I love this! As a subby myself, I offer advice from my own experience. Women don't like submissive men who don't like themselves. Whatever kind of sub you are, OWN YOUR SUBMISSIVENESS. Embracing what you enjoy not only makes your individual life journey more enjoyable, but people you meet will see that, feel that! Own your "thing" in order to find your thing! Self loathing is not attractive in ANY scenario. Love yourself and your lifestyle 💖
very true. I think self-respect is the basis of any working relationship. There might be people who can enjoy humiliation an still respect themselves - while this is never going to be my thing, I respect it if it works for others.... but on a side note. If people perceive femininity and feminization as humiliating then they are sexists and need to get some things right...
Why are you guys so confusing lol. Just make it clear. Submissive or dominant or both to an extent!! "Women don't like submissive men who don't like themselves. Whatever kind of sub you are.OWN YOUR SUBMISSIVENESS" what does that even mean !?
Do you realise that there are certain kinks that are stigmatised or ostracised, including completely common and tame ones, such as foot fetishism? There are people out there that actually want to hurt others on the basis of their sexual interests alone. It‘s kind of hard to feel safe in your own skin when you‘re in a situation like that, which is obviously out of your control. Please reconsider what you‘re preaching because this honestly looks like victim blaming. If someone isn‘t being 100% honest with you or shy, maybe just maybe, there is a reason for that. They may have went through something traumatic. They might have a hard time trusting anyone at all. Again, maybe there is a reason behind that. It is so easy to critise and ostracise others instead pf empathising and thinking.
I don't know how I got here, but I enjoyed this video. From someone who isn't into this stuff I don't mind a chick taking charge in a relationship as long as she's respectful and we enjoy each other's company. I don't care or even think about being dominant or submissive, I just look for balance and the situation has to make sense.
A sort of off topic question, but Mistress alla have you noticed a trend/majority where submissive women tend to be more overweight and unattractive. This is an imo situation but nevertheless on common beauty standards most ppl would agree. So a lower rating on the x/10 scale for sub women compared to the avg women and especially compared to dominant woman. Or is it just me, I just noticed this over the years. Not sure why... but for me thats one potential turn off/non motivating factor for a man to be a dom in the real life/bdsm tbh...@@alla_mephistopheles
like it got to the point where i would see the same trend and i would theorize that certain women on the lower smv scale(out of 10) would cope or higher their smv by being subs even if they arent subs. Since a female sub will do a lot more in the bedroom than a vanilla girl so it makes sense in terms of advertising/a pick me girl vibe for some to be female subs. Again not all, but more than 50% i would say might be in the category... @@alla_mephistopheles
I have standards for how I'd like to be treated. Any time I've reached out to a dominant woman, it seemed like she would demand money or expect me to be okay with being treated like a doormat and just agree with whatever she wants. I'm naturally submissive but enjoy being dominant in bed too. In a vanilla situation, I enjoy meeting, chatting, building rapport, flirting, dating, and taking charge during intimacy with a woman. There is so much mental, physical, and emotional confidence you have to build just to be able to do that well. Knowing that, I have never felt an ounce of that effort in the interactions I've had with a dominant woman...I mostly just get red flags of someone who might be manipulating, controlling, and only looking out for themself. Some guys are cool with that, but for me, that's simply below the standard for healthy interaction. To my preferences, dominance requires initiation and leadership, socially and physically. So, as I've been rejected by vanilla women plenty in the past for foolishness or insensitivity (not meeting standards in behavior) which I've had to learn from, it simply makes sense when a dominant woman comes off as insensitive, only thinking of her needs, or doesn't meet my standards that I refuse to place her over me. There's no trust built when it comes to the one who will have more power, and the one who wants that must be the one building it. And honestly, very few seem like they make for what I want in a healthy relationship...so I'll just be the dominant one and enjoy vanilla. Over time, femdom just grew to become an unnecessary can of worms.
I like submissive men, I'm very dominant in life and in bedroom - however I think there is a misconception about what submissiveness is. My ex said he was submissive but it was all about him and his humiliation fetish. He told me how to dominate him all the time. He wanted to be feminized and humiliated. The fact that I was a woman holding the key to his chastity cage was nothing more than an ultimate sensation of humiliation. The fact that this worked for him had me feel very weak and not great at all. He asked me if I could introduce the rule that he musn't touch me and he wanted me to call his penis a clit. This was when I endet this. In my current relationship things are a littel bit different. He does wear a chastity belt and whatever I say or want is his law - in life or in the bedroom. This time however it is all about me. And I want a man who thinks about himself as the best of all men - because otherwise I wouldn't have chosen him. I don't want him to think about himself as repulsive but as attractive. I am his queen, so why would I choose a pathetic individual? I don't want him to stop thinking and make no decissions at all. I want him to use all his mental energy to make the best possible decissions for me. Having him under lock and key means that I get to decide when he uses his penis but we don't make this game about his penis. the chastity game doesn't revolve around him. It revolves around me. If I want him to have sex with me three nights in a row, so be it, if I don't want it for a month, that's what's going to happen. I don't use it as a means of punishment and reward. Why would I?
omg teach mee 🩷 the first guy sounds like a cuck, that's something so misogynistic about those types, but I can't put my finger on it the part where your new guy feels like the most attractive man on earth because you decide to touch him is👌 like, I don't want to make my sub feel like shit, that's not even dominant only low dominance people try to make somebody feel worse in order for them to feel better. I don't need to prove anything lol
"why would I choose a pathetic individual" exactly that would reflect on me and, mean that I'm pathetic also, no thanks 😅thanks for clearing that up for me also that means that Actually truly submissive men are top tier, at least for me - they have a strong mind not to be swayed by society's SEVERE brainwashing to think they need to be an alfa male, they know what they want and are not scared to admit it to somebody which means they are highly intelligent and can think for themselves, they are not misogynistic after all, the first guy sounds just like an individual who has watched too much corn, and got bored of the vanilla stuff, not a submissive guy
you are so right, one thing i have also noticed when speaking with dominant women is that most ask first what is your practice and things you like. I have always answered, no I don't demand anything I don't ask anything the only thing that really makes me feel good is knowing that I was able to be useful and my greatest satisfaction is after having done my better that she say thank you for having relieved me, allowing me to escape from everyday life. I assure you that it is an inexplicable happiness to hear that and I wish you all ❤
Women want interesting men, dominant or submissive. It's entirely possible to be boring as either. All too often, men who call themselves submissive are simply passive and boring, and aren't even really submissive to begin with. And like any good story, it's the conflict that makes something interesting, and that ends after the submission happens. It's the process of that submission that makes things interesting.
no, you're only partially right it's not only the process, he can just be submissive in bed all the time, let's say in a long term relationship, if that's how he is/what he likes but you're right, it does have to be interesting, I guess he does have to have other parts of his personality that are less submissive, maybe an edgy sense of humor or ambitions in his job etc but that's just normal, everybody likes a multifaceted people
In my experience women (who are not "crazy") want to like submissive men, but when it comes down to reality they usually prefer non-submissives. There are some women who like submissive men, but after years of searching they are mostly "scammers" or people who take heavy atvantage of their submissives to the point where is is not a realistic relationship (use all their money and dump them when bank account is empty).
I think most people who have a healthy relationship with s3x can enjoy both being submissive and dominant. Most will probably still have a preference. But if they are only able to enjoy 1, then it's probably caused by some sort of trauma.
New worshipper here, I've had a couple questions that I've been struggling to put words to being an autist myself, then I see this moment after it shows and felt I had to at least say something.
I love this video so much! Being proudly submissive as a man is a great feeling. I have never felt weak compared to other men. A lot of men wish they could be submissive, but choose to pretend in shame. Being able to be delicate, gentle, and weak for women is a well needed relief from every other aspect of life where we have to be tough all the time.
I don’t understand what world these men are in. I absolutely love submissive men. Especially the shy type. A side note to that is submissive men are far from weak. They understand who they are at their core and accept that, it takes guts. Unlike majority of men that can’t fathom someone else seeing them not being the alpha macho masculine man. They’re the weak ones considering they don’t have the balls to be true to who they are and can’t handle criticism from others..They care way to much about how people perceive them.
@Max Tax Feminine in the way of acting like a whiny bitch yes…(not in the fun way either) Lol one day we’ll both find real ones! 🙄🤦♀️ PS: If you come to America, find me. 😂
I totally agree, this world needs more submissive men openly express themselves first, not asking women to show their dominance…as a good slave or submissive man, we should understand we need to be responsible to express ourselves and take the risk to wake up the sub men and dom women. Sub men should take the risk to provide a safety spot to allow more dom women to surface. Good submissive should not hide their, a good slave just like knights should stand out and speak out to let the world know there are a lot of submissive men who love dom women and who wants to serve them, then more and more dom women would be realize themselves and be bold enough to stand out as well. Most of people still have a stereotype put men to be dom in default, we should entirely break this stereotype, it requires a lot of submissive men to stand out. In addition, we always consider submissive men as shy, pathetic, weak, cowardly. We also are afraid to be mark as these, so a lot of submissive men hide behind. But sub is only a sexual preference, even an entire submissive, it’s just a life choice, freedom.. submissive means submissive to your dom, or widely to dom women even all women. not the whole world. A good slave should understand this deeply.
