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Everyone has divine feminine and masculine in them men and women. Balance is the key. I myself am unbalanced and is guilty of being masculine. I came across ashwaganda it's supposed to balance your hormones but I can't be consistent with taking it. Maybe this will help someone else out there though. I firmly believe there's somebody for everyone and I'll find someone who accepts me for me all masculine aside. I've been accused by some of being gay but nope not looking for a woman I'll pass...
hmm. why cant be just be ourselves? i am masculine but also autistic.
im like dude youre getting so emotional.
Makeup is so hard to do any tips for beginners
You forgot to mention how most women have the masculine behavior of emasculating their man for no reason at all. Whenever they are bored and things are going just fine they have to go and create drama by trying to emasculate him and test him.
Let's be honest alot of black women that grew up in single parent or dysfunctional house holds were never taught how to find a GOOD man. Period
Oluseye Osinowo NOW THATS FACTS!!!
So why not make a vid on feminized men?
Women don't find a man a man finds a woman read your bible😎
@@colecold7050 Amen
Oluseye Osinowo can you let us please
Our mothers don't teach us how be feminine they shame us for it. I struggle with being feminine I dress feminine but sometimes my attitude isn't I've picked up alot of my moms mannerisms
My mama is uber feminine and raised me the same way. I'm not as girly as I once was but it's ok to have a balance.
@rosahawk26 That is because a big percent of black men want black women to be masculine so she support him fanancially and they even take pride on that posting without a drop of shame pic and long paragraph about how women support them financially, think about it the only one that benefit from black women being masculine are black men
@rosahawk26 I've noticed that many women are threatened by a finding a woman because somewhere in a woman's mind subconsciously she knows that effeminate woman attracts men. Maybe that's that competitive Spirit coming out.
I’ve picked up my moms masculine ways and I hate it. But, I’ve become very conscious of it and I’ve been working on myself relentlessly.
@rosahawk26 you hit the nail on its head.... I am from the southern part of Africa and this rife....I got shot to the point I was disgusted by feminine things
I’ve noticed when I’m around masculine women they tend to check theirselves and want to be more feminine. Being a feminine woman exudes an undeniable aura.. women will start being uncomfortable with their selves when a lady is subtle, gentle and kind in the way she speaks and do things. It’s also challenging to be a feminine lady in the work place when you work with other women. If you work with men it’s a win win. They’ll cater to you and do everything under the sun just to impress you.. 🤣 I went to the grocery store wearing a nice sun dress and had on my makeup and smiled.. men literally ran to help me with everything I needed.. 😊
NemaLeem. Being a feminine woman should not be a challenge. Being a female is what you are and therefore being feminine should come naturally. Not enough black women embrace femininity.
Bze Bee it’s a challenge for those who were raised to have to do masculine duties that combat the feminine energy. Masculine women struggle with the softer side of theirselves. So the essence of someone feminine being around others who are masculine makes them feel uncomfortable. Moreover, femininity isn’t tied to just being a male or female. It’s an essence that’s exuded through the way you carry yourself in everyday life.
I believe I always had that femininity yet it remained dormant for a while. After much growth, it is exuding itself and I embrace it fully❤
Good for you. Now check if a girl dances in a pole naked she receives money. Who really cares. I’m not trying to be rude I’m just saying life is not all about impressing men and looking good. I really think we are better then that. But I see your point you dressed nice and men helped you. Okay. I get it I really do. I just don’t see what’s the point to this really. If he will do this to all girls that dress nice and smile, for me it means it’s nothing out of this world.
NemaLeem I don’t wanna be that person but the way you come across is not feminine at all
“Is your hair believable” sent me 😭
The Earthiverse lmaooo
I wonder how she looks cause that profile pic is looking tired
Aminah A your wig must be unbelievable. Cause you mad.
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What I've come to learn most women are threatened by very feminine women, perhaps subconsciously they know that feminine women attract men and that brings out that competitive spirit in them.
V free Oooooh this is a good point.
This goes even deeper tbh. We can see how what you said plays to the light skin vs dark skin issue that is especially prevalent amongst ALOT of women in the black community. It’s been programmed that Light skins are seen as more feminine while darker skin women are viewed as more masculine. Thus, you have some darker skin women taking it as far as bullying, disliking or “hating” on light skinned women BC they don’t receive the same attention/ reverence as their lighter sistas do! It’s a shame but this just highlights that Black women as a community HAVE to take back their power. And taking back their power INCLUDES stepping into their feminine power to break the stigma!
@翁慈玲 it's ok their are lots of feminine men aka beta male waiting for you. Sir
@@honestlyonnie well this is 100% true.🎯
A lot of these ‘feminine’ women like to talk down on masculine women...
I dress feminine , but mentally I'm masculine. Had to be to survive all my life
I understand!
You and everyone else
Do you want a medal?
Participation trophy?
@@DrSoapp I want bitter, evil !@# people like you to not exist
Denying help from a man is something I need to work on the most! 😪😅
My twin
Lmao for real!
Honestly. It’s so true. I can totally relate. In some cultures in Africa, women are brought up with and emphasis on knowing how to cook, clean, study, work, manage a home and finances, so in a sense learning to ‘do-it-all’ from a young age before they’ve even married. So I think that where this ‘do-it-all’ mindset can come from. I know I need to work on it and I’m thankful for this video.
@JessBusiness exactly. Same with my issues. I do them a favor and they can't do one for me back.
I deny help from men because I don't want to have to give sex in return. 🤷
"Women who pay mens bills are desperate" straight like that! Lol
Maybe they've been together for a while and then he lost his job temporarily? This is why we hate BW
Exactly
And here I go just the other day thinking I was doing something feminine by telling a guy I pay my OWN Bills ! I have my OWN house! and my OWN car! You should of seen the look on his face he was highly impressed but for his OWN DUSTY BENEFIT !!! 🤣
Stop bragging and showing off. You will attract the losers looking for a mama.
