Elk Grove Dementia TikTok Goes Viral

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  • čas přidán 3. 02. 2022
  • A family chronicling a grandfather's struggle with dementia goes viral gaining national attention.

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  • @andrewdeleon4912
    @andrewdeleon4912 Před rokem +183

    You have to be the luckiest guy on earth to have a dad like you have , don't know what it is about your dad but we all love him...

  • @lindaasleson2201
    @lindaasleson2201 Před rokem +44

    The reason the videos are so popular is because Ed is so very likeable and handles his situation with grace.

  • @anablepsis
    @anablepsis Před 8 měsíci +16

    Dan, I just received the news my Dad has dementia. Your videos are not just endearing, they are educational. Thanks man!

  • @mollyjackson1906
    @mollyjackson1906 Před 10 měsíci +38

    So very proud of Dan, Danielle, and Mark. They are such a beautiful family and so many of us have grown to love Dad to pieces. 🙏🏻❤

  • @luluandfriends1
    @luluandfriends1 Před rokem +277

    For the first twenty years of my life, I grew up a house full of old people with dementia who were all prolific eccentrics. Some with severe dementia, my grandmother always assumed she was around 16 and that's how I always knew her, a 16 year old 90 something grandma who was a full time rebel. You could never take your eyes off of any of them. It's nice to see this nice gentleman, he brings back lots of memories. I wish him a long, healthy and safe life.

    • @jimthiel5857
      @jimthiel5857 Před rokem +5

      Amen

    • @mobutter2879
      @mobutter2879 Před rokem +7

      The gentleman is absolutely lovely, his son..not so much. It feels like he is compromising his Father’s dignity for likes.

    • @minoozolala
      @minoozolala Před rokem +2

      @@mobutter2879 agree

    • @usa4ever711
      @usa4ever711 Před rokem +9

      While I'm not qualified to make the best comments on this issue, I do know that many times substance abuse can lead to this. Stop while you have time because when you get older it can get you much like the boxers when they're young they don't feel anything but when they start getting older the blows to the head eventually get them! Eat healthy, exercise, stop substance abuse - any substance abuse you may be involved in whether it's alcohol and even possibly marijuana! Most any drug can affect the brain. I even spoke to a young man who looked like he was still in his 20s and used marijuana and he confirmed after I told him this that he was having memory problems! It could be prevented or reversed if you take care of yourself and don't abuse your body. Also reading helps and other mental exercises with games such as chess etc. Keeping a positive outlook on life, laughing more (Solomon said laughter is good like medicine but a broken spirit (like when one is depressed) dries up the bones. And what's in the bones? The bone marrow where the immune system comes from! Science is proving being happy strengthens the immune system. Reading your bible can also help from what I heard believe it or not. I watched a video sometime back about how music helped people with Alzheimer's bring back memories that seems to hint at that maybe negative thinking could have led to their condition and if they reversed their negative thinking maybe just maybe it could help reverse this disease! Also some diseases could lead to it from what I hear so make sure you keep that disease in check! Thanks all and God bless. Don't be afraid to experiment and tell me if you see any positive results!

    • @missyt543
      @missyt543 Před rokem +1

      I feel like you have a treasure trove of stories. While I'm sure you witnessed your fair share of difficulties this condition brings, I wonder if you have a favourite moment of mischief that makes you giggle when you think of it 😁

  • @eblair12
    @eblair12 Před 2 lety +196

    My father passed 2 years ago and my stepmom developed into this person.. We are her only family and we stepped up. Quality of Life is the mission. Every minute of everyday. This son has found a way and I applaud that effort. Thank you for posting the video.

    • @ELJEFFE904
      @ELJEFFE904 Před rokem +9

      God sees you stepping up!!! Respect!

    • @usa4ever711
      @usa4ever711 Před rokem +2

      While I'm not qualified to make the best comments on this issue, I do know that many times substance abuse can lead to this. Stop while you have time because when you get older it can get you much like the boxers when they're young they don't feel anything but when they start getting older the blows to the head eventually get them! Eat healthy, exercise, stop substance abuse - any substance abuse you may be involved in whether it's alcohol and even possibly marijuana! Most any drug can affect the brain. I even spoke to a young man who looked like he was still in his 20s and used marijuana and he confirmed after I told him this that he was having memory problems! It could be prevented or reversed if you take care of yourself and don't abuse your body. Also reading helps and other mental exercises with games such as chess etc. Keeping a positive outlook on life, laughing more (Solomon said laughter is good like medicine but a broken spirit (like when one is depressed) dries up the bones. And what's in the bones? The bone marrow where the immune system comes from! Science is proving being happy strengthens the immune system. Reading your bible can also help from what I heard believe it or not. I watched a video sometime back about how music helped people with Alzheimer's bring back memories that seems to hint at that maybe negative thinking could have led to their condition and if they reversed their negative thinking maybe just maybe it could help reverse this disease! Also some diseases could lead to it from what I hear so make sure you keep that disease in check! Thanks all and God bless. Don't be afraid to experiment and tell me if you see any positive results!