It is just all about respecting our values and preferences, even if he was a submissive. Just sharing to you that even though I see my husbands as alphas, they love to serve me and please me out of love. It is because they know how to listen and accept our preferences too. They do help me in household chores, cleaning, cooking and baking (everyone luvs food 😆), washing dishes and clothes… But I would like to share something that relates to what you said in the video. I do have one submissive man, and you were right that some “dominant” men wanted to be p3gged in the bedroom. I witnessed that when my husband (whom we always depend on, the head of the fam) requested and wanted to be p3gged by our sub man. I really don’t mind because I wanted them to have the freedom of sexual expression that I also consent in our marriage. It really doesn’t mean it is degrading to a man. I mean, they provide, protect, and take care of me. I do not mind what they can do to please a woman and let her be happy, satisfied, and consensual. I mean, they are my husbands after all. It is just all sexual freedom and consent, except that we still follow the laws of God and we really do not like this so called ‘sexual revolution’ that is prevalent these days. We are always honest with each other with an open heart and mind through communication. Love has no limits, but lust or s3x has limits. Thank you for your message, God bless and take care Ms. Alla! 💚💚💚
That's so interesting. Y'all sound like y'all have a really healthy polyamorous marriage. I'd be fascinated to learn more about how the dynamics work in your relationship. How long has it been this way? Were you married to one man first and then eventually opened up to this idea? Or was it always this way? Do you have children, and if so are they from all your husband's, or is only one allowed to get you pregnant? Curious minds want to know.
I'm completelty new to this whole dom/sub setup. I hear from you that a successful submissive man is really the dominant one. He is just good at hiding his dominance. My wife and I have this dynamic where she is dominanting in bed but we both feel and know it's really me who is letting her do that and controlling the dynamics of the situation. She enjoys this very very much. I don't think she would enjoy me turning into a spineless jellyfish. That would probably kill the kink. Whats your take on this? Are good sub men really hidden dom?
I'd argue the reverse. A good 'dominant' man is really a submissive one internally. Providing for a woman, protecting her, pleasuring her makes you submissive to her in one sense.
I LOVE this video. As a very feminine but sexually dominant woman, when I'm looking for a man, I'm looking for a champion, knight and a protector or my realm (this is why my picture is The Accolade, I LOVE this painting so much and what it says about feminine power). I'm not looking for a lowly servant who gets off on being emasculated, humiliated and abused. I want an honourable, chivalric knight who knows who he is, has ambitions and hobbies and interests, is confident, and just wants to treat me like a queen. "Alpha in the streets, sub in the sheets" is a good way of looking at it only sheets extends to the entire feminine Inner realm wherein the home & hearth is the true spiritual center of society making the wife a Matriarch, Priestess, etc. He is the King and the leader when we're out and about in the world, but in the home and hearth, the feminine domain, I'm his Queen who he defers to. The way submission is perceived by men and women is absolutely different, too. Most women don't have the same kinks and paraphilias as men, even sexually dominant women. A lot of the stuff the sexually submissive men are in to is honestly scary and most women don't want to indulge in it. Not talking about pegging or spanking or bondage but I mean downright twisted and sadistic on an extreme level. I don't really have many kinks, I'm in to I guess what you'd call 'soft domme', but for me it's just about being the one in control and having a man care about my pleasure instead of using my body as a tool to get off. I don't know how to express that that's what I'm after because if I say I want a submissive man, masculine men assume I'm some sort of girlboss who wants to be the breadwinner and that's not true, and submissive men assume that means I'll want to crush their balls with a vice or something and I don't. I feel like there's probably more women out there like that who want the same things as me but we don't really have the language to describe that.
Great comment. I really enjoyed reading it, especially because (along with the video - I liked it too) it made me realise a small but very important thing - that being submissive (sorry, but I hate that word!) is one of the main points of savoir vivre and actually a huge part of our history.... But what I don't understand is how views on this have changed so drastically, how did these 'alpha' males even come about? ... But less so. I was reading a book on good manners recently and it clearly says, for example: when it's raining and the umbrella is too small for both the man and the woman at the same time - the man has to be wet to take care of the woman and leave her dry; sometimes women have to reject a suitor with a cold stare and then - ignore him. If I were an 'alpha' and didn't know this was savoir vivre, I'd say it's at least strange, if not perverse... Or such examples in history - the queen of ancient Israel had more power than the king, even though it was the king who provided security in the kingdom and commanded armies. In many pagan religions, women were very often given sole responsibility for rituals (e.g. Slavic pagans). Also, it may be strange, but I felt a kind of catharsis after reading your comment and you have influenced my views on what kind of women I look for, so thank you
@@rdest3676 It's such a weird coincidence that you just replied to this comment, because I was thinking about this very thing again today. You're right. So much of 'chivalry' and what we often understand to be traditionally masculine behaviors are often IN SERVICE of women, not dominating them. Men used to stand when women entered rooms. I'm not saying traditional gender roles were perfect, far from it, but the idea that 'traditional masculinity' is and always has been about dominating women and serving yourself because serving a woman is effeminate 'simping' is historical revisionism. Heck, look at courtly love, which was highly idealised. The Virgin & the Dynamo. Goethe's Eternal Feminine. There's this pervasive idea that pops up even in deeply patriarchal cultures that states very clearly that the feminine should be central to a gentleman's life- serving her, loving her, protecting her, providing for her, and in return, she serves him, loves him, gives him children, inspires him. The idea that 'the masculine leads and the feminine submits' is only true when you're viewing the same dynamics through a patriarchal lense. I follow the maxim "Lead with the feminine, execute with the masculine". The feminine chooses the destination, the masculine drives them there. And re: Slavic paganism, yes, I am a Celticist and the same theme comes up there. In many of the Celtic myths and then also in Arthuriana, it's clear women hold more power in the spiritual realms, & men typically need to impress and please them to hold any power on earth. the Sovereignty Goddess in the aspect of the Queen chooses and weds the King- and it doesn't take a genius to figure out a Goddess holds more spiritual power than a mortal king. I loved your comment & you sound like a wonderful, terrific Gentleman. I hope you find your Lady!
@@erinrhianne I just can't disagree, especially with your maxim, which, at least for me, complements the fact that many women leaders in history have been very good at their jobs, such as (my favourite) Bona, Queen of the Polish-Lithuanian Commonwealth in her golden age. I'd love to discuss this more with you, even on other social media platforms, but the more I read your comments, the more I feel a bit too young and incompetent;) Thank you very much:). You seem like a very smart and well-read woman. I will certainly remember you warmly one day. I wish you to find the man of your dreams!
I can't imagine how I can be a submissive and not being needy at same time. It's like asking once a month, "Hi Ma'am, is there anything I can do for You? No? Ok I'm on my way just to grind money for You then." or "Hi Mistress! Can we chat about something? No? Do I look too needy for You? Well I'll continue to stay just an ATM then. Have a nice day!" I mean there is no joy when there is no feedback at all.
Hello Alla Mephistopheles, I always enjoy listening to your videos with all your wisdom and kindness. I have made many of the mistakes and criticisms you talk about .. I have made those mistakes years ago and learned from experience (by rejection, and getting negative feedback from Doms ) .. it is very nice for you to take the time to educate the men (and women) who have not learned yet these important lessons you teach .. First, that the sexual exploration each person can have in their life is a good thing and there is nothing wrong with our bodies and our fantacies, quirks, kinks .. Second, that because these 'kinks' are really very natural, and that all or most people have desires, and sexual wishes, and dreams that are simply more progressive than the way life is presented on the television .. What I'm trying to say is that times are changing and that sexual liberation, and exploration is a good thing, and (most of all) You Alla are helping so many people in so many ways PLUS it brightens my days and nights every time I hear you .. As I've said before; I am quite poor financially so I don't have spare coins to help you out (I'll someday save some money to send you for maybe you could buy your puppy a special pkg. of gourmet dog food for some holiday sometime..so cute.) but I want to give you something to express my gratitude so I write the comments (I have a little mental illness from using too many. drugs when I was a youth so sometimes my comments are a bit off the wall and I do apologize for that) .. comments to say You are wonderful and I am sooo glad You are alive, strong, well, and happy (and your little dog too) .. I never would stalk You, I have no desire to direct message You, it's just enough that you care about the world and humanity that You take the time and effort to make these videos that (I'm going to get flowery) bring. a little bit of heaven into my crazy mixed up world .. My life is not easy but You make it brighter and better and I just want to say THANK YOU.
I have often had the impression that many women would actually like to have both types of men. An Alpha, who they go out with, have fun with, fuck, have a love life with. Then a submissive guy, a servant who stays at home, takes care of his Mistress. A sort of neutered guy who would be her confidant. I know women who have thrived on being with both of these men at the same time.