I hate when silly Black women go into their independent woman speech. I am a woman and it bugs me.
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@@jpat989 Oh no, someone can't be miss independent?
Realize this you don't understand a real 💯 MAN we don't care what you have MATERIALS we care about your HEART
Funny how it all boils down to getting a man or his attention in regard to being feminine. Why not be feminine because it’s who you are or you like it
Right
Because men are a prize
Exactly
True
Very stupid comment this is a hypergamy channel what did you expect. If you want simple feminity then go to a feminity channel simple .
My father set my standards very high, wouldn’t dream of working to support and finance any man on this earth full STOP!!!
Your dad is a good man for that
Consider yourself blessed I wish my father was like that
I love my dad. He's a good man but he told me that I should be helping my husband with bills
You're blessed! Father's figure is so important in a woman's life.
My parents set my standards very high. My dad was a stay at home dad and my mum the breadwinner. The perfect combination.
I'm masculine as hell smh🥺
I feel horrible 😩😩
🙏💗
Stop cussing lol
This is not a bad thing ! Omg. Like okay you're a little masculine so what?? That doesn't automatically mean men won't be attracted to you. I'm sorry but that is the very truth. A MAN or whoever will see your strengths and put them with his instead of complaining about how a woman has courage and leadership skills. Pointing out that he himself has ego issues. Come on. Love yourself. BE YOURSELF. PLEASE ❤❤❤❤❤
@D'Crypto Space I was stating that any person reguardless of race, should feel comfortable with being themselves. They shouldn't feel the need to change themselves unless they are hurting someone. Being yourself attracts the person you are meant to be with and want to be with.
Our black men aren’t protecting us so we have to step up , it sucks but it’s our reality 🗣🗣(and for all the people saying just marry out,that’s a whole other struggle,I can’t date my oppressors,and it’s hard dealing with the anti blackness other cultures hold)🤷🏽♀️🤦🏾♀️
Well you're choosing the wrong men. We are out here. Some of yall just get fooled by the loud ones.
lordjohnson48 not enough of y’all to go around unfortunately. There are more dusty black men for sure lol
Princes crawford Go where your stock is higher. If you’re finding yourself encountering feminine dusty black men then why not try looking to other races of men?
Nah. We just have to love ourselves to not settle...
Defend ur bloody self
Femininity is our greatest tool
Tara Chance why? (That’s a real question) I don’t understand “femininity” . I’m very embarrassed by it. But I really would like to understand if there is some
Type of power in it, other than attracting men.
It's the power of intuition, creating life, a softness that makes us vulnerable yet strong. Woman are amazing and our feminity is nothing to be embarrassed by, it'd to be embraced
@@ttime333 Amen.
@@Trailblazers323 exactly it's what sets us apart from men 💖
I can spot when it's exuding in a busy crowd .very powerful. A Power that draws you in , beckons your breath
I will submit when he will love me as he loves himself. God said it best.
👏👏👏Thank you!
God said a man is to love his wife as Christ loves the church and gave himself up for her.
He always right. Naturally He always says it best. 💕
God also said man shall not love thy beast
Kim Cham her husband. Not any man.
No one should curse not even a man also a man being dingy and looking unkept is not masculine, stop associating negative personality traits with masculinity
Exactly! I think even feminine women should be a little independent. Relying on men and being a damsel in distress is dangerous!
Latoya Griffin exactly, that’s a child not a feminine woman.
Tbh if it was not for the "social justice warriors" black women in the pass, we would not have the rights we have today. 💖 we make change
Yes there would have never been a Black Lives Matter movement without three female founders.
Agreed but right now it can sit down
Gaia Galaxy Yea, I was thinking that too! But I honestly feel like a lot of her points seemed to be discussing femininity through a very Eurocentric mindset. It was interesting but some stuff she said was just problematic. But hey if it works for her...who knows
@@thesundrippedgoddess4886 isn't femininity a cross racial/ethnic thing? Irrespective of culture or race feminine and masculine can be identified. The black community should realize we do have a higher ratio of masculine outputting women, It is reinforced by low marriage rates and fathers who fade into the background. Men have to compete with women to be the man so they leave instead.
ReRe Plays ReRe Plays no it doesn’t always translate across all races and ethnic groups. For example , something as simple as natural hair in general is seen as a “masculine” trait by a lot of non black ppl (and some black ppl) regardless of gender. Also, a lot of black folks in the USA like to ignore the fact that a lot of us come from ethnic groups centered around the matriarch even pre slavery. We’ve been brainwashed to see things like power, outspokenness, independence, and leadership in black women as negative/masculine and intimidating when it’s really not. Even if we flip it, in certain cultures two black men holding hands here would often be seen as “gay/feminine/ “sus” but if you travel elsewhere it may be normal. Imo, Low marriage rates have more to do with changing times/ mindsets and the fact that statistically blk women just have way more clout than ever before n a lot of the “strong/masculine” blk men are caught in the prison industrial complex. If this video resonates with you then so be it but I personally just felt like some shit was just off about it. (Oh sorry forgot I wasn’t supposed to curse as a feminine woman lol )
Smoking cigarettes and drinking heavy alcohol makes a woman look masculine.
I feel feminine but I’m stuck on being tough. I was molested as a child and raped as a teenager. That made me not trust masculine men. I’m attracted to masculine men who aren’t too masculine. I want an equal. Someone who will take care of me and I return will take care of him. It’s hard as a victim of masculinity to allow that soft feline side show. I hate the sexual attention I get when I’m dressed up. It unnerves me and makes me feel unsafe due to my trauma. So tell me? How am I supposed to be everything you tell me I have to be to attract a man if the type of man I desire is also the type of man who hurt me. It’s not as simple as you make it out to be here. I know I look beautiful in a dress I also know that’s the only thing that will be considered for. Not my intelligence, not my strength or my adversity. I want to be loved for everything I am masculine and feminine. I shouldn’t have to fit a “characteristic” to be approved. I should be loved for who I am BECAUSE of who I am and what I’ve been through. Not because I look like a girl and put on the costume to play a role in this stupid social game of male vs female.
