Hi guys, I apologize for the lower quality of this video, but I wanted to share my thoughts on romantic relationships today with you. As always, thanks for watching and I hope you enjoy :)
I have found dating very difficult as an INFJ. The girls I've seen are more interested in what I have more than who I am. I want to get to know a person on a deeper level and be understood. I have yet to find a girl that can fill those voids, but your video gives me hope that there are some out there. Thanks. =)
I really enjoyed this video! You seem so likeable as a person. You have so many qualities I like. Your understanding of that people are different and come from different backgrounds, you're really respectful, your positivity, your genuinity, you're really honest to yourself and that way you can speak from your heart, you're very intelligent in the sense that you know how people/society work and I can tell you're very driven to improve on yourself and you don't just say really interesting things for the sake of only saying them. But the thing that impressed me the most about you is that you have made real connections with people. I think some INFJ's are very much like you. They have all these smart thoughts but they are too shy or too afraid to get in contact with people so they end up with all of the thoughts for themselves (me included). You however seem like you have gotten past that barricade. I'm working on this everyday and seeing that you have succeeded gives me a little extra boost :). (I don't know if this is something you have struggled with). Also all INFJ's are so cute for some reason, some cuteness they are aware of but for example when a thought or idea pop up in your head, you immediately look to the side to put the thought into words and as soon as you have done that you look into the camera and say what you came up with, it's so cute. Also, the eyes of INFJ's are always so beautiful, there's just something there, I think it has something to do with the genuinity/soul/innocence. I don't know how to explain it. Another thing that I thought was really nice is that you never said anything bad about your exes, even though the relationships didn't work out. That's another thing INFJ's have, they don't like talking bad about people and I love that quality. Thanks for taking your time making this video! (English is not my first language)
Thank you so much for the thoughtful comment! (I would never be able to tell English is not your first language) It always amazes me how other INFJs seem to pick up on little nuances in my videos and express them back to me so beautifully. Then again, it's the same nuances I pick up on when watching others too and those are the things I love about people most. Everything they are saying, but also the things they are not. I have made some genuine connections with others in the outer world, but it was a struggle for me to put myself out there at first. I had to get over the fear of rejection of being my true self. Once I did that, everything became a little easier. Some days it is still a struggle! It doesn't come naturally to me, I have to really push myself to go out and connect. But I've seen some amazing things happen once I do and that's what keeps me motivated to keep trying. No infj should have to feel the suffering of living a life completely alone. Your mind is too colorful and complex to not share with others who will take the time to listen and hopefully expand upon your world. Thanks for taking the time to watch and respond to this video! I appreciate all responses.
@@infjAJ "No INFJ should have to feel the suffering of living a life completely alone. Your mind is too colorful and complex to not share it with others...." Wow. Thank you so much for that compassion. Really appreciate that. 💜
You are such an insightful young woman! As an INFP woman looking to understand an INFJ man that I'm interested in, I greatly appreciate this video. Thank you 💝
I’m an ENFP - love the purple and really think you a deeply balanced and idealistic person. Your demeanor is quite knowledgeable and attractive. Thanks for your candor. You’re an old soul. You didn’t ramble!
Thanks for showing that there are others out there looking for the same things I am. Why'd you sell your equipment? I recently sold all mine to chase dreams across the country. It's tough out here for an INFJ. The video quality doesn't detract from the quality of your words and genuine thoughts. Glad I found your content. Seems a niche corner from which we observe the world. - Another soul working hard to understand
Thanks for this comment. Ironically enough, I sold my equipment to also fund some traveling I did last month and to pay off other bills. I can wholeheartedly say it was worth it. I wish you the best in your future travels, both of the world and soul.