İ want a submissive guy to have a love life and fuck with.😕 An strong smart yet sweet guy, who would submit ONLY to me with pleasure. And im really so unattracted to nonchalant men having dominance over me.
Meh. There's absolutely no reason you can't go out with, have fun with, have a love life with, and fuck a submissive guy. Most women are monogamous. We don't want a neutered servant. We want one well-rounded man.
You have such a deep understanding of this. I have never come across a domme like you. It's so refreshing. I just very recently found your channel. All I have seen has been topnotch content. Keep it up.
What makes you superior to me is not just your undeniable beauty but your clear intellectual superiority to me. I am able to find fulfillment in surrendering to a true Goddess like you & enjoying a physical & emotional journey that I have yearned for & thought might not be possible. Thank You Goddess.
This kinda thing pisses me off bc I’m a big sub and sometimes feel women are superior then the average man but I have never found a woman who comes close to my intelligent so it’s kinda hard to submit and trust them with things I know i can just do better
@@potatofries6366 be humble and you might find yourself around more women and get to know some who meet your intelligence criteria. Arrogance is a major turn off, if you are a sub you should have basic respect for everyone even if you deem some as less intelligent then you.
@@MyDuckSaysFucc No i for sure do i’m a big believer in “No one is better that anyone else” i preach it all the time as well when people talk about someone being “out of their league” if pisses me off. I don’t have a problem with pulling women bro💀. The thing is It’s just true sadly, despite it sounding egotistical there’s no other way to put it without short selling myself.
I think you are right ... there is a woman I like on instagram, she is very good at pole dancing and she is a very strong and confident woman, I have written to her many times but she doesn't want to answer me anymore, she says "I have to become a man "...😥 this thing makes me suffer a lot, however I think I'm not too suitable to serve her, because she pushes me to make a sudden change that I don't want to make, I admit to be a very slowly male to do anything but this does not mean i can't submit to a woman, I only would do it in a more traditional way....😓
One of my biggest hurdles in accepting the superiority of women as a gender though is that I was lucky enough to be born with an IQ that's high enough to be pretty rare, so I've always been able to learn and solve problems etc faster than anyone around me, male or female, so a logical perspective makes it hard to see myself as and inferior needing to be controlled, so my deeply submissive nature has been hard to understand. Finding you though, and as intelligent and insightful that you are, praying to you has come naturally. And here is where I'm getting scared to say more lol.
@Say no to drugs Except for the lack of any behavior that makes my started behavior a lie. I'm trying to express a conflict between what logic tells me should be true and what my feelings pull me to. That's not hypocrisy. I've got plenty enough to criticize about myself to deal with already.
The last woman I dated had a 165 IQ, mine is ~140 we both have experienced that. Its not about IQ it's about pleasing your partner and the level of control you need in different area's of your life. I'm in a fairly high up position, I'm not at all submissive in my "normal" life. I'm done making decisions when I try to relax, I don't want to have to guess things. I want a partner to tell me what they want. It gives me a break from decision making.
@@alla_mephistopheles i do these things miss,i just want to tell men that they are supposed to conquer,win and do hardwork but they are focused on woman so that they can listen to them in bed , isn't that funny? Any man who is submissive (except gay) is weak and loser in his life
Two main things to tell you. One is thank you so much. This video was so eye opening and I did have the opinions that you spoke of and to hear the yog guys like it is so wonderful to hear. I was beginning to think everything had turned A.I. and the just digitalized the sheep held together in their politically correct social pens. And feared there were no more brave enough to enjoy their power and glory. And the other thing I wanted to say was I know what you're going through. I had a stalker myself that changed me into the person who just wanted to tell you this. IF THEY KEEP WRITING TO YOU AND IT IS Bothering YOU LET ME KNOW. I CAN HELP YOU HANDLE THIS PROBLEM AND IF YOU DONT WANT MY HELP AND I AM ONE OF THE ONES Your Complaining ABOUT PLEASE TELL ME ALSO I THINK THIS IS MY FIRST TIME Communicating WITH YOU. But I have little mental stuff and can push buttons. But I respect you and don't know you so I will be able to believe you words without being able to be at peace with that. I got taken to the dark side a few times and I hope me just saying this will be caught by the people who are not putting much faith in themselves if they are past trying to be honest with themselves and say, if this were happening to you, how would you feel about it. And do you think that yiu are crossing the line with whatever you just did.. I agree nobody can tell you what you must think and as long as she doesn't need to hear about it if you do get your rocks off looking at her. Then I don't think you can do anything about it. And I had a guy one time say he looks at a picture of me and gets joy out of looking at it if you can get what I really mean. But I could see that it was only in his head and big deal I am not that small minded I would judge her or you badly. But if I had been bad I may appear that way but I am only now starting to . Forgive me I am too stoned to know what I am talking about now. So I am going to shut my eyes for a minute
You might find this interesting. I just finished Joseph Conrad's "Under Western Eyes," his sort of tribute to Dostoyevski. It follows a Raskolnikov-type character who ends up in a group of Russian expatriate "revolutionists" in Geneva, where... multilayered story ensues. Anyway, the expatriates are largely organized by a powerful man who is a fervent evangelist for Female Supremacy, always extolling the virtue of the Feminine mind and spirit etc. He's just a supporting character, but the novel ends with him: the narrator is learning the fate of all the revolutionists, and when he asks about this Peter Ivanovich, he learns that Peter Ivanovich has married a peasant girl. The narrator is stunned that he's given up his revolutionary fervor. The "woman revolutionist" who's telling him all this says, "He just simply adores her." The narrator replies, "Does he? Then I hope that she won't hesitate to beat him." The woman doesn't comment, gets up to go, pauses and says in a firm voice, "Peter Ivanovich is an inspired man." And that's the end of the book. Naturally, "Under Western Eyes" is about far, far more than Femdom - but I was struck by that ending, and I thought you might be too.
I like you advice, both men and women should be more honest to each other Women should think that ((it is not only about money)) as if you think only about money…you are convincing the man that they pay something with there money. And men, should not think only about sex and sexual desire …. They should show there real human personality
but important question are YOU currently head over heels in love with a submissive man Yes or No? Also, i believe a lot of women Like submissive men with a ''WALLET'' i hope to see someday a dominant woman, dating a submissive poor man. I really do honestly, because honestly, finding a dominant woman is really hard. At least one who does not ask for money.
From watching some of her videos, i don't think she is capable of loving a man. She doesnt seem to like men very much. I think she mostly uses submissive men for money and for her income.
money is a factor in every male female relationship, the only question is how much of a factor is it. its normal biology although there are exceptions, but usually a woman COMPLETELY financially taking care of a man long term is rare (sugar mommy stuff).@@alla_mephistopheles
Im an adult who can do my own decisions and take care of myself but want a (mildly) sexually dominant woman. Ive dated many sub women but it dont work... I do feel like most women dont like it cus they what to feel small and powerless compared to my strenght. Yet i want to be overwhelmed with the femininity and be seduced into being hers. But these are both same but just a little bit of a different dance.
I am submissive, but honestly on my experience on meeting some ladies, searching on twitter…ect The main reason for 98% of ladies looking to submissive ..is only ((money)) Very rarely to find ((honest lady who really like a submissive man)) . But yes i think it’s because ladies have there own stereotype looking for
@@alla_mephistopheles To be honest ….you convinced soo much. I think i was trying to convince myself that ladies on twitter for the same reason we (men/ or me at least) go to twitter for. Which is (to find a honest people who have the same interest we have -but we feel a but embarrassed to confess these interests in our real life to avoid judgmental people-) Thank you for your reply…and for all your amazing videos.🌹🌹 You soo special, thank you🙏🏼🙏🏼🌹🌹
They dont seem to realize that making money and providing for a woman itself is a form of submission(or dominance if you take the perspective that a man uses money to influence the woman to his will, but in all cases typically based on biology the man financially provides, and in modern times thats at least half the household income ideally). But even if the woman is the breadwinner how can a sub actually express his submissiveness and be broke. I mean part of submission is to provide, put aside the sex work stuff. In a basic dynamic any man, maybe especially a sub man in particular has to bring financial goods to the table. Not all submission is face to face its also what a sub is doing when he isnt with his female dom(ie gathering power to share with her, money is a form of power/energy). So how can that major ingredient(wealth) that subs need to have not be found in a true sub? I dunno seems like something is off with guys that expect to have a female dom while not having their stuff together financially. On the other hand doms who use subs only like a wallet to me are vampires/parasitic/materialistic/modern brainwashed hedonists who are spiritually stunted plus non-aware...@@alla_mephistopheles
I can tell she's not originally from the US, by her word choices and how she pronounces her words. Is she from from a European country? She's attractive though, with nice skin.
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I think people are confusing submissive with weak. That is the furthest thing from the truth. Submissive: Ready to conform to the authority or will of others; meekly obedient or passive. There is no mention of weakness in that description. None of the synonyms include the word, "weak."
@@sharas9769 Bro thats bullsh*t. I am a man who knows life, handles his business and has a strong mindset. Still i am a sub and i am attracted to domination. I know what i want and theres nothing hotter than having a girl dominating you in bed. has nothing to do with weakness.