I can relate 😢
Therapy helps. No matter what you wear, or what you look like, some out there will find you attractive. Men aren't all bad and evil just the ones that hurt you. Those aholes smell victim from a mile away and its understandable that you're afraid it may happen again. Trust takes time and that's good. But therapy is necessary. Good men understand limits and parameters and it sounds like you're attracted to them bc you yearn for their protection. Rewire your brain from trauma is difficult but not impossible. Surround yourself with positive strong feminine women who respect men. Warm wishes and best of luck in your recovery.
Well, you just answered your own question..just be you and the right guy will appreciate.
I totally relate to this comment
Baby get a therapy. And life can't always ne like we will want it or like it is suppose to . the reality is the reality And every thing has rules ,so love And relations too. I promis you that not all men are rapers and abusers you just need to go for therapy to heal work on yourself it is hard but you need to do it and you will get the best of your feminity. You gorgeous And i am sure there is a man somewhere ready to fight to protect you..
It’s a whole lot of women out here married to Dustys n going around bragging that they got a man 👨 😂😂😂😂 yeah Dust bunnies 🐰
Talk about it!!!!
Lmaooo so true
Preach!
THEY ON HERE!!!!!
And you still single because you call feminine women “pick me” meanwhile they are just feminine
Damn .. I cuss more than I would like 😂
Me too uggggggggg 😡 I try so hard to not.....
Y’all teach me lol 😂
I’m tryna learn how to cuss someone out when I’m arguing with them. You knoww, going below the belt
Me too, i have a nasty mouth
Nora Peace same! 🤦🏾♀️
Same I have a potty mouth😩
I’m not being funny but can you imagine what the world would be like for black people if black women were not a SJW? I’m not hating on black men but I don’t feel like they are doing enough for the community as a whole
What does SJW mean!? Sorry
Ruja Shinkz social justice warrior.
@@crissoa much appreciated! Thank you x
Look at how hard it is to be a black man, especially in America. If we're not getting shot down or killing each other, were being stripped of civil rights, opportunities, and anything else than can progress us as men. Look at how society views the black man.
Legally, no, you are not denied any of your civil rights. If you mean you are held back by sutble, more nuanced mean of prejudice, those are not good enough exuses to justify not moving up in society. Wether you deserve it or not, those are your burdens to bare as a black man in america. Cary that burden with humble and courage, be strong and prove them all wrong, i know you can.
I once dated a social justice warrior who was very beautiful, but she often mistook anger for strength and it turned me off! She also cursed like a sailor, and was very much a feminist but didn’t know it! I once told her that none of this turned me on! She wrote me off and said she can see me with a white woman and I’m the typical black man who’s intimidated by a strong black woman! I replied by saying “black men already have it hard in society, we don’t want to come home and have to fight with you for power in our own home! Constantly challenging your man to prove is manhood is combative and masculine!” Needless to say, today I’m married to a very chocolate feminine sista, and the last time I check, the other lady is still out here fighting for justice and still mistaking anger for strength, single as a dollar piece! Listen to this commentary ladies, she’s not staring y’all wrong!
Sounds like you dated a girl with toxic masculinity. She sounds a lot like my dad, mistaking anger for strength. I will always fight for justice but only when the situation calls for it. I personally have always been more masc than fem but I’d never create unnecessary problems because of it. Masculine women are cool in my opinion, it just depends on wether she’s toxic about it or not.
I once dated a man who cursed like a sailor...well close to it. Everytime he called it was an assault to my poor ears. I just knew I couldn't deal with that on a regular basis. I couldn't even imagine my life like that or even being around him for too long. Every 3rd word out of his mind was a curse word. No thanks! So it goes both ways with the cursing. Just makes you look like a trash mouth.
Imagine being with a girl who trashes you on the internet
Reminder to the people in the comments: There ARE great men out there. You WILL find your person. 💖💖💖
💖💖💖pls let him be attractive to me, can't date a great man i dont wanna f**k lol
It’s impossible not in this day and age social media etc.
Men don’t want one woman they want to have sex with all woman on earth
@@CupcakesX I know what men are up to! Ha-ha! I found the truth! Now you’ll see me how I spread the truth to the world
@@CupcakesX I don’t know..
Sounds more like men are becoming weaker... why do I have to dim my light for him to shine. Men need to be stronger! They seem so lost and confused and sometimes enabled. Women are fed up! We have no choice but to be strong.....
AMEN!!!
Yeah be strong for yourself not men or u will be alone..... simple as that
She said nothing about dimming your light.. balanced out your light
Exactly! There are alot of feminine womens but masculine mans are rare
Society hates masculine men
you can fight for social issues while being feminine, using your words, keep it classy, don't need to be in the frontlines for change
Why do you need to fight in the first place?
My father raised me, so I do have male views and opinions. But it helps me to understand men better. I'm very feminine and I love looking like a woman, I would prefer a man take charge and take care of things, but most of them have been raised by women and don't know how to be men. I saw firsthand what a good man is supposed to be and I think that makes it hard for the men i come in contact with. I've also been told by men that they like the way I think. They like the fact that I think more like them but carry myself like a woman.
Sound like Steve Harvey book act like a woman think like a man
Some situations force normally feminine woman into being more masculine in order to maintain balance. For example when a man leave a women with his children and does not consistently do his masculine part because he is too busy running around acting feminine. The woman unfortunately has to step into that role and bring the BALANCE into the situation because the feminine acting man left his responsibilities on the table. The reality is some unfair situations women go through in life forces them into more masculine roles that they didn't sign up for/ don't even want but maintaining a balance of masculinity and femininity becomes the true challenge for women placed in these type positions. OAN: I know some prissy over the top feminine woman who do some of these things on this list so let's not get stereotypical! Healthy balance is they answer. Not being more of something/less of something but BALANCING THE POLARITIES!
