Born female, proudly a woman and won’t hesitate to say that I don’t feel you pandering to me at all. Appreciate your point of view and how you represent the trans community with grace, humility, and style. If more trans people were like you, they might gain wider acceptance. Edit: should read “If more trans people posting on YT were like you…”
@@burlesqueboy I know you’re right. It’s a small, but very loud minority of people. I don’t think they represent well! The trans people I know in real life are thoughtful, lovely people who just want to live their lives. A shame that CZcams algorithm tends to show me freaks like Dylan who mock women, or aggressive posers who threaten to hurt people because they want to force themselves into women’s sports and private spaces. Thank goodness there are channels like this one and commenters like you!
It's so sad that this is happening to your community - it's happening to us too- its ridiculous. As far as I'm concerned anyone can be whatever they want to be, just don't impinge on someone else - that's all women want, to be safe in their own spaces. I actually have no problem with trans women in our spaces, the problem is identifying the genuine ones- and other than putting a lie detector outside the doors sadly there isn't a way to differentiate. 99% plus of all sexual assaults are committed by someone with a penis - thats the only stat that matters to women.
Dylan is a weird one. She is someone I find annoying. She also strikes me as fake, as if she is cosplaying a misogynist man's view of what a woman is. I try to give her the benefit of the doubt (big of me, I know) and wonder if she's just trying to channel the girl hood she never got to experience. Overall, though, I think she's almost a parody of the attention seeking "influencer". Has she ever said anything that is positive for trans women who aren't her? Most of it just sounds like air blowing over the neck of an empty cider jug.
I'm sorry this has happened to your community. It truly is a shame. I have always been 100% supportive of transitioners. It's only recently that I've had to reconsider things based on the new social climate and it's depressing. This is taking trans people backward, not forward, and for that I'm really sorry.
Don't you just want to pop in a couch with some snacks and just talk about everything and nothing with her? I sincerely wish that every day brings more joy and peace to her by simply being Alexis. She shares it so freely
You do you Alexis!!! One of the main reasons I follow you is because I feel you protect womanhood. Dylan makes me feel like he is mocking womanhood. Personally I don’t truly believe Dylan is Trans, he just wanted to be famous and found his niche.
I think there are many like that. Whereas I feel Alexis is just trying to go about her business and build a life for herself as a woman, like many transwomen actually do, people like Dylan are just doing it for attention, likes, and money. So many out there don't actually attempt to transition or have a funny way of going about it - I came across some people not too long ago who started as straight males, do not have any gender dysphoria, take hormones, declare themselves as trans lesbians and don't do anything to actually transition (because imo they have no intention to) - just change their voice a bit and their clothes, and they have no job besides their online presence. They are the ones making all the demands, constantly drawing attention to themselves. And of course their ever present sexual content. It's all for attention and money - these imo are not real transwomen. To me they are not trans and yet those are the people everyone knows about, or believes that's what trans women are.
Alexis you speak with compassion and respect, its so easy for people to throw terms like TERF about to try and diminish view points. You make alot of sense to me and I appreciate the care you show to ALL women in terms of how you communicate. I'm no expert on trans issues as a non trans person but when I listen to you, you help me understand better and educate myself in the process. Thank you
@@rremieegAll of the trans women that I know, when you ask them what they are, they will tell you that they are a trans woman. They leave the word trans as a part of their identity. Because they understand that they transitioned from one to another.
@@svicious1981 and cis means you have not. you don't have to use it, but it is an identifier, and a useful one at that. if you're saying a sentence referring to both types of women, where the distinction is necessary for whatever reason, saying "trans women and women (in reference to cis women)" is not going to come off as very welcoming
I feel as if you are truly trying to represent non-celebrity trans women in a thoughtful, authentic way, while also respecting women. Keep trusting your intuition and intellect. You've been amazing so far.
Thank you for not pretending to be a woman or anything like a real authentic, organic woman...you are a transwoman full stop. You look like, sound like and reason like a transwoman not a real birth female. So thanks for staying in your trans lane
Agreed! I am now finding the trans community is splitting into 2 different types. My best friend who is trans.. says that there are "normal" transwomen who live life like a real woman and are respectful to the differences between the changed and unchanged woman. And then there is "too much" transwomen. Those who aline more with Dillon. The trans ladies that are just trying to live life in the most comfortable self are being hated by people bc they are lumped with this over the top - female hating and mocking group. They just want to live their journey as a woman. It's unfair to that part of the trans community. 😢
@@tiffaniejames1312 maybe online the talk might seem like they are being lumped in but I don’t believe they are. The trans activist are doing too much like you said, and it’s causing women to take a step back. trans women that are online boasting about how much more of a woman they are than you (even tho they have a penis) is seriously condescending and feels nasty. But every day trans people that just live their life and do them I think are fine. most people can tell the difference between someone who just wants to be who they are and someone who does it for attention and reactions.