But of course a Domme would have a like for s/men.There is the financial incentive. But what about dating or marring a s/man? How would the male be expected to behave in public? Would they introduce a sub male to their friends, family, co-workers? Unless you travel in very liberal circles, I could see a private vs public side to relationships. Reputations, gossip, ones peer group are powerful influencers.
This is hilarious hearing this from a woman that sounds clearly Eastern European if not Russian I grew up in a Russian home and in the orthodox church and this is definitely way off lol 😂 😂😂
Women's strengh is different from men. Most women dont and cannot dominate men through physical strength. They use psychological dominance and use their sexual power to control men. They have throughout history.
الي فهمته من المقطع أنه الخضوع الي تريده البنت مسيطرة مش نوع الهيمنه الي على تويتر يلي هوه بنات فارغات يبحثون عن كمية من الخاضعين الفاشلين علمود يكتبون لهم تخيلاتهم الجنسية وهذه الشي يوافق تفكيري لطالما شفت الخاضعين الي على تويتر و مسيطرات الي تحسهم عاهرات وخضوعك في علاقة معينه مع بنت لا يعني بضروره أن تكون شخص خاضع بشكل مقرف اي أنك حيوان المقصد أن في هذه أنك تحاول تسعد الطرف الثاني الي معاك بالهداية او بأي شيء آخر بدافع الحب وهذي رسالة للعرب الي يقرون كلامي توقفوا عن جعل خضوعكم شي يخليكم مقرفين أو عبيد أو ما شابه صدقوني اسلوب الافلام الاباحية غير موجود على الواقع الفكره في كونك خاضع راح تحتفظ بشخصيتك الرجولية و كونك المسيطر في البيت لكن راح تحاول توجه سيطرتك هذي لخدم وإسعاد البنت الي انت معاها و بنت راح تحاول تشبع رغبتك في الفراش بكونها هي المسيطرة على الفراش وتوقف عن مشاهدة الاباحية مافي بنت راح تعجب بيك ابدا اذا انت تشوف اباحية وكل الشكر لنوره بنت على الأنستا وضحت لي عالم الfemdomو ووضحتلي هواي شغلات قبل مده بوسه على خدج نوره إذا قريتي تعليقي
Guys: no woman wants a submissive man Translation: I keep ending up with and/or chasing women that dont want submissive men, and treat me horribly for being this way, therefore I've given up on finding a dominant woman that I also find attractive and who finds me attractive.
A beta male. A man with extremely low self esteem and no will. And instead of confronting their demons and trauma they would rather indulge in this nonsense and make it worse.
I know some gay submissive men but a straight submissive man is basically is basically and ogly looking man with no self respect and these women will walk over you , they don't like you they want to use u and want the money as well as you as a servant
Yeah it is true what you say in someway, that you should talk about how great it is to please or worship a woman but the reality is when you say it, you are like a freak. It is not really appriciated by someone who doesn't understands it. For example, when I was a child I told my mother I don't like cleaning my room as much as I would like to clean like the parts of the flat she has to clean. So I want to help her and she was like you are weird haha you should put yourself first some kind of way. So I thought some thing was wrong with me until I started watching your videos :) Becuase for me it feels really good doing the same activite for someone I love or care much about instead then doing the same activity for myself. Like cleaning for example.
I like the outfit. Most feminine outfit I've seen her wear. I think women may want submissive men alright. Might want every man they meet to submit to them. But they'll feel scorn for the lot of them. And there'll be 'real' men somewhere that they covet. Women can't see why men can't be strong and kind and happy and giving and protective: for haven't they been given from birth muscular strength etc. and freedom from periods, freedom from pregnancy, from giving birth, from being 'mum' for years, from having to 'look pretty', from having to do all kinds of things that woman can find onerous (at the same time as sometimes being very involved and happy with them). If they can be non violent and happy with life and strong enough to juggle jobs and kids and all that sort of thing - why can't men? If they can handle period pain regularly and 'women's illnesses' (and they are very communicative with their sisters, they hear all about all that may be) then what's wrong with men that they are short tempered and selfish and always crying about some hurt or other. So they think of men as weak and stupid and fairly useless to a woman in the whole real world ( I mean by 'whole' that covering all areas, emotional and so on ). So they are scornful of them really and would be prone to wanting them to be submissive. But that doesn't mean that they'd like them or want them or appreciate them or approve of them or think any more of them when they are. Not at all. They, as real women, strong and purposeful, capable and knowing want 'real men' really. Alla says this. But she says he wants a 'real man' who worships the goddess. That's bullshit. She must know that. A real man would worship nothing but perhaps god. And god, you know, the notion, the fact, is one. ONE. Not 'male' , not 'female. By claiming to be a 'goddess' Alla and others diminish their divinity, make it something less than god. The big trouble with women and with men is that they think of themselves in terms of their bodies. Being in a male body you think you are a 'man'. Being in a female body you think you are a 'woman'. But there's just people. People. You get along better in life when you approach people with that in mind: they are people, not 'bodies' . Look at this woman's keen intellect. All all constrained, locked in, like water circling a plughole her intellect endlessly circles this silly little subject. People with problems having recourse to this kind of thing.
Very interesting. I would agree in that all of these relationship advice channels (both targeted for men and for women) lack nuance and confuse people further. And yes, how women picture a dominant man is different to how men picture a dominant man, and it's true that the majority of women are generally submissive.
Thank you very much friend for sharing your knowledge with us,❤ thank you very much that you work very hard in making each of your videos and give us correct information. Thank you friend.😊❤🤍🤍🤍🌼💯
4:07 she is so right. nothing is hotter than when a guy has his life together, murders other people academically or in business competition and then comes home to surrender to You 🩷 to let You take care of everything now oof!! guys, seriously, take notes
Feminism made me way too submissive and then I found out that women wanted something I wasn't. Feel betrayed by society as a man.
I love this!
As a subby myself, I offer advice from my own experience. Women don't like submissive men who don't like themselves. Whatever kind of sub you are, OWN YOUR SUBMISSIVENESS. Embracing what you enjoy not only makes your individual life journey more enjoyable, but people you meet will see that, feel that! Own your "thing" in order to find your thing! Self loathing is not attractive in ANY scenario. Love yourself and your lifestyle 💖
very true. I think self-respect is the basis of any working relationship. There might be people who can enjoy humiliation an still respect themselves - while this is never going to be my thing, I respect it if it works for others.... but on a side note. If people perceive femininity and feminization as humiliating then they are sexists and need to get some things right...
Why are you guys so confusing lol. Just make it clear. Submissive or dominant or both to an extent!!
"Women don't like submissive men who don't like themselves. Whatever kind of sub you are.OWN YOUR SUBMISSIVENESS"
what does that even mean !?
Do you realise that there are certain kinks that are stigmatised or ostracised, including completely common and tame ones, such as foot fetishism? There are people out there that actually want to hurt others on the basis of their sexual interests alone. It‘s kind of hard to feel safe in your own skin when you‘re in a situation like that, which is obviously out of your control.
Please reconsider what you‘re preaching because this honestly looks like victim blaming. If someone isn‘t being 100% honest with you or shy, maybe just maybe, there is a reason for that. They may have went through something traumatic. They might have a hard time trusting anyone at all. Again, maybe there is a reason behind that. It is so easy to critise and ostracise others instead pf empathising and thinking.
@@sorais8130most guys act ashamed.. showing no confidence
I don't know how I got here, but I enjoyed this video. From someone who isn't into this stuff I don't mind a chick taking charge in a relationship as long as she's respectful and we enjoy each other's company. I don't care or even think about being dominant or submissive, I just look for balance and the situation has to make sense.
This is what I call a healthy view on relationships😌
A sort of off topic question, but Mistress alla have you noticed a trend/majority where submissive women tend to be more overweight and unattractive. This is an imo situation but nevertheless on common beauty standards most ppl would agree. So a lower rating on the x/10 scale for sub women compared to the avg women and especially compared to dominant woman. Or is it just me, I just noticed this over the years. Not sure why... but for me thats one potential turn off/non motivating factor for a man to be a dom in the real life/bdsm tbh...@@alla_mephistopheles
like it got to the point where i would see the same trend and i would theorize that certain women on the lower smv scale(out of 10) would cope or higher their smv by being subs even if they arent subs. Since a female sub will do a lot more in the bedroom than a vanilla girl so it makes sense in terms of advertising/a pick me girl vibe for some to be female subs. Again not all, but more than 50% i would say might be in the category...
