I love how open and transparent you are about stuff like this. It teaches us to love ourselves just the way we are. Thanks for always being so inspiring đ
Thank you for speaking up about this. In a world where there are so many unrealistic standards we need to remember to create our own and just be unapologetically ourselves â€đ
I know that it is so difficult to find the thin line between trying to be more comfortable in your own skin and actually doing something about your insecurities. Really appreciate your honesty about your struggles. I hope that you feel more comfortable and confident now!
Thanks for sharing your stories and experience. I am Korean (born and raised as one) but have been living a good chunk of my adult life in Scandinavia. Although I get where this âKoreanâ bluntness comes from, I still often find it pretty rude and sometimes ignorant. It hits harder when I visit my family in Korea with my partner who is Swedish, first-hand witnessing him struggling to deal/cope with Korean âhonestyâ. As you mentioned, I also understand itâs the two sides of the same coin stuff that this honesty can be wholesale in many other occasions and makes Korean Korean but at the same time it contributes to the dark side of many things in Korea. It does not mean, however, that you just accept the negative part just because âit is what it isâ but rather shall consciously and collectively make efforts to improve and overcome which it has started already imo especially within the younger generation. I believe the more you talk about it and discuss with people, highly possibly the better comes around easily. For that, I reckon your content adds your 2 cents to that newer/more positive discourse to grow further. Xx,
I think that is so interesting, because as a European (German) I feel like WE are brutally honest. And Koreans are even more honest? can't believe it lol
â@@ClaireEmiliaSweet. I can tell you that there are MANY cultures more "honest" than the straightforward Germans. Look at Eastern Europe or almost all of Asia. Or even people from the Netherlands. But these cultures are more often rude and insulting instead of honest because they're unfamiliar with the concept of boundaries. Asking them to give their opinion without insulting your entire family line doesn't end well. I tried, believe me.
Every person I know that goes to Korea and lives in there for a certain amount of time starts to feel insecure about things they werenât before (especially about their bodies), âcause in that country all that theyâll take care about is how you look, they literally donât care first about if youâre a good person, if youâre pretty/handsome, they automatically praises you and treats you well, I mean not every single person but in general thatâs how it is.
I think Korea is very interesting country and looks like a beautiful one as well but i personally wouldn't move there partially cause I am very insecure and the culture of having such a focus on your physical appearance would take a mental toll on me and personally I don't think I would flourish there at all. However am happy for the people which enjoy it there and sorry for the people who came back with insecurities.
Talking about Korea or Asian beauty standards is bad But remembers all beauty standards aroybd the worlds pushing women & ppl get insecure, feel left behind, feel unbeautiful unaxlcctrarive thats why theyre become obssesion with looks & find it in makeup or surgery to fit on social life & beauty standards trend is NOT RIGHT IN EVERYWHERE, NOTJUST IN KOREA OR ASIA.
Thin hair high forehead here đđŒ I am really insecure about it, but I think you are so beautiful! My partner said he loves my thin hair. We are so hard on ourselves, but just because we feel insecure doesnât mean other people see us that way â€
Sissel, you are so breathtakingly beautiful both inside and out!! Your videos bring me so much comfort and joy. I am happy for you that you are taking little steps to feel more confident. Just know that you never have to change anything about yourself to be loved and accepted by those who truly matter đđ
love the aesthetic style of your videos! as many people commented before: its such a good thing to be open about insecurities. also enjoyed your honesty about the treatment you did for your hairline. but i feel like this shows how far we are from really accepting ourselves. i mean it is your body, your choice and a way of self-determination to do cosmetic procedures/plastic surgery or whatever. but i am hoping for a time, where we don't need to go trough painful, expensive or even dangerous interventions to be happy with ourselves. you seem like a such a nice person and that's what really makes you beautiful
đ Love that youâre talking about this! My relationship with my appearance has definitely changed after almost 8 years in Korea, both for good and bad. Thanks for another wonderful VLOG!
I really enjoyed this video, Sissel. It made me reflect on how I feel in my skin, how much I would allow myself to change my appereance and how the society I live in defines my point of view on beauty standards too. Gonna continue reflecting on this, cause I think it could help change the way I talk to myself a lot. Thank you for introducing us to your point of view! đ
Thank you for talking about this. I live in Korea and I dated a Korean guy for 4 months, in the end he told me "I would like you more if you were thinner" I am just average and not overweight, atleast in Sweden but in Korean standards I am different..and it has made me really self concious especislly if I go on a date..so it is definstely more diffiicult tp feel confident about my sppearance here.
iâm 17 and have the dream of becoming a model in korea too. i suffer from an ED since i was 15. hearing you talking about the beauty standards and your experience really gave me a change of heart sisselâ€ïž you donât have to be perfect to be lovedâŠand it only took me so long to realize that. thank you sisselđ«¶
Sissel I just want to say that your videos are always so calming and reassuring †These topics about body image are so important to talk about. Its also so funny to me that I started following you way back because I saw you and just thought âoh my god shes so incredibly gorgeous im so jealousâ and I know that everyone is insecure about things but I was surprised to see someone so beautiful be insecure as well. I wouldnt wish it on anyone of course, because everyone should be able to love themselves inside and out but its also weirdly comforting to know that everyone struggles with the same issues in some way or another!
Hopefully it heals well and you love it! nothing wrong with doing things for you - especially when you are so open and honest about these things. Plastic / cosmetic surgery is there to be utilised and I love how you have really shown when it is in a good way, it's for you and your not lying about it and I really appreciate that
So happy for you Sissel, i could see how happy you were after the treatment and the relief! my friend actually has a salon in Seoul and does so many of these every week. Jisoo was sooo lovely!
Sissel this whole summer your videos have been so refreshing! I kinda grew away from the day-in-the-life videos but since your summer trips your vibe has been so fresh. Iâm loving it!
Super happy for you!! The hair looks so natural! Also thank you for speaking on such a hard topic of insecurities, lots of people have them almost everyone is trying to cover them up and be seen as the âperfect oneâ. Love your honesty and thanks for sharing your experience with us!!đđđđđ
I love everything about your videos : your outfits, your music, the aesthetics, how you cut and edit đ€ I watch it as if it was an actual series and that says a lot about the work you must put into them! Keep going sis đ
That looks SO cool! I'm glad you're so happy with it!đ I don't really care about looks of other people or myself at all but I think if you have the means, it makes you happy and harms no one else why not get surgical alterations(?) I don't think it should be considered necessary or be encouraged though. Just let people be free â
â€Yes and No! I somewhat agree but only under extreme circumstances, such as a scar on a face or people have had an accident or having something missing then I agree but not normally! These surgical places feed into people's insecurities when there is nothing wrong with them! They just want to make money! Obviously, if it is something that is an extreme insecurity such as a small nose or small chest, maybe! By no means you don't need to change yourselves! We are all human and unique and beautiful in different ways!â€
I am very glad that you feel better, you were already a beautiful person, inside and out, and if this treatment makes you feel better you have done the right thing. It's your body, it's your decision, and nobody but you can say what you have to do with it.