Sometimes you can't win. You're either gonna be blamed for being too people pleasing or too controversial. My advice to you is do it the way which seems right to you! You are very genuine but also very considerate snd empathic. Amazing job🎉
I so wish you could be an official spokesperson on all things transgender. (Politicians please take note!!!) I’m a woman in my fifties and I learn more from watching short clips that you post than anywhere else. I have been so afraid of offending people. So afraid to say please don’t call me CIS anything because it’s my choice not to be called that - I’ve spent too much time on social media I guess and it has fed those fears, BUT, I feel like I could talk to you openly, ask questions without fear and be able to say sorry and can you teach me if I get it wrong. I also feel respected by you and in turn that makes me respect you too. Respect is always earned and when it’s a mutual thing it’s real and can be long lived. Thank you Alexis for taking the time to understand all sides of this huge social conversation and thus allowing me to do the same. Sending you hugs and smiles one Yorkshire lass to another x
In South Africa, we say " Cis" to our toddlers to discourage them from eating or playing with something disgusting/harmful. I'm a 40 year old mom, and I love Alexis' representation of Twoman. Will be using her content to explain the transitioning experience as best I can. Even if DM was a born woman, I'd still highly recommend that he stay far away from her. It's the persona, not the package. That is most of our concern, in my opinion.
@@Raven_Fableit can exist but we don't need to use it. Even Alexis chooses to, if a trans woman can choose not to so can the rest of us. Calling a trans person a transphobe is the stupidity thing.
@@Raven_Fable no one can be compelled to “get used to it.” People can be required NOT to use offensive words but they cannot be FORCED to use or accept others. So I don’t “gonna have to get used to it” thank you very much
Every time you pop up on my screen, I smile. You are you, living your life. When I see Dylan M. I am immediately transported back to the early '80s and Boy George. Dylan's brand is shock value, as was Boy George's. The difference between those two is that Boy George has an AWESOME voice!
What i understand from your posts is that as a woman you are respecting other women ❤. But you can clearly see when someone else is not being genuine and how hurtful it can be! You make me a better person by sharing your experiences in such a informative and respectful way, thank you for being you ❤❤
Your a wonderful person , and that’s why I’ve started to follow you.. Dylan has been extremely rude towards Women , and I totally agree with you, he’s also causing unfounded judgements on others !…. Dylan needs to calm down and take a real look in the mirror and accept what he’s doing and done !..
I agree people like Dylan mulvany make it harder for us as a community when they do stuff like this I’m sorry it’s just my opinion I’m trying to live my life and live authentically in a female gender role and I find it’s harder because trans activists like this probably meanwhile, but they just don’t help and they make it worse every day. Their best bet is to stop trying to help and just silence themselves from the limelight for a long period time or maybe just for a short period until they realize how they can truly represent the community.
You said nothing wrong. Dylan is taking the mick out of women. There not doing trans community any good with there behaviour. Your trans women feeling it from both sides. Your point is 100% valid. Keep being the elegant, kind hearted WOMAN you are. Don’t listen to the insults. Thank you for what you’re doing.
Just because someone is trans doesn't mean they are good or do everything right. They should be able to be criticised like everyone else. Especially by their own community, which is affected by their actions.
This 🎉 because they're a cult. Far left ttans activists who think on emotion are like deities to white Knight liberals and they all share each others self loathing and bully anyone who's comfortable with themselves enough to point out the truth. That's why self accepting trans people like Alexis, Blaire, Buck etc get torn to shreds. They're honest and happy about who they are and narcissistic bullies can't stand it.
You are so humble and gracious. I don't feel you are pandering. You are being authentic, thoughtful and engaging in critical thought. I appreciate that about you. Be your beautiful self.
I can't believe people comment badly toward you, you are one of my favorite people to follow. You are absolutely amazing, and I love how you stick up for us women, born as a women, and that you don't call us CIS, I absolutely hate that word, and would love to know why they think it is ok to call us that, when those same people blast people all over the internet if they get their pronouns incorrect!!😮 you are amazing inspiration for the Trans community. So you keep on being you, because you are the most beautiful and powerful, positive person that I love to follow. Also LOVE your podcast with your better half. You are awesome together ❤❤😊
The trans activist and radical LGBT elements of our so-called community have simply gone too far. You are nothing but kind and respectful. They label any form of criticism or objection as bigoted, transphobic, racist, ‘pick me’ etc… It’s really actually quite childish and disappointing
Being of an alternative gender doesnt exclude anyone from making mistakes, misjudging others, or being harsh to others who dont agree with them. No one, repeat, no one gets it right all the time. No one is perfect.
It's got to the point where being called a TERF is a sign that I refuse to be told who to hate without question. It's not about support for trans people, but 100% compliance with a vocal damaging minority. After a while you take it as a badge of honour.
You are so respectful towards everybody, even those who really aggravate you. It's a shame you are not being offered the same respect. Tells me more about those calling you names than it does you.
Honestly, I think your awesome. I am a woman and I hat the 'cis' crap. I am not a subcategory of a woman, I AM a woman. I so much appreciate that you do not use that term and are clear that you are a transgender woman. I think you are a great ambassador for the transgender community.
Please don't heed peoples words too much tho. Lots are following you because you are genuine, rational, and realistic. The opposite of a lot of the current faces...
There’s a quote. “You can please some of the people all of the time, all of the people some of time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time.” You’re never going to please everyone. And you shouldn’t try to. The goal for yourself or anyone should be to be genuine. Say what you honestly believe and know that it’s not going to satisfy everyone.
Alexis, huni, you've said NOTHING wrong. We support you. But DM isn't trans. He's a performance artist who's milking this for money. He's- and yes HE - is bringing shame on the trans community.