ENTP here, The "alone time" is something I always referred to as "brooding time" for myself. They say ENTP's are the most introverted extraverts. So when I am in that brooding stage I am either reading, watching the news/documentaries, researching "whatever", listening to music while reflecting, or just sitting on the porch at midnight... thinking. I think it is a moment to refill my Ne and filter my Ti. Then grind out who I crossed the line with or didn't understand with Fe. But regardless, I need that time alone or maybe a more precise phrase would be, I need to not be disturbed while figuring things out. I also sympathise with your fondness for deep introspective and experimental conversations. I have been shooed out of coffee shops with gentle coughs and annoyed stares from many a barista because I was so busy chopping it up with a pal that I didn't notice them turning off lights and putting up chairs. Closing time a minimum of 30 minutes ago. 😏 ☕ Someone has to be a Bohemian conversationalist to enjoy the esoteric delicacies that are my dialogues. These kindred spirits are hard to find, but always worth the effort.🕵️😊
Absolutely hard to find, but even harder to let go once we find them! I haven't found myself getting shooed out of any coffee shops...yet, but I can easily see this happening with ENxPs and myself should we find ourselves in one at night. Although, my Fe might kick in and make me feel anxious mid conversation that we're being rude to the wait staff and that would then lead us to wandering the streets or park for another several hours haha.
@@infjAJ "Even harder to let go." Reminds me of an INTJ I knew back in college. He got into a PhD program out in Boston I think and I remember hanging out with him two days before he left and telling him I was going to miss him. I recall how shocked I was by how emotional I felt about this. Some guys have drinking buddies, for me he was an arm chair philosophy buddy. The first friend I made who could keep up the "Mental Duel' and enjoy the art of it. Lost a lot of good friends who were intuitive's in college. 😔 But the connections and discussions were worth it. 😃 LoL, you might be the bane of baristas yet, there's still time ⏳. If not, there is nothing quite like walking the talk at night, when your conversations are racing against the dawn. Yet the flow of words seem etheral and calm. When laughter echoes out to hide in the leaves of sleeping trees, and vast parks feel like they were built for two. I am all growls in the morning. At night I feel refreshed and alert. Thinking with Mercury. Plus the half a dozen coffees are probably kicking in. 😝
@Francesca C Ok this is going to sound like Ne-Ti going off the train tracks, but if you would pardon both my madness and insatiable curiosity for a moment. Francesca, did your inspiration to make your recent ENTP Coffee video get sparked because you saw my comment here about drinking half a dozen cups of coffee? I know how crazy this line of speculation sounds, but please indulge my inquiry.
Wow, that ENTP dude sounds quite incredible. Love your take on relationships Btdubzz. All I want is for people to recognize what a healthy relationship looks like to bring peace to the world and you’ve got a good head on your shoulders. Good on ya, mate ;)
Thank you so much for taking the time and effort to lay your thoughts out for people. I understand myself just a bit more after listening to your explanation in this video. I agree with everything whole -heartedly and I wish I could just enjoy things and not think too hard but I end up worrying about hurting others or how things could go terribly wrong especially if the circumstances leave me as being misunderstood or alone in any sense. I'm really not a paranoid person when I'm alone so that's why I'm taking time by myself and not committing to anything even slightly unless I know someone very well and hang out with them often. Again, thank you for making this video and keeping it up on youtube.
Get to know us on a deeper level. Yes definitely. But what I've found to be very important personally is actually open communication & trust. The video could really speak truth to me. Moved me even regarding my heart. Oh yes, growth!! Thanks. ^^
Foresight and deep [typically accurate] sensing. I experience these qualities quite frequently. I literally am at times compelled to write, read and "listen" when these prompts arrive. A partner that would choose to understand or has similar sensing and pronounced intuitive qualities * gifts would be [I imagine] a true compliment. Also, he must be grounded. He's got to tell it to me straight. . .💗
Late night insights about the 4th dimensional plane of cognition and no one to discuss it with... 😔😧 videos like these help alittle though knowing I'm not alone haha
Love the colour of your video, allows your aura to be seen better. Your content is inspiring but your own energy seems a bit vulnerable. There is a method where you can protect yourself with a minimum of effort. . . . meaning would you like to know the method? If you would then check out my videos, I have 1 on protecting yourself, 1 on the truth of the dark side and some on the empathy abilities (Emotional, Cognitive and Physical).
I have found dating very difficult as an INFJ. The girls I've seen are more interested in what I have more than who I am. I want to get to know a person on a deeper level and be understood. I have yet to find a girl that can fill those voids, but your video gives me hope that there are some out there. Thanks. =)
Its no better for ENFPs
I really enjoyed this video!
You seem so likeable as a person. You have so many qualities I like. Your understanding of that people are different and come from different backgrounds, you're really respectful, your positivity, your genuinity, you're really honest to yourself and that way you can speak from your heart, you're very intelligent in the sense that you know how people/society work and I can tell you're very driven to improve on yourself and you don't just say really interesting things for the sake of only saying them.
