How to Beat Procrastination Like It Owes You Money
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- čas přidán 6. 01. 2024
- I'm going to show you how to get out of a rut… and you’re going to f*cking like it.
Every problem of inaction comes down to a problem with emotions. Your procrastination actually comes from you not feeling like doing something, it has nothing to do with Mercury retrograde or your under-diagnosed ADHD.
Want to get a better handle on your emotions, and channel them more productively in your life? Fuck yeah, you do. I have an entire course on this stuff. It’s called Emotional Mastery, you can check it out here: mrk.mn/48oFAHR
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STAY HARD!
Thank you Mark
@@fuegoredlego and the logs?
That's what she said
Your ideas sure do keep me erect. Thank you Mark!
That´s what I thought@@muxi0121
I watch this video while procrastinating
Doing that now. 😂
😂😂😂
Classic lol
So I am not alone
Yessir
So smart people procrastinate more, that’s the excuse I’m gonna use from now on. Thanks, Mark!
Anxious people or ones with a lot of trauma do too. Hiding under that perfectionism requirement.
@@Onthe9thlife3730 yup
Stay hard!
Bro.. you are too smart..
i laugh so hard
"Dont celebrate victories in a way that prevents further victories." That hit hard
STAY HARD
STAY HARD
I will watch this later.
Lol
I just love how Mark talks to "real" people and not just purely experts or professionals who are already at the top of their career.
Yes mate. That's because real people are his target consumers.
Thank you.
Heavy ADHD, attempts to escape by stimulating with substances with a thousand projects waiting in the queue...
Your videos help me reset the bullshit cycle in my mind. And that always leads to a degree of hope.
You forgot one important thing that's also in the video: Support.
Mark supported and encouraged Jiwon through the entire process, and Jiwon ended up supporting Mark too.
Accountability made her feel the social pressure to succeed & conquer procrastination
The first minute i watched this, i was like... i want to be on the call with mark and got to Disneyland too. Or maybe just have dinner with him! *totally missing out the point
I think he included it in the motivation section where he said he motivated Jiwon and Jiwon motivated him to do the things he was avoiding(when he went to korea).
Exactly!❤
Another excuse here! You don't need every single aspect to reach your goals. If you need human support contact mentors. Don't be a perfectionist
She did great. It's easier when you have someone who believes in you.
And actively supporting you. Who you can bounce ideas off of.
Just believe in your self. No one other them you can make you move. I know you can, I believe in you. 😎
@@leandrotuao1 i really hope it is that easy 😢
congrats, you just found a bs excuse.
it is not. it's like motivational media. if you need motivation you already lost. move on. it's better to have an end in shock than having a shock without end.
Equally as good to have people that don’t believe in you and your motivation be to prove them wrong. What you’ve just said sounds like an excuse. This message probably sounds rude but it’s not entirely what’s intended
00:01 Mastering emotions and manipulating environment are key to beating procrastination.
01:32 Create an environment that makes change inevitable
03:01 Smart people procrastinate more due to overthinking
04:26 The Do Something principle: take action to spur motivation and lead to progress.
05:48 Start with small actions to create a chain reaction.
07:15 Utilizing social pressure to take action
08:38 Utilizing social pressure for motivation
10:11 Failure moves us forward
Thank you for the breakdown 🙂
@@dcunningham6692 you are welcome
"it's not the thing you're chasing that makes you feel good. It's the chasing itself." - 100% agree. This is along the lines of Dr. Srikumar Rao's suggestion to invest in the process, not the outcome. Thanks for sharing.
The social pressure thing really doesn't work for me. In fact it kind of does the opposite. If I don't keep up with what I said and someone calls me out on it, it tends to make me just give up entirely. I found that it's better to tell no one and feel no pressure. Then just do it, and it feels nice when people comment about your success later.
May be an introvert thing
Me too! That follows stoic philosophy
Yeah that's me too.
Instead of telling them that your goal is to have the weight of 180 lb by the end of the year, tell them you are working out to be healthy and fit.
