I had a career as a tattoo artist for nearly 10 years. I became really good at it. I grew to absolutely hate my job and decided to quit and leave it completely behind. Even thinking about doing it again makes me uncomfortable lol Funny thing is, my clients did love me and my work, and would have never guessed how much I was hating it 🥲. Basically what got me through a lot was doing it for them and for how meaningful it was to them, and it can be a “cool” and “fun” experience, but not enough to keep me going even if I was good at it. It actually became like a prison where I didn’t feel I could grow anymore. All I could think in the end was “this is it? Now this is what I do and that’s it? Back pain and dealing with clients?”, and all the funness and coolness was overshadowed by the problems. My point is. You are NOT guaranteed to like something just because you get good at it. Nope. I think this is only partially true and it definitely didn’t apply in this case. Maybe I wasn’t really that much into drawing in the first place, or maybe this doesn’t apply to more creative work, or maybe it’s like you mention with the whole “hobby” thing, because in this case, drawing, designing and dealing with clients was on my mind all the time, and I think that unless you absolutely love that, you wouldn’t be happy doing this work 🤷🏻♀️ Maybe for some things you really do need to be very passionate about it. I do need to add that I am still trying to figure out what the fuck to do with my life now 🫠 (By the way, I was(am?) also a musician (that’s what I actually went to school for but never did for a living), and an “almost” self taught software developer maybe thinking about content creation now??? 😅😅😅)
I did exactly that but even though I get praised and I am talented doesnt mean that my Job is fulfilling. I think this advice is good for getting started but doesn't help with self actualizing
Agreed. I had a career for 10 years that I started because I thought I loved (it was fine), then I got really good at it, and then it became my biggest nightmare and had to absolutely leave it behind. Which is quite the opposite! Now I’m trying to find something that fits more organically with my temperament instead of pushing myself to become exceptional at something. It totally backfired for me.
I'm decently good at my job but still hate to do it. I would hate it more if I sucked at it absolutely, but I still hate it even if I'm good at it. I take responsibility for my life. I will continue to work to provide for my family because it is my duty, but to me, it is simply impossible to enjoy any kind of work. Passionate or not, good at it or not, it doesn't matter, because I am a lazy person. I just accepted the fact that I will endure this daily torture for a few decades, because my family that I love need and deserve a decent living.
Soooo, I'm pretty good at my job, people rely on me and I make enough money. I'm even decently respected. I still hate it. I absolutely love my time off and dread going to work. Am I broken or something? Edit: After reading some other comments it is obvious that I'm not alone on this and I now think this is just flat out wrong. I think Grandma is right, do what you love. The only problem is us humans fall out of love with stuff all the time so you have to keep changing what you love. Seems like it even happened to you Mark. You fell out of love with writing and changed.
Mildly disagree with 1:30. I'm really good at what I do for my day job. I get praise from senior leaders and peers, but I'm utterly miserable and hate the corporate doldrum that consumes me from 4 am to 5 pm. The advice to give should be it's important to do well in the thing you enjoy or love doing, so go decide on which thing you love you'll focus all your energy on and go get good at it; be woodworking, public speaking, piano playing, being a gamer, teacher, content creator, theoretical physicist, etc.
My passion was to be an astronaut, too poor and neglected for eve having a shot at it. 2nd was to be in the military. I did my 4 years and realized this actually sucked, that being said, if I had to redo it, I'd do it all over again and get out. My 3rd passion was to become a firefighter. While the pay and benefits are great and I do love the job. What I never wanted to be was a trades men specifically, I suprisingly get more job satisfaction as an elevator mechanic.
I’m not sure which podcast I heard it on, but someone said “Passion is form over function but purpose is function, function, function”. That stuck with me.
I'm not gonna talk on the video and its point. I'm only commenting cause I wanted to say that answering a "What's wrong with...." kind of question with "Nothing, it's what most people do" is not a valid argument. "What most people do" makes no difference on whether smth is good or bad, or if there's smth wrong with it, etc etc, and it most certainly plays absolutely no rule on whether somebody would like or want or feel ok with smth. Anyway, carry on!
Sorry but I gotta disagree with Mark. If you actually do what you LOVE you will love every minute of it. The whole “you don’t find you passion you get good at something and then it becomes your passion” is BS. I have a buddy of mine that loved football since he was 8, he was awful at it, still loved it. He loved every minute of practice, went to college D1 and after to the Pros. He said he loved every second in the gym, every morning with the coaches, even the drive to the field or doing his numbers and studying plays. If you actually find what you love it will never feel like work. The problem is most people don’t have the balls to admit that they just didn’t find it or weren’t able to monetize what they love, so in order for them to not feel bad they say this “nobody truly loves all of what they do” … it’s like the person who can’t admit that someone is just better looking, without the whole “beauty is in the eye of the beholder” excuse. That’s just the truth
Do I not understand something or the topic went from, don't bother finding your passion, you will love what you do if you become good at it, to, you need to love what you do to become successful (good at it)? (honest question)
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I had a career as a tattoo artist for nearly 10 years. I became really good at it. I grew to absolutely hate my job and decided to quit and leave it completely behind. Even thinking about doing it again makes me uncomfortable lol
Funny thing is, my clients did love me and my work, and would have never guessed how much I was hating it 🥲. Basically what got me through a lot was doing it for them and for how meaningful it was to them, and it can be a “cool” and “fun” experience, but not enough to keep me going even if I was good at it. It actually became like a prison where I didn’t feel I could grow anymore. All I could think in the end was “this is it? Now this is what I do and that’s it? Back pain and dealing with clients?”, and all the funness and coolness was overshadowed by the problems. My point is. You are NOT guaranteed to like something just because you get good at it. Nope. I think this is only partially true and it definitely didn’t apply in this case. Maybe I wasn’t really that much into drawing in the first place, or maybe this doesn’t apply to more creative work, or maybe it’s like you mention with the whole “hobby” thing, because in this case, drawing, designing and dealing with clients was on my mind all the time, and I think that unless you absolutely love that, you wouldn’t be happy doing this work 🤷🏻♀️
Maybe for some things you really do need to be very passionate about it.