I would say that you are an ally to those of us who are not trans. I consider myself a trans ally but see some of the very radical trans activists demands and am concerned for myself and others like me. I appreciate that you are one of the few trans women who listens to bio women's concerns and thoughts and takes us into consideration. I think that everyone, trans and not, needs to listen to each other and work together to find balance. Lastly, you help remind me that I can have differing opinions than others on these matters but still be an ally. Love you girl. I hope you are doing great.
The term "pick me" is inherently misogynistic. I've used it in the past but I don't any more. It's a way of just nullifying female voices and I choose not to use it any more.
That's their go to instead of using logic or are unable to articulate their own thoughts. They try to shut people -anyone- down with a different opinion with buzz words. They are sheep bleeting out echo chamber emotions. I for one appreciate your thoughts, and I do not appreciate the misogynist stereotype that Dylan portrays. It hurts us as well.
I had a student (F) in my PSHE class proclaim that she "hates trans people". For her homework, I told her to watch your channel and we would then revisit the topic. Her new opinion is that if all trans people were like ypu, there wouldn't be a problem!! 😂
I’ve always found the term pick me to be such a misogynistic and honestly very lame term because people only use it and it’s a way to shut down usually women and other groups but again, mostly women whenever we ever have any type of disagreement because we’re not allowed to think for ourselves
I dont give a shit if people call me a TERF anymore, it's literally just a word and it no longer means anything to me. People can do whatever the hell they want, i couldnt care less, as long as I dont have to compromise my rights, feelings and morals as a woman and a mother.
The whole point that the older trans community was originally trying to make is that sex and gender are different. Sex is your reproductive system, and gender is how you identify and how you live your life or are trying to live your life. Man and woman are genders, but they're also adult human males and females. We don't fit into those definitions. That's why we're trans men and trans women.
I’m a woman, when Dylan first hit the big time I commented that I didn’t like them (as in their personality,I felt that it was all a charade and the mask will drop soon) and I got called everything under the sun, so now I just say - if that makes me a “bigot, transphobic, terf” I’ll get it printed on a tshirt. The more insults I get the less meaning they have. I’ve also been called a terf because I asked not to be called “cis”. They really hate that for some reason and can’t even accept my labels when I accept all these new pronouns. You do you, you are one of the most sensible well rounded people on CZcams. ❤❤❤
You are one of the most amazing openly trans women creators. I love your outlook and your mindset! Most of all, I love how loving and caring you cone across in your videos. Your authenticity is the most beautiful thing about you and you ARE a stunningly beautiful woman! Keep doing what you are doing, it makes a positive difference! ❤❤
There is a point you just have to accept people who disagree with you are going to throw whatever they can at you. I'm a lesbian. i've been told I'm homophobic more times than I can count. I don' bother arguing anymore. People who accuse me of that don't want a real conversation. The same goes for people who call you a terf. They're not actually interested in genuinely looking at what you believe and why. They are just reacting because yo udisagree with them and they're not worth your time.
The fact that you took the time to insert the 'cis' explanation shows that you actually listen, and understand that 'cis' is a derogatory term. Thanks. You being called a 'terf' is obviously ludicrous. This is what J.K.Rowling has been putting up with forever. You should team up with her. It isn't trans people she's against, just trans radical idiots (most of whom aren't actually trans) - that think everyone should bow down to their delusional and aggressive rants and demands. Seriously, message her, separating trans people from the violent radicals wearing transface is the only way to stop them from destroying your way of life. All the best.
Alexis all you do is tell the truth and many of us like you for it , love your honesty don't let the negative nasty remarks get to you , you have many here that have such respect for you and love your attitude bless you 😊
I personally think that calling someone Cis should be a slur. Because 99% of that time when I hear it bring used, it is used as an insult, it’s used to exclude someone from having an opinion, it’s de-humanising.
But this is the problem with these people not only are they not very nice they also come out with these words every time if anyone says or does something they don't like they have no understanding of difference of opinion as far as they're concerned if you do not comply with what they think there nasty to you
People who say those things are seriously ridicolous! It's like they think anybody who's trans (like Dylan) should never receive any critisism just because they're trans. It's so stupid.
I was called a turf by my daughters friend the other day. She was staying at my house and brought up this Dylans song. She has always been a sweet girl, I've known her for years and we have always got on. I said its a horrible song that doesn't represent women at all. She was playing it at 8.30am and it pus**d me off. She had a mini break down and started crying calling me a turf and i have no idea. Im a tomboy and not feminine at all, no idea what she thought i was. She is 21 so I wasn't having it and offered her a ride to another house as she is no longer welcome at my house. I hope she grows out of this, she doesn't get on with her parents and lives on tictok.
It just shows how little these insults now mean. They get thrown it everybody for the least bit of disagreement. You seem like a kind and lovely person and I've never seen you attack anyone
Baby girl, you are allowed an opinion. Just like anyone but it doesn't mean you are trying to talk for everyone. Please ignore these people they'd have something to say regardless. Thank you for explaining the meaning of TERF, I'd heard it before but wasn't entirely sure on meaning. The context it's always used in seemed insulting
Ask them to give you an example of someone who disagrees with them, who ISN’T a TERF, trying to be a “pick me”, or pandering to “cis” people. Bet they can’t answer you.
I have no words. You're the most amazing Trans woman. You're open, you're honest, you're trying to find your place in this world like we all are. Why would you want to be negative when you can be positive? You sweet Alexis are a breath of fresh air in a world covered in smog.