You've come long way Sissel. I still remember your vid when you still a teenager and doing makeup when you're in Denmark. Congrats! For making your dream come true.
I had my eyebrows micro bladed a few years ago (I grew up in the 90âs where it was on trend to have super skinny eyebrows. After over plucking them as a teenager they never grew back đ) Getting the micro blading done was really strange, but so so amazing. They used the same technique that you had and honestly it felt wonderful having eyebrows again! The quality was so good and looked so real. Even though itâs a bit expensive, Iâm saving to have it done again as itâs so worth it and lasts a while Congrats on bearing with the pain, it looks amazing on you đ
Thanks for being real and talk about subjects that are personally challenging. I also have felt that my forehead is too big all my life and have try to cover w/ my hair. My hair is thick so i struggle w/ the right bangs to cover up. You have a very beautiful face where some of us may not. I think we have to be happy w/ the goods that we have and we canât be perfect.
Wow seriously I loved the natural hair line tattoo, I feel it for youâŠIâm so happy for you.I have issue with my thin eye brow but seen so many unnatural tattoo that I rather just draw it everyday.
I also think it is very important to learn how to communicate to others that we find certain comments hurtful :) If we never learn how to âdefendâ ourselves&others and explain that we do not want to normalise negative comments in a conversation, things are never going to change. I think oftentimes we just grew up thinking that âitâs normalâ to comment on somebody elseâs appearance and do it without thinking, but to me I know every time I had a friend that constantly pointed out what they thought to be flaws in the way I look, I never felt that friendship was ârealâ or that I could trust that person in a way. I am way happier now that I have learned how to communicate my boundaries on certain things, and I always make sure when I meet someone to talk about literally⊠the way we talk about bodies! I ultimately want people to feel safe with me and not have to worry about the way I look, and to this day I couldnât find one single flaw in my friendâs appearances đ definitely these are conversations that need to keep happening for things to really change! thank you for opening up about your own struggles đ«
I've been a subscriber for a long time so I do remember vlogs with you modelling regularly way back when I think it's incredible to have seen your journey and how it's changed. also, you look amazing in glasses fr 25:44 Thank god you're on youtube, truly a blessing đ
Thank you love, that means a lot. Being a very open person and having done this for a while, itâs actually not very hard for me to open up. Especially because Iâve worked with myself so much that my insecurities rarely takes over anymore. I hope that by sharing my experiences and my feelings that I can show everyone that we can all heal and we all should heal together đ
always waiting for the video of one of my favorite youtubers, bro Iâm in luv with this girl đ„șđ„șđ€thanks sissel for being yourself always, hope and wish you that the rest of your week is nice and happy đżđ·đ
I loved this video. Thank you for sharing this with us and being so open. I know itâs not easy to talk about insecurities, but doing so shows that we are all having our own struggles we are carrying around with us, even if it doesnât look like it from the outside. Sending lots of love đ
I think what you said is true. The toxicity of âbeautyâ is around the world, not just South Korea. I have learned through the years, that what is considered the maximum beauty around the world, is a âwhite womanâ. But even within white Women, many of them are discriminated if they donât meet a specific standard. My issues with South Korean beauty standards are the encouragement of plastic surgery among the youth, that should not even be legal. The fact that many Kpop companies force children into getting surgery is outrageous. But what bothers me the most is the âunrealisticâ beauty standards in their culture. I am still terrified of that popular surgery they do where people are getting a portion of their heads filed. So scary, so scary.
It looks extremely natural, wow!!! I was so shocked when I saw the machine, wow!!!! But it looks super natural, and if it makes you feel better, that's the most important thing!
As someone who also struggles with the 'hair triangle' , I am happy to see that there are options. I definitely want to do this now. You inspire we to want to create more and be authentically myself.
Thank you for sharing! Iâve always had the same insecurity you have about your forehead⊠I was also born with a big forehead and have thought about getting it tattooed đ hearing you talk about it makes me feel less alone and youâre so pretty!
Sissel, I can so relate to this. Iâm Korean origin but was born in Iran and then my parents moved to Australia. I have a wide forehead but was told by family that it was my best feature. To be honest I was never teased or bullied because of it and Iâm sad for the young Sissel who was. However, I had the same issue of having really fine baby hair(it came from my fatherâs side of the family lol). I always had a fringe ( Americans call them bangs) to cover my forehead. However, it did make me very self conscious and through my teens, twenties and even thirties I thought of having hair transplant to fill and reduce the size of my forehead. Iâm now 43, and more comfortable in my skin but there are still some of those days where I wonât take photos. You look great, before and after! Just know, somewhere, someone has the same feelings and outlook as yourself and at the end of the day, if youâre happy, then be happy!
I always admire you for talking so openly about these topics. I like listening about you take on things. Thank you for being you and showing you. đ Always be safe!
There are good treatments if you want you make your hair thicker. Natural remedies and plants đ± help it and make it stronger. My mom has very thin hair, Iâm totally the opposite my hair is thick and it grows quickly and Iâm 35 years old. Thank you for sharing this with us. We all have our insecurities and I know how it feels having very thin hair because my mom struggles with this and she gets sad about it. God bless you.
@@sisselab omg I got a response I'm like unreasonably happy rn đ I've been following you since you first moved to Korea and I was relatively newly immigrated to a different continent back then so your videos always felt comforting, I hope you know you can be super proud of yourself and you're an inspiration to so many!
Thank you for being so open with this difficult topic! You look amazing before and after, theirs nothing wrong with wanting to change your appearance when it will bring you true happiness and you can live life to the fullest (with confidence). đ„°â€ïž
Hi Sissel! I watch your videos from time to time when they get recommended to me so I made sure to sub this time. The treatment? procedure? looks sooo natural my jaw dropped and I kept saying âwowâ out loud! Youâre beautiful whether you had it done or not, but it must feel like a relief and a confidence boost to know your mind wonât be focusing on an insecurity. Iâd love to someday address my own insecurities in a natural looking way like you were able to. I hope your healing process is going smoothly. Itâd be cool to see an update on it! â€ïž
Thank you for being so open about it! And yes, microblading hurts like hellđ and the sound doesnât make it betterđźâđšđ„Č I had it done on my eyebrows without the numbing cream⊠Feeling like a warrior right nowđ€Ł
@@sisselab the first round she said: with numbing cream your skin wil get thougher to work trough with that scalpelđ But after the first round she put numbing cream on it and it was such a relieve.. But still, I felt itđźâđš
I think it is very important to be able to express ourselves in a critical way towards our and other cultures too. I think at this point I have not heard one person of any country telling me that comments on how we look donât affect us negatively. Itâs very sad we are made to feel insecure about how we are, just because we donât fit the characteristics of bodies that are in trend in a specific moment, I dream of the time we can cherish diversity and stop desiring to look like a copy of each other đ I also think we do not understand that we donât get negative comments specifically bc one part of our body looks wrong, as as soon as we are going to change that, people are going to point at something else that is not ârightâ about us. I think the biggest flaw is to look at others thinking they have flaws! And hopefully once we stop making these negative comments towards each other we can really heal and have healthy relationships with our bodies. Part of me is sad that you got made feel as if your forehead is not good enough, because I remember when I started watching your videos I immediately thought your forehead was so beautiful! But also honestly I cannot spot the difference after the tattoo (lol), and I am glad it is something that will make you feel better about yourself đ«đ
I had no idea that the tattoo hair existed ! I will try to look it up here in Belgium. I lost a lot of hair since two big surgeries I had back to back and it never grew back fully so I have a bald spot and absolutely hate it. I pray Iâll find someone who does it đđ thank you for sharing Sissel ! Very interesting vlog as usual đ„° a virgo subscriber !
