How To Be Old: Lessons In Living Boldly
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- čas přidán 11. 03. 2024
- Lyn Slater is a cultural influencer, model, writer, content creator and former professor. She has a Ph.D. In Social Welfare and has been a social worker for 45 years. She started her blog, Accidental Icon, in September 2014 because she could not find a fashion blog or magazine that offered an urban, modern, intellectual aesthetic and also spoke to people who live "interesting but ordinary lives." Since then, Lyn has reinvented herself as an influencer of popular culture and promotes the use of fashion as a window into society and a vehicle to make personal and social change. Her rejection of age as a variable to be considered in how one dresses, lives and represents oneself has garnered her a loyal fan base of all ages.
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Does anyone else find the trend to put background music in videos distracting and obnoxious?
Yes it is very annoying and has the effect of influencing or interfering with the viewer’s interpretation of the spoken content by creating a “mood or added emotional context”. I have taken to turning off the audio and turning on closed captioning to read the content.
Sounds creepy, like a dirge.
Probably depends on the compatability of the music to the message, don't you think? And the relative volume. I suppose that if you're aware of the music, it hasn't added to the video. Unless, of course, it's a music video.
Yes. It compromises her otherwise stellar content.
👍I'm not here for the music. I want to hear what she is saying. Without loud distractions.
72 here, and loving my old age every day. I avoid all stress, including the alarmist voices in the media, people who stress me out, and situations where I would be physically stressed as well. I think thats the key to happy old age. Just enjoying every day on its own.
Yes! Staying away from people who cause us stress! I just learned that at 65 and I’m so happy! In fact, as I walked by a man in the mall yesterday I said. “Hi, good morning.” He later stopped while I was eating in the Food Court and said “You made my day!” I’m happy and it shows😂 God bless you and yours❤
I am 72 and I am not old.
I hear that phrase more often than none lately- I avoid all stress. I just had a BD and can now say - I am pushing 70. I have two sisters that mention the same - one older and one younger- and I always wonder that when stress will come their way- and it will -how would they deal with it. My stress is sometimes the reason why, in minus 20 I put on my walking shoes and coat and head out for some fresh air and return much happier with a tank full of dopamine and serotonin. I guess I was just listening to my body and mind
Sometimes some people mistake my stress for anger, while I call it passion. So, with that said not as easy for everyone to avoid stress- I think it depends on the individual - some just make it part of the rhythm of life and others - just shut the door to it
And I am 75 and not old!
You are not old!! Stop that!!
As I have gotten older I feel like stress is the one thing that I have found has to be avoided as much as possible .
“You retain all the ages you were in your life.” … best quote I’ve heard recently, thanks!
Not possible. There's only this instant.
I’m 83 soon. My husband of 60 years has cognitive impairment and needs much help and guidance.
I had Breast cancer in 2019 and arthritis for a long time now.
But I’m a tough old bird born during the WW11 with very little except a determination to survive.
I don’t dwell on my advanced age and continue to do what needs to be done with Gods help.
Many are worse off than me and I agree with everything this lovely lady is saying.
She's lucky to have have easy aging. I held excitement for each day while writing, experimenting with photos and storytelling, learning stand up ,dove releases while going to festivals, museums and still work as nurse. At 58 neuromuscular disease hit and nothing is the same. Attitude doesn't ameliorate crushing fatigue,falling down, choking, weakness.
Aging demands another level of coping when severe illness or chronic pain are factors. I’m not talking about some achy joints or a bit less energy.
I hear you. 🙏
Heard sister
I hear what you’re saying. My friend is suffering so and I hate to see it and wish I could do something to reverse her downward trend. While, I on the other hand am very strong and vigorous. It’s not fair.
Thank you.
I am 82 and a year ago I opened a small yoga studio in my home. There are physical disabilities, but I work with them. My secret, I don't look or listen to the media, and live each day in unconditional love and gratitude, no judgements. Live in loves' Grace.
The message delivered today was helpful. I am 73 years old, I focus daily on having a positive attitude and an active lifestyle. Thank you for the inspiring message.
I love being in my sixties. Lots more inner peace.
My 60's were the best part of my life! Seriously. Divorced and met the best thing that ever happened to me. Her name was Janet.
I'll be 76 this month and working on being better all the time, and looking forward to fun and purpose for many more years. it helps to be content and secure.