You give a great balanced view. If you were poster person for trans. There won't be a issue. Dylan is a very offensive to female born female. I love you
Your mindset is the only right mindset as a transwoman. My transman friend has your mindset too. Anyone in the trans community calling you names are mentally ill and were most likely neglected as children by their parents and don’t know what it’s like to be loved or how to love. You were supported and loved by your family and that shows. You were already a kind human so your transition is fully welcomed and loved by us women too.
Throwing an overused and poorly worded insult will never have the same power and influence as an intelligently written and genuinely honest opinion. You have the power they wish they did.
You are always as kind as you can be. Why is it so awful to disagree on things? Some people seem to think that life and opinions are their way or you are filth. They will struggle with any sort of healthy, meaningful relationship because it is impossible to agree with everything all the time with anyone. Carry on with speaking your heart.
As a woman, I often relate to transmen the best, but I relate to you ❤ I feel like you relate to women. People have boundaries, women have boundaries. Boundaries afford women a safe space, they are by definition exclusive. Forcing your way through a woman’s boundaries is intrusion not inclusion. Amy Sousa is the woman that I heard explain this meaningful difference. She’s on CZcams. I don’t think Dylan understands the difference.
What you'll learn I'd that TRAs will always have a massive go at anyone who slightly disagrees. Even if they are also trans. They claim to just be kind, but they never truly are. If they were kind then they would accept people have different points of view.
47yr old Aboriginal women, born a woman, live a happy life as a woman, from clear across the planet from. you. .... AND YET, I've followed you here for quite sometime now. I follow you because I've learned so much from you, with that has come a massive amount of respect for you as a human. If only we all were responsive as opposed to reactive.. From one beautiful woman to another. ❤
I am a “cis” woman, and I value your point of view, and how respectful you are of biological women, and our feelings. Because of the way you represent yourself you make it very easy to listen to and try to understand alternative points of view. I greatly appreciate that.
I suffer from PMDD. A female hormone intolerance that causes me great distress, and has since puberty. I was called a TERF for merely suggesting that female hormones are intense and my trans friends should expect some crazy side effects from estrogen. And that maybe they should talk to biological women before doing a medical transition just to know what they're up against. But apparently saying "Hey... Being a women has its own challenges and you should be aware of what they are" is considered hate speech by some people.
My thing: why add to the animosity towards another trans person whose life has already been threatened. In the U.S. you have to live as your experienced gender for a year…365 days before moving to the next treatment. You record your transition, but someone who doesn’t do it the same way is brutally attacked by the media. How can death threats be okay for anyone? It makes no sense. You don’t have to agree with everyone, but piling on when someone’s life is threatened FOR WORKING? That goes too far.
You've got a heart of gold, Alex. Those haters ought to turn their guns on Dylan, who's purely in it for the money, and Jeffrey Marsh, the creep who seems to have a far more sinister motive
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Born female, proudly a woman and won’t hesitate to say that I don’t feel you pandering to me at all. Appreciate your point of view and how you represent the trans community with grace, humility, and style. If more trans people were like you, they might gain wider acceptance. Edit: should read “If more trans people posting on YT were like you…”
Agreed, they would be moving forward instead of going backwards.
We are like that! It's the clowns that get all the attention 😢
@burlesqueboy very true! Sadly the majority are being tarred with the Dylan Myfamey brush
@@burlesqueboy I know you’re right. It’s a small, but very loud minority of people. I don’t think they represent well! The trans people I know in real life are thoughtful, lovely people who just want to live their lives. A shame that CZcams algorithm tends to show me freaks like Dylan who mock women, or aggressive posers who threaten to hurt people because they want to force themselves into women’s sports and private spaces.
Thank goodness there are channels like this one and commenters like you!
she's just speaking straight facts and truth is hurting the delusional people
As a trans woman myself, I just tell them, "When I started my transition, I did not become a communist.
All the best for your journey. ❤ may the make-up goddesses smile upon you...
I swear they've been ignoring me 😢
Yeah im bi and a minority I don’t understand why these things make people think we have to suddenly oppose basic human rights.
same here!
Lol
You’ve said nothing wrong!! Dylan is making a complete mockery of us women and womanhood.
It's insane being a woman I'm these times.
He really is
Dylan is the ‘pick me’
there are bio women who experience & live life just as the song describes lol..
@@lone-welfMajority of women don’t though
I'm a MtF and can't stand Dylan either. I keep saying things were better 20 years ago before all this negative attention.
100% correct xx
So true!
It's so sad that this is happening to your community - it's happening to us too- its ridiculous. As far as I'm concerned anyone can be whatever they want to be, just don't impinge on someone else - that's all women want, to be safe in their own spaces. I actually have no problem with trans women in our spaces, the problem is identifying the genuine ones- and other than putting a lie detector outside the doors sadly there isn't a way to differentiate. 99% plus of all sexual assaults are committed by someone with a penis - thats the only stat that matters to women.
Dylan is a weird one. She is someone I find annoying. She also strikes me as fake, as if she is cosplaying a misogynist man's view of what a woman is. I try to give her the benefit of the doubt (big of me, I know) and wonder if she's just trying to channel the girl hood she never got to experience. Overall, though, I think she's almost a parody of the attention seeking "influencer". Has she ever said anything that is positive for trans women who aren't her? Most of it just sounds like air blowing over the neck of an empty cider jug.
I'm sorry this has happened to your community. It truly is a shame. I have always been 100% supportive of transitioners. It's only recently that I've had to reconsider things based on the new social climate and it's depressing. This is taking trans people backward, not forward, and for that I'm really sorry.