Yes!!
What about finding him/her a good mentor?
Thats basically what she is saying is realize what you may lack in or do too much of and balance or incert it for what you need specifically... But one has to be true to themselves and observant and self aware to be able to make the proper call on themselves ...
Nice try at trying to put the excuse for female masculine behavior on men. Nice try.
@@mattm.5436 lol to each his own. If that's your opinion then okay. I can agree to disagree but that won't change how I feel/expressed from my experience though. Nice try I must say... Nice try! LOL
Submission can lead to abuse and I don’t like that.
Dating a feminine man can lead to abuse too. If he doesn’t fell like he’s living up to expectations of manhood, he may become violent.
Angel Nicole yes it’s makes sense if his expectations are realistic if he is good to you and take good care of his family..but if not when he is gonna fall ,don’t think he is not gonna bring all the family whit him.
Thats when you submit to the wrong man. I've done it before. Please protect yourself.
Kettly Milien Brutus. You are wrong. Man was designed to lead and the woman was designed to follow... If you meet a man are you dumb enough to let him lead when you know he is not capable of leading? That’s what you need to ask yourself. A woman with masculine energy will ALWAYS be attracting a feminine man.
Not if you submit to a man who submits to God.
I stopped being the social justice warrior years ago. Why should women defend men that won't defend themselves?
Social Justice isn’t about “defending men”
@The admirable lorde ken You are absolutely right so I won't. Time for you guys to become men and earn respect.
This comment makes no sense
Yea I disagree with that part everything else I agree with. I’ll repost what I said just for you to see:
“I agree with everything 100 percent except the social Justice warrior part, a Lioness plays a part in protecting her children physically and community especially spiritually! There is time and place for war and Right now the BLK community is at war and it would be foolish of us to sit down and allow the men to fight this battle alone, we need to rise up behind them! We should not be trying to overtake his role as King but when the King needs help the Queen is next in line to keep things in order! Great video tho!”
@@charmaineespeut4627 If he’s your man he doesn’t have to earn your respect as a nurturing feminine woman, You should automatically respect your husband! Period, no exceptions!
Dam this hit home I seriously need to change 🤦🏾♀️
Me to
IKR....
No you do not! F this video for making women think something is wrong w them cause they dont act “feminine “. This person wouldn’t know what femininity or masculinity if they got hit over the head with it...theyre just old old old ass fashioned standards designed to make us hate ourselves...don’t believe it..keep doing you.
@@cvlts222yy3 yea I agree, everyone should be comfortable just being themselves. If they want to change sure go ahead it's their life, but they should'nt feel like something is wrong with them just because they're not a certain way.
@@rikkoyugi8620 is it wrong for man to not wanting masculine women. at least that's what Feminist think.
I have a nasty tone. I was raised by my father, grandfather and uncle... Now, at 26, I am struggling to find my femininity and since doing that, I feel so much better, so much happier and social lol. Being masculine as a woman is drying the spirit out of you.
I am a masculine woman but I’m working on it oh and my weight too 🙄
me too girl!
You can do it! All the best :)
Nasya C me too 🤦🏽♀️
Embrace it girl...nothing wrong with it..dont let this trash video fool you. We all carry natures duality within ourselves thus we ALL have masc and femme traits.
You can do it!!!😘
My mom cusses like a sailor and she's been married for 13 years. Huh.
@Tenacious Tee I think the cussing thing depends on the guy.
I think your mom is the exception and not the rule. Some men love women that curse. Some men love women that make more money than they do. Some men love women that don't bathe regularly...
Edit: I'm NOT saying cursing is as offensive as not bathing. Lol Simply that, you can find a few men they like it, but most don't.
Right she has known that man, you should not lead with that and I am sure your mom didnt.
She may be married but it is a masculine trait 🤷🏾
I cuss like a sailor too and I've been with my hubby for 12 years. In fact he said if I didn't cuss I wouldn't be me. 😂😂😂
I couldn’t comfortably let a woman pay for my bills.
My mother tried to groom me into being angry, combative and agressive like she is. In my family walking away from conflict and drama is seen as scary and soft behavior.
Sounds like a lack of accountability to me
@@DrSoappNot necessarily There is conflict avoidance and then there is respecting yourself enough not to tolerate disrespectful behaviour, especially when they're being irate at which point you can't reason with them any more and it's usually best to resume the conversation once they've calmed down a bit
I am very feminine I need to be a little more masculine. Some masculinity is ok 🖤
Mermaid Monroe - Well said! It's called balance, two polarities as one learning to balance both the energies.
Yes, it's all about balance.
What I found to be important is that you can use your femininity in different ways to get different things. You can still be logical and strategic while staying in your feminine energy.
@PurelyAfrican Beautifully Stated👏👏
@PurelyAfrican - So are you equating femininity to being a pushover? Because those two are not the same. You can be feminine and be powerful, strong, confident. I think we need to re-examine the definition of femininity.
No effect, captain.
I don't have a man for no other reason than me being mean. I've realized when men try to talk to me I'm instantly annoyed. LOL
I know...most of them turn me off. I just realize that I don't want no man. Maybe that will change if the right one comes along. Otherwise, I'm done. I'm focusing on ME!
I grew up with black women - hood full of black women where I grew up . Black women always act mean in most cases . All my female friends , sisters and family - relatives . I don't think that is anything to be phased by .Most black women have a very good soul - no matter how they come across .
😂😂
It’s ok to be annoyed I think when you’re trying to imitate him it’s a dumb idea
Remember ladies, the woman describe here is for our worthy Kings y'all. Please don't be this woman for dusty. Dusty free zone y'all.