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I have standards for how I'd like to be treated. Any time I've reached out to a dominant woman, it seemed like she would demand money or expect me to be okay with being treated like a doormat and just agree with whatever she wants. I'm naturally submissive but enjoy being dominant in bed too. In a vanilla situation, I enjoy meeting, chatting, building rapport, flirting, dating, and taking charge during intimacy with a woman. There is so much mental, physical, and emotional confidence you have to build just to be able to do that well. Knowing that, I have never felt an ounce of that effort in the interactions I've had with a dominant woman...I mostly just get red flags of someone who might be manipulating, controlling, and only looking out for themself. Some guys are cool with that, but for me, that's simply below the standard for healthy interaction. To my preferences, dominance requires initiation and leadership, socially and physically. So, as I've been rejected by vanilla women plenty in the past for foolishness or insensitivity (not meeting standards in behavior) which I've had to learn from, it simply makes sense when a dominant woman comes off as insensitive, only thinking of her needs, or doesn't meet my standards that I refuse to place her over me. There's no trust built when it comes to the one who will have more power, and the one who wants that must be the one building it. And honestly, very few seem like they make for what I want in a healthy relationship...so I'll just be the dominant one and enjoy vanilla. Over time, femdom just grew to become an unnecessary can of worms.
I like submissive men, I'm very dominant in life and in bedroom - however I think there is a misconception about what submissiveness is. My ex said he was submissive but it was all about him and his humiliation fetish. He told me how to dominate him all the time. He wanted to be feminized and humiliated. The fact that I was a woman holding the key to his chastity cage was nothing more than an ultimate sensation of humiliation. The fact that this worked for him had me feel very weak and not great at all. He asked me if I could introduce the rule that he musn't touch me and he wanted me to call his penis a clit. This was when I endet this.
In my current relationship things are a littel bit different. He does wear a chastity belt and whatever I say or want is his law - in life or in the bedroom. This time however it is all about me. And I want a man who thinks about himself as the best of all men - because otherwise I wouldn't have chosen him. I don't want him to think about himself as repulsive but as attractive. I am his queen, so why would I choose a pathetic individual? I don't want him to stop thinking and make no decissions at all. I want him to use all his mental energy to make the best possible decissions for me. Having him under lock and key means that I get to decide when he uses his penis but we don't make this game about his penis. the chastity game doesn't revolve around him. It revolves around me. If I want him to have sex with me three nights in a row, so be it, if I don't want it for a month, that's what's going to happen. I don't use it as a means of punishment and reward. Why would I?
omg teach mee 🩷
the first guy sounds like a cuck, that's something so misogynistic about those types, but I can't put my finger on it
the part where your new guy feels like the most attractive man on earth because you decide to touch him is👌
like, I don't want to make my sub feel like shit, that's not even dominant
only low dominance people try to make somebody feel worse in order for them to feel better. I don't need to prove anything lol
"why would I choose a pathetic individual" exactly
that would reflect on me and, mean that I'm pathetic also, no thanks 😅thanks for clearing that up for me
also that means that Actually truly submissive men are top tier, at least for me - they have a strong mind not to be swayed by society's SEVERE brainwashing to think they need to be an alfa male, they know what they want and are not scared to admit it to somebody which means they are highly intelligent and can think for themselves, they are not misogynistic
after all, the first guy sounds just like an individual who has watched too much corn, and got bored of the vanilla stuff, not a submissive guy
Marry me
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I do not think it will stay like that when you are old and ugly 🤣🤣🤣
you are so right, one thing i have also noticed when speaking with dominant women is that most ask first what is your practice and things you like. I have always answered, no I don't demand anything I don't ask anything the only thing that really makes me feel good is knowing that I was able to be useful and my greatest satisfaction is after having done my better that she say thank you for having relieved me, allowing me to escape from everyday life. I assure you that it is an inexplicable happiness to hear that and I wish you all ❤
Women want interesting men, dominant or submissive. It's entirely possible to be boring as either. All too often, men who call themselves submissive are simply passive and boring, and aren't even really submissive to begin with. And like any good story, it's the conflict that makes something interesting, and that ends after the submission happens. It's the process of that submission that makes things interesting.
no, you're only partially right
it's not only the process, he can just be submissive in bed all the time, let's say in a long term relationship, if that's how he is/what he likes
but you're right, it does have to be interesting, I guess he does have to have other parts of his personality that are less submissive, maybe an edgy sense of humor or ambitions in his job etc
but that's just normal, everybody likes a multifaceted people
@@sadisticgirl_I'm definitely submissive in bed
A Man will give you his heart. A Submissive Man will give you His Everything.
95% of doms out there have so much to learn from the mindset you perceive. Lovely, and thank you!
Are you a dom?
In my experience women (who are not "crazy") want to like submissive men, but when it comes down to reality they usually prefer non-submissives.
There are some women who like submissive men, but after years of searching they are mostly "scammers" or people who take heavy atvantage of their submissives to the point where is is not a realistic relationship (use all their money and dump them when bank account is empty).
I think most people who have a healthy relationship with s3x can enjoy both being submissive and dominant. Most will probably still have a preference. But if they are only able to enjoy 1, then it's probably caused by some sort of trauma.
I agree with that
New worshipper here, I've had a couple questions that I've been struggling to put words to being an autist myself, then I see this moment after it shows and felt I had to at least say something.
I stopped trying to find a woman. I have my cat and live a good life :)
Yes😂
Your video is like attending a lecture at college. Clearing concepts by talking calmly 👏🏻
I love this video so much! Being proudly submissive as a man is a great feeling. I have never felt weak compared to other men. A lot of men wish they could be submissive, but choose to pretend in shame. Being able to be delicate, gentle, and weak for women is a well needed relief from every other aspect of life where we have to be tough all the time.
True bro! It's all about embracing your true inner nature and not denying it in shame 💯🙏🏼💚
True bro! It's all about embracing your true inner nature and not denying it in shame 💯🙏🏼💚
I don’t understand what world these men are in. I absolutely love submissive men. Especially the shy type. A side note to that is submissive men are far from weak. They understand who they are at their core and accept that, it takes guts. Unlike majority of men that can’t fathom someone else seeing them not being the alpha macho masculine man. They’re the weak ones considering they don’t have the balls to be true to who they are and can’t handle criticism from others..They care way to much about how people perceive them.
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@Max Tax It’s hard to find a genuinely selfless submissive man in America apparently.
@Max Tax Feminine in the way of acting like a whiny bitch yes…(not in the fun way either) Lol one day we’ll both find real ones! 🙄🤦♀️
PS: If you come to America, find me. 😂
I'm shy and submissive to women
@@shyguy9102 One of the sweetest things!
I totally agree, this world needs more submissive men openly express themselves first, not asking women to show their dominance…as a good slave or submissive man, we should understand we need to be responsible to express ourselves and take the risk to wake up the sub men and dom women. Sub men should take the risk to provide a safety spot to allow more dom women to surface. Good submissive should not hide their, a good slave just like knights should stand out and speak out to let the world know there are a lot of submissive men who love dom women and who wants to serve them, then more and more dom women would be realize themselves and be bold enough to stand out as well. Most of people still have a stereotype put men to be dom in default, we should entirely break this stereotype, it requires a lot of submissive men to stand out. In addition, we always consider submissive men as shy, pathetic, weak, cowardly. We also are afraid to be mark as these, so a lot of submissive men hide behind. But sub is only a sexual preference, even an entire submissive, it’s just a life choice, freedom.. submissive means submissive to your dom, or widely to dom women even all women. not the whole world. A good slave should understand this deeply.
She talks about not being a creep and all i see is creepy comments 🤣🤣🤣
The men in this community are pathetic 😆
@@joelbarish well they just dont what it means by being a man
@@sharas9769 what dies being a man mean then?
Women desire a subservient man today. My ex surely did, they desire the power of being in control and dominate the household.
There is a softer term for submissive: the doting husband/boyfriend/partner
There's zero demand for submissive men so even the women who say they like submissive men, actually don't. It just is what it is
Because your definition of submissive is based on masculine dominance and feminine submission. feminine dominance looks different.
It is just all about respecting our values and preferences, even if he was a submissive. Just sharing to you that even though I see my husbands as alphas, they love to serve me and please me out of love. It is because they know how to listen and accept our preferences too. They do help me in household chores, cleaning, cooking and baking (everyone luvs food 😆), washing dishes and clothes…
But I would like to share something that relates to what you said in the video. I do have one submissive man, and you were right that some “dominant” men wanted to be p3gged in the bedroom. I witnessed that when my husband (whom we always depend on, the head of the fam) requested and wanted to be p3gged by our sub man. I really don’t mind because I wanted them to have the freedom of sexual expression that I also consent in our marriage. It really doesn’t mean it is degrading to a man. I mean, they provide, protect, and take care of me. I do not mind what they can do to please a woman and let her be happy, satisfied, and consensual. I mean, they are my husbands after all. It is just all sexual freedom and consent, except that we still follow the laws of God and we really do not like this so called ‘sexual revolution’ that is prevalent these days. We are always honest with each other with an open heart and mind through communication. Love has no limits, but lust or s3x has limits. Thank you for your message, God bless and take care Ms. Alla! 💚💚💚
That's so interesting. Y'all sound like y'all have a really healthy polyamorous marriage. I'd be fascinated to learn more about how the dynamics work in your relationship. How long has it been this way? Were you married to one man first and then eventually opened up to this idea? Or was it always this way? Do you have children, and if so are they from all your husband's, or is only one allowed to get you pregnant?
Curious minds want to know.