I think that has to do with the dysfunctional beliefs that failure is bad, and the overpowering shame that comes with it. If you can get someone who isn't going to think less of you for failing, but will stay by ur side and help you get back up again, and you can learn that take on that same mindset, I think their form of social pressure is very healthy. Unfortunately, it's rare to find someone such as that on your life.
It’s Only 11:45 minutes , but it feels like a whole course full of information and motivation . I am taking action. Thank you Mark
I cried while watching this. The change in her mood, pure joy. It's cliché but it's about the ride and not the destination
I’m a grown ass dude and I had wet eyes as well at the end of this lol 🤷♂️ amazing video!
Mark I love how you make videos to help people with their productivity since these tips can mean the difference between being poor or rich
dude hes helped me get so much more productive in the psst month
The difference between happy and miserable too
This is the real deal! This video goes into the science of procrastination without overwhelming people.
Procrastination is quite simple. It involves tweaking your surroundings, a system of rewards and punishments that makes bad decisions challenging and good decision fun, breaking down big tasks into smaller, manageable steps, and, lastly:
JUST. DOING. IT!
((Also, not being smart 🤣🤣))
OMG YOURE HERE TOO
Save this video to “Watch Later”
😂😂😂
😂 me too
Or watch it now and do the thing you need to do later
I’m not procrastinating, I’m in bed watching this video
"it's taking action that makes you feel good"
Real asf!!🔥🔥
Mark love your work and love all the recent long form content! You're making a huge difference in the world and I'm so proud of you! Keep it going!
Been putting off a lot of things in my life lately. This video really came at the right time. Every video has been a banger lately, Mark. Thank you.
I love this so much because I am myself a master procrastinator. I push everything off because I overthink it that doesn’t get me anywhere this video gave me a different insight about failing and how it’s not really considered a failure because you’ve tried and you’ve learned from the experience!
Mark - That was a good clear and concise video with a lot of meat and no extra fluff. Your communication skills and authenticity are much appreciated. I will always make time to watch your videos.
I read this "do something principle" in Mark's blog years ago and it changed my life. I'm glad to see it in the video
I love that video! So motivating! Your "do something principle" has helped me a lot in the past and still does!
You don't want to celebrate your victories in such a way that It prevents further victories! This is advice is gold!
I NEED this STAY HARD alarm sound! That's so sick bro!
Love the editing and timing, spot on. The advise is also great!
Really loving this new style of videos where you help and interact with other people ! The podcast style episodes are great as well, but these are definitely on a whole other level !
Keep up the good work Mark !
This felt like a trailer for Jiwon's story. Can't get enough MM helping people and I want to see more! 👍
Love seeing how you help people in live situations. It’s heartwarming to see a bit of kindness in this world…
Great video and exactly what I needed to see at exactly the right time! I’ve been procrastinating starting exercising and now, I’m ready to start with the smallest step. Thanks Mark!
This is exactly what I needed to hear right now. There are a few changes I wish for my life, including finally doing more for my business than building a fancy homepage and then dream of having success with it 😅
Booyah! Released a non-podcast video! Love this format. Packed full of content and only 11 minutes in length. Thank you 🎉
Been watching lots of your videos lately and have to say, that there's so much good advice and actually helpful views and points made!
Great job and thanks a lot, man!
Man your videos are building me piece by piece.
Every video brings me one step forward, and don't worry, I'm starting to do, not just enjoy this self-help rush and then do nothing.
You're currently the best, and most honest, for real.
"not feel like doing it"
yea you're so right 😂 as a content creator, there's always times when i hit that, even though i like what i'm doing.
i usually playing online games when procrasinate.
hmmm...
so the point is, just "do something else" that still align with your goal, right?
then, the motivation will be started when you take that action.
okay, noted. i will try to avoid gaming when procrasinate, and do other stuff instead 😂
thank you for the video!
What videos you make man..... Haha,
What age is yours
One more thing. Don't rely on motivation to get work done. It's short term and won't get you anywhere. Build and maintain discipline.
