RAW: Son Discusses Father's Journey With Dementia And How TikTok has Impacted Their Lives

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  • čas přidán 3. 02. 2022
  • Dan Salinger began chronicling his father’s journey with dementia when he moved in with him a year and a half ago. Since then, the duo's TikTok videos have gained international attention.

Komentáře • 323

  • @ellie1595
    @ellie1595 Před rokem +410

    And then he says,, "Where is Mark?" Perfect timing, as always. I love this sweet, sweet man.

  • @vivosereni
    @vivosereni Před 8 měsíci +5

    Your children will receprocate the same to you.God bless you .

  • @jojobee42
    @jojobee42 Před 9 měsíci +24

    Aw he asked "Where is Mark?" in the end.
    He always asks about Mark...
    Mark has done a lot for his Dad.
    Mark and Dan are such good sons!
    I hope their siblings appreciate them for what they do.

  • @saradeal7118
    @saradeal7118 Před rokem +118

    Grandpa seems to be a gentle soul. He is very lucky to be with his family who love him dearly.

  • @markallen-zr2fi
    @markallen-zr2fi Před rokem +48

    Took care of my mom for 15 years with the help of my dad she had dementia also! You will never regret this decision you will have memories for your lifetime. It's not easy but it's very rewarding and to see them happy and taken care of is reward enough!

  • @debraarnold3703
    @debraarnold3703 Před rokem +105

    Dan, you're helping to protect Grandpa's dignity. Not everyone figures this out. You did.

    • @JohnnyBlu-nt3np
      @JohnnyBlu-nt3np Před 9 měsíci +3

      That’s his dad

    • @FCUK-
      @FCUK- Před 3 měsíci

      By exploiting his more vulnerable moments?

    • @lindastjohn5007
      @lindastjohn5007 Před 3 dny

      Danielle is great with Grandpa too. She and Dan are truly blessings to him.

  • @fifibadri3592
    @fifibadri3592 Před 11 měsíci +3

    Please keep your dad home as long as you can.
    Putting him in a nursing home will be devastating for him and he will not last long.
    I wouldn't trust the nursing home system...

  • @MM-yi9zn
    @MM-yi9zn Před rokem +136

    Greatest respect for Dan& his brother! Champions both to care for their Dad in this kind & caring manner. Astonishing patience! Bravo!

    • @Californiadreamin715
      @Californiadreamin715 Před rokem +5

      And Danielle❣️

    • @FLo-jc7ig
      @FLo-jc7ig Před 10 měsíci +3

      Let me tell you something about being a caretaker for those of you who have never had the honor of taking care of an elderly parent. I took care of my mom and my dad (by myself), for the last 5 years of their lives! Mom had dementia and dad just got weak trying to care for mom. Thus, I stepped in! I had the most wonderful, loving, and caring parents that raised 8 kids, me being the Second oldest! I can tell you that there were many days when my patience was tested. So the "patience" you see here is because it's on "tik tok"!! Dan isn't going to show the world when he loses his patience! He's only human like everybody else!! I'm even sure his wife had some testy days...but not on tik tok or whatever else he's on! And Dan only has his day for, what, 4 days, and then Ed is switched over to Mark for his days! So there's time between that to regroup himself! (I've wondered how confusing that is for Ed...but that's what has to be done, and I get it. So there's downtime for Dan and Mark. And they're blessed that Ed isn't in diapers, he can feed himself, use the bathroom on his own, he can talk, even tho his memory is not good. My heart goes to Ed, who must have many sad days that he's in this situation. But he's not like many patients where they get, maybe nasty and even combative! So with Ed, his situation is not a bad as I've seen over the years when I worked in Seniors Homes!! When I used to get people telling me what a good daughter I was to take such good care of my parents, it made me feel uncomfortable! Why??...because "who" am I to NOT help my parents?? My parents not only loved and cared for us,,,,but "WHO" am I if I turned my back on my parents in their time of "great need"!!
      They made countless SACRAFICE'S throughout their lives in order for us to have the things we wanted and needed. Awe, the list goes on and on! Every adult child should take care of their parents when they need us most!! Expecting a; "PAT ON THE BACK" and all kinds of "PRAISE" for doing what we as son's and daughter's are "SUPPOSED" to do just really rubs me the wrong way! 😤

  • @maryb9284
    @maryb9284 Před rokem +57

    Smart loving family. Love watching Grandpa n Dan!