I never looked at it this way I feel more confident now after listening to this thanks
I'm completelty new to this whole dom/sub setup. I hear from you that a successful submissive man is really the dominant one. He is just good at hiding his dominance. My wife and I have this dynamic where she is dominanting in bed but we both feel and know it's really me who is letting her do that and controlling the dynamics of the situation. She enjoys this very very much. I don't think she would enjoy me turning into a spineless jellyfish. That would probably kill the kink. Whats your take on this? Are good sub men really hidden dom?
I'd argue the reverse. A good 'dominant' man is really a submissive one internally. Providing for a woman, protecting her, pleasuring her makes you submissive to her in one sense.
This makes a lot of sense.
I LOVE this video.
As a very feminine but sexually dominant woman, when I'm looking for a man, I'm looking for a champion, knight and a protector or my realm (this is why my picture is The Accolade, I LOVE this painting so much and what it says about feminine power). I'm not looking for a lowly servant who gets off on being emasculated, humiliated and abused. I want an honourable, chivalric knight who knows who he is, has ambitions and hobbies and interests, is confident, and just wants to treat me like a queen. "Alpha in the streets, sub in the sheets" is a good way of looking at it only sheets extends to the entire feminine Inner realm wherein the home & hearth is the true spiritual center of society making the wife a Matriarch, Priestess, etc. He is the King and the leader when we're out and about in the world, but in the home and hearth, the feminine domain, I'm his Queen who he defers to.
The way submission is perceived by men and women is absolutely different, too. Most women don't have the same kinks and paraphilias as men, even sexually dominant women. A lot of the stuff the sexually submissive men are in to is honestly scary and most women don't want to indulge in it. Not talking about pegging or spanking or bondage but I mean downright twisted and sadistic on an extreme level. I don't really have many kinks, I'm in to I guess what you'd call 'soft domme', but for me it's just about being the one in control and having a man care about my pleasure instead of using my body as a tool to get off. I don't know how to express that that's what I'm after because if I say I want a submissive man, masculine men assume I'm some sort of girlboss who wants to be the breadwinner and that's not true, and submissive men assume that means I'll want to crush their balls with a vice or something and I don't.
I feel like there's probably more women out there like that who want the same things as me but we don't really have the language to describe that.
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Great comment. I really enjoyed reading it, especially because (along with the video - I liked it too) it made me realise a small but very important thing - that being submissive (sorry, but I hate that word!) is one of the main points of savoir vivre and actually a huge part of our history.... But what I don't understand is how views on this have changed so drastically, how did these 'alpha' males even come about? ... But less so. I was reading a book on good manners recently and it clearly says, for example: when it's raining and the umbrella is too small for both the man and the woman at the same time - the man has to be wet to take care of the woman and leave her dry; sometimes women have to reject a suitor with a cold stare and then - ignore him. If I were an 'alpha' and didn't know this was savoir vivre, I'd say it's at least strange, if not perverse... Or such examples in history - the queen of ancient Israel had more power than the king, even though it was the king who provided security in the kingdom and commanded armies. In many pagan religions, women were very often given sole responsibility for rituals (e.g. Slavic pagans).
Also, it may be strange, but I felt a kind of catharsis after reading your comment and you have influenced my views on what kind of women I look for, so thank you
@@rdest3676 It's such a weird coincidence that you just replied to this comment, because I was thinking about this very thing again today. You're right. So much of 'chivalry' and what we often understand to be traditionally masculine behaviors are often IN SERVICE of women, not dominating them. Men used to stand when women entered rooms. I'm not saying traditional gender roles were perfect, far from it, but the idea that 'traditional masculinity' is and always has been about dominating women and serving yourself because serving a woman is effeminate 'simping' is historical revisionism. Heck, look at courtly love, which was highly idealised. The Virgin & the Dynamo. Goethe's Eternal Feminine. There's this pervasive idea that pops up even in deeply patriarchal cultures that states very clearly that the feminine should be central to a gentleman's life- serving her, loving her, protecting her, providing for her, and in return, she serves him, loves him, gives him children, inspires him. The idea that 'the masculine leads and the feminine submits' is only true when you're viewing the same dynamics through a patriarchal lense. I follow the maxim "Lead with the feminine, execute with the masculine". The feminine chooses the destination, the masculine drives them there.
And re: Slavic paganism, yes, I am a Celticist and the same theme comes up there. In many of the Celtic myths and then also in Arthuriana, it's clear women hold more power in the spiritual realms, & men typically need to impress and please them to hold any power on earth. the Sovereignty Goddess in the aspect of the Queen chooses and weds the King- and it doesn't take a genius to figure out a Goddess holds more spiritual power than a mortal king.
I loved your comment & you sound like a wonderful, terrific Gentleman. I hope you find your Lady!
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I just can't disagree, especially with your maxim, which, at least for me, complements the fact that many women leaders in history have been very good at their jobs, such as (my favourite) Bona, Queen of the Polish-Lithuanian Commonwealth in her golden age. I'd love to discuss this more with you, even on other social media platforms, but the more I read your comments, the more I feel a bit too young and incompetent;)
Thank you very much:). You seem like a very smart and well-read woman. I will certainly remember you warmly one day. I wish you to find the man of your dreams!
Idk all I read here was that you want a dominant man.
If you think submissive men are weak, try disrespecting his mistress in front of him.
As usual, it’s all about what women want.
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I can't imagine how I can be a submissive and not being needy at same time. It's like asking once a month, "Hi Ma'am, is there anything I can do for You? No? Ok I'm on my way just to grind money for You then." or "Hi Mistress! Can we chat about something? No? Do I look too needy for You? Well I'll continue to stay just an ATM then. Have a nice day!" I mean there is no joy when there is no feedback at all.
This commment is just perfect
what happened to cuddling? Im kind of needy, but I hug my pillows to relieve this
Hello Alla Mephistopheles, I always enjoy listening to your videos with all your wisdom and kindness. I have made many of the mistakes and criticisms you talk about .. I have made those mistakes years ago and learned from experience (by rejection, and getting negative feedback from Doms ) .. it is very nice for you to take the time to educate the men (and women) who have not learned yet these important lessons you teach .. First, that the sexual exploration each person can have in their life is a good thing and there is nothing wrong with our bodies and our fantacies, quirks, kinks .. Second, that because these 'kinks' are really very natural, and that all or most people have desires, and sexual wishes, and dreams that are simply more progressive than the way life is presented on the television .. What I'm trying to say is that times are changing and that sexual liberation, and exploration is a good thing, and (most of all) You Alla are helping so many people in so many ways PLUS it brightens my days and nights every time I hear you .. As I've said before; I am quite poor financially so I don't have spare coins to help you out (I'll someday save some money to send you for maybe you could buy your puppy a special pkg. of gourmet dog food for some holiday sometime..so cute.) but I want to give you something to express my gratitude so I write the comments (I have a little mental illness from using too many. drugs when I was a youth so sometimes my comments are a bit off the wall and I do apologize for that) .. comments to say You are wonderful and I am sooo glad You are alive, strong, well, and happy (and your little dog too) .. I never would stalk You, I have no desire to direct message You, it's just enough that you care about the world and humanity that You take the time and effort to make these videos that (I'm going to get flowery) bring. a little bit of heaven into my crazy mixed up world .. My life is not easy but You make it brighter and better and I just want to say THANK YOU.
Bottom line is a lot of these guys the women don't like them no matter what.. they don't up their game
I have often had the impression that many women would actually like to have both types of men. An Alpha, who they go out with, have fun with, fuck, have a love life with. Then a submissive guy, a servant who stays at home, takes care of his Mistress. A sort of neutered guy who would be her confidant. I know women who have thrived on being with both of these men at the same time.
“Alpha male” 🤢🤮
So she wants the beta husband who provides for her.. as well as the dominant, alpha type who gives her tingles and satisfies her sexually.
İ want a submissive guy to have a love life and fuck with.😕
An strong smart yet sweet guy, who would submit ONLY to me with pleasure.
And im really so unattracted to nonchalant men having dominance over me.
Meh. There's absolutely no reason you can't go out with, have fun with, have a love life with, and fuck a submissive guy. Most women are monogamous. We don't want a neutered servant. We want one well-rounded man.
@@hv3115 Real alphas provide for their wives.
Women don't like unemployed men.
Yes they like soo they can make him there slave for lifetime
why there aren't subtitles in this video?
Because for me is very difficult to understand what the goddess says, in fact she speaks too much quickly!
perfection like you could get any human being submissive if given the chance. Dont even matter if they deaf or blind, skys the limit!
am I the only one who got slightly bothered by her straps cuz they were not lined up?
You have such a deep understanding of this. I have never come across a domme like you. It's so refreshing. I just very recently found your channel. All I have seen has been topnotch content. Keep it up.
i love the comment strong in the streets and submissive in the sheets
What makes you superior to me is not just your undeniable beauty but your clear intellectual superiority to me. I am able to find fulfillment in surrendering to a true Goddess like you & enjoying a physical & emotional journey that I have yearned for & thought might not be possible. Thank You Goddess.