    • @tonyf.8858
      @tonyf.8858 Před rokem +2

      @@usa4ever711 Thanks for this. I'm 70 and started having short term memory loss at around 65. I started exercising and eating right and my memory has improved immensely. Yes, I did experiment with drugs as a young man but all I can do is hope the damage isn't too great and/or is reversable. God Bless.

    • @usa4ever711
      @usa4ever711 Před rokem

      @tonyf.8858 Anytime brotha!!!

    • @RepublicTeaRoom
      @RepublicTeaRoom Před 10 měsíci

      ​@@usa4ever711I'm really trying not to see you as a passion aggressive hater type...😒

  • @toomignon
    @toomignon Před rokem +55

    Having gone through this with my dad before he passed in 2021, the saddest thing was witnessing a brilliant man repeatedly ask these questions about what happened and why things are the way they are, and his realization that his brain was betraying him. That loss and grief for him every. single. time.

    • @jaggirl
      @jaggirl Před rokem +8

      My father was in the realisation that he was experiencing dementia. Still a very fit and active man. Bur doing crazy repair jobs and had some childish craft hobbies..lol
      Sadly he couldn't handle what was to come. He was always a hard working proud man.
      He took his life last June.
      RIP dad. I pray you've now found your peace finally. 🌻💛

    • @Karaunicorn
      @Karaunicorn Před rokem +4

      ​@@jaggirl 😢😢oh how sad, I am very sorry for your loss of your Dad.😢😢😢

    • @debbieschmidling8158
      @debbieschmidling8158 Před 11 měsíci +2

      @@jaggirlI’m so sorry about your dad. 😞Prayers fir you and your family.

  • @lissakaye610
    @lissakaye610 Před rokem +41

    This gentleman and his family are why I work in research. One of these days we will be able to help people like him, and prevent this horrible condition.

  • @recoveringsoul755
    @recoveringsoul755 Před 2 lety +188

    That's nice that he isn't a mean dementia patient like many are. He was probably always a nice person

    • @DakinRinone
      @DakinRinone Před 2 lety +16

      Yeah my father has that and parkinson's and.... it's insanely hard.

    • @lajonsd
      @lajonsd Před 2 lety +13

      I had the same thoughts. Like, how one's personality traits would affect their dispositional charicteristics 🤔

    • @bellagirlgirl8827
      @bellagirlgirl8827 Před 2 lety +35

      My dad was getting dementia / alzheimers when he died at 92. He had a sweet disposition most of the time. But when he got upset, he'd hiss at me like a snake. My mom got confused all the time (even small infections can make old people REALLY confused). My brother and I took turns looking after them, even when they entered a skilled nursing facility toward the very end. Mentally, I've never been so exhausted. If you're taking care of someone who isn't right in the head, you deserve an award!

    • @dogie1070
      @dogie1070 Před 2 lety +19

      Sweet people grow even sweeter.
      Mean bullies get really toxic to everyone.

    • @recoveringsoul755
      @recoveringsoul755 Před 2 lety +8

      @@dogie1070 that's what I've heard. I guess they lose their filter

  • @debby891
    @debby891 Před 9 měsíci +7

    To those of us caring for an elderly parent with Alzheimer’s and dementia, this is by far the best information on the internet! So many health care professionals don’t address the daily struggle though they think they do. His dads love of family and the amazing care from his family are an inspiration to so many❤

  • @lauratrotter2206
    @lauratrotter2206 Před rokem +6

    So many people have lived through this illness, with their loved ones. Thank you for the videos. My husband of 55 years passed away in Sept. 5, 2022. I kept him at home with me, although he thought he was in a nursing home, and he died at home under hospice care.

  • @denisestevens3102
    @denisestevens3102 Před 10 měsíci +5

    My brother and I lost our mom to this cruel disease. We changed our lives around to accommodate her and tho the loss was so hard and watching a little more of her slip away everyday we cherish every minute with her this father and son are pure inspiration and love .. whst a amazing family dynamic they have.

  • @beckygrayson5077
    @beckygrayson5077 Před rokem +29

    I live with my son. I know it may come a time my daughter will have to deal with me. There are just some things I don’t think my son should have to do, but that comes from me not him. He’s divorced and so I stay with my grandson and make sure he gets off to school. So far, so good. I’m 69 and would have still been working if I hadn’t had to have a hip replacement. I enjoy doing what I do, but things change weekly they seem. God bless those that take care of their children. ✝️🙏❤️

  • @jake405
    @jake405 Před 2 lety +62

    Ed is the best!!! Love watching videos of him on tik tok not only for his humor, but to see just how amazing of a family man he is. It is truly admirable!!