Thanks, Mark. I really appreciated this one. A lot of insights. Thanks a lot.
Thank you!! I needed this encouragement to get myself moving. Love you Mark for your wisdom 😘
that David Goggins alarm cracked me up 😂, stay hard stay hard 💪. Environment influences humans greatly 💯 %
My semester starts back up tomorrow, this came at a fantastic time
An excellent summary of how to overcome procrastination. Thanks for sharing
awww your advices are so clear, concise, positive. and the stories you tell to illustrate them is priceless. I feel like I have learned so much in just a few minutes. thank you a lot for sharing these tips, the time you take to do it , thank you !
This video hit differently. I've felt very stuck at work, and procrastination has been a major reason for it, coming out of the holidays. I feel like I can use a lot of this to move forward.
I love it how you put environment as first. It truly is. Sadly it gets relegated to the middle of the list in most self-help videos.
Hands down the best and most down to earth self-help content on Yt
This is brilliant! I’ve been struggling with procrastination for over a year, and I haven’t managed to break the cycle;I just feel I can “get away with it”
I was looking for something like this..
And I started my journey from yesterday!
This video is gonna be my teacher.
Will watch this video everyday!
To remind myself.
Journey is the happiness.
Thank you Mark for making this video.
Cleanest video I've watched in a while. Nothing but straight facts. Love brother x
Hey Mark, If you could do this coaching video series (on international level apart from USA) just like for jiwon, you not only help/assist a little with lot of people's problems but also get to know a lot about the many countries cultures just like you said in the video you also end up helping/assisting lot of people' s problem (maybe like almost half the planet earth i guess)
from various countries (especially from various cultures).
I love what you are doing so much. The approach, the charisma, EVERYTHING!!
I love that you used Jiwon’s story as a case study. It helps pin a story to each lesson!
Thanks Mark🤩
"the more you motivate other , the more you find motivate in return" so true ! Cant wait for the Korean videos!
마크 맨슨으로 부터 꾸준한 도움을 받아 점점 성장해가는 지원님을 보면서 많은 저도 덩달아 함께 힘내게 되네요!! 앞으로도 건강한 미래를 위해 파이팅 하십쇼!!
I just have to say, this video is excellent. The editing and your delivery is so good
Wow didn't expect this video to be that helpful and interesting to watch. Thank you Mark!
Whenever I feel demotivated, or feel like giving up the grind and just waste my time, one of your videos pops up on my YT feed and it helps a lot. Thank you!
Seems like an important video, I’ll add it to watch later
Thanks mark!
i appreciate the amount of time, energy and resources you invest to make videos.
This is the final line of truth I needed to read. Thank you, Mark! "Every problem of inaction is ultimately a problem of emotion". I've got so many things to do on my fifo list, that it's just insane to think of it. And that is allways getting emontionaly in the way and stopping me.. So that finally is THE core reason, WHY I am procrastinating so often, yet I am successfull and could achieve so much more (selfemployed for 10 years allready). Thank you, Mark, from the depths of my dark and anxious soul for this golden line of truth. Only the best wishes to you!
hey mark i need videos like these. condensed and on point. please try making more videos like these. I watch these kind of videos more than podcasts. i will try your podcasts and thanks for this one.
i maybe take a few of these words back
Maybe try doing something actually?
Great video! Not sure about the incentive take tho. I recall that Huberman says that you should avoid getting used to incentives every time you accomplish something. You can utilize the flipping coin method. If you win you get an incentive, if you lose you don't. The point is that internal motivation is the strongest drive for our actions, the best results come from enjoying the process of what you are doing. If you get used to get a reward you will be less motivated because you're doing that for external reasons. (I hope my english was understandable enoungh 😅)
You put so much value out there thanks Mark 😃
Best video you've ever done Mark! Love the storytelling part!
00:57 🌍 The most crucial factor in behavior change is your environment; set it up to make your desired change inevitable.
02:24 🏆 Create incentives for yourself by setting up rewards and punishments for your behaviors to enhance motivation.