  • @lydiaroman4803
    @lydiaroman4803 Před 11 měsíci +3

    You are doing great Dan❤❤❤👍👍👍

  • @BrianLopez-gz8ux
    @BrianLopez-gz8ux Před 2 lety +27

    Funny I just started watching these two about a week ago

  • @mdouglaswray
    @mdouglaswray Před 10 měsíci +4

    Nice to see social media helping spread kindness and awareness of Dementia. Until there's a cure, we need to do all we can to help these folks. Bless you Dan.

  • @Californiadreamin715
    @Californiadreamin715 Před rokem +9

    We are doing the same with my 95 year old Mom. God bless you all. ❤️✝️❤️🙏🏻❤️

  • @yeesh9215
    @yeesh9215 Před rokem +11

    Dan has a great voice.

  • @mr.rogerzneighborhood5602

    I care for my 91-year-old mother with dementia I know how difficult it can be. May Jehovah bless you and your brother and family for caring for your dad at home.

  • @carolmassengill5642
    @carolmassengill5642 Před 9 měsíci +3

    Yes indeed, the Lord is gracious. He's not combative, wandering, he is very compliant, pleasant. He seems to sleep well. Thanks be to God.

  • @Ranbowriter
    @Ranbowriter Před 3 dny

    You're doing wonderful, Dan

  • @soniazavala5262
    @soniazavala5262 Před rokem +5

    I can see he was a very good father even dealing with dementia he has never had a mean woro as a caregiver I have seen some very mean spirited ones. God bless his soul.

  • @fifibadri3592
    @fifibadri3592 Před 11 měsíci +2

    Grand papa is soooooo sweet and loving👏👏👏😘🙋‍♀️

  • @jackdonovan554
    @jackdonovan554 Před 3 měsíci

    Dan, your posts are helping so many people.
    Thank you.❤

  • @jeanward9984
    @jeanward9984 Před 11 měsíci

    He is a sweetheart so that’s why I think that he deserves some anonymity over his dementia instead of documenting everything!

  • @carolynebazel7855
    @carolynebazel7855 Před 10 měsíci +1

    mark and Dan you are the best kids a parent can dream of we pray for you u have changed the world

  • @patwil4611
    @patwil4611 Před 9 měsíci +4

    I am such a fan!!! Beautiful family!

  • @CCelia1953
    @CCelia1953 Před 9 měsíci +2

    I can not believe how young your Dad look sitting next to you😢🎉❤

  • @LoveAlways1002
    @LoveAlways1002 Před 11 měsíci +5

    Dan calls him grandpa and I think that is so sweet ❤❤❤❤
    My grandma had dementia but she became even more violent and angry... she was also that at times pre dementia.... so I love seeing your dad ❤❤

  • @dougtrumble
    @dougtrumble Před rokem +4

    This is one of the more wholesome tic tok channels... thank you!

  • @hirammercado2904
    @hirammercado2904 Před 10 měsíci +1

    he is the man.... RESPECT

  • @Khadijah_respectfully
    @Khadijah_respectfully Před rokem +1

    And Dad is just sitting there, gracefully. 😊 I love it.

  • @freddiesoverbite6162
    @freddiesoverbite6162 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Dan’s an awesome son and super smart guy.

  • @benitamaiorano3970
    @benitamaiorano3970 Před 9 měsíci +3

    I hope Mr. Ed can stay home with family til God calls him home ❤

  • @cynthiahamilton1116
    @cynthiahamilton1116 Před rokem +9

    I Love watching. I keep Looking for new videos. Thanks for posting. ❤

  • @gearoftones8585
    @gearoftones8585 Před 9 měsíci +4

    That old guy brightens up my day every time i watch him.
    I watch him from Scotland. He's such a caring and considerant human being who even in the twighlight of his life and despite his illness, shows great emotion and concern towards his family. Anyone would be proud to have him as a Father/Grandad and i for one am dreading the inevitable.
    What an inspiration he is and we should all aspire to be like him.
    What a beautiful human being.

  • @chudilingo4438
    @chudilingo4438 Před 7 měsíci

    Dan you guys are doing a fantastic job which is a testament of how responsible he was to his duties to you and your siblings...now its a pay back time. If he was a dead beat, you will not be this kind. May your own children do you like wise. You all are inspiration.

  • @jeanettehightower943
    @jeanettehightower943 Před rokem +44

    That’s what one of the 10 commandments says honor your mother and father. I pray he is saved born again got Jesus Christ in his heart ❤️ 😊

    • @snoyes5687
      @snoyes5687 Před rokem +5

      Me too! Wonderful family!