  • @marybaillie8907
    @marybaillie8907 Před 9 měsíci +12

    Ed and your whole family are truly an inspiration of love and dignity. I love you all. Cheers from Canada 🇨🇦 ❤🇺🇲

  • @leticiacole5631
    @leticiacole5631 Před 8 měsíci +2

    There is so much love within this family. Thank you for showing us how to love and deal with dementia within the home. God bless🇬🇧

  • @hgl2002
    @hgl2002 Před rokem +94

    Taking a parents car keys is really hard (and reminding them they don’t drive any more). I took my dad and mom’s keys and had to explain it many, many times. These videos are preparation for so many viewers as their parents age. My mother had severe dementia. It takes love to manage dementia with patience. But the reward is very high in that it’s the chance to spend time with a parent in need.

    • @RuleofFive
      @RuleofFive Před rokem +3

      Well said. I lost my mother to Alzheimers disease in 2013. My brother and I took care of her for five years. It was rewarding.

    • @GiaShawkey1
      @GiaShawkey1 Před rokem +4

      My grandfather had very severe dementia which he only survived for 2 years with it and he died last week

    • @RuleofFive
      @RuleofFive Před rokem +2

      @@GiaShawkey1 I’m sorry for your loss.

    • @tcurry1531
      @tcurry1531 Před rokem +1

      My husband had Dementia and I had to tell him that he had to go in for eye surgery before he could get his license back. He of course would not remember so I would have to remind him.

    • @tcurry1531
      @tcurry1531 Před rokem +2

      @@GiaShawkey1 My condolences.

  • @valentinagonsalves5829
    @valentinagonsalves5829 Před 10 měsíci +1

    I am from Goa India hats off to u n ur wife Dan .Thanks you Dan u are very inspiring to all of us .

  • @cynthiaw.3321
    @cynthiaw.3321 Před 9 měsíci +1

    One of the best things about your videos is that it truly shows it like it is. It's nothing like the movie "The Notebook". I haven't seen a movie get it right yet. Bless you all. I finished my journey with both of my parents on this same path 10 years ago. It changes you forever.

  • @ragauerk9310
    @ragauerk9310 Před rokem +15

    Yesterday, the one year anniversary of my great Dad's passing, just turned 89, 11/8, Parkinson's was his way-undeserved challenge after all the good he did. Glad he didn't lose all of him before it took him, he kept keeping on but granted relief despite how much he is missed. Respect to my sister and her second husband who also did all they could to make his last part of life worthwhile.Thanks for your sharing, of what is hard, what is good, and what is possible. Our elders have deserved better for a long time. Thank you for your contribution and your demonstration of real love. Blessings to you all.

  • @anneg5720
    @anneg5720 Před rokem +24

    As someone who worked 6 years in care of the elderly with dementia. I loved watching these videos, my favourite was when his dad said he was happy to be stuck with his family 💖
    Working in carehomes i seen how the decline happened faster to those that had no family visiting as their interactions where only with people whos dementia had already progressed and it would have an effect on them when they tried to communicate, they're no longer required to use any motor functions, or to think, they just get wrote off and babied. Whereas me personally get the music on they liked before the memory was affected. Get them doing light duties around the house and speak with them frequently keep the brain ticking over as long as possible.

    • @usa4ever711
      @usa4ever711 Před rokem +1

      While I'm not qualified to make the best comments on this issue, I do know that many times substance abuse can lead to this. Stop while you have time because when you get older it can get you much like the boxers when they're young they don't feel anything but when they start getting older the blows to the head eventually get them! Eat healthy, exercise, stop substance abuse - any substance abuse you may be involved in whether it's alcohol and even possibly marijuana! Most any drug can affect the brain. I even spoke to a young man who looked like he was still in his 20s and used marijuana and he confirmed after I told him this that he was having memory problems! It could be prevented or reversed if you take care of yourself and don't abuse your body. Also reading helps and other mental exercises with games such as chess etc. Keeping a positive outlook on life, laughing more (Solomon said laughter is good like medicine but a broken spirit (like when one is depressed) dries up the bones. And what's in the bones? The bone marrow where the immune system comes from! Science is proving being happy strengthens the immune system. Reading your bible can also help from what I heard believe it or not. I watched a video sometime back about how music helped people with Alzheimer's bring back memories that seems to hint at that maybe negative thinking could have led to their condition and if they reversed their negative thinking maybe just maybe it could help reverse this disease! Also some diseases could lead to it from what I hear so make sure you keep that disease in check! Thanks all and God bless. Don't be afraid to experiment and tell me if you see any positive results!

  • @tonimcbride2205
    @tonimcbride2205 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Just lost our dad/gpa to cancer 8 months ago. We miss him terribly. I follow this family on social media. Just absolutely love this family and what Dan and Danielle are doing. God is great. Many blessings to y’all from Houston, Texas thank y’all so much for sharing your dad and family with us. We are very blessed. ❤️🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽🥰😇 this family has truly filled a void in my heart and life, dammit I miss daddy 😭🙏🏽❤️

  • @chhansen9813
    @chhansen9813 Před rokem +12

    Watching my Grandma deteriorate from dementia was extremely difficult, especially since I was taking care of her! She raised me most of my life and I lived with her from 13 to 20 with the last two years mostly weekends and the summers as I was in college! She treated me like I was her son. I quit my job and moved back in with her in 1998 and it wasnt too bad the first couple of years, but then it got to a point where I couldnt leave at all. Assisted living facilities are expensive and eventually thats what had to be done and it was $2,300 per month which ate her money up quickly! She ended up being diagnosed with breast cancer and died from it on Thanksgiving Day 2005 at 85. She had a long life and my family decided not to treat the cancer because she didnt know anyone anymore and she was 84 at the time of diagnosis of cancer. RIP Grandma!

