Dr. Robert Firestone Describes Why People Develop a False Negative Identity
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- čas přidán 26. 03. 2017
- Dr. Robert Firestone describes why people develop a false negative identity. You can watch PsychAlive's full interview with Dr. Robert Firestone here: www.psychalive.org/dr-robert-f...
I can't express how much of an impact Dr. Robert Firestone's words "accidental identity" has had on me. Relief, anger, compassion... Thank you 🙏
Overcoming the Distructive Inner Voice. Great book. Thanks Dr .Firestone.
A friend of a friend sufferers from BPD that was misdiagnosed decades ago. It's only now she's starting over again with MORE therapy for BPD. Aside from the enormous challenge in dealing with this disorder, and if my intuition serves me well, she knows she has BPD and a negative identity about herself but she unconsciously refuses to address it because it justifies her identity as a victim from very dysfunctional parents but her victimhood has become addictive.
In addition, she gets disability and so she does not have to work. So there is no incentive on her part to rise above her victim mindset. She wants to keep the victim mask on to let everyone know, time and time again, how much she suffered and at the same time cash in the disability checks. I don't blame her for taking on this counterproductive stance considering the fact that her many therapists over the years screwed up royally for failing to see she had BPD. A disorder that brought years of chaos in her family along with her recent and bitter divorce with a resentful and alienated daughter. But getting back to this false negative identity. I wish there was some way Dr. firestone could demonstrate, with a real client, how the client is freed from this negative identity. I realize it's a privacy concern but our negative identity is not just ours. We all have it, more or less, and so to say it's a privacy concern I see it as a duty to show others that we all need to admit the fact that we suffer- myself included. Heck, I'd be willing to volunteer for therapy sessions with Dr. Firestone and have it video taped with 10 cameras for all to see. It will show what is required of us to rise above our false negative identity or any hidden character defects that makes our lives so despairing and difficult. Unlike most people, I'm not afraid of my negative identity. What bothers me is that I'm still subjecting myself to its dictates because I can't find a psychotherapist as good as Dr. Firestone. Mind you, I've tamed my inner conflicts considerably but I do get bouts of low self esteem and insecurity as my false negative identity is all too happy to torment me about them. I realize what's going on so I just have to wait it out as I cry myself out of it. For a midlife man like me, I'm Ok with this but it never ends. And so, if voice therapy is the antidote to our false negative identity, I have yet to find a therapist who knows firsthand how to deal with it. As my friend's friend realized, there are to many therapists who don't know that they are doing.
J'ai dû atteindre l'âge de la vieillesse pour enfin trouver l' estime de moi-même...un travail de titan, émotionnel et sur l'histoire de ma vie. Cela vaut le coup. Lire Alice Miller m'a beaucoup aidée aussi à comprendre tout cela. Persévérez toujours...
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