I never thought I would enjoy actually slowing down. It's like a whole different perspective, and with less aggravation. It's second childhood inside a new perception.
"Living Boldly" Thank you and....
Do not let yourself be voiceless.
I really enjoyed this vlog. Thank you. You are an inspiration. Life is for living, and you know how to live it. xI am 70 this year. 2 years go I sold my house, gave my furniture and most of my clothes away and started travelling. Like you, I have just written my first creative book (still editing) Growing Old, Growing Free. Please allow a few words I hope your subscribers may enjoy...
I have travelled over 20,000 kilometres, met hundreds of incredible people, swam with turtles and danced in the rain, in The Rain Forest.
Drank from an ice glass in an ice bar, climbed glaciers, and marvelled at spectacular waterfalls.
I sailed on breathtaking schooners, crossed the Atlantic Ocean, limboed to steel bands and sang until I lost my voice.
I witnessed rain drops so huge they looked like giant diamonds falling from above, and rainbows that stretched the entire width of the sky.
I prayed in beautiful churches, chanted in magnificent temples with golden Buddhas, and grew both spiritually and emotionally.
I have learned to forgive.
I watched the full moon rise over the water and shimmer on the ripples of the sea, reminding myself of those I have lost, and the life that I thought was mine…
Once in a while I have cried, but mostly I have laughed, and always, always, counted my blessings.
I have been strong and very brave, when I didn’t know I could be. I have learned to smile again. I am a new me.
I am free.
This woman is very articulate. She voices all my feelings at age 74.
Thank you, Lyn Slater and Katie Couric. You made me realize that I am at the stage of my life that I always aimed for when younger. And that my attitude will make all the difference in whether I am happy or not. I'm going to have a talk with my attitude and make sure it is working in my favor and not against me. :)
At 73 years, I can tell you I learned a lot about life as I aged. I’m so sorry for this woman who claims that everything [all her issues] are the same. I have evolved tremendously over the decades. I am no way the same as I was in my 30’s, 40’s 50’s. I am much much better.
I think she's saying the questions remain the same throughout decades -- but the answers change with each decade. I think that's true.
I have time at 79 (this May) and having retired from nursing at 75; to enjoy life like never before. I'm on no medications. I want others to know Jesus is the way...the only way. Be kind to others and forgiving. Do not attempt to carry their burdens, but allow the Holy spirit. Spend time in His Word and live accordingly. Peace and joy follows. ❤
I am an Occupational Therapist and we can help with the transitions experienced during aging. Consult with an OT who specializes in geriatrics. Our whole philosophy is supporting remaining function and supporting limitations so you can continue to do want you want and need to do.
I'm 65. My major in college was art, I was a mosaicist. I divorced young and with a child to support became a psychiatric caseworker. I ended traditional work at 55 due to health issues. Last year I wrote the first manuscript for a fictional series. I have so many other books clamoring for attention in my mind. I found my joy and my tribe. It is often hard to know what you'd like to do just for you. Especially if we have parenting or caregiver responsibility's. Our focus becomes paying the bills. If thinking of ourselves seems foreign to us it may take a bit of time. What did we dream of as children. What to we dream of during the night? Our subconscious remebers. Once we remove the clutter we find ourselves hidden within the rubble.
At 68 years young, LOL, YA sure, I learned it take courage to be happy but it's worth it, be yourself all the time cause we're all specials. Having fun keep our heart young.
56 here I'm still learning to embrace this new stage of my life. Far too much emphasis is placed on being and remaining young. When in reality there is true beauty in every stage of life, including death....
I only hope to be blessed with her level of self awareness, self discovery and wisdom as I continue on this journey. We would all truly be blessed from recognizing enlightened beings as she in our midst.
I'm greatly enjoying the aging process-now at age 54. My parents were very young when they had me (19 mom, 21 dad) and we lived on the opposite coast of where my grandparents lived, so I didn't spend much time with elders as a kid. I was always jealous of my friends who had grandparents in their lives. As I grew up, I was looking forward to "being old." I remember reading the poem, "When I am an old woman I shall wear Purple" and watching shows like "On Golden Pond" and "Fried Green Tomatoes" and "The Golden Girls."