    • @jaggirl
      @jaggirl Před rokem +2

      I'm soo sorry for your loss. You were a good grandson. I'm sure she appreciated all that you did for her.

    • @chhansen9813
      @chhansen9813 Před rokem

      @@jaggirl Thank you so much!

  • @eden-caledoniajohn3168
    @eden-caledoniajohn3168 Před rokem +2

    I lost my beautiful Mama January 2022 - she had advanced early onset dementia. She got confused and managed to get out of her hospital bed (at home) and tried to walk without her walker - she fell and broke her hip. Thirteen days later she died of pneumonia (a common complication after a broken hip). Mum was only 65, watching my beautiful Mama lose her memory slowly was heartbreaking. In many ways it was a blessing as she was spared the awful end that she would have had with severe end stage dementia.. Although watching her fight pneumonia was traumatic too.
    I have watched this lovely Father and son and it reminded me of Mum. I remember she would constantly say our names over and over, willing herself not to forget my name or my children’s names (that broke my heart). She never did, she would get confused and not recognise my brothers or my Dad, but she never forgot me (I’m her daughter) or her babies as she called them- my kids who are now 13 and 15.

  • @dianejesso3088
    @dianejesso3088 Před rokem +11

    This father and son are bringing alot to others experiencing a similar path. Awareness, love ,compassion empathy,comfort. The moving part is dignity ,respect, maintained at a time of vulnerability for father. Keep going as a frontline worker of alzheimers dementia this is a beautiful thing.

  • @IreneDingey
    @IreneDingey Před 2 měsíci

    Dan you are an AMAZING Human being❤❤❤❤❤❤I’ve learnt so much from you it’s helping me with my husband of 58yrs who has just been diagnosed with Dementia. Today was the first day he was angry, saying non of his friends never ring to see how he is, his eyes have deteriorated the whites are yellow. So I thought “ Now how would Dan fix this” so I changed the subject and talked about our days of Camping , and he came good.
    Cheers to you and thank you SO much… Irene in Aussie land

  • @gwen08g35
    @gwen08g35 Před 9 měsíci +1

    I found this last week! My daddy has Alzheimer’s and it really helps me to watch them. It’s so so hard! I just love Grandpa…❤

  • @Kael_Dickerson
    @Kael_Dickerson Před rokem +24

    When he said, "what happened to me?" That broke my heart ❤️

    • @usa4ever711
      @usa4ever711 Před rokem

      While I'm not qualified to make the best comments on this issue, I do know that many times substance abuse can lead to this. Stop while you have time because when you get older it can get you much like the boxers when they're young they don't feel anything but when they start getting older the blows to the head eventually get them! Eat healthy, exercise, stop substance abuse - any substance abuse you may be involved in whether it's alcohol and even possibly marijuana! Most any drug can affect the brain. I even spoke to a young man who looked like he was still in his 20s and used marijuana and he confirmed after I told him this that he was having memory problems! It could be prevented or reversed if you take care of yourself and don't abuse your body. Also reading helps and other mental exercises with games such as chess etc. Keeping a positive outlook on life, laughing more (Solomon said laughter is good like medicine but a broken spirit (like when one is depressed) dries up the bones. And what's in the bones? The bone marrow where the immune system comes from! Science is proving being happy strengthens the immune system. Reading your bible can also help from what I heard believe it or not. I watched a video sometime back about how music helped people with Alzheimer's bring back memories that seems to hint at that maybe negative thinking could have led to their condition and if they reversed their negative thinking maybe just maybe it could help reverse this disease! Also some diseases could lead to it from what I hear so make sure you keep that disease in check! Thanks all and God bless. Don't be afraid to experiment and tell me if you see any positive results!

  • @nsd0909
    @nsd0909 Před 9 měsíci +1

    The best times of my life having my dad live with me! For 6mo in 2021 when he had covid & the last 6mo. of his life from Oct 2022 - Mar. 6th 2023. He failed physically not mentally but I was blessed to be able to have that time with him!💙🦅

  • @pattihawks353
    @pattihawks353 Před rokem +7

    This Dad and son are such a joy! I watch most every one. My Mama, my Aunt, and now one of my sisters with this disease.
    So happy these two have such close bond, along with his brother, who shares in his Dad!s care. 🙏🧡🙏🧡🙏🧡

  • @PixelatedMagikarp
    @PixelatedMagikarp Před rokem +9

    im so happy hes taking care of his dad! to honor your father and mother is a beautiful thing that many dont do.