In my twenties in the 70s, I went after jobs that were male-dominated fields. I was a welder, structure mechanic, worked in an oil refinery, warehouse work all the into my mid-thirties. I was never from a child encouraged or taught to me feminine. I was always climbing trees and played boys games such as tussling with other boys and chasing people. As a result, I have nothing but masculine energy but not attracted to girls. I wore nothing but pants, T-shirts and tennis shoes, short Afro, no makeup and earrings. The first boy I ever liked was not attracted to me and I used to chase him which pushed him further away from me. Now that I think about it, the reason he was not attracted to me was that he was attracted to feminine girls. It's just as you said, I attract ONLY low energy feminine men meaning they are always in need. ( HoBo sexuals) I always had the job, the car and a place to stay. Some also characterize me as a Lesbian. Feminine women, (lipstick Lesbians) are drawn to me.
I have had the same issue. And now it makes me wonder sometimes. But I wouldn't change me to please someone's ego.
So proud of the progress I’ve made. I recently moved to a beautiful area 15 minutes from Lenox mall in Atlanta. I’ve been working on my fitness for the past six months and I have lost over 40 pounds. I tap more into my feminine side everyday. So happy I found your channel.
Madebymelanin Congrats 🎉
Mlle Bonnie thank you a million 😘😘😘
How would I know if a man is controlling versus wanting to lead?
I think someone trying to control you would make you feel somewhat uncomfortable whereas someone trying to lead wouldn't. Don't ignore your feelings!
Reabetswe Mokale I agree ☝️
Yes you could feel it. You would just naturally become more feminine around him too.
A man who tries to control you are the ones that will try and isolate you from family, he don’t won’t you to go out with your friends or family, he doesn’t won’t you wearing makeup or wearing sexy clothes, yet the clothes could be classy. He tries and tells you what to do. He’s a controller. A man who leads his home is a good man. He accepts what you wear yet, dress appropriate. A man that doesn’t mind you going out with your friends or family. You’ll know the difference.
You'll just know. A woman's intuition is her greatest gift. Listen to it and use it wisely. A controlling man is often confrontational, manipulative and loves to isolate you from friends and family. He is often nitpicky about things that generally shouldn't be a big deal or his concern. He plays victim and twists situations into thinking you are always the problem and that it's something you must fix or change whether it's about yourself or the situation at hand.
A man who leads is confident in himself and in you. He knows when to let things go or to address things that bothers him with maturity. He is a provider and protector. He respects you but is not a pushover and expects the same amount of respect reciprocated. He is not controlling or confrontational. He is responsible and holds himself accountable for his actions.
"Is your hair believable?" 😂😭😂😭😂😭😂
Ok gotta stop cussing so guilty as charged
I'm a feminine black women, and I find black women have too much masculine ENERGY. I agree with video. My loves my feminity
I look for respect and receptiveness early in any relationship before submission. Submission is something I'd like to earn as time goes on. If you submit way too early, I'm going to think something is wrong with you. That's just me.
define submission in your words
@@AkwaIbomDoll knowing your role or responsibility in a relationship. And not stepping outside of that. Not slavery.
@@aaronoliver2235 what do you believe is the role of a woman in the relationship. I’m sure it may vary from man to man in expectation, but I am asking what your personal expectations are.
Not be a hoe
Agreed it's a red flag.
I’ve started my feminine journey not too long ago and I am a high school student and we started around 2 weeks ago. I decided to dress up this year and wear clothes that make me feel good. Everyone always compliments or says I look expensive and professional as a lot of the teens at my school dress like they just hopped out of the bed. Men (teachers) and the guys at my school always cater to me and help me out. I’ve noticed that a lot of people use a softer tone with me as well and respect me more also
I’m a tomboy & I can’t help it. 🤷🏽♀️ Welp, I guess I’m not “feminine” enough.
You have the ability to change and be feminine if you want. That's the great thing about this thing called life. You choose!! 😉
Same. But I know I can be girly at times and can be more girly if I wanted to
Same
Ruru Home I was molested at 8 years old. But I never thought that I was so conservative and only sexy for my boyfriend because of it. I just never wanted to advertise something I was not selling, being that I’m not having sex until marriage. Even before I decided that, I was never very Scantily clad. I just have more respect for myself than that. Plus, I’ve heard men talk so bad about women and how they just use them for sex, I never wanted to be that person. So I need the ultimate commitment before I do anything that far
After ur ass get smaked you’ll be girly lool
I agree with all of your points , I love being feminine, I don’t want to be strong all the time . It is nice when a man wants and offers to help you . I recently purchased a tv and was talking to my mom and was telling her I took a male friend with me so he could carry the tv for me and she said well you could’ve done it and I was like but why should I lol
Can you do a video on how to approach arguments as a feminine woman?
Feminine women don't argue.
Say it one good time and don't be long winded.
If need be and things get heated, you say 'I need to take some time"... and take a breather. Walk away.
Arguing is pointless.
Agree to disagree & move it along. Short & sweet
Start off with "I feel/it makes me feel...." Instead of "You this/that."
Don't be an airhead or a waffler. Let the other person talk and talk and talk. If you can respond with simple questions and quickly get to your point and finish it. Do it.
Don't argue at all/walk away, stay calm and soft yet firm, or cry to get your way.
I saw a comment talking about "submission leads to abuse" well duh submission leads to abuse if you're submitting to an abusive man but if you're submitting to a respectful alpha male who wouldn't even dream of laying a finger on a woman then there shouldn't be a problem.
Submitting is not the problem who you submit to is
Lorii Rayy true, choose wisely and vet him properly
Y’all are really killing me with this masculine and feminine ish it doesn’t matter at this point
If it doesn’t matter then we can’t complain when men don’t want to do anything for us. 🤷🏻♀️
Lex Nicole. Says a masculine energised woMAN.
