". See how long it takes them to back down.
I didn’t have my glasses on and thought this thumbnail was a really old dantdm video because of the blue hair 😭
"I don't know where this thought process comes from..."
Very generous of you to label it "thought" or a "process."
It is a though process, it's pretty interesting to see specimens of it
8:13 TRANSTAPE THO!!!!!! binding with trans tape (when done correctly) is super safe!!! ive been doing it for almost a year nearly (every 6 days not in the night) and my skin is perfectly fine!
You have no idea how quickly I bought that shirt so rahhhhhhh trans dino T-Shirt
@drillturkiye31051 Okay you can choose to do that but you will probs be reported many times and banned so you do you enjoy your short time on youtube
@@Rory.musicianI’m reporting him aggressively
@@SingerSofiaBrook Thank you
@@SingerSofiaBrook You have my axe.
When Jammi talks about people referring to him as a woman I get so confused because it's like,, HOW??
My favorite comeback to the "my pronouns are attack/helicopter" meme is simply... respecting those pronouns and seeing how fast it takes the transphobe to get fed up. If attack wants to be referred to with attack/helicopter pronouns, then who am I to deny helicopter that?
2:20 if they think we're on easy mode then they must be on peaceful
If you claim the benefits intended for a minority group, you may have an easier time. Think of someone using a handicapped parking space when they're not disabled. It doesn't mean disabled people have an easier life, it means that person usurped resources intended to help someone who is struggling.
@@alex_blue5802 people dont really do that for lgbtq cause regardless of their stance on it they know its frowned upon and if they dont think that then its likely they would be embarrassed to present that way
@@axel90000 I don't think anyone actually does it, but plenty of cis people joke about taking advantage of policies meant to help trans people. I think the "life on easy mode" comment was coming from the same place.
@@alex_blue5802what benefits are there for trans people though? Cross sex hrt? Why would you even want that if you were cis?
@@SpecialBlanket usually it's about self id. The joke goes "I'm going to identify as a woman to get access to women's showers/changing rooms/prisons." When of course that's not what self id is for, it's to help trans people.
20:50 As a student in wisconson, i can confirm that schools have NOT banned pride flags and pronouns, i see pride flags quite often
24:51 I have mine set to fucking/disaster because I am legitimately not a human being I am three raccoons in a trench coat and I live for pure chaos.
My pronouns are not a joke, they are a warning
with the stuff about the meep, i havent read the original comic yet, but the star beast was adapted from a comic of the same name from a dr who magazine from the 70s or 80s. idk if the meep was written to be an allegory for a bigot then but 100% was adapted into one (even makes a transphobic remark against rose after revealing the meep was evil)
1:13 This is basically the difference between Gordon Ramsay as a character and Gordon Ramsay as a person.
0:59 Their name is cane
Somebody attacked me for having preferred pronouns in my Twitter bio yesterday (just standard he/him/they/them to help make others more comfortable) and then blocked me when I pointed out their bio started with a pronoun. These guys don't know what a pronoun is and just think it's some kind of thing they can throw out and win any argument.
The more we normalise people listing their pronouns the more our friends whose pronouns may not be obvious can feel comfortable. It's not hard to be nice so all the pronoun attackers do is show they aren't nice. It's an easy win for us because it means we can spot arseholes really quickly :)
oh god i'm just imagining a trans man using baby powder to dry himself off before putting the binder on and ending up like ross from friends in the leather pants... tugging on it and whacking himself in the face, "the powder and the moisture have made a PASTE!" i hope that never happens to anyone...
Jamie’s hair looks so cool in this particular video
My (trans woman) weirdly specific dysphoria was from the first time I shaved my face after coming to teens with who I am. It was such a rush of so many emotions all at once. The next day, it was better, and now I hate it when I have any visible facial hair, but shaving it off that first time made it so real that I could barely manage.
As a cis woman who is letting her leg hair grow out, but occasionally gets dysphoric about is as a neurodivergent person cause it's visually "not neat" (it's too flimsy, short n spaced out to be fluffy & too dense n dark to blend with my very bright skin LOL) ....... I find the hair aspect of your description so relatable.
I'd be fine shaving them but I'm NOT fine shaving them for the wrong reason. And the thing is, I don't notice in everyday life. I only notice when I'm "brushing up" for some doctor's appointment or outing and then it's "learned ingrained misogyny" and I go "NOPE, I'm NOT damn shaving NOW for THAT reason!" and "I'll just shave next time I shower and have no plans, just for myself". But then my brain pays more attention to my humming and the lovely hot water sensory stuff and I forget 😆
Brains are funny sometimes! Bodies are, too!
im transmasc, and the weird thing im really dysphoric about is the size of my feet ☠️ they just feel too small y'know
Transgirl with big feet here, I feel your struggle, brother
my parents said they didn't care when I came out bc "I was their kid" it took a lot of arguing, but I think they understand now that I care about being recognized as their daughter
the part about there not being a "right age" to be trans genuinely made me so happy. Because these are the same internalised issues I have with myself. I feel like I'm too old to come out as trans (I'm 25) and if I actually were trans I would've known earlier and shown signs growing up. It really helps hearing that that argument is nonsensical
Some people know who they are when they're little kids. Other people don't realise until a lot older than you are. Whether you realise at five, twenty-five, or one hundred and five, these are all equally valid.