  • @poplinalma
    @poplinalma Před 11 měsíci +2

    I love watching his videos ❤it helps me cope with how hard it is to care for a loved one with dementia . My father has dementia right now aswell and my mom and I take care of him . And Ed’s videos get me through and just being me so much joy to watch and to know I’m not alone.

  • @helencole3601
    @helencole3601 Před rokem +4

    I hope people can see how rewarding and loving it is to care for your relatives instead of sticking them in a nursing home. That's if you have the means. I am 80 and live with my son and his family
    I don't have dementia yet, but I feel so lucky. Mark, you will be blessed for what you are doing!!

    • @EddiXP
      @EddiXP Před 10 měsíci

      Bless you and your family Helen

  • @realestate_doggie
    @realestate_doggie Před 2 lety +7

    Thank you for this

  • @adamm.michael7500
    @adamm.michael7500 Před rokem +3

    January 1st was a year since I lost my grandmother to dementia. She was also blind. Which made it really tough. After a few tough years of at home care 😢. She spent the last couple of years in a memory care unit, in a nursing home After my grandfather passed away at 91.💔 He was a Navy WW2 vet. He flew in 19 missions over pearl harbor. They were married for almost 65 year's., when he passed. They had met on a blind date. ❤️💯. Miss them every day. They wer a huge part of my life Amazing loving grandparents. Thank you for sharing this story.

  • @tinakelley5287
    @tinakelley5287 Před rokem +1

    Do not pay attention to the negative comments it is a joy to watch Ed and your family
    People only say negative remarks because they have nothing better to do but criticize other people
    Ed is lucky to be home with family and not stuck in a nursing home
    God Bless you all

  • @betsymerrill923
    @betsymerrill923 Před 9 měsíci +1

    I’ve been watching all of the videos and he’s a wonderful man. They both are wonderful men.

  • @pamelameadows9717
    @pamelameadows9717 Před rokem +1

    I've been watching those videos today and I love it. And once you start listening you'll pick up on when his dad is teasing him sometimes

  • @jeannietimberger2556
    @jeannietimberger2556 Před 2 lety +18

    Ed is still a Lil kid at heart ❤️ 🥰

  • @joelyazell7380
    @joelyazell7380 Před rokem +5

    I just love how patient he is with his father.

    • @Pippybo
      @Pippybo Před rokem

      Him and his wife are ass’s to him.

  • @tessietesoro7407
    @tessietesoro7407 Před rokem +11

    It's not easy to take care of parents having dementia, I appreciate the son who patiently looks after his father. Conversation everyday, question & answer everyday, these help to slow down dementia.. Also a game of cards helps the brain to function.

    • @usa4ever711
      @usa4ever711 Před rokem

      While I'm not qualified to make the best comments on this issue, I do know that many times substance abuse can lead to this. Stop while you have time because when you get older it can get you much like the boxers when they're young they don't feel anything but when they start getting older the blows to the head eventually get them! Eat healthy, exercise, stop substance abuse - any substance abuse you may be involved in whether it's alcohol and even possibly marijuana! Most any drug can affect the brain. I even spoke to a young man who looked like he was still in his 20s and used marijuana and he confirmed after I told him this that he was having memory problems! It could be prevented or reversed if you take care of yourself and don't abuse your body. Also reading helps and other mental exercises with games such as chess etc. Keeping a positive outlook on life, laughing more (Solomon said laughter is good like medicine but a broken spirit (like when one is depressed) dries up the bones. And what's in the bones? The bone marrow where the immune system comes from! Science is proving being happy strengthens the immune system. Reading your bible can also help from what I heard believe it or not. I watched a video sometime back about how music helped people with Alzheimer's bring back memories that seems to hint at that maybe negative thinking could have led to their condition and if they reversed their negative thinking maybe just maybe it could help reverse this disease! Also some diseases could lead to it from what I hear so make sure you keep that disease in check! Thanks all and God bless. Don't be afraid to experiment and tell me if you see any positive results!

    • @Ghostface__x_
      @Ghostface__x_ Před rokem

      ​​@@usa4ever711 weed wont do that to you man other shit yeah it will mess you up in the long run.I train in combat sports and had hard sessions and light concussions/bloody noses n I lived with my grandpa who had dementia for 3 years until he passed.Im not worried about what happens to me I just care for my family

    • @usa4ever711
      @usa4ever711 Před rokem

      @@Ghostface__x_ Brother don't believe the propaganda! I already know someone who does dope and ALREADY has memory problems and he looks like he's 20s to 30s! Don't kid yourself!

  • @wanphrangdiengdoh2884
    @wanphrangdiengdoh2884 Před rokem +5

    I love this old man! The way he communicate is priceless😄👍

  • @loveyahshayah8855
    @loveyahshayah8855 Před rokem +22

    Please don't put your loved one "in a home" if your capable of caring for them. So heart breaking to think we can just throw our family to some old folks home. NO WAY!!! idc how hard it may be...Im going to make sure my loved ones are ok!!!!
    Imagine how scary it would be if he was around strangers all the time.