It does.
Angel Nicole that’s my point the dynamics are so messed up now there’s no point in trying to go the extra mile for a generation of men who don’t know their place. It starts with them.
Vladimir Lamérique everything is equal rights now gender roles are a thing of the past. No ones saying be masculine but being extra feminine to the point where it’s not natural just makes you seem fake and disingenuous. Be yourself ladies just remain respectful and classy.
My friend in this cruel world, you have to survive. It is good to protect yourself in all ways possible
Being feminine is bad for survive in this world.
Being Successful, stong, independent doesn't u masculine or less feminine.
Listen I checked myself and it comes down to this. I went out and got my own success. If you as a black man see that as a threat, then step off it is not my fault your not prepared to build yourself up like I did.
Being Successful ,strong and smart doesn't make you less feminine.
It's how to approach lift decisions like men or women.
Feminine and masculine is like opposite pole which attract each other.
It's ok to be masculine but you can't expect masculine attract to toward masculine. If they do it will be shit show.
They will expect u to do same they do will expect you to feel same pain as they do, their will be no love only selfishness. When selfishness takeover love it becomes toxic relationship.
Hello! I am a fan and subscriber however I would not agree with the social justice warrior comment, we must take in account what our ancestors did to get us here today. I also appreciate how you break everything down in your videos. I am both masculine and feminine, it's all about knowledge of self and knowing when to use which. Being too feminine can also be seen problematic to highly paid men as I am constantly around them. I love you all!
I agree! The social justice warrior is the only one I didn't agree with
@@amiasmr6008 Yes I think the women she is referring to are the hotep type that in some communities who may "ride" or hold thier men down because they believe that there are forces and systems that are against them which I believe there are. That of course should not stop them from that bag! A woman like Harriet Tubman, hell even the Queen may be a different story. I believe they should be applauded, to discourage that is borderline disrespectful. The big thing here is that a woman should ALWAYS have a bag of her own. Some men just may simply need guidance. I mean like very little. It you truly want to work with him to help you. Its character vs characteristics. Most of the time they WILL give you what you want. Alot of times we may get advice from various channels because we are trying to figure things out. Through all my experience, I have learned you should never turn yourself into a product for the sake of being taken care of unless you are ready to deal with what comes with it. Men are not stupid and will def be hip to your games, especially if they have money. All of these things we want must be thier idea and choice, you are just doing what is necessary to make it so. It is not as easy or explainable as some make it look. Alot of things are unspoken and in the shadows. Securing a man for the bag is about your character, how you use your words to finesse and how you can finesse yourself to do the things that cannot be seen with the eye. To be a wife is not about just looking good either, you must know how to bring that special irreplaceable thing to the "table" that your man can't live without, that takes big practice. If it's only looks and demands, then whatever man marrys you may not be able to take the family to the next level and you could still be stuck running things from the back. Or replaced.
@@nmdetroit 👌👍👍 ahh okay what you're saying makes sense to me. Thank you
@@amiasmr6008 no problem at all I'm a social warrior lol
Just Run Message delivery was unnecessarily scathing. Your reply wasn’t meant to inform, uplift, support black women, rather debase.
All black women need to see this 💯
The sad part is that u can't ever tell a woman that she's masculine.... it would come across insulting.... it has to come from self reflection..... it's only been a couple years that I realised that I had masculine energy and it caused problems in my relationship
that part
I can't do all of this just to make a man feel needed I love to challenge myself. And I enjoy fixing things myself around the house and ect.And I also notice other races of men work beside their woman doing some mans job and they don't have a problem with it.Why is it always black woman job to make everybody feel comfortable.people should just accept people for who they are it's not rocket science.
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exactly
@imjustsaying Working construction???? Are you and those Bob the builders insane????
you dont have to change for anybody, theres someone out there for everyone but you have to know how to market/advertise yourself. as crazy as it may sound. strangers dont know anything about you so if you want to attract someone who will accept you for who you are, you have to do better about showcasing EXACTLY who you are. be vulnerable. also if youre not the one to go up and talk to people you have to atleast make yourself look approachable. nowadays both men and women have the same ideas about not wanting to make the first move.
thank you!!
# 2 - me sitting here realizing I was a dust bunny from age 17 to 25 through two relationships 🤦🏾♀️ Chloe, I appreciate your videos so much omg I've been doing it so wrong I'm sitting here embarrassed at the shyt I use to put up with. I got some serious work ahead, Trust me I'll make you proud🙏🏾
I just subscribed, and this is my new favorite channel ❤️. A few videos in, and I’m discovering many difficult truths about myself. However, one cannot live in the solution, unless the problem (the truth) is seen. Thanks so much ⭐️
I don’t think people should differentiate behaviors as feminine or masculine. Just be you
I agree 100% ......us men run into these type of women saying “You have to be strong enough to handle me.” A lot of women these days are Masculine and don’t even know it. They are so independent that they independence their way into loneliness.
Not all masculine women are like that tho. Some are lesbians, Alex. Some are even into submissive boys (such as myself) my playlist proves it 😉
Some women don't choose to be "masculine" sometimes they have no " choice"!!
Agree!!!
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Some of us simply are born that way.Like i’ve never been the typical emotional feminine type. Like except for my look i’ve always been naturally bossy a bit shy but bossy and always seaked leadership and not too emotionally expressive. Like sensitive Yes but never been the type to express them easily.
My sister has many of these traits and I think that's why she has issues finding a masculine man. Last guy she dated sent her a pic of his butt. What is wrong with these guys?
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I really enjoy your channel. Great content!!! Keep up the great work👍🏾 we need this. ❤️❤️❤️
Love your videos, I get tickled every time you so genuinely and easily segue into why we need to subscribe to this channel! 😬
The key is to have the Yin/Yang in your energy.