05:48 📝 Embrace the "Do Something" principle: take small, simple actions today to move towards your goal, as action is the cause, not the result, of motivation.
08:14 👥 Leverage social pressure positively to achieve goals, recognizing its power in motivating and influencing action.
10:40 🔄 Embrace failure as a tool for learning and progress; the point of goals is not just achieving them but the continuous process of taking action.
because we are all Gen Z watching this (mostly) we expect gen z self-improvement content with stupid memes and shit. and I'm saying that being part of Gen Z. your content is so authentic it makes me want to laugh and do 100 pushups at the same time! I've read your book and it really helped me and is still helping me with social skills so I'm very grateful for everything you provide the world mark. thanks so much!
Thanks for coming to Korea, Mark! It was great meeting you. Love this video and Jiwon's story.
damn that was a fantastic video! 1st, so well planned out, the editing and "story" throughout. And best yet, an excellent 4-steps message. Hilarious at start with goggin's addition! Mark - this is so much better than other stuff on youtube. really well done and I'm taking the message to heart.. or.. action.
"Just do it. it's not big of a deal. Just by doing anything, you learn something."
Dude, we need to see you train for your marathon! :)
a timely reminder for me to move. Thanks for this it was inspiring, convicting concise and a little uncomfortable but in a way that can be leveraged for good because once a goal is broken down into bite size pieces like you point out, suddenly the feeling to procrastinate is made to look smaller and smaller. we move
Korea is literally on my vision board. What a great experience an great lessons. Been procrastinating decluttering my room/closet lol today is the day! Jiwon is one fortunate fan / friend. Imagine someone surprising you with a Disney trip aw
People with ADHD are prone to struggle with procrastination *because* it is, absolutely, a feelings thing.
It is thought that their brains find it harder to work past and with the *feeling* of "not wanting to do it" because of the way they are wired.
They find it more challenging to force themselves to focus on things that are not, in the moment, the most stimulating option ("I'm bored" or "this isn't urgent enough right now") Specifically it's the way ADHD impacts emotional regulation (and the dysregulation of the brain's dopamine reward/motivation system).
A lot of the advice is universal, but it can be challenging! And people with brains that are far enough over on the spectrum to hit the 'clinical diagnosis' threshold will probably wrestle more with it, even as the same tips and principles to combat procrastination apply.
(I do not have time to watch the vid right now; apologies if this is already covered).
(Editing for clarity)
It's so much worse than that. Because our dopamine systems don't work correctly, there is no satisfaction in a job well done. There is no reward, ever.
I don't feel pride when I complete a project, even if it's something I'm really into, I'm just glad it's finally over.
The only real thing covered was perhaps environmental adjustments that make things easier for the target.
Not an example used in the video but a goal to keep dirty clothes off the bedroom floor can be managed by changing your environment to have the dirty clothes hamper in the bedroom or bathroom rather than the laundry.
Still no happy brain chemical rewards as such but less obstacles in the home.
Did you ever get around to watching it in the end 😂
@@oliflemmer I had some food and watched a youtube reaction video of the movie Perfect. And then some of the actual movie Pitch Perfect. and now I'm baaack for another go 😂
how to know if a person has ADHD?
I have severe procrastination issues
Oh, i found this video on "watch later" playlist...
🤣
I have been doing the same thing as Jiwon since May 2022. I graduated with my associates degree, and I can't make up my mind on what to do next with my career. This is the best video for me, right now, in my life. This week hemp me immensely! Thank you!!! 🙏 😊
This was an awesome video. I loved how he showed us how he helped her friend take actions and achieve her goals. Lovely effort Mark. Thank you.
When I was 15, I only had one goal. To secure a hundred percent in my final exams.
Yep, it was so silly and childish as anything, but that's something that had me all excited at that age. And I also had a good plan that had worked for many toppers before that. And I remember that was probably one of the most productive years of my life. I had a goal, and a reliable plan that could almost guarantee success.
(Bad that the exams got cancelled due to covid later lmao.)