    • @Robert_L22
      @Robert_L22 Před rokem +7

      From experience, I agree and disagree. I cared for Mom, 24/7/365, for over 7 years and with no help from family or outside services. Mom was a very strong-willed person who, even in her state of Cognitive Decline, recognized changes in people and their attitudes toward her. Her last 5 months were spent in Memory Care, and it absolutely killed me (Legal Guardian) to make that decision. Every situation is different and, in her case, it was no longer safe for her to be at home. The hallucinations, the attempts at wandering, anger, Sundowning issues - they all reached a tipping point where I could no longer ensure her safety. Some people with Dementia are passive - others are combative. What most people don't realize is how little sleep around-the-clock caregivers receive. I visited Mom a minimum of 6 days each week, often twice a day, even if it was just sitting with her in her room while she slept. The mental, physical, emotional, and financial stress is enormous. I have three siblings. One went with me to visit Mom on 10 occasions. The other two never went to see her.
      I did the best that I could for as long as possible.
      P.S. Yes, some people DO throw their parents into a "home" and think nothing of it. I witnessed that firsthand as well.

    • @Lousasshol
      @Lousasshol Před rokem

      My loved one loves flirting w the lil ole ladies in the ole folks home he says he can’t catch the ones on the buggies but he tries

    • @kathrynemason1673
      @kathrynemason1673 Před rokem +2

      We've moved in with my mother. She's confrontational and violent, stage 6 if you use a 7 stage dementia model and still ambulant. She feeds off the feelings of others and you have to keep yourself emotionally calm and flat at all times. This is really difficult as she still has the ability to laser focus on a perceived weakness and attack it. It's the only facet of her personality which is recognisably her. Placing her in a facility of any sort would impact negatively on residents and staff alike, very unfair on them and for good or ill, she's my mother and no one else's responsibility.

    • @AaaaNinja
      @AaaaNinja Před rokem +2

      Nobody is able to take care of someone who has dementia past a certain point it's very common for the symptoms to increase in the evening hours. Such people need 24/7 care. It's exhausting even for a healthy human being with all the free time in the world, because if they're awake, you're awake. Caregivers get angry and it is not uncommon for them to feel trapped. Why do you think there is so much elder abuse and alcohol abuse for caregivers? It's not fair to the patient to let someone who is angry take care of them. THAT can be scary. If you know someone who is taking care of somebody, I sure hope that you think to offer them a helping hand. It's very easy for you to say "I would never do that!" when you're not taking care of someone. And it would only be possible if your family worked as a team. Is your familiy on your side?
      Also, a nurse explained this to me: since dementia is progressive, nobody has ever had dementia and then got better and was able to tell us what the experience was like so you cannot say for certain that they would be more scared among strangers. If they don't recognize you, wouldn't they be in that situation anyway? One thing that I do know from experience is a stable environment with a consistent routine is the most calming, so yes, do not be ashamed so long as you find a good home for them and please absolutely refrain from perpetuating the stigma. All you're doing is putting people who need it in an absolutely impossible position who cannot handle the guilt when they come across comments like yours.

  • @imagem812
    @imagem812 Před rokem +11

    I've been watching them for some time. One of my faves. Was happy when I learned they live in Elk Grove. I live in Woodland. It's fun to see locals on TikTok. My mom lived with us and dementia so I can totally relate. I know what it's like. You have to keep your sense of humor and just love them as long as you can. One day they'll be gone and that's rough. Even if they did have dementia, you always need your mom and dad.

    • @jaggirl
      @jaggirl Před rokem +1

      There are times when all you have is your sense if humour. To help keep you sane.

  • @CoopedUp74
    @CoopedUp74 Před 10 měsíci +1

    😢 i miss my Dad. I wish i could've have done this. I know this sounds odd but witching you helps me miss my own Dad a little less. Thank you

  • @karieanderson6876
    @karieanderson6876 Před 6 měsíci

    I cant believe i found this video but it so amazing you both were on the news thats so great!!! Your dad is the greatest person to ever to be posted!!! I just love him so much!!!! You all are so lucky to have him!!! My love goes out to him and prayers to one day he remembers of the love, warmth, tears he gives to all of us around the world!!! Thank you dan and family you have a special one! God is real through people!!! Remember that!!! Hello from Napoleon Ohio.

  • @sandybalthis7508
    @sandybalthis7508 Před rokem +1

    My husband had STML for 15 yrs, from a Cardiac Arrest, it has switched to Vascular Dementia for last 2 yrs, in a facility, unable to walk or feed himself

  • @mariefrench8058
    @mariefrench8058 Před rokem +3

    My mom passed with dementia at 78 very sad disease

  • @helen8400
    @helen8400 Před rokem +5

    They are a loving family. Great caregivers. Who take awesome care of Ed. It’s a hard thing to watch a loved one suffer from this disease. But his children & daughter in law Danielle are so good with him. There is so much ❤. And that’s what gets them through. 👏☮️♥️🕯️🙏💯🥰🎉

  • @mattigabriel1481
    @mattigabriel1481 Před rokem +2

    Your dad has a good sense of humour. I completely understand, and you guys are amazing family. god bless you.