I believe all people have insecurities, even the most gorgeous person that you might see. I really enjoyed this video and I feel like our insecurities make us unique. Thank you for being you Sissel, always so transparent and sweet â€ïž
I canât help but think about someone like Sadhguru, I donât think he has insecurities. Someone who lives this much in ease and in trust in their body and themselves inspire me so so so much đ„čđ
23:17 gosh you are so pretty and I really like the way u are but itâs best people do what makes them feel happy but just know ur extremely beautiful to a handful of usđ
I love these kinds of videos! Because it's true though, asian countries tend to be more centered on the outer self, in my opinion as someone who's lives in Asia for years. Also that japanese song was so cute.
Yes.. itâs societal pressure. Unfortunately pressure is inherited through generations, itâll take a while to shift but I see this generation is taking a good huge step đ
I also have the same insecurity problem with forehead and thin hair, i'm looking foward on getting the hair line microbladed/tattooed slightly and in a very natural way to make both my hair look fuller and forehead look smaller. It fades out after some years like microbladed brows and it's still possible to get them removed so it's not as permanent as a surgery. Idk if that helps you knowing that this is possible to make. Edit: nevermind you had the same idea lmao
Living and being from a country/culture ( Colombia ) thatâs also known for plastic surgery makes you always hear comments on how to change your body and face while you are growing and also, it is scary to think how people (specially man) from other countries reconize you as a woman bc of this standards, I think we all agree that loving and aprecciating ourselfs is amazing but is also pretty difficult if you are in a country that shows you the opposite đ„Č
Girl, I have super thin/limp hair as well thanks to my ancestry and I swear by rosemary oil. Put some in your shampoo or mix with a carrier oil as a hair/root mask before washing. Itâs supposed to work better than prescription hair thickeners and over time it does help!
I think a front fringes would look adorable on you and you wonât have to worry much about your forehead, I love their hair line work though looks super natural I think you should do part of the upper middle as well either way youâre absolutely gorgeous â€
Thank you so much for sharing your insecurities regarding your hair. I too have a large forehead and thin hair especially around my temples. Mine looks the same as yours. It's comforting to know other people, especially someone as beautiful as you, deals with a similar insecurity.
I also have extremely thin hair. For over two years Iâve been wearing tape extensions and I wished I wouldâve thought about it sooner. I do them myself because itâs really easy. To cover a big forehead bangs are always the go-to option. Also, theyâre really trendy right now.
The art on the wall turned out very cool! â„ïž I also have naturally fine hair, so I totally understand how you feel. I am dying it just to add a bit of volume. đ Nice to hear that September is a pretty month in Korea, can't wait to visit next week!
Wow, so itâs like microblading on the scalp, right? I have super fine hair too, and I can honestly say having my brows microbladed has made me so happy. Ditto laser on ultra dark body hair. Now Iâm in my 30âs, I think we should do what makes us feel good, whether thatâs what others may think is conforming to beauty standards or not. You look amazing and hope it heals well!
Thank you for talking about this , i also have many insecurities , i have psiorasis on my neck i keep hiding with my hair , i have acne( acne scars as well) on my body , hair loss ( my hair was more thicker before but ever since i did take the uh thickness ? i regret so much) now i have thin hair , and lastly one of my big problem its my weight , im in obesity and not healhty i wish i could sport and stuff i decided to buy a bike so i can do that step by step , i been harsh to myself but lets hope i can slowly try to love myself its not easy at all for everyone thats for sure, i would not like to live in Korea befause all of these , for travelling why not but not living there it will ruin my mental health . I hope you will feel better soon and find a solution sissel and others as well , sending big support đđ
Me and everyone in my family have really thin hair. I have like 2/3 of your hair and my siblings even less than me. So I'm jealous of your hair, it's much fuller than mine and really pretty. ^^ My parents have told me it's really common for Scandinavians to have really thin, fine hair so we're not alone... and the older I get the less it bothers me. :)
thank you so much for this video. itâs my dream to move to korea and pursue a career in the entertainment field like modeling or acting, this definitely preps me. im so sorry about your modeling experiences too, but im glad you didnât fall back into your ed. i currently suffer from one as well, and it isnât easy at all. lots of love! â€ïž
How sweet can one sound while speaking German??? It's my mother language haha and I've never heard someone speak german in such a cute way! This video really was an eye opener, I love how openly you talk about it and I find different beauty standards around the world so interesting anyways. I just love to learn more about different cultures and backgrounds, so thank you a lot for this insight đ€đ€đ€ Update: I'm shocked at your modeling experience and totally get why you don't want to be part in this (mostly sick/sickening) industry.. Oh and also, as long as someone decides to have anything 'done' because they feel like they really want it and it's not because of the influence of others, I would always recommend to do it, especially when it's not a major surgical procedure where lots could go wrong. I'm proud of you to realize what really bothered you and decide what's the best for you. It really looks so good too! đ€
Hi Sissel! Have you thought about trying to change your nose stud into a titanium stud? Your nose looks exactly how mine did with that bump, all until i changed it to a titanium stud/ring! Have a nice day âșïž
I loved this vlog, it felt super real. Thank you for sharing all this and encourage us to live more freely and treat ourselves better. You're a huge inspiration and a super positive role model for people on the internet! I gotta say that I've always thought you're extremely pretty, and I even got jealous of your height (I'm sooo sorryyy) because I'm barely 157 cm lol And in my country, even though most people are short, they always- and I really mean ALWAYS- point out your height. It constantly made me feel super bad about myself, but I'm working on it, slowly coming to terms with the way I look and be thankful đđ I'm so glad you feel better with that change you made and it makes you feel more confident. Let's continue to accept ourselves and create an environment where we feel safe and loved đđ I'm sending you lots of love! đđ
Catalina, thatâs so sweet of you. Iâve always been so envious of my friends was school who was your height! I always wanted to feel âsmall and cuteâ, and I didnât feel like that. It took so much work, and now my posture suffers from always trying to make myself shorter. The grass is always greener on the other side it seems, but I hope we can continue to encourage each other to just LOVE this beautiful temple we are in and honor its perfection from birth đ
I have a 6 month work secondment in Seoul, Korea and now I am worried. I was aware of the beauty standards in Korea, but I did not know how forward people are with criticising you/pointing out your insecurities. I will be working in a law firm, so I wonder if this beauty standard culture also extends to offices?