TERF : Told Everyone Real Facts
I LIKE this 👌
I can live with that. 😁👍
I love this! Because that is the truth! X
LOVE THAT
😅 terfs are stupid
Anyone that refers to you as being any kind of hateful obviously doesn't actually watch your channel. You're a beautiful person!
Don't you just want to pop in a couch with some snacks and just talk about everything and nothing with her? I sincerely wish that every day brings more joy and peace to her by simply being Alexis. She shares it so freely
I totally agree dude so genuine.
inside and out!
Isn't she????
Agreed❤
I follow you for a number of reasons but one of them is your honesty, bravery and clarity. Dylan Mulvaney represents only one thing, Dylan's ego.
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Comment award of the day. 🎉
That’s well said.
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You do you Alexis!!! One of the main reasons I follow you is because I feel you protect womanhood. Dylan makes me feel like he is mocking womanhood. Personally I don’t truly believe Dylan is Trans, he just wanted to be famous and found his niche.
I think there are many like that. Whereas I feel Alexis is just trying to go about her business and build a life for herself as a woman, like many transwomen actually do, people like Dylan are just doing it for attention, likes, and money. So many out there don't actually attempt to transition or have a funny way of going about it - I came across some people not too long ago who started as straight males, do not have any gender dysphoria, take hormones, declare themselves as trans lesbians and don't do anything to actually transition (because imo they have no intention to) - just change their voice a bit and their clothes, and they have no job besides their online presence. They are the ones making all the demands, constantly drawing attention to themselves. And of course their ever present sexual content. It's all for attention and money - these imo are not real transwomen. To me they are not trans and yet those are the people everyone knows about, or believes that's what trans women are.
Alexis you speak with compassion and respect, its so easy for people to throw terms like TERF about to try and diminish view points. You make alot of sense to me and I appreciate the care you show to ALL women in terms of how you communicate. I'm no expert on trans issues as a non trans person but when I listen to you, you help me understand better and educate myself in the process. Thank you
As a straight'ish woman, can we please get rid of the word "cis"? I am not "cis" anything. I am a woman. Love you!
Word!
genuinely asking, would you say the same thing about removing the word "trans" from trans woman?
@@rremieegno. Simply because "trans" means to "transition". If you are a trans woman, you have transitioned from male to female.
@@rremieegAll of the trans women that I know, when you ask them what they are, they will tell you that they are a trans woman. They leave the word trans as a part of their identity. Because they understand that they transitioned from one to another.
@@svicious1981 and cis means you have not. you don't have to use it, but it is an identifier, and a useful one at that. if you're saying a sentence referring to both types of women, where the distinction is necessary for whatever reason, saying "trans women and women (in reference to cis women)" is not going to come off as very welcoming
I feel as if you are truly trying to represent non-celebrity trans women in a thoughtful, authentic way, while also respecting women. Keep trusting your intuition and intellect. You've been amazing so far.
You are honest, genuine, and smart. Thank you for your voice.
Thank you for not pretending to be a woman or anything like a real authentic, organic woman...you are a transwoman full stop. You look like, sound like and reason like a transwoman not a real birth female. So thanks for staying in your trans lane
Agreed, people like Dylan bring a lot of shame to us transwomen.
Agreed! I am now finding the trans community is splitting into 2 different types. My best friend who is trans.. says that there are "normal" transwomen who live life like a real woman and are respectful to the differences between the changed and unchanged woman. And then there is "too much" transwomen. Those who aline more with Dillon. The trans ladies that are just trying to live life in the most comfortable self are being hated by people bc they are lumped with this over the top - female hating and mocking group. They just want to live their journey as a woman. It's unfair to that part of the trans community. 😢
@@tiffaniejames1312 maybe online the talk might seem like they are being lumped in but I don’t believe they are. The trans activist are doing too much like you said, and it’s causing women to take a step back. trans women that are online boasting about how much more of a woman they are than you (even tho they have a penis) is seriously condescending and feels nasty. But every day trans people that just live their life and do them I think are fine. most people can tell the difference between someone who just wants to be who they are and someone who does it for attention and reactions.
ya not female and never will be...
Sometimes you can't win. You're either gonna be blamed for being too people pleasing or too controversial. My advice to you is do it the way which seems right to you! You are very genuine but also very considerate snd empathic. Amazing job🎉
You're the most unbiased trans woman out there!
I so wish you could be an official spokesperson on all things transgender. (Politicians please take note!!!)
I’m a woman in my fifties and I learn more from watching short clips that you post than anywhere else. I have been so afraid of offending people. So afraid to say please don’t call me CIS anything because it’s my choice not to be called that - I’ve spent too much time on social media I guess and it has fed those fears, BUT, I feel like I could talk to you openly, ask questions without fear and be able to say sorry and can you teach me if I get it wrong.
I also feel respected by you and in turn that makes me respect you too.
Respect is always earned and when it’s a mutual thing it’s real and can be long lived.
Thank you Alexis for taking the time to understand all sides of this huge social conversation and thus allowing me to do the same.
Sending you hugs and smiles one Yorkshire lass to another x
In South Africa, we say " Cis" to our toddlers to discourage them from eating or playing with something disgusting/harmful.
I'm a 40 year old mom, and I love Alexis' representation of Twoman. Will be using her content to explain the transitioning experience as best I can. Even if DM was a born woman, I'd still highly recommend that he stay far away from her.