    • @lauriebaker7608
      @lauriebaker7608 Před rokem +7

      Yes you only need to keep the first love the Lord your God and the rest follow.

  • @jennifersutton3115
    @jennifersutton3115 Před rokem +11

    I love this beautiful family ❤️ 🙏

  • @debrahjohns586
    @debrahjohns586 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Yall do a great job with ur dad

  • @lakeishahill2
    @lakeishahill2 Před rokem +19

    Blessings to you for your patience and care!!!!

  • @ruckinehround6965
    @ruckinehround6965 Před 11 měsíci +8

    Thank you Dan, you and your family are doing such a service to your father and hopefully more people follow suit.

  • @AwnSight
    @AwnSight Před 7 měsíci

    I’m noticing this with my dad who lives separately. He seems confused now and always thinks he needs to go to somewhere( store). I want to thank u for u and ur father for sharing

  • @dominiquebala2475
    @dominiquebala2475 Před 9 měsíci +2

    I love that dad contributed on this his there listening .❤

  • @amazingmoving1
    @amazingmoving1 Před 7 měsíci

    Thank you. Your dad is the world's dad much love

  • @linakamau6701
    @linakamau6701 Před 9 měsíci +1

    So lovely. He has become my grandpa. He puts a smile on my face every time I watch him.

  • @gabrielevigliotti2238
    @gabrielevigliotti2238 Před rokem +6

    Can’t stop watching this kind and wonderful family 👏👏❤️

  • @elizabethcraig28
    @elizabethcraig28 Před rokem +16

    Dan and your brother Mark are doing a wonderful thing looking after your dad God bless your whole family xx

  • @adelaidepereira8842
    @adelaidepereira8842 Před 11 měsíci +1

    God bless you and all your family 🙏🏼

  • @georginawesteinde6101
    @georginawesteinde6101 Před 6 měsíci +1

    Your dad is so lucky to have loving and caring children ❤❤❤
    With you and the rest of your family looking after your dad, it makes his life so much easier

  • @Ian-hd3od
    @Ian-hd3od Před rokem +3

    But where's his checkbook?

  • @ajajatta6967
    @ajajatta6967 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Very true and you the best family ❤️❤️❤️👏🏾💐

  • @histman3133
    @histman3133 Před rokem +14

    I think for me the hardest thing I had to come to terms with with my grandma who has dementia is when she was in the early stages I would sometimes look after her while my grandpa had errands to run and one time me and her were sitting together watching T.V. and she turned to me and smiled and said something I couldn't comprehend, smiled and laughed, and then she suddenly started hitting me hard a few times in the leg. And for me that really hurt. Not a physical hurt but an emotional hurt because my grandmother never, not once, ever raised a fist to me or any of her other grandkids at anytime growing up. She loved her grandkids dearly and to see her do that to me was one of the worst things ever for me. When I was a kid and she was angry about something she definitely let you knew though. Hahaha. But she was there on my wedding day back when she was cognitively normal and to see her like that was hard and it still is. She got to the point where she was no longer able to talk and she didn't even know who I, my wife, or who her great granddaughter was. Thankfully for her my grandpa, her husband, died when she was in the later stages of dementia in 2020 so she was spared the pain of losing him. I don't even think she knows he's gone.

    • @AbbaJoy1
      @AbbaJoy1 Před 10 měsíci +1

      Is she still with you?

    • @inhizhands
      @inhizhands Před 10 měsíci

      @Jerseybailey19

    • @histman3133
      @histman3133 Před 9 měsíci +2

      @@AbbaJoy1 She is but every time I see her I know that the person I knew as a child, that I went to the lake with, that would serve her family Christmas dinner every Christmas, or who would babysit me as a child is gone. I know that sounds harsh but when we go to see her she doesn't even look me in the eyes. She doesn't know who we are. It's sad.

    • @aileenmorrissey8610
      @aileenmorrissey8610 Před 8 měsíci

      V no

  • @cece8650
    @cece8650 Před rokem +3

    Ed is loved. He is a good man with a gooooood family. God bless them all.

  • @ingridhenryherbert330
    @ingridhenryherbert330 Před 11 měsíci +9

    Your dad is so adorable. I just came across your channel a few days ago. I can’t stop binging on all your content. Your dad is so special and sweet and he looks great for his age. Sharing his journey with the world I am sure will help countless families going through the same situation Thank you so much. My prayer is that God will continue to watch over your family. May God bless you all and keep you in perfect peace.