As long as you look professional I don't think so. Though they may expect female lawyers (if you are female) to dress very feminine. But I've lived in Korea for five years now as an English teacher. I don't wear make-up and people usually tell me I'm pretty. They're just being nice as I'm completely average. Thing is most people don't care enough about what foreigners are doing day to day to stop and tell them they look tired or gained weight. It's easy to feel fat though as lots of Korean fashion, especially that which is easily accessible, is made for women who are very slim and rather short.
@@fangirl7914 Thank you for the heads up!! I am already required to dress professionally (heels, smart attire), so i'll have to wait and see what the culture is like there. I can imagine it being vastly different to the UK where no one cares about what you look like, as long as you look presentable.
@@realest_ Korean people do get the kind of blunt comments mentioned in the video, but foreigners usually escape a lot of the insensitivities simply because we're off the radar. Koreans don't tend to engage total strangers so no one goes out of their way to comment rudely on foreigners.
Thank you for being so raw and honest with this! i also live in Korea and I do feel like this topic is on my mind a lot as i think about how to navigate it all!! Also love your "Ja klar ich bin hier" to Stefanie haha
I have a huge forehead too and I shaved my head and grew out a pixi cut which helped me accept all the different angles of my face! I was surprised how many compliments I got. Just sharing this for anyone who has a huge forehead and was made fun of! Youâd be surprised how good a pixi cut looks on us with beautiful large foreheads! đ
Sissel you have no idea how beautiful you are! And there is nothing wrong with a big forehead, and there is also nothing wrong with wanting to change things, im happy that you are happy with the results. And girl your eyebrows are on point! I wish I had naturally thick brows as u đ
Iâve really come to love my big forehead, which is why I didnât wanna add the tattoo to shrink my forehead but rather fill out my line. Iâm so happy Iâve made it to feel this way, I remember being younger and just wanting a small forehead soooo bad đ
When I was in middle school, I was teased as well because of a mole on my cheek and since then I detested my face in addition to all the rest. Years passed and I've learnt to love and take care of my body, and yet this little thing is still making me feel sooo self-conscious... and like you I thought "why not, just for once, I can not give myself a little push and just.. do it!". Thank you for sharing your story and your opinion đI'm proud of you Sissel , me and whoever try their best to love themselves everyday. It's hard not to get swiped by nasty comments or the new beauty trend or by comparing yourself with the new celebrity, but remember that we set the line, ultimately we decide what's OUR beauty standard... let's make our own, it's way more interesting, intriguing and sexy!đ„
I don't recall if you talked about it in another video or not... but I'm just curious to hear your and your friends' experiences with racism in South Korea, if you had any! Lots of love, from Italy
I have extremely thin hair and it's one of my biggest insecurities too, people like to point it out and tell me "remedies" for it, when it's just like that bcs of my genes. I envy girls with thick long hair a lot but we're all pretty with our own features đ
Itâs basically micro blading which is what you got done which hurts way worse than getting a tattoo because I have tattoos and that did not hurt as much is getting my eyebrows micro bladed!!!âŠ. even getting my eyeliner tattoo did not hurt like Microblading doesâŠand the sound!!!âŠitâs nails on a chalkboard Times 1000! But doing my eyebrows was one of the best things Iâve ever done and I love it!!!
Thank you so much for your beautiful, inspiring videos and for just being you Sissel! đ€ PS: absolutely love that yellow color on you from the beginning of the video.
Iâve always been insecure about my pea sized head but in Seoul I would get so many compliments from strangers đ€Ł first time they told me âyour head is so smallâ I was so offended until they told me is a compliment. Beauty standards are so random.
14:00 I was thinking about this. And someone talked about this too. And I've learned that... We are different from them, our structure, our body shape are very different from their. I think "I'm a foreigner, of course I'll be different, my body will be different too. So... Why am I upet about this?" And now... I'm living as health as I can for me, for my body shape. Not for their body shape or beauty standards. :) And, Sissel, I admire you! â„
I love how open and transparent you are about stuff like this. It teaches us to love ourselves just the way we are. Thanks for always being so inspiring đ
Thank you for saying this love. All I want is to spread more love to yourself and to others, and inspire people to look within đ
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@@sisselab can you make a video related to south asia? Specially india?
Thank you for speaking up about this. In a world where there are so many unrealistic standards we need to remember to create our own and just be unapologetically ourselves â€đ
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I know that it is so difficult to find the thin line between trying to be more comfortable in your own skin and actually doing something about your insecurities. Really appreciate your honesty about your struggles. I hope that you feel more comfortable and confident now!
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Thanks for sharing your stories and experience. I am Korean (born and raised as one) but have been living a good chunk of my adult life in Scandinavia. Although I get where this âKoreanâ bluntness comes from, I still often find it pretty rude and sometimes ignorant. It hits harder when I visit my family in Korea with my partner who is Swedish, first-hand witnessing him struggling to deal/cope with Korean âhonestyâ.
As you mentioned, I also understand itâs the two sides of the same coin stuff that this honesty can be wholesale in many other occasions and makes Korean Korean but at the same time it contributes to the dark side of many things in Korea. It does not mean, however, that you just accept the negative part just because âit is what it isâ but rather shall consciously and collectively make efforts to improve and overcome which it has started already imo especially within the younger generation.
I believe the more you talk about it and discuss with people, highly possibly the better comes around easily. For that, I reckon your content adds your 2 cents to that newer/more positive discourse to grow further. Xx,
I think that is so interesting, because as a European (German) I feel like WE are brutally honest. And Koreans are even more honest? can't believe it lol
â@@ClaireEmiliaSweet. I can tell you that there are MANY cultures more "honest" than the straightforward Germans. Look at Eastern Europe or almost all of Asia. Or even people from the Netherlands.
But these cultures are more often rude and insulting instead of honest because they're unfamiliar with the concept of boundaries. Asking them to give their opinion without insulting your entire family line doesn't end well. I tried, believe me.
Every person I know that goes to Korea and lives in there for a certain amount of time starts to feel insecure about things they werenât before (especially about their bodies), âcause in that country all that theyâll take care about is how you look, they literally donât care first about if youâre a good person, if youâre pretty/handsome, they automatically praises you and treats you well, I mean not every single person but in general thatâs how it is.