That's the truth. It's all about balance.
Even in the wild males impress the females. Male birds have brighter feathers and have a mating call to attract their mate.
My mom passed this on to me I have been working on this for a while, growing up my friends always made jokes about her having a deep voice, the way she dressed etc. She doesn't have that nasty attitude at all she just really masculine and real direct. She still my queen though, I do admit she is something else and a PEOPLE person she doesn't worry what others think, very strong mindset. People love and hate her but she keeps it moving! She raised 3 girls alone and the only one that was super feminine passed away at 14 and she looked just like my mom but different shade so at least I got a taste of what my mom could be like feminine lol.
Chloe, I hope you're staying safe and please keep making content like this! I wish you could do a whole like 10 video segment on just masculine women, their habits and psychology. I appreciate your content so much!
I think i have the two side femininity and masculinity, I'm femininity when I'm with my husband, i sit back and leave him do the hard work provider, protector and leader things and he's happy about it,although i think I'm smart and knowledgeable than him but i show him how he's my reliable person and i appreciate his efforts.
And i mostly use my masculinity when I'm around other men which i don't want their attention.
femininity make me feel beautiful and relaxing and masculinity makes me feel strong and independent, i love it both and use them in their place 😊
With my husband I'm princess and with other men mrs do it-all😂
#Peace from Mrs Somalian😊
Love it!👏🏽👏🏽👍🏼
Same
Haa, yes.
Love you Chloe. Thank you! I’m 29 and have never been taught this
🤔🤔The more we began to operate in our feminine role, we naturally force them to operate in theirs. I love it🙌🏽
I have a lot of masculine vibes and I have yo admit, I like it. Of course I also have a feminine side.
It's never only one side you pic. You're an individual which means you have both inside you, one more than the other.
Omg! I got work to do STARTING TODAY, this just told me I’m a masculine woman and my man is a feminine
Unless you put him in a chastity cage and be his domme.
@@sub87342 huh?
@@IamChyna my wife is more dominant and I willingly wear a chastity cage for her and I don't orgasm Unless she opens it etc...I am very alpha outwardly and earn 2,500 a week pay all her bills..but she is just super dominant and I accept that and submit
Sometimes thats how things are..maybe you can dress in leather and be his domme... look up femdom
Do you think he would wear a chastity cage for you?
I’m sorry but your telling me that if men aren’t stepping up to the plate to solve the social injustices... I’m just supposed to shut up and be feminine and continue to let these injustices happen?
These is what white women do..disgrace
Masculine is the "push" and "penatrative feminine is the "pull" and receptive. Think of it like masculine being the positive charge and feminine being the negative charge. These are COSMIC LAWS and theres no beating it. You either are in tuned with it and prosper or go against it and have chaos. Our hormones are MUCH more important then we realize and it is in the hormones that you can see the corresponding gender traits.
I guess I have a hormonal imbalance then because I’m fully tuned into myself and I dress like a lesbian.
sometimes as a single mother in the home you have no other choice but to naturally fufill some masculinity and these rough neck men don't know how to treat us soft and fragile but like their counterparts at times..explain that?
The message you delivered in this video was both accurate and meaningful. I was so impressed and blown away to hear this coming from a woman in this day and age. I love what you are doing please continue to spread the good word. You have my full support
I tend to wear baggy clothes a lot and I like to do everything on my own... I guess I need to stop that,I've never noticed that it would be considered masculine LOL 🌌
Divine 15 You can balance it! I wear a full face with hair done and wear baggy clothes all the time! It can totally work!
@@trinity9560 True True lol 💅
Divine 15 I didn’t consider it masculine either but I do notice the difference between the men I attract when I’m dolled up versus when I’m wearing jeans or sweats.
To be honest, I'm missing an ass, so I prefer to wear baggy pants, but I pair it with a crop top or something tight on top. I think if you are comfortable and feel good in what you're wearing, you will be less self conscious and more personable/ conversational.
WTF, so your suppose to be a doormat! No one should curse. Etc etc, your really reaching in THIS 😏
Barbie Rae lmaooo
I recognize some masculine traits that I have and am willing to work on myself. When you know better you’ll do better
Dang🤦🏽♀️....she hurt all my little feelings.🤣🤣😓 Subscribed
I don’t have any of those qualities and I’m still by myself, I am saved, sanctified and Holy Ghost filled.
What’s wrong with being independent? A lot of men do find that attractive. There are also songs about how sexy an independent woman is. I was raised this way. I was told to pay your own bills, make sure the house is in your name just in case he acts stupid so he can leave instead of you getting thrown out on the streets and to never depend on a man because he will back stab you in a heartbeat. Do things for yourself because a man might not always be there to do it for you. Its not wrong to do for yourself to protect yourself. It’s hard letting a man lead because they are so unpredictable.
And unworthy too!!!
Trueeeeee omg i like to be feminine and have a man wrap his shoulders around me and but i would never depend my whole living on something unpredictable, better safe than sorry
I’m new to your channel. I’m absolutely in love with the content. Finally a safe space to counsel black when into taking their femininity back. I hope you know how important this channel is.
Omg I need to change my ways because I see a couple faults of mine and why I’m single, Thank you
tag line We owe it to ourselves and our future! I’m happy to know I’m not the only person who realizes change is good ❤️❤️ blessings to you
Im embarrassed as to how much of this I fit the character of smh 😭🤦🏾♀️
Thank you for clarifying a bit about submission and that we are not to submit to *any* and *every* man, submission does not mean tolerating abuse, mistreatment, unrepentant and toxic behavior etc, and remembering that not every man is worth being submitted to!