  • @neoyaku
    @neoyaku Před rokem +5

    Very heartwarming and has me reflect on how I will treat my parents in their older years

  • @suziex4190
    @suziex4190 Před 2 lety +7

    God bless this family!

  • @lgndrynomad5880
    @lgndrynomad5880 Před 5 měsíci

    Dan, is a damn good man. Many of us here in America should take a page from his book. Bless him and his family for helping to show us the way.

  • @joyadams8084
    @joyadams8084 Před 8 měsíci +1

    His doing good for 91 years old God bless you ❤

  • @sharontedesco3216
    @sharontedesco3216 Před rokem +1

    Happy Birthday, Ed. You continue to bring me joy. God bless . . .

  • @claytoncrosby4837
    @claytoncrosby4837 Před 2 lety +4

    God bless you and your family. My mother has had dementia for four years and I'm all she has for family. It gets really hard sometimes and I feel so alone but I Love her and want the best for her. My thoughts and prayers go out for you and your family God Bless.

  • @violetfindlay1524
    @violetfindlay1524 Před rokem

    That is so good of his sons to take in there father and take care of him my husband is dementia also they could be hard at time go with but we just have to ask God to give us the strength and faith to go with them God blessing

  • @phyllismay4384
    @phyllismay4384 Před rokem +1

    I wish I had documented the last few years of life with my dad. He had Dementia and passed away in 2017...he was 88. He lived with me for 8 years but only the last two years were dealing with the Dementia. I loved the video of the son and father duo. We had some good times as well.

  • @carsoncolemanbm6
    @carsoncolemanbm6 Před rokem +1

    Follow their channel!!! Those of you who aren't following his main channel the son who does the tick-tocks I would suggest doing so the video is really do give insight to what it's like not only that but they are wonderful family to follow the interactions are so positive and uplifting. Love this family!

  • @aslamjiwani7759
    @aslamjiwani7759 Před rokem

    This guy is an angel....he has been one of few Americans who have so much love for his father.... bravo buddy..am in eastern part of Africa..Tanzania....salute u

  • @jdsjas1013
    @jdsjas1013 Před rokem +2

    I laugh and cry, with every video! My dad had Parkinsons, and causes a lot of dementia symptoms also. I literally went through every moment with every video, because I've been in the exact situations. Frustrating and Funny! Thank you for sharing!

  • @Yahweh_7
    @Yahweh_7 Před rokem

    Blessings 🎉 many more to come and Ed ! God bless✨🙌🏾

  • @hansgruber275
    @hansgruber275 Před rokem +3

    My dad died a few months ago from dementia. We worked together for 30 yrs. Everything I see in your videos I can relate to.

  • @tainadelcaribe
    @tainadelcaribe Před rokem +1

    That’s so great! Also, the news anchor looked like this was a tuff one for him to watch.

  • @sharonbartley808
    @sharonbartley808 Před rokem +3

    I really love dad. So much charisma and I love how he walks. Hide them keys as he gonna make a spring for it

  • @jaybeaty1706
    @jaybeaty1706 Před rokem

    God bless you. my family is dealing with the same disease. It is a learn curve that we deal with daily. I just have positive conversations and talk about things he remembers . ❤

  • @loulou9297
    @loulou9297 Před rokem +1

    Ed is a very lucky man to have his family taking care of him, rather then putting him in a home

  • @tsehaykenfat4862
    @tsehaykenfat4862 Před rokem

    Thanks for sharing. . I leave in Canada but I am from Africa. Ethiopia.I been having my mom wit this disease it is not easy.let the god of Abrham be with you and give you courage to keep going. He is sweetheart

  • @Myah_asianbutterfly03

    My grandmother is turning 100 this March 18, 2023 cannot wait to fly to the Philippines to celebrate with her 😊

  • @bigboy6704
    @bigboy6704 Před rokem +1

    "not a while back.. I drove the other day" that made me sad :(

  • @xvsj5833
    @xvsj5833 Před 2 lety +5

    God Bless ED and his family, friends and fans (TIK Tok)

  • @TheSalma1999
    @TheSalma1999 Před rokem +2

    We love him he is a sweetheart and the sons are so sweet taking care of him may God bless them

  • @Heybabyitsme333
    @Heybabyitsme333 Před rokem +1

    Pure Love. Been there and it ain't easy. Worth all the tears though ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @predictorbibulous3327
    @predictorbibulous3327 Před rokem +1

    My mom is going through this right now and she's doing it as gracefully as possible.

  • @amor638
    @amor638 Před 10 měsíci +1

    It shows how to taking care of this situation with all our ❤️ times in need

  • @singlewhitefemale1707
    @singlewhitefemale1707 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Love this man. He reminds me of my mother.❤❤❤

  • @violetsansom511
    @violetsansom511 Před rokem

    I love all of you.I also took care of a friend for 5 yrs.He was so much like him so sweet and caring. I pray for the sons and the families God bless caregiver. Keep your eyes on JESUS. Your strength come from God. I love you all.Takecare

  • @zanderzaza4947
    @zanderzaza4947 Před rokem

    Much love to your family from Sacramento!