I think Korea is very interesting country and looks like a beautiful one as well but i personally wouldn't move there partially cause I am very insecure and the culture of having such a focus on your physical appearance would take a mental toll on me and personally I don't think I would flourish there at all. However am happy for the people which enjoy it there and sorry for the people who came back with insecurities.
I guess Korea is only good to visit. Living there would be another story.
As a native Korean I couldn't agree more. Thanks for saying that aloud
i don't agree. just more care about appearance. almost same as the other country.
Talking about Korea or Asian beauty standards is bad
But remembers all beauty standards aroybd the worlds pushing women & ppl get insecure, feel left behind, feel unbeautiful unaxlcctrarive thats why theyre become obssesion with looks & find it in makeup or surgery to fit on social life & beauty standards trend is NOT RIGHT IN EVERYWHERE, NOTJUST IN KOREA OR ASIA.
the treatment looks so scary but omg the results!! it's so natural! I'm glad you like it
Thin hair high forehead here đđŒ I am really insecure about it, but I think you are so beautiful! My partner said he loves my thin hair. We are so hard on ourselves, but just because we feel insecure doesnât mean other people see us that way â€
Sissel, you are so breathtakingly beautiful both inside and out!! Your videos bring me so much comfort and joy. I am happy for you that you are taking little steps to feel more confident. Just know that you never have to change anything about yourself to be loved and accepted by those who truly matter đđ
Aww love, thank you đ I know I donât have to, which is why Iâm being very cautious to only act on things for myself. Thank you đ
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love the aesthetic style of your videos! as many people commented before: its such a good thing to be open about insecurities. also enjoyed your honesty about the treatment you did for your hairline. but i feel like this shows how far we are from really accepting ourselves. i mean it is your body, your choice and a way of self-determination to do cosmetic procedures/plastic surgery or whatever. but i am hoping for a time, where we don't need to go trough painful, expensive or even dangerous interventions to be happy with ourselves. you seem like a such a nice person and that's what really makes you beautiful
đ Love that youâre talking about this! My relationship with my appearance has definitely changed after almost 8 years in Korea, both for good and bad.
Thanks for another wonderful VLOG!
Thanks Cam ! See you tomorrow, letâs continue the conversation đ
@@sisselab looking forward to it :)
How for good, how for bad?
I really enjoyed this video, Sissel. It made me reflect on how I feel in my skin, how much I would allow myself to change my appereance and how the society I live in defines my point of view on beauty standards too. Gonna continue reflecting on this, cause I think it could help change the way I talk to myself a lot. Thank you for introducing us to your point of view! đ
Iâm so glad that this helps you think better and more mindful of yourself đđ„č
Thank you for talking about stuff like this Sissel!:) Youâve helped me back into loving myself a lot since I started watching your videos đ«¶đ»
Iâm so honored to have been a part of that journey of yours! So proud of you love đ
You made me cry! We all have insecurities, I'm so happy you did something that will bring you confidence and joy!
Thank you for talking about this. I live in Korea and I dated a Korean guy for 4 months, in the end he told me "I would like you more if you were thinner" I am just average and not overweight, atleast in Sweden but in Korean standards I am different..and it has made me really self concious especislly if I go on a date..so it is definstely more diffiicult tp feel confident about my sppearance here.
iâm 17 and have the dream of becoming a model in korea too. i suffer from an ED since i was 15. hearing you talking about the beauty standards and your experience really gave me a change of heart sisselâ€ïž you donât have to be perfect to be lovedâŠand it only took me so long to realize that. thank you sisselđ«¶
Sissel I just want to say that your videos are always so calming and reassuring †These topics about body image are so important to talk about. Its also so funny to me that I started following you way back because I saw you and just thought âoh my god shes so incredibly gorgeous im so jealousâ and I know that everyone is insecure about things but I was surprised to see someone so beautiful be insecure as well. I wouldnt wish it on anyone of course, because everyone should be able to love themselves inside and out but its also weirdly comforting to know that everyone struggles with the same issues in some way or another!
Hopefully it heals well and you love it! nothing wrong with doing things for you - especially when you are so open and honest about these things.
Plastic / cosmetic surgery is there to be utilised and I love how you have really shown when it is in a good way, it's for you and your not lying about it and I really appreciate that
Thank you love, Iâm loving it so far! Still hurts a bit tho haha đ
So happy for you Sissel, i could see how happy you were after the treatment and the relief! my friend actually has a salon in Seoul and does so many of these every week. Jisoo was sooo lovely!
Jisu :)
Sissel this whole summer your videos have been so refreshing! I kinda grew away from the day-in-the-life videos but since your summer trips your vibe has been so fresh. Iâm loving it!
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Super happy for you!! The hair looks so natural! Also thank you for speaking on such a hard topic of insecurities, lots of people have them almost everyone is trying to cover them up and be seen as the âperfect oneâ. Love your honesty and thanks for sharing your experience with us!!đđđđđ
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I love everything about your videos : your outfits, your music, the aesthetics, how you cut and edit đ€ I watch it as if it was an actual series and that says a lot about the work you must put into them! Keep going sis đ
Aww youâve no idea how happy this makes me đ„čđ
That looks SO cool! I'm glad you're so happy with it!đ I don't really care about looks of other people or myself at all but I think if you have the means, it makes you happy and harms no one else why not get surgical alterations(?) I don't think it should be considered necessary or be encouraged though. Just let people be free â
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â€Yes and No! I somewhat agree but only under extreme circumstances, such as a scar on a face or people have had an accident or having something missing then I agree but not normally! These surgical places feed into people's insecurities when there is nothing wrong with them! They just want to make money! Obviously, if it is something that is an extreme insecurity such as a small nose or small chest, maybe! By no means you don't need to change yourselves! We are all human and unique and beautiful in different ways!â€
I am very glad that you feel better, you were already a beautiful person, inside and out, and if this treatment makes you feel better you have done the right thing. It's your body, it's your decision, and nobody but you can say what you have to do with it.
Thank you Maria, it definitely makes me feel great! đ„čđ
You've come long way Sissel. I still remember your vid when you still a teenager and doing makeup when you're in Denmark. Congrats! For making your dream come true.
I had my eyebrows micro bladed a few years ago (I grew up in the 90âs where it was on trend to have super skinny eyebrows. After over plucking them as a teenager they never grew back đ)
Getting the micro blading done was really strange, but so so amazing. They used the same technique that you had and honestly it felt wonderful having eyebrows again! The quality was so good and looked so real. Even though itâs a bit expensive, Iâm saving to have it done again as itâs so worth it and lasts a while
Congrats on bearing with the pain, it looks amazing on you đ
omg it does look natural!!! you look so good and I know that this will give you the boost of confidence that you want it.