This kinda thing pisses me off bc I’m a big sub and sometimes feel women are superior then the average man but I have never found a woman who comes close to my intelligent so it’s kinda hard to submit and trust them with things I know i can just do better
@@potatofries6366 be humble and you might find yourself around more women and get to know some who meet your intelligence criteria. Arrogance is a major turn off, if you are a sub you should have basic respect for everyone even if you deem some as less intelligent then you.
@@MyDuckSaysFucc No i for sure do i’m a big believer in “No one is better that anyone else” i preach it all the time as well when people talk about someone being “out of their league” if pisses me off. I don’t have a problem with pulling women bro💀. The thing is It’s just true sadly, despite it sounding egotistical there’s no other way to put it without short selling myself.
Yes
Why can’t you talk like normal humans instead of fetish freaks? “Ahh Mistress you’re so superior..” do you think anyone irl would find that appealing?
She perfectly discribed how i feel about myself. Or who i want to be.
I didn't think I'd be this repulsed until I saw it and was disgusted.
I think you are right ...
there is a woman I like on instagram, she is very good at pole dancing and she is a very strong and confident woman, I have written to her many times but she doesn't want to answer me anymore, she says "I have to become a man "...😥
this thing makes me suffer a lot, however I think I'm not too suitable to serve her, because she pushes me to make a sudden change that I don't want to make, I admit to be a very slowly male to do anything but this does not mean i can't submit to a woman, I only would do it in a more traditional way....😓
Thanks for putting the translator in this video!
One of my biggest hurdles in accepting the superiority of women as a gender though is that I was lucky enough to be born with an IQ that's high enough to be pretty rare, so I've always been able to learn and solve problems etc faster than anyone around me, male or female, so a logical perspective makes it hard to see myself as and inferior needing to be controlled, so my deeply submissive nature has been hard to understand. Finding you though, and as intelligent and insightful that you are, praying to you has come naturally.
And here is where I'm getting scared to say more lol.
@Say no to drugs Congrats on using words you don't understand.
@Say no to drugs Except for the lack of any behavior that makes my started behavior a lie. I'm trying to express a conflict between what logic tells me should be true and what my feelings pull me to. That's not hypocrisy.
I've got plenty enough to criticize about myself to deal with already.
Grow a pair. Why are you being this submissive to another woman?
@@joelbarish Saying thank you is being submissive??
The last woman I dated had a 165 IQ, mine is ~140 we both have experienced that. Its not about IQ it's about pleasing your partner and the level of control you need in different area's of your life. I'm in a fairly high up position, I'm not at all submissive in my "normal" life. I'm done making decisions when I try to relax, I don't want to have to guess things. I want a partner to tell me what they want. It gives me a break from decision making.
Bro man up,why do u wanna be weak towards woman?
Bro man up and use your strength to provide and protect for women
@@alla_mephistopheles i do these things miss,i just want to tell men that they are supposed to conquer,win and do hardwork but they are focused on woman so that they can listen to them in bed , isn't that funny? Any man who is submissive (except gay) is weak and loser in his life
@@alla_mephistopheles listen bish a$$ fatherless person take your lesbian a$$ somewhere else .
If i become president I'll delete yall feminazis.
@@alla_mephistopheles
Do you like hard bullwhip ?
Two main things to tell you. One is thank you so much. This video was so eye opening and I did have the opinions that you spoke of and to hear the yog guys like it is so wonderful to hear. I was beginning to think everything had turned A.I. and the just digitalized the sheep held together in their politically correct social pens. And feared there were no more brave enough to enjoy their power and glory.
And the other thing I wanted to say was I know what you're going through. I had a stalker myself that changed me into the person who just wanted to tell you this. IF THEY KEEP WRITING TO YOU AND IT IS Bothering YOU LET ME KNOW. I CAN HELP YOU HANDLE THIS PROBLEM AND IF YOU DONT WANT MY HELP AND I AM ONE OF THE ONES Your Complaining ABOUT PLEASE TELL ME ALSO I THINK THIS IS MY FIRST TIME Communicating WITH YOU. But I have little mental stuff and can push buttons. But I respect you and don't know you so I will be able to believe you words without being able to be at peace with that. I got taken to the dark side a few times and I hope me just saying this will be caught by the people who are not putting much faith in themselves if they are past trying to be honest with themselves and say, if this were happening to you, how would you feel about it. And do you think that yiu are crossing the line with whatever you just did.. I agree nobody can tell you what you must think and as long as she doesn't need to hear about it if you do get your rocks off looking at her. Then I don't think you can do anything about it. And I had a guy one time say he looks at a picture of me and gets joy out of looking at it if you can get what I really mean. But I could see that it was only in his head and big deal I am not that small minded I would judge her or you badly. But if I had been bad I may appear that way but I am only now starting to . Forgive me I am too stoned to know what I am talking about now. So I am going to shut my eyes for a minute
You might find this interesting. I just finished Joseph Conrad's "Under Western Eyes," his sort of tribute to Dostoyevski. It follows a Raskolnikov-type character who ends up in a group of Russian expatriate "revolutionists" in Geneva, where... multilayered story ensues. Anyway, the expatriates are largely organized by a powerful man who is a fervent evangelist for Female Supremacy, always extolling the virtue of the Feminine mind and spirit etc. He's just a supporting character, but the novel ends with him: the narrator is learning the fate of all the revolutionists, and when he asks about this Peter Ivanovich, he learns that Peter Ivanovich has married a peasant girl. The narrator is stunned that he's given up his revolutionary fervor. The "woman revolutionist" who's telling him all this says, "He just simply adores her." The narrator replies, "Does he? Then I hope that she won't hesitate to beat him." The woman doesn't comment, gets up to go, pauses and says in a firm voice, "Peter Ivanovich is an inspired man." And that's the end of the book. Naturally, "Under Western Eyes" is about far, far more than Femdom - but I was struck by that ending, and I thought you might be too.
Proud to be submissive to Women
I want a submissive man :,(
Did you get one?
@@jessecoup4644 yes actually :D we're dating now
I am a submissive man
@@jessecoup4644 yesss i found my babyboyyy
@@user-ml3ih4iu2j i am here
I like you advice, both men and women should be more honest to each other
Women should think that ((it is not only about money)) as if you think only about money…you are convincing the man that they pay something with there money.
And men, should not think only about sex and sexual desire …. They should show there real human personality
but important question are YOU currently head over heels in love with a submissive man Yes or No?
Also, i believe a lot of women Like submissive men with a ''WALLET''
i hope to see someday a dominant woman, dating a submissive poor man. I really do honestly, because honestly, finding a dominant woman is really hard. At least one who does not ask for money.
If you want a woman who doesn’t want money, try a man.
nah i'll wait until i find a woman who'll accept me as a house husband.
@@alla_mephistopheles so you're saying all women mostly judge men by and care only about money?
From watching some of her videos, i don't think she is capable of loving a man. She doesnt seem to like men very much. I think she mostly uses submissive men for money and for her income.
money is a factor in every male female relationship, the only question is how much of a factor is it. its normal biology although there are exceptions, but usually a woman COMPLETELY financially taking care of a man long term is rare (sugar mommy stuff).@@alla_mephistopheles
Thank you Ma'am for sharing your thoughts on this subject
"Thank you Ma'am"...........gotta be American.
Im an adult who can do my own decisions and take care of myself but want a (mildly) sexually dominant woman. Ive dated many sub women but it dont work...
I do feel like most women dont like it cus they what to feel small and powerless compared to my strenght. Yet i want to be overwhelmed with the femininity and be seduced into being hers. But these are both same but just a little bit of a different dance.
Excellent advice and points of view. It seems like there are more submissive people in general.
I am submissive, but honestly on my experience on meeting some ladies, searching on twitter…ect
The main reason for 98% of ladies looking to submissive ..is only ((money))
Very rarely to find ((honest lady who really like a submissive man)) .
But yes i think it’s because ladies have there own stereotype looking for
Dommes on twitter are sex workers. Are you expecting them to work for free?
@@alla_mephistopheles
To be honest ….you convinced soo much.
I think i was trying to convince myself that ladies on twitter for the same reason we (men/ or me at least) go to twitter for. Which is (to find a honest people who have the same interest we have -but we feel a but embarrassed to confess these interests in our real life to avoid judgmental people-)
Thank you for your reply…and for all your amazing videos.🌹🌹
You soo special, thank you🙏🏼🙏🏼🌹🌹
They dont seem to realize that making money and providing for a woman itself is a form of submission(or dominance if you take the perspective that a man uses money to influence the woman to his will, but in all cases typically based on biology the man financially provides, and in modern times thats at least half the household income ideally). But even if the woman is the breadwinner how can a sub actually express his submissiveness and be broke. I mean part of submission is to provide, put aside the sex work stuff. In a basic dynamic any man, maybe especially a sub man in particular has to bring financial goods to the table. Not all submission is face to face its also what a sub is doing when he isnt with his female dom(ie gathering power to share with her, money is a form of power/energy). So how can that major ingredient(wealth) that subs need to have not be found in a true sub? I dunno seems like something is off with guys that expect to have a female dom while not having their stuff together financially. On the other hand doms who use subs only like a wallet to me are vampires/parasitic/materialistic/modern brainwashed hedonists who are spiritually stunted plus non-aware...@@alla_mephistopheles
I can tell she's not originally from the US, by her word choices and how she pronounces her words.