  • @robinboutin1721
    @robinboutin1721 Před 11 měsíci +1

    I just love watching your family ❤

  • @ruthdellapina1019
    @ruthdellapina1019 Před 7 dny

    Such a nice gentleman your Dad very educated keep him as long as you can regards Ruth this is all the way from Cyprus 🇨🇾 watching you all the time 😊

  • @lucyblair9408
    @lucyblair9408 Před 11 měsíci

    Dan and Mark and the families are doing Awesome ❤

  • @suzywelsh5492
    @suzywelsh5492 Před rokem +14

    Good family! They love their father and grandfather who has dementia very well! I hope and pray the best for their future! 🙏🙂

  • @lavernemurphy8498
    @lavernemurphy8498 Před rokem +8

    That's a blessing how you and Mark takes care of your dad,God bless you all family may God continue to give you and Mark strength to continue praying for you and mark😇❤

  • @belkysrodriquez1020
    @belkysrodriquez1020 Před 9 měsíci +1

    You are doing a great job as children and family for this amazing human being.❤❤❤

  • @catholt5447
    @catholt5447 Před 9 měsíci +1

    Such team work!! 🙏🙏😊

  • @carolinenyamweya1553
    @carolinenyamweya1553 Před 8 měsíci +2

    It has been therapeutic to me. I must watch one of the sessions every evening. My parent is far from where I live and learn a lot from you, your dad and Mark. God bless you.

  • @vikrammehta4407
    @vikrammehta4407 Před 9 měsíci

    God bless you sir.
    I have been to this situation with my Grandpa.
    Keep up the good work.

  • @pastorsimmy5581
    @pastorsimmy5581 Před 5 měsíci

    May the Almighty God bless Dan for this tenderly heart ❤️

  • @Jennifer-sb6qu
    @Jennifer-sb6qu Před 8 měsíci +1

    I don’t have tic too I watch CZcams and I love the stories and the love you have as a family

  • @janstroud1686
    @janstroud1686 Před 8 měsíci

    Such a wonderful family

  • @debrahjohns586
    @debrahjohns586 Před rokem +3

    U are doing a great job

    • @debrahjohns586
      @debrahjohns586 Před rokem

      Miss u were did u go .I really enjoyed ur case

  • @lindamastropietro4429
    @lindamastropietro4429 Před 7 měsíci

    Two wonderful sons.

  • @sashamulligan2993
    @sashamulligan2993 Před rokem +9

    It’s important to understand that not everybody has the option of taking care of their parents in their own home. Many people are working later in life and also in some patients dementia can create intense anger. That can be very very challenging for kids to handle. Last, due to role reversal, some parents(Mom) don’t take kindly to reminders of things that need to be done like brushing teeth, washing up/baths.

  • @mildredsimiyu5843
    @mildredsimiyu5843 Před 8 měsíci

    Thanks , Dan. Great job

  • @facetheuncertaintyoflife6154

    Brilliant from all us that watch in England

  • @SibongileMapeka
    @SibongileMapeka Před 7 měsíci

    Keep up the good work Danie and Mark may the Lord 🙏 bless you for taking care of your father and educating people all over the world about this condition.South Africa.❤❤

  • @mollie8719
    @mollie8719 Před 11 měsíci +1

    Happy Father's day both of you 💕💕💕❤️🎆

  • @sissylee247
    @sissylee247 Před rokem +3

    Loving Grandpa everyday from Iowa. God bless you Mark Dan and Danielle.❤

  • @blueb4829
    @blueb4829 Před 9 měsíci +2

    I want to hear what grandpa said at the end. I'm thinking he said, "You better not put me in the old people's home."

  • @annbazile6496
    @annbazile6496 Před rokem +4

    Awesome Dan! Super Fantastic Job Son
    God is Pleased ❤😇

  • @akbrali3214
    @akbrali3214 Před 6 měsíci

    U r doing a great job credit goes to ur great wife she is taking much care. Nowadays people don't like elders at home 🏡 but u r a good example.

  • @evelynschmidt7194
    @evelynschmidt7194 Před 9 měsíci

    What will we do without our “Dad”😊

  • @rostoo8921
    @rostoo8921 Před 9 měsíci +2

    Your parents are your parents no matter what,you can't trade for anything or substitute. Having them around is not something to be taken for granted.moments we treasure 🎉

  • @AE-sh8vs
    @AE-sh8vs Před 7 měsíci

    You Brothers are Great with your Dad, Have many more Great memories.