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Thanks for being real and talk about subjects that are personally challenging. I also have felt that my forehead is too big all my life and have try to cover w/ my hair. My hair is thick so i struggle w/ the right bangs to cover up. You have a very beautiful face where some of us may not. I think we have to be happy w/ the goods that we have and we canât be perfect.
Wow seriously I loved the natural hair line tattoo, I feel it for youâŠIâm so happy for you.I have issue with my thin eye brow but seen so many unnatural tattoo that I rather just draw it everyday.
I also think it is very important to learn how to communicate to others that we find certain comments hurtful :) If we never learn how to âdefendâ ourselves&others and explain that we do not want to normalise negative comments in a conversation, things are never going to change. I think oftentimes we just grew up thinking that âitâs normalâ to comment on somebody elseâs appearance and do it without thinking, but to me I know every time I had a friend that constantly pointed out what they thought to be flaws in the way I look, I never felt that friendship was ârealâ or that I could trust that person in a way. I am way happier now that I have learned how to communicate my boundaries on certain things, and I always make sure when I meet someone to talk about literally⊠the way we talk about bodies! I ultimately want people to feel safe with me and not have to worry about the way I look, and to this day I couldnât find one single flaw in my friendâs appearances đ definitely these are conversations that need to keep happening for things to really change! thank you for opening up about your own struggles đ«
Absolutely !! I so agree đ„čđ
Thank you Sissel for showing your authentic self đ
I've been a subscriber for a long time so I do remember vlogs with you modelling regularly way back when I think it's incredible to have seen your journey and how it's changed.
also, you look amazing in glasses fr 25:44
Thank god you're on youtube, truly a blessing đ
Sissel, I just wanted to say thank you for discussing such topics and sharing your own personal experiences
Thank you love, that means a lot. Being a very open person and having done this for a while, itâs actually not very hard for me to open up. Especially because Iâve worked with myself so much that my insecurities rarely takes over anymore. I hope that by sharing my experiences and my feelings that I can show everyone that we can all heal and we all should heal together đ
always waiting for the video of one of my favorite youtubers, bro Iâm in luv with this girl đ„șđ„șđ€thanks sissel for being yourself always, hope and wish you that the rest of your week is nice and happy đżđ·đ
Aww thank you Sofi! You make me smile đ
I loved this video. Thank you for sharing this with us and being so open. I know itâs not easy to talk about insecurities, but doing so shows that we are all having our own struggles we are carrying around with us, even if it doesnât look like it from the outside. Sending lots of love đ
Thank you love đ
I think what you said is true. The toxicity of âbeautyâ is around the world, not just South Korea. I have learned through the years, that what is considered the maximum beauty around the world, is a âwhite womanâ. But even within white Women, many of them are discriminated if they donât meet a specific standard. My issues with South Korean beauty standards are the encouragement of plastic surgery among the youth, that should not even be legal. The fact that many Kpop companies force children into getting surgery is outrageous. But what bothers me the most is the âunrealisticâ beauty standards in their culture. I am still terrified of that popular surgery they do where people are getting a portion of their heads filed. So scary, so scary.
It looks extremely natural, wow!!! I was so shocked when I saw the machine, wow!!!!
But it looks super natural, and if it makes you feel better, that's the most important thing!
These type of videos are the one that I love. Thank you for sharing this one sissel! I love youu so muchđ
That makes me SO happy to hear đ
and I love you too đ„čđ
Sissel your dressing style perfectly suit your body type . You have got such a pretty body shape
As someone who also struggles with the 'hair triangle' , I am happy to see that there are options. I definitely want to do this now. You inspire we to want to create more and be authentically myself.
Thank you for sharing! Iâve always had the same insecurity you have about your forehead⊠I was also born with a big forehead and have thought about getting it tattooed đ hearing you talk about it makes me feel less alone and youâre so pretty!
Sissel, I can so relate to this. Iâm Korean origin but was born in Iran and then my parents moved to Australia. I have a wide forehead but was told by family that it was my best feature. To be honest I was never teased or bullied because of it and Iâm sad for the young Sissel who was. However, I had the same issue of having really fine baby hair(it came from my fatherâs side of the family lol). I always had a fringe ( Americans call them bangs) to cover my forehead. However, it did make me very self conscious and through my teens, twenties and even thirties I thought of having hair transplant to fill and reduce the size of my forehead. Iâm now 43, and more comfortable in my skin but there are still some of those days where I wonât take photos. You look great, before and after! Just know, somewhere, someone has the same feelings and outlook as yourself and at the end of the day, if youâre happy, then be happy!
I always admire you for talking so openly about these topics. I like listening about you take on things. Thank you for being you and showing you. đ Always be safe!
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There are good treatments if you want you make your hair thicker. Natural remedies and plants đ± help it and make it stronger. My mom has very thin hair, Iâm totally the opposite my hair is thick and it grows quickly and Iâm 35 years old. Thank you for sharing this with us. We all have our insecurities and I know how it feels having very thin hair because my mom struggles with this and she gets sad about it. God bless you.
I'm so impressed by you and your man for eating red soup w such light shirts and on a light carpet like girl I could never
Hahaha hence why Iâm putting the blanket under us when eating, Iâm too anxious about this rug đ€Łđ
@@sisselab omg I got a response I'm like unreasonably happy rn đ I've been following you since you first moved to Korea and I was relatively newly immigrated to a different continent back then so your videos always felt comforting, I hope you know you can be super proud of yourself and you're an inspiration to so many!
Thank you for being so open with this difficult topic! You look amazing before and after, theirs nothing wrong with wanting to change your appearance when it will bring you true happiness and you can live life to the fullest (with confidence). đ„°â€ïž
Hi Sissel! I watch your videos from time to time when they get recommended to me so I made sure to sub this time. The treatment? procedure? looks sooo natural my jaw dropped and I kept saying âwowâ out loud! Youâre beautiful whether you had it done or not, but it must feel like a relief and a confidence boost to know your mind wonât be focusing on an insecurity. Iâd love to someday address my own insecurities in a natural looking way like you were able to. I hope your healing process is going smoothly. Itâd be cool to see an update on it! â€ïž
Youâre so pretty
Thank you for being so open about it! And yes, microblading hurts like hellđ and the sound doesnât make it betterđźâđšđ„Č I had it done on my eyebrows without the numbing cream⊠Feeling like a warrior right nowđ€Ł
Oh my god WITHOUT numbing ?!? That sounds like torture girl! đđ
@@sisselab the first round she said: with numbing cream your skin wil get thougher to work trough with that scalpelđ But after the first round she put numbing cream on it and it was such a relieve.. But still, I felt itđźâđš
you are so genuine and hopeful in your reactions and willingness to engage with different beauty standards, so interesting to learn about this!