My mother, who is only 19 years older than me, HATES getting older. She rants at the universe for all the issues of aging. She refuses medical care because she thinks that she shouldn't need it at her age (now 74). I feel bad that she is so miserable, but she also won't allow anyone to assist her as she is aging. I made peace with her decisions long ago and just make myself available to her when she is ready to get some help. It's like she is just hanging around and waiting for the grim reaper to come. She doesn't have to live that way, she is choosing it by rejecting everyone who tries to help. We hire housekeepers and she won't let them in to clean. (for example) I've also tried cleaning her home myself and she won't let me. She accuses me of treating her like an "old person."
Like, what am I supposed to do, take her out to the nightclubs and treat her like a college freshman? I know everyone says they don't want to become their mother, but my mother's life is not good. She'll tell you that herself. But, literally everyone who tries to help her is treated to a very nasty attitude. I hope to hang onto my kindness as I age, no matter how uncomfortable my body becomes. I also hope that I'll seek out medical help when it's needed.
I’m in the same boat as you! Only I’m 57 and mom is 77. I have also made peace with it but it’s hard to see them making bad choices, and they won’t listen.
Well articulated! Thank you very much! Soon to be 62.
❤am in my 80s have health problems i know what it is so am able to deal with it no more worrying have joined 2 ladys clubs allso art classes play bridge for a long time live on my own for 13 years so it can be done i make it happen its not easy but then it never was thank god i got this far living in dublin lreland all my life pity is we dont get enought sunshine happy st partick day to you all its to morrow keep well and keep smiling and good health cheers
Finally Katie you posted a person expressing a life perspective relevant to me ❤ Looking forward to reading her book!
Born 1952, moved into independent senior living, 2015, retired to very small part time work, 2018. Working to maintain skeletal and muscular structure. Preparing now for the last great adventure of passing on. This is the serious work. I do not want to go round again.
I have always had a positive attitude to life. I thought of what I wanted to do and made it happen. I married at Seventeen, raised three fabulous children to adulthood, then it was my time . I fulfilled a dream by backpacking around parts of the world ound the world for five months at forty five. Six years ago at seventy one and still living a happy, healthy, fulfilling life on the plane back from Australia I became unwell. Since then I have had breast cancer, temporal arteritis, lymphodrma in both legs, resuting in me becoming quite infirm, an umbilical hrrnia and lastly so far. Have just been diagnosed with an ascending aneurysm in
my aorta. I think this lady has been very lucky to have an easy aging.
I'm sorry to read that you have had such a difficult time. How wonderful that you decided to travel in your forties while you still had your full health. I read so many instances of people leaving it too late and then regretting it. Just noticing you have an Irish surname. Much love and many blessings sending to you from across the waves in Ireland. 😊☘💚
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She is so right. I had headaches in my 20s and stomach aches in my 30s. There was always something, and those things passed. There were challenges then as there are now. But they are different. Likewise, there are different positives. Perhaps, those are the things I should grab onto. Yes, here in my 70s, there are things I need to deal with. I am hearing her say deal with them and move on gracefully.
This reverberated....right down to the ringing in the ears. Turning 70 and finally getting to what i wanted as a young person. To paint and make art. That sense of urgency...but balanced with a calm resolve. I enjoyed Dr. Slaters talk very much. Thank you for producing and posting it.
It seems like every 70 year old female wants to paint
Actually, it's more about expressing creativity. My writer's group has several mature women who have amazing stories to tell, fact and fiction. A life's worth of travel, experience, wisdom. Expressed through a creative venue. Truly inspiring stuff. @@susanmorales6941
Thank you from this 75 year old!
When there is enough money no age is a problem.
Having life long goals, especially spiritual goals is key.
Very good advice. Avoid stress and negative thinking.
Although attitude is a contributor to well being, health is also a major aspect. Someone here has shared their personal challenges and physical pain and loss, being the loss of the use or loss of control over the physical can be horrifying and frightening. It helps to have others who have experienced that to know there is a community and that others also suffer. A positive outlook can help but it will be a roller coaster and there will be extremely bad days. Best of luck to everyone!
At 74 I agree; it's the same but different. I don't focus so much about dying. I'm not in denial about that but it does not impact me all of the time.
If you're wealthy, talented, have friends and/ or family that care, and relatively healthy, you can have a good life later on. No money? Forget it. Sorry, but that's reality.