But the thing that impressed me the most about you is that you have made real connections with people. I think some INFJ's are very much like you. They have all these smart thoughts but they are too shy or too afraid to get in contact with people so they end up with all of the thoughts for themselves (me included). You however seem like you have gotten past that barricade. I'm working on this everyday and seeing that you have succeeded gives me a little extra boost :). (I don't know if this is something you have struggled with).
Also all INFJ's are so cute for some reason, some cuteness they are aware of but for example when a thought or idea pop up in your head, you immediately look to the side to put the thought into words and as soon as you have done that you look into the camera and say what you came up with, it's so cute. Also, the eyes of INFJ's are always so beautiful, there's just something there, I think it has something to do with the genuinity/soul/innocence. I don't know how to explain it.
Another thing that I thought was really nice is that you never said anything bad about your exes, even though the relationships didn't work out. That's another thing INFJ's have, they don't like talking bad about people and I love that quality.
Thanks for taking your time making this video!
(English is not my first language)
Thank you so much for the thoughtful comment! (I would never be able to tell English is not your first language) It always amazes me how other INFJs seem to pick up on little nuances in my videos and express them back to me so beautifully. Then again, it's the same nuances I pick up on when watching others too and those are the things I love about people most. Everything they are saying, but also the things they are not.
I have made some genuine connections with others in the outer world, but it was a struggle for me to put myself out there at first. I had to get over the fear of rejection of being my true self. Once I did that, everything became a little easier. Some days it is still a struggle! It doesn't come naturally to me, I have to really push myself to go out and connect. But I've seen some amazing things happen once I do and that's what keeps me motivated to keep trying. No infj should have to feel the suffering of living a life completely alone. Your mind is too colorful and complex to not share with others who will take the time to listen and hopefully expand upon your world.
Thanks for taking the time to watch and respond to this video! I appreciate all responses.
@@infjAJ "No INFJ should have to feel the suffering of living a life completely alone. Your mind is too colorful and complex to not share it with others...."
Wow. Thank you so much for that compassion.
Really appreciate that. 💜
You are such an insightful young woman! As an INFP woman looking to understand an INFJ man that I'm interested in, I greatly appreciate this video. Thank you 💝
Thank you very much ✨❤️
I'm 43 today and I have finally understand what it means to be an INFJ and what I expect from a partner. Thank you for explaining it in this video
I’m an ENFP - love the purple and really think you a deeply balanced and idealistic person. Your demeanor is quite knowledgeable and attractive. Thanks for your candor. You’re an old soul. You didn’t ramble!
Are all INFJs pink?
Thanks for showing that there are others out there looking for the same things I am. Why'd you sell your equipment? I recently sold all mine to chase dreams across the country. It's tough out here for an INFJ. The video quality doesn't detract from the quality of your words and genuine thoughts. Glad I found your content. Seems a niche corner from which we observe the world.
- Another soul working hard to understand
Thanks for this comment. Ironically enough, I sold my equipment to also fund some traveling I did last month and to pay off other bills. I can wholeheartedly say it was worth it. I wish you the best in your future travels, both of the world and soul.
ENTP here,
The "alone time" is something I always referred to as "brooding time" for myself. They say ENTP's are the most introverted extraverts. So when I am in that brooding stage I am either reading, watching the news/documentaries, researching "whatever", listening to music while reflecting, or just sitting on the porch at midnight... thinking.
I think it is a moment to refill my Ne and filter my Ti. Then grind out who I crossed the line with or didn't understand with Fe.
But regardless, I need that time alone or maybe a more precise phrase would be, I need to not be disturbed while figuring things out.
I also sympathise with your fondness for deep introspective and experimental conversations. I have been shooed out of coffee shops with gentle coughs and annoyed stares from many a barista because I was so busy chopping it up with a pal that I didn't notice them turning off lights and putting up chairs. Closing time a minimum of 30 minutes ago. 😏 ☕
Someone has to be a Bohemian conversationalist to enjoy the esoteric delicacies that are my dialogues. These kindred spirits are hard to find, but always worth the effort.🕵️😊
Absolutely hard to find, but even harder to let go once we find them! I haven't found myself getting shooed out of any coffee shops...yet, but I can easily see this happening with ENxPs and myself should we find ourselves in one at night. Although, my Fe might kick in and make me feel anxious mid conversation that we're being rude to the wait staff and that would then lead us to wandering the streets or park for another several hours haha.