Is she from from a European country? She's attractive though, with nice skin.
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Unfortunately yes, most women do not like submissive men, at least not in the US.
Be hot, dont not be hot
I hope women like submissive men, otherwise I'm screwed
You're screwed. Most women dont like submissive men.
You're screwed
Your The Best... Keep Making these videos. Really love your opinion.
I think people are confusing submissive with weak. That is the furthest thing from the truth.
Submissive: Ready to conform to the authority or will of others; meekly obedient or passive.
There is no mention of weakness in that description. None of the synonyms include the word, "weak."
Bro but men are strong and we do show dominance over women,you are just crying because you are weak
@@sharas9769 Bro thats bullsh*t.
I am a man who knows life, handles his business and has a strong mindset.
Still i am a sub and i am attracted to domination.
I know what i want and theres nothing hotter than having a girl dominating you in bed.
has nothing to do with weakness.
But of course a Domme would have a like for s/men.There is the financial incentive. But what about dating or marring a s/man? How would the male be expected to behave in public? Would they introduce a sub male to their friends, family, co-workers? Unless you travel in very liberal circles, I could see a private vs public side to relationships. Reputations, gossip, ones peer group are powerful influencers.
This is hilarious hearing this from a woman that sounds clearly Eastern European if not Russian I grew up in a Russian home and in the orthodox church and this is definitely way off lol 😂 😂😂
Thank You very much beautiful Goddess ❤
@Pinned_by_Alla_Mephistopheles Happy New Year Beautiful Goddess, and thank You very very very much for Your beautiful interesting videos 🙏🌹🌹🌹
Your dog is cute!!
Thank you Madame.
Your impression of a male voice is funny!
Where you can meet real dominant women. Are there such dating sites?
Write me
@@olgazaytseva1990 hello.. are you a dominant woman?
@@hv3115 yes
Women like strong men sometimes a strong man can be controlled but not by her. I've met maybe six women who could dominate me in my life.
Women's strengh is different from men. Most women dont and cannot dominate men through physical strength. They use psychological dominance and use their sexual power to control men. They have throughout history.
الي فهمته من المقطع
أنه الخضوع الي تريده البنت مسيطرة مش نوع الهيمنه الي على تويتر يلي هوه بنات فارغات يبحثون عن كمية من الخاضعين الفاشلين علمود يكتبون لهم تخيلاتهم الجنسية
وهذه الشي يوافق تفكيري لطالما شفت الخاضعين الي على تويتر و مسيطرات الي تحسهم عاهرات
وخضوعك في علاقة معينه مع بنت لا يعني بضروره أن تكون شخص خاضع بشكل مقرف اي أنك حيوان
المقصد أن في هذه أنك تحاول تسعد الطرف الثاني الي معاك بالهداية او بأي شيء آخر بدافع الحب
وهذي رسالة للعرب الي يقرون كلامي
توقفوا عن جعل خضوعكم شي يخليكم مقرفين أو عبيد أو ما شابه صدقوني اسلوب الافلام الاباحية غير موجود على الواقع
الفكره في كونك خاضع راح تحتفظ بشخصيتك الرجولية و كونك المسيطر في البيت لكن راح تحاول توجه سيطرتك هذي لخدم وإسعاد البنت الي انت معاها
و بنت راح تحاول تشبع رغبتك في الفراش بكونها هي المسيطرة على الفراش
وتوقف عن مشاهدة الاباحية
مافي بنت راح تعجب بيك ابدا اذا انت تشوف اباحية
وكل الشكر لنوره بنت على الأنستا وضحت لي عالم الfemdomو ووضحتلي هواي شغلات قبل مده
بوسه على خدج نوره إذا قريتي تعليقي
من تجربتي مع البنات اذا التمست منك مقدار "قشة" من الخضوع اي شرارة منها راح تحرقك وتُدينك وتعدمك.. للاسف مافي امراة تقبل بخاضع الا قلة
Like before even watching
It's not right as CZcams algorithm will not promote our Goddess Alla videos
Just like after 3 to 4 minutes
I didn't know that, thank you for telling me.
@@abdalrahmanarrob6802 hey plz share the dominatrix channels you are following
@@jamesswift007
Honestly this is the only one
There are a lot on twitter tho
Stunning look
Guys: no woman wants a submissive man
Translation: I keep ending up with and/or chasing women that dont want submissive men, and treat me horribly for being this way, therefore I've given up on finding a dominant woman that I also find attractive and who finds me attractive.
You should do foot videos 😜👌
Such wisdom!
Words of truth
Thanks for this Vid.
Beautiful
I like your dog, its cute :)
Very reasonable words 👍
What is a submisive man?
A beta male. A man with extremely low self esteem and no will. And instead of confronting their demons and trauma they would rather indulge in this nonsense and make it worse.
I know some gay submissive men but a straight submissive man is basically is basically and ogly looking man with no self respect and these women will walk over you , they don't like you they want to use u and want the money as well as you as a servant
Your quite intelligent do you have a degree in psychology?
Thank you, goddess.
Yeah it is true what you say in someway, that you should talk about how great it is to please or worship a woman but the reality is when you say it, you are like a freak. It is not really appriciated by someone who doesn't understands it. For example, when I was a child I told my mother I don't like cleaning my room as much as I would like to clean like the parts of the flat she has to clean. So I want to help her and she was like you are weird haha you should put yourself first some kind of way. So I thought some thing was wrong with me until I started watching your videos :)
Becuase for me it feels really good doing the same activite for someone I love or care much about instead then doing the same activity for myself. Like cleaning for example.
This is why your channel has only 12k subs
Okay I didn't like this video but you only have 1 sub so don't talk.
A lot of Sub men are selfish it's all about them and their pleasure
But not all😅
I am a man who enjoy pleasing my Dominant Girlfriend. I am a giver cause I am healthy and able to give. We need each other.
Thanks!
Thank you
Nice name.
I am
I like the outfit. Most feminine outfit I've seen her wear.
I think women may want submissive men alright. Might want every man they meet to submit to them. But they'll feel scorn for the lot of them. And there'll be 'real' men somewhere that they covet.
Women can't see why men can't be strong and kind and happy and giving and protective: for haven't they been given from birth muscular strength etc. and freedom from periods, freedom from pregnancy, from giving birth, from being 'mum' for years, from having to 'look pretty', from having to do all kinds of things that woman can find onerous (at the same time as sometimes being very involved and happy with them).
If they can be non violent and happy with life and strong enough to juggle jobs and kids and all that sort of thing - why can't men?
If they can handle period pain regularly and 'women's illnesses' (and they are very communicative with their sisters, they hear all about all that may be) then what's wrong with men that they are short tempered and selfish and always crying about some hurt or other.
So they think of men as weak and stupid and fairly useless to a woman in the whole real world ( I mean by 'whole' that covering all areas, emotional and so on ). So they are scornful of them really and would be prone to wanting them to be submissive.
But that doesn't mean that they'd like them or want them or appreciate them or approve of them or think any more of them when they are. Not at all.
They, as real women, strong and purposeful, capable and knowing want 'real men' really.
Alla says this.
But she says he wants a 'real man' who worships the goddess. That's bullshit. She must know that. A real man would worship nothing but perhaps god. And god, you know, the notion, the fact, is one. ONE. Not 'male' , not 'female. By claiming to be a 'goddess' Alla and others diminish their divinity, make it something less than god.
The big trouble with women and with men is that they think of themselves in terms of their bodies. Being in a male body you think you are a 'man'. Being in a female body you think you are a 'woman'. But there's just people. People.
You get along better in life when you approach people with that in mind: they are people, not 'bodies' .
Look at this woman's keen intellect. All all constrained, locked in, like water circling a plughole her intellect endlessly circles this silly little subject. People with problems having recourse to this kind of thing.
🩷 this was in my CZcams recommendations!
Hi!😄
Yeah, it's mostly true. Most women want strong men they can submit to...not the other way around.
oh youre such a manly man!!!! im sure you have all the ladies swooning over your toxic masculinity 😧
Very interesting. I would agree in that all of these relationship advice channels (both targeted for men and for women) lack nuance and confuse people further. And yes, how women picture a dominant man is different to how men picture a dominant man, and it's true that the majority of women are generally submissive.
Thank you very much friend for sharing your knowledge with us,❤ thank you very much that you work very hard in making each of your videos and give us correct information. Thank you friend.😊❤🤍🤍🤍🌼💯
4:07 she is so right. nothing is hotter than when a guy has his life together, murders other people academically or in business competition and then comes home to surrender to You 🩷 to let You take care of everything now oof!! guys, seriously, take notes
yes
And fights whichever literal fight/war thats needs carrying out too while winning it.
surrender to you how?