I do need to add that I am still trying to figure out what the fuck to do with my life now 🫠
(By the way, I was(am?) also a musician (that’s what I actually went to school for but never did for a living), and an “almost” self taught software developer maybe thinking about content creation now??? 😅😅😅)
I did exactly that but even though I get praised and I am talented doesnt mean that my Job is fulfilling. I think this advice is good for getting started but doesn't help with self actualizing
Agreed. I had a career for 10 years that I started because I thought I loved (it was fine), then I got really good at it, and then it became my biggest nightmare and had to absolutely leave it behind. Which is quite the opposite! Now I’m trying to find something that fits more organically with my temperament instead of pushing myself to become exceptional at something. It totally backfired for me.
In fact, it should be “Find your money-making gifts.”
I'm decently good at my job but still hate to do it. I would hate it more if I sucked at it absolutely, but I still hate it even if I'm good at it.
I take responsibility for my life. I will continue to work to provide for my family because it is my duty, but to me, it is simply impossible to enjoy any kind of work. Passionate or not, good at it or not, it doesn't matter, because I am a lazy person. I just accepted the fact that I will endure this daily torture for a few decades, because my family that I love need and deserve a decent living.
Soooo, I'm pretty good at my job, people rely on me and I make enough money. I'm even decently respected. I still hate it. I absolutely love my time off and dread going to work. Am I broken or something?
Edit: After reading some other comments it is obvious that I'm not alone on this and I now think this is just flat out wrong. I think Grandma is right, do what you love. The only problem is us humans fall out of love with stuff all the time so you have to keep changing what you love. Seems like it even happened to you Mark. You fell out of love with writing and changed.
You need to align WORK YOU ARE GOOD AT with your core VALUES to get that satisfaction from your COMPETENCY
Mildly disagree with 1:30. I'm really good at what I do for my day job. I get praise from senior leaders and peers, but I'm utterly miserable and hate the corporate doldrum that consumes me from 4 am to 5 pm. The advice to give should be it's important to do well in the thing you enjoy or love doing, so go decide on which thing you love you'll focus all your energy on and go get good at it; be woodworking, public speaking, piano playing, being a gamer, teacher, content creator, theoretical physicist, etc.
My passion was to be an astronaut, too poor and neglected for eve having a shot at it. 2nd was to be in the military. I did my 4 years and realized this actually sucked, that being said, if I had to redo it, I'd do it all over again and get out. My 3rd passion was to become a firefighter. While the pay and benefits are great and I do love the job. What I never wanted to be was a trades men specifically, I suprisingly get more job satisfaction as an elevator mechanic.
I’m not sure which podcast I heard it on, but someone said “Passion is form over function but purpose is function, function, function”. That stuck with me.
I'm not gonna talk on the video and its point. I'm only commenting cause I wanted to say that answering a "What's wrong with...." kind of question with "Nothing, it's what most people do" is not a valid argument. "What most people do" makes no difference on whether smth is good or bad, or if there's smth wrong with it, etc etc, and it most certainly plays absolutely no rule on whether somebody would like or want or feel ok with smth. Anyway, carry on!
Sorry but I gotta disagree with Mark. If you actually do what you LOVE you will love every minute of it. The whole “you don’t find you passion you get good at something and then it becomes your passion” is BS. I have a buddy of mine that loved football since he was 8, he was awful at it, still loved it. He loved every minute of practice, went to college D1 and after to the Pros. He said he loved every second in the gym, every morning with the coaches, even the drive to the field or doing his numbers and studying plays. If you actually find what you love it will never feel like work. The problem is most people don’t have the balls to admit that they just didn’t find it or weren’t able to monetize what they love, so in order for them to not feel bad they say this “nobody truly loves all of what they do” … it’s like the person who can’t admit that someone is just better looking, without the whole “beauty is in the eye of the beholder” excuse. That’s just the truth
6:13 gets me every time 😂
for me, it's 9:19 :D
Invite Robert Green 💚
Do I not understand something or the topic went from, don't bother finding your passion, you will love what you do if you become good at it, to, you need to love what you do to become successful (good at it)?
(honest question)