It's the persona, not the package. That is most of our concern, in my opinion.
😮 you're just gonna have to get used to the prefix cis existing
@@Raven_Fableit can exist but we don't need to use it. Even Alexis chooses to, if a trans woman can choose not to so can the rest of us.
Calling a trans person a transphobe is the stupidity thing.
@@aniquehable “It’s the person, not the package” - well said.
@@Raven_Fable no one can be compelled to “get used to it.”
People can be required NOT to use offensive words but they cannot be FORCED to use or accept others.
So I don’t “gonna have to get used to it” thank you very much
Every time you pop up on my screen, I smile. You are you, living your life.
When I see Dylan M. I am immediately transported back to the early '80s and Boy George. Dylan's brand is shock value, as was Boy George's. The difference between those two is that Boy George has an AWESOME voice!
What i understand from your posts is that as a woman you are respecting other women ❤. But you can clearly see when someone else is not being genuine and how hurtful it can be! You make me a better person by sharing your experiences in such a informative and respectful way, thank you for being you ❤❤
Your a wonderful person , and that’s why I’ve started to follow you..
Dylan has been extremely rude towards Women , and I totally agree with you, he’s also causing unfounded judgements on others !….
Dylan needs to calm down and take a real look in the mirror and accept what he’s doing and done !..
You're a huge inspiration for me. Thank you for all you do.
I agree people like Dylan mulvany make it harder for us as a community when they do stuff like this I’m sorry it’s just my opinion I’m trying to live my life and live authentically in a female gender role and I find it’s harder because trans activists like this probably meanwhile, but they just don’t help and they make it worse every day. Their best bet is to stop trying to help and just silence themselves from the limelight for a long period time or maybe just for a short period until they realize how they can truly represent the community.
You said nothing wrong. Dylan is taking the mick out of women. There not doing trans community any good with there behaviour. Your trans women feeling it from both sides. Your point is 100% valid.
Keep being the elegant, kind hearted WOMAN you are. Don’t listen to the insults. Thank you for what you’re doing.
Just because someone is trans doesn't mean they are good or do everything right. They should be able to be criticised like everyone else. Especially by their own community, which is affected by their actions.
This 🎉 because they're a cult. Far left ttans activists who think on emotion are like deities to white Knight liberals and they all share each others self loathing and bully anyone who's comfortable with themselves enough to point out the truth. That's why self accepting trans people like Alexis, Blaire, Buck etc get torn to shreds. They're honest and happy about who they are and narcissistic bullies can't stand it.
❤ Youre honest and share your valid opinion and feelings about current things.
PLEASE DONT CHANGE ❤
You are so humble and gracious. I don't feel you are pandering. You are being authentic, thoughtful and engaging in critical thought. I appreciate that about you. Be your beautiful self.
I can't believe people comment badly toward you, you are one of my favorite people to follow. You are absolutely amazing, and I love how you stick up for us women, born as a women, and that you don't call us CIS, I absolutely hate that word, and would love to know why they think it is ok to call us that, when those same people blast people all over the internet if they get their pronouns incorrect!!😮 you are amazing inspiration for the Trans community. So you keep on being you, because you are the most beautiful and powerful, positive person that I love to follow. Also LOVE your podcast with your better half. You are awesome together ❤❤😊
The trans activist and radical LGBT elements of our so-called community have simply gone too far. You are nothing but kind and respectful. They label any form of criticism or objection as bigoted, transphobic, racist, ‘pick me’ etc… It’s really actually quite childish and disappointing
Being of an alternative gender doesnt exclude anyone from making mistakes, misjudging others, or being harsh to others who dont agree with them. No one, repeat, no one gets it right all the time. No one is perfect.
It's got to the point where being called a TERF is a sign that I refuse to be told who to hate without question. It's not about support for trans people, but 100% compliance with a vocal damaging minority. After a while you take it as a badge of honour.
You are so respectful towards everybody, even those who really aggravate you. It's a shame you are not being offered the same respect. Tells me more about those calling you names than it does you.
Honestly, I think your awesome. I am a woman and I hat the 'cis' crap. I am not a subcategory of a woman, I AM a woman. I so much appreciate that you do not use that term and are clear that you are a transgender woman. I think you are a great ambassador for the transgender community.
Please don't heed peoples words too much tho. Lots are following you because you are genuine, rational, and realistic. The opposite of a lot of the current faces...
❤ this comment is so good I wish I could eat it!
Dylan Mulvaney is NOT trans! He’s an ACTOR!
All he does is appropriate women, and not in a good way. He is awful!
Never Change!❤
No demographic should be a monolith. Every individual should be encouraged to come to their own conclusions.
…Encouraged to use logic and reason before making any conclusions.
There’s a quote. “You can please some of the people all of the time, all of the people some of time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time.” You’re never going to please everyone. And you shouldn’t try to. The goal for yourself or anyone should be to be genuine. Say what you honestly believe and know that it’s not going to satisfy everyone.
Hate the term Cis!! Appreciate you calling that out x
Alexis, huni, you've said NOTHING wrong. We support you. But DM isn't trans. He's a performance artist who's milking this for money. He's- and yes HE - is bringing shame on the trans community.