@@infjAJ
"Even harder to let go." Reminds me of an INTJ I knew back in college. He got into a PhD program out in Boston I think and I remember hanging out with him two days before he left and telling him I was going to miss him. I recall how shocked I was by how emotional I felt about this. Some guys have drinking buddies, for me he was an arm chair philosophy buddy. The first friend I made who could keep up the "Mental Duel' and enjoy the art of it.
Lost a lot of good friends who were intuitive's in college. 😔
But the connections and discussions were worth it. 😃
LoL, you might be the bane of baristas yet, there's still time ⏳. If not, there is nothing quite like walking the talk at night, when your conversations are racing against the dawn. Yet the flow of words seem etheral and calm. When laughter echoes out to hide in the leaves of sleeping trees, and vast parks feel like they were built for two.
I am all growls in the morning. At night I feel refreshed and alert. Thinking with Mercury. Plus the half a dozen coffees are probably kicking in. 😝
@@infjAJ
How I thematically envision my "Mental Duels" czcams.com/video/X3gfFVmw0kA/video.html
@Francesca C
Indeed, what can I say, I'm a sucker for a woman with a pretty idea and a great pair of conversations.🤠
@Francesca C
Ok this is going to sound like Ne-Ti going off the train tracks, but if you would pardon both my madness and insatiable curiosity for a moment.
Francesca, did your inspiration to make your recent ENTP Coffee video get sparked because you saw my comment here about drinking half a dozen cups of coffee?
I know how crazy this line of speculation sounds, but please indulge my inquiry.
Wow, that ENTP dude sounds quite incredible. Love your take on relationships Btdubzz. All I want is for people to recognize what a healthy relationship looks like to bring peace to the world and you’ve got a good head on your shoulders. Good on ya, mate ;)
Thank you so much for taking the time and effort to lay your thoughts out for people. I understand myself just a bit more after listening to your explanation in this video. I agree with everything whole -heartedly and I wish I could just enjoy things and not think too hard but I end up worrying about hurting others or how things could go terribly wrong especially if the circumstances leave me as being misunderstood or alone in any sense. I'm really not a paranoid person when I'm alone so that's why I'm taking time by myself and not committing to anything even slightly unless I know someone very well and hang out with them often. Again, thank you for making this video and keeping it up on youtube.
❤❤❤
Get to know us on a deeper level.
Yes definitely.
But what I've found to be very important personally is actually open communication & trust.
The video could really speak truth to me.
Moved me even regarding my heart. Oh yes, growth!!
Thanks. ^^
Foresight and deep [typically accurate] sensing. I experience these qualities quite frequently. I literally am at times compelled to write, read and "listen" when these prompts arrive. A partner that would choose to understand or has similar sensing and pronounced intuitive qualities * gifts would be [I imagine] a true compliment. Also, he must be grounded. He's got to tell it to me straight. . .💗
To real INFJ your body language says it all.
Late night insights about the 4th dimensional plane of cognition and no one to discuss it with... 😔😧 videos like these help alittle though knowing I'm not alone haha
Definitely not alone!
This is so frickin' good! Think this is the only one I didn't see of yours yet. I relate to so much. And yes, you are a 4w5! :D
Good video ♥️
Thanks love🙏💕👑💯
Love the colour of your video, allows your aura to be seen better.
Your content is inspiring but your own energy seems a bit vulnerable.
There is a method where you can protect yourself with a minimum of effort. . . . meaning would you like to know the method? If you would then check out my videos, I have 1 on protecting yourself, 1 on the truth of the dark side and some on the empathy abilities (Emotional, Cognitive and Physical).
Oh thanks!
Will watch some videos about that and others as well. (Infj)
Do you know which enneagram you have?
What's your enneagram type? You seem like a type 5
I've taken the test multiple times and it's hard to settle on one. I believe I am either a 4w5 or 9w1 :)
@@infjAJ Yes, one of those for sure. 5w4 could apply too! :D