  • @dollyprasad385
    @dollyprasad385 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Great job Dan! Everytime I watch your videos, I remember my dad.
    People with dimentia need change. That really brightens them up. I remember when my dad came to live with us, he was so cheerful for the first few days.
    Your dad is a cheerful person and I find that so sweet.
    God bless you for what you do to your parents.
    'Honor your father and mother.' This is the first commandment with a promise: If you honor your father and mother, things will go well for you....
    Ephesians 6:1-3

  • @sue5980
    @sue5980 Před rokem +3

    You are both fantastic and so is grandpa, he is a star xx

  • @johnanderson1085
    @johnanderson1085 Před 11 měsíci

    😊 absolutely beautiful indeed keeping dad home is the best way always ❤️ 💖

  • @tomsmith2361
    @tomsmith2361 Před rokem +1

    Doing Gods work Dan and family. Dr. Ed is a beautiful soul 😊👍

  • @aalsera0
    @aalsera0 Před 3 měsíci

    Thank you for doing that

  • @patriciab7297
    @patriciab7297 Před 9 měsíci +1

    My mom, 88, died yesterday of dementia related illness. Sadly, my sisters placed her in memory care. Please please please think twice b4 placing an elderly person there. God bless u n ur family for doing right by ur parent! You’ll never regret it.

  • @roblesd1
    @roblesd1 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Dan you are doing a great job. Your dad looks so good. He is happy.He has plenty of space to be. And most importantly, he is safe. I hope you guys can keep him home until the end.

  • @lauriebaker7608
    @lauriebaker7608 Před rokem +7

    You brother's are full of love and gratitude for your Dad keep the kindness and compassion your whole family will have a long life honour your mother and your Father

  • @reneerornellas1885
    @reneerornellas1885 Před 11 měsíci +2

    When you are a team caring for aging parent it's so much easier than 1 caregiver. Caregivers need a break and it's good that the parent spends time with family members. I was lone ranger caring for mom and she was sad that grandkids did not come to visit or help. She was a handful but I miss her...she was 97 when she passed. Your father is blessed.

  • @brianbarnabasmmembe899
    @brianbarnabasmmembe899 Před 6 měsíci

    Keep it up, Dan, lovely wife & siblings. Only GOD shall reward u for the love & care rendered to yr Dad

  • @Mayor_Juana
    @Mayor_Juana Před 11 měsíci

    Grandpa was about to ask what time you were meeting Mark for lunch that day, before the video ended..lol

  • @arlerayvette9285
    @arlerayvette9285 Před rokem +2

    You two sons are heroes

  • @bernielesoy7376
    @bernielesoy7376 Před 9 měsíci

    Hi Grandpa, God bless you and your family❤ from Melbourne.

  • @kathleenhebert7757
    @kathleenhebert7757 Před 8 měsíci

    Best son ever!

  • @LucySerrano-mt1pz
    @LucySerrano-mt1pz Před 7 měsíci

    You father is so sweet .Blessings for the l love and patients

  • @beverlypeart7038
    @beverlypeart7038 Před 9 měsíci

    I am glad you show so much love to at this of is life my uncle is 94 so I to watch your videos so I can help when he is in that stage of life thank

  • @MaryEllenRio-vx4io
    @MaryEllenRio-vx4io Před 11 měsíci +1

    I give you and Danielle so much credit, your caring and love. Your Dad has such a wonderful personality!!

  • @SherryUSmith
    @SherryUSmith Před 9 měsíci +2

    I understand your struggles and sweet moments. I care for my sister with dementia. Love to your family!

  • @johnhughes3963
    @johnhughes3963 Před rokem +3

    Went through it. Your doing a great job

  • @anitayoung8305
    @anitayoung8305 Před rokem +2

    Happy to be able to make a comment. What I admire about your father is, although he has alzheimers, he seems to struggle everyday to remember or at least figure things out. I also admire that , although, not in a position, it is clear that the well being of his children is very important to him. I love how even in his state he will not choose one over the other when it comes to his children. This is an intelligent man and I hope his children reap all that is good for taking care of him.

  • @TeeNicole10
    @TeeNicole10 Před rokem +1

    God Bless him
    You all are Great for keeping him with you💜🙌🏿🙏🏻

  • @harrietjones-ed4mb
    @harrietjones-ed4mb Před 9 měsíci

    Your family are so special to care for your dad. Your family loves you so much

  • @user-vn7tb7kk2u
    @user-vn7tb7kk2u Před 10 měsíci

    You make me cry.all thing you do are priceless...keep going the good works and enjoy every precious Moment with your family
    Specially your to your father .am so proud of you as a One best Son of all the children of your parents.lasts .be strong and of good courage no matter what the situations bring Smile