At 69 i no longer fear death and that is a great relief. I feel better mentally and physically now then i did decades ago. Im not on any medication, im retired and do what i want when i want. Im not married i think that is a plus being that im a loner and love it. Life is great,but one day when i leave I'll definitely not miss it.
I'm 72 and find it difficult to concentrate on what people are talking about with music playing. Also, it's easier when people speak at normal speed, rather than slow it down for CZcams. You weren't too bad in that regard, but some people I need to put on X2 to hear at a normal speed.
I knew, at 15, that I wanted to be a writer. :) Now that I've got the time, if health permits, to get off my butt and finish a book with my own characters, not those on TV.
Everyone starts writing fanfic, but after having a Star Trek book discarded after a year of consideration (new editor didn't want old stuff cluttering his desk) my agent said, "Create your own characters."
Good advice for writers of any age. :)
Jon in rural BC, Canada
At 60, finally not stressing (I didn’t say “caring”) about kids, family, work (I still work), world events, and most other things.
Sooo enjoyed the video and I connected to everything this lovely ,inspiring lady said. I am 75 and a late bloomer lol. Life is wonderful now, at last, I have found my true self. I am happy, peaceful and content. Sad that I "gave away " my life and inflicted so many "should" on myself but now I make the most of every day. I cant wait to read the book
We are what we Think about.
Yep. "Get Busy Living or Get Busy Dying" because Life is Long... Until Its Not.
Shawshank Redemption.... one of my favorite movies, and so full of wisdom.
@@helenaville5939 Totally.
life in general for most of us is HORRIBLE STRUGGLE for NOTHING !!!!
I never figured out what I'm supposed to be doing here, I only look forward to getting the HELL out of this BS
Totally relatable. Bless your heart.
Life is harder for many of us….❤😊
What a lovely woman. I would love to hear more from her.
Yes, thank you, Katie! We always keep in mind what we need to do.
Great video! Just too short! Very inspirational and all so true! Thank you!
The curse of getting older is, you have to slow down.
The blessing of getting older is, you have to slow down.
Either time went by fast or she aged fast. Yes, as we age we need to just go with the flow and high stress levels is a bad thing. I'm near 84 and not what was at 74 going to trail crews in the Sawtooth's of Idaho. Now I need to concentrate on thinking clearly and taking my time. I have a 5th wheel RV and it's not like just driving a Honda. Diesel PU and 30 foot 5th wheel and all the details that can go wrong. I need a young guy to go up top to clean roof and do any sealing necessary. :-) I walk or go to gym every day and love it and the social part as well. My wife is 69 and I think of her as a young chick. :-)
Lessening stress day to day is #1 on my list now in my 60’s while yet, still working full time in a very physically demanding career. I’ve raised a family and have always loved thinking one day I will arrive and be able to get enough sleep, read the book I want to read, see the concert or play I want to see, go to the place or spend time doing x, y, and z while maintaining life, work, household chores, etc., has always taken priority. Does there ever come a time where on has time for what one wishes one could do? Or is it really just a mindset and I’ve missed it all along the way?
I am 81 and have time to do whatever I want to pursue or do. ❤
Nature can’t be wonderful if you treated fair. You haven’t missed , you just didn’t recognize it and take advantage of it that’s what you were yelling about . Every moment is precious take a vantage of it . Use your brain to your advantage it takes more power to used it wisely.
It didn’t happen for me until I retired. Retirement is truly the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow-you’ll get there!
Just turned 70 and really appreciated this!
I appreciate your sharing what aging is for you. I wish you well.
This is such an important message
Turning 70 next month, feeling similarly, I still think of future goals, traveling is a big one, wanting to stay fit and active. Age is just a number right. Having relatives who are active in their 90s is very inspiring for me, gives me hope that I have time to do more with my life. Best wishes ❤
To have an older life , stress free , you need to have some savings , you can live the life you want to live, if you are living week to week .
This was lovely ❤. Thank you
My friend began learning the banjo 🪕 at 74 and now she performs in a bluegrass band at age 81 = she rocks! 🎶
I really enjoyed this article as I just turned 70 and have been traveling a lot.