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I think it is very important to be able to express ourselves in a critical way towards our and other cultures too. I think at this point I have not heard one person of any country telling me that comments on how we look donât affect us negatively. Itâs very sad we are made to feel insecure about how we are, just because we donât fit the characteristics of bodies that are in trend in a specific moment, I dream of the time we can cherish diversity and stop desiring to look like a copy of each other đ I also think we do not understand that we donât get negative comments specifically bc one part of our body looks wrong, as as soon as we are going to change that, people are going to point at something else that is not ârightâ about us. I think the biggest flaw is to look at others thinking they have flaws! And hopefully once we stop making these negative comments towards each other we can really heal and have healthy relationships with our bodies. Part of me is sad that you got made feel as if your forehead is not good enough, because I remember when I started watching your videos I immediately thought your forehead was so beautiful! But also honestly I cannot spot the difference after the tattoo (lol), and I am glad it is something that will make you feel better about yourself đ«đ
I actually really like your haircut, the layers gave it movement, gonna saved it for inspiration âșïž
I had no idea that the tattoo hair existed ! I will try to look it up here in Belgium. I lost a lot of hair since two big surgeries I had back to back and it never grew back fully so I have a bald spot and absolutely hate it. I pray Iâll find someone who does it đđ thank you for sharing Sissel ! Very interesting vlog as usual đ„° a virgo subscriber !
Iâm sure you can find someone ! đ
I believe all people have insecurities, even the most gorgeous person that you might see. I really enjoyed this video and I feel like our insecurities make us unique. Thank you for being you Sissel, always so transparent and sweet â€ïž
I canât help but think about someone like Sadhguru, I donât think he has insecurities. Someone who lives this much in ease and in trust in their body and themselves inspire me so so so much đ„čđ
@@sisselab oh I agree with that though. He is one of my inspirations ,because when you reach such a level like his I bet there are no insecurities
23:17 gosh you are so pretty and I really like the way u are but itâs best people do what makes them feel happy but just know ur extremely beautiful to a handful of usđ
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Thank you for being so open about this Sissel! Love this type of vids!! Sending luv đ«¶đ»
My pleasure đ
@@sisselab and youâre so beautiful sissel! luv u đ«¶đ»đ€
I love these kinds of videos! Because it's true though, asian countries tend to be more centered on the outer self, in my opinion as someone who's lives in Asia for years. Also that japanese song was so cute.
Yes.. itâs societal pressure. Unfortunately pressure is inherited through generations, itâll take a while to shift but I see this generation is taking a good huge step đ
I also have the same insecurity problem with forehead and thin hair, i'm looking foward on getting the hair line microbladed/tattooed slightly and in a very natural way to make both my hair look fuller and forehead look smaller. It fades out after some years like microbladed brows and it's still possible to get them removed so it's not as permanent as a surgery. Idk if that helps you knowing that this is possible to make.
Edit: nevermind you had the same idea lmao
Very sad by Korean standard I would be well over weight, Iâm average size for my height. Itâs so interesting how things are so different
Living and being from a country/culture ( Colombia ) thatâs also known for plastic surgery makes you always hear comments on how to change your body and face while you are growing and also, it is scary to think how people (specially man) from other countries reconize you as a woman bc of this standards, I think we all agree that loving and aprecciating ourselfs is amazing but is also pretty difficult if you are in a country that shows you the opposite đ„Č
Ja klar ich bin hier ! đđŒââïž
Had to blast some German for the German đ€Łđ
Can i just say sorry for your recent lossđ and also girl please donât change a thing you are so perfect!!!đ„ș
Thank you đ
Girl, I have super thin/limp hair as well thanks to my ancestry and I swear by rosemary oil. Put some in your shampoo or mix with a carrier oil as a hair/root mask before washing. Itâs supposed to work better than prescription hair thickeners and over time it does help!
I think a front fringes would look adorable on you and you wonât have to worry much about your forehead, I love their hair line work though looks super natural I think you should do part of the upper middle as well either way youâre absolutely gorgeous â€
Thank you so much for sharing your insecurities regarding your hair. I too have a large forehead and thin hair especially around my temples. Mine looks the same as yours. It's comforting to know other people, especially someone as beautiful as you, deals with a similar insecurity.
I also have extremely thin hair. For over two years Iâve been wearing tape extensions and I wished I wouldâve thought about it sooner. I do them myself because itâs really easy. To cover a big forehead bangs are always the go-to option. Also, theyâre really trendy right now.
I always enjoyed watching your videos, for me it's like therapy. I love the calm and real feelings i get while watching your videos. đ
The art on the wall turned out very cool! â„ïž I also have naturally fine hair, so I totally understand how you feel. I am dying it just to add a bit of volume. đ Nice to hear that September is a pretty month in Korea, can't wait to visit next week!
Wow, so itâs like microblading on the scalp, right? I have super fine hair too, and I can honestly say having my brows microbladed has made me so happy. Ditto laser on ultra dark body hair. Now Iâm in my 30âs, I think we should do what makes us feel good, whether thatâs what others may think is conforming to beauty standards or not. You look amazing and hope it heals well!
âIâm proud of youâ - Not Jake being just genuinely nice
Heâs the best đ„čđ
Thank you for talking about this , i also have many insecurities , i have psiorasis on my neck i keep hiding with my hair , i have acne( acne scars as well) on my body , hair loss ( my hair was more thicker before but ever since i did take the uh thickness ? i regret so much) now i have thin hair , and lastly one of my big problem its my weight , im in obesity and not healhty i wish i could sport and stuff i decided to buy a bike so i can do that step by step , i been harsh to myself but lets hope i can slowly try to love myself its not easy at all for everyone thats for sure, i would not like to live in Korea befause all of these , for travelling why not but not living there it will ruin my mental health . I hope you will feel better soon and find a solution sissel and others as well , sending big support đđ
You glow in that colour - so warm đđ»
Me and everyone in my family have really thin hair. I have like 2/3 of your hair and my siblings even less than me. So I'm jealous of your hair, it's much fuller than mine and really pretty. ^^ My parents have told me it's really common for Scandinavians to have really thin, fine hair so we're not alone... and the older I get the less it bothers me. :)
i honestly never saw your face and thought you had a big forehead.. i was really surprised when you said that! you look great the way you are :)
thank you so much for this video. itâs my dream to move to korea and pursue a career in the entertainment field like modeling or acting, this definitely preps me. im so sorry about your modeling experiences too, but im glad you didnât fall back into your ed. i currently suffer from one as well, and it isnât easy at all. lots of love! â€ïž
The "ja klar, ich bin hier" was the highlight of my day :D
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the artwork from the previous video is so cute đ„ș
How sweet can one sound while speaking German??? It's my mother language haha and I've never heard someone speak german in such a cute way! This video really was an eye opener, I love how openly you talk about it and I find different beauty standards around the world so interesting anyways. I just love to learn more about different cultures and backgrounds, so thank you a lot for this insight đ€đ€đ€ Update: I'm shocked at your modeling experience and totally get why you don't want to be part in this (mostly sick/sickening) industry.. Oh and also, as long as someone decides to have anything 'done' because they feel like they really want it and it's not because of the influence of others, I would always recommend to do it, especially when it's not a major surgical procedure where lots could go wrong. I'm proud of you to realize what really bothered you and decide what's the best for you. It really looks so good too! đ€
Awww hahah thanks love đ đ
I love how calm your videos are.