  • @jasminedemmons5969
    @jasminedemmons5969 Před 2 lety +3

    Happy belated birthday grandpa!! Dan, you and your family do such a great job with your dad. I love the tic-toc videos.

  • @Snr696
    @Snr696 Před 9 měsíci +1

    Going through this with my mother who is now 88...as a person, her disposition is more or less just like your dad's...

  • @ritaqueen5607
    @ritaqueen5607 Před rokem

    Thank you for sharing,he's a real sweetheart.

  • @mobalance4736
    @mobalance4736 Před rokem

    These Sons are God sent... That's unconditional Love

  • @nanparker6242
    @nanparker6242 Před 11 měsíci +1

    I cared for my mom who had dementia for 8 years pretty much on my own. I found instead of arguing about her car or anything else she was troubled about it was best not to agitate her. I WOULD DIVERT THE CONVERSATION TO SOMETHI G ENTIRELY DIFFERENT AND IT USUALLY worked without reminding her she didn't know what she was ranking about. Made it much easier!!

  • @gailholloway5537
    @gailholloway5537 Před rokem +4

    I think you're great with your dad Dan! GOD Bless you all and your families and furbababie's

  • @samsquatch85
    @samsquatch85 Před rokem

    That's great. Sorry for your troubles sir my grandmother had dementia, it was incredibly hard, she would be extremely violent and not remember, heart breaking

  • @codyholyoke7946
    @codyholyoke7946 Před rokem

    My grandfather has the beginning of dementia… it’s hard to go through for all of us, but we love him more than anything.

  • @GraceSotoVelasquez
    @GraceSotoVelasquez Před rokem +1

    @Molly’s movement started inspiring other families to spread awareness 💕

  • @oakmaiden2133
    @oakmaiden2133 Před rokem +1

    While caring for my mom, I told my sister, if I don’t laugh about it only thing left is crying.

  • @jennifermanian1420
    @jennifermanian1420 Před rokem +1

    This breaks my heart. My dad is 93. He is on this journey too.

  • @vanity68
    @vanity68 Před 8 měsíci

    Dan and his family are wonderful. God bless them all.

  • @nestordegayojr.2834
    @nestordegayojr.2834 Před 9 měsíci

    I just can't help but be touched watching your conversation videos with your dad... i can see grandpa Ed's beautiful heart in his words, how good he is as a father and grandfather, and as a whole person. At his age, he still asks you if you're doing fine?😊... Really? You're very lucky to have him... please do continue taking care of him.... i love watching your conversations really! I am praying for your good health, especially granny Ed's.🙏🥰

  • @ree2105
    @ree2105 Před rokem +4

    Gives me hope in humanity.

  • @audraarndt1824
    @audraarndt1824 Před 2 lety +4

    Reminds me of my dad... RIP.

  • @sheilaparchman1246
    @sheilaparchman1246 Před rokem +1

    I pray you’ll be able to keep your dad at home til the end- I just lost both my parents in the past 7 months! They went down very hard with dimentia- finally had to give up and put them in a nursing home but then I stayed with them about 6 hrs a day til I wore down then dropped down to 3-4 /day - it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done b/c it broke my heart to see them even forgetting each other after 72 years of marriage!! On the bright side- as of 2,weeks ago- dad joined mom and Jesus in Paradise - he was close to 97 she died at age 93! God bless them!
    They made it out of their worst time in the end!

  • @funnygirlever
    @funnygirlever Před rokem

    I'm a fan. Maybe I will run into them while visiting my family and say Hi. Thank's for sharing.

  • @Carolinas_SweetTea
    @Carolinas_SweetTea Před 11 měsíci +1

    I watch his videos everyday & they mean the world to me 🙏 I know one day 💋 I'll be caregiving for my family & It sure helps when you work in dementia units and memory care units. ❤ They make caregiving alot more understandable for us Frontline healthcare workers who care for people that don't have families taking them in or many situations varying from it's overwhelming for most children and families to deal with this disease and it is very hard to experience and witness your LOved One forget everything sometimes even who they are and who you are so most families opt for the nursing homes or assisted living facilities to place them in. It takes a toll all the way around. Mind you these homes are horrifically expensive. If you can keep your loved ones at home ❤ please ❤

  • @jamesfacundo7210
    @jamesfacundo7210 Před 10 měsíci +1

    I love this family I love everything they represent Californians at their best❤

  • @johnkinyanjui5331
    @johnkinyanjui5331 Před rokem

    I love your channel and like I said before my late mother suffered this terrible disease. Love from Nairobi Kenya 🇰🇪

  • @user-ds6ur2og5p
    @user-ds6ur2og5p Před 25 dny

    That’s a great son and father combination right there.

  • @SC-ge4mg
    @SC-ge4mg Před 2 lety +7

    Ed is the cutest!!! So sweet :)