As a 5'5" trans guy, I rarely feel height dysphoria because men are so short where I live I'm just kind of average height, especially among other French Canadian men in the area. (I'm not from Québec, those mfs are tall)
As a trans guy from quebec I can confirm that even the transmasc mfs are tall here. (I blame our egos, we just need more body to fit all that French ego in.)
@benson23198 I care a little bit: don't think CZcams should host hate content. (so have been reporting it).
For me, most of my dysphoria is from my hands and body weight.
It's the eyeballs for me. I have such masculine eyeballs.
@drillturkiye31051 ?
"Dinosaurs are cool, transphobia is not"
Me, a trans guy sitting here in my dinosaur pjs, looking at my shelf with my dinosaur figurines: :) **adds to cart*
Yaaaay I got an ad with a German petition for LGBT+ rights (which I signed last time I saw it). Good job for once, YT ads!! Can't you blasted keep it up and let me say "no" to all of the triggering n creepy stuff for myself already? surely there's more AWESOME ads like this in the repertoire?!
The only reason I got an adblocker is because I kept getting shitty ads from the Epoch Times.
I’m 53 cis woman. I’m a nurse. I go in the bathroom that doesn’t have anyone in it. If it’s a single toilet I don’t care what sign is on it when I have to pee! I’ve survived many dirty looks and a few nasty comments from all kinds of people when coming out of a men’s toilet.
0:53 that's Cane from hit internet show "the amazing digital circus"
15:32
No. They are still people. They are sentient, therefore they are people.
I'm sorry, but that's a pet peeve of mine when discussing Sci-Fi.
*sapient. Sentient is just being able to perceive and feel things, without any higher intelligence. Even a jellyfish, which has literally no brain therefore no real ability to even think, is sentient, so it's not the bar to apply for "that is people".
(you hit my pet peeve when discussing intellect can you guess)
@@neoqwerty You know, I normally use "sapient," but everytime, I do, some body corrects me as "sentient."
@@neoqwertyThank you. I hear people misuse "sentient" SO damned much -_- .
Any plans for kids sizes in these tees? My wee one would love one. We may end up twinning.
Jamie, I like how you say "official binders," with the weight and authority as if there is a national league of binder experts who are going around cerifying the things.
That said, as a transmasc who is only discovering myself in my 30's: I love my binders! They are incredibly comfortable, easy to wash, and don't cause me any pain when used correctly. Worth every penny. Bind safely, friends!
18:46 you just perfectly described Satanism! Welcome to the club!
Satan is a jerk with a superiority complex, why do you like him?
18:01 Can you imagine billions of Luxerias? The idea is both awesome and terrifying.😂
Best possible outcome tbh
Can you imagine the sass?
@@haylene7521 And the glorious levels of chaos.😁
I will say for binding, there is KT tape, which is meant for binding, but, and this is important, you don't go all the way around with it. The technique is completely different. (I don't have room to talk though, because I used to use masking tape.)
Also, shadow euphoria/dysphoria. If your shadow looks particularly masculine or feminine when you look down at it, you tend to fixate (at least I do).
I can still remember people saying that I must want to be a boy when I was younger because I've always felt more comfortable in either gender neutral or masculine clothes. They also said that I should dress more feminine, have more feminine hobbies, and that my goth "phase" would end eventually & I would start being into more feminine stuff. Fast forward 20 years later & I'm still see myself as a woman who loves my goth wardrobe and is a massive nerd when it comes to video games, history, & technology. It's almost like the way someone dresses & their hobbies don't define who we are as a person. Rather, a person defines themselves & people should be able to be themselves without fearing what other people will think about them or being shamed for who they are
6:34 when you get an especially stubborn jar, turn it upside down and give it a slap. Turn it back over and try again, 🪄🎉 like magic
I can highly relate to the people wanting to be offended of transphobia on my behalf, its like "Were you offended" "should we be offended too" "Who do we need to kill to fix this". Hilarious but still nice that people do care. 😂
🦖=❤, Transphobia=👎.
@drillturkiye31051a lot of modern flags are fireproof, mate. Nice try. Also please get your face out of the pfp, the internet’s a scary place. You even old enough to use the internet?
@@notareallifetiger4817 it's a spam bot, and honestly it's even more useless than the "hot singles in your area" bots. Probably uses some rando's facebook photo for this
@@neoqwerty I think it may be the sock-puppet of a real person from Turkey.
7:05 I'd rather have a trans cyborg than anyone who's not both trans and a cyborg.
Honestly same. Sounds like a fun person