After that, I lost the hold of everything because I had goals but no ways to achieve them. Like there was no one to tell me, do this and you'll achieve it. And in fact whoever did achieve those goals before me that I had aimed for, had started much earlier. So, that brought a sense of being too late in my mind. Demotivating af.
Lost all my time procrastinating to think about it and plan everything for myself.
I still don't have a lot of clarity about how can I achieve all that I want. And I keep procrastinating figuring out a way to it. Hope I do figure it out soon. 🙂
2 ways:
1)do research specifically into how to accomplish each goal. Of course you’ve tried already. Do more. Do something different.
2)do anything. See if it brought you closer or farther away, and proceed accordingly. Remember the children’s party game where the one kid looks for the hidden keys while the others yell “hot, cold”. The only way to fail this game is to stand still
@@M_SCYep. I tried the first point already, in fact since the past 3 years, I've been in that loop. I tried searching for one clear way, like a clear path to everything that I wanna achieve. But the conclusion, that I know I realised way too late because of procrastinating all the time was only that there's no specific guaranteed way. It's like a lot of luck is involved there and doesn't matter how hard I or anyone tries, no one can figure out a plan that can guarantee success.
And that only made me realise that real life is so different from schools and exams. There's no time table that can guarantee success. Real life is in fact like a chess game, where I can't plan all the moves in the beginning of the game, there's a lot that I will have to figure out as I keep playing. That requires me to be mentally alert and use my analysation skills everytime like we do before a nee move.
It's the only way and there's no magical plan that I can blindly follow like a bunch of books for school exams.
Tough realisation, but that's a fact and I have to accept it.
Lmao, that's similar to my story. The difference between us is that covid postponed our exams and I did really well, topper of 7 districts in my state. But the aftermath is not so good. I procrastinated a lot, don't have any kind of goal, got some personal issues and now I feel like shit.😊
@@nothingbuttamil8988I feel you, mate. 🤝
I procrastinated before watching this and I'm watching this while procrastinating my homework
Mark, this video was delightful! I'm excited for your video on Korea. You look so happy in the clips you showed from it. Internalizing these ideas now. Thank you. :D
Again, great video from Mark Manson!
I like reading and listening your words
This is the kind of video we want . We want to see you man.....Don't the f**king podcasts with some unknown persons giving solutions in a boring way . Love You Mark
Failure is the pillar of success
One of my favorite shorter videos from you. Awesome!
For those of you who haven’t read Atomic Habits, this is all you need to possibly know about it.
On the next episode: Why I left my wife to live with Jiwon
You are changing my life Mark, thank you so much! Cheers from Brasil!
Great job Mark on trying to move people towards action! Great follow up video after the last one I’ve seen from you where you made this your goal
My ADHD makes this a bit tricky
My mind is blown. Never would have thought environment played a part. I make mine too comfortable for myself. Thank you!
I wish this channel deserves more subscribers so underrated !
One of the best videos on procrastination ❤
Okay lets all take a moment to laugh hard at that Goggins Alarm sound, its killing me😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
wow powerful video, love this!!
THANK YOU!!
#1 - confirms my decision to finally get my environment (home & home office) FINALLY organized and cleaned up BEFORE I start focusing on the goals that have finally come in to focus through some serious work on what my future can/will look like.
#2 - makes me feel good about using Mani Vaya's Focus Blocks program - accountability, focused time units, and
#3 - PUBLICLY sharing goals (social pressure)
#4 - This is my history and I'm setting things up differently than I ever have in the past
Keep it up Mark, your videos are great.
I procrastinate because im smart, thank you lol
As always - amazing tips! Will implement them! Big fan here! A lil constructive feedback: the editing is really unnecessary and distracts from the message. All the added clips are interruptions. It would be great if you'd just speak. No editing/production necessary. Pressing record on your camera is enough. Nothing else needed. Thanks!
I agree, less is more.
yes! the over editing is made for 12year olds.
very true! your thoughts lead to your feelings, lead to your action then results
You’re the best, mark! STAY HARD.
This video seems cool
*saves to watch later*