Yup! I’ve seen firsthand in my family what hypermasculinity in a woman will get you. I’m striving for a different outcome. I understand where it comes from as I watched my mom (single mother, then dusty stepfather who went his whole life without a father figure) deal with the repercussions. I admit, I had masculine moments at times but for the most part my femininity dominates. I’m grateful for content like this 😊
So you would rather sit in the face of injustice, injustice that sometimes affect your own people, but not say or do anything the may affect change all in the name of being a dainty, feminine woman? That's stupid but ok.
If being vocal about women’s rights and specifically black womens rights is masculine , I guess I’m a man. I’ve always been independent and that won’t change. I also dress androgynously and I never wear makeup. And being 5”11 doesn’t help😂 my hair is long and curly and it’s either up or down. Because I don’t give a fuck! The men today aren’t worth impressing or changing for. Plus I see a lot of gross people in relationships. There’s someone out there for everyone. Black women just have to be open minded and expand their options. Black guys don’t like me and I’m okay with that, for some reason I pull white guys or others. It’s whatever
shareen C I feel you I have demonstrated every behaviour listed at some point or another. I have personally had a few opportunities to ‘settle down’ but I like being an advocate for social change, I like making my own money, swearing,, not caring about make up and shaving all the time I think societies beauty standards are crazy high and on a day to day takes too much effort!
But I told my self an affirmation about attracting black guys specifically and it works when I us it consistently.
It goes.. I am always attractive great black guys
I love when black men express their interest in me.
I appreciate the love I receive from black men.
Not only did new guys start talking to me, my male friend, brother and dad treated me much better too.
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Women have the right to be warriors and leaders and to impress and take control.. they have the right to leave the house without a bit of makeup on their faces and still be beautiful and confident ..
You have the right - but that's not what masculine men want.
Lool nobody said u didnt
Rania Farah Preach!
A Jackson Masculine men realize that the makeup comes off at night right? Or are women supposed to let their faces suffocate 24/7, 365 so that a masculine man can look at her like a trophy instead of a human being
You are so on point with this!!! I love being feminine & soft for my man. It's ok to be strong but leave it at the door. A strong man doesn't want a masculine woman. Ladies be mindful when you are choosing a partner, so that you don't feel the need to be masculine. Stop submitting to men that don't & can't earn you.
I don't agree with wearing make up you don't have to wear make up
@@annadavidson1091 I don't really wear makeup. I will do mascara, nude lip gloss & tinted moisturizer. My man THOUGHT he like long hair until I cut it short. When I let it grow out, he's like baby i thought you was guna get it trimmed back down...really?🤦🏾♀️
I love the way she jumps straight into it many thanks I ve been so unaware i all along thanks so much x
Wow...this was an eye-opener...I was feminine in my relationships but somehow it turned into control/verbal abuse in one relationship and a dusty in a longer one. They were aggressive but in different ways - I would end up with my feelings hurt a lot. So, instead of leaving sooner, I adapted and started giving them the same energy they were giving me to get the strength to leave (which I did). The problem is I’ve carried that over into a relationship where he wants to lead and be respected. He has professed his love for me verbally and shows it. He takes me out, holds doors for me, he willing to help with any *honey-do-lists* I have, he’s compassionate, he respects me, my opinions, my strength, and loves my son whose older with Asperger’s. He wants (well...wanted) to move in. What’s wrong?? I take it as controlling and that he’s being too sensitive every time I say something whether we’re laughing and joking or having a serious conversation. We get into these disagreements and he just stops talking to me....I mean for like days, weeks at a time.....radio silent instead of talking about it. I don’t think that he leaves to see someone else, it’s possible-but he tells me it’s out of frustration. Then he comes back like nothing happened...now I’m still upset and he says it’s because i over talk him and don’t let him gather his thoughts. My mouth is pretty reckless and I tend not to back down until MY point is made. My way. I just feeI like I have to be this way to protect myself. I don’t know how to get hold of this....I’ve already driven him away and I’m old enough to know better. Smh...
I think alot of women feel like our mouths is one of the few tools we have as women to fight with. And nobody, male or female wants to feel helpless and taken advantage of. I feel you sis!
I understand totally. I've been there. And sometimes I want to be the soft sensitive person. But now I'm so ever guarded
I am consciously trying to break the generational curse of having a masculine attitude. I'm very feminine looking. My nickname is Barbie doll. But I recognize that there has always been a power struggle in my relationships. I internally struggle with anyone (men) trying to lead me. But I need to let that go. I must do a lot of inner work. Great post, thank you!
Get a feminine man. When I say feminine I do no mean girly or weak. Some examples would being intuitive, open, supportive, strong, compassionate, and authentic.
You can find more info if you google it.
I am a feminine man and masculine women are always attracted to me. I do not mean they look like men but have masculine energy as in they are out spoken, protective, confident, and assertive just to name a few. It always works out that way. Feminine energy and masculine energy are attracted to each other it doesn't matter if that energy belongs to a women or man. if a women has masculine energy she be attracted to a man with feminine energy
I have never seen two feminine energies workout in a relationship or two masculine energies work workout in a relationship.
I want to add an example (but not the only example out there) of a feminine man that you would think is one. It is that of the famous boxer Mike Tyson. If you look at his birth chart he has a lot of feminine energy. Just look at his interviews and how he talk about rising pigeon birds as child. How he talks about his love for his children and how he talks about his past relationships and current one.
@@abrahanrodriguez9003 You are absolutely correct- I definitely have found that "feminine" men are easier to harmonize with, by a landslide. I am certainly attracted to very masculine men, but later come to huge issues because they don't understand the (intuitive) points I bring up, as you say.
Thank you for the great example of Mike Tyson.
I've tried to really tone down my masculine side.. It's tough work and unnatural. But still I try lol.
Thanks for your words of wisdom. ❤️
@@RoRo-mj8nc Your welcome.
But please do not tone down your masculine side to please other people.
Be true to yourself when connecting with others and the right guy will accept you.
Great points! Can you do a video on how to correct each flaw/masculine trait you discussed?