I would say that you are an ally to those of us who are not trans. I consider myself a trans ally but see some of the very radical trans activists demands and am concerned for myself and others like me. I appreciate that you are one of the few trans women who listens to bio women's concerns and thoughts and takes us into consideration. I think that everyone, trans and not, needs to listen to each other and work together to find balance. Lastly, you help remind me that I can have differing opinions than others on these matters but still be an ally. Love you girl. I hope you are doing great.
It's your opinion, everybody has an opinion! You can't be wrong by having an opinion. I think you're pretty great ❤
The term "pick me" is inherently misogynistic. I've used it in the past but I don't any more. It's a way of just nullifying female voices and I choose not to use it any more.
Dylan’s behavior is disgusting and yes I think Dylan’s behavior is hurting the trans community.
You're standing up for US WOMEN, including trans women 🫶👏❤️
Nope, not pandering. Thank you for being with women.
I’d rather be a “pick me” than a “pass me around”… you’re not pandering to us you’re being respectful thank you for that. You’re classy!❤
Those who resort to insults are those incapable of constructive discourse.
That's their go to instead of using logic or are unable to articulate their own thoughts. They try to shut people -anyone- down with a different opinion with buzz words.
They are sheep bleeting out echo chamber emotions.
I for one appreciate your thoughts, and I do not appreciate the misogynist stereotype that Dylan portrays. It hurts us as well.
Thank you for not callin us cis
I had a student (F) in my PSHE class proclaim that she "hates trans people". For her homework, I told her to watch your channel and we would then revisit the topic. Her new opinion is that if all trans people were like ypu, there wouldn't be a problem!! 😂
Brilliant reaction to her initial hatred.
I’ve always found the term pick me to be such a misogynistic and honestly very lame term because people only use it and it’s a way to shut down usually women and other groups but again, mostly women whenever we ever have any type of disagreement because we’re not allowed to think for ourselves
Dylan is only interested in Dylan..
He is not interested or cares about woman or Transwomen ..his video says all i need to know about Dylan
I dont give a shit if people call me a TERF anymore, it's literally just a word and it no longer means anything to me.
People can do whatever the hell they want, i couldnt care less, as long as I dont have to compromise my rights, feelings and morals as a woman and a mother.
The whole point that the older trans community was originally trying to make is that sex and gender are different. Sex is your reproductive system, and gender is how you identify and how you live your life or are trying to live your life. Man and woman are genders, but they're also adult human males and females. We don't fit into those definitions. That's why we're trans men and trans women.
I’m a woman, when Dylan first hit the big time I commented that I didn’t like them (as in their personality,I felt that it was all a charade and the mask will drop soon) and I got called everything under the sun, so now I just say - if that makes me a “bigot, transphobic, terf” I’ll get it printed on a tshirt. The more insults I get the less meaning they have. I’ve also been called a terf because I asked not to be called “cis”. They really hate that for some reason and can’t even accept my labels when I accept all these new pronouns.
You do you, you are one of the most sensible well rounded people on CZcams. ❤❤❤
yes we love being called terfs and bigots because we express how we feel about “trans” people mocking and cosplaying.
You are one of the most amazing openly trans women creators. I love your outlook and your mindset! Most of all, I love how loving and caring you cone across in your videos. Your authenticity is the most beautiful thing about you and you ARE a stunningly beautiful woman! Keep doing what you are doing, it makes a positive difference! ❤❤
There is a point you just have to accept people who disagree with you are going to throw whatever they can at you. I'm a lesbian. i've been told I'm homophobic more times than I can count. I don' bother arguing anymore. People who accuse me of that don't want a real conversation. The same goes for people who call you a terf. They're not actually interested in genuinely looking at what you believe and why. They are just reacting because yo udisagree with them and they're not worth your time.
The fact that you took the time to insert the 'cis' explanation shows that you actually listen, and understand that 'cis' is a derogatory term. Thanks.
You being called a 'terf' is obviously ludicrous. This is what J.K.Rowling has been putting up with forever. You should team up with her. It isn't trans people she's against, just trans radical idiots (most of whom aren't actually trans) - that think everyone should bow down to their delusional and aggressive rants and demands.
Seriously, message her, separating trans people from the violent radicals wearing transface is the only way to stop them from destroying your way of life. All the best.
Its crazy that some woke people think all trans have the same opinions, we are all different
Alexis all you do is tell the truth and many of us like you for it , love your honesty don't let the negative nasty remarks get to you , you have many here that have such respect for you and love your attitude bless you 😊
I think it is a generational thing, I think us older folks are not loosing our minds over the wrong pronoun.
your a class act and a nice person. ❤
I personally think that calling someone Cis should be a slur.
Because 99% of that time when I hear it bring used, it is used as an insult, it’s used to exclude someone from having an opinion, it’s de-humanising.
But this is the problem with these people not only are they not very nice they also come out with these words every time if anyone says or does something they don't like they have no understanding of difference of opinion as far as they're concerned if you do not comply with what they think there nasty to you
Cis is fine, gay woman, trans woman, they handle a term in front of woman without complaining
Calling Alexis a TERF 🙀🤭😂
It shows these activists just need to denigrate anyone who doesn’t agree with them.
Those people calling you trabsphobic are just jealous because you're classy and gorgeous,
People who say those things are seriously ridicolous! It's like they think anybody who's trans (like Dylan) should never receive any critisism just because they're trans. It's so stupid.
People who have to resort to insults have already lost the argument, and they know that.
If I’m having a debate with someone and they resort to base insults, as far as I’m concerned, I’ve won the argument.