Hi Sissel! Have you thought about trying to change your nose stud into a titanium stud? Your nose looks exactly how mine did with that bump, all until i changed it to a titanium stud/ring! Have a nice day âșïž
Maybe I should do that đ„șđ
I loved this vlog, it felt super real. Thank you for sharing all this and encourage us to live more freely and treat ourselves better. You're a huge inspiration and a super positive role model for people on the internet! I gotta say that I've always thought you're extremely pretty, and I even got jealous of your height (I'm sooo sorryyy) because I'm barely 157 cm lol And in my country, even though most people are short, they always- and I really mean ALWAYS- point out your height. It constantly made me feel super bad about myself, but I'm working on it, slowly coming to terms with the way I look and be thankful đđ
I'm so glad you feel better with that change you made and it makes you feel more confident.
Let's continue to accept ourselves and create an environment where we feel safe and loved đđ
I'm sending you lots of love! đđ
Catalina, thatâs so sweet of you. Iâve always been so envious of my friends was school who was your height! I always wanted to feel âsmall and cuteâ, and I didnât feel like that. It took so much work, and now my posture suffers from always trying to make myself shorter. The grass is always greener on the other side it seems, but I hope we can continue to encourage each other to just LOVE this beautiful temple we are in and honor its perfection from birth đ
I have a 6 month work secondment in Seoul, Korea and now I am worried. I was aware of the beauty standards in Korea, but I did not know how forward people are with criticising you/pointing out your insecurities. I will be working in a law firm, so I wonder if this beauty standard culture also extends to offices?
As long as you look professional I don't think so. Though they may expect female lawyers (if you are female) to dress very feminine. But I've lived in Korea for five years now as an English teacher. I don't wear make-up and people usually tell me I'm pretty. They're just being nice as I'm completely average. Thing is most people don't care enough about what foreigners are doing day to day to stop and tell them they look tired or gained weight. It's easy to feel fat though as lots of Korean fashion, especially that which is easily accessible, is made for women who are very slim and rather short.
@@fangirl7914 Thank you for the heads up!! I am already required to dress professionally (heels, smart attire), so i'll have to wait and see what the culture is like there. I can imagine it being vastly different to the UK where no one cares about what you look like, as long as you look presentable.
@@realest_ Korean people do get the kind of blunt comments mentioned in the video, but foreigners usually escape a lot of the insensitivities simply because we're off the radar. Koreans don't tend to engage total strangers so no one goes out of their way to comment rudely on foreigners.
Thank you for being so raw and honest with this! i also live in Korea and I do feel like this topic is on my mind a lot as i think about how to navigate it all!! Also love your "Ja klar ich bin hier" to Stefanie haha
Even if youâre without hair, youâre still beautiful, girl! And you can literally wear any hairstyle and still look pretty đ
thank yo for this very honest and reflected video!
I have a huge forehead too and I shaved my head and grew out a pixi cut which helped me accept all the different angles of my face! I was surprised how many compliments I got. Just sharing this for anyone who has a huge forehead and was made fun of! Youâd be surprised how good a pixi cut looks on us with beautiful large foreheads! đ
Sissel you have no idea how beautiful you are! And there is nothing wrong with a big forehead, and there is also nothing wrong with wanting to change things, im happy that you are happy with the results. And girl your eyebrows are on point! I wish I had naturally thick brows as u đ
Iâve really come to love my big forehead, which is why I didnât wanna add the tattoo to shrink my forehead but rather fill out my line. Iâm so happy Iâve made it to feel this way, I remember being younger and just wanting a small forehead soooo bad đ
@@sisselab I have a small forehead and wish mine was bigger. Its strange how we humans work đ
got a multiple teeth extractions today so in a lot of pain but your videos always help â„ thank you sissel
Oh my god hope youâre healing well love! đ
When I was in middle school, I was teased as well because of a mole on my cheek and since then I detested my face in addition to all the rest. Years passed and I've learnt to love and take care of my body, and yet this little thing is still making me feel sooo self-conscious... and like you I thought "why not, just for once, I can not give myself a little push and just.. do it!".
Thank you for sharing your story and your opinion đI'm proud of you Sissel , me and whoever try their best to love themselves everyday. It's hard not to get swiped by nasty comments or the new beauty trend or by comparing yourself with the new celebrity, but remember that we set the line, ultimately we decide what's OUR beauty standard... let's make our own, it's way more interesting, intriguing and sexy!đ„
I don't recall if you talked about it in another video or not... but I'm just curious to hear your and your friends' experiences with racism in South Korea, if you had any! Lots of love, from Italy
Iâm so glad that your journey is going this beautiful way love đ
3:18 I love the way you both laugh lol đ„°
I have extremely thin hair and it's one of my biggest insecurities too, people like to point it out and tell me "remedies" for it, when it's just like that bcs of my genes. I envy girls with thick long hair a lot but we're all pretty with our own features đ
Itâs basically micro blading which is what you got done which hurts way worse than getting a tattoo because I have tattoos and that did not hurt as much is getting my eyebrows micro bladed!!!âŠ. even getting my eyeliner tattoo did not hurt like Microblading doesâŠand the sound!!!âŠitâs nails on a chalkboard Times 1000! But doing my eyebrows was one of the best things Iâve ever done and I love it!!!
Wow Sissel I enjoy your videos so much. Calming esthetics and you're a very thoughtful person. Big hug from Spain â
Thank you so much for your beautiful, inspiring videos and for just being you Sissel! đ€
PS: absolutely love that yellow color on you from the beginning of the video.
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Fabulous fabulous content! So relaxing & informing. đżđ±đ
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Iâve always been insecure about my pea sized head but in Seoul I would get so many compliments from strangers đ€Ł first time they told me âyour head is so smallâ I was so offended until they told me is a compliment. Beauty standards are so random.
It is somehow comforting to watch your videos đžđ
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Actually I was thinking about you đ I just finished your last video and I was like " how her carpet turned like" and here we gođ love you sis
hahaha like this! Thanks for watching love đ
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Think itâs so important to note that women of colour experience Korean Beauty standards entirely differently đ„čđ„č
14:00 I was thinking about this. And someone talked about this too. And I've learned that... We are different from them, our structure, our body shape are very different from their. I think "I'm a foreigner, of course I'll be different, my body will be different too. So... Why am I upet about this?" And now... I'm living as health as I can for me, for my body shape. Not for their body shape or beauty standards. :) And, Sissel, I admire you! â„