Most of the time I would agree with you. However I was listening to her positive msgs and didn’t even notice the music. Sometimes that happens when the dialog oversees the music😊
thank you for the communication about getting older - wow loved "Failure of imagination when we are young" = that gives us the power back - accept age
If we are fortunate enough to age- there is a choice we need to purposefully make for our wellbeing. Attitude makes a difference. We ARE going to die. Nobody gets out alive. Striving to do the best we are capable of doing and allowing ourselves the benefit of knowing our limitations without condemnation is vital. We cannot reclaim our youth, but we can always strive for the best version of ourselves with kindness to ourselves and beyond.
So glad I found you 🙏
I love her! thank you 💜
You know what 'they' say ~ old age is 15 years older than you.
Born 1952. Moved into independent senior living 2025 at 63. Retired to small PT work 2018. I work extensively on strength and tone of muscular skeletal systems. Challenge knowledge constantly. I live now for passing away ready for what comes next.
WHAT?I was born in 1952! You did not move into senior living at age 63!
@@13soap13 - Yup, my wife and I move in to Eddy Independent Senior Living at Beechwood, Troy, NY in 2015. Wife was 62 yo, DoB ‘53, me 63, DoB ‘52. Best real estate decision we made. This is an urban residence, so it has a 3x/hr city bus, M - Sat. We have a week day driver with access to a car or a bus. Downtown is walking distance. Best Farmers market in the region is downtown. BtW this is a cooperative so we have ownership and greater say in how things are run. Also dropped from two personal vehicles to one EV as there is a two port charger in the parking lot.
We all are listening to the horror of aging in the media,but it’s actually a privilege to get to old and healthy of course ,wisdom doesn’t come with youth ,enjoy life while we can because considering the age of our planet ours is pretty short ,so love,laugh,be passionate and caring we only get this one chance !
Living alone and fear of others who know you are alone and anything goes is more difficult no one knows of u til you are living it.
I have a notion. Please feel free to comment. If one understands fully that physical life and our years on this earth is finite, then your mind and soul is released and becomes unencumbered. I leave the rest for your imagination..
Thank you ❤
Very helpful And insightful💞thank you
I agree with her saying all her issues are the same, except in different ways and the new ones comes with still being alive.
Nature can’t be wonderful at any age if we treated fair. Use your time wisely .
delete the music
I love the music in the background!
Getting older reinforces the notion that time is an illusion.
Does anybody know what time it is. 😮Does anybody really care?
Chicago. ❤️
We must remember as we age that everyday is the best it’s ever going to be.
That was inspiring😊
So very true my dear
Instead of "BEING OLD".....why don't you
"💕🌸🌹🥀JUST be YOURSELF 💕🌸🌹🥀....
It us less stressful andmore FUN 🥰🤗🥰🤗
Lovely. Thanking you . . . ❤💖❤
Absolutely!
Thank you 🙏
Brava!
Yes-why do we need mood music for everything 🙄
Take no thought for your life, cast your cares on the Lord and let go of worry and fear,.
He suffered what He did to free us from sin and death and He did it willingly for the Joy set before Him! There is so much to look forward to , this life in this body of dust is not
the end , it is just the beginning , have faith... all shall be well.
Wow thank you
Very cool ❤
Yep
I have to say as a professional award-winning writer, who is also 70, what you say in this video is not the truth. And isn’t truth the essence of good writing? You are not the same person you were when you got your period, nor when you were a teenager, nor scrambling to survive in your 20s, or getting a divorce etc. I really would appreciate a book of real truth on aging, not some pop idea of agelessness.
Yes, but what do you do when you're older and you have no money to self publish your book and publishers don't want it?
Do what you can do? Focus elsewhere on what you can achieve. Join groups, get outside.
Every season in life this is how it’s suppose to be?
I don't think I'm that old but I sure am making people jealous with my karaoke right and left.
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Curious, you talk about a deferred dream. Was having a family not part of the dream life you had for yourself, and if not, why did you pursue that direction? Was it by default?
Darling! 😊❤
Some ppl here clearly don’t know who Katie is!
No mention of how one’s socioeconomic status effects aging. Privilege!
how are we ever going to visit the stars if we don't make olde men sexy again?
Music in the background is distracting.
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Most importantly,.....what should we cook for dinner tonight?
'being' has nothing to do with body changing and doesn't require 'how to'
The type of music in the background makes it hard to listen to what’s being said. Is that an age thing 😃
No, aging is much harder. The limitations are more frequent and tougher.