I was called a turf by my daughters friend the other day. She was staying at my house and brought up this Dylans song. She has always been a sweet girl, I've known her for years and we have always got on. I said its a horrible song that doesn't represent women at all. She was playing it at 8.30am and it pus**d me off. She had a mini break down and started crying calling me a turf and i have no idea. Im a tomboy and not feminine at all, no idea what she thought i was. She is 21 so I wasn't having it and offered her a ride to another house as she is no longer welcome at my house. I hope she grows out of this, she doesn't get on with her parents and lives on tictok.
The people who try to shut you up by calling you names are not really worth listening to.
As a Tom boy straight woman I hate the word cis I ain't no cissy bird
It just shows how little these insults now mean. They get thrown it everybody for the least bit of disagreement. You seem like a kind and lovely person and I've never seen you attack anyone
Baby girl, you are allowed an opinion.
Just like anyone but it doesn't mean you are trying to talk for everyone. Please ignore these people they'd have something to say regardless.
Thank you for explaining the meaning of TERF, I'd heard it before but wasn't entirely sure on meaning. The context it's always used in seemed insulting
Ask them to give you an example of someone who disagrees with them, who ISN’T a TERF, trying to be a “pick me”, or pandering to “cis” people. Bet they can’t answer you.
I have no words. You're the most amazing Trans woman. You're open, you're honest, you're trying to find your place in this world like we all are. Why would you want to be negative when you can be positive? You sweet Alexis are a breath of fresh air in a world covered in smog.
They're jumping to insults because they do not have an argument, they know that you're an adequate genuine person and that fact makes them mad
If all they ever have are insults, its because they have zero facts
You give a great balanced view. If you were poster person for trans. There won't be a issue.
Dylan is a very offensive to female born female.
I love you
Just because someone doesn’t agree with you doesn’t mean they are right. It just means that they’re wrong in their disagreement.
Keep going with your balanced commentary, absolutely needed at this time.
This person has their head on right. Like Blair White they transcribe to common sense. Glad to have you.
Your mindset is the only right mindset as a transwoman. My transman friend has your mindset too. Anyone in the trans community calling you names are mentally ill and were most likely neglected as children by their parents and don’t know what it’s like to be loved or how to love. You were supported and loved by your family and that shows. You were already a kind human so your transition is fully welcomed and loved by us women too.
They use all these insults because they have no intelligent arguments against what you have to say.
Throwing an overused and poorly worded insult will never have the same power and influence as an intelligently written and genuinely honest opinion. You have the power they wish they did.
Am glad you've acknowledged that the slur TERF is indeed an insult.
You are always as kind as you can be. Why is it so awful to disagree on things? Some people seem to think that life and opinions are their way or you are filth. They will struggle with any sort of healthy, meaningful relationship because it is impossible to agree with everything all the time with anyone. Carry on with speaking your heart.
As a woman, I often relate to transmen the best, but I relate to you ❤ I feel like you relate to women. People have boundaries, women have boundaries. Boundaries afford women a safe space, they are by definition exclusive. Forcing your way through a woman’s boundaries is intrusion not inclusion. Amy Sousa is the woman that I heard explain this meaningful difference. She’s on CZcams. I don’t think Dylan understands the difference.
If all trans could have your level of respect and maturity there would not be any issues. You should be proud of yourself.
What you'll learn I'd that TRAs will always have a massive go at anyone who slightly disagrees. Even if they are also trans.
They claim to just be kind, but they never truly are.
If they were kind then they would accept people have different points of view.
I’m a bio woman and I love hearing you speak about your experiences ❤don’t let the haters bring you down!
47yr old Aboriginal women, born a woman, live a happy life as a woman, from clear across the planet from. you. .... AND YET,
I've followed you here for quite sometime now. I follow you because I've learned so much from you, with that has come a massive amount of respect for you as a human.
If only we all were responsive as opposed to reactive.. From one beautiful woman to another. ❤
As the mother of a 12 year old trans son, you’re inspirational. Never forget that Alexis x
I am a “cis” woman, and I value your point of view, and how respectful you are of biological women, and our feelings. Because of the way you represent yourself you make it very easy to listen to and try to understand alternative points of view. I greatly appreciate that.
I suffer from PMDD. A female hormone intolerance that causes me great distress, and has since puberty. I was called a TERF for merely suggesting that female hormones are intense and my trans friends should expect some crazy side effects from estrogen. And that maybe they should talk to biological women before doing a medical transition just to know what they're up against. But apparently saying "Hey... Being a women has its own challenges and you should be aware of what they are" is considered hate speech by some people.
People that jump straight to insults don't really have any arguments or points of view, they are just haters
My thing: why add to the animosity towards another trans person whose life has already been threatened. In the U.S. you have to live as your experienced gender for a year…365 days before moving to the next treatment.
You record your transition, but someone who doesn’t do it the same way is brutally attacked by the media. How can death threats be okay for anyone?
It makes no sense. You don’t have to agree with everyone, but piling on when someone’s life is threatened FOR WORKING? That goes too far.
Alexis, I love you. Even when I disagree with you which is extremely rare. You don't need to explain yourself to idiots.
You've got a heart of gold, Alex. Those haters ought to turn their guns on Dylan, who's purely in it for the money, and Jeffrey Marsh, the creep who seems to have a far more sinister motive
I respect transgender people who respect other transgender and biological people.